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32 yr old virgin with no social life Anonymous 109079

32 f here. Probably autistic. I spent my life extremely isolated and alone. Never had organic social life outside my home. I have convinced myself it's not such a big deal. I am seeing a guy and he says I act like a robot. I really, really like him andso every once in a while I say "you're really special to me" so he knows."

He's starting to say I act autistic and he is tired of not knowing how I feel. I'm scared of losing him.

32 years with no touch is hard on a person. I have decided if we are to kiss or touch at all it will be in marriage, otherwise I'm just not ready to. I hope he asks me to marry him so I can finally be free of the constant loneliness.

Can you all relate to me?
Should I be worried?
How can I fix my problem?

Anonymous 109082

>>109079
>I really, really like him and so every once in a while I say "you're really special to me" so he knows."
>He's starting to say I act autistic and he is tired of not knowing how I feel. I'm scared of losing him.
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>I have decided if we are to kiss or touch at all it will be in marriage, otherwise I'm just not ready to.

Take everything I say here with a pinch of salt because I'm forced to make a bunch of assumptions, but hear me out.

It sounds like his problem is that you act contradictory. On the one hand you seem distant, but on the other hand you "mechanically" assure him you're into him.
He might understand that you need your time, but waiting for touch or kisses until marriage is quite a bit extreme.
In fact he sounds like he'd like to take your relationship to the next level. Maybe holding hands, maybe a kiss on the cheek. Maybe a proper date.
Do it in your own speed, but I doubt that many people are willing to wait until marriage for the chance to hold hands. [And the implicit risk that it may not be your thing after all.]
In the decision that "you have decided that if you are to kiss our touch at all, it will be during marriage" - have you considered his opinion on the matter?
Of course it's your body and your choice, but if you want to be in a relationship with someone you will have to talk about these things.
Talk about your feelings and what you want. If you feel you need to explain yourself avoid spilling your entire medical history. Those things are better communicated in small doses.
For now an explanation like "I'm not used to be touched, we must take it slow." will do.
And importantly in communication with your partner: Hear him out. Try to understand what he wants and figure if you can find a compromise.

I don't think that it's too much to ask to hold hands and kiss before marriage.

On another note: You're saying "you're really special to me" to make him feel appreciated.
How about you try to find out things he likes and apply that knowledge? I bet that holding hands is one of those things.

Of course take care of yourself, take your time and be safe.

Anonymous 109083

OP here. I re-wrote my thread to be less feeling oriented. I need the advice this board gives best.

Anonymous 109084

He just wants to use you for erotic hand holding. Don't give it to him!

Anonymous 109085

>>109079
When I first started dating my husband he said I acted like a robot. It seems I naturally changed as time went on by just interacting with him. Don't know if you're moid is a good moid, but just interacting with people helps lower the 'tism, especially if you get anyone willing to explain dumb shit.

Anonymous 109092

All men think all women are robotic. We're just less insane than they are. That looks robotic to moids lel.

Anonymous 109096

>>109084
hahahahahahahaa

Anonymous 109184

>32 F
why would you clarify that you're female on CC when that's a given?
also maybe you shoul work on the whole "won't hold hands until marriage" deal because, while i DO NOT recommend you to have casual sex, it's good to know if you're sexually compatible with your partner before commiting. it's common sense.

Anonymous 109187

>>109092
What's wrong with being robotic anyway? Not everyone has to be a 150 IQ schizo

Anonymous 109207

Very few men will marry you before touching you, it's not normal. You date, get to know each other, for most people that also includes getting to know each other physically unless there's religious objections involved, and THEN you decide if that's something you want for life together.

>I hope he asks me to marry him so I can finally be free of the constant loneliness

You have a man available to you who's into you, you literally can "be free of the constant loneliness" without marrying him.

Also get diagnosed.

Anonymous 109214

>>109207
Her having sex won't cure her deeprooted loneliness, especially if this guy is already bashing her for not being able to talking to him on his terms.

Anonymous 109215

>>109214
Oh also out of the loop but is it me or this thread is being reposted in different areas? Getting deja vu.

Anonymous 109229

isnt this a copypasta lol

Anonymous 109231

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>>109229
Omg I can't believe I bought into it



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