>>139341>You can do cognitive behavioral therapy on yourself a bit. Talk to yourself as if you were a friend giving advice, explain to your friend-self what the feelings are like, where they are in your body, and what happens to them over time like when they peak and then subside.
I do this a lot. I havr a narrative running through my head, sometimes I pretend I am talking to myself or just explaining to someone I know. I put a lot of it on paper in a diary, thousands of pages of this. >Explain to friend-self what the triggers are . Can you avoid them? Can you practice gradual exposure to them in the same way you would treat fear of the dark?
I don't wanna be particular about what I'm anxious over with this date, but it really isn't unavoidable. I am directly exposing myself to this and its got a chance of actual occuring and fucking ke over. >Next, probe deeper into whatever underlying fears there are. E.g if the trigger is a place, what happened at the place? Why did that thing upset you? Does that thing play into some core belief such as fear of rejection or unworthiness? For most people anxiety gets worse as the mental self-talk approaches the core fear.
Its pretty simple and tangible and rooted in real events. >
Once you’ve identified the deepest fear you can, imagine the worst case scenario for that fear coming true. Is it reasonable? If it happened, how would you deal with it? (If this is difficult to figure out, again imagine giving this advice to a friend.) You are more capable of strategizing and overcoming this scenario than anxiety leads you to believe. Next time a trigger happens, lead your train of thought down this strategizing path rather than the catastrophizing path.
This is good. I do this sometimes to make myself feel better but I feel like if I do things to make myself feel better instead of mentally preparing myself to handle catastrophic events by living out the worst case scenerio in my head, then when it does happened I will be to weak to handle it, or that it will happen simply to spite me. >
Finally, start practicing living in the third person. What this means is that you start observing the feelings and things that happen to you, rather than experiencing their grasp on you. (You can also think of the anxiety as an external force rather than identifying it with yourself.) E.g. instead of “I feel butterflies in my stomach”, think “I notice Mary is having a feeling which is being caused by memories of this place, interesting.” While in the third person you can experience instead compassion and love for yourself. This helps because it seems that emotions of love and anxiety cannot be felt simultaneously. Welcome the anxiety as a guest, allow yourself to feel it, and let it leave when it does. It only has power over you if it is a real part of you. And I’m certain it’s not the real you.
This seems hard but I'll try it. >
I’ll be around if you need me to clarify anything . I’m in the process of purging out traces of my own anxiety, and it gets so much easier when you have momentum for managing it.
Thank you for sharing this, I'm gonna try this and see if it helps and I hope yours gets better too.>>139349
Its a shitty environment. I know I have a tendency to over worry over things, but most of my anxiety is rooted in actual events that have taken place.
Ex. Afraid to leave my house and my stuff behind for fear someone will rummage through my personal papers which has happened on multiple occasions.
Ex. Afraid cameras are watching me and checking new rooms for them because one time my dad lied to me when I was little and told me he installed cameras in the house
Its all HAPPENED, there is a reason for me being anxious but I do tend to get carried away in it.