well the "weakness" stems from narcissism (or at least self centeredness") in the end. if you didn't care about how you looked, you wouldn't be compelled to get plastic surgery - in the end the focus is still on you and your appearance.
to contrast, if you lived life thinking less about how you look and more about other people or hobbies, you wouldn't feel as compelled to engage in these practices and would instead spend your time, say, cultivating a skill, helping others, making friends etc. >>152910
I firmly believe if every woman experienced a moid treating them badly despite all their efforts and
simultaneously witnessed a fat/hairy/racialized woman being treated amazingly by their bfs, two things would sink in:
1) that they really are engaging in all this shit for the sake of moids and not themselves
2) that in the end it's unwinnable and totally disconnected from the things they deep down think it is connected to (i.e. love, validation, social acceptance)
Do you remember that Kelly Baltazar lady? It's insane to me that a woman with all the privilege in the world (a dad who's straight up VP of goldman sachs, a home that isn't broken etc.) could still be so deeply susceptible to the trappings of patriarchy. It really does not discriminate. >>152911
Yep - but in 2022 where women are outcompeting men in university and where sperm donation exists and capitalism sort of lets you outsource child rearing and even surrogacy to other people, it seems like male sexual selection doesn't even really need to matter now. We just need to normalize the idea that women can be selective and in the event that they don't find a partner they can still realize their familial goals via an au pair. >>152915
I'm the same way - I think I got over my narcissist tendencies a long time ago, but I've always related a lot to her 'woman in love' section. I don't think I can get involved with moids without devolving into the kind of dynamic she talks about there.