"…and still bond with the women we love"
It's common sense that men get bored of their wives within the first years of marriage and most of them cheat. A promiscuous man is likely to get you an STD, since men are the group with the highest incidence of lot them. A promiscuous men is uncapable of being a REASONABLE (and note that I'm not even saying good) father or husband. We live in a absurdist society that enforces men's irrationality upon us as something normal and natural. Women get called "whores" even though men are the only ones acting like fucking primitive animals when it comes to sex. There's no scientific argument that supports the absurd ideas that "promiscuous men are normal and good" but "promiscuous women are bad/not normal". What they use as argument is that "men have higher sex drives" and that "men are wired to spread their semen to as much women as possible". Why do they only ignore civilization and morals and bring up this talk when it comes to justify men's primitive behavior but ALWAYS magically forget to mention that in early days of humans, women wouldn't get pregnant only once and only by one man, that women would also have sex with multiple men and that men would compete among themselves for a woman? The only reason why promiscuous women are repudiated and promiscuous men are only not repudiated, but socially awarded for their behavior, is because os men's interest on being assured of the legitimacy of their paternity. That's why they have divided women into "whores" (bad ones) and non-whores (good ones), it is also a way to make women hate each other. Divide to conquer. Men NEVER had to comply to the social and religious rules they themselves have created. I'm pro monogamy and would like to live in a society where couples are monogamous but the truth is that men have NEVER been so. "Monogamy comes from the intention to control a woman's sexuality and reproductive capacities and to ensure the legitimacy of paternity, whose parent-child connection is not visible as in motherhood. Raising children from other parents is not interesting, both economically and socially (for the maintenance of male power), so how to guarantee male heredity? Surrounding any other relationships of women, ensuring that they will only be penetrated by the man who craves fatherhood. Monogamy never applied to men. They were never restrained from their desires".
Another thing is that is often said that men are naturally more competitive than women, which might be true. But it certainly isn't what we see in our society. Men have deep bonds among themselves, they are in overall strongly united cause only this way they can keep patriarchy. It's women who are competing among ourselves for them, for their attention and being rivals of each other
All we have today is a society that was created by men and FOR men, everything was made to align to their interests and to preserve male supremacy