>>56695>I don't think many people liked to break their backs working for lords
The funny thing is that most of the time, they didn't. Taxes were something like 1% in old times and kings or lords who raised it higher usually got snubbed by writers and contemporaries as greedy and unwise. Peasants kept most of their produce and sold whatever they had in excess, it was more that farmwork in general without modern fertilizer or even proper plows like the Rotherham (BUT with crop rotation, that's not a new invention like a lot of people seem to think) is not rewarding in how much you harvest compared to how much you eat. They did turn a profit, just not necessarily a very big one.
>die in wars
Well while levies existed a lot of ancient cultures also used a lot of volunteer troops whenever they could. Citizen soldiers were common and there were more volunteers than you'd think, because looting was crazy profitable. Yeah, there's a chance you'd get stabbed or something, but death tolls in most pre-Napoleonic wars were actually low both absolutely and proportionally so a lot of peasants went in basically to see if they could grab some fancy stuff to sell and buy a bigger farm.
>women to be forced to stay inside and pop kids
This is again weirdly more recent - and upper class - than you'd think. Women mostly worked alongside men among the lower and even middle class, insofar as there was any middle class - you have lots of sources talking about women fishing, hawking goods (actual goods, not their tits), or driving wagons!
I'm actually not too sure why a lot of people when they think of women mostly look at the upper class, because women were definitely oppressed but it was the aristocrats that had it the worst and even they were given full educations, taught art and music, attended social outings and usually got to do 'fun things' like sports, which I'd say was probably fun for a lot of them. Plus things like sport hunting were almost literal dick waving about who was the manliest man that could pretty quickly get you killed, I don't know if you've ever seen a wild boar but those guys are scary if they're mad (but kind of cute if they're not).
The brutal truth though is that the peasants and middle class had too much stuff to do for half their population to just sit around doing nothing. If even the children were darning socks and fishing for crabs when they weren't playing chase, it doesn't make any sense that adult women were just sitting on the bed all day staring blankly into space, nor does it make sense that women were just not allowed to enjoy things when men, boys, and girls all were. It's just that there were less things to enjoy.