>Darwin listed the advantages of marrying, which included: ". . . constant companion, (friend in old age) who will feel interested in one, object to be beloved and played with—better than a dog anyhow—Home, and someone to take care of house . . ."
women get the short end of the stick regardless of what their marital status is. Also that list is bullshit.
>>69392>Also that list is bullshit
Darwin married his first cousin. Not exactly the type of guy I'd go to for marriage advice.
>were less stressed
>were more optimistic
You mean it can actually get worse than this? Jesus fucking Christ.
Is this from the flawed Paul Dolan study? Polls are so incredibly easy to manipulate or misinterpret, which is why you always get studies that completely contradict each other. I just so happened to read this article a few days ago.https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/is_marriage_really_bad_for_womens_happiness
>Unfortunately, Dolan inadvertently misunderstood the data that justified this particular sage advice.
>According to science, no. Historically, large studies show that, on average, married people report greater happiness later in life than unmarried people. Separated and divorced people tend to fall into a less-happy bucket, while the never-married and widowed fall someplace in between.
Basically richer women are less stressed and have less children. This is just a list of the advantages of being rich, but she turns it sideways and tries to imply something else.
But like, what kind of people take part in those studies? I think couples with problems wouldn't do it. I've never seen a good marriage in my life kek, the woman is overworked and miserable, the guy doesn't do shit at home and sometimes he drinks too much, the sex isn't satisfying etc.
Most people are shit and they aren't really fit for being parents. Many people breed only because they want someone to take care of them when they get old. That's literally the first "argument" of someone trying to guiltrip you into having children: "who will take care of you when you get old?". Such egoists.
Like 50% of marriages end up with divorce. Moids often say it's feminists' fault because the law changes of the 70s made it easier for women to divorce men (and marital rape also became recognized as rape). They would rather prefer women to stay trapped in shitty marriages.
I read that housewives in the 50s reported higher levels of happiness than women today. But they were also hooked on antidepressants. Later when they got old they often claimed that they were happy and the suffering was "worth it". It all seem like coping to me. Or maybe they're just masochists.
Definitely many biases like that. I've read in my psych textbook the opposite point though, that unhappy couples are more willing to participate in these polls to vent, while happy couples don't care enough to waste their time.
but if they report happiness they're not venting
Are there really any marriages that do not subjugate woman?
Marriage seems like a cope just like having children is which IMO is awful although each to their own.
What in your opinion is acceptable in terms of interpersonal expectations for a marriage.?
Aren't those statistics skewed by households with a male breadwinner
>chance of finding a man who will actually do 50% of chores and taking care of kids is close to zero.
Why don't you, I dunno, tell him to do his chores?
I was never in a relationship with a scrote but I know from other women it doesn't work. If you don't wash his clothes they will just lay on the ground for many days. Yeah, women live with men like that
>female breadwinners do more housework than in equal earnings households
It's over for highly competent women
He will just refuse trust me. Most prefer to live like pigs and will only do chores when they see disgusting things crawling on the floor. Otherwise they will let it all pile up.
>think about how many marriages you know that are seriously successful (none that i know of or have ever witnessed)
I don't say this brag, I'm a depressed loser myself, but just about every marriage in my family is successful. You're painting your own experiences and culture on everyone else. My parents have been happily married for over 40 years, they never fight, and rarely argue. They communicate well and want what is best for each other. She didn't like his last name? Fine, she kept hers, big deal. She wanted to go to college? He worked hard to pay for her tuition. Some marriages are wonderful, others aren't, do what you want to do.
>>69504>Separated and divorced people tend to fall into a less-happy bucket, while the never-married and widowed fall someplace in between.
Huh, so it really isn't better to have loved and lost.
i have a hard time seeing this applying to us 30-40 women.
It was all nice and fun, in my twenties when men were chiping away at my heels but at 32? no.
Its for this reason women in Canada and US, are fleeing Law practices. After passing the bar, working 80 hours a week and getting partnered at a law firm they just drop dead and quit.
Its what happened to my sister. She was always the brightest of us, then she was just burnt out I guess.
Although I am an under achiever, I feel the same now. 32 th clock is ticking for family and the men I want dont seem to want me anymore. We are anything but happy. Single 45+ are the highest anti depressant takers in US.
Young girls please dont make my mistakte. >>69504
well said. >married people report greater happiness later in life than unmarried people.
that would not surprise me, My mothers life. in my youth i always resented her, at times even emberrased for her. so content and happy with so little, a kept dog waiting by the table for scraps.
My father stuck with her thick and thin, even now he still does his silly romantic childhood gestures for her. I admire it now of course.
The prodigal daughter came home, at long last.
lmfao, this sounds like a mgtow/redpiller's wet dream
You realize that your urge to have a family and children is merely a ploy so that consciousnesss/torture can continue.
Do not have children anon and be glad you didn't
But fuck morality and do what you want otherwise what was the point of living in the first place
This is a TRP psyop trying to get lonely women to settle for /pol/ men and other trash. Girls, don't get it fucked up.
Great film. The vase shot has stuck with me
This post smells like moid. You can just date down and get into gfd and I'm not even kidding and with the internet there are close to unlimited possible partners this doesn't mean they are all quality though.
For me though I think that at 35+ I would be happier with a moid younger than me, I don't care we can both work, riches don't matter as much as feeling loved with a person that fits your tastes and not some old ugly bald mgtow divorcee sociopath with no empathy. Besides thankfully my country does have at least some welfare & healthcare.
If somehow what I say doesn't works whatever I'll reproduce & be "married with the children" they will be my object of devotion & company. It's as easy as that. We have the power of life so this means that if we end up very lonely for later on in life we can create company for ourselves if everything else fails.
>>69806>You can just date down and get into gfd
I'm glad anons on here have found an outlet to talk about their femdom fantasies but I just want to say you don't have
to. You can date younger guys without being his mommy gf. Just saying @ all the older anons who don't want to settle for a fetish dynamic relationship. Plenty of younger guys simply don't care if you're older and it won't be about ~gfd~ or any other kink.
t. 32f currently dating cute 29m, my past 2 bfs were a few years younger than me as well and neither had a thing specifically for older/dominant women, it just happened.
I think it's Tokyo Story. Haven't seen it though, just a guess.
Same actors, but older, checked their filmographies, turns out its Late Spring. Thanks.
Yeah thats fair that can happen too. But my whole point is that more women should realize that we can just date down if we have trouble later on. You are not alone at 30 that is moid made bullshit to scare us off into marrying with a piece of shit that will just use us, that is ugly and lacks empathy. Screw that.
And if you can't "meet" someone then just find someone. Isn't that why there are hundreds of dating apps nowadays?
>>69514>That's literally the first "argument" of someone trying to guiltrip you into having children: "who will take care of you when you get old?". Such egoists.
That's the first argument because it's the most objective. Hard to imagine being anywhere but an old folks home when you're 70 if you have no living family after all.
You really need to go back and reread >>69509
Anecdotal, just like my anecdotal experience shows a different likely outcome. Though even if that other view were objectively true, that doesn't change people's assumptions that children would care for them, which is why that argument is used so much.
All the above aside, if anyone is reading this, don't put your elderly relatives in care homes unless you or they are fantastocslly rich and can afford the very best. They're basically death camps.
Kek in my country most people in old folks homes have children or other close relatives. Their family just doesn't have the time to take care of them, or they simply don't want to