whats the nicest compliment youve ever recieved
"you're who i want to become" ||even though im depressed and just to play video games all day lol||
People who romanticize melancholy are misguided, by the time they realize that they are digging their own grave, its already too late, some things must be learned the hard way, i guess.
It wasn't actually a compliment per se, but someone called me calm once and it was nice. On the inside I'm pretty neurotic so I'm glad my presence doesn't instill anxiety in others. In general I like when people express that they are comfy around me.
Second, a friend said I seem independent. This is true, but for some reason felt nice to hear.
yeah, it was kind of idealizing which is why it struck me so much. i think its that i naturally had traits that she strived towards herself (asking for help when i need it, being upfront about things, having an open personality). she was also my teacher but it was for a very strange class lol. wonder how she's doing now
I can relate, a driving instructor, this big burly man, said that he felt very safe driving with me. Maybe he meant I drive too slow or am too timid, but it made feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
"it is so comfortable to be with you"
I had a color shifting pigment on my nails and a boy said "those are some bad ass nails" I thanked him and he elaborated with something like yeah I don't really pay attention/care about nails but those are really nice
I was once told that I'm really charming and fun to talk to. Funnily enough, nobody treated me like that until university. I really enjoy being among equally eccentric people instead of all the bland normies that surrounded me in middle school and high school.
>>73773>Maybe he meant I drive too slow or am too timid
I doubt it, driving too slowly or too indecisively is sometimes just as dangerous as driving too fast or with misplaced confidence.
The only way to drive safely is to drive the same as everyone else, so if your instructor said he's safe with you behind the wheel it means you're doing it right.
I often got told I'm smart, even in adult age. That's about the extent of it.
Once in middle school, some girl told me I had nice eyes.
I've been called:
>Beautiful/Attractive/etc. without makeup by strangers
>Deep Thinker (this one is so cringe, whenever people tell me this it makes me feel like I must not be that deep of one)
>Told I have a very nice whooty
But all of that pales in comparison to when I've been complimented at my skills in FPS games. It makes me feel terrible that's my favorite compliment because I know it's rooted in internalized misogyny. I feel like being inferior at video games is one of the worst things a person can be. It's so stupid. I'm so timid whenever I begin playing a video game because I feel like if I suck it will mean I'm an idiot.
That's cute anon. I like when guys are sincerely appreciative of styling choices in a way that's not horny or objectifying.
How so? it seems like you're giving in to the premise that video games are for males.
Yes, I am. I feel like women cannot be as good at video games in the way a guy would be. It makes me feel ashamed and like I'll never measure up. I wish I knew how to combat this feeling.
This is literally not true though you just proved yourself wrong by being good at games
Yeah, but I feel like it's chance and that it's only because I've had to try however many times as hard as a guy. I don't feel like it's "natural". And I'm not going to be good at every game, and when that happens, it's intolerable for me. I have literally cried before if I don't win every time because I feel like a waste of space.
I also don't play video games anymore because it got too emotionally taxing for me so I'd have to get good at them again which would trigger my feelings of shittiness.
It's not about video games, you just have shit self-esteem.
Well, yeah. I hate it that I can't see it as a mere game.
when my friend sincerely complimented my writing
i think most people would rather be told they are good at their hobby as opposed to hot
>I like your shoes
>You have a pretty laugh
I was really taken off guard by that last one. I guess I never expected to receive a compliment by someone I considered to be above me.
Lol, that is a good compliment. I've never even thought to myself what a pretty laugh would sound like (I think mine sounds ugly).
Getting complimented for my looks makes me kinda happy in the moment, but then make me worry later.
When I've gotten complimented on my art I felt so good. Some genuine compliments stay with me forever.
>anon I didn't expect you to drive that
Sort of sideways but I appreciated that someone expected me to drive a shitbox and I surprised them.
one time a friend said i had a a face that looked like a painting of a beautiful woman.
someone once told me i looked like what aphrodite would look like. my heart melted then and there
>you have such beautiful eyes anon
that was before i got huge dark circles under them tho
Not strictly a compliment, but:
I have been studying writing, because I often considering mb getting into it seriously. One day a year or so ago, a woman who I had never seen before or since, who I said maybe two sentences to, told me I had the aura of a writer.
I am doing something visual now, but it has a lot of writing behind it, and that part sure seems to flow the easiest…
>>74676>I often considering>typo every single time i mention my skill with writing
as an ESPer, she must've sensed my incredible neurotic pressure and deduced the rest from there
>being able to remember receiving a compliment
>>73782>I really enjoy being among equally eccentric people instead of all the bland normies
I'm begging you NOT to think like this. You'll end up in a worse position.
The goal of anyone is to be a nice, well rounded, normal person. "Normie" doesn't equal normal, but people equate the two, and think "Well, I don't want to be a normie (which is understandable, considering how they act), so I'll just do exactly the opposite and join the 'eccentrics'"
A tip, the "ecentrics" and just normies, flipped. Equally mean, petty, vindicative and gate keeping. Avoid them. You want to grow as a person so that you become open minded, thinking positively, curious about others and the world. Hanging around with "eccentrics" will not lead to that.
nta, but when I think "eccentrics"/non-norms I equate it to people who similarly struggle with social cues and so I can let myself go with them and we'll just get each other. Also there will be no level of judgement over my interests.
I can make myself palatable to normies and keep one as a pretty close friend, but there's still a level of misunderstanding even if we care about each other.
I do agree that trying to understand others and enter relations with an optimistic and caring attitude is ideal.
A lot of normies have some weird/eccentric hobbies too if you just get to know them well enough. except if they're turbo-normies in which case you better avoid them
Yeah and I think it's cause people choose their hobbies but they don't choose how they look (for the most part)
>>73809>Yes, I am. I feel like women cannot be as good at video games in the way a guy would be.
my best friend is a girl, biologically obviously, and she is the sharpest shooter in csgo i have ever played with. absolutely crushes people without remorse. she's an inspiration
Yeah, same. It's fucking weird, I feel like I haven't received any, like my brain only focuses on the negative.
one time someone said i was cool which is like my only goal in life so that was nice