Honestly it's not high, it's just my personal baggage. If anything women have more diverse/slack standards than men do for women.
Even when I was fat and awkward a couple of really cool women liked me, I just felt undeserving. Men never showed me attention back then.
But now that I'm healthy (body and mind) and fashionable, men have shown interest which made me realize I never actually liked them that much.
I think loving and caring for yourself makes everything more clear. Just try to be healthy and work on your happiness, anon. And be easy on yourself.