Becoming a mother changes you more than you would think and at the same time less than you would think. It's weird. The love and empathy and sacrifice I would make for my son is nothing compared to anything I have ever felt before. It's like I discovered entirely new seas of emotions. As for not changing me as much as I expected, I didn't immediately become a normie who loves soccer games and wine. People have very high expectations for mothers and expect them to fit into a very neat little box of what moms are like on tv, but really, so long as your child is happy, feels safe around you, is fed, and given opportunities to grow, you're doing fine.