I think this sort of rhetoric, and popular culture that depicts the female orgasms as being mind-blowing, sets unrealistic expectations. The quality of my orgasms varies widely.
Rather, I think >>77479 is correct - it should feel like a peak of some sort, and, what I find the most easy tell>you're relieved of feeling horny
OP, do you feel comfortable with the people you sleep with? Do you masturbate? Have you tried masturbating in a variety of ways? Does it feel different? Do you take any meds, most importantly antidepressants? These can have an effect on libido and ability to orgasm.