Does attention from men usually make anyone else feel disgusted in a way that radiates to your stomach? I had a male friend a few years ago who said he loved me, and I tried to let him down gently, but he kept pushing it and pushing it and pushing it until the very idea of him made me want to vomit. It was like my very organs rejected his existence. I am bi but I have never had a woman inspire this feeling in me, but I have met quite a few men who just made my insides curdle in disgust.
Yes. I'm okay with male family members but I get this violent sense of nausea whenever a moid I'm not related to interacts with me in anyway. Nausea and this indescribable burning hatred. Kek I sound insane but I don't really care. I see it as a sort of defense mechanism that keeps me away from shitty moids so I don't entirely mind that my body reacts this way.
I feel you. It's not just physical disgust either, but disgust about everything. When I lost weight and started taking care of my appearance I thought it would be nice to be approached for once, but I quickly learned that almost all moids are the equivalent of a walking, bloated, stinking corpse trying to find anything to stick their dicks into the way a feral cat is constantly searching for prey. The only way I know how to describe how it makes me feel is just spiritually sick. It hurts me to my soul.
You're not crazy anon, gut feelings are usually right
Idk anyone who isn’t family or my husband then yeah.
Ugly men yes, with cute men I like it (also bi)
I liked attention when I was a teen. Now being desirable by moids is not a priority for me so yes it makes me feel like shit
I feel the exact same way. Attention from any man makes me feel sick and anxious, always did ever since I was a teen. I never had any trauma or whatever so it's not that, but any time a moid tries to flirt with me I get a sick feeling everywhere. It never felt good or flattering. The only exception is my now-bf and even he had to go really slowly for me to be comfortable.
Yes, it is probably why I'm still a virgin. Even when I start to like a guy I remember that he is just pretending to like me to fuck me and earn the clout of having me and that once he's conquered me he will lose interest and move on to the next girl. And also that he discusses gross things about me with his friends. And he might even believe his desire to fuck me is LOVE. Tbh I don't identify with the people here who say family is the exception, for me it was my brothers, dad and stepdad who showed me the truth of men and what they really think of women
I dunno I'm a huge misandrist lol. My life would be so much easier if I could trust and love them…I'm in therapy for it but I don't know how I can ever just close my third eye like that, it's impossible to just forget
Just find a man with no sex drive and no friends
I wrote a big response but I feel the same, even if it's a dude I find attractive and like. I'm not hot shit or anything, but I have ghosted two dudes because of this.
For me it is things you wrote in >>83448
but I also just hate the way that men assign roles to women. They have ideas of what a woman is and should be, as well as tropes for different types of women. None of them apply to anyone completely irl and it often feels like (many…not all) hetero relationships are just a constant performance.
All relationships involve acting of course, but the roles men give us are so rigid and I am extremely uncomfortable knowing anyone applies them to me. No woman ever has and vice versa so I'm always happy when ladies like me, whether I reciprocate or not.
All that said, I do enjoy the company of a few men and have been lucky enough to have a handful of decent male friends. My own father was a horrible man but it hasn't sullied my view of them completely.
I don't really get the idea that you should trust people. I know people, some very well and some very poorly and I decide whether to believe someone is being honest on whether or not it fits who I know them to be. Trust issues with men is only a problem imo if your misandry impairs your ability to make accurate predictions about people. There are plenty of situations where if you assume a male is acting maliciously automatically you'd be wrong, not even because they're a good person or something but because they don't have a reason to be shitty in that particular case. It seems like in your case your misandry is irrational since you're getting therapy for it but I feel like you're under the impression that you have to stop believing that men are generally shitty when really you just have to not let that belief lead you to irrational conclusions
I have had trauma so that might be the root of it for me. I used to just see men as normal people, but now I see them as frothing, stupid, yet dangerous animals I'm supposed to tolerate for no good reason. I can't imagine ever intentionally pursuing a man for anything other than an orgasm (even that's laughable) or money.
We've got a live lesbian recrooter over here
>>83235>disgusted in a way that radiates to your stomach?
YES. Exactly. It's like a rush of nausea that fills my gut, followed by a heat of anger when they're persistent like that. They're not respecting your fucking boundaries; they're violating your space.
It's why I've never done anything sexual. I feel that "insides curdling in disgust" feeling too often.
OP, do you have sexual abuse trauma? I wonder if it's connected.
Yes! That's exactly how I feel too. I joke that a lot of men make me instantaneously go into menopause because it feels like my ovaries are just withering at the sight of them.
I do have sexual trauma from several different counts. I have also been pretty heavily abused in general by men and I never grew up with a "male role model" I guess. Male relatives were present, but they were usually fucking evil and incompetent.
I think it bothers me so much because I don't show my "true" self to practically anyone. So anytime a guy pursues me like that I get so disgusted because they act like they know me so well and that we have such a special connection.
And underneath the disgust is a bit of hurt, because it makes you realize he was just hanging around you because you were cast as a love interest in his sexual/romantic fantasy or whatever.
I can imagine looking down on a man who fell in love with a fake version of myself but I don't know why I'd feel hurt knowing he was just friends with me to date me when he still would've been friends with my fake self anyways
I'm not even gay but if the very presence of men is anti-sexual to you like >>83490
>>83528 perhaps you are not straight.
I don't put out a totally fake persona, just censored for the most part. I just figured that even a censored version of me would be worthy of friendship.
Op here, I ID as bi currently. I have been attracted to men before and I do experience some sexual attraction to men (that they usually ruin once I get to know them) so I don't feel like I fit in the lesbian box.
Men are very arrogant. I don't put on a persona (at least not anymore, I used to try way too hard to like things that other people liked, now I figure if I have to alter minor things about myself it's not meant to be anyways), but I have still had guys fall in love with this built-up image they had of me in their head and it was beyond frustrating. Sometimes I would try so hard to prove to them I wasn't what their headcanon of me was, but it still wouldn't work. I'd usually have to do something fucking terrible to ward them off after saying "go away" 80,000 times, and then they would convince themselves I was this heartless bitch set out to destroy them from day one.
When I dressed myself really poorly and had no sense of fashion and was fat with acne, more men were brave enough to compliment me. Now when men compliment me, i feel like I looked "weak"
>>83542>Sometimes I would try so hard to prove to them I wasn't what their headcanon of me was, but it still wouldn't work.
That's infuriating. Men don't actually listen to you or care who you are, they just project their fantasies and expectations onto you and get annoyed when you don't fulfill them. Literal children.
This so much. I used to date men much uglier than me because I had no self worth and they always seemed to expect that because I might look vaguely like their dream pornified woman that I should act like it too. They just wanted an object, not an actual human being. No wonder real dolls are so popular.
I think people are more complicated than that
I used to do the same thing. At the time I thought it was the best I could do, but looking back I was a lot better looking than they were and put in a lot more effort into my health and appearance and just overall life. And despite all of that, they would just see me as something they rightfully earned, and something that STILL wasn't enough and should just become an empty shell for them to fill, like some kind of easy-bake-oven project. Men seriously overestimate their worth, to the point that they think that WOMEN overestimate their own worth because they dare to have standards at all.
>>83575>something that STILL wasn't enough and should just become an empty shell for them to fill, like some kind of easy-bake-oven project.
I hate how the stereotype is that women are controlling and try to change their boyfriends/husbands. While literally nobody talks about sociopathic control freak men who try to customize their gfs/wifes like it's a fucking video game.
definitely. There are controlling people on both sides, but I don't see anywhere near as many women that expect their partners to be blank slates for them to carve into and then toss when they're bored. Men really do treat women the way you would treat a Sim or a doll.
God YES I feel this. Especially if they act bitter/upset about it. I had a male friend who would get upset at me whenever I mentioned my boyfriend. Soon after I ghosted him.
Men don't tend to talk about sex with other men because they don't want to inadvertently turn on their male friends.
>>83449>no sex drive and no friends
there are a lot of men with no friends but not with low sexdrive
also men with low sex drive won't be manly
if it is not a problem for you…
I can't tell if you're joking or not. But in my experience, the more pathetic moids like to boast to other moids about their sexual conquests.