/feels/ - Advice & Venting

post for nona’s in dead bedroom situations

i’ll start:
my nigel and i had sex a lot when we first got together. he was posted on a website for bad dates and he struggled meeting anyone on the apps for years because of a bad hookup who tried to ruin his life. he was very horny and was excited i was the first girl actually into roleplay during sex. we would come up with convoluted storylines and characters. most of our initial relationship was roleplay; we lived and had sex as our characters. eventually though he ran out of ideas and stopped liking mine. i can tell he’s tried to humor me but he is very impatient and he has trouble hiding when he doesn’t like something. his face gets very tense but expressionless and he won’t make eye contact. he doesn’t really want to put the work in to engage with me like that anymore which is fine. but our sex life sucks now. i at least used to get excited by the lead up to it and we would roleplay all day at work come home and have sex. now the lack of foreplay is dreadful. using lube is not the same. he uses me like a flesh light before he gets out of bed and before he goes to sleep and that’s it. when i speak up about it or his friends tease him about his PC being his waifu he’ll make an effort but it never lasts. his heart is never in it. he tells me he loves me just the way i am but he has never loved me the way i am. our entire relationship is spent either fully in cosplay and roleplaying, ignoring each other gaming separately entirely or doing a sort of socially appropriate “ha what would our OCs act like in this situation” covert almost disney bound type day to day roleplaying. he has literally no interest in me outside of these things and having a gf again after years. he has never loved me for me or even wanted me. he made me invent a new person to be that was more interesting to him because i bore and repulse him so much. he would rather watch porn these days. i’m worried hes found other girls online to larp with instead. he’s even made me have sex with a mandolorian helmet on. tell me - if someone loves me the way i am, why do i have to cover my face?