>>21511>He messaged me himself asking whether or not I was trying to get with him or if he could do things with that girl and this experience has just made me feel so worthless and replaceable and im not sure how to cope.
just chill out OP. like you said, you guys aren't even "official" - so it's weird to be jealous/possessive about someone you aren't even official with. are you even sure that he considers you as a gf? are you guys exclusively or just casually dating? etc. you didn't give much context. clear up what your status is with him instead of being insecure in relationship limbo.
what's the big deal with being replaceable? there's 7 billion people on earth - of course you're replaceable. but so is he. it's worn advice but don't stress too much. there's plenty of fish in the sea.>>21504>If you really want a boyfriend, what you should really be doing is improving yourself so you can get a decent man. Just take the pinkpill already.
agreeing with the poster here.
you can't force people to like you, op. if you keep acting jealous and clingy that'd push your (prospective) love interests away because i mean, most people wouldn't want to deal with a hot mess of a partner - you feel me? why would a decent person give themselves a headache dating a hot mess when they can just as easily date someone who -isn't- a hot mess. it's like picking between two brands. if the prices are similar, then of course the consumer picks the item that's the better quality. they're almost paying the same price after all.>If you can't get a good boyfriend, it is better to be alone. Those are the men who will abuse you, never show affection, never get a job, and never let you have friends because of their own insecurities.
agreeing again. not trying to throw shade or anything, but you can't show yourself as too emotionally an mentally unstable because predators smell weakness like sharks smell blood in the water. not trying to scaremonger but there definitely are men/people in general that are willing to take advantage of your need to be loved and validated, and will use it to hurt and abuse you.
this is speaking from personal experience. don't be like me, kid. the world is too big for me and you to be stifled by just one guy.