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How do I stop?? Anonymous 21501

How do I stop doing this? This is just so terribly wrong of me and I don't know what's wrong with me, I don't know if I'm bpd or something.

When a boy/person I'm interested in makes me even slightly jealous, even the implication that they might have a 'side girl' or be flirting with others, I just have a meltdown and consider self harm/suicide (i dont threaten them with it, just keep it to myself. i am not trying to be manipulative with this, its out of my control) and instantly consider this person not an option any longer.

same with when they make me feel ignored/neglected/like they don't like me - this one boy I really like ignored me when I said hi to him and I just instantly felt this wave of horrible feelings consume me, I walked into class feeling like dying/etc.

I hate this part of me so much and this clearly prevents me from having any normal relationships. I've never had an irl boyfriend before. I hate this very much and don't know what this is.

Anonymous 21502

You made the same thread on r9k 20 minutes ago, which makes me think you're another tranny invader, and if you're not, what is the point in reposting it here? I reiterate that nothing good comes from posts with uwu moe anime girl images attached to them.

Anonymous 21503

>>21502
It's simply a way of expressing myself/just adding a picture. It's silly to judge a person based off of posting an anime picture.
I'm not a tranny at all. Plenty of crystal cafe posters are crosslurkers/posters (as shown by you) and it's simply just getting two perspectives. Pls don't be mean to me.

Anonymous 21504

>>21503
You go over there, claim to have bpd, then come here 10 minutes later saying you think you might have bpd. It's pretty clear that you've never been diagnosed, and besides that, it's a disorder characterized by unstable relationships, not complete avoidance of them. And girl, why are you begging for a "perfect incel bf" on r9k? They are human trash. It's not even worth it. If you can't get a good boyfriend, it is better to be alone. Those are the men who will abuse you, never show affection, never get a job, and never let you have friends because of their own insecurities. If you really want a boyfriend, what you should really be doing is improving yourself so you can get a decent man. Just take the pinkpill already.

Anonymous 21511

Alright. This post was made during a bit of a meltdown. I thought I finally found my first irl bf and he messaged me nonstop every day for a tiny bit and he told me he missed me when I didn't respond for a while, basically just ended up grasping my emotions really hard. Anyway we hadn't yet made the relationship official and i hadn't "done anything" with him, and one of his friends had a problem with that supposedly because he logged onto his snap and started hitting up some girl (Yes this wasn't just an excuse. He sent me a video of himself telling me what he was doing). Anyway that cause a meltdown but I managed to try to reassure myself it was just my jealousy and crazy issues because he wouldn't just abandon me for some girl that he had no connection to put was willing to "put out"..nope. He messaged me himself asking whether or not I was trying to get with him or if he could do things with that girl and this experience has just made me feel so worthless and replaceable and im not sure how to cope. Sorry about the unclear original post.

Anonymous 21512

>>21511
>He messaged me himself asking whether or not I was trying to get with him or if he could do things with that girl and this experience has just made me feel so worthless and replaceable and im not sure how to cope.

just chill out OP. like you said, you guys aren't even "official" - so it's weird to be jealous/possessive about someone you aren't even official with. are you even sure that he considers you as a gf? are you guys exclusively or just casually dating? etc. you didn't give much context. clear up what your status is with him instead of being insecure in relationship limbo.

>replaceable

what's the big deal with being replaceable? there's 7 billion people on earth - of course you're replaceable. but so is he. it's worn advice but don't stress too much. there's plenty of fish in the sea.
>>21504
>If you really want a boyfriend, what you should really be doing is improving yourself so you can get a decent man. Just take the pinkpill already.
agreeing with the poster here.
you can't force people to like you, op. if you keep acting jealous and clingy that'd push your (prospective) love interests away because i mean, most people wouldn't want to deal with a hot mess of a partner - you feel me? why would a decent person give themselves a headache dating a hot mess when they can just as easily date someone who -isn't- a hot mess. it's like picking between two brands. if the prices are similar, then of course the consumer picks the item that's the better quality. they're almost paying the same price after all.
>If you can't get a good boyfriend, it is better to be alone. Those are the men who will abuse you, never show affection, never get a job, and never let you have friends because of their own insecurities.
agreeing again. not trying to throw shade or anything, but you can't show yourself as too emotionally an mentally unstable because predators smell weakness like sharks smell blood in the water. not trying to scaremonger but there definitely are men/people in general that are willing to take advantage of your need to be loved and validated, and will use it to hurt and abuse you.
this is speaking from personal experience. don't be like me, kid. the world is too big for me and you to be stifled by just one guy.

Anonymous 21760

>>21502
What's wrong about being trans?

Anonymous 21770

>>21760
Men aren’t allowed here



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