>>30457>"choose to be happy"
The infuriating thing about people saying that is that they're technically right, but it's a terribly misleading way to word it.
The truth is, you do have to choose to be happy, but you have to keep choosing it all the time. It's not like choosing to buy a lamp (go to store, choose XYZ lamp, buy it, now it's yours, boom done). Choosing to be happy is more like, idk, sobriety or something. You have to choose multiple times a day every day to do and think things that will make you happier, choose to look actively for the little bits of happiness you do have, choose to study them and learn to cultivate them. Sometimes you'll fuck up, and sometimes you won't have the energy to choose anything but the option that gets you through the moment. Overall it works, though it's like building a house with pebbles and each time you decide to be happy you add another pebble. And it's never done, even after you reach a place where you're mainly happy with life.
It's psychological hygiene, and I think a lot of people have it ingrained by the time they're adults, and they forget what it's like to have to do it manually and can't really verbalize how to do it. So they say "choose to be happy" because it's the closest they can get to explaining how they get through their life. Also it just doesn't work as well for some people, and the people for whom it does work well can't see what the problem is.