In regards to this specifically there's pressure from the "transgender community" that tomboys are gross or something to be pushed away. Obviously if you like male things you must be male right? :^)>>31023
There has been actually study done finding that those who identify as transgender have a higher chance of being autistic. A quick search brought me this http://theses.gla.ac.uk/5755/
but it's been something people have been generally aware of for years now.>>31025
Because the "gatekeeping" for the diagnosis went down. Transgender individuals have been documented in "modern society" as soon as the Weimar Republic before WWII. While I can't deny that at some level there is legitimacy for the diagnosis (for example, intersex individuals that presented as "male" wanting instead to identify as "female") there used to be very stringent guidelines that, in order to meet diagnostic criteria, other mental illnesses (such as depression, social anxiety, schizophrenia etc.) had to be officially ruled out. Assuming that, altogether, nothing else was wrong with the individual, they had to have "real life experience" as the other gender for at least a year before they could be given any meds, as a trial to demonstrate whether or not the person felt legitimately better about the situation. Then and only then were pills prescribed and the person started there transition.
With the new radical acceptance approach people are just taken at their word that this will make them feel better, given the pills and let loose. Hell, in the US there are clinics that give you a form stating basically "I take all responsibility if I regret this decision and only find out later." I don't think this should happen with any mental illness criteria as it leads to a huge concern of confirmation bias on the doctor end. If you start handing out pills to whoever asks then yes, some people will feel better in the short term, I have no doubt some people will feel better in the long term too, but you'll get people that don't want to admit "I have a problem" and instead say "my body is the problem" and try to solve their mental illness that way. When the results aren't expected, when they're now not only someone with serious mental health issues but also look nothing like they imagined they would, things will most likely only get worse for them.>>31021
I really feel for you OP. I was involved in the transgender community for a little bit and it truly is filled with only broken people. They're not all villains, not all crazies that just want to hurt everyone around them, just people that have a lot of issues and are trying to find solutions to those issues, mostly in the wrong places. Hell, it was a pretty funny thing to watch as those who actually successfully transitioned and "looked passable" (relatively) just sort of cut all contact with those still struggling. I don't know if there's any good advice for you. It's probably a very stressful thing for you to watch. All I can say is that you encourage some of your friends to get professional help in addition to their transitioning, help them see if they have any deeper issues involved. With mental illness all you can really do is be there for them (with in a reasonable expectation of your own safety and mental health) and try and steer them towards for stable solutions.