falling for unattractive dude Anonymous 32841
>met a guy 2 weeks ago at work and feel attracted immediately bc of clothing style and the way we interact together
>we talk casually
>get eachothers number and text casually
>he starts acting very clingy and i get freaked out. (example: asks to go on a trip to colarado with me, 2 concert invites)
>i start noticing his every flaw. his clingyness, insecurities, he is 5'2 and this begins to turn me off even tho i never noticed it before (i'm 5'0)
>we're chatting at work and i ask how old he is
>leans in and whispers "im 26 but i tell people im 21 cause its easier"
>BUT I'M 19 WHAT THE FUCK AND WHY WOULD YOU LIE ABOUT THAT LMFAO
before all this happened, i subconsciously caught some feelings and ive been having terrible anxiety the past few days. ive been trying to guarantee that i dont fall for him, but i find myself drawn bc i dont usually connect with peoples personality so quickly.
i'm so unattracted but maybe this us cause of my paranoia that hes too clingy/older than me?
i know this is NON ISSUE and i shouldnt be getting so much anxiety of this, but i just want to know if anyone else has ffelt this. they are half attracted, but half noticing their every flaw and wishing theyd never met.
i'm even afraid im in "love"
have any of you caught strong feelings but find them ugly or a little creepy?
You say he's ugly but only bring up his height. You trying to trigger the manlet chasers or something? Because I am. It happened.
But otherwise he just gives off red flags so I wouldn't be interested either. Possible BPDfag and it's best not to bother with that at all. Just let him off nicely, then more firmly if he persists. Good luck!
I’m not leading him on. We chatted casually, he messages me every now and then and we talk about work and music. I haven’t flirted with him and I’ve declined every hangout
I guess height is a factor for me and I just feel really weird about a petite man who is 26 and very clingy in general. It makes me feel embarrassed to admit to having feelings. I originally thought he was my age so it made sense to me.
Guy was being honest, shocker.
lying about his age was fucked up but honestly when you get to be 26 you don't feel any different from the way you felt at 19 so from your perspective it looks like he's wayyy older than you but really it's all the same shit after you hit adulthood… if he's creepy then by all means dump him but don't get hung up on the age thing, you're a 19 yr old woman not some helpless little girl.
>he is 5'2 and this begins to turn me off even tho i never noticed it before (i'm 5'0)
His height never bothered you until you found out the number? This is honestly hilarious. Hey you, manlet who's reading this thread, you are ugly. You are ugly because you are short.
I'm just gonna be blunt and tell you, you clearly don't have, and probably never had a lot of guys in your life, so no doubt about it, first idiot that approaches you, you fall for him.
I don't really have any advice for you, I'm just warning you the reason you feel attracted to him. If you had a decent looking guy already texting you, you wouldn't give this dude the time of the day.
Bitch why do you think you have the right to dismiss a manlet when you're a womanlet yourself smh
That said I agree with >>32882
LMAO you're right at first I thought it was 5'10 dwarf-lite lol
to men that will be leading them on and i think deep down you know this. guys don't chat to women for casual conversation, if they wanted that they will talk to other guys.
Who the fuck cares about what men think is “leading”? Then it’s his fucking fault for wasting his own damn time being a creep and lying about his age. Not cute whiteknighting men. It won’t make them respect you more.
He actually never lied, he just admitted he lied to other people.
Based, manlets are indeed ugly
Is it bad that I don't think your leading him on?
In the beginning there was something there and now it's gone or dying.It happens.
Just tell him it won't work out/cut him off or whatever. Sounds like he's moving too fast that's usually a sign of desperation.
Lying about his age would be a hard pass for me. Men used to do that stuff to me when I was younger and that's just a huge no.
People who are saying you're leading him on are dumb op. He sounds pretty sketchy, you should probably cut contact with him.
>>32863>when you get to be 26 you don't feel any different from the way you felt at 19
Can't agree. A hell of a lot happens in seven years.>>32908>Is it bad that I don't think your leading him on?>In the beginning there was something there and now it's gone or dying. It happens.>People who are saying you're leading him on are dumb op.
Agree. You were interested and now you're not, or are conflicted. Zero wrong with any of that.
I'd advise you against pursuing him. Lying about age is a yellow flag. Not really a red flag on it's own, but coupled with the neediness it's not looking great.
7 years isn't such a big age gap, but considering you're only 19, you and this guy are in two completely different stages of life. It's gonna be a cause for conflict.
t. started dating early-20s bf when I was high school-aged
>>33269>Lying about age is a yellow flag. Not really a red flag on it's own>7 years isn't such a big age gap
Are you crazy? Both of those are huge red flags.
I didn't really find my current bf all that attractive until we started to get closer and the more we connected the more physically attracted I have become to him, so yeah you can fall in love with people you find a little ugly. I really advise against going after this guy, I'm concerned about him being creepy and lying to you.
I have caught feelings for very ugly men but normally I notice they are ugly first. Then they get prettier with time as I get to know them. Never really had the opposite happen. The lying about his age is a huge redflag. Drop his ass.