idk sis this feels like such a non-problem? just date someone from the same religious sect as you or someone with similar views, so they'd easily understand. If the guy doesn't agree then just look for someone else ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
like yk sis why would you even want to date someone that can't respect your beliefs? But that's true in the inverse too, you should also be mentally and emotionally prepared if you're rejected because the other person just doesn't wanna, regardless if it's a valid or invalid reason, just leave that person be, yk? you can't force that person after all
I used to think looking for someone like that would be hard but apparently not, since I know a lot of people irl that are really conservative and/or religious that are paired up.
I don't think couples necessarily have to have the same religious or political views, or the same cultural values, but yk partners have to at least respect beliefs like that. I'm religious and my partner is an atheist, and we're in the same country but from different ethnic groups so we're also culturally different, but it's not really a source of conflict for us. My upbringing is also religious like yours, and my family came from the countryside before moving to the city so they're more conservative than city folk. My partner doesn't understand the need for why I believe and do certain things but at the very least they just let me be. And in turn, I don't shove my beliefs down my partner's throat.
In OP's defense, I also come from a country that's conservative. I don't really see it either as being treated like merchandise too, but I can see why it'd look that way to others.
I think though that it is kinda lowkey sexist to just ask for only your father's permission. Unless your father is a widower or you're in a single-parent household, idk, shouldn't you also ask for permission from your mother? Your mother is as much as a parent as your father is, so why don't you ask her too? idk im not really trying to argue but yeah parental consent isn't weird where I'm from, the weird part is that it's only the dad's consent needed
I am biased because in my country, while you can just elope and get married as an adult, in practice that's not common either out of filial piety/respect, or because you could get disowned/ostracized by your family for marrying someone they don't approve of. Before a couple marries in my country, we ask for the consent/blessing of the mothers and fathers of both bride and groom, instead of just a dad thing bc yk moms are parents too, lol.