1.jpg Anonymous 07/05/20 (Sun) 12:07:45 PM 38304
Has it happened to you?
Anonymous 07/15/20 (Wed) 10:57:31 PM 38772
Nope I’m a gigantic unfeminine amazon woman and guys will never find me attractive aside from some weirdos who do in a “step on me, mommy” kind of way and I’ll never be seen as cute and dainty so thanks for the reminder OP
Anonymous 07/15/20 (Wed) 11:43:27 PM 38785 >>38772 >amazonian >wants to be found cute
Big oof there, but hey at least there's perks to being taller. Better to accept the flaws inherent to our lives than seethe and become depressed over our misfortunes for the remainder of such a shallow existence!
Anonymous 07/16/20 (Thu) 12:34:34 AM 38787 >>38772
All women are cute, anon. If anything tall girls who are meek/feminine are uniquely endearing due to the contrast.
I'm not a man though, so perhaps my opinion is moot.
Anonymous 07/16/20 (Thu) 01:54:15 AM 38791
Massively triggered by the apostrophe in the girl's speech bubble
>bout' How would this make sense, it's supposed to indicate missing letters, ahhgg Anonymous 07/16/20 (Thu) 03:41:05 AM 38797 >>38772
I think there are guys who are more into gentle subtle femdom rather than outright "please inflict pain on me."
If you'd rather dominance not factor into it at all, though, you'll probably have to just look for guys who don't care about/aren't concerned with your height rather than guys who are attracted to you because of it.
You could also try and find a guy
taller than you. Most tall women I see with a guy are with a guy still taller than they are.
Anonymous 07/16/20 (Thu) 04:04:24 AM 38800 >>38785
… I-is 5’8 amazonian? Asking for a friend
Anonymous 07/16/20 (Thu) 05:53:20 PM 38843 >>38821 Start learning Dutch, or dress childishly. Anonymous 07/16/20 (Thu) 10:50:42 PM 38854 >>38775
Educate me on how this is ""moid garbage"". I fail to see any 'moidness' in the pic
Anonymous 07/16/20 (Thu) 11:38:44 PM 38856 >>38772
I'd love to be a tall woman. Even better if I could tower over many men. You have it easier to look lady-like, beautiful and cool at the same time if you present yourself in the right way. Models are all tall. Tall people have longer legs and lots of people value long legs.
You will never be seen as an "underdeveloped short girl". Why do you want to look cute and dainty if you're a grown-up adult? When you turn 35, you don't want to be shorter and dainty, you want to be tall and present a mature image.
I remember going to a wedding, wearing shoes with small heels, and it felt great to be a bit taller than some of the women there. There's a sort of confidence that can only come with tallness. Embrace it.
Anonymous 07/17/20 (Fri) 06:47:23 AM 38864
how can womanlets … >>38772
You may not be cute and dainty, but you can be beautiful and elegant.
Anonymous 07/17/20 (Fri) 07:37:32 AM 38865
Thanks for the reminder that females and males are only equals when they're children and that romantic attraction in adulthood requires a power imbalance that ultimately almost always falls in the man's favor.
Anonymous 07/17/20 (Fri) 10:21:41 AM 38868 >>38865
The dominant/submissive dynamic exists across all of nature and facets of human interaction even outside romantic relationships.
Even teams of criminals who are the same gender with no romantic attraction will still fall into those roles. It's just the way animal brains are wired.
Anonymous 07/17/20 (Fri) 11:54:01 AM 38869 >>38865
How do relationships favor the man? The man has to ask for things, and the woman decides if it happens or not. Unless he's literally using his size and strength to force you to do things, which is a crime and certainly not a representation of typical relationships.
If that bugs you you could always just be the one to ask the man out and plan the dates and decide what to do together. But I'm guessing you just don't want to do that.
Anonymous 07/17/20 (Fri) 12:09:23 PM 38871
sad kot.jpg >>38772
I'm 5'5 and love tall girls with long legs. Problem is, most women who are 5'8+ won't even look in my direction. I have no issues dating girls around my height and get told I'm attractive but because I'm short, I'll never get to experience the bliss of death by Snu Snu.
Anonymous 07/17/20 (Fri) 02:14:41 PM 38880 >>38865
Just force yourself to be lesbian or only date short men. Unless you're below average female height like me and it's hard to find a man even shorter than you….
Anonymous 07/17/20 (Fri) 11:58:40 PM 38926 >>38871 >implying 5’8 is snu snu-tier compared to 5’5 Anonymous 07/18/20 (Sat) 12:14:37 AM 38928 >>38869 >The man has to ask for things, and the woman decides if it happens or not.
You sound like an incel. Relationships are a lot more than sex.
Anonymous 07/18/20 (Sat) 12:54:37 AM 38930 >>38926
Depends on if one girl is buff and the other is pretty thin, then the strength diff would allow it.
Anonymous 07/18/20 (Sat) 02:42:25 PM 38941 >>38928
I was talking about relationships though.
Anonymous 07/19/20 (Sun) 11:48:04 AM 38969 >>38941
and that's why you'll never have a healthy relationship– it's about mutual support, love and literally just caring about eachother
Anonymous 07/20/20 (Mon) 02:03:59 AM 38993 >Has it happened to you? yes feels good Anonymous 07/23/20 (Thu) 12:09:25 AM 39208
why do i have to remember that lady fucking bug and fag noir exist?
Anonymous 07/23/20 (Thu) 12:13:31 AM 39211
Ahhh she's beautiful, I aim to be the Asian version of this
Anonymous 07/25/20 (Sat) 04:08:45 PM 39418 >>38785
Nah, think I’ll continue with trying to kill myself and then bitching out at the last minute, thanks tho
Anonymous 07/25/20 (Sat) 07:23:47 PM 39430 >>39418
What steps do you take to appear cute?
Anonymous 07/26/20 (Sun) 12:13:28 AM 39455 >>39430
I used to wear cutesy kinds of clothes but it just made me look even more weird than I already do. I lost a shit ton of weight so I would look less “imposing” and “domineering” as a lot of people have said. I’m about ten pounds underweight for my height (I’m 5’9.5 and fluctuate between 115-110) but I make sure to get all my nutrients in so I don’t impact my health too badly. I’ve tried to be more giggley and cutesy personality-wise because that’s what feels most natural for me but everyone just makes fun of me for it because my body doesn’t match so I just kind of avoid speaking lately.
Anonymous 07/26/20 (Sun) 05:18:24 AM 39473
1451158828965.jpg >>39455 >I lost a shit ton of weight so I would look less “imposing” and “domineering” as a lot of people have said.
I say you go the other direction and gain it back and also start working out, so that when you wear cute clothes the contrast/juxtaposition makes it extra cute.
Anonymous 07/26/20 (Sun) 05:54:23 PM 39492 >>38772 >im a giagantic unfeminine amazon
so like every fashion super model?
Anonymous 07/26/20 (Sun) 06:02:26 PM 39493
f4ed3daece992d0f17… >>39455 >5'9 >110 is normal >tfw 5'2 and 135
stop trying to be ana, and take the quirky pill
Anonymous 07/26/20 (Sun) 11:58:58 PM 39516 >>39455
Being slim would actually cause the opposite intended effect to happen, anon. It's usually when you have a "softer" appearance that people will feel more safe around you. I take it you don't get hungry often?
Anonymous 07/27/20 (Mon) 11:30:14 AM 39553 >>39455 >5'9.5
That's not amazonian, you're just a taller than average woman. You need to at least break 5'10 to be taller than half the guys you meet, though in my book, Amazonian doesn't start until you hit the 6' mark. Womanlets I swear.
Anonymous 07/27/20 (Mon) 10:20:06 PM 39630 >>39553
This. She's not taller than the average man
Anonymous 07/27/20 (Mon) 10:45:02 PM 39635 >>39553 >>39630
The average male where I live is 5’8 so I am a little taller than most. Others, I either tower over or if I’m lucky I’m not taller but I’m not significantly shorter either.
Anonymous 07/28/20 (Tue) 12:24:59 AM 39643 >>39635
Oh, that's a shame then. A lot of guys don't have the confidence to date up in height, even by a little bit.
Anonymous 07/28/20 (Tue) 04:58:45 AM 39653 >>39643
In general there's still a big societal stigma of taller women seen as unfeminine/shorter men seen as unmasculine, causing them to avoid each other out of fear of rejection or ridicule or whatever.
Hell, Tom Cruise is 5'7" and, despite being fucking Tom Cruise, Hollywood has still had him stand on a box or otherwise alter his height when filming some of his movies so that he'd be taller than his love interest when standing next to her, because god forbid the woman be the taller member of any couple.
It's pretty sad that despite this whole culture of inclusiveness and body positivity and such, ingrained stigmas like that still slip through the cracks because everyone sees them as normal.
The only reason guys are intimidated by women taller than them is because society drills into their heads that the man must be the taller one, which forces the few women who hit the neighborhood of 6'6" to have to look for 7' freak of nature guys just so they can "feel feminine."
Anonymous 07/28/20 (Tue) 08:02:32 PM 39680 >>39653
What an ingeniously evil way to keep the freaks from breeding!
Anonymous 07/29/20 (Wed) 12:09:19 AM 39691 >>39689 >53%
That is still most men, and studies don't account for liars anyway. Many likely think it's okay in theory but won't date taller when faced with reality.
Anonymous 07/29/20 (Wed) 03:58:22 AM 39697
choophew.jpg >no tall gf to slowly crush me with her big thighs Anonymous 07/29/20 (Wed) 07:42:21 AM 39701 >>39691
Maybe, but that doesn't actually seem important if the idea is that media portrayals of tall/short couples could help tall women be happy with themselves and feel like loving relationships will be possible for them without asteroid-strike level improbable special circumstances. Wanting the media to change men's perception of the match would only be important if the idea was to help men love themselves, which isn't really necessary.
It also seems redundant, since all the short male tall female couples in fiction that I know of occur in male-targeted media. Like Mario/Peach, Link/Zelda, and Wolverine/Every Woman In Marvel Comics, as well as examples from forgettable shounen. Two of those top of my head pairs are media flagships. I do not think I can name any taller woman shorter male couples in shoujo manga or other media that don't have reason to prioritize male audiences.
Anonymous 07/29/20 (Wed) 02:31:15 PM 39717 >>39691
Men know women won't date shorter men so don't think it's an option. And this is obviously true for 90% at least, don't be silly.
Anonymous 07/29/20 (Wed) 08:45:25 PM 39733 >>39732
What makes you think this isn't a result of affinity? People can have an affinity for specific height interactions just like with other physical or social interactions.
"The effect dissipated after 18 years of marriage" would indicate that the dissipation is explained by survivorship, since Muslim countries have always practiced divorce, Indonesia has 400,000 divorces per year, and marital unhappiness is linked to divorce.
I can understand being critical of how society and the media portray relationships but after a certain point this turns into just judging women for wanting to be happy.
Anonymous 07/29/20 (Wed) 08:54:37 PM 39734 >>39732
people are shallow
Kampe, K. K. W., Frith, C. D., Dolan, R. J., & Frith, U. (2001). Reward value of attractiveness and gaze. Nature, 413(6856), 589–590.
GREITEMEYER, T. (2010). Effects of reciprocity on attraction: The role of a partner’s physical attractiveness. Personal Relationships, 17(2), 317–330.
Anonymous 07/29/20 (Wed) 10:02:38 PM 39740
I feel like tall women liking short men isn't uncommon at all. It feel great looking down on a cute boy and being able to completely envelope him with my longer limbs
Anonymous 07/29/20 (Wed) 11:11:40 PM 39742 >>39691 >That is still most men
It's still nowhere close to his overwhelming a majority as the 96% of women who said they wouldn't date a shorter man.
>and studies don't account for liars anyway.
An excellent point, which means the 96% of women who said they wouldn't date a shorter man no matter what is probably closer to 98% or 99%.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 12:24:35 AM 39745 >>39689 >>39742
Now that you've established this, you're obligated to date only short guys from now on to make up for all the women who don't want them.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 01:01:42 AM 39748
better a murderer … >>39745
No thanks I'd rather take a nice murderer child molester.
Haha but seriously though notice how that last sentence says SOME of the women would take the short men if the tall ones were all murderers or child molesters. That means some of the women would STILL rather take the tall child molester murderers over short millionaire doctors.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 01:24:00 AM 39751 >>39748
No it doesn't. It means that ABC News asked the respondents what it would take for them to pick the shorter ones, as a blank, free space, and some of them volunteered that the others would need to be child molesters and murderers, as a spur of the moment response.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 01:29:10 AM 39752 >>39751
And doesn't that just mean the ones that didn't answer would not date the short ones no matter what?
They were offered a blank slate and asked what it would take to make them choose the short ones, and they had nothing to put in it.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 01:42:36 AM 39754
lovelycomplex.jpg >>39701 >I do not think I can name any taller woman shorter male couples in shoujo manga or other media that don't have reason to prioritize male audiences
Pic related though…
Anyway, my argument wasn't that "most women actually want to date manlets," but that for those who do it's still hard. Being the 4% doesn't mean it will be easy to pick them up (figuratively).
Again, why bring up female numbers when I'm just saying dating shorter men is a difficult task? I guess I was unclear with my point, sorry about that.
But especially for women who may be socially awkward (which is likely given where we are), it's a rough go.
So, just giving a warning from experience to not pursue shorter guys with hubris. People are very unpredictable. I've gone into dating relying on a lot of numbers and hypotheses that anons post about online, but there are so many social intricacies that will take you by surprise. You can't expect someone to like you just because statistics and some shut-in on /r9k/ said they would; you actually have to connect.
If nothing else I hope my bad dating experiences can help some other spergy miner not get as hurt, anyway.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 02:42:49 AM 39757 >>39748
It's your chance to become the dream woman for short men, a rare woman who's aware of their plight, and you still sperg about what other women do or don't do. Just say you're actually a salty moid and go!
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 05:31:38 AM 39762 >>39754 >Anyway, my argument wasn't that "most women actually want to date manlets," but that for those who do it's still hard. Being the 4% doesn't mean it will be easy to pick them up (figuratively).
I do see your point. My intended one, which I didn't express well, was actually more about the 96%'s portion of taller women rather than the 4%. The evidence of my eyes is that nearly everyone including men look at tall women with awe, not resentment, but the evidence of my ears is that tall women feel resented. If you walk around with the idea that every man shorter than you resents you for being tall rather than acting weird because their feelings might be closer to awe, and that when shorter men try to flirt that it's socially degrading and humiliating because such a relationship is publicly unacceptable, and everyone in your peer group and your own cultural group reinforce the idea that having someone shorter than you who thinks he could be your partner means you are less valuable rather than more loveable since otherwise someone short wouldn't think he'd have a chance with you, then life is going to be a huge negative feedback loop. Attention from almost everyone you meet will be seem like an insult or an attack, including the constant sense that other women see you as 'other' and can only imagine you in a relationship with someone they themselves would see as an undateable goblin, which gets reinforced by the way that people always ask tall girls who complain about loneliness "would you consider dating someone shorter than you?" but would never ask the same question to a woman of 5'3" to 5'7".
The 4% would be relatively happy, even if they never actually got with one of the 23% of men, because they aren't living in that nightmare world where even people liking you is a devaluation. The 96% portion of tall women still have a clear social and cultural benefit if those 4% were not consistently depicted as freaks.
So, my idea was that media depicting relationships in which the woman is taller and the man is shorter could stand to be made in which the woman is not actually particularly tall. 5'6" women with 5'3" boyfriends, like the Zelda/Link ship I mentioned. "Would you ever consider dating a man shorter than you" should be as serious a question for average women as for volleyball players. If you're a serious manlet-fancier and proud 4%er that might sound downright threatening, imagining women shorter than you getting all the hobbits, but I don't think it would change anyone's preferences, it would just free a few taller women from a completely unwarranted shame.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 09:26:12 AM 39764 >>39754
No him but it was 4% of women versus 23% of men. So there's more than 5 men for every woman willing to be in a relationship with a shorter man.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 01:32:39 PM 39769 >>39762 >people always ask tall girls who complain about loneliness "would you consider dating someone shorter than you?" but would never ask the same question to a woman of 5'3" to 5'7".
A 1000 times this. When a tall woman is single, people always assume it's because she must have rejected all men who are shorter than her, there supposedly can never be any other reason. It's so guilttrippy, they never take into account that tall women maybe actually aren't even getting hit on by short men and they'd never ask the same question to a single woman of normal height.
Even the shortest men are still taller than short women, so for them it's easy to claim that they wouldn't really have a problem with dating somebody who's "short". Not sure whether I should laugh or cry when yet another 5ft girl dating a 6ft dude basically scolds me for not being into a guy who's 5'5 - of course she doesnt see this as that bad, afterall he'd still be a lot taller than her, but for me it would mean getting stared at wherever we'd go as a couple.
I also hate that normal sized people always say that being e.g. 5'11 as a woman isn't even a big deal - that's 8 inches above the average height, would you tell a man who's 8 inches less than average height, meaning 5'2, to also "just get over it"???
People like you are part of the problem: in this thread tall women complain about how much they suffer because of their height, starving in a desperate attempt to be at least small in some way is super common, yet you think commenting what once again enforces the idea that tall women are ginormous, with superhuman strength, a physical threat to normal women, is a good idea? We don't want to fulfill weirdos' amazonian fantasy, we just want to be normal girls who can be cute, beautiful, loveable and not just badass and strong. I was 5'10 when I was just 12, I never got to be an innocent girl, for me the only options are either trying to be uncomfortably sexy or getting treated like a massive ogre. Short girls also always claim that we have an easier time looking slim, but while when you gain weight you're just chubby, when one of us gains weight we immediately transform in a monster. Do you know how much it hurts to be a teen girl and have people call you a man? I know that I don't look like one, but nevertheless guys and short to average girls apparently think this is a fun thing to do.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 01:53:55 PM 39770 >>39769
I was 5'9 when I was 11, having people treat you like a man or an adult for something you have no control over hurts
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 02:52:46 PM 39777 >>39769 >>39770 >society doesnt confirm my appearance constantly
oh boo hoo
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 02:55:45 PM 39779 >>39769 >would you tell a man who's 8 inches less than average height, meaning 5'2, to also "just get over it"???
If you go to normal, male-dominated imageboards you'll see that normal people tell them exactly that, all the time. And accuse them of being mentally ill, Napoleon-complexed freaks if this insult does not immediately cause them to fix themselves and erase a lifetime of negative social experiences based on height. I'm
and I do agree with and sympathize with what you're saying, you're just taking it a little too far when you say things like that.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 02:59:28 PM 39780 >>39777
It's more like society criticizes their appearances constantly, considering being called manly is not flattering to most women, let along girls. Have some empathy.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 03:09:46 PM 39781
Screen Shot 2020-0… >>39780
you act like you wanted to get into this lame society's pants
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 03:29:38 PM 39782
Niggas be complainin' bout being too tall too small, appearance. Meanwhile we can't even get past small talk on dating sites. I go out of my want and initiate conversations but it all ends as soon as small talk dies off.
Thanks for that post. The other dude was creeping me out. Every living being has his caring/giving side as well as needy/recieving side. They change just as times in one's life change. Sometimes your partner needs help and sometimes you do. I bet you don't understand that because you were only thinking about sex… Moid>>38868
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 07:20:31 PM 39789
I don't care about being constantly told I'm sexy or valid uwu or whatever, I just want to be treated like other shorter girls and not an amazon/uwu step on me mummy domme
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 07:22:27 PM 39790 >>39781
Most people do. I'm not ashamed of it.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 08:26:02 PM 39793 >>39789
Turning yourself into Eugenia Cooney isn't helping. You need to realise that being seen as cute isn't exclusive to being small. Being nice and polite will help you regardless of your height. It's less about how much you want to be something you can never become, but more about how everyone perceives you. Seething about being a giant won't help. All its going to do is drive people away.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 09:47:39 PM 39798 >>39793
I have anxiety and have a frail constitution, when people go oooh at my long legs I just pretend to be flattered. Sure being cute isn't dependent on height but I'll always attract the uwu step on me mommy types
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 10:16:44 PM 39802 >>39798
Not if you make yourself less frightening and imposing. You have to remember how visual cues work on this planet. How do you make yourself appear softer and lighter while maintaining your height? Being skeletal is not the solution.
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 11:08:59 PM 39804 >>39803
Honestly you'd be surprised, having large breasts doesn't help either
I don't know how to present like that honestly
Anonymous 07/30/20 (Thu) 11:35:11 PM 39808 >>39804
I just told you. I've been telling you. All you have to do is:
>gain weight back to appear at the very least soft but not to the point of causing health defects (consult bmi if you want something more concrete than looking in the mirror) >wear more colorful and friendly clothing that gives off the image of niceness (if you have been to /cgl/ or /fa/ you will know what I mean) >and finally you have to adopt an attitude of someone who is seeking to make friends (if you want to appear as less assertive it is paramount that you act less assertive) Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 02:59:22 AM 39820 >>39777
Like it’s at all fair society constantly confirms short girls appearances. Like in OP. How can you expect us not to feel bad about ourselves cause of it?
Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 06:30:55 AM 39831 >>39820
Models are tall af and OP pic is entirely about manlets having no chance if they stay manlets lmao.
Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 06:38:49 AM 39832 >>39820
the joke is that she doesn't like him until he's taller. he literally likes her when she's taller. lmaooo come on
Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 08:57:44 AM 39833 >>39831
Like anybody gives a shit about models anymore, unless they’re Instagram models and Instagram models typically aren’t tall
Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 02:08:37 PM 39841
DB5w5yIXoAATewd.jp… >>39831 >the good ol' "models are tall too"-argument
And what kind of man would date a model? The average model is a poor anorexic russian 15yo, that's not what dudes fantasize about and that's not what the average tall woman looks like. Maybe guys jerk it once to some VS model but that's only because they are slim and wear nice underwear, not because of their tallness (and again, the average tall women doesn't resemble a VS model at all!). So many models are dating total bridge trolls because normal to handsome men all want shorter cuter women and if 10/10 tall women like pic related have to settle for neckbeards then what about us not super gorgeous tall women…
Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 03:27:00 PM 39844 >>39841
That seems like a cherry picked example. I'm sure plenty of model or model-esque women date equivalently attractive men.
Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 03:53:57 PM 39845 >>39841
When they do its because their boyfriend is a billionaire. Like how Miranda Kerr dated an obese Malaysian billionaire.
Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 04:53:49 PM 39847 >>39831 >>39833 >implying this wasn’t drawn by a man who fetishizes shorter girls Anonymous 07/31/20 (Fri) 11:09:58 PM 39857 >>39847
Look at the artist's signature in the bottom left of the image. No way that's a man's signature.
As if the art style and subject matter of the image weren't clearly female enough.
Anonymous 08/01/20 (Sat) 07:37:40 AM 39893
10/10 tall women having to settle for the heirs of billionaires and ceos
Anonymous 08/01/20 (Sat) 08:55:46 AM 39894 >>39845 >>39893 >billionaires
Dude is working a low wage job in a kitchen.
Anonymous 08/01/20 (Sat) 09:29:33 AM 39895 >>39847
theres like a 3 inch height difference
adrien is a twink manlet and in the show he barely notices marinette, and marinette is a creepy obsessed stalker whos like 2 steps away from murdering him
Anonymous 08/01/20 (Sat) 10:58:25 AM 39901
you could just you know, dress in things you think look cute?
Anonymous 08/01/20 (Sat) 08:00:00 PM 39923
The whole model conversation keeps reminding me why these conversations are always so awful.
5'10"anon has explained multiple times what her reasons are for feeling the way she does:
>I was 5'10 when I was just 12, I never got to be an innocent girl, for me the only options are either trying to be uncomfortably sexy or getting treated like a massive ogre
It's that loss and that premature initiation into adulthood, including adult sexuality, that actually hurts. It's not really about whether men still treat her as sexy when she tries to be uncomfortably sexy years later. You can't just expect her to get over the horrifying similarity between how men sexually approach her now and how they sexualized her when she was a goddamned 11 year old child. We have had threads and threads of other women talking about their feelings and the negative impact of premature initiation into sexual behavior, including grooming and harassment, but 5'10"anon keeps finding that even in anonymous online spaces where her height isn't an immediately arresting visual factor, people still expect her to be and to have always been more adult than other people, to "just get over it" when nobody says that to other women who have similar complaints about being robbed of the opportunity to grow into their sexuality at their own pace.
But when taller women try to explain the adult impact of that, for some reason they keep coming around to who/what/how/why questions regarding boyfriends and relationships, which are not at all the issue. A huge part of that is responding to others and other people who keep arguing that being uncomfortably sexy should have turned into being comfortably sexy in adulthood, without considering that maybe having the normal transition to adulthood was part of their own transformation from angst to sexually comfortable. But it's not just an "every short woman just doesn't get it" problem. One of the tallest women I knew IRL would always joke about how "God made me tall to make sure I'd never get a boyfriend" while actually having some very attractive, athletic boyfriends; she kept that joke up even after getting married. This devaluation of every relationship tall women are in or might get comes off as petty and patronizing. Even as self-deprecation it comes across like you don't really value other people. It might come from that place of feeling that childhood like a phantom limb. It might come from identifying as the immature party and the child forced to act as an adult. But trying to talk through the perspective of that hurt child comes across as thinking that the other party is childish, which comes across as condescending and acting like you're the more mature adult.
I don't know who these people are. Maybe he has a nice dick and makes her laugh and takes care of her when she's under the weather, and maybe she stopped caring about how ugly and poor her partner might be after having experienced much better looking men and also finding her bank account has enough digits to hit the limits of the happiness that money brings. He's also nearly a head taller than her if you account for the shoulder stoop. It's possible that it's something unhealthy, he is a huge ugly ogre and knowing that would free her from ever feeling like a "massive ogre" as described earlier when they're together, which would mean their relationship is founded on self-loathing rather than love, but it isn't necessarily true. And if a woman is self-loathing enough to date an ogre just to hate herself slightly less when he's around then it does not seem possible or likely that she would look for the best in any partner, ever. I don't know their story at all, but I don't see why she couldn't be with him because she likes him instead of because she dislikes herself and couldn't get with anyone she actually likes.
Anonymous 08/01/20 (Sat) 08:08:27 PM 39924 >>39923
I wish people could be as empathetic to her struggles as they are when a woman with big boobs talks about how awful it is that she starts being seen as sexy and mature while still being a child. It's the same shit.
Anonymous 08/01/20 (Sat) 08:46:26 PM 39926 >>39923
Is the "massive ogre" supposed to be miserable? For different reasons, I never cared for my appearance early in my life, but I never was really upset about it. I still talked and made friends.
Anonymous 08/01/20 (Sat) 11:13:33 PM 39929 >>39923
I've been 5'8 since I was 10, this thread is so weird. Its such a weird, isolating, experience that has left me feeling all fucked up about my body for forever now. Literally cursed lmao.
Anonymous 08/02/20 (Sun) 06:21:51 AM 39946 >>39929
bruh I zoomed up to 5ft 5 before I was 11 and stayed there, not as dramatic as yours but mogging even the guys in elementary was something. Plus I was a fat kid, should have bullied kids. I am not pretending that I know what you have been through regardless.
Must have been weird to be taller than most people ever get before you were 10, but it’s better than having been a midget.
Anonymous 08/02/20 (Sun) 09:43:07 AM 39948 >>39923
Just so that I understand that right as a dumb ESLfag, do you mean that being treated like an adult and being expected to act more mature at a too young age resulted in tall anons feeling uncomfortable with being seen as sexy, resulting in them being so obsessed with wanting to be small and cute instead?
Anonymous 08/03/20 (Mon) 06:53:18 PM 40035 >>40031 >know how to cook, clean, do laundry/dishes by myself Gee whiz, do you know how to go potty all by yourself as well? What a catch you are! Anonymous 08/03/20 (Mon) 07:46:39 PM 40042 >>40031 >>40037 >crystal.cafe is a female-oriented community. Comments from male users are not desired. If you state your gender in your comment or post in an otherwise identifiable manner, bait, or thirst-post, you will be banned and your comment will be deleted. Encouraging male posters by responding may result in a temporary ban. Anonymous 08/06/20 (Thu) 02:13:49 PM 40223 >meet guy at uni >few months pass >get to talk to him all alone >I always walk a three or four steps in front of anyone I'm with because I'm impatient and unpolite >sit in a bench for an hour talking >our next class is in 10 minutes >get up and go next to the uni building >stand up next to him >near him >mfw he's 20cm aprox taller than me He looks to the ground to talk to me, I'm so embarrassed some times I can't look at him at all because it looks like… >_< So I just look at any other direction in a rude manner. Anonymous 08/06/20 (Thu) 10:17:13 PM 40343 >>39782
I have switched schools so many times that I was forced to learn how to interact with / befriend normie people. You will get the gist of things with more experience.
Smalltalk is there to find the "egdes" of a person, what makes their p e r s o n a l i t y different from other people. Certain hobbies or interests, dress styles even. Once you have found something like that you ask and listen. Follow up with relevant questions and tell them something about yourself that fits the conversation. Dont fake interest and be honest but not dismissive or rude.
Some people cant really talk to each other, that is ok.
Anonymous 08/06/20 (Thu) 10:19:12 PM 40344 >>39841
Different men want different things in women, otherwise porn would be 1 category only. Stupid example but I think you get what I am trying to say.
Anonymous 08/06/20 (Thu) 11:35:44 PM 40354 >>39841
models are just too skinny and wear what gay men in the fashion industry tell them to wear.