Internet Romance Anonymous 385
Story time! Have you ever fallen in love online, sisters?
Bonus points if it happened back before webcams and smartphones were ubiquitous.
Oh yeah, I have. I also have a couple friends who met each other online, didn't see each other face to face for a couple years, and finally met up and got married. That was maybe in 2012 iirc.
I'm in a LDR with someone I met online 6 years ago. We dated for maybe 3 years in the past.
Hopefully we're going to get our shit together until the end of this year/first months of the next, and finally move in together. He was born in the same country as me, but has lived abroad for a decade. I'm not completely sure about how I feel about everything at the moment, mostly because we got back super recently, but I am trying to be positive that things will work out this time because we really care about each other and missed each other during our time apart. Fingers crossed.
I remember that during our relationship I had really awful internet. Good lord… Dating again in 2017 has been awesome with all these new apps and great wifi lol.
I remember that in the very beginning of our relationship my bf would call me internationally from a payphone… Tough times. It was winter and I worried about him being there in the snow, but he didn't want to hang up. sob.
I think people can
fall in love online. I hate when people say that's not possible because you are not with the person IRL, so you don't know how they do this, or that… Yeah, a RL relationship is very different, and a LDR that started online can be really fucking challenging. But the thing is that no one knows how deep/real an online relationship can get, but the couple experiencing it.
So who are you to say they don't really love each other, or that their feelings aren't real? That's BS.
It's important to mention you need to see the person IRL before making any type of important decision, and spend time with them to see if you guys "click" and all, but that's it.
Couples should meet up asap otherwise things can get depressing and hopeless in no time because you won't feel like there's any real progress happening. Even if it's going to take long until you can see each other, start to make plans. The hopelessness of feeling that our plans would never happen is what killed our relationship in the past. We wanted to be together, but we were broke as fuck and I was still young (he's 4 years older) so things had to end.
We will see what happens this time, but my heart is open to fall in love with him again.
I used to think internet romances were stupid and untrustworthy but I think I'm more open to it now since I've been secretly wishing I had one and have a harder time opening up to people in real life anyway.
I do agree with what anon said, it's best to meet up irl first before making drastic decisions because you could have great chemistry online but real life is bound to be different in one way or another whether it's the person or the connection. It also helps if you and your partner are at least in the same country. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult global romantic relationships are.
Yes, and I don't recommend it for most people. Or LDRs in general that turn into something serious.
I was in a LDR with my boyfriend for about a year, seeing each other pretty frequently. We met online. Most of our relationship was through Skype, the phone, and Kik. I now live with him. My best advice is that you try to visit with that person for a SUPER extended time, and I mean at least a MONTH, not just a few weeks, to really get a feel for how they live their life.
I also find that LDRs are like relationships on training wheels. You can sort of live your life while having a relationship in the background. I was pretty guilty of this, I admit. Problems arise such as not dealing well with each other in actual times of stress, not knowing how to deal with each other when you need space, unsure of what becomes of your financials, do your cleaning habits mesh well, etc. Ideally, you talk about this beforehand, but in practice, it's much different. Also, you can really idealize the person from far away. Maybe he/she seems dreamy because you have five states separating you.
Honestly, I miss the person that my boyfriend was (or that I perceived him to be) when we were in a LDR. That's probably really immature of me to admit. I'm sure he thinks the same of me, haha.
>>398>Yes, and I don't recommend it for most people. Or LDRs in general that turn into something serious.
I wont tell my story but I will say what I regret the most: because my "boyfriend" was in another country, I missed so many opportunities of having fun with friends in my country and meeting good guys. All for an asshole that wasnt worth it.
And yes this happened before smartphones and webcams werent as popular as now.
I've been in an LDR for a year and a half and i haven't seen him in person yet because we live across the country, so our relationship is mostly online chat and lenghty videocalls when we both have time.
Honestly, even though i love him like i've never loved anyone before, it's really exausting. I'm really mentally unstable and sometimes not being able to see the person that i love makes me go on bouts of anger and sadness and if i'm not careful i end up taking it out on him. Our situation is also particularly bad because we're both flat broke, so the only thing keeping me with him is unwavering optimism. I don't know if i'll be able to take it much longer, because it's just too emotionally draining, and we have so many obstacles in our way that i'm constantly questioning if it's even worth it.
I fell in love with a guy I met on an MMO like 8 years ago. I was worried we wouldn't "click" when we met in person, but we had instant chemistry. It didn't feel like we were meeting for the first time, at all. It was like seeing an old friend. We got married and live together now. I was always sure to be myself online and not to embellish things. I type like I talk. Apparently he did the same, because he wasn't any different in person than he was online. We only sent a few pics of ourselves and never cammed.
It can work out if everyone involved is completely honest and has good intentions. Not saying it will for sure, but it can.
Obviously with every type of relationship there are different cases and mixed pros and cons.
IMO most LDRs/e-relationships don't really work out. People act very differently online than they do irl and even if you skype or talk a lot on the phone and stuff, you won't be exactly the same in person.
So if/when you do meet up it can either go really well but more often than not (from what I've seen) one of the party is disappointed or realized they don't like the person irl.
In my opinion internet relationships are a lot more like 2dbfs, while you interact with them and have fun you don't REALLY know them. You put in a lot of ideals and project stuff onto that person because they're just on a screen and speakers. You can't touch this person, you can't see them interact in a social or real life setting.
Anyone have internet access at a very young age? My childhood friend and I would spend hours on online communities and acquire different "boyfriends" every few months. We were only 10 years old!
I find it kind of strange that my first exposure to romance was over the internet.
I’ve never had an online relationship except for this one time and it wasn’t really a relationship it was more of a short fling
>met a guy on discord after an invitation was posted on a thread (not saying which board)
>turned out to be an actually cool guy
>found out he was also pretty cute after we sent pics of each other
>starting sending nudes to each other
>started calling each other and soon it turned into phone sex
>started making plans to meet up sometime (we lived in different countries)
>eventually it sorta fizzled out, we started talking to each other less and less until we just stopped
It was fun while it lasted but I realized that long term relationships don’t really work for me. He had one of the nicest dicks I’ve seen though lol.
Lol forgot to mention a board from 4chan
Omg Neopets e-boyfriends were the thrill of my elementary-middle school transition. I even told my mom that this guy was going to come see me from a whole continent over to hang out. Turned out I was wrong and he was way older, but luckily my preteen ass was too scared to send naughty pics.
Didn't really feel like romance to me, the Internet seemed so fantasy-like back then. Now you gotta upload a new selfie every day…
>>10355>>10359>sending nudes>phone sex
McFucked up. Remember to get straight to direct contact, next time. Do the mating dance, or sky daddy gets mad.
You’re right but thinking it through, the lack of physical contact would have killed the relationship eventually. At least for me. Sometimes I wish I would have tried harder though since he was genuinely a cool dude.
I don't believe in love, but I have managed to keep 1 online friend for 7 years. We have a pact to get married if we're both still single in 20 years.
>and let me listen to him sleep.
Awww, this is so cute.
This stuff's never gonna work out, you know. It breaks like biscuits, unless you meet them IRL. >>10381
Meeting in person would actually draw you closer to each other, until one of you inevitably wants to make it permanent. You have to keep the tease game going, until you've got them locked up.
Can you stop shitting up all threads with the same opinion? It's become easy to identify you in every thread here and as an anon board this is upsetting. Please stop.
I don't have to, you're everywhere telling people not to do X and Y and being condesceding as fuck. I'm not the person who called you out for the tfw no bf yesterday, so I'm definitely not the only who've noticed you.
You're not going to make me.
Sorry, these lips were made to kiss lesbians and I'm sure our buddy here is male.
Okay buddy, show labia or gtfo.
A-anon chan, but we just met.
Only a peck for now, o-okay?
Sure, anon-chan. Don't worry, I'll be patient and wait for love to connect us together somehow someday. Ganbatte and dream of me until the day we run into each other again.
wtf why this is so hot and nice to read, i need to calm my ovaries now, thx anons
Oh how wrong you are. Just confess that you're a larper. Do you have a bf? GO TALK TO A BOY>>10430
You are welcome anon, please think about us kissing, a lot.
NNO NO dont do that please, that's rape!>>10437
where are you taking me wtf… let go right now!!
Aw come on, just a peck to relieve the tension.
It's not non-consensual, you are obviously into it and enjoying it,m your lips don't lie.
I'm offering advice on the venting and advice board. Quit accusing everyone you hate of being a boy.
okay.. that sounds fine and comfy i guess>>10443
please don't, these lips are only made for kissing boys with
Anon, just stop resisting and join the lesbo side. You know you want it.
Go away, male. We're about to have a lesbian orgy here.
That's what you say, but your lips obviously like the soft touch of my feminine lips.
Don't you like kissing me, anon-chan?
But i can be so gentle, you won't get this with a boy, my darling.
Not being a lesbian doesn't make you male, anon.
well what do you know, maybe i just like it rough..
It's okay, anon. I will grow one for you. That's how much I love you!
Go away, male. Go talk to a boy.
I can give it to you however you want, my anonymous darling.
grow a boy for me?
that's pretty weird… unless you mean growing a dick like a futa>>10460
yeah but can you give it to me like a boy would, there's no way i'd get pleased by another girl
That is exactly what I meant. We don't need males here, we can grow our own penises if we ever crave dicc.
How do I know you're not one of those yuri types? You're role-playing awfully hard right now.>>10458
Not a male.
I'm very talented, no boy will compare to me once you try it.
Stop resisting and admit you like my kisses, i can see it on your non-face.
Sorry, male. I already have a bf. I come here to shitpost.
I uploaded the wrong GIF, welp.
I'm one of the anons flirting here and i'm:
1. a girl who likes girls (and boys)
2. not that anon
Go away, smeg, your damage control is embarassing.
yeah but can you make it work and make it shoot out white goo too?>>10464>no boy will compare to me once you try it
i dunno about that, you should give me some irl kisses before i can decide on that
Now you think I'm not only a boy, but a boy that wants to be your bf? Are you just shitposting? >>10467
Not smeg. Quit it.
Futas are known for shooting inhumane amounts of cum as far as I know.
Did you read I said I come here to shitpost?
only the ones with balls tho, there are futas with and without testicles
I'm glad you are slowly accepting your lust for me, my anonymous darling.
I can give you as many kisses as you want, and i guarantee you will love every single one of them.
I'm sure your decision will be very easy.
Maybe I won't be able to shoot milk out of my futa dicc but what about tiddie milk?
kekked irl, anon. Thanks, that will make me live longer.
come over then ;)
it's already 7pm here, gotten start getting darker soon enough and i was already in bed anyway, just ended up falling into a short 20 minutes nap for a bit as well, come prove me wrong loser
Sorry. I was just getting upset.>>10482
I'm frowning at this.(YOU CAN'T SIT WITH US)
I will, wait for me.
Calling me a loser will only make me kiss you and love you more, loser.
I will be everything you ever wished on a boy and more, darling, you will regret every time you rejected my kisses and ask for more, i assure you.
It's okay. We can be friends. Just follow my instructions.
you sure seem to be really confident about that, that's cute
Nta, but those are his ~male tears~
As confident as you'll be of them once we are together, cutie.
Anon, I know you're dying to get that puss, but stop double posting kek
Shhh, don't tell them, i saw a typo, i'm not as thirsty as she is.
hey what the hell. frick you im not thirsty after stupid girls like you, i just said that maybe i'll take you up on the offer, i still like boys
Ah, still denying you are lusting after my lips and love after inviting me over?
Tsk tsk, how cute.
yeah, there's nothing wrong with having a sleepover, okay?..
Of course, just as there is nothing wrong with kissing during that sleep over.
After all, you don't like girls, right? so it should be okay if we kiss.
You. You should touch her tiddie.
Mhmm, of course, as long as she allows me to.
We can touch each other tiddies for fun, it's just having fun among girls and nothing more, right?
>>10503>After all, you don't like girls, right? so it should be okay if we kiss.
no that's not.. don't try to play around with my head like that, i know what you're trying to pull>>10504>>10505
fondling is bad BAD!!! unless it's done for warming up reasons
im not cold, im just single..
I'm not trying to play around with your head, but if you want to, i can.
Just stop denying it and kiss me back already, silly.
Want me to warm yo up?
Anon, your body temperature is awfully low! OH NO.
Oh no, good thing she's already in bed!
I'll warm her right up.
i rlly hate you stupid slutty girls..>>10509
just come warm me up already then, im dying
I'm just slutty for you, you silly anon, just because i know how much you like it.
I'm so glad you are finally accepting your feelings for me. How do you want me to warm you up? Want me to hug you? Or maybe kiss you a bit? What would help more?
s-shut up and just give me a hug please..>>10514
pretty sure the one of the left is a boy
Yes, I fell so hard for him, he has been my first and only love, I think and day dream about him and us all the time. I even pretend I talk to him sometimes.
We both used to go to /r9k/ and that's kind of how we met.
He's really kind, intelligent, sweet, understanding, patient and pretty much perfect for me in every way.
We share the same values and opinions on lots of things, we're so compatible I don't think I'll ever find someone I'd get on well with as much as we did.
I was very depressed when we met though, due to certain events happening in my life at that time, my anxiety issues got worse, I started isolating myself, lost all my friends, changed therapists a bunch of times, and took different antidepressants for nearly a year.
In the meantime I would stop talking to him out of the blue many times (I think he got used to it eventually), tell him I wanted to break up, then wanted to be together again because I genuinely liked this guy and could still see us being together in the future once I'd get better. I had very low self esteem during that time and thought he didn't really like me and he was settling with me until he'd find someone better.
So yeah we aren't together anymore because I used to think he deserved someone better than me.
Now I'm doing way better emotionally and psychologically, and I can say I'm not depressed anymore, but it saddens me a bit that he only got to know the depressed, unstable, moody me and still liked me, now I still love him obviously but don't want to bother him anymore ;_;
I miss his voice so much.
I think I might have idealized him too much though and I have a feeling he might be different than the person he is in my head.
That would be one of the many problems about LDRs in my opinion, you never really know what they're really like if you've never met irl, you only know what they decide to let you know.
I can relate to much of your experience, anon. Is it impossible to try to connect with him again? Can you try to do that at some point in the future?
You fucked up the poor guy, he's probably posting about how women are obnoxious and insufferable now and he's settling for traps, homos and gays.
Would you really not end up getting even more fucked if some guy you really loved kept breaking up with you and then later asking you to get back together again and just repeating that over and over again and making you feel like it's somehow your fault for it all?
Okay, my darling anon, i will hug you for as long as you want, until you are all warm.
Don't be shy.
I'm not OP. She is opening her heart and saying she loved him, and you're giving her shit for it.
We met through /r9k/ 5 years ago, we were both really troubled teens and still are pretty troubled now.
But I can genuinely say we helped each other grow as people and outgrow /r9k/ and all that toxicity, he's my best friend and the only man I've ever loved, I never met someone like him and during a long period of time where we were broken up I tried my damn hardest to fill that void by looking for people who were exactly like him.
We've lived together irl for a little bit and I'm not sure if we'll end up together in the end but I can only hope so!
Only thing that happened for me when dating someone from /r9k/ for about 3 years was him constantly breaking up with me after a few months just to date someone else online before they dumped him and then he'd come back begging and saying how he fucked up and shit.
I'm really glad it's working out for you though, hopefully you'll get to love together irl as well soon enough.
Why don't you try contacting him again?
This made me smile. I hope things work out for you two!
theres too many anime girls ITT
Is that a bad thing or a good thing?
I fell in love online. We met on a small-ish imageboard around 2 and a half years ago, started talking about a project we were both interested in collaborating on, and added each other on Skype. We quickly started talking about personal things too, but it always stayed pretty distant. He was reluctant to reveal any personal information like his name or location, so there wasn't much of a feeling of closeness at the beginning and I felt wary too.
A few months later, things had changed and he was opening up to me more and we were even flirting a little at times. He'd always talk to me from work and I was looking forward to it every day. But he lives on a different continent, so I wasn't really thinking anything could happen.
Eventually, we exchanged first names after months of talking, and something changed. A few weeks later, he spontaneously confessed that he liked me, and I told him I reciprocated. From that day, we started talking about the possibility of meeting up, but since we were both painfully shy, it was difficult because we agreed that we should at least talk over webcam once. Note, at this time I hadn't seen a picture of him, and he'd seen a few selfies of me.
We kept chickening out on the webcam sessions and only managed to talk on the phone once. It was just really awkward to sit down in front of the camera. I had a picture of him by then and he wasn't my type but I really liked him. So one drunken night we just decided that we'd meet each other, webcam or not. He booked a flight and a month later he was at my airport. Before that, we had talked about what would happen if we didn't like each other in real life, because how would be we be able to tell if we were on the same page? So in the cab on the way to my apartment, he took my hand, and that was it. His personality was exactly the same as expected and we became a couple the same day. We've been together for 18 months now and he visits me as much as he can, usually about every 6-8 weeks for a few weeks at a time. I'm really happy
This one is so cute! <3 I'm glad you guys are happy.
Thanks Anon, it's hard sometimes because he doesn't really have relationship experience and we're so far apart and I can be difficult, but he always makes an effort to understand and be there for me and we've made great process so far. I really hope that one day we'll live closer together or even share a home.
Most /r9k/ dudes are trash, I feel I really lucked out here.>>10601
Thank you anon!! glad to bring a smile to your face, I love talking about him and how much I love him!
Can someone please tell me I'm cute too? Thanks
You are absolutely adorable, anon, you cutiepie.
well yeah, my current love. we used to live in the same town, he was in my hs biology class. well, he moved to florida and I still love him and all but he's depressing to talk to sometimes and we both try really hard to make it work but school takes up a lot of our time.
I dated someone for 3 months but he lost interest in me and that was okay, what killed me is how for 2 of those months I knew he'd lost interest and I was constantly trying to prompt if he still liked me and he always said yes and acted all cute.
When he finally told me he no longer saw me in a romantic way it crushed me, and he told me I was right in my suspicion that he lost interest. I got really mad at him for not telling me, I told him it's very sad he stopped loving me but I can't hold that against him, I was just mad he didn't tell me.
It was a pretty angry message and he blocked off any contact with me some time after I sent it. When we were dating, he didn't want to add me on any social media (which I saw as reasonable because it was all online), but when I searched his name the morning after I sent the message, I saw that he'd blocked me, and he deleted the chat thing we were using. It honestly broke my heart because I was just really sad that night I sent the message, and wasn't actually angry, and I cried so much knowing that this boy I loved absolutely hated me and there was no way I could ever talk to him again. I'm better now though, I've moved on. Even though I think he's an asshole for not talking things out with me and giving me the closure I wanted, I still love him a little, he was my first love.
yeap, quite a few anon. first was from Iowa, such a cutie. i was obsessed w/ him, ended up with me leaving abruptly. we still talk on snapchat though, so that's cool. second was a scalie from england. ugh. most recent was a guy who used to go to my school but moved. we were in the same biology class. did a few labs together. we said we were each other's best friend and swore we'd never leave each other. didn't quite work. he has a seizure disorder and he had a bad one and he hasn't been the same since. he decided that long distance was not for him and broke it off. i wanted him back because i loved the fag but i guess it's better that i just cut him out of my life. is irl dating the way to go?
>>13765>is irl dating the way to go?
it's easier in many ways, so yes.
sorry about what happened to you!
girl i just roasted him. i love being alive.
If you’re still there, any updates?
I liked a girl
In the weeks leading up to our last conversation she was talking to me about shotacon and kind of testing the waters about whether I was interested in it or not
Then one day she just never logged on again, at the time I thought she was vanned and the idea scared me, I was 15 so I was dumb, but looking back she was probably just embarrassed and ghosted me.
Yes, he lived in an entirely different country so it never worked because we were both way too young to actually meet up and make things work. We're still friends after quite a few years. I think that if we had actually lived close by it could have worked out well, but I'd never pursue that again.
I’m getting tired of my current e-bf. I want a new one but not sure where to start. Most guys push quickly to meet up and I’m not comfortable taking it further at this point. 4chan dudes are the only guys who are as hesitant or anxious to meet up it seems, but they’re trash in so many ways so idk.
Your best bet would probably be to go for someone who lives on another continent, and doesn't have the means to travel for the foreseen future. Hell, as a bonus, it's always interesting to interact with people from different cultures, and who speak different languages.
I love to do that, the only problem is that if you end up liking the guy, it's hard to meet him. In my opinion, it's better if you look in the same continent. For people in Europe I guess it's easier because you have a decent number of countries to chose from. In America it's a bit harder unless you like spics
boy i was really fond of disappeared two days ago. i hope hes okay. maybe he just wanted to use me.
Luckier than me.
Everything is going well, then one day I get a call>I'm stressed, my life is shit, I'm depressed, etc.
It has been 3 years since then, no news.
You mean he ghosted or has actually dropped off the face of the earth?