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how to handle hostility from crush? Anonymous 39226
>black femcel here
>randomly in the middle of the semester i start obsessing over this person
>just like everyone i come across he always broke eye contact immediately, never looked me in the face and actively avoided me
>quite literally out of nowhere he starts noticing me
>starts holding doors for me and waits for me even though I’m an awkward distance away from the door
>even one time with his foot and he acknowledged my existence he seemed to be looking at the area around my chin
>i’d always say thank you but never got a response
>he then starts acting hostile every time he saw me
>he puts his phone down, breathes in, puffs his chest out, made prolonged eye contact (head following me), then when i pass him he follows me
> he either then stood some space behind me, across from me or just smack straight in front of me
>he always stood by the exit so there was no way for me to avoid him
>I’m a loser so i took this as attraction and i gave him a valentines bag in the middle of December
>he leaves it on the ground and i came back to my senses on who i am
>he starts avoiding me again and i leave him alone
>once the semester was over i coincidentally ran into him everywhere and found out we both take the same transportation home
>my attraction towards him was still there
>since it happened months ago from that time i thought maybe i could start brand new and introduce myself
>i chickened out each time but stopped pursuing when i was talking with a classmate and i turn to look at her and he’s smack dab right behind her
>i assume he found out i like him
>rest of the month before covid he’d notice me a lot and became hostile again
>he’d see me down the hall, stop, wait on me to walk past him, make prolonged eye contact (head following) and then follow behind me
is he seriously that mad an ugly girl gave him a valentines bag? is he waiting on me down the hall expecting another one? googles telling me he's trying to pick a fight he is around 5'11 and I'm really not trying to get bodied what should i do
Anonymous 39229
god this reads like me except for the hostility part (tho I'm degenerate enough cherish any kind of reaction from a crush)
Assuming this is a college situation, since you said semester, maybe you could send an email asking why he's acting like that? Like, it'll be awkward as hell, but at least you won't be physically in front of him to get decked???
Anonymous 39231
femcel here—why do guys get offended when they find out we have feelings for them??
the only thing i can tell you is try to distance yourself from him as much as possible. do you have a friend who can walk you from class to class? he’ll have less power over you if you’re always surrounded by other friends or people. people like him are a lot more likely to prey on you the more antisocial/timid you come across as, but i get this can be hard if you’re femcel.
because wow, this dude is actual shit. if nothing works, you could always tell your professor about the situation. but honestly, a small part of me thinks it would more emotionally rewarding if you were just off-handedly blatant with him next time he tries something—i feel like men only ever do this shit because they think they can predict how much their victims will tolerate them.
do you think you would benefit from carrying around pepper spray if he ever tries to assail you after classes? anyways, good luck anon.
Anonymous 39232
>>39229i usually do my work and disassociate myself from others so i never caught his name sadly, i even tried asking around for his name but nobody knows who i'm talking about when i describe him
he is skinny, quiet and wears the same outfit everyday. we were the only loners in class and the only person in years to be nice to me, the only intimidating factor is his height. people's response when i explain this situation is he either wants to beat me up because he is insecure and thought i was playing a prank on him or he likes me back and wants to be around me
Anonymous 39233
>>39231Because you're not hot. If they found out Stacey had a crush on them it'd be a whole other story.
Anonymous 39234
>>39231>the only thing i can tell you is try to distance yourself from him as much as possible.it's just really hard because i'm super attracted to him, i'd never forgive myself if i missed the chance of finding love because my insecurities were in the way
>do you have a friend who can walk you from class to class? yes she was the girl that he was behind snooping on our conversation or whatever he was doing
>he’ll have less power over you if you’re always surrounded by other friends or people. people like him are a lot more likely to prey on you the more antisocial/timid you come across as, but i get this can be hard if you’re femcel.i do notice he wasn't as up front when i'm around people but i'm not sure what type of attention is healthy because i rarely get any
>do you think you would benefit from carrying around pepper spray if he ever tries to assail you after classes? i don't want to make an hasty decisions yet, when i gave him the valentine bag he had his head down and he could barely reach his arm out the grab it from my hand, seemed 100% harmless. i must've mortified him but i just don't get it because you stood and followed me around in the first place>>39231
Anonymous 39238
>>39234okay, reading the last part and going over the original post, it’s kind of unclear if his agenda is as overtly hostile as it seemed. is he socially awkward himself? is there reason to believe he would have the character to torment you? could just be a case of misinterpreting body language, but that’s probably hard to figure out without much insight to what he’s thinking and since you’re femcel yourself.
still kind of leaning towards just being upfront with the guy tbh, it’s possible it might make your emotional situation more vulnerable if you look too deeply into surface-level interactions. stripping away the fact that you’re femcel at all, this dude’s just acting straight up weird and socially off regardless.
Anonymous 39240
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>>39238>is he socially awkward himself?i don't know it's hard to tell, like he's quiet but seems to speak well when spoken to, there's a slim possibility. I've seen him sitting by himself at a table with his body pointed towards me just staring at my face. but i couldn't distinguish if it's "please sit with me!" or "fuck off weirdo!" since it was with a blank facial expression. didn't help i stared back with a blank facial expression and walked away either
>is there reason to believe he would have the character to torment you?honestly no. i'm not good with facial expressions so whenever i gawked at him it'd be deadpan with maybe my eyes getting bigger because he's so pretty. that's how our first interaction went and after that for a while he just avoided me, he never trailed me down back then
>could just be a case of misinterpreting body languagei've been reading articles on body language and attraction and the whole waiting for me to get close, following me, making your chest bigger, heavy breathing, and intense eye contact etc means he supposedly likes me, but could also quite literally mean he fucking hates my guts
>still kind of leaning towards just being upfront with the guy tbhif it still continues this fall i'll give him a smile and hope he talks to me
>this dude’s just acting straight up weird and socially off regardless.ok im glad it's not just me because if he was shy he wouldn't be pinpointing me down the hall and trailing behind me. what does he even get from that? where is he even looking? he seems smart so maybe he knows i like him and isn't afraid of doing anything because i won't reject him ugh idk
Anonymous 39252
>>39231Most people, men and women, are flattered when anyone is interested in them. Some are so far gone and self absorbed that they aren't.
Anonymous 39253
>>39252You don't get a lot of attention
Anonymous 39254
>>39240Does he maybe have a resting face that is hostile-looking? This could be the cause for a lot of misinterpretation. Also, if he is puffing his chest and staring at you, it probably means he is anxious. This could either be because he likes you, or he doesn't like you and doesn't want to be associated with you to everyone else. Almost no guy is going to square up to fight a girl smaller/weaker than them in the middle of uni.
All the other things you've detailed, such as staring at you, trailing behind you, point towards anxiety over liking you, or anxiety over not liking you, and being worried that you will pursue him anyways. The best way to resolve this is to figure out once and for all if he is interested in you, and if he isn't, make it clear that it's okay and you will stop pursuing his affections.
Anonymous 39255
>>39254Also, to be more clear, did you hand him the valentines gift in front of other people, or were you isolated/other people were not paying attention?
Anonymous 39258
>>39226Nah hes probs a tsundere, bet ya he says 'baka' or someother chinese cartoon moon sounds :)
Anonymous 39259
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>>39254>Does he maybe have a resting face that is hostile-looking?nope it's just a neutral expression, after the semester he just stared and stood with his head following with occasional heavy breathing behind me. way before i gave him a valentines bag he always just did that with me in class
>Also, if he is puffing his chest and staring at you, it probably means he is anxious.oh shoot, but it's not like i'm the one trailing him down he's the one putting himself around me i'd be a good 15 seconds down the hallway wouldn't an anxious person in that situation just take off?
>This could either be because he likes you, or he doesn't like you and doesn't want to be associated with you to everyone else@*^## this makes me head go brrrr because he's the one that's been putting himself around me in public and trailing behind me when im alone and with people which to an outsider looks like hes walking with us
>and being worried that you will pursue him anywayssometimes in my dreams i'd like to think he's waiting on me like that so i do pursue him but that makes more sense
>The best way to resolve this is to figure out once and for all if he is interested in you, and if he isn't, make it clear that it's okay and you will stop pursuing his affections.i don't think theres any way i can confront him, the only thing i can probably pull off is when he is trailing me i'll just stop walking and stare at him and follow him with my head and see how he likes it
Anonymous 39260
>>39255it was the same amount of people and they never payed attention to us since we were the only loners. i'm just confused as to why he was comfy with doing all of that with said people but couldn't take a gift. one thing i could note was that day in general he seemed off and didn't trail me that day when i was passing. when i gave him the bag he was looking down on his phone playing with his hair, which is probably the only reason i could muster up the courage to do that because if he was acting like he was normally puffing up, eyeing and following me it would've never happened.
Anonymous 39262
>>39260>when i gave him the bag he was looking down on his phone playing with his hairJust freaking kiss him already.
Anonymous 39269
just flat out ask him if he likes you, if he says no just shrug and pretend it doesn't hurt
he's sending you some really weird signals anon but i think its worth asking so you know and can have no regrets
Anonymous 39270
>>39266Moments like that are the best to approach. You really just need to gather some courage and make a move. Being vague like this only leaves so much for him to assume. It may seem like I'm overcomplicating this, but it can be just that bad. You should really just say something. Anything.
Anonymous 39273
>>39269oh gosh i could never do that
Anonymous 39274
>>39270i'm not normal so there's no way i could talk to him sadly
Anonymous 39275
>>39274Doesn't matter. Talk to boy. Come on, you're killing me with this. Please just speak to him. Anything.
Anonymous 39277
>>39275i won't see him until around august 17th if covid doesn't beat our ass again if he still acts weird around me i'll try smiling but thats so hard for me
Anonymous 39279
>>39277>smilingTALK anon
Just say hi.
Anonymous 39285
>>39279i'm sorry it's just more difficult for me
Anonymous 39287
>>39285Just hi. That's all you need to say. Please just do it.
Anonymous 39290
>>39273just do it and act apathetic if he says no at least then you'll know, even a simple "hi" will help you
Anonymous 39297
>>39287i'm sorry it's just impossible for me i'm not normal
Anonymous 39299
>>39297Doesn't matter. I'm not normal, either, and I can squeak out a "hi" to strangers. Please just take the chance anon.
Anonymous 39300
>>39299i wish i was you but i'm not you i'm just gross me, everything about me is bottom of the barrel and i can't do anything right. theres also the huge chance i'll get beat up
Anonymous 39301
>>39300You're not talking to a model, anon.
Anonymous 39302
>>39300You're black… if they try to throw hands, just ice they honkey asses
Anonymous 39304
>>39301i know but quite literally anything is better than me
Anonymous 39305
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>>39302i'm not categorized into the whole black girl magic, don't take no shit baddie sadly. i do intimidate anybody with my horrid face but i guess not with him
Anonymous 39311
>>39304I can say the same for myself. You're the only one holding yourself back.
Anonymous 39313
>>39311im black, ugly, short, big huge eyes, nose too small for my face and huge lips
Anonymous 39314
>>39313Yes. Welcome to the freakshow. Still not too late to wave hello to anyone from beyond the viewing glass.
Anonymous 39317
>>39314This. Unless you want what's going on to be the state affairs forever, you gotta say hi. Preferably when there's other people around. Sure, you say you're ugly, but the guy would have to be insane to publicly attack a black girl just for saying hi in this political climate. If you're in the US, at least
Anonymous 39318
>>39313Well, you didn't say you're fat, which already puts you far ahead of 80% of black women. You also didn't mention any acne. You got that going for you, and some guys like unconventionally attractive faces.
Anonymous 39319
>>39313also guys love huge eyes. It's a sign of high estrogen and fertility
Anonymous 39321
>>39318>you didn't say you're fatall the women in my family are very fit not sure if thats a genetic thing or just our diets. the only thing i uphold to the black stereotypes is the body curve thing but as far as i know he never looks at my body so i just assumed my body is shit as well
>You also didn't mention any acnenope just hyperpigmentation and a few bumps
>and some guys like unconventionally attractive faces.my face doesn't fit into African beauty standards i feel, my eyes are too large, i have a upturned nose like a pig ,my lips are fucking huge and i'm too dark if black guys literally fucking growl at me then i have no hope with him
Anonymous 39323
>>39317>you gotta say hihnnnng oh gosh
>but the guy would have to be insane to publicly attack a black girl just for saying hi in this political climatethisss,i feel like if he doesn't support blm and is racist and i just go up to him he might do something out of spite. i'm used to racist encounters at this point but from him would really hurt
Anonymous 39324
>>39319didn't know that but i don't think it applies to me tho, im near-sighted so i just walk around looking crazy as hell because i dont have glasses
Anonymous 39338
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>>39321So kind of like this? I think your social anxiety is the thing holding you back, by far. Even if this guy doesn't like you, you will eventually find someone who does. Don't take everything the media tells you to heart. Black girls can be cute wife material.
Anonymous 39348
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>>39226If Tessa Thompson can be seen by men as attractive, so can you.
(if you disregard the fact that she bleached her skin)
Anonymous 39359
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Honestly if this guy laid a hand on your for the crime of saying hello then trust me when I say he'll get beaten to shit love
There's no way a white guy can get away with something like that in this current climate like the above anon mentioned
And if you aren't fat or have acne then there's a very good chance you have a decent shot and are letting your insecurity get the best of you
Please don't be so hard on yourself, this guy just might be genuinely autistic
Anonymous 39361
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>>39338>So kind of like this?theres no way you tried comparing me to Lupita Nyong'o, the prettiest black girl out there this is suicide fuel. pic is hopefully anon enough and shows I'm too autistic to dress my age and could never pull off blatant elegance like her
>Even if this guy doesn't like you, you will eventually find someone who does. Don't take everything the media tells you to hearti've been a shut in my entire life so the media is all i can rely on which tells me black girls are the least preferred by anyone, my curly hair looks like pubes, i look and act like a gorilla, i smell like coconut and shit, i have the IQ of a rock, i gotta have light skin and eyes, shake my ass, be drenched in body oil, i'm hostile, i look like a man, i'll have 25 mini Tyrones and be on welfare, and if i'm not mixed and exotic enough i might as well go kick rocks off a cliff.
>Black girls can be cute wife material.absolute joke that one was
Anonymous 39363
>>39348even if she was as dark as me, her features and style are top tier. + i don't want to appeal to men i just want to appeal to just him, if that makes sense
Anonymous 39366
>>39359>he'll get beaten to shit lovenobody would come to my rescue people hit me all the time and always get away with it
>There's no way a white guy can get away with something like that in this current climate like the above anon mentionedi'm still not convinced anybody would would care if he bodied me besides maybe a doctor with the whole covid social distancing situation
>And if you aren't fat or have acne then there's a very good chance you have a decent shot and are letting your insecurity get the best of youi could have the damn golden ticket from willy wonkas factory and i still wouldn't mean anything to anyone let alone being black knocks me down the totem drastically
>Please don't be so hard on yourself, this guy just might be genuinely autistici don't know, he acts normal with everyone but me i wish he treated me normal as well
Anonymous 39367
>>39361My friend is into black woman, I showed him your pic for second. He said you look good. Also I think your hands are cute. IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD YOU DUMMY YOU ARE PRETTY.
Anonymous 39369
>>39361is that you? you’re cute anon, stop worrying.
Anonymous 39370
>>39366
>nobody would come to my rescue people hit me all the time and always get away with it ngl, this sounds like you might be exaggerating to get out of saying hi. But even if it's true, definitely only say it when there's other people around for your own safety.
>>39361fwiw, I'm bi and you look cute to me. This sounds drastic (and you don't have to do it), but I'd honestly recommend ditching the perm and go all natural. I don't usually fuck around with makeup and beauty shit and I mostly cut my hair shorter so I get away with spending even less time on my appearance, BUT looking at hours of vids featuring black women with 4c-range hair (since I knew shit about fuck when taking care of my hair) had the unintended side-effect of healing the psyche.
Like, I definitely feel you on the whole "feeling least preferred by anyone" thing. Idk if the other anons just have an easier time brushing it off because it doesn't apply to them, but I feel like I come across shit that confirms those feelings without even seeking it out 99% and it's definitely worsened just by virtue of frequenting *chans and other related spaces on the web.
idk if going the natural hair route like I did would 100% work for you, but I think seeking out some kind beauty-related thing that can hold your interest and
only watching/reading black women talk about and give advice on the subject would work wonders for self esteem
Anonymous 39371
>>39361>picOh, anon, you're definitely qt.
Are you bi?Would you a Native American gf?But back to seriousness, he may just be a bit awkward if he's a loner like you said and so he doesn't know how to act around the situation.
I agree with other anons that you should just say something; perhaps mention the last class you guys shared and ask how he's been doing. I'm a massive sperg and have done it many times, so I believe in you. I also agree with
>>39254 that it's unlikely he'll fight a woman at uni.
Better to have a clear rejection than to be tortured by being unsure.
Anonymous 39372
>>39367>My friend is into black woman, I showed him your pic for second. He said you look good.hnnng i think it's obvious i'm too insecure to believe this
Anonymous 39373
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>>39370Same anon! Just wanted to give youtuber rec in case you're interested. My favorite is Starpuppy, love her personality and the way she talks about dealing with her self-image issues really resonates with me
Anonymous 39374
>>39369>is that you? you’re cute anon, stop worrying.yes it's me, i promise it's just lucky lighting and half my face being covered that i look decent though
Anonymous 39377
>>39370>ngl, this sounds like you might be exaggerating to get out of saying hi.srry that came out weird i didn't mean people whack me in my head on a daily basis i meant more like when people do hit me nothing happens. everybody just kekeke's then heads to class
>definitely only say it when there's other people around for your own safety. well what i'm about to say is probably gonna contradict what i literally just said but i can't, it's a bit difficult for me
>but I'd honestly recommend ditching the perm and go all naturali don't perm my hair i just straighten it, i'm not sure what my exact hair type is but my hair isn't that kinky, plus i'd look goofy as hell natural hnnng
>Idk if the other anons just have an easier time brushing it off because it doesn't apply to them, but I feel like I come across shit that confirms those feelings without even seeking it out 99% and it's definitely worsened just by virtue of frequenting *chans and other related spaces on the web100% i feel u there, I wasn't trying to project myself onto the millions of black girls in the world by saying we're the least desirable, because many black girls do just as fine as anybody else. i don't expect anyone to like me, if people want to be racist that's their views. i just wish there was a lil decency i guess, i'm afraid to join any online communities after that one black girl went viral just for cosplaying. when i do go in public i get smacked in the face hard with this shit in real life also, i don't want to project my feelings of one group of people to another again but damn that shit hurts
>but I think seeking out some kind beauty-related thing that can hold your interest and only watching/reading black women talk about and give advice on the subject would work wonders for self esteemthat sounds really nice but with how my brain looks i'd probably get upset with how much prettier they are
Anonymous 39379
>>39371>Would you a Native American gf?only if you teach me how to make Algonquin nut soup which i totally didn't just google
>perhaps mention the last class you guys shared and ask how he's been doing. I'm a massive sperg and have done it many times, so I believe in you.oh gosh my stomach literally dropped just thinking about it idk what would happen if i tried
>Better to have a clear rejection than to be tortured by being unsure.yeah i somewhat get that, i just don't see why he wouldn't talk to me but just follow around behind me
Anonymous 39386
>>39361Yeah, knew it. You are actually cute and just underrating yourself because of racial stereotypes. Just stay strong anon, by merely existing and contradicting those stereotypes, you will make things better for the people who are born after you. Also, aside from this one crush of yours, I would recommend you start by talking to more women in real life, then move on to talking to men platonically. Over time, you will become more confident with people in general.
Anonymous 39422
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>>39386>by merely existing and contradicting those stereotypes, you will make things better for the people who are born after you i've always been a shut in and stereotypes has to come from somewhere, nobody wants to be friends with me so some if not all of them has to be truthful
>Also, aside from this one crush of yours, I would recommend you start by talking to more women in real life, then move on to talking to men platonically. Over time, you will become more confident with people in general.nobody wants to fucking talk to me
Anonymous 39435
>>39361I'm only speaking as a bystander so feel free to think I'm full of shit but I've found a lot of that prejudice disappears immediately when people get past surface level assumptions and realize the black person doesn't act like the 'ghetto' stereotype they imagine.
Anonymous 39438
>>39422I really don't mean to be a cunt here, but shit like using 'has' and 'have' wrong is going to sink you, I know certain ingrained grammatical errors like that can be a hard thing to shake but you have to.
Anonymous 39440
>>39435>I'm only speaking as a bystander so feel free to think I'm full of shit everyone's criticism and advice is 100% welcome, hence why i made this thread hnng
>I've found a lot of that prejudice disappears immediately when people get past surface level assumptionsthat makes sense but wouldn't they switch it up on me? since i don't fit the popular mold of what a black person should behave as, i'll get thrown to the side immediately
>and realize the black person doesn't act like the 'ghetto' stereotype they imaginei'm from the suburbs
Anonymous 39443
>>39440>since i don't fit the popular mold of what a black person should behave asDo you mean they would think of you as uppity? I'm sure there's rightoids out there that might hold that complex but I think most people at worst would think of you as 'one of the good ones'. In other words I don't think anything negative would come of you not living up to your stereotype.
Anonymous 39445
>>39438>but shit like using 'has' and 'have' wrong is going to sink youdoesn't don't everybodies make grammatical errors sometime dwag? i didn't know the "despite only making up 13% of the population" mfs were gonna lynch me if i'm caught lacking in these streets
>I know certain ingrained grammatical errors like that can be a hard thing to shake but you have to.I'm guessing ur talking about aave, I'm bilingual and can speak dialects in both languages, it was just a whoopsies i guess. I'm also very fucking stupid so maybe i can download grammarly
Anonymous 39446
>>39443>Do you mean they would think of you as uppity? idk how ppl work let alone know what they're thinking, online when i see a black person that has [or is it have, shit] hobbies outside of that mold they get flamed and belittled for it by racists or other black people
>but I think most people at worst would think of you as 'one of the good ones'.even if my blackness doesn't give them a bad opinion everything else will, i am ugly and never go outside
>In other words I don't think anything negative would come of you not living up to your stereotype.so far i just get bullied but i haven't died yet so perhaps ur right
Anonymous 39447
>>39438It could just be a typo instead of an ingrained part of her speech
Anonymous 39448
>lonely black girl says she's lonely because she's ugly and black
>she's gorgeous and men hold doors open just for her
>lonely femdom girl says she's lonely because she's femdom
>she's a full lesbian with no real attraction to men and it's obvious to everyone but her
>lonely tall girl says she's lonely because she's tall
>she's 5 foot 8 (or equivalent depending on nationality)
>lonely BPD girl says she's lonely because she's BPD
>she's actually correct
Just ONCE I would like to see a romantic loneliness case that wasn't a result of being a headcase.
I don't have room to talk, being in the headcase category myself, but it's dispiriting somehow.
Anonymous 39450
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hnnng this is the second time somebody posts a literally model
>You're trolling, right?
i'm not, her eyes are small and pretty, her facial structure is top tier, her lips aren't huge, and she's fucking gorgeous wheres the rope
>Those are things humans find cute and adorable. Like little babies
yeah if you're an attractive east african ppl do backflips and tap dance over then hell yeah shes a cute and adorable baby. i'm sorry i sound so bitter, I probably should've just said my features don't fit me because i'm black or something like that
Anonymous 39451
>>39446Look, I can't speak for your appearance, but on the off chance you're exaggerating the extent of your ugliness there's definitely a niche you could fill. Have you never seen the memes of incels committing suicide because they can't get a black femcel qt3.14? Those didn't come from nowhere either.
Anonymous 39452
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>>39448i'm srry i didn't mean to come off a certain way
>lonely black girl says she's lonely because she's ugly and blacki'm lonely because i'm shut in and nobody is present in my life, but the ugly and black part is just the sprinkles on the cake
>she's gorgeous and men hold doors open just for hertry turning ur brightness up, I'm hit in the face. also other anons are saying he's autistic, which kinda makes sense.why hold the door like that for an ugly person when it wouldn't benefit you at all. plus if i was anything above semi-average he would've took my gift. too scared to do anything cause i might get slapped up
Anonymous 39453
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>>39451>Have you never seen the memes of incels committing suicide because they can't get a black femcel qt3.14? what the mullato one with the pikachu onesie on? i still wouldn't fit that bottom of the dump niche. not really sure if he's an incel but my chances are supper slim regardless
>Those didn't come from nowhere either.jokes aside i think they're memes for a reason, nobody would unironically date someone like me
Anonymous 39456
>>39422>no one wants to talk to meYou should go on the discord and start talking to other miners as practice to get more comfortable with other people. I hope that you gain some confidence. People will appreciate that you don't fit the black woman stereotype if they get to meet you. And remember that even though people like that black cosplayer girl get a lot of hate, they get a lot of respect and adoration as well.
Anonymous 39458
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>>39456>You should go on the discord and start talking to other miners as practice to get more comfortable with other peoplediscord is community based i think, I don't have any hobbies i just sit in the dark all day everyday
>I hope that you gain some confidenceI don't think my lack of confidence is the problem, I'm just ugly black and weird. there isn't anything wrong with that i'm still a human being, i just have nothing to be confident about
>People will appreciate that you don't fit the black woman stereotype if they get to meet you.you lost me there, theres nothing wrong with being a stereotypical black kween
>And remember that even though people like that black cosplayer girl get a lot of hate, they get a lot of respect and adoration as well.get's hate just because she's black and posted a photo of herself in an cartoons outfit if that's all it takes hand me the damn rope. there's no way i can talk to him
Anonymous 39462
>>39456there’s a discord? I thought the mods closed the server
Anonymous 39463
>>39462Did they? I wasn't completely sure, myself.
Anonymous 39464
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>>39463I wish there was a Discord here for girl frens even though r9k users and inkwells would try to ruin it. I’m trying make online friends, but I’m too shy to use my real voice
Anonymous 39475
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>>39464Not an official discord, but a miner posted one in /b/>>55957 I'm sure she would be happy if you joined!
Anonymous 39547
>>39458She means the server for crystal.cafe. You don't need to have any hobbies to join.
Anonymous 39598
>>39547>She means the server for crystal.cafeyeah after i read their replies it hit me, i don't think it exists anymore though
Anonymous 40036
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>>39240jesus fucking christ just ask him
A) you either find out he is an autist like you
B) you find out he just shitting you
anyway it will be a better situation afterwords than that you are now in…
Anonymous 40456
>>40036>jesus fucking christ just ask himidk if he'll even remember, he did remember me after Winter break but granted it was like idk a couple weeks long, last time i saw him was months ago there's a chance he doesn't even remember me, I just remember everything in detail because I'm an obsessional loser. I can go back in sept but with covid idk if it's appropriate to talk to him even if i don't chicken out
>A) you either find out he is an autist like youi'm not clinically diagnosed with autism or anything
>B) you find out he just shitting you i'm an ugly black femcel basically the 3 unforgivable sins from the bible anon ppl don't treat random ugly ppl with respect i'll get dogged on for even assuming there was an attraction
>anyway it will be a better situation afterwords than that you are now in…if it continues i'll wave i can't talk to ppl like that i wish he would talk to me for now ill continue making picrew look-alikes of him and watching bf asmr
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>>40039i'm not on suicide watch u don't have to lie
Anonymous 40459
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>>40036ok so since i made this thread a while back i just googled the exact bag i gave him and now that i'm thinking about it I look like a fucking psychopath.. I kinda folded it because i didn't want other ppl to see it. when i handed it to him i walked away immediately but i'm gonna take a guess he actually moved it around a little and when he saw the bright red BE MINE he got freaked out and left it on the ground because it was mid dec. and there would be no logical reason for that. maybe thats why he was trailing me down so he can make sure i wont sneak up behind him and slit his throat im def on suicide watch now
Anonymous 40460
>>39361>flattering hairstyle>wide eyes>nicely shaped eyebrows>dainty hands>cute phonecase>shirt compliments your skintone, also looks flattering with your hairclipsanon…….ur a cutie
>>40459at this point i think nothing good is coming from you analyzing the situation; u should avoid/try to forget him and move on with your life
Anonymous 40487
>>39361It's quite difficult to gauge your actual appearance from this photo. Personally, I'm not a fan of your haircut, it makes you look childish and not in an attractive way. I think natural hair would make you look more attractive to people in general.
It's worth noting many guys aren't into dating a person with the weeby or egirl look, even if they fap to said people who sport those looks.
This is probably really harsh compared to everyone here, but I don't care, I think it needs to be said. I'm a lolcow frequenter, though.
Anonymous 40491
>>40487Nah, her hair is fine either way, and the most important features (eyes, nose, head shape), are all feminine and fine as far as I can tell
Anonymous 40494
>>40491There isn't really enough detail from the photo to judge either way, anyone that opined at length in the thread about her appearance in the thread is just pretending to know more than they actually do, you see it all the time on image boards
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>>40487>It's quite difficult to gauge your actual appearance from this photoik that's why i posted it it's anon enough to show my features because ppl were taking what i said i look like and were posting models. I didn't post for ratings idk if u read the thread
>Personally, I'm not a fan of your haircut, it makes you look childish and not in an attractive way.I'm not sure if you're telling me to not straighten my hair but it's just more manageable it's not for looks
>I think natural hair would make you look more attractive to people in general.I could've posted a photo with me in an afro and ppl would still have a problem with it saying it's wild or messy or something. I don't want to cater to people it's just manageable
>It's worth noting many guys aren't into dating a personI don't like guys, I like him
>with the weeby or egirl lookI'm guessing by weeby and egirl you mean it's weird for a black girl to try the cute look. I guess the hair clips and pink is a problem. I don't dress like that in public I sometimes try stuff out in the house because i'm in that mf everyday besides class. I normally wear grey with no accessories
>fapliterally what
>I'm a lolcow frequenter, though.yup
>This is probably really harsh compared to everyone here, but I don't care, I think it needs to be saidno this actually made me feel better now i know I'm not as weird as i think
Anonymous 40505
>>40460anon im ugly plz dont rate me trying to help me feel better
>at this point i think nothing good is coming from you analyzing the situationur right it's just all I'm good at
>u should avoid/try to forget him and move on with your lifehe's all i think about it's impossible plus there isn't much of a life to go back to thinking about him makes me feel better
Anonymous 40506
>>39361I think I've seen you on /soc/.
Anonymous 40507
>>40506>I think I've seen you on /soc/.my exact photo? like making fun of me? I don't post or use 4chan
Anonymous 40516
>>40507Honestly if you're browsing here, I highly doubt you don't also use 4chan. But maybe it was some other Black woman into j-fash slightly who posted herself wasn't the exact same photo though.
Anonymous 40517
>>40505Does talking about him make you feel better? Hmm.. what are some of the things you like to do? It's hard to think about doing anything else when there's thoughts constantly nagging about someone we really like, but how hard are you distracting yourself?
Also, the bag was a mistake but lesson learned.
Anonymous 40518
>>40516/soc/ is a place where a ton of alt girls have posted over the years though. They had a black girl gen years back, I can't imagine it was because there were only a couple there. Jpop/kpop fashions are in right now, so it's hard to gauge on trends in pictures. OP could be lying, but what would the gain be in denying she goes there?
Anonymous 40522
>>40516>Honestly if you're browsing here, I highly doubt you don't also use 4chanI got this image board from a femcel reddit group and she sent the link I've heard and seen 4chan but I never post or use it, I mostly use twitter
>But maybe it was some other Black woman into j-fash slightly who posted herself wasn't the exact same photo though.idk what j fash is unless ur talking about cosplaying I'm just wearing hair clips and a pink t-shirt which i never wear in public
Anonymous 40524
>>40517>Does talking about him make you feel better?yes
>Hmm.. what are some of the things you like to doi don't have any hobbies
>It's hard to think about doing anything else when there's thoughts constantly nagging about someone we really like, but how hard are you distracting yourself?I sometimes listen to music but somehow my brain always connects it to him
>Also, the bag was a mistake but lesson learned.yes i came off too aggressive
Anonymous 40526
>>40518>/soc/ is a place where a ton of alt girls have posted over the years thoughI'm not alt what is going on
>OP could be lying, but what would the gain be in denying she goes there?i have never posted on 4chan before thats a cesspool
Anonymous 40528
>>40524Well, what about him is so great that you've got a mental pedestal?
There's not things you've been interested in learning to do?
>>40526Alt girls, girls being interested in fashion outside of the norm. The other anon mentioned jfash, and I was talking in hypotheticals regarding your posting there (if you did, and you don't so now that's clarified) and was trying to make the point to her that there are lots of black women that post there, that it might not be you.
Anonymous 40530
>>40528>Well, what about him is so great that you've got a mental pedestal?he held doors for me and followed me around I'm not sure if that's good attention or not but I am always ignored so It had me hooked
>There's not things you've been interested in learning to do?I learned a language but I've been doing it since I was 11 so 'm nearly fluent and lost the joy of it
>Alt girls, girls being interested in fashion outside of the norm.yeah I was confused because all i was wearing was a pink shirt and hair clips which is very in the norm
>(if you did, and you don't so now that's clarified)I would never post on 4chan let alone my face holy shit. I was getting scared because I thought anon was saying someone reposted my photo on there
>and was trying to make the point to her that there are lots of black women that post there, that it might not be youi have no idea but i doubt they actually looked like me
Anonymous 40532
>>40530>he held doors for me and followed me around I'm not sure if that's good attention or not but I am always ignored so It had me hookedWas it ever obvious why he was following you?
Holding the door should be something everyone does for everyone.
I don't think he's upset about the bag though. He sounds like he might possibly have aggression issues. Men that give off the impression that you're inconveniencing them in some major way by existing is shitty, and you don't deserve that.
>I learned a language but I've been doing it since I was 11 so 'm nearly fluent and lost the joy of itYou don't watch anime, read, craft or watch series/movies?
Maybe you could try finding co-ed friend groups online that are learning/fluent in the language. Since you're mostly fluent, you would already have a head up over beginners and intermediates, and could possibly help (if you wanted to). Maybe even challenge yourself a little and learn how to do a particular task only using instructions in that language.
Anonymous 40536
>>40532>Was it ever obvious why he was following you?no he followed me way before i gave him the valentines bag I assumed maybe a miracle happened and maybe he liked me
>Holding the door should be something everyone does for everyoneyeah of course but sometimes he'd open it from behind so i thought maybe it was intentional
>He sounds like he might possibly have aggression issues. Men that give off the impression that you're inconveniencing them in some major way by existing is shitty, and you don't deserve that. idk how to explain it he doesn't look mad he seems timid it's just his body language isn't timid so it confuses me
>You don't watch anime, read, craft or watch series/movies?no
>Maybe you could try finding co-ed friend groups online that are learning/fluent in the language. Since you're mostly fluent, you would already have a head up over beginners and intermediates, and could possibly help (if you wanted to). Maybe even challenge yourself a little and learn how to do a particular task only using instructions in that language.I have done that before on a korean discord server but I never got any happiness from that just an headache
