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Anonymous 39624

What's it like being an attractive girl? I feel life would be completely different for me if i was at least a 4/10

Anonymous 39628

Attractive girls fart just like ugly girls. Taco Bell and all that…

Anonymous 39629

>>39624
If that's you, you are probably at least a 5/10. Weird expression in the photo

Anonymous 39633

>>39629
Reverse search says no. Also she's way higher than that. I'd say a seven.

Anonymous 39634

>>39629
she's at least an 8/10 lol you seem to be coping

her facial bone structure is that of a Stacey and she's petite, has blue eyes and pale skin. I'd die to look like her

Anonymous 39637

>>39628
they have everything handed to them basically, a girl I know got a promotion at a company after only being there for 2 months. She said she didn't deserve it and that everyone has been hitting on her since she first got hired

Anonymous 39639

>>39629
that's marky lol

Anonymous 39641

>>39624
pic related is between 6 and 7 at least…

by th way, to answer the question: Losts of harasment, popularity among men, resent among ugly men, envy among many women, its easier to have friends and be extrovert since many people will try to spend time with you(for sex or at least popularity. you can expect to grow at least as a non socially retarded/weird person). Lots of men are gonna give you stuff for free like drinks or free favors. Actually wealthy or/and atractive man will try to marry you, so working/studing is just an option. This is neither hell nor heaven, that will depend on your personality and your values.

Anonymous 39645

>>39634
Yeah if we're going by natural born potential, she is much much higher.

Anonymous 39646

fuck marky and her toxic behavior

Anonymous 39649

You're not covered in tattoos and seem to be in a good state of fitness, don't be down about yourself just because there's prettier people than you out there.

Anonymous 39650

>>39649
The OP pic is some 4chan egirl. Not OP

Anonymous 39651

Your life still would have much potential to be empty and miserable. The girl in your pic is known to be a slut who will never know love. She is shamed even by her own family for her disgusting life choices.

Anonymous 39656

>>39624
Marky is so cute, I wish I had her face.

Anonymous 39688

>everyone thinking this average girl is pretty
lol at least be honest, she looks boring and kind of ugly to me.

Anonymous 39690

>>39688
Maybe your standards are just too high.

Anonymous 39698

Anyone posting on this thread claiming to be an attractive girl should post their face unironically. I know far too many girls irl who claim to be Stacy level attractiveness but are realistically just 5-6/10 in an environment with less women to begin with. Naturally they get a disproportionate amount of male attention but this doesn’t make them “hot”

Anonymous 39699

>>39698
>please unironically post your faces on a feminist spinoff of a laotian hot pepper growing forum, fellow females

Anonymous 39700

>>39698
No one here has claimed to be hot though.

Anonymous 39702

>>39698
You really like dragging people down. Don't you?

Anonymous 39703

>>39698
What if I post my face ironically?

Anonymous 39715

>>39703
Nobody can really stop you.

Anonymous 39719

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I relate OP.

Apologies for the normie image, but I seethe when I see pics like this

Anonymous 39721

>>39719
>doesn't eat ass
Why would a girl even like that? That image sounds like a moid post.

Anonymous 39726

>>39702
No, I post on obscure image boards for femcels because I’m happy with my life. Wbu?

Anonymous 39731

>>39719
>5'6
>no car
>personal trainer
>online coach
>skips leg day
>doesn't eat ass
i would rather be ugly than being a Stacy who gets so spoiled by scrot attention to the point of thinking like that

Anonymous 39735

>>39698

How is the OP pic girl anywhere near Stacy levels? I talk to actual Stacies from cc so I know there are more attractive girls posting here.

Anonymous 39736

>>39726
Happy dragging others down?

Anonymous 39737

>>39624

Being totally honest with you OP, you are pretty and you have the capacity of becoming even more attractive. Idk where you are from but at least here in latin america you would be actually considered a beautiful girl

Anonymous 39738

>>39737

assuming that's you in the pic ofc

Anonymous 39739

Pic related is cute but has a bit of noticeable chub on her stomach, combine this with her small breasts and weird facial expression, I definitely wouldn't call her a Stacy

Anonymous 39741

>>39738
It's not her. Op pic is a known 4chan e-girl that posted nudes and got sexually involved as an underage with a YouTube comedian.

Anonymous 39753

Honestly? Alright, I'm 8-9/10. I had crippling social anxiety when I was a teenager because my parents were abusive, so I never turned into a 'Stacy'. (I fixed my issues now and you can't even tell.) Besides that, I'm extremely introverted, but can be entertaining and charismatic with people. It's a skill you can learn.

A lot of guys get intimidated by me. When we meet for a first date, 50% of guys panic and look visibly afraid of me, they drop spaghetti and act weird. I'm patient with it because I used to be a sperg, but it's annoying and uncomfortable to deal with a guy losing his shit because you're 'out of his league'. Then there are guys who fall in love with me on the first date, which is uncomfortable if I don't feel the same for them, which I almost never do. It's not really flattering since most of the guys just like me for my looks. Some get really, really hostile if I try to turn them down. Guys will blow my phone up with texts for months after the fact, even with just one date that went poorly. they'll try absolutely anything to 'get me to stay with them.' or to 'give them a second chance.' Guys also stop me on the street. I've had a bank teller try to get my number, for example. Guys, especially middle aged guys, stop and compliment me while I'm out walking or at a store or something. I've even had guys I was dating for several months just randomly get flustered when they look at me and restate something like, "wow, you're really pretty." On the other hand, I've had strangers try to harass me, get me into their car, or even follow me home before. Basically, think of it as a visibility problem. when i am outside it's like i can grab everyone's attention, and much of that attention is going to be bad attention. total creeps just perving on me and checking me out. often when i go out (like for groceries or something) i dress like a hobo intentionally to avoid that attention as much as possible. baggy shabby sweatpants and an oversized jacket with the hood up, maybe a hat. i walk like i know where i'm going and have someplace to be, and try to give off hostile vibes, because i learned that keeps a lot of the problems at bay. if you look too nice and leisurely people try to chat you up and they often dont have good intentions with it.

women my age are really mean and catty with me. I've never been able to have female friends (except one girl but she was bi, and tbh probably was hitting on me). and it's hard to have male friends because they all want to have sex with me, which gives them feels and makes things complicated. i intentionally act boyish and extra platonic with male friends but a lot of them just can't deal with it. godbless, though, some guys can.

So it's a mixed bag. I can get any guy I want, but on the other hand, I'm just at high risk of everything–being stalked, murderraped, etc. when i walk down the street guys just LOOK at me, the whole head turn and everything. I get a lot of attention all the time, but it's not always a good kind of attention. anyway I don't care if you believe me or not, I have no reason to come on the internet and lie. i'm not gonna lie and say 'oh woe is me' but it's not all rainbows and sunshine. i've been turned down for jobs because the interviewer was jealous of my looks even when i go in, show up clean and professional, ace the interview with everyone else, and then the final boss is a dumpy HR woman who gets visibly asspained when she sees me.

Anonymous 39758

>>39753
This is some serious larping

Anonymous 39759

>>39758
What makes you think she's larping?

Anonymous 39760

>>39753
I don't know what my range is, but I have to say, it's always confusing to me when self-proclaimed stacies talk about dates because why would they even need to go on them? You have the pick of the whoever. You can dump whoever you want when they treat you in a way you dislike. I've never gone on dates because I figure it will be an absolute waste of time. I get to pick who I want.

However, I agree with the notion that men are always willing to commit to you, in all 3 of my long-term relationships, the guys in them wanted to marry me early on in the relationship as well. I've gotten stalkers as it is, I'd not want to complicate that by dating. I get the ridiculous stranger trying to get phone number dealie (gas stations, walking across campus, etcetera), the creepy drive-by flirts (it's even weirder when you are driving, too - what the fuck do they expect is going to happen). When I used to walk to places from my house, men who I'd never met would try to walk me home. Dressing in sweatpants and hoodies still gets attention and catcalls. I'm fiercely monogamous, so all this makes me feel like shit. I hate it, however I like letting people know I'm declining them because I wouldn't do so even if I weren't in a relationship (I hate having to "hide" behind being in a relationship).

In terms of friendships, I can only really maintain a semblance of them with men if they're my boyfriend's friends, otherwise, forget it. I have one female friend. I'm not great with girl friends, I want more. Some can be quite mean, but some pre-friendship possibility candidates have been nice.

I have to say - I can't comment much on the job part because I'm in STEM and I think it'd be a plus. My current job interview was run directly by my supervisor. She definitely types me a certain way, but she still hired me, though it was the type of job where the interview questions are "scored", giving it an edge of objectivity. Another person was also present at said interview. I often feel like people underestimate my abilities, but they are probably right.

Again, idk what range I'm in. I always assumed this is just what it's like to be a girl. I have BDD among other things I'm recovering from, so I'm not too reliable on judging myself.

Anonymous 39761

>>39759
>I am so beautiful that half the guys I go out with lose their spaghetti and act weird
>I am so pretty I make other women envious
>in fact I am so beautiful guys instantly want to marry me when we start dating

Anonymous 39768

>>39759
Because if he was a woman, he'd know that stalkers and harassers pick on ugly fat girls. Dressing like an ugly fat girl to "avoid attention" is a fake strategy.

Anonymous 39771

>>39768
ask anyone who has lost a bunch of weight and they will tell you that male attention skyrockets
being ugly + fat or old makes you invisible to most men, not immune to fucked up ones like stalkers but making yourself uglier on purpose to avoid it is a thing, i do it currently and it works.

Anonymous 39775

>>39768
>implying the average moid cares about the problems faced by beautiful women

Anonymous 39776

>>39760
>I'm fiercely monogamous, so all this makes me feel like shit
>sluts want to be harassed
okay moid

Anonymous 39821

>>39771
Nope. This is untrue. I was sexually harassed all the time, stalked, threatened with rape, murder and I was obese. I changed my attitude in my twenties and became invisible to the types of guys that think like that. I realized they harass girls who are too timid to fight back or say no. If they can get it, they'll fuck anything, ugly, fat, old, even girls they hate.

You probably come off as someone that's too much trouble for the average aspiring PUA. I was really timid as a teenager and it hurt me.

Anonymous 39835

>>39821
girl i cant even say good morning to people. i am shy and insecure, and people pick up on it and comment about it a lot. people aay even the way i walk gives off shy vibes.

and yeah it doesnt completely stop but in my experience its worth it because the majority will not give the time of the day to a truly ugly woman. even other women treat you better when you look good. you get compliments, stares, honking while in the street, guys flocking to you at class, people being more gentle, the list goes on.

looking like a greasy goblin made life a bit harder because people judge me as lazy or dirty now but its worth it to be somewhat invisible to men.

Anonymous 39836

>>39835
just adding, all the times i was assaulted or harassed were when i was dressing up. while in goblin mode when i was a pre-teen and now that i decided to stop caring about my appearance, it stopped.

Anonymous 39839

>What’s it like being an attractive girl
Well, I’m far from 9.5/10 Stacy mode but I’ve been places where I’ve been considered attractive (or at least have gotten special treatment that I wouldn’t have gotten otherwise) and unattractive (invisible) based on my outfit and whether I’ve done my hair/makeup or not. Generally people are nicer to you (especially women interestingly enough) and you get more people coming up to you for stuff. Also a lot of stares, especially if you’re “exotic” for where you are. My limited experience with the same environment in different outfits would be going to local stores when I’m wearing a modest dress and ballet flats with my hair down verses just coming from jogging. I’ve never had any worker speak to me in jogging mode but about 50% will ask me if I need help when I’m in full normie dress-up.
As far as street harassment, I don’t get it often but it’s actually pretty even whether I’m wearing makeup and stylish clothes or not. This is not shocking to me. Men in cars mostly look for long hair and a fat ass. I’ve even seen them holla at men lmao. A stare from a boy without him coming up to you is more telling if he actually finds you attractive than that boy randomly yelling from his car at a thicc stranger.

Anonymous 39852

>>39756
Maybe in highschool, but the staceys at my school all hated each other because they were all competing to be head stacey (in reality, everyone knew who the prettiest girl was, and she was also smart which I admittedly hated).

I accepted I was ugly from a young age and decided that this meant I needed to study hard and learn instruments. Turns out I just had ugly duckling syndrome and I started looking half decent a couple of years ago. I'm glad I grew up ugly because most of the people I went to highschool with are boring and stupid. Attractive people can be smart too, but it's less common because they can get away with being dumb and boring (hence the common trope: "people only like me for my looks". What else is there to like?).

Anonymous 39854

>>39624
I'm a 7-7.5 according to other people/a high tier Becky, but I'm not a 8-9 Stacy or anything. I honestly rate myself a 6.5

I get compared to Zoe Kazan a lot, if that gives you an idea of my level of attractiveness

I am complimented at least one time every time I go out 90 percent of the time to the point where I think I must have looked like shit at the end of the day if I don't get one,

People remember me when I frequent places and it sometimes scares me i.e people would say, "oh, I haven't seen you here in awhile, you doing okay?" and it freaks me out 'cause I don't know why I made an impression on people enough to remember especially when I rarely leave the house,

There's also A LOT of weird old men and creepy sexually harassing behavior that happens. I've been followed around stores. I'm a very petite woman that gets mistaken for a teenager, and I attract a lot of men that genuinely seem disappointed when I tell them I'm 20.

I was the epitome of plain growing up. I had ugly duckling syndrome and went from a 4.5 to a 7, I got compared to a female version of Fred LMAO, so going from being completely invisible to the point where fucking TEACHERS would ask me if I was a new student even though I would have been in the school 5+ years, people would sit on me because they didn't notice I was there, people would exclude me from every social group, to have people staring at you all the time is a pretty stark difference.


Other than that, though, I don't notice any differences between past ugly me, and present me. I get a lot more attention, and am treated like I exist, which is nice, but honestly, the attention is annoying and consists of sexual harassment and scares me after the, "I'm validated" phase wears off.

Maybe it's cause I'm not a 8-9 model, but I don't notice any differences other than vapid attention. I'd imagine 9s get a lot more things given to them.

Anonymous 39954

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why dont i look like her (pic related) REEEEEEE FUCK MARKY

Anonymous 39956

>>39954
She looks better in the OP pic.

Anonymous 39958

>>39954
but whe is not even white

Anonymous 39974

>>39958
We're not r9k, gtfo.

Anonymous 39975

>>39974
I should be saying that to you, what a cringe taste with bugs.

Anonymous 39980

>>39975
Wth do bugs have anything to do with this?

Anonymous 39985

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>>39983
Why? It seems to be used as a derogatory term but bugs are pretty cute.

Anonymous 40279

>>39624
>dress like 12yo con girl from early 2000s
>unable to smile
>godawful haircut
>no makeup skills
christ you could add +3 points by trying even a little

Anonymous 40280

>>39988
>>39983
I assumed it was due to the eyes

Anonymous 40305

>>39624
Girl, you're incredibly hot. Get a stylist, because lord knows you can't do that shit yourself. Same with a hairdresser. Boom, hot guys all over that pussy.

Anonymous 40350

>>39821
um, honey. it's great that you're bragging about being sexually harassed even though you were fat. but just because moids sexually harass fatties doesn't mean they don't sexually harass normal weight girls even harder.
>>39768
and you're just deligitimizing me because you're a salty fat bitch, okay
well if we're talking about our personal experience, fat bitches always have the worst personality. i've been turned down for jobs by the final boss HR because she was fat and was jealous as fuck of me, hated me the moment i walked in despite everyone on the team loving me. so fuck you. this is my last post, i have nothing to prove to you people. believe me or don't, i dont give a fuck. enjoy your head trauma?

Anonymous 40356

>>39651
She was literally groomed and statutory raped by an eceleb when she was a teenager and is still stalked and harassed by men who have threatened to kill her. But keep being rude and judging people, ugly-chan, maybe if your heart wasn't so poisoned you'd get more male attention irl and your face wouldn't show the ugliness inside of you

Anonymous 40367

I'm 7/10 but so mentally ill and socially inept I just now at 23 am learning how to make friendships that aren't abusive, also haven't had a long term relationship in years because I'm crazy. I know plenty of girls who are less conventionally attractive but have everything I want.

Anonymous 40376

>>39771
I lost weight and that's not true. Creepy guys harass ugly women more and are also rude to them (because she's ugly and owes them sex).

Anonymous 40394

>>40376
>creepy men harass ugly women more
>other anons say attractive women get constant attention
What does that mean if I never get harassed? Are average women in that sweet spot where no one either wants you OR feels as if they deserve you?

Personally I also wasn't harassed when fat, but I may have looked like a man (short hair and only men's clothes).

Anonymous 40401

>>40394
You might have resting bitch face or act in a more confident manner?

Anonymous 40402

>>40394
Maybe you live in a country or area where hitting on women / street harassment is just less common.

Anonymous 40403

>>40356
People that tried to genuinely be nice to her saw her real personality. She is a cold bitch that treated people she "liked" as shit, she deserves to be looked down upon based on her shitty behavior as an adult. So suck it up and take your retarded projections.

I'm already in a long-term loving relationship something that she will never have, because she is unstable.

Anonymous 40415

>>40403
Just because she was mean to her former friends doesn't make you any less of a bad person with a rotten heart. You're no better than her and I hope your boyfriend, if he really exists, dumps you when he realises how disgusting you are on the inside. The fact that she was mean to her friends doesn't mean she wasn't raped or groomed, so keep victim blaming you brainless cunt.

Anonymous 40416

>>40415
How am I a bad person for stating facts about her being promiscuous and having miserable life? I never said anything about her rape or grooming nor do I care about that part. I care how she is now as an adult and she is a bad person, you also sound like one.

Anonymous 42716

poor marky was groomed, used and abused by sam hyde when she was 15-16 (he filmed her and made her have 3somes w/ him and older girls). He basically ruined her relationship with her mom, got her kicked out and then stalked her and her friend for years. He cried to her when she went off to college asking to marry her after she told him to stop stalking her.

Marky is like 24 now with no job no degree and is a neet. Her life spiraled out of control mostly because of sam and 4chan :/

Anonymous 42717

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>>42716
forgot to add the most recent pic of her, apparently she barely showers and doesn't leave her bed anymore :/

Anonymous 42719

>>39980

>pic

that's a pic of a bug

Anonymous 42720

>>42717
Why would anyone take a picture of herself like this?

Anonymous 42732

>>39702
>being realistic = dragging people down
Cease your tomfoolery

Anonymous 42735


Anonymous 42935

>>42717
God I get tumblr snowflake triggered when I see this bitch. She looks JUST LIKE this 8/10 girl I was friends with who ended up showing up to my house and harassing me multiple times, then made what few friends I had turn on me by telling them I was a liar (She was mad I wouldn't let her come over so I had to make shit up because she was insane).

No clue what that bitch could've told my friends to make them hate me, but it HAD to have been complete bullshit lies. I did nothing wrong.

Anyways. I fucking hate anyone above a 7/10. Jealousy is part of it, but I've also found the prettier the girl the more hysteric. Fml.

Anonymous 42985

>>39624
Free video games, free money, free access in general to the world. The only thing you have to endure is the lame compliments that inevitably get old.

Anonymous 43515

>>42985
being an attractive girl seems stressful tbh. i mean horny men can be evil, women can be insanely jealous and petty, and i can't imagine being wary of rape/brutalization attempts every day.
i'm literally an uggo but i get cat-called all the time by weird old men for example. and i've heard so many horror stories from my mom (who was a 10/10 stacy in her youth). plus there's this one girl in my state who got acid thrown on her face because she was "too pretty and stuck up"
world's a fuck

Anonymous 43523

>>39624
Being able to date & marry extremely hot, successful and rich men is the biggest advantage of being a Stacy.

Anonymous 43524

>>43523
That does not mean those men are caring or really loving though…
:/

Anonymous 43528

>>43515
Do you guys actually get catcalled? I've never been catcalled and I suppose that's a good thing but I always feel like I must be some sort of freak with zero sex appeal.

Anonymous 43530

>>43528
Having low sex appeal doesn't mean you're ugly. They're probably just too intimidated or afraid to approach you. Are you very tall/short by any chance?

Anonymous 43532

>>43530
No I'm the average height.

Anonymous 43533

>>43532
Do you walk around in a good mood? If people see a frown, they'll never feel welcome.

Anonymous 43534

>>43533
I mean, I just look normal I guess. I am kind of a sperg so maybe I just look retarded.

Anonymous 43548

>>43530
>Having low sex appeal doesn't mean you're ugly.
It does in men's eyes.

Anonymous 43550

>>43528
I don't, either. I occasionally get privileges and stuff (like getting to skip lines and free upsized coffee) and have been hit on so I don't think I'm hideous. Though I've also been rejected so I think my looks are just very polarizing. Having an ethnically ambiguous babyface and wearing overly dressy clothes everywhere has that effect, I guess.

Perhaps you just live in a reserved area or your presentation is polarizing/you look like you'd kill them if they did.

Anonymous 43551

>>43550
What the fuck? What the fuck is wrong with me?
To be fair a man once bought me coffee but that was because he was standing in a weird place and I accidentally walked right into his massive gut while walking to get a lid for said coffee. I think he just felt bad.

Anonymous 43553

>>43551
Nothing. You just attract a different kid of guy. The one that would rather get to know you before making a move, rather than immediately hit you up based on appearance alone.

It's a blessing not a curse, but if you really want to change it, start dressing like a slut, I guess.

Anonymous 43554

>>43534
Yeah. I'd recommend walking around happily to make them feel a bit more welcome. Try to find something that cheers you up.
>>43548
Not if you're "out of their league".

Anonymous 43555

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>>39985
Who in their right mind would call snail a bug?

Anonymous 43556

>>42720
She just has messy hair and a pimple, looks beautiful anyway

Anonymous 43559

>>43553
Sluts are not attractive to the right guys. It's always better to look modest unless you go out clubbing with the right guy already.
Dressing like a slut is a huge redflag that implies you are a gold digger, you are just going to get played like that.

Anonymous 43567

>>43553
I think I'm just ugly tbh

Anonymous 43571

>>43559
This is actually really good advice
Guys wanting to fuck, will fuck anything
Guys looking for "love" will only go for more modest girls

Dressing sweet and innocent will essentially mean every guy will want you to some degree

Anonymous 43573

>>43571
>>43559
Don't fall for this dumb meme. The only guys who would be unhappy to see you dress sexy would be extremely religious men.
Guys who find you attractive and are looking for a serious relationship are not going to pass on you for wearing a skirt and heels. Please realize how dumb this sounds. And if you don't want them to judge you based on looks, then simply prove them wrong. If they try to play you like a whore, stop them right there.
Dress however you want.

>>43571
>every guy will want you to some degree
No it doesn't. It guarantees nothing. People don't have universal tastes, not all men might like what you consider to be "sweet and innocent".

Anonymous 43575

>>43573
Sorry feminist but I have no interest in dressing like a slut anyways.

Anonymous 43578

>>43575
Then don't. You should wear what you want, not what you think other people will like.

Anonymous 43582

>>43579
Yeah and?
It's better to be a slut at heart and dress moderately
Than to dress like a slut and show everyone your sluttyness

Besides I've found on life hiding your sluttyness will get you further than showing it off

Anonymous 43623

>>43559
I have a very shy/frigid vibe, and even though I'm a high 7, I feel like I'm constantly out-shined by sexually open/promiscuous women. They may not be Stacies looks-wise, but their confidence, and loud boisterous attitude, and sexually flirtatious nature draws so much more attention than me. It's like I'm not even in the room when they're around, even though they may not be much more attractive than me. I always get cheated on by girls like this too.

I used to have so much resentment, like, feeling pressured to be more slutty to have to keep a man's attention.

It's a curse. I'm constantly getting cheated on by these loud, slutty brunette 6.5/10 girls with rectangular glasses.

Anonymous 43639

>>43623
You can't hope that someone will come to see you anon. Even if you're approached by someone, your "nature" will draw them away from you. If you ever want to meet someone you have to go out of your way to meet them.

Anonymous 43646

>>43623
Not all attention is good attention. It depends on what you want. Do you just want dick? Go slutty. But when men give attention to a woman they perceive as "easy" they're not thinking of her as a potential partner for a committed long-term relationship.
>I'm constantly getting cheated on
I don't know how far degeneracy has gotten in the States but I don't think anyone getting "constantly cheated on" by anyone is normal. Maybe you need to rethink the kind of men you're going out with if this is a recurring thing that happens.

Anonymous 43651

>>43623
Have you ever posted about this before, anon? I recall vaguely an anon who said she constantly had partners leave her for extroverted girls with glasses.

I feel you, though. I think my quiet nature definitely plays a part in my lack of relationship success. People may think I'm cute but I have no interest in being an entertainer.

Anonymous 43657

>>43623
IMO men always go for easy targets since there’s so much pressure on them to be the ones initiating, it’s a mathematically advantageous gamble to hit on girls who are surer bets.

Anonymous 43660

>>43623
It sucks that this has been a recurring theme in your dating life, I couldn't imagine what it must feel like for this to happen on numerous occasions. It's interesting that you blame the other girls for your being cheated on rather than the men you date, or even the types of relationships you get yourself into. Is it because you don't want to blame your exes because you still want to love them? Or maybe because you don't want to think that maybe you made a mistake in choosing that person, which is a tough pill to swallow but ultimately good medicine. It's not your fault that you got cheated on at all, but it's your responsibility to try prevent it, either by thinking about the role you've played in these relationships and how it may have lead to being cheated on, or by thinking about the types of people you went after, and maybe why they're more prone to cheating. I'm not trying to blame you because I think all cheaters should be burnt at the stake, but if you don't reflect and change, then the same thing will just keep happening ad infinitum, and I hope that you eventually find someone that will treat you with the respect you deserve.

Also, just a neurotic, rhetorical point I'm compelled to bring up, but do you have sex with the men that cheat on you? If that's the case, then I find it somewhat hypocritical that you call out "promiscuous" women, when promiscuity has the meaning of being indiscriminate in sexual relations, that is, lacking a rational process for choosing sexual partners.

Anonymous 43667

>>43660
> Or maybe because you don't want to think that maybe you made a mistake in choosing that person, which is a tough pill to swallow but ultimately good medicine. It's not your fault that you got cheated on at all, but it's your responsibility to try prevent it, either by thinking about the role you've played in these relationships and how it may have lead to being cheated on, or by thinking about the types of people you went after, and maybe why they're more prone to cheating.

True, and well said.

I honestly blame both… A lot of girls see people in relationships, and consciously try to homewreck/steal a person away just for validation reasons. Each girl knew I was in a relationship and gave no fucks, but it's true that I should date people that I don't constantly feel as though I need to entertain.

>Also, just a neurotic, rhetorical point I'm compelled to bring up, but do you have sex with the men that cheat on you?


Absolutely not. LOL. They cheat on me before I can even get to that point, sometimes, I think that's why they cheat, because I don't "put out" fast enough, but I need to be sure that they're a safe foundation before going all the way.

>>43657
That's true, especially seeing as I am dating other unconfident/shy/passive people.

>>43651
Hm, I may have… and yeah, I relate to that, or I seem to attract people that just want a mystery or a challenge. Then, romanticize my quiet nature into being something that isn't even real.

Anonymous 43669

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The biggest ugly girl blackpill is realizing that when men spread these headlines in order to make an argument for why they hate black people, the woman involved is always pretty. Always above a 5/10. People don't care about ugly girls. The world revolves around beautiful women and if you're not beautiful, you're not seen as a woman that ought to be protected.

Anonymous 43670

>>43669
How old are you that only now you realized this?
Looks matter a lot, yes, it's not just for relationships.
People treat good looking people much better than they treat ugly people.

Anonymous 43671

>>43670
I'm 20. I had noticed it before but the weight of how bad it is really hit me just now. I swear I'm gonna fucking kill myself….

Anonymous 43672

>>43671
Have you tried it before?

Anonymous 43673

>>43672
Killing myself? Yeah I have a gun that I put up to my head every now and then but can never bring myself to pull the trigger. It's pretty embarrassing.

Anonymous 43684

>>43673
Sounds like you don't want to do it, then. Do you ever wish someone would just hug you?

Anonymous 43691

>>43684
Y-yeah… ;_;

Anonymous 43696

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>>43691
It's going to be okay anon. <3

Anonymous 43700

>>43673
I was 20 too once and I felt the same as you for the same reasons.
Looking back 8 years later I just laugh at how stupid I was back then.
Like, I'm going to off myself because people are mean to me?
Like fuck people, lol.
I'm not going to take myself out because of some assholes.
I'm going to enjoy life as best as I can, I will do what I want and abide by none of society's imposed standards for what one is supposed to do.

You can still have fun and still kick ass and society in general can go fuck itself. I hope you will feel better soon. <3

Anonymous 43707

>>43700
I really wish I could agree with this but relationships are what makes life worth living. We are social animals and will literally go crazy if kept in isolation.

Anonymous 43758

Since men treat us all like garbage (although in different ways) I'll say that one of the worst parts of being an attractive woman is definitely the alienation that can come from other women. Being an introverted girl is hard but when you're attractive on top of it, people think you're looking down on them or that you're just 'intimidating' and therefore not someone that they want to get to know.

I especially hate when women say that you have no right to hate men because men apparently just fall to your feet as an attractive woman. Just let us hate men with you ffs, there's strength in numbers.

That being said, I'm not going to say that my life has been ~so hard~ because of how hot and gorgeous and beautiful (kek pls don't sperg out, I'm joking) I am. It's definitely probably more of an advantage than I realize. But at the end of the day attractive women are still women. We all get sexualized and held to a higher standard than men do. Attractive women aren't exempt from men's hatred and scrutiny which is why women have to stop seeing men as some prize and sizing other women up bc of that.

Anonymous 43783

>>43758
This af

Anonymous 44628

>>43667
>A lot of girls see people in relationships, and consciously try to homewreck/steal a person away just for validation reasons

This is surprising to me, but maybe I've just never interacted with such people. I do know one girl who accidentally helped a guy cheat on his gf, she didn't know at the time otherwise she wouldn't have had sex with him.

>They cheat on me before I can even get to that point, sometimes, I think that's why they cheat, because I don't "put out" fast enough


I respect this and I respect you. Sorry for the baseless accusation.

Anonymous 45332

>>43669
People don't care about ugly people period, but you're still correct.



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