Fuck Tinder Anonymous 43008
You know, I want to get out, meet people, hopefully get a nice boyfriend, but I feel like Tinder is just for easy hookups and one night stands.
I feel that 99% of the guys that go on Tinder don't care about having a long term relationship.
Am I wrong?
Disclaimer: I haven't used it yet.
Dating apps and sites are created for promiscuous normies to meet other promiscuous normies.
You can still meet people the old-fashioned way by going outside and doing stuff.
I forget the source but IIRC the highest probability of a meeting happening is if a man is looking for an ONS and the woman is looking for a LTR.
so even if you get as far as a meeting, you won't get what you want.
online dating dating's a shit.
tinder is for slags and fuckboys, don't bother with it
Go out and find people through your hobbies instead.
Tinder is for meeting people to fuck, that's it. All dating site really are
If you want to find love, go out and meet people
If you want to find a dick, use tinder
You won't meet anyone valuable also actually decent men will put you in their mental slut zone if they ever find out you had one and rightly so. Don't use it.
i've gotten long term bfs on it but the problem is that 90% of men are trash on it. they think it's a joke so they don't treat it seriously…but there no longer IS any way to meet people except on tinder. i hate this climate where people spend their entire 20s and early 30s fucking around. the result is that NO ONE can get married and we all die alone. i hate it. bring back courtship to marriage avenues and matchmakers. guys just want to fuck, they dont want to marry, i hate it so much
>>43022>If you want to find love, go out and meet people
STOP WITH THIS NORMIE PLATITUDE
YOU CANT FLIRT IN THE WORKPLACE
IF YOURE ALREADY OUT OF COLLEGE YOURE FUCKED
CORONA SHUT DOWN ALL MEETUP GROUPS
EVERYONE IS A TRANSPLANT NOW SO YOU NO LONGER EVEN KNOW PEOPLE IN THE AREA
you diss diss diss but fail to ever, ever offer one single viable fuckign alternative. "lmao just go outside and meet people" WHERE AND HOW DO YOU PROPOSE THAT HAPPEN
YOU DONT BECAUSE IT DOESNT AND YOU CANT
they tell me i'm crazy, and then build a clown society and tell me i have to live in it
if i hear "just go outside lul" one more time i'll lose it
To add on to this the data stops at 2017 so the online dating % is no doubt even higher now I would guess it’s easily more than 50%
Also, I think this data includes people of all age groups and I would guess that the online dating % is even higher for young people in their 20s (I’m assuming most miners are in their twenties or late teens)
Meeting people in real life becomes very difficult after school
If you’ve already graduated from college then it’s pretty much online dating or nothing
Couples are not married couples. All the people who haven't found a partner or don't currently have one won't factor into this at all. Also it says 'categories are not mutually exclusive' which means people could be meeting online through friends. And notice how bar or restaurant is also climbing.
Coronavirus is temporary, anon. Clubs are meeting online and have been slowly moving back to in-person sessions. Are you sure you're not interested in one-night stands? You don't seem capable of thinking in time frames longer than that, anyway.
Just go outside lol>>43062
The lockdown is tempory, only happened a few months ago and doesn't apply everywhere
You won't find a guy just teleport into your room, you have to go out and meet them, dating I've found is super random and very much a right place right time situation
Plus of you ever find a guy you want just hit on him, I've found that 90% of the time guys don't reject girls
you're a bit smarmy, eh?>>43079
just bee urself
just go outside
just give the manager a firm handshake
just start a business
just clean your room
any other wisdom, oh great boomer of the internet?
It's funny how often I get called a boomer despite only recently hitting 20
Also short of starting a business, that idea is stupid in the current time, everything else is actually a smart idea.
Like I said, no guy is just going to teleport into your room, you won't just be given a job because you spent all night playing games.
If you do nothing, nothing will change, unsurprisingly
Quit making up excuses for your shyness. Stop thinking pedestrians can't initiate in social contact with each other. Stop being so awkward and break the ice.
I had the most luck with eharmony, found my bf on there. Expensive, sure, but all the other sites (even match) are full of human garbage honestly. eharmony isn't just for christians or anything, but I think that's the image people have of it.
>>43085>despite only recently hitting 20
nta but thanks for finally confirming you aren't qualified to give life advice.
What you're giving is just vague, generalized bullshit that we've all heard a million times by now. if you have actual detailed specifics
drawing from your own experiences feel free to contribute, else please find another thread to convince us that it's all our own fault or we just aren't trying hard enough.
I'm 20, you're probably double my age
But I can guarantee that I've lived more of a life than you
Whine some more you pathetic old hag
>>43115>/feels/ - Advice & Venting
Since you're obviously not here to vent, if you don't have any solid advice to give please stop shitting up this thread with your inane posts. Thanks.
I gave advice, not my fault that it got thrown in my face and ignored
And we've told you why your advice is useless. Can you fucking leave already?
Simple advice is usually correct advice
Or is "go outside and talk to someone" too hard for your retarded brain to comprehend
Go out, talk a walk, see a cute guy, talk and flirt with him
WOW fucking difficult
Okay here's my vent, why is nearly everyone here here just a pathetic loser
Nobody wants you here just stfu already ya dumb cunt.>>43071
That is true
I'm not a pathetic loser that spends every waking hour locked inside, I'm not so stupid to not being able to talk to someone
I'm actually successful
So yeah I don't belong here
Different anon. I met the boyfriends I've had at local gaming groups. I didn't start dating until I was 30 because of serious anxiety problems.
There's a MILLION dating apps, is none of those really aimed more at finding long term relationships?
Because you'd ideally want to find a guy with the same interests you have.
Chances are, some random guy on the street is not going to have those that match the people in this place.
What are people here interested in?
If you don’t want casual relationships, don’t use tinder. That should be obvious, and yet…
So where do I go if I want a more serious relationship?
You're not going to find a magic bullet here, otherwise this place would be empty.
Experience matters. Not age. Are you experienced? Or have you wasted your life?
this just makes me really sad, why do we have to depend on profit driven industries just to find love ?
>>43179>Experience matters. Not age.
Wait till you get out of college and realize how difficult it is to find a place to meet decent people, then we'll talk.
It's easy to meet decent people when you're decent yourself, anon.
What places have you already looked?
They don't. It's possible one in a hundred actually does care about relationships but he won't commit hardcore to it. Just look at the design of the app for fucks sake, it's a flame not a heart. It is for horny people interested in quickies.
This kind of response just proves you can't name any places so fuck off already.
Tinder should be used more effectively for what it is.
Instead of giving your body for free to strangers that won't give a fuck about you the next day it should be used as a "rent a girlfriend/boyfriend app" like the Japanese do with their host clubs.
It should only be used by people who are in the end escorts. Everyone else in there is just being played.
I would use sites that specifically advertise themselves as dating sites (ex. eHarmony, OkCupid, PlentyOfFish). I don’t know much about the demographics of these sites though and have never used them, but they don’t have the same “hookup” connotation that apps like Tinder and Bumble do.
Ballroom dancing lessons, foreign language schools, sports clubs, gyms, live gaming sessions at cafes and comic shops, bicycle maintenance workshops, special events at parks (highly recommended: foraging and camping basics), block parties, dog training, political activist groups.
You problem is that you're a boring person. Be more interesting.
I TOO CAN NAME A BUNCH OF PLACES I'VE NEVER SET FOOT IN
GET THE FUCKING HINT
YOUR POSTS AREN'T HELPFUL
YOU FUCKING HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THE WORD "HELPFUL" MEANS
HOW MANY TIME DO I HAVE TO SAY IT YOU DENSE CUNT
GO TO /B/ OR /R9K/ OR SOME SHIT IF YOU'RE LOOKING FOR AN ARGUMENT
Hm, I feel people don't know how to wait, it's fine to meet via tinder match, but you have to show your value and not just being an easy meal, if a man cant really know you before and vice versa.
You're the one arguing, anon. Stop being a 21st Century Schizoid Woman, and go talk to the next pedestrian you meet.
you don't you can still meet people the old fashion way
people are just switching to a more convenient lifestyle
meetup.com > tinder
there you go
>>43264>A BUNCH OF PLACES I'VE NEVER SET FOOT IN
So now you're just point-blank admitting that you have no interests in life and no desire to improve at any skills. Why, exactly, would anyone want to be your friend let alone your boyfriend?
>>43264>"HELP ME">Anon provides help >"NO DON'T HELP ME LIKE THAT THAT'S NOT HELPFUL"
God you're needy and lonely and pathetic, no wonder you browse this website.
Have you tried being alone forever instead?
Switch your Looking For to women, and you will see that's all tinder has to offer; a bunch of used up people worth nothing.
Use hinge or something else
So Tinder seems to be primarily for finding people to fuck. What are some better dating apps / services?
You have to wade through A LOT of trash to find anyone that even seems genuine. And then you have to hope that they are willing to wade through all the trash and hope that you are genuine too. Because the app doesn't tell you a specific person likes you, unless you're pro.
It's like the app is specifically designed to blackpill you
Unfortunately it does come down to this.
If your hobbies are all degenerate, and you don't want to meet a guy with those same hobbies, what are you expecting to happen?
This is what tinder is about straight up. I'm glad some people are not even trying to hide it anymore.
It's always to get something out of the other person. It's a business. It's not for dating. It's either for people who are horndogs & just wanna let the nut out or smarter people that use it as a vehicle to make money.
Is there really no app that puts personality and hobbies first and foremost for filtering?
This sounds like such a huge market, I don't get why no one's capitalizing on it.
All the other sites mentioned in this thread so far. Eharmony and Match, specifically.
I just added some thot-tier body pics to my previously only-face-pic profile. i feel like a whore but apparently guys assume if you don't have any body pics that you must be obese.
>moid messages me, says i'm cute
>he replies, hey i have a secret
>say 'what?' with a sinking feeling
>he unmatches me
>went and took body shots and put them up that evening
i'm not even fat or ugly or anything. i dont understand moids. he was average not even a model or anything.
They don't have to be thot tier. Just make sure they go down at least to your waist if your concerned about them thinking you're fat. Smile, etc.
>>43071>I would guess that the online dating % is even higher for young people in their 20s
I would guess the opposite. At least if we're talking about couples like the picture says. Young people go out to clubs, they have a lot more parties and group gatherings, college activities, team sports etc. Young people meet other young people in real life all the time.
When I think online dating I think divorced people in their 50s who feel like they have no other way of meeting people other than through the internet.
>>43616>guys assume if you don't have any body pics that you must be obese
They're right. Myspace Angle didn't die out with Myspace.
update: after putting up the body pics I'm getting matches and messages like crazy. i put them up YESTERDAY. this is insane. win at tinder with this one simple trick… show leg and tiddy. all moids care about is what makes their dick happy. i'm just so disgusted i can't even be happy about this.
ravioli ravioli give me cute husband so i can quit this godforsaken app-ioli.>>43659
it must be the case. that must have been the sole reason, the difference is night and day. have thot-pics or moids will automatically assume you are a hamplanet.
It's a coomer app. Tried and true. You should really consider using something else.
everyone gets loads of matches, men are built to want to fuck anything that moves
All you need is a normal body pic. Like what the fuck do you expect? People to figure out if they like you from your tinder profile? You're on a goddamn dating app where the point is to only talk to people who you find physically attractive. If this bothers you why are you even using it?
Then you're clearly not going to get what you want from that app.
This. Many guys swipe right on almost any girl and then pick the ones they're genuinely attracted to later.
This is why the average woman has more matches than the average guy which guys complain about… but they have themselves to blame.
Why the heck do they do that though? Why not just stop and think for a second?
Because for moids, the chances of getting a match is really low, (even if they are objectively handsome).
So they find it quite pointless to invest time investigating a profile when you have like 0.001% probability of getting matched.
because they are retarded. instead of swiping on who they like, they swipe EVERYTHING and ruin the point of the app (which is for two people with mutual attraction to meet.) moids immediately try to gamify and "hack" it and call it a numbers game, so they'll do things like delete and recreate their profile every few weeks to game the system, swipe yes on EVERY girl so that when you do get a match you have no idea if he even likes you or was just numbers-gaming, they'll put a bunch of cringy one-liners in their profile or leave it blank because they're afraid of criticism, leaving us with nothing to go on about who they are and what they want. or they'll do shit like a blank photo and go "just looking to see what is out there."
tinder makes me hate moids. they overthink what should be simple, they destroy their own chances by trying to be niggers about it, their intentions are disgusting at best. you now have 5/10 moids who get absolutely CHEEKY about how they think they're hot shit and don't want to settle down and would rather fuck around in their 20s, and in their 30s they go on there and say pathetic shit like, "please wife me so i don't die alone." i wonder if they actually bothered to not be a manwhoring skank with an aversion to commitment when they were still young and had hair, maybe they would have found a fucking longterm and gotten married. tinder is where men go to ruin themselves and all of society because moids are ruled by their own penis. it's the penis that is in charge of its thoughts and actions–the rest of the moid is vestigal.
HOW DO THEY NOT GET BANNED WTF. I had a fake (girl) Tinder profile that got banned after I had swiped right on every dude, yet their algorithm is fine with men doing the same thing?
you know i get banned from 4chan every other week and even i can't fathom how someone can get banned from tinder. yet i hear so many stories of moids complaining they get banned. probably for negging and harassment, i guess? imagine using your real name, location, and photo, and then shitposting so hard against women you're trying to lure into screwing that you need to get banned off the platform. yet somehow men manage to do just that.
i've had to report at least 3 moids on it myself. these people are insane. if that's how they act while namefagging imagine if they could be anonymous. an anonymized tinder… it would be hell.
>>43757>I had a fake (girl) Tinder profile that got banned after I had swiped right on every dude, yet their algorithm is fine with men doing the same thing?
No doubt because their system thinks a female profile that swipes right on every male profile is actually a bot, probably programmed to try and send people malware or something. They can safely assume this because they can see most of their actual female users are much pickier than that and would never actually swipe right on every man.
It doesn't think the same thing is suspicious when a male profile does it because no doubt they can see that's what men actually do, and they do it because of the aforementioned pickiness of the female users.
a boy that only swipes on girls they like is a boy that's probably getting no hits, from what i understand about dating site statistics
From my experience most guys would die for replies. What is happening to you is probably that you're talking to a guy with lots of matches already. Because he can talk to a limited amount amount of girls, he just talks to the ten or so most attractive.
They do this because the response rates for men are so low that the new non-fuckboys on the app who use it properly just get no activity at all and leave. For the rest, who just want to fuck, the best way to get what they want is swipe right on everyone, copypaste a one-liner to every match, and fuck the only one with low enough self confidence to cave in and reply.
Everything has been said in the OP. Tinder is not for relationships.
How did we get to a point where dating apps are the most common method for meeting people and yet everyone fucking hates them?
Because they're not for relationships. Just cheap sex, and that's what the majority wants, so the minority suffers.
Because dating apps are easy and there is a lot of people that use them so the chances of interacting with somebody there are higher but at the same time you realize what % of the moids in this world are jum cumbrain coomer sociopaths and it's a fuck ton of them. That's the true "black-pill". Being disappointed with humanity.
No one on the app wants romance that just want to get to the fucking.
But its the most convenient way to meet someone.
People are lazy and just go with whatever is most convenient.
Dating apps are shit for relationships but they're also very easy. You can just sit in your room, look at a few pictures, maybe read their bio if you feel like it, and then decide if you like them based on that. It's quick and easy taking very little thought and effort.
Afraid of meeting and having a conversation irl?
>had date with moid off tinder
>day before, serious medical issue happens
>message him that i can't meet right now
>he unmatches me
holy fuck moids are so fragile
Or he's just cutting his losses rather than getting roped in to your medical issues (and eventually related costs).
Tbh, I would do the same.
Whatever the reason you cancelled the date.
That's enough reason to unmatch.
You are still strangers and he has no reason to spend more emotion and time on you when he has other stranger on Tinder that want to meet him.
sorry anon, this is a common thing people use as an excuse early in a relationship when they are a narc or are trying to scam. it sucks for you, but the guy made the right choice to unmatch.
>>44468>th-t-tht-th–th-t-th-hth-those dumb women just want to steal all my money and make me pay their bills!>t. moid who works at a gas station for $10.50/hr>>44470>>44473
meh. i already have a date with another one anyway. moids have more to lose than I do. maybe they shouldn't act like emotional bitches with the few matches they get.
jfc sounds like he made the right decision
why do moids feel the need to comment on things they clearly don't understand?
well if you just cancelled instead of rescheduling how do you think you came off?
>>44704>multiple posters explain why he did nothing unreasonable>REEE you're all moids!
Golly. How'd a catch like you wind up needing to use tinder to find dates in the first place?
IIRC the bump in bars is actually used to not say that you actually met online, and the bar line in reality is much lower and the met online is even higher.
An average man will get a like by 1 in every 115 women on Tinder.
The median number of responses men get on dating apps is 0 responses.
You can't blame them for swiping right on everyone at that rate.
He's probably been dropped a bunch of times before that way, it's the most common way women drop men after a date is just reschedule forever.
It is impossible to chat in these applications. Moids fill you up with messages.
How is it mathematically possible that the average swipe rate for each gender is not equal
I got my last boyfriend over tinder. We dated for half a year before he broke up with me.
We actually talked a bout marrying one day and such.
He totally ruined that app for me.
Because it takes two mutual swipes for a match to occur. A moid can spam swipes to every women hoping one responds, but a woman can swipe on whoever they like.
>>43010>You can still meet people the old-fashioned way by going outside and doing stuff.
>is going to make you less desirable all around as market value of females is a different ball game to moids
Maybe to crazy hardcore conservatives aka person I would never marry. Everyone else has to deal with the crazy fact that people have sex in the current year.
Even non-christian males will view female partners that are virgins, or at the very minimum, have less sex partners overall as better marriage material. Why do you think younger the generation the less likely they are to marry? There's no need to marry a woman when you can just fuck around.
Are you an insecure moid or what?
Who cares? A person that looks at your lack of chastity as a dealbreaker is likely not a good man to begin with.
You're the ones coming off as insecure and defensive. It's just common sense, if given the choice between two otherwise equal women just about any man would take the one with the lower partner count.
This diagram is shit lmao. This would hard fail in academia. Fucking Christ.
I've never really known a man who looks at his partner's virginity. I'm a virgin and I don't think I have any extra points. Maybe things change when it comes to finding a wife… but I don't think I can stay a virgin that long, lol.
Holy shit this is so cringe and I'm sure we got a moid or tranny moid around.
What exactly are you even saying? Are you claiming that men actually prefer sluttt women that have fucked lots of other guys before and that anyone claiming otherwise is a man?
>very attracted to his confidence and drive
>has no blue counterpart
>but the woman is dressed all slutty and has protruding nipples
>also typical stereotype of woman being attracted to wealth
Awful penoid image
Where did I said that. Why its gotta go to the extremes? Why you think like such an incel or autist?
It's not really clear what you're saying to begin with.
Actually, they do prefer them. I don't know what world you live in, but moids just want sex and with that kind of women it's easier to get it. They also probably think that sex with those women will be more satisfying.
If they just want a fuck they prefer them, if they're looking for a relationship they don't.
Is there a good way to use tinder without it getting linked back to you?
Like I want to use it but I'm afraid of guys I know finding me on there and telling my family
I have a reputation of being the good innocent girl and I don't want to ruin that.
Use an alias and obscure your face, not much more you can do than that.
>>45139>I've never really known a man who looks at his partner's virginity>I'm a virgin
Is this some kind of a joke?
If you aren't in super-conservative yee-haw country then there would be no one who would tell your family you were on tinder.
Unless you are already in a relationship.
Yes and no?
Australia isn't really conservative, but family is.
I'm not dating anyone currently but the guy I'm planning on marrying is more upper class and wouldnt want to marry a slut. So don't want to ruin my future for some casual dick.>>45335
That's what I'm thinking, either that or use a fake name and just grab profile pictures off facebook
Maybe make it look like I'm a catfish to people that know me?
I meant that they don't care about virginity or anything else they say they care about. I'm a virgin, I'm tender, I wear women's clothes, I'm not even ugly and I've never had a bf. Instead, whores have had an average of 20 or more bfs, plus all the orbiters they have.>>45331
And when do they want a relationship? I haven't met young men who value virginity.
Having sex and not being a virgin doesn't make you a slut.
Maybe, but having casual sex with strangers does.
Which I mean I already am doing, I just don't have any online presence with it, and am lying about it pretty well.
It's not about being a slut, it's about being seen as a slut.