Fujo-tier advice. Most straight men would freak out if their first sexual experience included being fondled up the ass, that's for later on and definitely not to be done without talking to him first. A tense bf is not a happy and relaxed bf. I swear some of you have let yaoi rot your brains.>>46292
You can't change his opinion. If he doesn't care about firsts, that's just how it is. He might be coping because he's afraid of not performing too well, or he doesn't want you to stress out, but unless he outright tells you that, you won't know. I'd try to get to the bottom of it. If he simply doesn't have the same values that you do, then that might be its own problem entirely. But I wouldn't worry too much about it, I think it's always a bigger deal for women emotionally - for men, the first time is more of a point of pride and achievement, whereas for us it's more tinged with vulnerability and commitment. I hope this doesn't mean he won't treat you
well during and after, though. If he doesn't care, that's fine, but he should still make an effort to make you feel special.