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Anonymous 51489

Soul crushed after my LDR bf (almost) broke up with me. He broke up because I lied few times that I'll fly to visit him but never did. I was also really insecure and constantly was asking if he really likes me. Now he found some girl in real life and he's really happy with her. I'm still shut-in loser.

It's been a year and I still can't move on

What to do?

Anonymous 51491

>>51489
Make a list of all the things you don’t like about him.

Anonymous 51493

>>51489
if he couldn't understand your insecurities and be patient with you, then maybe it's for the best.
hope you're ok. i'd try not to think about him too much and try to focus on other things. maybe find a new person who's more understanding and patient with you? and also i wouldn't try not to follow his social media. it'll only bring you pain.
if flying is the issue, maybe try to find someone close by to you?
>>51491 also this helps you get over a person. put the list on your fridge and remind yourself each day why he wasn't the one for you. you still clearly have feelings for him and think about him a lot, so maybe focusing on the negatives will help you recover from your heartache.

Anonymous 51514

>>51489
Have you tried meeting new people and putting yourself out there or have you just been thinking about him?

Anonymous 51517

>I lied few times that I'll fly to visit him but never did.
Why would you do that?

Anonymous 51521


Anonymous 51525

>>51517
>>51521
I thought I will eventually fly to him but apparently, I'm still scared to face the world and I just chicken out.

>>51514
No, I don't know how to meet new people. I'm anxious af.

Anonymous 51529

>>51525
Make another discord frien to cope while you look for irl relationships with weebs on tinder I guess.. just be careful ask them questions and get to know them throuhg dates.

Anonymous 51531

>>51525
>>51529
this, I have a few servers if you want to meet new friends, could exchange discords if you use it. If not, then maybe tinder, or apps similar to that.

Anonymous 51532

>>51525
>I thought I will eventually fly to him but apparently, I'm still scared to face the world and I just chicken out.
I don’t mean to sound harsh, but don’t commit to relationships that you don’t intend on taking anywhere. It’s just hurtful to the other person when they realize you’re not serious about the relationship.

Anonymous 51538

I've fallen for the LDR trap multiple times, I will meet a guy on interpals or something, tell him that I just want to marry, but it never works out. Sometimes they say that they might be interested too if we actually met but then they ghost me or tell me that I am desperate and shouldn't be so quick to decide something so important. Which is probably all true. I am so fucking desperate.

I blocked those sites and hope I will never go back.

Anonymous 51545

>>51489
Find another guy and tell him right from the start that you're a shut-in and would be content with just an online relationshop where you don't meet face to face. Some guys would be ok with that. This way you won't be wasting anyone's time.

Anonymous 51567

>>51538
>tell him that I just want to marry,

Why do you even do that?

>I am desperate and shouldn't be so quick to decide something so important.


Well obviously, why would you marry someone you barely know? What if he turns out abusive? Even violent? Or simply so annoying that you can't stand him anymore?

There is no point marrying someone if you don't get along enough to spend your life with the person. Especially if you want to have kids. Being alone isn't that bad, really. Don't you have any projects you enjoy working on your own, or with friends?

Anonymous 51609

you could continually add men and have the same conversations with them as you did with him and come to the realization that he is the same man, repackaged. none of them are so different, underneath the skin.

Anonymous 51620

>>51489
just get a 162 ibf



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