Everyone else has already said it but this is incredibly autistic advice. If you're always the one reaching out then yeah try stopping to see if they reach out on their own, but if you're just insecure about your friendships and trying to get validation, then don't do this as it will cause the contact to dwindle down naturally since both of you will think the other isn't interested. Basically don't sabotage yourself by doing this, it sends a misleading signal that acts as a self fulfilling prophecy.>>52600
OP I used to be like you and to a degree I still am and all I can say is that getting older helped me deal with it better. Insecurity really wrecks all kinds of relationships and it's better to face it than to expect your partner to keep repeating the same phrases back at you so you can tune out the anxiety for a bit. >>52608>As a general tip, I try be nice to everyone, regardless of how they feel towards me. When I reflect on daily interactions and think I've been unjustly unkind, I make an effort to be nice to that person the next time I see them.
Anon I wish I had more chill like you a few years ago, I burned a few bridges that didn't require a clean break but I was too proud and too guarded. Now I think it would be nice to not have parted ways on such a clean break because it's always good to know people, both for companionship and for practical purposes, it's hard to walk back from cutting ties while "being busy"/"dealing with stuff" cools things down and leaves room for plausible deniability. You can even get away with ghosting (although you shouldn't).
Another reason not to burn bridges is that you don't want to end up feeling too awkward in spaces you might share with that person. You might end up sharing a friend of a friend or something and feel awkward going to their birthday party. You end up feeling like the place you associate with that person, like their town or their neighborhood depending on how close they are, is haunted and you feel like you're on enemy territory.