I hope things improve for you, girl, srsly!>>53985
My mom divorced my dad when me and my sis were still just teens. She kinda was like "this happened to me, and it will happen to youuuu!!" and that really kinda fucked us up both in the long run.
I was kinda closed off emotionally for the longest time because I was super afraid of men taking advantage of me when I was vulnerable. Of course, this only resulted in me being taken advantage of anyway but not being able to recognize it because my only skills on the matter were to "just not open up to men."
I eventually got better because I met my husband, who's really empathetic but sincere and straightforward, and he's helped me learn to open up and be vulnerable with people now. When you realize that people can only hurt you if they think they know something about your that you yourself don't know, it becomes easier to just be an open book and not worry too much!
Sadly, my sister seems to be still super closed off, struggles really hard with allowing herself to be submissive with men, and many of her relationships end up becoming power struggles that never end well. She's a wonderful woman and deserves a great man, but her insistence on having control and "not letting men hurt her" just has resulted in a lot of frustrating relationships.
I still love my mom lots but it's clear that she's more lonely than most women, and that with age she needs us more and more to be there for her. You gotta raise your girls to not be paranoid of men, otherwise they might never build healthy relationships with them. I wouldn't repeat that mistake if I became a mom, I would want my daughters to be happy and healthy around men. A good relationship can truly be something wonderful.