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Getting complimented by strangers Anonymous 5408

I know this is going to sound like humblebragging, but after my friends told me this isn't normal I had to ask.

Do any of you get complimented by strangers in public?
Sometimes people will even get up from their meals to compliment me. My friends play a game where they count how many people stare at me in public. However, I never have guys at my college hit on me, and I've only had one boyfriend (in highschool). When I look at myself I see someone who's average- I'm definitely not ugly, but I'm definitely not model-tier.
I also compliment other girls in passing, so I always thought it was a normal occurence. My friends are definitely pretty, probably even more than me- they actually wear makeup (eyeshadow, fake lashes, lipstick, contour, etc) while I'm definitely not talented in that area at all. Maybe it's because they look traditionally hispanic or American, and I'm eastern European?

Anonymous 5409

Also the last sentence sounds kind of douchey, I should've added that where I live there's very few eastern Europeans (southern US) and it's something that a lot of people point out to me (they ask if I'm Russian, etc).

Also once again im so sorry this sounds like a humblebrag, I promise it isnt!!

Anonymous 5410

I rarely do my friend gets more compliments from guys and girls our age than I do (I do get compliments from old people that I'm cute!) and it makes me so jealous

Anonymous 5411

I've gotten more insults from strangers than compliments. When I have the money, I'm getting plastic surgery. I want a new face.

Anonymous 5412

I think it depends on what the content of the compliment is?
It seems from what you have mentioned that the compliments are about general opinions of beauty.

Usually compliments that I get are style related: glasses, shoes, general ensemble of clothing, etc. At best I might occasionally get a "cute" or "pretty" if I tried extra hard or am really feelin' myself and it shows.

Anonymous 5413

idk i get asked out a lot and complimented, but more like I'll meet someone at my college who i've never met before and they're like omg you're that girl who looks like barbie or oh, you have such a distinctive face, etc.

Anonymous 5414

>>5413
sorry, to add to that

one thing i think people need to realize about compliments, though, is that if a person tends to give out compliments freely, you're not going to necessarily know that about a stranger. i often compliment other girls just because, but the thing is, they might think "oh, a stranger complimented me", but the truth is, a compliment from another stranger who almost never compliments is in a way worth more than my compliments b/c I compliment ppl all the time. idk, food for thought.

funnily enough, a lot of people think I'm russian but I'm just American. idk wtf it is with people being obsessive with russians.

Anonymous 5418

>>5408
I get complimented by gross Indian men.

But usually it's about clothes not how I look.

Anonymous 5420

I rarely get compliments from strangers/people, but its usually about my hair when I wear it curly. I don't even have a good hairstyle/haircut and it's a mess most of the time but I guess a lot of people find curlier hair to be novel around here.

I had a girl compliment my epicanthal folds once. That was fuckin weird.

Anonymous 5421

>>5411
anon do you mind telling me what's 'wrong' with your face? if it doesn't upset you of course. i got insulted on my jaw a lot, i got a jaw shave and i hate it now. i really regret it and i can imagine i'm going to have jaw problems as i age.

Anonymous 5425

bitch lasagna.jpg

>>5418
hallo sexy open bob

Anonymous 5429

Honestly, even if you look even a little outside of the norm of a place, you'll stand out more, thus get stared more and talked about more, so i don't think it's weird, especially if where you live talking to strangers on the street is normal.

Where i'm from it's real weird to compliment a stranger for no reason if you are not in a conversation with them, so no to random compliments on the street.

When i am in conversations i do get them a lot, especially beauty related, but my low confidence makes me think they just tell them to be nice and think i'm a cave troll kek. In general i dislike getting compliments because they make me uncomfortable since i don't truly believe them and the situation always ends up awkward, so i also very rarely give out compliments in person since i don't know if the person i'll give it to feels like me.

Anonymous 5452

I usually get compliments from people who are older than me and also female, lol. I don't attract many guys either

Anonymous 5457

>>5421
Massive overbite, bulbous nose, comically small mouth. I'd like to get a maxillo-mandibular advancement in the future. Also, I have bad skin which I'm taking medication for, but it makes my skin peel in the winter. I got a good moisturizer though, and it helped with that a lot. My hair is also naturally very frizzy and wiry. I have to use a ton of product every day to make it look decent.

Anonymous 5463

Getting compliments from strangers is not normal here. Strangers normally only talk to you here if they want directions. I did get a compliment about my appearance from two of my classmates which is really nice.
>>5457
My friend also used to say that she wanted ps and I never understood why. She is really pretty but was so insecure about her appearance. I'm not holding you back from getting ps but maybe you can try to work on your confidence.

Anonymous 5482

I do, from both men and women. I get men asking me out too.

However for some reason online I have no such luck. I'm either not photogenic at all or my camera skills are shit.

Anonymous 5530

Pretty much never. In high school other girls compliment you as part of socializing but that's it.

Anonymous 5574

i usually get a few compliments every other day or so from customers at work. most commonly i get told that i look like lorde or anne hathaway. i don't really see it myself, but it's always really nice when it happens. today this pretty girl told me that i was remarkably beautiful (i was not feeling this way at all. i'd been on my feet for about seven hours and was tired af) and it was like she'd cast a revive spell on my worn-out soul. it made me smile real big for the next hour of my shift, and the time just flew by. i need to be better about dispensing compliments to others when i think of them.
when a guy compliments me, it freaks me out a little, but when a girl compliments me, i absolutely melt. i guess i trust a woman's appreciation of aesthetics way more than a dude's.

Anonymous 5576

I used to get those a lot when I was very underweight. I'm taller than average and have an acceptable face with skin and hair colors that aste not common where I live so I'd get a lot of "you're so pretty, are you a model?".

They stopped as soon as my eating disorder shifted patterns and I went up to a healthy weight range… so in my experience it has to do with the general ensemble of how you look, not just some measurable amount of beauty.

Anonymous 5636

>>5408
Never, I'm very jealous of you.

Anonymous 5672

>>5408
No, never. People are usually either dismissive or terse with me.



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