Not OP, but I’ll respond.
Personally, I have grown up very sheltered, because that’s what I’ve preferred, and probably because of that (and asperger) I have great difficulties in navigating complex situations, and explaining myself.
My greatest fear is being reduced to a child-like entity, not in a ridiculing way (of course that’d be the worst outcome, but that’s not as common) but in a benevolently belittling way.
I have had it happen with many friends and crushes, and now, when I detect a slightest sign of them possibly thinking I’m disabled, stupid, or weird, I immediately start to look for ways to escape the situtation and to avoid facing them again. Out of inner shame.