>>64690>how long have you been with your bf?
almost a year now. his family thinks im too ugly for him. my sister was jealous that i had a handsome bf and tried to cause a rift in our relationship by parading around in a thong and a crop top all the while flirting with him. people take creep shots of him in public and one lady even approached us asking to keep her photo. someone mistook him for a celebrity. girls try to hook up with him, sense hes ‘different’ (not a macho man and really quiet and shy) and only see him as a sexual object (which i think made him happy that idc about looks and i like his values and personality). women turn their heads to frequently check him out if he’s in the same room as them and enjoy talking to him just so they can look at his face (he’s an awful conversationalist and people think he’s boring). he gets compliments out of the blue because of the halo effect, and he’s an awkward bean and ignores the compliments, doesn’t say thank you or anything lol. i don’t like how he gets so much attention because of his appearance and by proxy i get it as well. except it’s bad attention i.e. “SHES
your gf???” its painful and it stings, but i know he loves me and won’t look at other women. the words got to him once but i talkedit out with him. the only opinions that ever matter in a relationship should just be the ones who are in it. no external influences should EVER make you or your partner feel bad about themselves.
you should be careful about his social media use. people use it as an excuse to check out attractive people and ‘slide into the DMs’. i hope he doesn’t get too many DMs, you might want to ask him about what goes on in his accounts, if he ever gets private messages. he sounds like a good bf though, doesn’t sound like he’s trying to make you aware of his attractiveness intentionally, doesn’t sound like he’s making you jealous. he just exists, and that’s the way he was born - with good looks. does he use his looks to his advantage? those who do that are a little shady. i think the ones who are self conscious, as in aware of how they look attractive to others and dislike the attention, are really sweet and innocent.
did your bf suggest you go to the gym and wear makeup or is it of your own accord? you can try to improve you looks if you want but it may cause resentment that you have to work extra hard and do all these beauty rituals and routines to even look somewhat in your bfs league when he just naturally looks like that. plastic surgery may be taking it too far. i have the ugliest nose ever and won’t ever get rhinoplasty cuz to me, plastic surgery may enable a slippery slope into body dysphoria. it won’t ever solve self esteem issues for me, it’s more of a psychological issue i have to work on.