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What is the most fucked up thing your boyfriend ever wanted from you? Anonymous 65034

My first boyfriend turned out to be a porn addict. He was also generally a loser. I wish I had the confidence I have now.

>has a foot-fetish and wanted footjobs

>wanted me to watch porn with him, which was one of the most mood-killing experiences I ever had

I broke up with him not soon after he asked me to try anal. I hate how that's a thing now. I hate how so many moids can't enjoy normal sex anymore and demand these weird things from you.

Anonymous 65037

My first boyfriend who became pornsick (I mean he was already a porn addict) and abusive after 2 or 3 years shared my nude pic with some internet strangers, he told me the shit they told him, and talked about how much he wanted to give me to a bunch of men to fuck me so he could watch. It was difficult since I was codependent, but I managed to break up with him and cut off all contact some months later

Anonymous 65039

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>>65037
Porn turned your bf into a cuckold?

Anonymous 65040

>>65034
When I was in 10th grade my ex-bf (12th grade) had erotic child modeling in his phone. He wasn't hiding it from me either.

Anonymous 65041

>>65034
Some mild mommy play.
Which felt perfectly fine because I've occasionally asked for daddy play.

Anonymous 65042

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>>65034
>boyfriend
h-haha… Also do you have the original image of the OP?

>>65037
Why does porn rot their brains like that?

>>65040
Wtf did you not report him for that shit??

Anonymous 65043

Watching porn with your partner is incredibly vanilla.

Anonymous 65046

>tit job
>creampie
>lactation
why are moids so nasty

Anonymous 65047

>>65046
The other two I can get but how is cumming inside nasty? It's just normal ass reproduction.

Anonymous 65049

>>65047
probably because her boyfriend expected her to just take hormone changing birth control pills, just so he can finish inside or even worse expect her to just casually abort a potential fetus, if that didn't work and for her to be completely fine with it

Anonymous 65050

>>65046
>creampie
>nasty
How? It's literally the point of sex. It's like moids who have an "impregnation fetish", asshole that isn't a fetish it's the entire point. How do you manage to abstract away procreation from sex that hard?

>>65049
Nasty isn't the right word for what you're describing. First half sounds selfish, second half sounds dangerous, but not nasty.

Anonymous 65051

>>65050
>impregnation fetish
let me tell you – this is different from just wanting to impregnate a woman. it's more about being a "bull" and "breeding" them. I met a guy into this once who bragged about how many women needed to get abortions after him. impregnation fetish ≠ having children fetish.

Anonymous 65052

>>65051
When I first heard about something called "impregnation fetish" I thought it was a misnomer, because I imagined just an innocent erotification of a couple wanting to get pregnant. Not really something you can call a real fetish … so I thought.

But then I found out that it's not just perverted, but downright sinister, because the goal is impregnation followed by an abortion and then further impregnation and abortions.

Anonymous 65053

>>65051
>let me tell you – this is different from just wanting to impregnate a woman. it's more about being a "bull" and "breeding" them.
So the point of sex?
>I met a guy into this once who bragged about how many women needed to get abortions after him. impregnation fetish ≠ having children fetish.
Under a context where abortion exists I suppose. If we're using anecdotal evidence then I've never met a moid who had this "fetish" that was gungho about the fetus getting aborted. It's still the point of sex at the end of the day.

Anonymous 65054

>>65052
That sounds like "abortion fetish" if anything.

Anonymous 65055

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>>65046
>tfw a-cup and bf is into tit jobs and lactation
why is he dating me if he so obviously fetishizes big boobed women?

Anonymous 65056

>>65054
>>65053
Exactly. It's really a misnomer. You should really rethink your fetishes, if it involves the constant misbirth of dead fetuses.

I am pro-choice, but that is honestly really fucked up and makes me gag the more I think about it all.

>>65055
Maybe making you feel worthless is his way to make you loyal to him. Moids can be evil like that.

Anonymous 65058

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>>65053
>It's still the point of sex at the end of the day.
you are innocent. impregnation fetish as it's understood in the fetish community is NOT the point of sex. picrel (warning it's graphic.)
>>65054
and "yoga pants" are just leggings, but porn sites still use the term yoga pants because it's not like these things are under scientific review lol

Anonymous 65059

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>>65058
Okay. Talking about the "abortion fetish" and seeing this picture before you put the spoiler up is enough for today.

Anonymous 65060

>>65059
my bad I checked sage instead of spoiler and tried to delete asap :(

Anonymous 65061

>>65058
All those pictures are not "impregnation", that's porn about fucking/torturing pregnant women. I've never seen "impregnation" used to refer to this in any place I've perused, whatsoever.

Anonymous 65062

>>65061
girl that tells me you haven't done much looking. I know I'm right and so is >>65056 but go on believing whatever you want, I guess.

Anonymous 65063

>>65062
And I know I'm right, it's a fun world we live in.

Anonymous 65064

>>65042
>Wtf did you not report him for that shit??
I was in 10th grade, didn't think much of it at the time.

>>65058
When you get down to the pregnancy fetish, it is not about the large belly. No, it is neither the swollen feet or the large areolas. It comes down to the fact that moids are attracted to what's inside, that they can get their penises and ejaculate as close as they can to a unborn child without repercussions. It is like peadophilia for cowards.

Anonymous 65065

>>65063
go ahead and put out an ad for an impregnation fetish, see what you get my retarded friend

Anonymous 65066

>>65065
Do you really wish harm upon the retarded that much? Woah, that's a lot of resentment there.

Anonymous 65067

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>>65066
I tried to educate her, there's only so much I can do

Anonymous 65068

>>65065
Why on earth would I do that? I don't want to get pregnant.

Anonymous 65069

>>65055
>>65056
Don't be mean, maybe her boyfriend just doesn't care that much about anon's breast size. It's a fetish, not a requirement. Anon should still talk to her bf about it though, even if he does prefer them to be big (which I doubt) that doesn't mean he doesn't love her and stuff.

Anonymous 65070

>>65039
Not exactly, he still wanted to fuck me himself.

Anonymous 65074

>>65055
I dunno, maybe he likes you or something.

Anonymous 65079

>>65034
I can kinda relate to this. My first and only (ex) bf used to have a big foot and shoe fetish, especially for high heeled sandals. At first I thought it was nice because I'd get free foot rubs and he'd kiss them every once in a while like as a love-language thing. He'd put my shoes on for me and generally be really sweet and low key about the fetish itself, but around six months later he asked me to start stepping on food and stuff. Not just crumbs or whatever, but I remember he bought a whole freaking sandwich from Arby's he wanted me to step on before he ate. I obviously refused, and he'd keep trying as the weeks passed, but one day out of nowhere I walked in on him jerking off to a video of an Asian lady trampling a bunny to death. It literally wasn't safe anymore. It was like something out of a true crime biography of a psychopath. I remember crying on the phone with him from my mom's house and I still can't get that poor bunny out of my head. I'm pretty sure I got PTSD because every time I've seen a bunny since that's what I think of. Moral of the story: be very careful of moids from the internet.

Anonymous 65080

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He wanted me to smear my eyeliner to make it look like I had been hurt and crying. He was into all sorts of disgusting BDSM shit. He also once got me to send a pic of my v against my will (long story). I wish I could ruin his fucking life, i honestly fantasize about killing him because I hate him so much. He had a disgusting tumblr page with BDSM/torture shit (this was long b4 tumblr banned porn).
>>65037
I fucking hate pornsick men.

Anonymous 65081

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>>65080
Samefagging but holy shit how could I forget? He was into DDLG too and loved acting like a child. He’d send me shit like this
>>65079
This is horrifying. We’ve all heard how murders start from animal violence and then it gets more extreme. That is sociopathic. I’m so sorry. I’d honestly want a restraining order.

Anonymous 65086

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>>65080
>He also once got me to send a pic of my v against my will
haha same
t. the person you replied to
My mother told me so many times to not do nudes… I refused for so long but I finally gave in. I felt so fucking disappointed in myself for having allowed that to happen, and for doing something that would disappoint my mom so much.
I shouldn't have deleted the nudes and videos he sent me, after all. To at least be able to use that as a threat. I can't even be 100% sure he actually deleted my pics like he said when he apologized years later.

>>65079
>but one day out of nowhere I walked in on him jerking off to a video of an Asian lady trampling a bunny to death.
holy shit
ugh, that's nauseating to read. I'm sorry you met such a disgusting and actually dangerous motherfucker.
I remember my boyfriend was super into anime gore, too (though I don't think it was a fetish like that crushing shit some people are into). He'd show me drawings of anime girls being tortured, skinned alive, having their breasts cut off, etc., while they cried in agony, all in extreme detail. He also said he liked to watch snuff and had become desensitized to it. To be fair he was an edgy teen with a shitty abusive father and was deeply depressed and full of rage because of that. He did get better though.

Anonymous 65089

>>65055
Because he loves you, dingus.

Anonymous 65090

>>65086
How did your ex get you to send one against your will if I may ask? My ex was an intense pathological liar who fabricated an entire 2nd life about himself. He made it seem as if he lived this edgy intense life as a hacker and drug dealer on the deep web. He would fabricate new tragic, edgy stories to me every single day. I cannot remember a single day in which he was not fabricating. I seriously lived in a different reality when I was with him where I felt I was constantly being watched and in danger. He ended up creating a situation in which he told me if I didn’t send him the picture of my v, he would get hurt or killed. I was 15 and the intense lies didn’t start until a ~year into the relationship so that’s why I was so gullible to it all and trusted him. This went on for over a year (or close to that). I was deeply entrenched. I regret ever sending nudes as well. I would ruin his fucking life if I could. He’s the son of a barely famous director. Nothing against his father or mother though. They were nice people. They just raised a fucking abusive pervert.

Anonymous 65096

>>65089
If he "loved" her, he wouldn't expose her to his fetish of which she is obviously not an object. Dump him anon, seriously. It might seem extreme but that insecurity will never leave you.

Anonymous 65097

>>65096
We don't know the specifics, anon. Maybe she outright asked him about it and he answered honestly, maybe she found his search history, we don't know if anon was being an ass and telling her to her face that he likes bigger breasts.

Anonymous 65098

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>>65055
Convince him to get into naizuri.

Anonymous 65099

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>>65098
This might be based, the bf might appreciate anon trying to accommodate his kinks, but at the end of the day it vastly depends on whether anon likes it herself or not. Imo if he's with her he doesn't much mind it.

Anonymous 65102

>>65097
we were having sex and then he told me his fantasies after sucking my nipples. it turns him on to dirty talk like that so it's not like he did it out of spite or anything. he was just really in the moment and didn't think of his words. he said he wanted to tit fuck me and wished i could lactate so he could drink my milk. those two make me think he prefers big boobed women.
at one point he tried to motor boat me and it didnt work. nothing happened. he looked so disappointed. he tried to make me feel better by saying 'i guess this doesnt work irl'. motorboating only works for big chested ladies so after he said this, now i know for a fact he prefers bigger chests.
i feel so pathetic and unwanted because i cant accommodate his fantasies. i know he loves me for other reasons but it just sucks to know that i'm not his physical type that turns him on.
he had a huge erection for my more well-endowed sister and it made me feel like shit so much. now i know he isnt that physically attracted to me and i feel so insecure than ever before. i keep having dreams that hes going to run away with my sister. i confronted about it with him and he said he hates her personality and thinks she's a horrible person, but is ashamed to admit that he likes her chest. i hope one day he stops sneaking glances at her boobs and butt.
sometimes i regret ever dating a man because i felt so much more relaxed not trying to compete with other women for his attention. coolidge effect fucking sucks and i hate how men are horny monsters

Anonymous 65103

>>65102
I wouldn't be worried, if he says he loves you and it seems truly genuine then he probably does love you. I'm sure there's also something about him that you don't especially love, like you'd rather he have different eye color, or he dressed better, or conveyed his emotions a bit better, yet will you leave him for it? Probably not, nobody can be 100% perfect idealized match.

Anonymous 65105

>>65103
i know he loves me and will never leave me. i'm just really sad and angry that men are slaves to their biological impulses. it isn't like he wanted to get a boner for my sister but it just happens because of visual stimuli. he honestly really really despises her but his stupid male brain sees big boobs in a low cut bikini and makes his dick get hard. i love him a lot too but now i feel a little wary around him after this. i dont think i can love him fully until he proves to me that he can get his eyes under control.
>>65104
i kinda wanna ask him if he ever watched porn and what genres because thats where all these ideas stem from. he probably watched it ages ago when he was 18. im afraid to ask because hes brutally honest lol. he doesnt watch it anymore so he really is unused to visual stimuli. thats why the boner for my sister thing happened. virgins who dont watch porn will get horny over anything unfortunately.
>Also why the fuck is your bf ogling your SISTER? What an asshole. No guy should be making you feel bad for your body, or comparing you to your own sister!
she was wearing a bikini thong two-piece and it was hard for him to resist because men unfortunately can't help but stare at a women wearing things like that. i talked to him about it and he's going to try to fix the wandering eyes problem. he never directly compared me to her but his actions makes me feel like he prefers her body more than mine and it makes me feel like shit

Anonymous 65106

>>65102
Oh. Disregard my post >>65096 then. He probably just likes boobs, like most men. Having lactation and motorboating fantasies does not necessarily mean he has a big boob fetish or even prefers them in his gf.
>motorboating only works for big chested ladies
30FF here, motorboating and tittyfucking does not work IRL very well in any size because boobs are soft and jiggly, not the hard sacks of silicone usually depicted in porn and hentai. Other things also factor in like how wide they are spaced from each other.
>he had a huge erection for my more well-endowed sister
Now this is a bit weirder. He had an actual erection for your sister? And you know this how? Guys get random erections all the time, it could be that.
Honestly anon, it sucks but it seems like it's mostly an insecurity of yours and there's not much he can do to make you feel better.

Anonymous 65107

>>65105
If you fear he will cheat on you with your sister I think you can relax, I trust the women of this imageboard's judgment in picking partners who won't do something like that, if you even comment that he isn't porn sick I'd be even less wary of it. Although yeah you should try talking about his leering eyes with him, let him know it makes you feel insecure and you dislike it.

Anonymous 65109

>>65106
thanks for the reassurance, anon. i'm new to relationships and overthink things. i don't know how men are like and this is my first exposure to a man. i still feel overwhelmingly insecure though and nothing my bf says can help me get out of it. i should work on myself and stop being so anxious about it. i also want to avoid my sister for life because he has a strong physical attraction to her lol. too bad it isn't possible because shes family and my mom likes to host family reunions and get-togethers. my self esteem will most likely crumble again if i see him struggle interacting with her. i tried talking to her about it and requested her to cover up and she basically said 'not my problem its your bfs problem' and 'i can dress in whatever the hell i want'. she is very gloaty that my bf likes her better than me & rubs it in my face because she is that type of sister.
>He had an actual erection for your sister? And you know this how?
i know his quirks when he gets boners. he kept crossing his legs and putting things on his lap around her. and i wiped up water he spilt on his lap and i felt it lol. anyway i already confronted him about it and he told me about how men get random erections from dumb stuff like bumpy roads and leaning against surfaces. but he admitted that he got a boner because of her boobs.
>>65107
ik it wont happen because im very picky and choosy when it comes to men. im just kinda disappointed a man i thought was a good guy is still a slave to his biological impulses. i dread the next time he interacts with my sister. if he can't show his strength of will, i'm probably going to be sad for the rest of my life. i know he won't cheat on me with others but to know that his eyes get all leery and he still gets turned on by other women makes me so depressed.

Anonymous 65110

>tfw I'm the pornsick coomer by comparison
He has fetishes, but refuses to actually indulge because he feels like he'd be hurting and degrading me.

Anonymous 65121

>>65081
>>65086
Yeah, I flew back home to my mom's house the day it happened. It's been a few years and he doesn't even know where my family lives. I think the worst part about it is that I opened up so much and someone that I thought was unique and cared for me in their own way was a monster. I just felt dumb and felt like it would happen again if I went into a relationship with another person who I caught feelings for.

Anonymous 65125

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>>65079
Oh my god. I am very sorry for you anon and hope that everything will be okay for you on the long run… This is honestly incredibly frigthening. I cannot possibly understand the mindset of someone that is even INTO this shit.

Anonymous 65127

Human creativity never ceases to amaze me. I can't even comprehend being able to imagine such a comic, let alone put in the effort to create it.

Also, my husband is super vanilla, which is fine. His one kink is that he always wants to do it in the shower, which I hate, so we basically just don't. No idea what he thinks is appealing about that.

Anonymous 65132

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>>65127
Comic isn't original, it's an edit.

Anonymous 65133

>>65127
>His one kink is that he always wants to do it in the shower, which I hate, so we basically just don't. No idea what he thinks is appealing about that.
It's wet and water is pouring on both your naked bodies while you are in the throes of passion. Movies and smut fiction kinda make it seem romantic as fuck.

t. stupid virgin with that same fantasy

Anonymous 65135

>>65081
I had to read this image multiple times before I could be sure that it's actual fetish smut, and not merely a humorous satirist making comedic parodies of fetish smut.

Anonymous 65136

>>65127
>>65133
Shower sex is fun. I imagine it's bit hard if you're out of shape, but I personally like it. You need a good shower though.

Anonymous 65137

>>65127
Cleaning each other in the shower is both hot and romantic, but actually having sex in there is a waste of water.

Just become an environmentalist and tell him that you can't indulge his kink because you need to conserve our limited resources.

Anonymous 65138

>>65133
it's kind of unsafe, you could slip and get hurt so BE CAREFUL.
But shower affection (sexual or not) is really nice.
To have a moid scrub your back while you're both under warm water makes it feel like he loves you and it's all going to be okay and he's not going to beat you

Anonymous 65139

>>65127
It's a meme. Someone saw the original and thought it would be funny to change it. I like this sort of edgy humor tbh as long as it's not crudely oversexualized.

>>65132
Oh, you found it! I tried for a few minutes, but wasn't able to.

Anonymous 65141

>>65138
>implying I'll ever get to experience lovemaking in the first place, much less in the shower
:')

Anonymous 65144

>>65090
>How did your ex get you to send one against your will if I may ask?
He insisted for months, and every time I told him no. That way, slowly, he got me to reconsider it and think it wouldn't be that bad. I was young, weak and naive, and I was also very in love and excited since it was my first real and intimate relationship. Back then I lacked the spine I have now.
Years later, my second boyfriend asked for nudes and I always told him no. I also told him why and what had happened the first time, and to be honest, telling him that was a mistake. He was annoyed, like "because of that guy I can't have my gf's nudes", instead of being more understanding. Still, he was a good boy and forgot about it soon, this was one of the very rare shitty things about him tbh.
I had another boyfriend, a LDR, who would ALWAYS ask me for nudes, and it took a while for him to stop that, even though he knew perfectly that it was a terrible idea. What an idiot.

Anonymous 65184

>>65125
Thanks, and I don't get it either. Wherever he is, I hope he's doing better… for the world's sake.

Anonymous 65189

>>65058
that isn't an impregnation fetish, that is just BDSM on pregnant women.

Anonymous 65191

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>>65190
>poster
>singular

Anonymous 65195

>>65109
>i don't know how men are like and this is my first exposure to a man.
Men have very vivid imaginations when it comes to sex, and they get goofy ideas based on their own fantasies and porn. They're also very "in the moment" and don't think far ahead. The average not-a-shithead guy isn't looking to spite you or make you feel upset, they're just impulsive. I can assure you that his motorboat attempt was a "monkey see monkey do" thing he saw online based on his comment of how it doesn't seem to work IRL.

I don't believe wholly in the idea that men only want the physical stuff in bed and that women are more about emotional connection, but it does feel like there's some truth to it. Men are "physically motivated" in that they wanna squeeze and suck on everything.

Anonymous 65197

>>65192
No, you're right, it's far easier to take one guys fucked up tastes and just generalize. Saves a lot of time and thinking.

Anonymous 65205

>>65064
When you get down to the pregnancy fetish, it is not about the large belly. No, it is neither the swollen feet or the large areolas. It comes down to the fact that moids are attracted to what's inside, that they can get their penises and ejaculate as close as they can to a unborn child without repercussions. It is like peadophilia for cowards.
>peadophilia for cowards
Lol I agree the pregnancy shit is fucking disgusting but if you ACTUALLY think its about ejaculating near a baby you need to go touch grass.

Anonymous 65210

He wanted to roleplay where he was a young boy and I was his babysitter. I didn't mind though

Anonymous 65211

>>65138
I love doing this with my bf but now I am wondering if he did this before with an ex and got retroactively jealous fuck

Anonymous 65534

>>65210
What about the reverse?

Anonymous 65595

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we're in a LDR and what we do usually consists of describing our fantasies to the other. this was about a year ago, but while he was really into the moment he described a scenario of his which involved a threesome with a mutual friend of ours. i have mixed feelings about her, but the part that really stuck with me was that he actually knows her irl while i live in another continent. i just went along texting him while crying back then because i didn't want to ruin the moment, but i kept thinking about it a lot since. fortunately i actually brought it up later again this year and we had a talk about how much it upset me. he's much less pornsick now than he was back then and feels terrible about it, but he apologised and we're both over it now.

Anonymous 65596

This thread actually makes me glad I don’t have a boyfriend

Anonymous 65597

My ex was a long term porn addict who jerked off to porn everyday, but he was also super vanilla. In fact he was grossed out by pretty much any sex act that wasn’t just regular fucking or oral. I feel lucky that he wasn’t some deranged deviant, but at the same time he was kind of boring. If I was gonna say he had a fetish it was probably that he liked videos and nudes of girls with really tight perfect looking bodies. This ended up making me feel a lot more insecure than if he was jerking off to ugly girls puking and pooping all over each other or something.

Anonymous 65609

>>65595
How do you know he didn't cheat? Not trying to infect you with my cynicism, but I don't want you to be naive either.

Anonymous 65614

>>65609
weve been together for 3 years now, all i can do is trust him. other than that though, the girl in question is always in some type of relationship trouble and has like, 17 exes? he finds that really offputting so i don't think he'd pursue her.

Anonymous 65615

>>65609
>How do you know he didn't cheat?
There's no way of proving a negative, thus no way she can "know" he didn't cheat. Humans developed this tool called "trust" that informs that until given evidence otherwise they're behaving as you would expect.

Anonymous 65617

>>65595
Congratulations for being mature and handling it in a grown up way anon.

Anonymous 65649

The only thing I'm getting from this thread is that most of you would be/are boring as hell in bed.

Anonymous 65651

>>65649
stop watching porn

Anonymous 65652

>>65109
he sounds like a massive loser. dump him. your sister is also retarded and probably big boobs is the only thing she has going on for her body-wise thats why she seeks validation from her fucking sister's autistic boyfriend.
you deserve better than these two body inflation fetishists. there are good men out there. they're rare but worth it.

Anonymous 65653

>>65651
Start watching porn and expand your horizons, God. Most of you sound like a /pol/ tradwife.

>Um, anything that isn't missionary for the purpose of procreation is degenerate and you should burn in hell

Anonymous 65668

>>65652
i won’t stop dating my boyfriend because of that. yeah it’s an awkward situation and i feel awful about it, but i know hell fix himself up next time around. if not, id rather be alone than have these inflicting fears of insecurity. id say it isnt worth it to date men because these downsides really outweigh the positives. i never cared about my appearance that much before i met him and i never had any insecurities over my body. but when he ogles women with bigger boobs it hurts too much. he may say im perfect as is but sometimes ppl say one thing & their actions speak differently
anyway my sister is evil and conniving. i never had that great of a relationship to her because she’s always been bitchy and competitive with me over everything. to be competitive over my own bf when she has own is just another one of her antics and i shouldve seen it coming.

Anonymous 65669

>>65653
because everything that isn't kinkshit is "missionary for the purpose of procreation". lay off the porn.

Anonymous 65670

>>65649
>>65653
Imagine getting this irrationally upset because people aren't as overly pornsick as you are.

Anonymous 65672

>>65668
i have to wonder, why are you with him anon?
if it's because you genuinely love him, and i'm talking about actual love not "i tolerate his companionship and grew fond about his presence due to all the time we spent as a couple", then i'd get it. i myself didn't get out of painful situations because of very strong and passionate feelings towards the other person.
but if you're with him out of fear of not being able to do better, loneliness and the like, then i'd say the relationship is a huge mistake and not very worth it. at least based on what you told us.
i might be wrong as you definitely have more perspective on it than an internet rando.

however, there's one thing you should address imo regardless of if you keep dating the guy or not.
you mentioned something like "men can't help it" regarding this kind of disgusting behavior, and it's not only not true, but even if it was as you said it'd be better to just not engage with them at this point. you don't have to accept something you deem hurtful and what is honestly a massive lack of respect and self control just because you believe men are just built that way. dont baby him into forgiving this kind of serious wrongdoings, he needs to step up and improve if he wants to be with you, or you're out. being accomodating with men is a mistake because he will start taking you more and more for granted and will never become a decent person.

Anonymous 65673

He wanted me to do mom/son roleplay and femdom stuff with him, and threatened to cheat on me if I didn't.
Now I'm very into those things and sh*ta. He apologized, but it's just not nice.

Anonymous 65674

>>65669
>>65670
>because everything that isn't kinkshit is "missionary for the purpose of procreation". lay off the porn.

Sorry, have you read the shit people have been protesting against in this thread? Watching porn together? Footjobs? Anal? These aren't "pornsick" they're basic as fuck. Men and women have been doing this crap together since the stone age, before porn was readily available to the masses.

You guys actually deserve to be alone, I certainly wouldn't want you in bed.

Anonymous 65675

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>>65670
Imagine making fun of your fellow women for participating in kinks and calling them pornsick as if that makes you any different from libfems who shame women who don't like sex or non-vanilla sex.
>>65058
That image is indeed disgusting. However…

Stop acting like that's not one fetish paired with another. There are plenty of normal guys who want families and romanticize babymaking and cuddling after. If you are in fetish communities you should know how specific people can get with their interests. Moreover even if you pick examples from fetish communities on the internet majority of your samples will come from people who are into extremes. People who just have an interest like outfits or desires that excite them like "passionate marathon sex to make a baby with my wife" are not going to be posting on fetlife and reddit.

If you knew anyone who is into a fetish you'd also know that fetishes are not a requirement and most people do not engage in "active" kinks like BDSM that require right mood and preparation, or even rough sex. On the internet you see people who are too obsessed or hornyposting and there is not a good example of people who are lightly into their fetish or have a middle ground.

Sometimes just a "setting" is enough to fulfill the desire for said kink.
My boyfriend has an impregnation fetish. He's always wanted family and kids, and we'll have unprotected sex once we get married and have a stable home. For him it's just loving, passionate creampie sex, and having a family after. He is not into pregnancy sexually. He did not even tell me, I made him say it.
>>65052
Like >>65054 said, mention of abortion is a pretty significant addition to the impregnation kink and saying that everyone wants an abortion instead of a child is downright stupid, not to say that there are moids who think "breeding" random women and being a stud is hot.
>>65065



As for what's the most fucked up thing my boyfriend has done, I made him do brat play with me early on. We did it a few times and at some point he called me "sex doll" for the first time. I didn't expect him to do something like that and I was still wary because radfems on the internet made me overly paranoid of moids who have fetishes (as if it's impossible for a man to have kinks and not be abusive, like me)
I actually enjoy being called a doll, and we have done rougher things than that, but it was a bit off putting for me because for a moment it made me think "is he the bogeyman I see on the internet who just sees me as an object?" (Which is a very real kind of man but not my boyfriend)

Anyway, these days I love him calling me that and make him say it if he does not bring it up himself. I felt alright doing that with him because each time I was reminded that he loves me and making love to me above all and a fetish is just a fetish. He also calls me doll outside of sex romantically because I think it's really cute and I love him picking outfits for me and giving me kisses as I sit on his lap.

>>65065
The kind of moid who will show up to perform fetishes with random women is very very different from the kind of man who requires some intimacy and safety with a partner first. You ask degenerates to show you what a fetish is and you will get degenerate acts. Ultimately fetishes are extremely personal and depend on the person. A good man will not be ruined by porn or have abusive fetishes, even if light tradthots on the internet define BDSM as abusive by default.

>>65653
I don't blame them for not understanding kinks because most porn is disgusting and unappealing. You might not even realize you are into something because 3D porn is so ugly. The best way to test if you like something, I think that personally it's to read erotica, people's experiences, or try 2D porn.

Anonymous 65676

>>65674
anal IS pornsick and dangerous, no matter what moids tell you

Anonymous 65677

>>65676
How can something that's been done since the dawn of humanity be pornsick?

It's only dangerous if you go in raw, which is apparently something a lot of stupid couples do.

Anonymous 65678

>>65674
>People have been watching porn and doing anal since the stone age!!
Coomer education. No, drawing tits on the wall is not the same thing as CUM DRIPPING BBW MILFS ANAL WHORES GET THEIR HOLES STRETCHED VOL 3 HD VERSION 48:44 lmao.
Anal sex is literally painful and unnatural unless you're a dude whose g-spot is in his ass, and even they need to do things to "prepare". Dick doesn't belong in ass, cope forever.

Anonymous 65679

>>65678
>People have been watching porn…since the stone age!!
Quote where I said that.

Anonymous 65680

>>65679
>>65678
Alright, yeah I see I fucked up the clarification on what men and women do with one another and have been doing with one another since the dawn of time. I figured people would understand smut magazines and internet porn naturally weren't around in the stone age.

Anal is fine if you prep. I've taken dicks up my ass for years with no issues.

Anonymous 65681

>>65680
good for you but that doesn't mean women who don't want dicks up their ass are boring prudish /pol/ tradwives

Anonymous 65682

>>65681
You're right, it doesn't.

Calling people who like it "pornsick" however does.

Anonymous 65684

>>65683
Feel free to make your own thread and define what your meaningless buzzword "cumbrain" encapsulates. You seem to be bitter about anyone with a kink, and that's your own problem. Be honest about it instead of pretending it's unjust or wrong or whatever.

Anonymous 65685

>>65684
i agree with you, but to be fair, this is a thread for venting over unpleasant sexual experiences and the anon was the one who started with the "youre boring no one wants you" thing.

i think some of the anons here are exaggerating, but that's my perspective. to them those things truly might be gross and that's okay, unnecessarily invalidating their feelings and experiences in a thread like this is meant to cause backlash and that's only to be expected.

Anonymous 65686

>>65672
>i have to wonder, why are you with him anon?
1) first love hits hard 2) same ideals and values on relationships, marriage, family 3) fits my personality type 4) doesnt watch porn anymore and criticizes the industry 5) has no social media 6) hes committed to me

i have spoken to him before about controlling his eyes. ever since then, hes made baby steps in improving his gaze. when we went out with my sister last time, he didn't even look at her chest even though she was wearing another crop top bralette thing (granted, he didnt even look at her and ignored her completely like she wasnt there lol). i think he will improve! i did give him shit for not controlling his eyes and i think i scared him out of looking at another woman ever again.

>you mentioned something like "men can't help it" regarding this kind of disgusting behavior

can men really be respectful human beings and not ogle women like meat? how do you train someone's brain to go against their biological wiring to impregnate any healthy looking female? i mean, thats what i hear both women and men saying, esp. with the common saying that 'boys will be boys' and 'men are horndogs'.
i see gross comments by men on 4ch all the time, stupid greentext stories about seeing a cute girl on the subway and them just ogling her fantasizing about her in all sorts of gross sexual ways. usually they stare and think about her boobs/butt. is that what every male thinks when they see a healthy woman on the street?? im so confused on human nature because im a shutin and my sexuality is severely stunted.

Anonymous 65688

>>65674
Just because some anons aren't into anal or whatever you think is tame and as normal as missionary, doesn't mean they are boring.

Anonymous 65703

>>65686
>i see gross comments by men on 4ch all the time, stupid greentext stories about seeing a cute girl on the subway and them just ogling her fantasizing about her in all sorts of gross sexual ways. usually they stare and think about her boobs/butt. is that what every male thinks when they see a healthy woman on the street??
Stories on 4chan get attention specifically because they aren't what every person experiences. The more absurd and outlandish a story is, the more (You)s a poster collects. The more deviant and disconnected from the rest of humanity a storyteller portrays themselves, the more entertainment the story provides.

Anonymous 65705

>>65674
>Watching porn together
tbh, this never seemed like something that's good for a relationship to me.

Like, imagine watching your S.O. getting excited watching a stranger have sex… seems pretty close to cuckshit to me and that's cancerous as fuck to a relationship IMHO.

Not just on our end either, I don't see how it would be healthy for a man to watch his gf/wife getting off to watching a strange man have sex. Seems to me like it opens all kinds of doors to questions that don't need to be asked and problems wouldn't necessarily be issues without involving porn in a relationship.

AND all that isn't even getting into how porn is fake as fuck, how porn usage tends to escalate, all the problems with the industry etc.

Anonymous 65718

>>65703
>Stories on 4chan get attention specifically because they aren't what every person experiences.
Anonymity brings out what people hide due to societal expectations. This place isn't free from it either, some of the stuff posted here is pretty heinous.

Anonymous 65726

>>65705
Anon, just like people enjoy specific aspects of fetishes, it depends on how you actually use the porn and what excites you about it

I send my boyfriend lewd tumblr style gifs (real porn) and artistic looking hentai I find on pixiv.
If something like watching porn destroys your relationship or hurts your sex life maybe your bond is not that strong

>imagine watching your S.O. getting excited watching a stranger have sex


we try to fluster each other, like "see. this is you and me :)" or "see, this is what we'll do in a few :)" it's fun, you get to see stuff you haven't thought of doing before or get reminded like oh we haven't made love sitting like that in a long time.

it doesn't have to be you looking at porn like a third party or being attracted to the pornstar. you can just imagine doing that particular scenario with your partner. but also its not something that everyone would be into or get excited by

Anonymous 65740

>>65726
>see. this is you and me :)" or "see, this is what we'll do in a few :)
God dirty talk is so fucking cringe to me. Good for you but man I absolutely hate it. Your post made me gag a bit.

Anonymous 65743

>>65686
>I mean, thats what i hear both women and men saying, esp. with the common saying that 'boys will be boys' and 'men are horndogs'.
I think this is just an average person thing. When I worked, one girl would always talk to me about the guys leaving a store and would rave about how tall they were and how they could destroy her, and the other confessed about not being able to stop thinking about being knocked up when she saw a man interacting positively with babies. It's easy to see examples like this and attribute the vast difference from yourself to sex, and it's also easy to project your own impulses and motivations onto others. When I actually look to talk to men, I usually can find some that can genuinely interact and aren't overwhelmed by monkey brain, but in general if someone is pursuing you the odds that they have a genuine reason to based on personality and interests are slim, and that'll end up being what you're exposed to the most. People just need to stop making excuses for guys, they absolutely can and do do better.

Anonymous 65746

ngl, purefags have become pretty cringe

Anonymous 65935

>>65746
I don’t understand why people can’t just have a moderate attitude towards sex. Like don’t date a gross coombrain who wants you to make puke porn and post it on pornhub with him, but you also don’t have to think you’re going to hell just because you did it doggy with your man.

Anonymous 65950

>>65597
Wow that's like the worst of both worlds, he's porn addicted but so vanilla you'd rather he was more fucked up. What a weird position to be in, if he wasn't watching porn he'd probably be even more vanilla.
>>65653
Get out of here with your gross porn shilling, porn has detrimental effects on everyone and especially men. Good luck with your porn addled partners though

Anonymous 90335

>>90330
awww, it's lost

Anonymous 90355

>>65673
I know this a year ago but holy shit, that is way, way over the line. If you aren't making this up, dump his ass immediately and then head straight to a therapist.

Anonymous 90357

My ex (female) was adamant about me making an OnlyFans and started to push the idea on me since I was a minor. She at some point kept saying I was non-binary despite there being no evidence of this and it made me very uncomfortable. She convinced me to do one erotic (non-porn) photoshoot literally the day after I turned 18 and I regret it.
After we broke up, I dated this guy who really, really wanted me to peg him. He wasn't interested in penetrative sex, just wanted to be pegged. I did not comply, maybe I'm too sub or idk. I don't like emasculated men so we broke up very quickly.
My current bf hasn't really asked me to do anything I consider "fucked up." If anything, we're mostly compatible and I'm often the one who pushes his limits, specially with BDSM stuff.
I guess the closest thing would be his roleplay preferences. We sometimes do ageplay, but I was the one who started that. However, I work as a children's entertainer, which sometimes includes dressing up as a mermaid and go to parties and such. He likes my mermaid costume a little too much and at this point I think I've used it as a kinky cosplay more than I've used it for work. Now, that would still be on the "normal" spectrum for me. The thing is, he likes to make up stories for whenever we have this kind of intimate roleplay. Stories that take multiple sessions to act out, he even keeps a notebook for story notes and ideas.
So, what started as just sex in a mermaid cosplay is now a romance plot about a stranded painter and the last mermaid in the world. It's cute, I like acting it out. But it's definitely something I didn't expect.
Oh, and he has a long-ass list of characters/ideas for bedroom cosplay. Like, multiple pages long.

Anonymous 90363

>>90357
>The thing is, he likes to make up stories for whenever we have this kind of intimate roleplay. Stories that take multiple sessions to act out, he even keeps a notebook for story notes and ideas.
Interesting, I hadn't heard of this before. I have mixed feelings about any sort of high-effort sex but at times I am tempted. How common is this?

Anonymous 90370

>>90363
It depends on how much time we have and how tired we are. For example, it never happens in the mornings or after we've had a long day.
I'd say it's about once or twice a week, but not every week of the month. And it's not really because we don't have the sex drive, it's just that the extra effort it requires is sometimes tiring for the both of us. Like, the more sexually active we've been that week the less likely I am to put on a costume and act things out. At that point, I'd just get the cuffs and toys from under the bed and tell him to do all the effort himself.

Anonymous 90378

He's never wanted anything gross from me and that's why he's my husband and not my bf

Anonymous 90381

>>65034
>My first boyfriend turned out to be a porn addict. He was also generally a loser.

This is a bit redundant

Also my ex wanted to be in a relationship while not maintaining daily communication with me. Like, what even is the point? It's not even like we had sex much at all because who wants to sleep with someone who doesn't speak with them regularly?

My current boyfriend so far isn't bad. He's had degenerate BDSM and anal fetishes in the past, though I've basically shamed him into at least pretending he's moved beyond such things.

>>90357
How did someone on CC end up with someone who's clearly sipped the tranny/coomer/libfem kool-aid?

Also it's not subby to just want a boyfriend who isn't a degenerate with a prolapsed asshole. I'd vomit at the presence of a man with this kind of fetish. What a genetic failure.

Anonymous 90389

>>90370
What I actually meant was "has anyone else here experienced this?", but good info. What sort of other 'stories' have you done? I just have a hard time imagining how this would work, seems like it would just be a few minutes of saying awkward lines and then quickly breaking character and having normal sex again. People act like sex is really complicated in nature but I don't see it, only so many distinguishable things you can do (hence why everyone is so fast to go to anal these days).

Anonymous 90390

>>90378
Part of me wants to say "based", but at the same time I think you should be able to do more interesting stuff with your husband. What would you consider to be gross?

Anonymous 90398

>>90390
please stop shilling tranny-esq fetishes to people whose minds haven't been corrupted by the will of coomer men

Anonymous 90403

>>90398
Give me examples of fetishes/kinks/non-vanilla sex you would consider reasonably healthy, and ones you wouldn't.

Anonymous 90404

>>90403
well, any kink that doesn't involve any element of dominance/submission/non-consent/violence/anal

Anonymous 90411

>>90404
I get the last three but virtually all sex involves dominance and submission.

Anonymous 90416

>>90381
>How did someone on CC end up with someone who's clearly sipped the tranny/coomer/libfem kool-aid?
What can I say? I didn't know about this place back then lmao. I was also much more accepting of those ideas back then. Then again, I was very young and dumb.
>Also it's not subby to just want a boyfriend who isn't a degenerate with a prolapsed asshole. I'd vomit at the presence of a man with this kind of fetish. What a genetic failure.
See, I normally don't kink shame but pegging is one of those things I find kinda disgusting. Like, I know prostate stimulation is a thing but there has to be a more tasteful way to do it.
That said, I am subby anyways. Which is great because my bf is a natural Dom. I just needed to push his limits a little bit.
>>90389
Honestly it's kinda like playing D&D or any other tabletop roleplaying game, but without the dice and stats. It's more like a few minutes of getting into character and acting out a story together, then sex, then some more acting. Maybe it's because I was a drama kid, but I don't find it particularly awkward. Cosplay sex is the exception, when we do that I'm the only one acting.
As for other stories… we had this storyline where I played an actress and he was a detective, one about a vampire and his blood-addicted servant, a slightly less fucked up adaptation of Madame Butterfly (played two characters in this one) and one about a dad and his adopted daughter. And yes, the last one was my idea.
And you're kind of right. Sex isn't really that complicated. Like I said, we don't do this whole thing all the time.

Anonymous 90419

>>90416
>we had this storyline where I played an actress and he was a detective
So like a Chinatown or LA Noire kind of thing? I could see the appeal in that. The rest doesn't speak to me because I only like fiction with strong elements of realism, but to each their own.

I'm assuming he wears a fedora and maybe has a plastic revolver and one or both of you puts on a really campy accent. What do you then do with it?

Anonymous 90420

>>65034
my bf is vanilla and doesn't want nothing but snuggles and head kisses.

Anonymous 90428

>>90420
He doesn't want sex?

Anonymous 90432

>>90419
Yeah, 1920s-30s noir mystery stuff. Oh, and Madame Butterfly is a realistic story too.
>I'm assuming he wears a fedora and maybe has a plastic revolver and one or both of you puts on a really campy accent. What do you then do with it?
LMAO you're right about the plastic revolver part. Regarding what we do… are you talking about the sex part? It's mostly about the thrill of seducing a stoic man and having semi-clothed sex in a flapper outfit, I'd say most of the arousal in this case comes from the psychological game of pursuing each other. I do love seeing him wearing a tie, though. Shame he doesn't wear that for work.

Anonymous 90433

>>90432
>It's mostly about the thrill of seducing a stoic man and having semi-clothed sex in a flapper outfit, I'd say most of the arousal in this case comes from the psychological game of pursuing each other
Making more sense now. But how does it start? The whole thing obviously has to take place within your home, are you pretending it's somewhere else? Do you make references to fictional side-characters? Is there a literal script?

Anonymous 90434

>>90432
I just looked up Madame Butterfly, damn. That is some sophisticated sex, indeed.

Anonymous 90444

>>90428
yes he does but we dont do anything too freaky besides a little rough stuff and hair pulling
an he likes it when im on top

Anonymous 90454

>>90433
>>90433
>But how does it start?
It depends. Sometimes I just put on my "acting voice" and start out of nowhere, then excuse myself to get in costume. Sometimes one asks the other if they want to continue one of the stories.
There are two exceptions: if he picks me up from a children's party, we know we're doing the mermaid thing. And there was also this one time where we went to a 1920s themed party, so we decided to make that event part of the narrative and all.
>The whole thing obviously has to take place within your home, are you pretending it's somewhere else?
Most of the time is in house, yes. But we've also used hotel rooms. We usually pretend it's somewhere else.
>Do you make references to fictional side-characters?
Yes. Not too many, though.
>Is there a literal script?
Most of the time, no. It's mostly an improvisation exercise, but if one of the two wants the story to go in a certain direction, we discuss it before/after.

Anonymous 90482

>>90454
>And there was also this one time where we went to a 1920s themed party, so we decided to make that event part of the narrative and all.
I like this, smart move.

As far as doing this myself, I'd like to but it sounds like you basically need to be a theater kid to make it work, and I'm not one.

Anonymous 90862

>>90411
Nta but it absolutely does not lol. If you remove patriarichal/porn influence you can have sex that's 100% about expressing love and making each other feel good. Some people think someone being on top or penetrated involves a level of dominance but that is retarded and comes from the patriarichal idea of passive ("female") vs active ("male") roles. Free yourselves sisters and stop being retarded

Anonymous 90942

>>90862
I am that nona and agreed. Penetration doesn't even feel dominating if you're actually aroused - it feels just natural. Men who can't have sex without behaving either dominant or submissive are just bad at sex and suffer from a poverty of imagination. They can't relate to you intimately and directly - they have to imagine themselves having sex like someone in porn or TV, in almost the same way a lot of women sort of always watch themselves through the eye of the other in just day to day activities. Sad stuff. Boring stuff.

Anonymous 90999

>>90942
>a lot of women sort of always watch themselves through the eye of the other in just day to day activities
Can you talk about this a little more? I feel like this is me

Anonymous 91017

>>90862
Good points, will consider. Now that I think about it, being 'active' is not inherently dominant and can even be submissive (i.e., a slave doing labor).

Anonymous 91057

>>65034
Wanted me to wear pigtails, and a skirt.
>dunno if just a dork or has subtle pedo tendencies…

Anonymous 91070

>>91057
That look is pretty popular with men across the board. Yes, there is definitely a mild pedo element to it, but that's just moids for you. As these things go, it is very benign.

Anonymous 91079

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Anonymous 91092

>>91057
My husband always tries to get me to wear high pigtails and he's into older women. It's just really ingrained into porn for some reason.

Anonymous 91094

>>65653
>Um, anything that isn't missionary for the purpose of procreation is degenerate and you should burn in hell
Correct.
This is a big part of how we got to this situation in the first place.
I really don't get the loud and proud kink shit. You have the internet now, so its very easy to form subcultures. And even if you didn't, things were better when kinks were kept on the down low and it wasn't encouraged for EVERYONE to have one.
And not only that, but consider that this openness has killed any sense of sexual discovery between partners, making it drastically reduce intimacy between couples.
Doing anything with multiple people inherently does make it less special in many contexts.
I'm seriously starting to think society and sex don't mix. Even slightly.

Anonymous 91095

>>65680
>> I've taken dicks up my ass for years with no issues.
Just because something hasn't happened yet, doesn't mean it won't.
>>https://www.womenshealthmag.com/health/a19960433/anal-sex-fecal-incontinence/
>>https://www.uab.edu/news/people/item/6969-anal-sex-linked-to-increased-risk-of-incontinence-in-both-males-females
You should check out why so many gay men go from being "bottoms" to being "tops" as they age.
And that doesn't even begin to touch on the increased risk of ass cancer. And how you have an easier time catching all forms of STDs. Butthole tears during sex (bloodstream access is the quickest way to catch many of them), Intestines also absorb things much easier, while the vagina is a relatively hostile environment.
I'd also link some of the fun things that can happen with the intestine once the sphincter is weak, but I quite honestly think I'll get banned.

Anonymous 91145

>>91092
It sounds like you ran a transcript of one of these discussions through a writerbot AI and posted the result.

Anonymous 91146

>>91095
Yeah anal sex is pretty much objectively harmful to any human being, but that doesn't mean it's worth moralizing about couples who experiment or do it for a change now and again.

Anonymous 91161

>>91146
Considering the comment that started all this was very judgey for not embracing fetish culture, I'm very comfortable moralizing back.

Anonymous 91178

>>91174
Post product

Anonymous 91181

>>91146
What?? Obviously that does mean you should moralize about it and whoever's receiving anal is a victim and whoever's penetrating is the person who's being immoral. This is like saying 'oh female genital mutilation is bad for women but don't moralize what subsaharan africans do'. God, postmodern moral relativism has gone too far.

Anonymous 91182

>>91181
I'm not talking about rape, Blaine. Seek professional help.

Anonymous 91187

>>65074
>>65089
Maybe he’s settling for her.
How many women have naturally huge H cups in this world?
I think the average is B-C anyway.

Anonymous 91193

>>91187
Everyone settles, it's just how life works. No one is going to be the absolute best in every possible measure.



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