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Regrets Anonymous 663

what do you regret, anons?

Anonymous 666

I have a creative talent that I worked hard on and made into a freelance job. It's a marketable skill and I always had more offers than I could take on, being recognized by industry professionals, winning awards etc. However, I got severely depressed and eventually became a full-on NEET. Nowadays when I try to get back into it, I feel like a soulless puppet going through the motions. Not turning this into something is one of my biggest regrets.

Anonymous 695

I have so many

>Running away from home years and years ago

>Breaking up with my bf (we got back together after a while but that was a mistake)
>Letting some shitty guy treat me like trash
>Being a lazy fuck in general which has always caused me problems

Anonymous 910

It's not exactly a regret, but I so bad wish I didn't fell for one of my best guy friends, especially as it was while we were planning to set him up with another friend of mine. It was totally unexpected for me; had I felt something for him before I wouldn't try to have my friend hang out with him. He and my other friend didn't date, but the thing is: he hangs out in a lot of social groups I know and even though I don't want anything with him anymore it feels like being constantly reminded of this situation.

Anonymous 911

In case it wasn't clear, he friendzoned me

Anonymous 913

not knowing what anime this is from

Anonymous 915

I never told him how much I actually loved him.
And now it's too late.

Anonymous 970

Not putting enough effort in my education.
It's still possible to 'fix' my carreer which I am doing right now but a lot of trouble and disappointing people could have been avoided if I had just worked harder.

Another one is wasting time in general but I guess this is something almost everyone regrets.

Anonymous 973


Anonymous 974

wasting my youth and not going to parties or socializing with people in school because i thought i was better than them (which i am)

Anonymous 978

>Riyoko Ikeda
Oh shit! No wonder those pics reminded me of Versailles no bara! (my fave anime/manga ever btw)

Anonymous 989

I regret not rebelling more against my parents. A lot of people say I did, but I still wish I rebelled more in my teen years i.e. sneaking out, etc.

Anonymous 1110

When I was 17 there was this girl I talked to every day on msn. She was gay and she flirted with me a lot but I was really inexperienced and she was really extroverted and assertive. One day she asked me for advice "I have a problem. There's this girl I really like but I'm not attracted to her. Is it selfish of me to not go out with her?"
And I literally had no clue she was talking about me so I said "No, it would be selfish TO go out with her because there's probably someone out there who does find her attractive" and she kept being like "but yeah, is it selfish?" over and over and I was like wtf.
We went to a party a few nights later and she got drunk and cornered me and kissed me, it wasn't against my will but I had never kissed anyone before and she kept getting frustrated with me and saying that if I was nervous then I wasn't really gay (I never claimed to be). Later that night she asked me if I liked her and I said yes. I was really excited and nervous but then she went home with a guy when I wasn't looking. Lol.
It broke my heart at the time and later when I realized the advice she asked was about me I felt humiliated and unattractive.
I really regret being so naive at the time and getting my feelings hurt so badly when I was first getting into dating. I wish I could go back and tell her that she was being mean and playing with my feelings but honestly I don't think she would have cared.

Anonymous 1123

Sometimes I regret getting into serious long term relationships at an early age. They're really nice but I sometimes feel like I'm missing out on something. Not that random hookups and stuff like that are what I'm into, but just flirting with different guys but also being single seems fun. I think it's mostly because now I'm in a place where I'm satisfied with who I am/what I look like that I want to "experiment".

Or maybe it's just that current bf is a bit aspie and doesn't understand "normie"/spontaneous fun.

Anonymous 1128

>Becoming a NEET for multiple years and not doing anything to improve my situation in that time until it consumed me and made me miserable.
>Pretending to be something different to fit in, changing my personality to have friends and be accepted.
>Not letting go of toxic friendships, even when the people in those friendships ruined my life and even tried to physically hurt me/nearly having me killed and verbally abused me.
>Not standing up for myself more and believing the adults that told me to be quiet in the face of bullying.
>Catfishing a dude which i fell in love with and never apologising to him.
>Leave real loving friendships for temporary firendships with people who used me and dumped me afterwards.
>Letting other's opinion of me shape me and change as a person for most of my life.
>Not having my own voice and pretending to have certain opinions only to fit in.
>Not using my years as a NEET to improve any of my skills and just bum around sleeping, browsing imageboards and playing videogames.
>Not socialising more and isolating myself from people because of fear they actually hated me deeep down and i was a nuisance to the group until i was alone.
>Not reading more in my free time. Not developing any hobbies apart from videogames and drawing.

Most of them have been corrected or midly corrected, but i regret not doing it sooner and not realising how shitty it was.

Anonymous 2525

I wish I went to prom with that nerdy friend I secretly liked but felt too embarrassed to go with because my best friend was always ragging on him. He acted autistic in the meme way but I found it charming for some reason. He was so innocent and cute.

Anonymous 2526

I regret everyone I've ever dated including my current partner.

Anonymous 2983

you should probably leave them then, no?

Anonymous 3319

Not telling vampires and cunts to fuck off after they back stabbed me several times. I'm always fighting against my "nice" personality… Kidness is very good and it usually makes you a person better than the majority imo, but you need to be careful or idiots and morons will take advantage of you!

Anonymous 3324

My entire life :^)

More specifically:

-Being so autistic and frightened on early social media
-Not working in highschool
-Giving in to pressure and going to college when I hated school and knew I wanted to take time off
-Not dealing with my social issues and depression which got so much worse in college
-Not doing things I wanted to do because my parents would scare and guilt me
-Not going to see my friend more when she was in state
-Drinking so much pop and leading such a sedentary life as kid/teen, also eating/drinking so much acidic shit
-Not going to see my family member before they died

Anonymous 3421

>Or maybe it's just that current bf is a bit aspie and doesn't understand "normie"/spontaneous fun.

3 months late but…

are you saying you just want to cheat on your bf?

Anonymous 4253

Are you me or this is me? I don't remember. Hit the nail on the head there.

I also regret getting involved with more than one people a few times. It always ended up worse.

Anonymous 4254

I regret going to a psycho's apartment where he tried to drug me up via jello.

Anonymous 4571

cute, looks like /r9k/ found crystal.cafe

Anonymous 4656

>went through an /x/ larp "shaman" phase and the whole thing was so damn cringy.
>burned bridges with literally every friend
>fucked up and could've had fun last night but didn't
>treated people insanely poorly
>lost only person who ever loved me
>started smoking when I was 19
>going on 2x2chan
>watching a lot of pornography and letting it affect the way I see people/the world

Anonymous 5285

If only I knew what I know today I'd have had more sex when I was a bit younger, especially in HS with cute guys I liked.

Anonymous 55729

Same. No one ever talks about that the stuff you do when younger never goes away and will always be in your memories, ready to be a flashback triggered by the most random thing.

At best, people tell kids "don't do that, it's stupid/dangerous" but they never say "don't do that, you and anyone else who knows about this will have that knowledge for the rest of your lives and you will re-evaluate the situation as you get older and what you thought was harmless fun will become exploitative/shameful/degrading".

Anonymous 55751

Not knowing and finishing my degree right after high school.

Anonymous 55764

getting in an argument about gc shit with the love of my life and possibly ruining everything

if you're reading this sorry but you're driving me insane

Anonymous 55765

Your partner browses CC?

Anonymous 55770

I told him about it in passing once and I'm on the paranoid side so my first thought sometimes is "he's going to check"

Anonymous 55771

What was the argument specifically?

Anonymous 55776

We're mending things now but basically his views on what constitutes womanhood, TW in sports, etc.

Anonymous 55787

I kind of regret going for the easy and familiar route. A lot of good things have happened along the way and I'm happy at where I am right now but I sometimes ask what my prospects would be like if I had just been brave at the time. It's been three years since I had left that path. Looking back, it was fruitful in some ways but my short time there barely made a ripple in the field.

Anonymous 55810

Everything I did in my teenage years. I fucked my development and now nothing will fix it.

Anonymous 55885

Not too much, strangely.
Mostly :
>not opening up to friends about issues and past traumas
>being unwinlligly aggressive towards a dude i had a crush on and most likely liked me back, because of said issues
>spent too much time on 4chan during teenage years
>dating retarded 4chan moids

Anonymous 55921


Not treating things like a joke earlier. Really, cringe passes, have fun, stop caring. I wish I acted up more, stood up for myself and took more risks, but high school is almost over and like lots of other users, I feel I have played things too safe until now.

Anonymous 55923

I could have avoided so much heartache if I just told my crushes I liked them instead of pussying out. Now I feel like my heart has been broken so many times as a result of not shooting my shot that I can't have any more crushes.

Anonymous 55939

I was gonna post the exact opposite, I wish I never told my crushes that I liked them. I’d rather have kept living in the delusion that maybe they reciprocated or at least finding out on my own instead of embarrassing myself and exposing that part of myself to them forever. Plus I had bad taste.

Anonymous 55945

>high school is almost over

Anonymous 55972

I always try to regret nothing because I am what I am and I am secure in myself. But. I really do regret some things.

I am lonely and barely passionate about my studies and I know it's due to choices I made in my late teens/early twenties. If I hadn't ghosted my best friend, chosen something fun to study, and had involved myself at university I know I'd be happier. My life is quite good and my career is lined up, but I have made mistakes.

Though I'm satisfied now, I kick myself because in retrospect it could have happened sooner. That's just life, I guess.

Aw anon, your life is just getting started. I assume (hope) you're just 18 now, so keep yourself optimistic. Your brain will finally develop and you have all these paths to choose from! It's very exciting. And having more control over your life and yourself means it's easier to be wild sometimes if that's what you really want.

I also miss school on occasion, but your life will grow so much outside of it that soon you will only think of it nostalgically rather than regretfully. You were just a kid, after all.

Anonymous 56004

Dropping out of high school and rejecting every boy. Feel like I missed out

Anonymous 56030

>was ugly, weird autistic girl all throughout school and got bullied
>did no extracurriculars in high school, depressed and got mediocre grades
>did cosplay as a hobby and had some friends through it, that was my only social life
>no prom date, no real friends
>got accepted into art school in big city, scared of not being good enough and the financial burden on my parents, so i decided to go to community college
>did poorly in community college due to mental illness, dropped out of or failed most classes
>started dating long distance relationship ex again, who was toxic
>dropped out after 3 semesters
>he moved in with my family, was in toxic relationship with life at a standstill bc my mental health deteriorated even more while being with him
>didn't work, didn't go to school
>he finally moved out, had the courage to dump him
>feel lost in life, attempt suicide
>go to psych ward, decide to live my life
>feel a lot better, start relationship with new guy
>go out more, make friends, feel better about my appearance. start to feel alive for the first time in my life
>decide to go back to school
>bf has to go back to his home country, he was on a student visa, but we get engaged. everything seems like its going ok, doing well back in college, and i'm on SSI so i have an income
>COVID happens
>life goes to shit
>can not see fiance, doing poorly in online school

i just wish i had made different decisions. i wish i wasn't an autistic fucking loser in school, i wish i went to school in the big city, and was more indepenent.

i feel like such a failure. i still live at home. i'm in school but not doing well and god i hate online school. wish i had a normal childhood, a traditional college experience, regular fun young adulthood instead of toxic relationships and being dependent on other people due to my disabilities

Anonymous 56032

The best thing to do is just try to cope as best possible on your current course and do as well as you can. This won't last forever. I relate to your experience a lot, I totally fucked up my life from teens to mid-20s, but you can't regret it. You just have to get to a place of acceptance and move forward as productively as you can.

It's not about anything else other than getting to a place in life where you are happy.

Anonymous 56054

>autist in high school
>abysmal social life, people view me as a joke, average mentally ill tumblr kinnie
>"its ok because i have good grades and will get to explore and live life in college"
>did badly on SATs
>scared parents will beat me if they find out, dont retake them, go to local community college
>4 years down the drain for nothing
>do poorly there
>transfer to nearby state school, still live at home
>depressed, no friends, still ugly, realize that im behind in life developmentally
>cant balance moving out and doing schoolwork
>parents are overbearing
>no idea what i would do without a college degree, try to stick through it
>keep failing courses due to mental and physical illness, wont graduate until i'm 25
>hate my degree
>cry when i think about what my young adulthood could have been
>stopped drinking but now i self harm again
honestly, knowing how meek and ugly i was as a teenager reinforces that i wouldve failed horribly no matter where i went. im going to commit suicide in my late 20s/30s

Anonymous 56089

not shooting up my highschool

Anonymous 56090

Oh, nonnie. Your parents sound stressful to be around. I hope they don't pester you with texts and stuff like that. But I'm sure they do…

Anonymous 56147

thank you, anon. this is very kind of you to say. i honestly realize i don't have it that bad in comparison to a lot of other people and i'm working towards independence and having my life in the state i want it to be.

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