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Anonymous 71373

I am really worried that my boyfriend doesn't love me as much as he used to. He seems to be kinda absent-minded, when we are together. I fear the passion in our relationship is dying out. I still love him with all my heart, so it hurts to see how he is distancing himself from me. We don't hang out as much as we used to. He doesn't like texting, so I try to not text him as much anymore, even when I feel lonely. I often cry, because I fear a breakup is imminent.

I wish I was better at relationships. Better at seducing men, not being so emotionally dependent on them and making them addicted to me. I seem to have missed that class in girl school. I am just an awkward boring girl, that doesn't know what she's doing.

Anonymous 71374

Every relationship goes through a honeymoon period where things are less intense afterwards. This is normal. I wouldn't assume it means you will breakup. Is it just that you are spending less time together? Have you asked him why? Does he actually get upset if you text too much? Is the sex impacted?

Anonymous 71380

>>71374
>Is it just that you are spending less time together?
We spend less time together and he seems to always be busy with something else, when we are together. We only see each other like once a week now.

>Have you asked him why?

He says he is busy with work, wants to hang out with friends, is working on a project in his own time, etc.

>Does he actually get upset if you text too much?

He tells me that he doesn't like texting that much and feels like it's a burden to have to reply to people.

>Is the sex impacted?

Sex is great, except for the fact that we don't do it often enough for my taste.

Anonymous 71384

>>71380
Sounds like he could genuinely just be busy to me. Has his behaviour changed in any other way? If he used to be very lovey dovey but now is not then yeah you should be worried, but in general I wouldn't think so. Seems to me the fact that he now is also wanting to spend time with friends probably does mean his initial infatuation with you has worn off and now he feels like he has to do the things he neglected when he started dating you. I would have a talk with him and remind him that dating is like being a part of a team. Maybe say you understand that he's busy and you wont always be the number 1 priority in his life, but that you have been feeling undervalued lately. If its more texting you want you should point out that its not much effort for him to respond to your texts. Like a if we aren't going to see eachother as often then you shoukd put in the effort to text me more kind of a thing. Since you also said you would want to have sex more often you could also play that card (not at the same time though lol) because not many straight men are going to turn down more sex.

Anonymous 71386

I wouldn't think it's anything to worry about too much. Relationships are no different than anything else. When things are new and shiny it's easy to be super passionate and fun but after a while the excitement dies down and things begin to settle. That doesn't mean the love has died down or the passion is gone, just means you might need to find some more novel ways to express that passion for just accept relationships have highs and lows.

As long as you don't get a strong vibe or red flag that he is actively avoiding you I'm sure you just need to ride the wave for a while.

Anonymous 71387

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I went through this exact situation, OP. Directly talk to him about it. Tell him exactly what you’re feeling. How you feel neglected romantically. Judge him by how he reacts.

Anonymous 71403

>>71380
If he's doing a project you could sit in with him while he does it and make it a couples activity maybe, theres an opportunity there to spend more time around him

Anonymous 71445

>>71380
These are all perfectly valid points although they shouldn't be a permanent thing

BUT
>He tells me that he doesn't like texting that much and feels like it's a burden to have to reply to people
This is a lie and a pretty big redflag. I have never ever met someone that hates texting or speaking to the person they like. Sounds to me like he lost interest in the relationship so brace yourself for the worst.
ESPECIALLY since your post implies that this wasn't always the case.

Anonymous 71459

>>71445
> I have never ever met someone that hates texting or speaking to the person they like.
Speaking isn't texting. Texting is usually unfulfilling, banal shit that demands your time and attention constantly but intermittently because you don't want to be rude. Because of that, it is a burden. Lots of people aren't interested in that but still enjoy good conversations face to face.

However, it seems weird that they spend such little time together, but we don't know the specifics.

>>71373
He may just like spending more time alone, not that he doesn't like you, but if you don't match eachother in this then obviously it's not good.

Anonymous 71462

Be direct about what you expect out of a relationship (more intimacy, attention, whatever). Do you really want to be eating out of your boyfriend’s hand for the rest of your life? Don’t be a doormat OP.



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