feels like i’ll never be seen as more than my sex Anonymous 71457
i really enjoy talking to lots of different people, but it feels like i’ve had to narrow my options because of how quick it is to be judged/oversexualized/you-name-it just for being female. my interests literally don’t matter, my personality doesn’t matter, just my sex. and it sucks cause i usually really don’t think about that stuff and then it happens and it hits me that it’s a part of being female.
Sometimes I wish I was asexual
Yeah, I feel the same. I made the other thread about this a few days ago.
it sucks to know that this has probably been discussed a lot, honestly. it’s unfair.
just don't befriend men, simple as. if your interests are more "male-aligned" and you can't find female only communities for them then you can communicate with males anonymously over the internet and without revealing your sex. It's unfair that women have to go through so many hoops to be seen as humans but it is what it is.
understandable reply honestly, it’s just that there’s a lot of women that have this attachment to men to the point they start acting like them. that includes hating on other women and especially women with more feminine interests. having more male-aligned interests is a struggle though, as there are some cool dudes who don’t really care. it’s just a rarity to find.
>>71479>as there are some cool dudes who don’t really care. it’s just a rarity to find
If it's online you should become friends with them and pretend to be male. If you ever call them eventually they'll know but then you can see if they start to treat you differently.
The struggle is real. It's terrible with most online games. I envy everyone who can go on voicechat without everyone else going apeshit.
And then men get annoyed that women think that they only think about sex. They don't, they have other interests, but when it comes to women, that's the first thing on their mind, with dating being second. Even if a moid would be excited to talk about certain topics with a woman, he'd still prefer to talk about fucking. The only exception is if you're painfully average or even ugly, but even then it's not a plus, because being unattractive comes wth its' set of downsides.
I also struggle with this to the point where I'm now nervous of being too nice to men, even accidentally. Since everyone stopped wearing mask and times have been hard I have made efforts and enjoyed being very smily and nice to people, especially invisible workers or old people that I know don't get a lot of social interactions during the day. But almost everytime I do as much as smile or ask a man if they've had a good day, I get that look and know that I fucked up and sent the wrong message even if I was just trying to treat them as like, you know, a fellow human.
Most women have a way higher degree of agreeability, obviously because of gendered socialization and higher empathy, and I realize now that moids are either clueless about that - so they'll misinterpret you being nice as wanting to fuck - or know about it and will take advantage of it. When I was younger I always gave the benefit of the doubt to people and thus tried to help or be nice to everyone, including men ; it ended up in a variety of weird to traumatizing experiences because men with bad intentions will cling onto that. You just cannot forget about the way most men see you, a woman first and foremost, else it can end up being dangerous for you.
Does it matter? Just use them for what you want from them. If they are being rude or too sexist - eh what you gonna do: either good riddance, or continue talking with them or spending time, but laugh at their ignorance >>75775
Now, that there are a more tims online: males will just think you are just a man in a male dominated space. Neat
>>75901>But almost everytime I do as much as smile or ask a man if they've had a good day, I get that look and know that I fucked up and sent the wrong message even if I was just trying to treat them as like, you know, a fellow human.
I often catching myself deliberately dressing up not too nice, if I even want to, if I have a meeting with a male I have zero romantic/sexual interest in, because ew, I know they would think gee that’s for meee
>>75792>I envy everyone who can go on voicechat without everyone else going apeshit.
i've been using a voice changer in public voice chats for a while and it's actually pretty nice. it's a shitty free voice changer so it sounds weird but most people just assume i'm a guy with a really shitty microphone who's also going through puberty and they don't make a big deal of it. you get treated more like a normal person.
>>75885>Implying "average" and "ugly" women don't harassed>>75792
I don't VC for this reason. Everyone either gets mad and leaves, or they start asking me sexual questions. They're uncivilized.
I'm ugly and the only times I was harassed it was when I was still young…and probably, like, 5 times and stuff like them calling me ugly or horsefaced.
I haven't gotten talked to by any male at all in the 1000s of outings I've had in years.
I get called ugly all the time and I get rejected everytime and it seems that no one is into me maybe because i was born a certain way
Even if i work on myself, i get treated like i don't exist. Being ugly is worse since looks are what really matters if you want to get anyone. Name one ugly person, making billions, you cannot since they all look above average.