[ Rules / FAQ ] [ meta / b / media / img / feels / hb / x ]

/feels/ - Advice & Venting

Talk about relationships of all kinds, ask for advice, or just vent

*Text* => Text

**Text** => Text

***Text*** => Text

[spoiler]Text[/spoiler] => Text

Direct Link
Options NSFW image
Sage (thread won't be bumped)

Janitor applications are open

Check the Catalog before making a new thread.
Do not respond to maleposters. See Rule 7.
Please read the rules! Last update: 04/27/2021


Bf hate thread Anonymous 76424

Post reasons or stories why you hate your SO. I’ll go first
>ask bf to help me take out trash because he hasn’t done it in a few days and now the can is too heavy for me and I have to take out another bag because he’s let it pile up
>”I knew you were gonna nag me about that”
>I want to bash his head in. I didn’t nag him I asked for help and if you knew I was gonna say something. WHY WOULDNT YOU TAKE IT OUT YOU FILTHY PIG.
Anyways your turn <3

Anonymous 76431


Ex bf hateposting:
>watched movies like Pretty in Pink as a girl and dreamed of having a cute romance
>meet ex bf
>a year into the relationship he starts completely fabricating bizarre fantastical lies about his life
>shit like his family sells drugs and if i break up with him his family would "have to kill me" for knowing their secret; that people are constantly monitoring me with cameras and my internet activity
>i believe him because i'm 15 and we've been dating for a year
>only realize how fucking insane and abusive that was 2 years after i broke up with him
>watch Pretty in Pink last night and start sobbing remembering how 13yo me just wanted a cute normal relationship but instead was psychologically abused by my first bf
I seriously want to bash his head in with a giant sledgehammer. I want to fucking murder him.

Anonymous 76434

If you hate your SO just break up with them. Stupid menheras.

Anonymous 76455

Your on the wrong board for that kind attitude

Anonymous 76456


I do the same thing. I remember turning 16 and just wanting to be loved and wanted like that so so bad. Now I just, I don’t even think love is a real thing. I’m sorry anon, men are just awful. I think that’s why fictional men are so popular.
>men will do everything but hit you and say how they aren’t abusive because they don’t hit you.

Anonymous 76462

Also maybe because they have made me feel so bad about myself that I think no one else will want me and I will end up alone and even more sad. He literally told me today no one would love me because of my mental illness. I have adhd. I wanna hurt him and watch him cry and when he starts I wanna start screeching in his face.
“Stop throwing yourself a pity party, I didn’t touch you, you have no right to cry” just like he did to me everytime he would push me to tears.

Anonymous 76463

I dont hate him personally, I hate the fact that he despises me for being xx.

But now all I do is despise him for that as well. I return everything. I dont avoid men for making rape or abuse jokes, I just do these jokes as well but about men.
Never understood how a female could joke about it bus as being the victim.
I dont tell my bf "hit me lol" jokes, I make jokes about hitting and killing him as well.

Anonymous 76464

It sounds really abusive that way lol
It doesnt happen a lot btw.

Most of the time we are being cute to each other. I would hate arelationship where we just hate each other.

Anonymous 76465

I still think that men dont get killed enough tho. But he doesnt get it. Too bad

Anonymous 76466

I really love him anyway.

Anonymous 76467

I cant explain how i feel

Anonymous 76468

Tbh if we ever break up and it wouldnt ruin my life i think id rather murder him than break up. I think. Not sure tho. But i think.

Anonymous 76471

Yeah, such a fucking blackpill that young girls watch innocent romance movies while men just fantasize about hurting us or fucking us.

Anonymous 76472

Anonymous 76473

Hate is a strong word, but I can understand feeling annoyed. At least mine takes out trash that's too heavy for me, he just seems to have trouble with putting trash in the can to begin with for some reason. If you want to live with one you'll have to get used to this since it seems most men have basically no sense of cleanliness or organization. Don't give in when something gets dirty past a certain point because they will let it get as bad as you allow. They need to be reminded, which they will call nagging, but what else can you do. What I find helps is convincing him to do chores together and agree to take turns with some things. Of course this does not always go without having to remind him anyway. I think what annoys me the most is when I'm cleaning something by myself, he will often try to poke fun at me saying how I'm such a clean freak when you know, it's something that needs to be done obviously, and I don't see him doing it.

Anonymous 76480


Different ex hateposting >Really vibe with guy >takes forever I was the one to initate >he's rebounding from his previous wife, I knew this but I was 20 and thought if I really liked him I should go for it >he would always get handsy in public, eventually ended up at his house once and he gets pissy that I didnt want him to do oral on me bc im coming off of a period but when I do oral for him he ignores me and comes in the back of my throat >Ends up moving away months later to get away from the memory of ex wife >Every time he comes into town I just imagine him killing himself because I hate him so so so much even though I have a nice boyfriend now.

Anonymous 76481

Sorry formatted like shit first time posting

Anonymous 76484

>>76468 I imagine the relief you would feel, would be the best drug you would ever take. I
like to think about mine dying of cancer sometimes The pain and fear he would feel almost makes me feel bad. But then I’ll remember how he tries to make me feel like a monster and I’m like might as well act like one ʕ •ₒ• ʔ

Anonymous 76485


Do you think Johnny just pushed Amber to go apeshit on him?
Imagine being with a almost 60 year old man and he’s calling you fat and ugly.

Anonymous 76486

depp literally lost the first two trials. he's a certified wifebeater. he's a bellidgerent drunk that romanticizes his drug issues amd has had multiple reports by casts and crews that he's crazy and violent. the way he treats the current court case is just as seemingly narcissistic as people think amber is.
his pr team is so fucking good that somehow everyone's on his side.

Anonymous 76490

I love my bf and I don't know what I'd do without him, but holy fuck I'm pissed at him right now.
>Come back after a week away from home because I had to take care of my sick aunt
>Expect to find the house turned into a pigpen, but I'm looking forward to having kinky "I missed you" sex
>House is clean, not a single dish needs to be washed
>He's making dinner for me, everything seems perfect
>He asks me to set the table, I do it happily
>Wait a minute
>These dishes aren't clean. They have dust on them
>This lazy fucker didn't use a single plate in a whole week
>Ask him what he ate during these days
>He can't answer so I go look at the trash
>12 fucking boxes of pizza, three buckets of fried chicken, countless burger wraps and many more pieces of evidence. He had tacos, sushi, chinese, literally every single take out option in ridiculous amounts. Like, if I didn't know that his friends are out of town I'd think he had a party… every single day.
>It's not even like he's some useless idiot, he's an amazing cook
>Get mad at him and start yelling
>Call him a fucking pig
>I realize how much I fucked up because he genuinely struggles with body issues and overeating disorder, he has trauma about being called names, etc.
>I'm just fucking pissed because it took me months to finally get him down to only a few kilos over his ideal weight and we were very happy about it
>He just starts crying and storms out of the house
>Oh, and dinner is burnt
>He didn't even leave any of that trash food for me
>He came back an hour ago
>Ok, I'll just apologize, have make up sex and we'll get over this
>He just crashes in the guest room, smelling like alcohol AND trash food
>Go check the car out of curiosity
>He went to at least three different places to get food again

All my effort trying to make him lose weight feels like a waste now and the worst part is that he's acting like the victim. Yes, I said something awful. He's never said anything hurtful in the years we've been together (at least not outside kink shit). But holy fuck I can't help but feel like my blood is boiling.
Maybe I should just accept he's never going to change. He was large when I met him and I liked him, so I don't even know why I'm trying to get him to lose weight.

Anonymous 76491

Is he at least tall

Anonymous 76494

If there's one proven way to make people lose weight it's lowering their self-esteem, gj.

Anonymous 76497

Sorry but you are the (entitled) asshole in this story. You clearly are the only one interested in the weight loss.
Can't believe you are mad that he didn't leave you junk food lmao. Entitled and also a hypocrite.

Anonymous 76499

>i knew you were gonna nag me about that
>if that's the case, so why didn't you do it?

Anonymous 76512

maybe someday he will, sis

Anonymous 76513

Taller than me, yeah.
I don't think that'll work with him.
You are right. I'm an asshole for caring about his health and wanting him to live longer. Also, if I'm mad he didn't leave any junk food it's because the dinner burned while we were arguing.
I am a bitch for lashing out, yes. But I worked hard to get him to a healthier state. I stopped buying sweets so that he wouldn't be tempted. I learned to cook healthy meals. I did everything I could to help him and the first thing he does when I'm away is binge eat? I do feel like his mom in moments like this and I can't stand seeing his progress go down the drain. Like, I am in the wrong for calling him names but I'm also totally in my right to be mad at him because he clearly doesn't appreciate my effort.

Also, update:
>He's been in his office all day
>I can clearly smell tobacco from outside the room
Now he's smoking too. He told me he quit years ago.

Anonymous 76515

sounds tough. I don't think he's the victim, he's the one who fucked up first. he is throwing his progress away, progress which you helped him accomplish. however, I think you could have reacted better. yes, he could have acted better in the first place, and then you wouldn't even have to worry about how to react, but you have no control over that.
anyway I'm sorry to hear all of that, sis. I hope things work out for you.

Anonymous 76519

>young girls watch innocent romance movies while men just fantasize about hurting us or fucking us.
Plenty of zoomer girls also have porn brainrot. Not saying this in a "women are just as bad as men" kind of way.

Anonymous 76520

Lol you're right, but even on this board pickmes crawl out of the woodwork to defend males. Your bf sounds great from the looks of it but has issues, and you're trying your best to help him, yet he still indulges in his food addiction.
Calling you the asshole or even worse an abuser is hilarious, it's like calling someone an asshole for wanting your partner to stop binge drinking or smoking.

Anonymous 76525


I hope her and Elon get back together.
Honestly she looks so happy in all of the photos with him and he looks pretty content too. Depp is a weird old man, who should of been dropped from Hollywood awhile ago.

Anonymous 76534


posting in a schizo thread

Anonymous 76535

Honestly I dislike this occasional unspoken standard that all women must be pure and borderline asexual.
There's a medium between pickmes pornifying themselves for men and women who are sex repulsed angels. Both are impossible for many women.
I guess repression sucks a bit less but it still isn't very fun.

Anonymous 76538

Well adjusted people like sex and even porn without becoming addicts or exploiters.

Anonymous 76546

I'm on your side for this and I don't care if I get hate too. I'm a recovered anorexic, my husband used to be obese. I would not demand for him to date me if I were still mentally ill, especially if I made him feel like I was dependent on him to keep my eating habits normal. That kind of "duty" is not something a bf should normally have to bear. He did help with my self-image, but it's not like I would relapse if he left.
Conversely, I give him motivation to lose weight because having a family gives him hope for the future and a reason to work on himself. He doesn't want the guilt of destroying his health and bringing down his family.
The binge eating may not be 100% his fault, but if it's destroying trust in the relationship and putting an undue burden on you, you're not overreacting. You're right to be horrified, and lashing out was understandable. You're not entitled for refusing to affirm his messed up actions. Sometimes mental illness is a dealbreaker.

Anonymous 76550

t. porn addict

Anonymous 76554

You're the asshole for trying to force your ideas on other people, yes. It doesn't matter if what you're doing is good if it makes the other person miserable.
There is also absolutely 0 reason to insult another person. Specially if you're angry because he destroyed "your" effort.

Anonymous 76564

I've had the trial on as background noise during work but it was said she never loved Elon. I think she texted it to someone.

Anonymous 76576

I dated this guy for 5 years, 2 in person and then 3 long distance because he was military. After he separated I tried to get him to move in with me and he did. Around a year later he smokes too much THC, has some sort of religious experience, and confesses that he cheated on me with a coworker before he moved in with me. Like multiple times over a month right before he moved in with me. I broke up with him, but my best/only friend happened to be moving across the nation for work the very next day and it was during peak pandemic. I did not handle it well. I was drinking constantly. I've never had an alcohol problem before or since. It's embarrassing, but I was legit afraid I was going to suicide over this boy. I went on a couple tinder dates that were terrible (way too soon). I knew something had to change and figured if I was going to date someone and try to make it work I'd try with my ex. no logic I know. So I got back together with him. I've 'broken up' with him a couple times since, but we're still together almost a year and a half later. So now I'm in one of those embarrassing relationships. He's nice and all, but I can't get over how he lied for a year. Now that he knows how easy it is to get away with it that's a line that's always going to be easier to cross. Once a cheater always a cheater. Why are men?

Anonymous 76596

I realized that my mistake was both lashing out and calling him horrible things while knowing very well about his past trauma. His binge eating is something he couldn't entirely control just like I couldn't control my own eating disorder way back in the day, and by shaming him I'm only making things worse.
Yes, I am in my right to be mad about his relapse but I shouldn't be mad at him when he has consciously made a huge effort to please me in every possible way and now unconsciously he relapsed into bad behavior that hurts him. It's not that my trust has been betrayed, it's more like I selfishly saw his progress as mine simply because I made sacrifices to help him. This is not okay. He made so many sacrifices too when helping me recover from my own ED, and in our years together he's figuratively crawled over burning coal and glass for me. While of course it's not healthy to justify his relapse and ignore its seriousness, it was incredibly toxic to explode at him and call him the names that hurt him the most. I remembered too late those long talks we had about his trauma where he specifically asked me to never use certain words or use certain things against him, and it made me feel sick to my stomach. He betrayed his progress by letting his mental illness creep up on him, but I betrayed his trust.
It hurts to realize this so fucking late. He left the house yesterday and said he needed some time alone. His phone location shows that he's been in the same place since last night and I'm starting to feel very scared.

Anonymous 76658

There’s so much misinformation going on in the media though. It had been her assistant who texted about her using him as a space filler. The same assistant who said Amber spit her face but she still then felt comfortable telling Heard her own rape experience. She probably got paid of by Depp. Everyone’s ignoring the fact that he settled out of court with anthony foxs family. The times he’s assaulted crew members while drunk. People will literally support abusers no matter what.

Anonymous 76830

>I got into a relationship
>I started hating the guy
>now I'm staying with him and complaining about it instead of just leaving
>and I won't even mention leaving or my reasons for not leaving
what is this mental illness called? pickmeishas? codependency?

Anonymous 76831

try the Enter key next time.

Anonymous 76843

>Why are men?
He's being a scrote because you LET him! Anon I can't believe you didn't leave him ugh.

Anonymous 76854

I didn't really 'let him' though, I broke up with him over it and had a lot of discussions and changes in requirements and boundaries. I feel like he's probably not going to do it again…although I didn't think he would at that time either. Is there no difference between dating him now and "letting him be a scrote"? I do have his location shared now, and I'm not planning my future with him in mind much anymore. Just planning to do what I want and if he can make himself fit I'll probably let him do that. I guess the real issue is that I don't really have faith that other scrotes are much better, or that I'll be able to tell the difference. I still don't know how I could have figured out he was cheating then. He seems to think he's less likely to cheat now that he knows it's 'not worth it' (I asked him about it after making the prior post). Plus this one understands and accepts responsibility for the problems he caused, I'd feel bad dating a new guy and being all suspicious of him unfairly because of an ex who cheated.

Anonymous 76862


I just wanna curl inside myself and cry
>do my boyfriends laundry, cook for him, go to the store and get all the food he eats, I just basically do everything.
>I don’t have a job but even when I did. I would just work on top of all the stuff I did.
>I have to make sure I’m around him so he gets up in the morning. If I’m not he’ll scream at me about how he slept in and it’s my fault.
>constantly tells me how I’m lazy and don’t do anything whenever I tell him no
>I wouldn’t ask my mom for $20 because he hasn’t got his paycheck yet
>screams at me about how worthless I am and he doesn’t know why he dates me because I don’t do anything and how I’m just horrible and all I do is complain.
>uses our plans for a date against me
>breaks up with me because he wants to date someone whose nice to him
>tells me if I don’t leave our place rn he’ll go around breaking my things
I’ve hit him before after he told me my mom was an alcoholic because of me. I wish I was stronger so he’d actually be scared of me. I wish I was the monster he makes me out to be.

Anonymous 76863

He just started texting me
>it’s all my fault ofc because he does so much for me and I do absolutely nothing at all
>I forgot to mention he said he’d kill me if I told him “k whatever again”
>I learned awhile ago that I can’t win no matter what I say or do so I’ve just given up.
>I won’t have friends anymore cause they’ll just hate me. It would be better if I would just drop dead. Cause this whole living stuff is way too hard

Anonymous 76865

based on what you've said it sounds like you're in an abusive relationship and should GTFO, find someone else and try for a happier life
i believe in you, anon

Anonymous 76866

>he’ll go around breaking my things
>I forgot to mention he said he’d kill me
You need out of this "relationship" immediately. Destroying people's belongings is what people who want to harm others do when they feel they can't attack the target of their ire directly, and I don't think I need to explain why a death threat is so serious. He's not "toxic", he's an existential threat to your safety and wellbeing and you must not remain in this situation.

Anonymous 76867

I could move with my dad but I’d have to get rid of my dogs and their honestly the only reason I haven’t killed myself. So I really don’t wanna do that. He’s told me I’m the problem so much, I just feel like it’s true. Maybe I just don’t hold myself accountable enough. I’m not perfect I just don’t think I deserve to be told how I fuck up all the time.
I don’t think I’ll find anyone else. I can’t even watch my favorite romance movies anymore. The either just make me cry or incredibly jealous.
He’s never hit me before just lots of threats. One time I was like hiding in my pillows crying because I had done something and he was yelling. Because I wasn’t listening he yanked my head back by my hair and in the meanest tone he could just starting going at me. Compared to most girls that’s nothing. He doesn’t cheat and buys me stuff . It could be worse

Anonymous 76900

I'm sorry what? Are some gifts worth being treated like that? He's clearly violent, hitting you is the next thing on his list. He will keep pushing you until he knows you will take the beating without calling the cops.
And then you'll still say it's not that bad because he only hits you a little bit. Jesus.

Anonymous 77135

you really need to get out, this is horrific and abusive. you're endangering yourself. this is awful and you don't deserve to be treated this way.

Anonymous 77136


>he rips your head out of the pillow to yell at you
>not physical abuse

Anonymous 77147

He's fucking obsessed with static, unchanging household chores. He doesn't care if he has to do more than me, but God forbid if I ask him to pick up the slack for me. Every time "That's your job" comes out of his mouth I want to strangle him.

Spontaneity is not a problem with him, but once he has a plan for the day, any change to it that is not submitted at least 4 hours in advance is a huge inconvenience that he will audibly lament for the rest of said day. Even telling him I plan to do something which improves our lives, something he would absolutely enjoy, something he would not have to do, results in loud sighing and muttering.

Getting some god damned physical affection out of him is a crapshoot most days. He's always willing to express affection, but it's 50/50 if he even thinks to touch me in a given day. It's not an aversion, as he'll do it if I ask, but the thought of it just doesn't occur to him.

Just as he doesn't remember to so much as give me a pat on the shoulder, he will deprive himself constantly; going without water for more than 24 hours, eating a single meal over 2 days, staying up for over 24 hours, sitting in the freezing cold in boxers ect.

He refuses to allow comfort and appearance to dictate his belongings. He will wear-out clothes until they fall apart, then buy second-hand crap. He bought a $99 office chair in 2008 that has lost all its padding, most of its pleather, both arms, all its wheels at least once and gas cylinder, but he continually repairs it. He will fix $10 purchases until they're so broken that they literally cannot be repaired without buying an entire new one. He's perfectly willing to spend any amount of money on others, but won't spend a single fucking cent on anything only he uses.

Anonymous 77161

This is isn’t really about bf hating just kind of man hating
I have accidentally had sex with two, 17 year olds because they lied to me about their age. I feel repulsed. I even specifically asked because a lot of people think I’m a lot younger than I am. They looked at me and lied. I’m so frustrated, I wanna scream.

Anonymous 77172

How European of you, nona.

Anonymous 77173

Only amerimutts get triggered about having sex with literal adult males because they are less than a year under 18

Anonymous 77177

Having sex with any male under 20 should be illegal, they look like kids and have even smaller brains.

Anonymous 77178


Anonymous 77179

I think it's a little silly to be repulsed over that if you're already having threesomes. Like morality is clearly out of the window, why let 1 year bother you. If anything you are the victim and they should feel bad for tricking you, not you for being tricked.

Anonymous 77180

I was just making a silly joke, not a serious point.

Anonymous 77181

It wasn’t a threesome, it was two separate times

Anonymous 77182

Having sex with any male over 20 should be illegal. They look like corpses and produce rotten mutant babies.

Anonymous 77336

this human being has insanely low self esteem. This does not excuse his cunty attitude but this reads to me like immense, constant self loathing.

Anonymous 77410

my ex is so fucking digusting and creepy and i want to poke my eyes out thinking about giving time and emotions to this absolute scab

i found his reddit porn throwaway account by chance and saw his comments on some onlyfans girl acc (even though he lied to me and says he doesnt use it). he wrote saying that he would wash her feet meanwhile he was such an asshole to me. everytime he got angry that i wouldnt make him the centre of my universe he'd get a baby fit and being a general c^nt. and then he goes and says these kind of shit to some ewhore. honestly he is a fucking creep and a half and he repackaged himself as high value even tho he probably gets 0 girls in real life since the onlyfans girls he's paying pics for and probably buying presents for look like a 6/10 with filters. when i saw the kind of girls he thirsted after they were so fugly so i was like, im definitely not ur type and definitely can do better.

just thinking about him and his pathtic penis jerking it to ugly girls mkes me puke! the audacity he has to treat me that way and then treat these whores better. fucking loser. it also makes me cackle in secret since he cant recognise my value and his type is literally whore.

Anonymous 77411

i still get so angry!!!! thinking that this loser had claim on my time!!!!!!!!! and he lied to me about pretty much his entire life. imagine being this person who needs to lie everything about himself just so girls will even talk to him!!!!!!

im just puking in my mouth thinking how many bs lines that he fed me and he just pasted that to some ewhore. he probably spent more money paying some egirls nudes than spending it on me!

anyways im never talking to a guy unless he pays me next time so i vet out these absolute worthless creeps in the future.

Anonymous 77412

also he was indian. lol
what did i expect. he was always so horny and wanting to talk about sex. i was probably just his fapping tool. disgusting creep. is2g men are so worthless

Anonymous 77414

im also never telling anyone about this "relationship" since it was long distnace and it was a month. im so ashamed. i wish i could wipe this person entirely from my memories but i literally cannot get over how angry and disugsted i am, mostly at myself for not vetting better. honestly making me doubt my own gut feeling like how did absolute worthless maggot manage to come thru? and ive rejected way nicer guys before him??? honestly never going to give manlets a chance next time or indians.

Anonymous 77422

What stuff did he lie about?
t. >>76431 also dated a disgusting liar

Anonymous 77424

Wasn't Amber the one who called Johnny a fat old man?
Regardless, the facts seems to be that anyone who interacts with Amber has only bad things to say about her, and every person who is not Amber that interacts with Johnny only has good things to say about him.
This is outside of their drama as well.
I mean if everyone is saying you are the asshole…

Anonymous 77425

Man fatsoes, not even once.

Anonymous 77428

This post screams thinly veiled chipped armor.

Anonymous 77463


I don't know if i can count my ex in this, but i hated him even while dating. Most boring white leftist male "marxist" who works a corporate office job. I am also pretty sure he fetishized me because I'm latina. Literally went through the worst week of my life while dating him, I had covid pneumonia & ran out of groceries while quarantined. Instead of trying to help with my grocery situation, he thought sending me pics of his ugly fucking cat would make me feel better. He also spent money on some deviantart tier commission of my favorite fictional pairing and also commissioned matching icons of us in the omori art style. I have never played omori in my life nor do i plan on doing so.

A week after this ordeal, I break up with him, claiming I'm not mentally stable for a relationship (which wasnt a lie) and he is sooo "shocked" because it seemed so "out of nowhere" and then had the audacity to tell staying together would be better for my mental health. My friends and I would kill this scrote with hammers if we could.

It doesn't matter anymore because he's dating a fat tranny now kek. "She" is ugly as hell and a massive downgrade. its ironic because I'm a massive terf

Honestly just wanted this out of my chest

Anonymous 77475

The only thing I hate about him is that he smokes

Anonymous 77478


i found my bfs journal with a page detailing cons of being with me. the thing that stuck out the most was him saying he doesn't view me as his life partner, and that im too childish for him. i cried hysterically for a day, and now i dont know what to do with this information. i think its a testament to how much moids r willing to lie, considering everything i briefly looked at from that page goes against everything he verbally tells me, and how he interacts with me.

some part of me thinks i hallucinated it, or im looking for problems somehow. it was his personal and private journal in fairness, he told me he kept poetry in it. it was maybe my fault for expecting honesty. i don't want to victimize myself, since i saw the page sticking out and decided to take a peek at it regardless. maybe that's apart of the problem. but how can i justify keeping a fucking mean girl diary page of my S/O. i would never do that to him, or anyone. no matter if he was just ''venting'', who the fuck does that.

>pic related

Anonymous 77479

He should break up with you for reading his private journal.

Anonymous 77481

you're an awful partner lol who reads someones journal??

Anonymous 77482

So you have a type huh

Anonymous 77484

None of these are bad?
I mean, is it really a reason to cry for your bf not seeing you as a a life partner, even if you both are 40

Anonymous 77485

Oh fuck off.
>is it really a reason to cry for your bf not seeing you as a a life partner
Fucking really? I don't even know how to respond to this because it's such a stupid question.

Anonymous 77490

Are you saying its morally justifiable to keep an entire hidden page that does nothing but detail your distaste for your partner while lying to them directly etc about how you truly feel? what is wrong with you guys.

Anonymous 77491

A lot of them if not most can grow facial hair before turning 20, you are dumb.

Anonymous 77494

Reading through someones private belongings is wrong but I agree with >>77490 it's even worse to lie to someones face like that while secretly disliking them. You're just leading someone on for your personal gain, and in this case it's not even just leading on, it's keeping a journal where you detail how much you dislike them. it means he either can't stand her so much he has to get his feelings out somewhere but still stays with her for some personal reason, or he gets some kind of pleasure out of it.

Anonymous 77518

Sorry sis but moids are liars and cannot be trusted. They will actually keep you around for years despite not seeing a future with you. I've seen it so many times. It's fine to go through their phone/journal.
Now that you've realized he is a sociopath, it's time to leave him.

Anonymous 77532


toxic as fuck

Anonymous 77533

>It's fine to go through their phone/journal.
>he is a sociopath
Sounds like you're projecting.

Anonymous 77541

>He calls me dumb all the time.
>He takes his stress out on me by criticizing me in places like car rides and grocery stores and gets angry when I finally react loudly.
>Almost no shared interests. Our shared interests are things he likes that I started to do to make him happy.

Anonymous 77574

I'm sorry but why are you even with this jackass?

Anonymous 77591


Anonymous 77640

>every person who is not Amber that interacts with Johnny only has good things to say about him.
How the fuck is Depp's bot here? Are we not remote enough. Seriously, one google search will show you multiple coworkers and ex-girlfriends talking about how he's a crazy alcoholic?

Anonymous 77650

>Cultuvating an eating disorder because you want your fucktoy being more desireable.

Based sociopath. Next time beat him.

Anonymous 78577

Bf grew a beard when he knows it makes me lose attraction to him

Anonymous 78585


i am seriously reaching my limit with my relationship.
>bf gets a job, i am happy for him
>make him breakfast and a lunch to take to work since i work full time from home
>barely even get a thank you, and he talks to me like im an annoying kid
>i tell him i dont like it when he talks to me like that
>he says he was so tired he doesnt remember saying those thing
>whatever, ill move on
>week goes by of him constantly being tired and taking it all out on me
>i have been cooking and cleaning all week
>"hey im too tired to do anything else tonight is that okay with you?" he asks after i eating a home cooked meal i made for him
>"no, can you please do the dishes?"
>"I made dinner and did dishes for like the whole week"
>he pisses and moans for like five minutes then goes to play video games and i assume he just plans on doing them later
>he falls asleep on the couch and doesnt do the dishes

i am seriously at my fucking limit and i wont be able to dump him for at least another half a year

Anonymous 78587

I feel!! Why cant he be better? Just throw an emotional arguments with him, make him know your feelings and stuff. It’s not normal that he is not doing his best in EVERYTHING. He is just making stuff harder for you. Im so sorry that he cant even do basic stuff to make life easie

Anonymous 78588


its okay, i just have to deal for now. he'll apologize then go back to doing it in a week though. i just want him to be a bit more grateful.

Anonymous 78589

I hope he will start being grateful !!!! Good luck

Anonymous 78809

Stop making him breakfast and lunch?? Come on nona, he doesn't even fucking thank you for it. Also establish clear chores distribution and stick to it.

Anonymous 78885

>bf yelled at me for ranting at him
>can’t really help cause ADHD
>cry watching a Tiktok cause the husband is so nice and caring with his ADHD wife

I’m proabbly just unbearable and my bf has every right to dislike and criticize me. I just need someone to listen so my feelings don’t get too hurt.

Anonymous 78886

Fuck that. It's "bare minimum" time. Let him suffer by having to feed himself for once. Only make big enough portions for yourself. Leave no leftovers. Only wash the dishes you use. Looking forward to your separation from this useless mooch.

Anonymous 78912


>bf got disability
>health and mental state progressively deteriorate
>gets violent thoughts and urges
>claims to care about me and gets pissy the second I go "out of bounds" for his tastes
yeah he didn't choose to get disabled, but neither did I choose to live with a disabled man
the worst part that literally everyone, my own family included, will shame and reject me if (when) I leave and I just want to not be killed, but that's apparently too much to ask of men
and of course he gets medical treatment and everyone are being nice and considerate of him while I, having a bunch of my own severe health problems, have to play a role of obedient servant who should cater to him and keep her mouth shut

Anonymous 78922

Fucking go away in an other country
Nuke this life away

Anonymous 78923

>bf too involved in videogames to pay any attention to me
>deliberately ignores me and says "sorry it's my ADHD" and "sorry I didn't notice you messaged"
Tired of this shit but hoping it will get better when we move in together, in a year.
Then when I get mad at him he gives a half assed apology.
This is really hard to deal with when I constantly think everyone is mad at me for one reason or another and have doubts people actually care about me or love me, it just adda fuel to the fire.

Anonymous 78924


Anonymous 78925

Don't move in with him. Leave.

Anonymous 78927

>"sorry I didn't notice you messaged"
lie #1. he's a hot potato and you've gotta drop him or you'll burn your hands

Anonymous 79002

He doesn't sound very nice at all:C. I'm sure you're not as unbearable as you think. Maybe he is a very impatient and defensive person. I can be very defensive too, but he has to change that if you both want to be happy long term.

Anonymous 79022

lmao wat-

so if I have a partner and he's into crack and I force my belief that it's bad, I'm an asshole? Also there are millions of reasons to insult people.

Anonymous 79024


The general zeitgeist of modern morality is that nothing is really bad, except for thinking something is bad. Intolerance is the now ultimate crime. So you can ask him to be healthier, but forcing him to conform to your standards of health is toxic and evil.

Anonymous 79029


yeah i started waking up later so that i wont get roped into making him breakfast or packing his lunch lol. he apologized just like i thought he would, did a good job for like a few days, then got back on his bs. last night he got home from work and talked about how he wanted to go out and get a treat/dessert (which i wanted) but then immediately fell asleep when he got home and made the entire bed damp from his sweat. sigh.
the last time i tried to break up with him he said some lowkey violent stuff so for my safety i just tried to compromise with him. i have to just wait until our lease is up so i can dip.

Anonymous 79032

I've been with my bf for two years and we've lived together for six months. He presented himself as a "trad Christian right winger" but he keeps pressuring me to do disgusting sexual things and I caught him watching violent porn MULTIPLE TIMES and he keeps lying about stopping and pretends to be sorry but never changes. I'm scared and idk what to do I thought he loved me.

Anonymous 79034

extremely cringe, but yeah sounds like a lowlife that cant really live up to his own standards. as per standard response, dump him.

Anonymous 79035

Christian men are the biggest sexual deviants there are. You’re lucky he hasn’t asked you to play dead.

Anonymous 79061

i want to leave him but i still love him when i don't feel like vomiting because of what he wants to do to me and he pays the rent so id have to go back to my abusive parents
are they really all like that

i want to die

Anonymous 79071


>bf flies home to visit family
>family tells him they want to sell his car and keep the money to open a business
>he says wtf no and gets in a fight with his family
>he hasn’t driven the car in 8 months and lives in a very walkable city now
>he calls me and I try to comfort him
>I tell him to just let everyone sleep on it, hopefully they’ll find a compromise
>he’s mean and moody to me while I try to comfort him
>his mom walks in crying and speaks to him
>he starts yelling at her and he cries too
>I’m just sitting here listening to it
I don’t know what she’s saying to him, they don’t speak English in their house. According to him she just saying she’s scared he will be upset during the whole visit and doesn’t want split the family apart over some money
>I attempt to comfort him again, suggest we watch a show and distract ourselves
>he’s moody, says sure
>then he said “shouldn’t you just go to bed?”
>I say “sure wanna go to sleep”
>he says “not on voice call”
When we are in a long distant situation we sleep on voice call and watch a show together. So him saying no threw me off
>I ask why
>he says in the most pettiest voice “maybe sometimes I don’t wanna voice call every night”
>I’m confused, I ask him if I did something wrong. I understand he’s mad at his family but I tell him he’s hurting me with the way he’s been talking to me
>he blows up at me and tells me I’ve been guilt tripping him by text.
I’ll admit I was being a little clingy to him because I’m alone in my apartment. I said something like “you don’t wanna talk to me?” When we called each other. But I immediately apologized to him after I said that because it was messed up that I said that.
>he goes on a rant about how his car is his prized possession and the only thing he has left
>tries to gas light me into thinking he was talking to me nice all night and I’m the one freaking out for no reason
>I tell him I was just trying to cheer him up, I don’t deserve this.
>says he wants to kill himself
>I tell him not to talk like that, I’m worried and will call the cops if I need to
>he gets mad at me and I start having a panic attack because I have a lot of suicide related trauma and he knows this
>he says “maybe I’ll call the cops for you since you can’t breath from your panic attack”
>then he calls his mom a psychopath because she’s in the kitchen laughing with his sisters about something and not crying for hours over him
>calling her a psychopath while I’m mid panic attack
>I finally calm down and he hasn’t anything to me in awhile
>i told him I just wanna sleep
>”well if you think that’s the right choice”
>I say yes and we can hang up
>”no it’s okay we don’t have to hang up tonight we can vc to bed I guess” making it sound like he’s being forced into it
>I tell him over and over we can hang up but he keeps saying no.
we go to bed on call but his phone died.
I hope they sell that damn car and his mom keeps every penny. I was on my bfs side until he treated me and especially his mother horribly. It feels like he wanted to make me cry on purpose. He was going on and on about how people want to fuck with him but..maybe you’re the problem considering you made two separate people cry in the same night.

Anonymous 79072

the two "christian" men I've known were a) an alcoholic sex addict with sociopathic tendencies and b) a literal schizo who groped me and tried to have sex with me before moving away without telling me

Anonymous 79077

What language do they speak at home? I'm sorry, the instant you said they don't speak English at home I immediately imagined a My Big Fat Greek Wedding scenario with greek people shouting at each other.

Anonymous 79079

French, they’re Canadian snow birds

Anonymous 79086

Hire me I speak french

Anonymous 79123

That's a bit sad to hear, but don't let something that happened only once undermine your whole relationship. If it happens again, then sure, there may be something wrong. But as you may sure know, there are times even the nicest people will flip out or want to be left alone for a bit, especially when they're haunted by their families. But be wary if he flips out again in situation not related to his family.

I wish you the best nona.

Anonymous 79135

On the off chance this poor soul browses this board: there's a moid on 4chan bragging about falling in love with someone named S on a company meeting in New York. He is texting her, says his wife noticed he is happier lately, and has dreams of having sex with this woman while his wife is in bed. He will not tell his wife. He says they are much more compatible, and in true cheater fashion makes his wife seem boring and grey, and this woman exciting and colorful.
He is not from an English-speaking country (probably Europe), and has been married for 11 years. If this is any of you I hope you break up with his cheating ass.

Anonymous 79150


>got a uti last year around september
>trying to get rid of it since but it never fully goes away, still have pain nearly every time after peeing, doctors can't find anything
>sex life destroyed
>bf does not understand and keeps insisting I get him off somehow, do it out of pressure and guilt which in turn makes me want to do it less
>more and more fights about this
>bf tells me we must find a compromise
Honestly I do not see any other solution but breaking up, but he absolutely does not want to. I don't want to be forced to do sexual stuff like this.
I wish my mom and cats were dead so I could just kill myself.

Anonymous 79151

>trying to get rid of it since but it never fully goes away, still have pain nearly every time after peeing, doctors can't find anything
I deal with this. Usually if I am dehydrated. It took me long time to realize that was the cause, but that is what it was.
I also know diabetics usually have issues with burning when they pee. Is your urine cloudy?
>bf tells me we must find a compromise
Part of me says he doesn't actually care for you if he won't respect that you don't want to have sex, but then again sex is an important part of a relationship in most cases and is a huge deal. Just break up with him if he can't tolerate it, and breakups don't have to be mutual, just because he doesn't want to break up doesn't mean you have to stay with him. You don't have to find a compromise if you truely don't want sex.

Anonymous 79153

Damn I'll actually try to get tested for diabetes, I'm not fat but I do eat sugar often and don't exercise.

Anonymous 79238

bf is going through a really hard time right now and is moody almost all the time. he has very legitimate reasons to be moody (things are just not working out for him recently) but he's still taking it out on me by speaking to me rudely and keeping me up late so he can rant about the shit that keeps happening to him. im really tired and at this point i dread him coming home from work. he's not fun to be around at all. i want to leave but i cant because of this stupid lease.
theres nothing i can do to make him feel better. i have no energy to help him feel better. he has barely any friends so im the only one he talks to about this stuff.

Anonymous 79258

Contact the landlord and explain that you are going to break up and ask if you can leave the lease early. They are sometimes sympathetic. Or you can move out and find someone to move in as room mate if there is space.

Anonymous 79281

He told me that he was taking my anime figurines to the bathroom and cumming on them while I slept. He has been emotionally abusive for years but this is the final straw for me.

Anonymous 79282

Bin him

Anonymous 79283

Yeah, I think I really have no choice anymore. We've been together for years and we are so toxically codependent that it is going to really hurt to be apart. He's just done and said so many inexcusable things that I can't deal with it anymore. I'm not perfect either but all the times I got overly emotional in front of him were always reactions to him either insulting me and dragging me down, or ignoring me intentionally when I needed him.

Anonymous 79284

Make a list of all the reasons why you are leaving him and look at it if you start to miss him.

Anonymous 79285

Thanks anon, I will.
To be honest, this is going to be extra scary because I don't really have any friends. I'm going to be completely alone when we stop talking. I'm afraid. I honestly don't know if being alone would be worse than this or not.

Anonymous 79287

You’re not going to be alone forever, and even if you were, being alone is not so bad if you build a full life for yourself. It’s much better than being with someone abusive.

I recommend planning to spend some time around other people, such as joining a club or class, or just sitting in public areas like cafes, so you don’t sit at home and feel alone. Make sure to think of lots of activities to keep you busy at home too, like watching a tv series or Marie Kondo your house or baking.

Anonymous 79307

Thank you, you are right tbh I will keep all this in mind moving forward… I still feel scared but I feel like I'm able to control my reaction to that feeling and the things I do in response to it. Keeping busy is key right now I guess.

I've been trying to break my spell of avoidance for a while so maybe this will push me out of it finally.

Anonymous 79323

Not to excuse his behaviour but is he on the spectrum? Has he tried CBT (the mental health kind)?

Anonymous 79363

>bf studying some subject
>doesn’t understand it
>gets so mad at himself that his heart hurts for hours
>talks rude to me
>complains about his skin breaking out but accidentally says breaking up
>I get kinda sad and worried because his sour mood
>he gets mad at me
I wish he comfort me. I asked him to just comfort me instead of being mad and all he did was get mad

Anonymous 79503

>bf playing games
>pc shuts off randomly
>gets pissed and asks me angrily what happened bc i work in IT
>tell him after some basic troubleshooting that it overheated
>he gets so pissed he storms out to go for a walk and buy alcohol


Anonymous 79507

sounds like he had a heated gamer moment, maybe you should find some new living arrangements so that he won't have to live in a society anymore?

Anonymous 79841

right now is one of those little moments where i kinda hate him i guess. i waited late for him to get home to make us both dinner while he was at the pub with friends but when he gets back he’s just a mess and throwing up everywhere. he pooped and i don’t think he even wiped his bum properly lol.

Anonymous 79842

replying to my own post but why are so many men so gross and have no sense of personal hygiene. i have to nag my boyfriend to shower daily and wash his hands after going to the toilet. even if i’m sick after drinking to much i’ll manage to wipe my ass properly and aim my puke into the toilet properly.

Anonymous 79848

your pain aside, why is this so funny to me? we should have a thread to discuss irrational scrote behavior like that
so fucking funny how dumb they can be

Anonymous 79865

Leave him. Now.

Anonymous 79931

anon sounds like u have an undiagnosed autistic or adhd bf. but its not your place to help him get to where he needs to be, thats his job

Anonymous 79938

my current bf's really good with this stuff, but i had some exes that were completely shithouse


Horny Shriya called you 2 times. She is online. Click the below link to chat with her. She is very horny now.


[Return] [Catalog]
[ Rules / FAQ ] [ meta / b / media / img / feels / hb / x ]