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Why are we here? Are we losers? Anonymous 77746

I like Crystal Cafe. I like reading its posts, and ever since I've discovered it, I come here every day.

But sometimes I'm wondering,

why am I here? Why do I keep coming back here? When did I fall into the crowd that browses imageboards? What type of person comes to these sorts of websites?

Earlier I was looking at 4chan, but I got sick of 4chan, and sometimes Tumblr doesn't do it for me, so now I come here.

I guess not all of us are down in the dumps. Some of you probably have a well paying job, good social life, live brilliantly, and are generally satisfied with life.

But from the way some people talk on here e.g. dunking on normies and neurotypicals, I get the feeling that a lot of us fall into one of the below catergories:

Socially awkward women. Isolated women. Those that got bullied at school. NEETs. Women having various issues one way for another. Women whose lives aren't going anywhere. Women waiting for a diagnosis, or diagnosed with something. Women who have suffered a lot.

I like there's a place for those types to congregate.
But I'm wondering, remembering all the classmates I know, seeing their social media, succeeding in life. Not even massive things, just basic adult things. And I'm not like that.

I think, "out of the classmates at school i knew, who would be the type to keep browsing a website like crystal cafe?"

There could be those people that seem like normies with true personalities they hide, but I bet if someone asked our cohort, they'd have definitely pointed to me. And possibly only me.
I was that "weird kid" constant loser all throughout school. Some people were scared of me. Some people found me stuck up and humorless, even though I love silly things. Some people found me funny, and fun to bully.

And now I'm here.

I know there's a whole bunch of other stuff in my life that was out of control, that set me back from my happier peers a lot,
but sometimes I feel like a total loser for being the type to find, and keep returning to this place. Those normie classmates of mine probably don't lead a life that would motivate them to find, and keep returning to this place.

Why are we here? Are we "losers"? I guess it's nice that there's a place for us, if we are losers. But don't you ever find it sad that we've possibly found ourselves in the "loser's club"?

Anonymous 77747

>>77746
There's a difference between being a normie, hiding your personality as a normie, being an isolated woman/NEET, and coming to crystal cafe.

This website is just very obscure and hard to find. LC is easier because it's a gossip website first and foremost so if you want dirt on a specific person in women-oriented communities it's the best.

I come to crystal cafe because idk it's nice, just wish there was more activity. Gonna be honest and say that I would prefer not knowing this website honestly because it flares up my insecurities and makes me feel like a loser. Yes this website and it's the other farms makes me feel sane especially with the prevalence of TQ+ politics but I still disagree with the general hivemind in LC. Idk I come to CC because I feel like I'm surrounded by women that are like me? It's the same reason why I spent a lot of time on tumblr.

CC I guess fills a very specific niche that other websites don't. Every website has it's use and I don't mind rotating between different websites every few days.

Anonymous 77748

I also suspect most users here are on the spectrum (diagnosed or unaware) or have suffered abuse at one point. That’s not a bad thing and it’s nice that we have been able to form a community, especially as female only sites are incredibly rare.

As for being losers, most people will be a loser in someone’s eyes somewhere. Once you are able to get over that and live your life it’s very freeing. Social media has given us a bigger peak into the lives of popular people than before and they aren’t actually all the different from us. They prefer communicating with people IRL, we prefer on here. They can also have issues we are less likely to have, such as a need to be the focus of attention, even if they have to constantly lie through their teeth to get it.

Are you actually in contact with any popular people or see them regularly? If not, then why are you letting them judge you from inside your head? I know it’s a cliche thing to say but it’s true. No one actually cares that much. You need to get over yourself. As long as you’re not harming anyone, who actually cares if you like posting here.

Anonymous 77749

>>77748
I have suffered abuse and i wonder why a lot of anons say this, what drives us to these corners of the internet as abused women?

Anonymous 77750

I think you're overthinking this. It's just a website

Anonymous 77751

>>77749
I think part of it is that most women will be the victim of some sort of abuse at some point of their lives and places like this are where we are free to talk about it without stupid moid victim blaming.l

Anonymous 77753

>>77749
This is my experience and I isolate by choice. Op it sounds like you just have your own issues to sort out or your a troll.

Anonymous 77762

>>77748

I'm not in contact with them regularly, we just follow each other. The ones I am connected with are actually quite nice people.

It's more me judging myself.

I see that the people around me have ambitions, and they're living up to them. I like that.

I have ambitions. I'm not living up to them. It's annoying to have high hopes, and keep meeting failures. Especially since my family is on the poorer side, that's what's irking me, because there will be consequences down the line.

It's not that this corner of the internet is bad by itself, but the fact I keep returning here is more like "What are you doing with your life?" I guess it's the feeling of going nowhere. Instead of succeeding at my hopes and dreams, i'm nestling in this (mostly) cozy corner of the internet. and it seems that the audience that comes to this corner is somewhat different to other parts of the internet. A comfy, but somewhat melancholic mood.

I posted the OP post last night when I was very sad for some reason, so it might have affected the overall tone of the post.

Anonymous 77764

>>77762
(sorry to add on in a double-post, i pressed the sage option)

>A comfy, but somewhat melancholic mood.


and occasionally a bit irritated and chaotic. But i've noticed that some of the people here are a bit like me. I cannot help but wonder if certain factors in a person's life drive them into seeking and finding a site like this, and continuously returning here. If the factors are things that have caused the person distress, or a general sense of ennui…

Anonymous 77780

A traveler walks into an obscure cafe.

Barista: So, you're back here again.

Traveler: Yep. Here I am. I'll have a hot chocolate please.

Barista: Sure.

Hot chocolate is made.

Barista: Did you finally make it in the big city?

Traveler: Not yet. Not even a little success that will keep me there. I keep floundering and floundering.

Barista: Maybe next time.

Traveler: I'm always hoping for that. But in the end, my habits don't stick, and I wind up coming back here.

Barista: Is it so bad back here?

Traveler: Not really. This place is rather nice. But it's not really what I'm hoping for.

Barista: What do you mean by that?

Traveler: Well, as a kid, you're hoping you can make it big in the city, make your mother proud, make yourself proud, achieve your dreams, ensure a stable life for you and your family, and all that. And the peers that grew alongside you are achieving their own goals. But somewhere along the way, life happens, and you diverged, and became a misfit. Instead of having some success in the city, spending my time on productive things, achieving my own goals, I found myself aimlessly wandering around, and now I've found this place. I feel like this is the place where you wind up if you're a misfit. It's filled with people like me.

Barista: Yep. Some of us are misfits. Some of us are just curious wanderers. There's also some people who simply like visiting here, or don't want to go to the city.

Traveler: I can't fault them for having that preference of wanting to stay out of the city. It's a lot calmer out here. But it's not really my style to be staying here, at least not forever.

Barista: Is it so bad to be a misfit among misfits?

Traveler: Not really. But, if I already was born a misfit, the process that made me even more a misfit isn't a happy one. I think a lot of the other misfits aren't happy with some of the stuff that happened to them either. I just feel like coming to this place filled with misfits is a glaring reminder of how different our lives are, and have been, to those making it big in the city. I know self-pity isn't an admirable trait, but sometimes I'm going to be disappointed at the life that somehow made me wind up here. I've got nowhere else to act pathetic, so I might as well do it here.

Barista: Sure.


Traveler: I want to go to the city, and succeed at something, doesn't have to be big. But big enough that coming here feels more like a leisure, than me wandering around, wasting times of my life, because I'm bad at sticking to new habits I want to create. I've enlisted help to check out where I'm going wrong, but there's lots of people wanting help, and the waitlist is taking ages. I'm worried the consequences will come for me before I manage to get my life in order.

Barista: Feel free to come here and relax in the meantime. You shouldn't have to feel guilty about taking some time to have some fun. After all, most of us here aren't permanent residents either.

Traveller: Thanks barista.

Anonymous 77786

Its cozy so why not.

Anonymous 77787

>>77746
I'm a "normie" and find the "losers" here a bit annoying tbh
but I'm here because I don't have to deal with she/they tumblr weebs and people with trans flag in bio. Those people are really THE‌ most disgusting part of the internet. All I‌ want is a place to browse or maybe chat once in a while, without those queer interruptions. I‌ know people say "you can curate your social media experience!" but all SM is uncomfortable to use and I can never get used to it. This is also the only imageboard I browse because CC is really civil, while at the same time allowing users to get heated up and say strong opinions without being banned or something

Anonymous 77788

>>77787
normie begone

Anonymous 77789

Believe it or not I'm a reasonably well-adjusted normie nowadays, You wouldn't pin me for the type to browse image boards if you met me irl. I just didn't use to be normie when teen-me was into weebshit and chronically online before either of that was mainstream and "cool". I like having a place where it's okay to disagree with genderwokeshit and trannies, that's mostly why I keep coming back.

Anonymous 77791

>>77788
normies be-stay. we should have a diverse ecosystem of visitors!

Anonymous 77792

>>77787
>while at the same time allowing users to get heated up and say strong opinions without being banned or something
in what plannet is cc like that lmao take me there

Anonymous 77796

>>77787
Same, fully agree with all of this.

Anonymous 77797

>>77788
ur cute
>>77792
idk I‌ haven't gotten banned yet but we'll see lol

Anonymous 77800


Anonymous 77965

>>77746
>>77762
Very relatable, I ask myself why I come here sometimes…. like you, I am quite amibitious and have some great opportunities I could seize if I don't waste my time online lole. what are your ambitions, nona?

Anonymous 77972

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>I like Crystal Cafe. I like reading its posts, and ever since I've discovered it, I come here every day.
Can relate
>why am I here? Why do I keep coming back here? When did I fall into the crowd that browses imageboards? What type of person comes to these sorts of websites?
I think anyone can visit this site even out of pure curiosity, but its mostly imageboard users or at least someone who is/has been terminally online.
>Socially awkward women. Isolated women. Those that got bullied at school. NEETs. Women having various issues one way for another. Women whose lives aren't going anywhere. Women waiting for a diagnosis, or diagnosed with something. Women who have suffered a lot.
Can confirm I am in this group, but I'm trying to get better.
>I think, "out of the classmates at school i knew, who would be the type to keep browsing a website like crystal cafe?"
I think no girl from my school would, or even 90% of people in my city. Simply because most people only speak a basic level of english or dont speak it at all.
>I was that "weird kid" constant loser all throughout school. Some people were scared of me. Some people found me stuck up and humorless, even though I love silly things. Some people found me funny, and fun to bully.
Well, can't say anything other than that was me in school. Easy to bully not easy to get along with, even though i wasn't mean to anyone, like, ever, except when I had to stand up for myself.
>but sometimes I feel like a total loser for being the type to find, and keep returning to this place. Those normie classmates of mine probably don't lead a life that would motivate them to find, and keep returning to this place.
I feel like everyone's life sucks right now unless you're rich or something. My normie classmates still struggle with life and have their own problems (some of them got pregnant at an early age like 18 or 19, some dropped out of college even though they were 100% normie, etc.)
>Why are we here? Are we "losers"? I guess it's nice that there's a place for us, if we are losers. But don't you ever find it sad that we've possibly found ourselves in the "loser's club"?
I used to think of myself as a loser for being terminally online, but a few things made me realize I am not. I am mentally ill and have lots of issues in my life, but seeing my normie classmates fail in life or give up made me feel stronger. Because some of them got spoiled their entire life, had decent parents and didnt struggle with money, yet still ended up failing in some way or another, while I got through so much shit, was never socialized properly because most people didnt want to be friends with me, I am most likely autistic and yet still I'm building up confidence and i can approach strangers without much problem now, I feel less afraid now and more confident in myself.
I certainly don't think being introverted, autistic, socially inept or unattractive makes you a loser, what makes you a loser is giving up on your life, especially when you don't have a good reason for it.

Anonymous 77976

>>77972
I relate to what you said so much. Don't think bullying is the right term, but kids definitely made fun of me many times. I've always felt like I'm missing an "x factor" that makes other people like me, instead of merely tolerating my presence. I too have classmates that got pregnant young.

People always say you need a role model, but I have to wonder if seeing others your age fail hard is just as important sometimes.

Anonymous 77999

I'm here because I love anonymity, imageboards and it's the only (mostly) women only site I know aside from lolcow. And I'm not interested in cows so CC is more for me. Sometimes it feels like this is the only space for autistic outcast women in the world. Maybe I should make a Tumblr, I don't know. I wish I could talk to more women like me so I could feel less alone.

Anonymous 78641

i pass as a ‘normie’ these days but when i was a teen i was a NEET/terminally online. got badly bullied and traumatised. i don’t really look at stuff like 4chan anymore, i mainly like to go on here because it’s a girl-only site (well - is meant to be) and because it’s quite obscure i find it cosy but also interesting.

Anonymous 78826

>>77746
>Are we "losers"?
Yes. We are the statistical outlier of subgroup: nonentities. It's ok though, I still like you <3

Anonymous 79149

>>77746

As others have mentioned, I ended up here because I'm terminally online. I'm also seeking a space that is less invasive of my privacy. Social media practically only exists to sell your personal data these days, after all.
The people on it are also mostly NPCs whose only idea of "hot takes" are those that already follow the far-left crowd. You can't post anything going against the grain without risk of getting ganged up on. I like imageboards because it reminds me that there are still people that can think for themselves.

Anonymous 79170

Yes.

Most people that visit and live in forums are losers. Take it from me, a loser. And by loser I mean I haven't done the things most people have in life. Haven't succeeded in the way you're expected to. I guess it's fine, I like it here. I do wish that I could be a stupid gender babbling idiot with irl friends and the retardation that comes with being normal.

Anonymous 79176

>>79170
But why would you want to be retarded

Anonymous 79216

>>77746
goddammit I want lettuce, they're like 13 bucks each right now.
I got here through 4chan, with 4chan I lurk various boards but never post. I don't particularly care for the misandry here but it's an improvement, I guess.
Recently I have become more normie due to my job but was definitely very schizo and retarded as a teen. I'd still be classified as higher than average in terms of introversion though.

Anonymous 79220

I am proudly a loser, i’m tired of feeling ashamed of it.

Anonymous 79231

>>79176
retards are happy. Unironically. Even actual retards.

Anonymous 79249

>>79231
Retards can be mad



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