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Anonymous 78596

I’m so tired, i just failed a class of mine. I can retake it but it’s been hell since i don’t like college or the major i’m in. I have other dreams that 19 year old me dismissed. Wondering if i should just drop out. I can’t imagine a future. My brain is foggy. I can’t imagine myself working in an office job, people have always ignored and belittled me and i doubt anyone would hire me. I wish i could figure out a way to just make money. Nothing i do works out. I’m stuck in this cycle of pure confusion, all i have been taught in childhood and adolescence is some narcissist’s bullshit rants. That’s the tool i was given. Schizo rants. and now i’m learning how hard living in the world can be, i’m paying the price. This is such a stressful situation

Anonymous 78597

drop out and switch major somewhere else

Anonymous 78598

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>>78596
Are you cute? Stream on twitch

Anonymous 78600

>>78598
I’m not cute and even if i was, i’m too fidgety and nervous to host an audience lol. Trust me i tried before

Anonymous 78601

>>78600
What are you good at? Writing, art, sports, guessing the M&M color by taste?

Anonymous 78602

>>78601
I’m an artist. I do digital sculpting and painting/drawing although my brain fog and the college drop out or stay in issue has been preventing me lately from producing anything. It’s a spiral

Anonymous 78603

>>78602
Psychologically you need a change in environment and then behaviour. I won't go into the literature, but I assume you stay at home or in your room? Go out to the library or coffeeshop to work. Visualise what you want to be. Build a routine to get you there. And as importantly everyday get some exercise and get some sunlight. This will help alleviate brain fog.

Anonymous 78605

>and now i’m learning how hard living in the world can be
Yeah, that's the crux of the issue for most of us isn't it. My hearts goes out to ya.

>>78603
This is a good post. I agree with it all, but I think to be more specific OP is saying she was left without a lot of fundamental skills and knowledge that modern folks need to have because her parent(s?) was a schizo freak. OP, what kind of skills and knowledge do you want to have that you think you missed out on?

>since i don’t like college or the major i’m in

Naive question but, why'd you take on that major then? Have you ever taken one of those academic inventories where you input detailed info about your personality and skills and it gives you info about what you'd be best at? You kinda have to balance what you could do well and what actually has career prospects 'n stuff.

>and i doubt anyone would hire me

I started off 'behind' (and still am tbh), but even without any work experience in the beginning, wondering why anyone would hire me, I figured out that I was able to find some simple online volunteering stuff to do like grading some K12 essays and making a spreadsheets from some online research I was asked to do. It wasn't super easy to find them but if you are patient you'll come across those neat online ones that anyone can do. I'm sure that looked very cool on the resumé when I was first applying for a job (that I did get) without any proper work experience. This was the site I used: https://volunteermatch.org/

Cheers, rooting for you OP

Anonymous 78609

>>78605
>what kind of skills and knowledge do you want to have that you think you missed out on?
Dunno anon, basic social skills, the ability to speak without fearing people (schizo rants caused much of that), it would’ve helped if they put me in classes or nurtured my curiosity and desire to learn as a child as well as confidence. I never spoke to people at all. I was shut in since i was very young and my future was never discussed. I guess my mom decided i’ll just grow up and get married to a guy and it all will be a ok like she did in the 1970s
>why’d you take on that major
College where i’m from is free and government funded, you get in based on your hs diploma and so the major i’m in was the one i could get accepted to get into.
Aside from that, thank you OP you’re really sweet and you and >>78603 make good points. I have considered volunteering and i check that site from time to time haha. Hope it works out somehow.

Anonymous 78614

>>78609
>basic social skills, the ability to speak without fearing people (schizo rants caused much of that)
I'm an aspie myself and had to learn the hard way. I would weird people out a lot as a kid and also would get fixated on a few specific topics and annoying people about them, but after being teased/rejected enough I was able to restrain myself, learning by imitation and all. I don't know exactly what you're like but you sound perfectly fine over text, what happens when talking in person?

>so the major i’m in was the one i could get accepted to get into

Just so I'm understanding, you were only given a single choice of major, not even at the very least a few?

>thank you OP you’re really sweet

:D

Anonymous 78640

>>78596

check out a couple different career counsellors. they might help you figure out what to do.



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