Here's what I did, maybe it will help someone. My house has been consistently clean for about 4 months now.
>1. Treat any underlying mental health issues
Untreated depression will ruin your efforts, no matter how hard you try to apply organisation tools. None of the advice here or anywhere will do anything for you if you don't deal with this first.
I cut my wardrobe down to 7 going out outfits, 4 comfy outfits for home and two pyjamas. I own 3 pairs of shoes I wear regularly and a pair of heels I haven't worn in 3 years. I also have some comfy bedroom slippers. Additionally I have only one dish and cutlery set for each person in my house. I have two cooking pots.
Basically just keep stuff you can get dirty to the absolute barest minimum. This will help greatly if you just start there. I also went ahead and got rid of nearly everything I owned as well, only have the barest furniture, etc. but it's best to start on those trouble areas (laundry and dishes) before considering further things.
Every item has a home location where I keep it and I got into the habit of returning them there by reminding myself that I want to find this item later. I have gotten so thorough I even have a hook where I hang my phone when I'm not using it.
>4. Daily Items
I have a key hook, random shit basket and small table to put my purse onto when I walk in the door. Then I can just drop everything there and it won't be lost. The random shit basket gets emptied every two months or so to make sure I haven't accumulated too many odd items in there.
I have more stuff I do than this also.