Making up a new identity Anonymous 2614
>Have you ever lied about your past?
>Have you ever made up a new identity for yourself?
I'm considering doing this.
May I ask why? I hope everything's okay.
Yes, everything is fine. I guess I just don’t identify with my past anymore if that makes sense. I don’t like talking about it as I feel it gives the wrong idea of who I am now. I’d prefer just to forget about it all. I really like the idea of thinking of an idealised version of myself and then becoming it.
I hope u are safe and happy. love from ur secret /b/itchie on yo side
What do you mean?
> Get a new fb/twitter/rest online shit
> Get new friends, tell them lies about past
Why? They can't really became friends if you don't trust them
> Change name, get new id, settle in another city
It's too tiresome.
> regards, tranny
Sudoku is the only way.
I don't use social media but everything else, yes. I'm more of a loner anyway so it would only be acquaintances or a bf/gf.
>>2621> acquaintances or a bf/gf.
Dating is for fun, not for bullshit history lessons or something like that.
Like, who care if a bf was abused bullied nerd in school, when he is robust chad with own business right now?
Past is past. It happend before, but right now everything is diffrent. It doesn't exist right now, so what's the problem, lol? Even if you was known as a whore who blows for weed, everything is diffrent now.
I have a fantasy about just driving away and leaving behind everything. My family, my friends, my future. Just starting a new, and thriving in somewhere where no one knows anything about me. Obviously I can never do this, but sometimes this temptation lulls me to sleep at night.
I'd recommend reading How to Be Invisible by J. J. Luna. There's plenty of PDFs out there. Although I don't agree with everything Luna has to say, parts of it can be useful. If you followed the book to a tee, you would have no friends, no hobbies, and no life, so don't do that. But it can be helpful when it comes to hiding who you were. If you're obsessed, you would change your name, delete all of your social media, and move across the country. There you would be able to make new socials and friends under your new name, and, provided you don't tell them where you came from, you'll be home free. Just don't initiate a missing person search. There's no better way to mess up than by having your face plastered on every milk carton and police station across the state.
How old are you, OP? I conceal my true nature and lie by omission to the few people I come across, but I think that's fairly common.
It's a lot easier to make friends when you already have them. It's also easier to explain you are trying to improve/mature than it is to lie to cover your tracks and keep consistent. It's certainly possible to start over as a new person and leave your past self behind, but it'd be very difficult.
Because I've spent much my of life sitting indoors on my own sometimes my voice would sound American when I was speaking, this was a source of great shame as I'm British. Anyway, when someone asked me if I was American one time I told them my mum was Canadian.
Also I gave a fake name to a farmer after I was caught trespassing by her earlier this year.
God, I'm such a flipping rebel and I don't think this is the sort of thing OP meant.
I have this as well! It's sooo annoying when people don't believe me when I tell them where I'm from. They always say "but you don't sound British" then 5 minutes later "oh, wait, I guess you do". Like shut up and listen to me?
I've thought about doing the same tbh. Also considered accent classes. Right now I'm living abroad and learning the local language. Planning on switching to that completely when I can.
>>2614>Leave family for "reasons">Homeless in car for 2 months>Live in shit suburb for a year waiting on employment for better job>Change name and ditch everyone who ever knew me>Enter new job as a completely fabricated person
Eventually made up with family and ditched the alias after about 2 years.
It's easy if you're willing to commit. That means NO ONE from your past is to remain in contact and you better have reasons prepared if asnyone asks why. I also left at the drop of a hat and had no time to prepare which resulted in pic related being almost everything I owned.
>>2631>girls can't have tools
suck my dick
I very much would like to read your blog posts
anything about anything
>Have you ever lied about your past?
Yes, I was abused. I usually omit it, outright lie about it, or just plainly answer it was complicated. I don't care for how people I trusted in the past weaponized it against me, told others who had no reason to know about it, it just always turned back on me and I realized that nobody can ever be respectful about personal bits like that. My last ex was particularly bad about it but made it out to be a good thing.
>Have you ever made up a new identity for yourself?
A few times, I use aliases or nicknames a lot more now. They still tie back to me, but not quite. I'm thinking of just disappearing when corona is over officially, by then I'll have saved up enough to.
>>3272>weaponized it against me
i always hear abused people saying this and it is so fucked up. besides it being a shitty thing how does it even make sense? do they go haha you deserved it???
sorry if this sounded a bit rude! i've never dealt with abuse so it doesn't make sense to me
i think this is why i have always loved anonymous boards, having an identity that people see you as is so tiresome. i've recently deleted all social media and have only been keeping in contact with one close friend and it's felt so much better for me. i've always been tempted to forma completely false persona and play a character, but i feel keeping that up would get tiresome after a while too.
being a drifter with no identity is fun. I often give aliases to new people and go by many names
how do you do this without feeling lonely? I've made up a lot new aliases in these past 5 years and everytime i do it i always kind of feel bad for cutting people off because i know it'll take me ages to find new friends again.
I also like online attention way too much because I hardly have any close irl friends.
I prefer being by myself and never feel much of a connection to other people anyway so I don't feel like I am losing anything.
Same, I also find having and maintaining a particular identity tiresome, which is why I much prefer anonymous websites to social media sites. I think some people who use social media enjoy the identity they've built up a little too much and gain narcissistic tendencies, as well.>>2614
From what I've seen, literally everyone tells certain "white lies" about their past or their opinions and beliefs in order to build rapport with people and gain social acceptance because people are so judgemental over petty things sometimes. This is especially true in the workplace, but applies in other areas of life as well. To be honest, I find doing so tiring and so I mostly keep to myself.
After highschool I went to a college where I knew absolutely nobody so I could "reinvent myself". I didn't tell people much about my past and took on a whole different personality. I didn't like who I was before that and now I was finally popular. It felt great 10/10 would do again if I could go back.
Really interesting. What sort of changes did you make? Being more outgoing or more than that?
I lie about not dropping out of college, and just say I'm working for money for next year. Also drop hints thta i have a life outside work. People look down on you if you haven't lived the succesful lifescript. I don't have any interest in becoming a target for bored bullies.
Can't remember if I made this thread or not but I've been feeling like wanting to do this for a while.
What I ended up realising is that "you" are not static and that each new person that meets you will mostly base their overall perception and understanding of you on present day "you" and not every version of "you" that has existed and that is still in your head. For example, I did really badly in important high school exams and in college, yet the last few years I took some courses online, worked hard, and did well. My partner vaguely knows I didn't do well before but has only seen the version of me that works hard and so considers me to be that type of person while someone from my past would totally disagree. Neither of them are wrong from what they knew but the person from the past is not correct for present day me.
Basically, you don't need to make up a new "you", you need to become it.
Unfortunately there will always be some times where annoying people will ask straight off the bat where you went to college 10 years ago (so they can tell you about the amazing place they went), or when you're in a job interview and need to list every job you've ever worked, but for the most part it's actually pretty easy to be light on details you don't like about your past.
I also think telling some white lies about yourself to people you don't know well to cover up personal issues is fine, provided you're willing to accept that they might be a time where you have to own up and explain why you lied. Making up a completely new identity is just too easy to make a mistake with and then have everyone turn against you.
Rereading this thread, I see that these two posts already said the same but I guess I had to realise it for myself:>>2622>Dating is for fun, not for bullshit history lessons or something like that.
>Like, who care if a bf was abused bullied nerd in school, when he is robust chad with own business right now?
>Past is past. It happend before, but right now everything is diffrent. It doesn't exist right now, so what's the problem, lol? Even if you was known as a whore who blows for weed, everything is diffrent now.>>3408>From what I've seen, literally everyone tells certain "white lies" about their past or their opinions and beliefs in order to build rapport with people and gain social acceptance because people are so judgemental over petty things sometimes. This is especially true in the workplace, but applies in other areas of life as well.
same here, i had a revolving door of short-lived relationships when i was younger where i would get attached and then they would be gone. so i just stopped attaching, then it accelerated a lot in the last few years with me just not keeping many people around.
I became more outgoing, dressed more stylish, actively worked on being more caring and accepting of others. I pretended like I was thriving and it eventually manifested itself.
I dumped all former connections to any friends before college as they were mostly toxic anyway. >>3667
Everything here holds true, in my situation I never talked about what I was like beforehand so I had never actually lied about anything. If somebody asked I was upfront about wanting to have made a change in myself and most people accepted me for who I am currently and not who I was.
No human is static, change is the only constant in life (as mushy as that sounds it's true).
In 2011 I made an artist persona.
I'm a shut in and I identify more with the persona than who I am physically. My personality no longer matches my face. Communicating in public feels strange and exposing.