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Vent thread Anonymous 132763[Reply]

Again we need to vent
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Anonymous 133899

>>133898
You sound very, very borderline. This reads like textbook bpd.

Anonymous 133903

>>133893
I think this is probably the most innocuous erotic thing you can consume tbh. Less likely to influence you negatively

Anonymous 133904

I asked my bf about what he did today with his friends when they were hanging out. I didn't phrase it like I was questioning him or anything, I just like listening to him talk and want him to share his life with me.

He got really defensive and now I do actually feel suspicious.

Anonymous 133905

>>133904
He was having sex with his friends

Anonymous 133909

Is it really that bad to laugh at low iq autistic moids in class who can't do the homework? I just feel like everyone's a cop now and I should get to laugh a lil at midwits without being canceled. I'm not doing it to his face.


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Chronically suicidal nonnas how do you cope? Anonymous 133852[Reply]

Hi s, basically title. I have been chronically depressed and suicidal for the vast majority of my life. I will probably be like this for the rest of my life. I'm a pretty stable person at this point. I have a routine, I take care of myself, but as I go through my 20s I feel distant from people and can't really engage with them because I know my inner life freaks people out. I'm curious how other chronically suicidal s cope with their feelings outside of the obvious answer of therapy or medication, which I've been in and out of for many years and has never provided any relief. What distracts you or makes the next day more enjoyable?

Anonymous 133869

I have learned to live with suicidal ideations as a recurring thing since I was a teenager, and I view suicide as an option if things get really bad with no chance of getting better. I distract myself with music, tv, and video games. I also have no friends


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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 133747

>>133746
Well yes? That’s the point? Your posts are getting dumb lately

Anonymous 133748

>>133747
Oof ouch owwy my feelings. I've barely posted here in the last 3 months though.

Anonymous 133799

Been getting very into emergency preparedness again. I’m building up supplies and have a very useful bag to keep things in. Is it making me feel a little like a schizo? Yes, but I believe my concern is valid, and there’s a very big difference between anxiety and just mental awareness. Burying my head in the sand is no good, and being prepared can help me live life more comfortably with the knowledge that if things get bad, I am prepared for it. Any other s into emergency preparedness/prepping? I’ve thought about making a thread for it but I don’t think it would be a very good one. I highly encourage anyone reading this to stockpile, you don’t need a basement full of jars of musty food that you’ve had for years, just think about what your household would need if things got bad for at least 72 hours. When you go grocery shopping, pick out non-perishables. You can build it up over time. I think it’s a very useful thing to do

Anonymous 133906

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Does anyone else remember the shitty deep fried and "abstract" meme era
I hated them at the time

Anonymous 133907

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>>133906
That makes no sense, like the person doesn't know what irony is


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disowning my entire family because they are extreme trads. advice? Anonymous 133684[Reply]

My family, including extended family, is extremely trad. Beliefs vary a little bit but for the most part women shouldn't go to college or vote, premarital sex is evil, dating around is evil, and not having kids makes you a whore. They're like christian jihadists essentially.

"Women's rights" wise my parents were actually better than my extended family because they wanted me to be educated and to work, they just wouldn't pay for any college. (They paid for my brother, lol). But my parents fucked it up for themselves because they beat me really bad and started calling me a whore the moment I got my period. Real Carrie shit. I still have an eating disorder because I was mostly fed their leftovers and just never developed an appetite. Just real bizarre shit. My point is, I have no familial ties to any of these people. Like they're just nothing to me.

My main obstacle is getting a job that pays enough. I'm on medicaid and am getting psychiatric help but it might be a long road to normalcy. I had a full time job once and had a nervous break that stopped me from sleeping for five days. I'm really scared to go back to work after that but I've tried a few part time jobs and gig work since then and I found a few things that I could cope with I think.

My main fear is that they come looking for me and start a lot of drama. Does anyone else have experience with this? Are they allowed to just stalk you in the USA if you're related to them?
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Anonymous 133763

>>133701
>have to fuck him
you dont actually. just say you have sexual trauma and want to work on it, then never do it. maybe go to therapy to cover.

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>>133762
You sound like you might as well just get a roommate

Anonymous 133783

Save money and fly the countro, I know it sounds very hard and I might not be being empathetic about your situation enough. Yet what you describe? oh my god nona that sounds so awful.

I'm really sorry for what your family did to you, it sounds like so nuts omg wtfff they are all nuts

I think if you can fly and leave that country do it. Do not miss that opportunity. Fly and leave the couuntry and never look back.

Anonymous 133894

>>133783
Lol the closest I've gotten to a lavender marriage was actually a foreign girl who wanted a greencard. I think in her country I would automatically be considered a resident after that so I could do that. Hmm I need to text her.

Anonymous 133902

>>133762
From a financial standpoint your deal sounds laughable to a guy, you’d be the most overpriced cook in the world, if you want a free meal ticket then you might want to consider a boyfriend before a husband, no one’s going to be a knowing legally bound bag holder


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Using meds without medication: fucking stupid? Anonymous 133818[Reply]

Hello s, im looking for some genuine advice.

Basically, i think i have something going wrong with my head, maybe ocd or something wrong but there is shit that doesnt work properly.

i dont have neither the cash nor the time to get into therapy and get diagnosed, but i fear that this shit is actively making my life way worse, for me and those around me.

So now for the thread topic, heard that many ppl that got better in life with the use of medicatons, i was thinking of prozac in particular.

Do you think it would be fucking stupid to try and get it in other ways, without prescriptions? What are the cons? Can it improve my life?

Ricky because him and trailer park boys are the only thing keeping me sane
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Anonymous 133853

If we’re sharing our experiences with meds, I took Prozac for a few months and it helped a lot, and even then my doctor was very insistent I find therapy. My mental dropped to its previous levels when I stopped taking it pretty much. Prozac (specifically, the European brand for the same formula) is extremely cheap in my country so I don’t think you’re going to bankrupt yourself if it ends up working.

Still, keep in mind that even when they are effective you need to pair them with therapy and work.

Anonymous 133881

>>133850
>Your number one priority should be to figure out what psychological problem exactly it is that you "have",

i don't think that is wise. doctors will either prescribe you a pill, prescribe you a surgery or some kind of therapy. physical therapy is different but psychological therapy in many cases is just checking boxes in a questionaire oder answering questions that result in recommendations that you could have easily come up with yourself if you bothered to did some digging yourself.

also i reject this industrial perspective of problem-solution. what if there isn't a problem? what if what appears as a psychological problem is completely reasonable behavior given the situation.

what i believe to be a way better approach is to build a model of mental health. what is mentally healthy? how to achieve mental health? doctors deal in disease and not in health. any respectable doctor would spend most of his time advocating prevention. an approach like that i expect to automatically fill any gaps if there are any.

Anonymous 133889

>>133881
>i don't think that is wise.
But taking a random medication, despite having no idea what your "problem" is, or how that medication will ultimately affect your body, since you have no medical or psycho-therapeutic know-how whatsoever, is?
>doctors will either prescribe you a pill, prescribe you a surgery or some kind of therapy
You realize you don't actually have to do whatever it is the doctor recommends you to do if you disagree with him, right? The point is just to get a basic idea of what the problem actually is, from a person that has a professional understanding of the human body / mind / hormones / psyche. And even then you can still disagree with the doctors results, if you have reasons to do so, but it will almost certainly give you some degree of insight or at least perspective on what's wrong with you, some degree of information that you can use to evaluate the problem. Again, my point is that identifying what it is that is causing you anguish is the number one priority, once you know what the problem is, you can choose how to deal with it as you see fit (be it with medication, therapy, taking a different approach to life, etc).
>what if there isn't a problem? what if what appears as a psychological problem is completely reasonable behavior given the situation.
Then your therapist / doctor will tell you as much. And even if they try to ""sell you on being mentally ill"" because they are ""greedy and in cahoots with big pharma"" (I'm not american, so I don't know in how far these sorts of claims are based in reality or if they're just a popular superstition. I can say for certain that it's untrue for my european home country) you can just tell them no (but I've already explained this concept of getting a 2nd opinion and then still making your own decisions beforehand). But this is irrelevant to the OP regardless, because the OP already identified there being a problem with her life. As long as the OP feels there is a problem, there is a problem with how she feels. Technically she could "get rid of the problem" by ceasing to view it as such: she could just "stop caring". However, as she has described "making the lives of those around her way worse" due to what she perceives as a problem, stopping to treat it as a problem would entail an abandoPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

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>>133841
>>133849
>>133850
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>>133889

s, i really dont know how to thank you all, every time i wrote something here you've all been extremely helpful and kind, even now!
I Will treasure all of your suggestions and try to get something good from my days that doesnt involve getting on the meds, i'll also try to get in contact with my uni for cheaper therapy.

Really don't know how to thank y'all, have a wonderful night! (Or day!)

Anonymous 133901

>>133889
I absolutely don't want to invalidate the others that still have me really nice suggestions, but thank you so much especially to you !! Will treasure everything you and all the others said


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Anonymous 132317[Reply]

help i don’t know if this is the wrong place to ask this or if this is gross and tmi but like i genuinely dont know if this normal
so everytime i masturbate by penetration i pee… is that fucking normal ive looked everywhere and it said that it’s just squirting but i don’t know if it’s actually that and i’m fucking scared that if i get boyfriend and we have sex i’ll fucking piss on him

Anonymous 132319

Yes—this can be normal.

During penetration or strong arousal, the muscles that control urination can relax, and pressure from the movement can stimulate the bladder. Some people also notice a little urine (or “leakage”) especially with deeper penetration, certain positions, a full bladder, or intense stimulation.

What helps:

Try peeing beforehand.
Use a position that gives you more control over depth/pressure (or stop and adjust if you feel it happening).
Place a towel on the area to reduce stress.
If you do pelvic floor exercises (Kegels), many people find they reduce leakage over time.

When to get checked:

Burning/pain, strong urgency, foul-smelling urine, blood, fever (possible infection).
Wetting that happens often even when you’re not aroused or pressure is minimal.
Trouble holding urine, or new leakage after a change (e.g., childbirth, surgery).

Anonymous 132321

>>132319
Did you use ai to write this

Anonymous 133863

idk cause i thought me holding my pee was lowkey an orgasm but like i dont think i know what an orgasm really feels like like i beat my clitty while holding my pee and then i go pee in the toilet and i feel like i came or smth idk. how do i gen make myself orgasm. is peegasm orgasm? does it count? to me it does tbh cause i like the feeling and i get super wet discharge when i do it like that

Anonymous 133870

>>133863
sounds normal, just make sure to put a towel under you


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Anonymous 130287[Reply]

I'm ugly. I'm overweight. I'm extremely socially anxious and autistic, which is why I haven't had a single friend in almost ten years. I lack hygiene, I'm incredibly insecure and feel the need to kill myself when I have to think of my pathetic existence. Nothing is fun to me because I cannot concentrate for the life of me. I have tried to change my life multiple times but I cannot stick with it. Instead, my body keeps being pulled in to bed and my fate is probably to rot here forever.
Only reason I haven't killed myself yet is because I'm still young, only 20, so I am hoping for a miracle… Advice would be very appreciated. If there is any at this point.
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>>130300
>My next therapist used 'talking therapy' which involved me getting things off my chest, then they would give their professional feedback on thought patterns or behaviours.
That does sound helpful, and even though I didn't go to therapy because of childhood trauma, I wish mine was like that too. I wish she would give her professional insights on my problems but instead, she just invalidates every single one of mine. I tell her I have issues with masking constantly since I was a child, and her response to these kinds of things is "No, you don't seem to have that problem"?? It's like going to the doctor because your knee hurts, and they just tell you "No, your knee doesn't hurt. I think you're just imagining the pain!" She also told me that I cannot be autistic because my of my good ability read and write, and because I can feel emotions (I thought she was kidding me but no). What she probably meant was that I cannot be autistic because I'm a woman lol.
>there are extroverted nice people who like the same things you do and will make the effort to connect - so please don't hide from them :)
Well that sounds encouraging, I have met extroverts before who were very kind to me, I guess they liked that I'm quiet because that gave them more space to talk hah. I think I will try to attend such meeting, and if it sucked, I won't have to see the people ever again.
>Keep posting here with updates:) I believe in you!
Thank you anon, I will update under this thread in a month or two from now, I'll try to do as much of your advice as I can!

Anonymous 130309

>>130301
I'm really sorry about that, but I am positive that we can make it out of it. As you have said, you were able to pull yourself out before a couple of times. Also I think it helps to hear of other nonas who went through the same and got better eventually. I think putting in a bunch of effort is worth a try, no matter how hard it will be.
>>130303
Hmm, I have heard of obese people being prescribed stimulants such as vyvanse for weightloss since it suppresses your hunger a lot… Maybe make him aware of that. You'd solve two problems at once.

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>>130301
How does your body feel physically? Do you have an illness? I know I said to the OP, but please also get a full blood panel (including serum iron + ferritin) if possible.

Anonymous 132071

>>130287
How it going OP?

Anonymous 133865

I have crazy but lowkey useful advice.

what i did was get an adhd diagnosis which is honestly really easy like anyone can lowk larp it. i mainly kept asking my therapist abt why its so hard to focus and stuff over and over and kept explaining my adhd symptoms so i could get adhd meds to lose weight, and i got it to a high dose so now i lowk feel happy on the adhd pill and stuff. so like it helps with weight cause u lose the urge to binge. stimulants help with it. us ND girls are more prone to binging cause we're trying to get dopamine. when you are skinnier u feel prettier 100%. thats the first step to it.


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keep wanting him while having a boyfriend Anonymous 133677[Reply]

I have a bf but I keep thinking about a past guy. We were good friends and both liked eachother. But eventually drifted apart. I frequently thought about him.

2 months into my current relationship we coincidentally had contact. it felt so good, we talked for a couple of days. there was always so much unspokenness between us so then i texted him: i want to be honest with you, i used to like you and it was good to talk to you again but i think its better to let go now and not talk to eachother anymore. I didn't mention my boyfriend.

we had a good last conversation and he said he respects my decision and he regrets not having asked me out, and that it'll be difficult for him to let go but he's glad we're on good terms.

but still (2 months later) we keep having these small interactions on social media. i can tell he is still paying attention to me and i am also to him. I check his profiles every fucking day. Sometimes even while I'm with my bf. He doesn't know i have a boyfriend now. I think that would hurt him and he'd feel deceived. It's my responsibility but i also keep seeking out interactions with him and make it clear i still think about him. I look forward to like texting him next year to ask how he's doing.

i just feel so shitty. i know i should probably remove him from socials to minimize this and move on. but I don't. I want to hold the door open. It feels so good thinking back to us and fantasizing about what could've been. Our chemistry was so insane and talking with him felt good in so many ways. He's also really funny and I feel like there's more I like about him than my boyfriend for example. And yet I love my boyfriend fully for who he is and i want to spend my life with him. part of it might also be that i feel like im a difficult person to love and my boyfriend is so supportive and i don't think i'll find that in other guys. I'm scared that if i were to pursue somethign with the guy it'd fall apart or something or it'd be like i deceived him because i have so many issues. then again i also had those thoughts with my current boyfriend- and despite my worries we turned out really well.

my bf is so patient with me and understanding and loves me so much. its not like he's treaating me wrong and i'm missing something in the relationship… i just suck

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Anonymous 133681

>>133678
Do not. Do not listen to this.

There are going to be lots of moments in any relationship where other people seem enticing. This is normal. Other people are going to seem more exciting because you don't know them. They are fresh, they are new, they are different.

And that is entirely why this is a mistake. You have a perfectly good boyfriend. You know him, you feel safe with him, you feel comfortable with him. You've spent a good amount of time with him already and you know you that you're compatible together.

You haven't actually dated this other guy. You don't know what he's like in a relationship outside of how he wasn't ready to commit to you earlier when you were closer(red flag).

You're already emotionally cheating given how much you're fantasizing while interacting with him. Your boyfriend doesn't know and won't have to know but if you go further you might just end up with someone who isn't consistent and will leave you with nothing while losing your current boyfriend too.

Anonymous 133685

thank u all for the replies. I want to elaborate it's not that i'm idealizing the guy. we were friends for a while and I started to fall in love with everything i got to know about him. For me new people aren't 'enticing' at all because I want a connection before anything else. In my opinion friends to lovers is the way to go. That's why it's difficult with him because we already have a history and I know him. And truthfully his qualities resonate more with me than the ones my boyfriend has.

>>133681
your comment brought me back to reality. You're right it's crazy to think about breaking up for someone who isn't even clearly communicating with me. When we had the conversation he showed regret not being more direct with me and asking me out. But he still isn't doing that- maybe because I told him i didn't want anything more. Then again, I also said he could always text me if something was up. So he knows he could ask me. Instead he is making playlists with my name on spotify and telling me in the description to reach out to him. I won't interact w that anymore. If he actually were to communicate w me I'll say I'm in a relationship now.

thank u nonas <3

Anonymous 133750

>>133677
yeah you should break up if only because the longer this goes on the more it will hurt your current bf when you inevitably betray him

Anonymous 133759

>>133685
You will break up with your current boyfriend so you might as well do it now, think of it as charity so another girl who’s satisfied with just one good man can have him

Anonymous 133862

i feel the same abt a bf ive had for like 6 months, idk why. ive had the same experience, the guys nice respectful super chill, we recently had a nice chill conversation about life and stuff. idk why i want him aswell. i wish my bf would breakup with me but i also dont i want both at the same time


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im never going to happy or free Anonymous 133859[Reply]

im not happy with my life, i struggle to be an average student. i feel so dumb. ive been trying to lose the same amount of weight for two years now. i havent gotten anywhere in my life. Ive grown up with super strict parents they sheltered me so much thoughout my whole life i havent been able to make lasting friendships. all i really want is friends. girls in school dont like me. i wanted to experience romance like other girls but i never could. one day when i was 16 i was being really dumb and i downloaded a dating app and started talking to guys because i really wanted to be validated. i wanted to be wanted. i wanted romantic attention. i secretly dated a 19 year old man and kept it secret from my parents. my parents hate me now theyre like super extreme. so i lost all my freedom and now everyone thinks im some whore. im still secretly dating that guy idk if its wrong but i want attention i dont have ppl close to me and he is the only one close to me. i cant trust anyone. now because my parents and family hate me cause im too much for them i have 9 months to move out but i dont have money or a stable income. my mom takes my goverment allowance and idk how to get it back and if i do it myself it will cause more issues with my family cause theyre super weird about money and stuff so i might be at risk of homelessless or something else bad if i do it without them knowing. im trying to keep the peace but im super stressed about money and what im gonna do. i wanna give up and run away with my bf. my fam has alot of restrictions on two of my devices like my ipad and phone cause they gotta track my location cause they dont trust me so i cant even fcking take them off that im on baby traps on my fucking phone i hate it. it pisses me off im technically an adult i cant buy a new phone cause i cant get a job cause i literally have no social skills and no experience with people cause my parents never let me outside. and like im trapped and theyre suddenly gonna js let me go in the world as like "oh fuck u since u wanna do whatever u want so bad, here be completely on ur own that waht u wanted right? to be independant" i dont have the skills. i barely know how to speak properly with people. i dont know what im gonna do. i hate everyone. i was never able to make friends growing up in school or after, my parents never let me out when i fought for my freedom it caused so many issues that i have to keep quiet so i dont end up homeless. nobody can help me. i dont know whaPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

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