my childhood best friend i havent seen since 2019 yup, we were already growing distant from each other by the point, but he defintely was my childhood, pretty mischevious but sweet and i was protective over him and we were each others firsts in a lot of things, when we met again in 2019 he sent me a message sometime that week saying "i miss you anon"

i checked his twitter last year and occasionally check it now, he is a Andrew Tate and Donald Trump worshipper now

>>108263
Weird, something similar happened to me as well with a long-distance friend. Never was any talk about it before, just as sudden "B-but I thought we were in a relationship!?" The only difference was that it wasn't entirely online.

I still get a little down thinking about it because she was nice to chat with at first, but it's long gone.

yes and I was in shock at first too. I did my best to distract myself so I wouldn't think about it and was scared of what it'd be like once it finally hit me. then a little later once I found it easier to think about I wrote about how I was feeling as if i was talking to my former friend and that might've helped even though nobody ever saw what I wrote. what also helps is reminding myself of how much the friendship break up hurt and that I never would've done that to that person and feeling angry instead of sad about it. eventually it fades because life goes on.

i was the one that started the argument. we were three friends, two girls and one guy. i was friends with the guy only because of the girl. we started talking towards the end of 2018 on the internet. i was 15, she saw me go through the worst things such as weight gain, my mother randomly lost her motherly nature towards me and treated me like a burden, i used to confide in her so much. i used to tell her everything. at one point i felt like i was in love with her. we planned to kiss each other on the lips but i backed out last minute because i felt like it would ruin our friendship. i was so fucking attached to her. it was all funny and goofy stuff once we started going to uni, finally being sort of free from our parents, we were discovering being young adults and i had the best moments of my life with both of them. last year, the two of them started dating. i was genuinely happy for them because they never really got to date anyone while they were in school, and they got along pretty well. but our dynamic changed and it was totally their fault. they started pda-ing in front of me. and im not talking hand holding, cute kisses, im talking almost having sex in front of me, smashing their faces together. the worst only happened when we were all drunk, so i ignored most of it. but the final straw was the day when we were in an uber, stuck in traffic, buzzed out on ONE BEER. they started smashing faces RIGHT NEXT TO ME. the uber driver was looking at them from the rear view mirror. i am from a conservative country, i felt so fucking violated that day i ended up screaming in the car. the worst part is that ONLY THE GUY APOLOGIZED TO ME. at first i didn't even plan on ending our friendship, i just really needed them to understand that they crossed a boundary. i didnt bother fighting with the guy because he apologized right away but i did fight with the girl for several days. i just wanted her to say sorry. she never fucking did. and you know what? it's been 4 months. i miss her so much it makes me cry sometimes. i miss them both. i check their twitter pretty often. they badmouth me. it hurts so bad. but things will never be the same. i will always want them to be happy, but the way they talk about me online makes me feel like they would be sad if im doing good. i celebrated new years with a different friend group and they tweeted about how i got over them so quick, i dump people and stick to new ones etc. i could never approach them after that. even though it hurPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

I could swear there was a bigger thread about this but I'll necro anyway:

This post on lc describes my ex best friend to a T and I still suffer from the "breakup" even though we haven't spoken in 8 years by now.
She was an extremist in all her views, from militant veganism to finding a way to make everything "problematic" but at the same time she was hateful towards everyone and anything so I always wondered why she was so protective and wanted to defend everyone from mistreatment but in the end I think she just needed a reason to mark everyone as "bad" in her mind. The funny thing is that she was extremely privileged - she had a traumatic childhood, which is why I forgave her for most of her lashing out, but starting from early teens her family was wealthy, and she was very beautiful, so she always managed to translate that into prestigious jobs with zero experience just based on how she looked and carried herself. Meanwhile I was ugly, awkward and lower class and she was the only one out of my rich privileged friends who made me feel that way. It was a friendship where I never knew if the next sentence I said would get me hung up on and everything was made into some sort of weird strife, one of the last times I hung out with her 1:1 we were running errands and doing some shopping, she was carrying multiple bags and I had none so I casually offered to take some and she barked at me that she didn't need help as if I was some dude patronizing her. Another time she asked if I want to stay with her for a few days because I was in a bad mental place and she put me up in her guest room and then completely ignored me and I was so confused wondering why she'd invite me. Most of my best friends in the course of my life were very heavily affected by BPD and these friendships hurt a lot but I miss the good times. When she let me in and was vulnerable or sweet it suckered me in enough to smooth over all the times she treated me like shit. Oh well

How did the job offer come around? He offered you unprompted, or what?

>>134069
We work in the same field. I have many years more experience than him. I messaged him on social media to ask for help finding a book I thought he might have access to. We otherwise rarely ever talk on social media. Then he just offered.

>>134074
It's best to assume all men are capable of ill intentions as it allows you to best prepare yourself for the worst case scenario, rather than having your hope of a decent, amicable connection crushed and your composure left unguarded.
The issue becomes a question of whether or not you think he's likely to be cruel about his ulterior motives (romantic slash sexual interest), or just the sort to leave open the chance to sleep with you. A lot of men hold space in their minds for the possibility that something could happen between him and a woman he thinks is at least not ugly. Do you know if he's a sensitive person, or the type to drop things easily when he's been slighted, even if a joke is an offense? Is he calm? What kind of things does he talk about, if not work?
It's hard to read the body language of men if you aren't accustomed to being around them, but most of the time it's not worth worrying about until they say something inappropriate. When they get more personal with their questions, asking whether you've got a partner or not, that's an absolute guarantee that he's feeling out the available room to behave in a certain way, predicting what he can get away with.
Decent men tend to at least try not to look at your boobs if they're "out", and that behaviour of dodging their eyes is usually more obvious than the staring, although sometimes they'll find their eyes drifting back to that spot when they don't want them to (the same way one can keep making awkward eye contact with a class mate across the room in their line of sight, and can't stop doing it after realising that they are.) You can try wearing a completely chest and torso covering outfit like a baggy shirt and see if he still flicks his eyes over your body, or if he changes how he treats you based on what you wear.
If the conversations are mostly in text and he doesn't push too often to be in person with you, that's a calm sign as of now. He could still be playing a long game, or he's.. nice and not really thinking about that. Maybe he's hired you for the really simple reason that he knows you from when you were young and thinks your personality is a fit for where he works.

It can be hard to hold suspicion against others as it complicates how you see them and might lead to misinterpreting true intentions. So it's not healthy to overthink it, but it's still safe to assume thaPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>134029
He's enjoying stringing you along, he likes that you're on your knees at his mercy, stop this bullshit and realize when you're the one running away they start to chase

>>132837

They're called "sneaky fuckers". Its a specific type of white knight man who pretends to have the morals/beliefs that he thinks will get him laid. It's a slimy way to get into your pants. You're better off trusting men who disagree with you because at least they are honest and won't lie.

I'm almost graduating as a pharmacist. While I'm waiting to defend my master thesis i started working in retail pharmacy and fuck I hate this so much what the hell! Customers are a pain in the ass, I probably use 5% of what I learned and technicians that did a 9-month online course are doing the same I do for 100€ less, and have no worries or responsibilities. Can't wait to officially graduate, and move to either hospital or follow the academic route. They're shitty as well but at least I'll be a little happier. Oh well.

In the room where women come and go, talking of Michaelangelo

>>134075
And I have seen the eternal Footman hold my coat, and snicker,
And in short, I was afraid.

right? Loneliness isn’t enough. They’re calling their own mothers whores, I hate these subhuman rats with my whole being.

men expect to get away with this behavior because they often do. so many women stay with horrible men and get trauma bonded and when they realize they need to escape it's too late cause they have a kid and the house is in his name, she doesn't have a stable job and he isolated her from her friends and family.
women that are lonely insecure and have trauma are ridiculously easy to manipulate and trauma bond. they literally say "my bf does [insert insanely horrible thing here] but he's nice otherwise what should i do> :(" and it's sad.
a lot of women are very lonely and will do anything for a crumb of affection and warmth from a man. and they used it to their advantage. most don't respect or love you but will pretend to be the nicest and sweetest guys you met.

Forced celibacy due to a lack of safe and reasonable options for partners is not a sex specific phenomenon. I hate their bullying, whining attitude.

I don't hate men of my own inspiration. They hate me first and I respond accordingly. None of them are true incels nowadays, just fakes who can't get stacy and feel wronged by nobody throwing pussy at them

i didn't even want to hate men. i am happy to simply live my life without them. just ignore them. truly neutral. but every time one finds his way into my life, its for the worse. and every time i hear news about men, either in my private sphere or a public man, its always something abhorrent and inhuman. i dont want to hate them but they make it hard not to

>>127819
A femcel server I used to be on was a server called Femdom. Would you happen to know of it by any chance?

>>127821
*Femceldom
My mistake

I don't think femcel spaces can really exist without being fetishised, targeted or internally sabotaged. It's so grim. I wish they were around and immune to being ruined

can i get a prayer. can i get a prayer, anyone

>>131889
A prayer for anything specifically?

Regardless may god bless and keep you always friend. God stays with anyone who wants to be kind and better themselves in this world.

>>131964
nothing in particular, all i wanted was to see who'd reply. thank-you

i pray for your light to illuminate my face. Please show me your light.

If a prayer can be contained in text, if I can send out a hope with no effort at all, if I can love and be loved without knowing a single bit of flesh, if I can ask God for anything, if I can be so presumptuous, if I can dare and deal with remaining unrewarded, could I ask, please, for the goodness in this world to win over the dark

Tired of getting sent to a therapist and it not helping? or tired of being a therapist friend? what do you mean

>>133810
Does he have an equally generous and clingy friend by chance?

I'm about to sponsor my bf of 3 years. Sometimes, I wonder if he's just using me for a visa and a lot of people say he is even without meeting him. We met online but we've also met in person. His only red flag is how secretive he is. He only uses Brave browser on incog and has 0 search history on his phone and his computer. He also does not want to post me on his social media (he claims he's just not active online). I fear he'll use me as a stepping stone into the USA and discard me when I'm no longer of use to him.

best case scenario:
>get to spend forever with someone I love.
>cheap rent

worst case scenario:
>he uses me for a visa
>we divorced
>I might be financially in a hole since I'll technically

even worst case scenario:
>he's a pyshco/ physically abusive

>>134050
He clearly has something to hide. I've met people that aren't active and they've never cared whether or not you post on their socials.

Check his. Do not take no for an answer.

>>134050
>>134051
As much as I hate to agree with this, this is probably true. The mature way to go about handling this is just to tell him how you're feeling about it and ask if you can see it. His reaction will tell you all you need to know. The best outcome is that he shows it to you without a fight, break up circumstance is if he fights over it and it's suspicious if he says yes but tries to make you wait for it.

>>134050
Men hiding internet activity is always suspicious
He's probably into some illegal stuff or has multiple gfs like you
And yeah he could be using you for visa, did he invest inyou at all (send you money etc)

>>133863
sounds normal, just make sure to put a towel under you

very late to this but - it sounds like you might have a weak pelvic floor . it usually happens post-pregnancy but yours could be genetic or from incontinence from smth else. i'd just put a towel down when u guys have sex , maybe ask your doctor about it if you think it's really concerning.

>>133863
The bladder is close to the "hidden" part of the clit. When it's full, it pushes against it. So when you masturbate with a full bladder you're basically having your clit stimulated from two sides at once.

>>134048
holy shit

>>134052
What?