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unheard Anonymous 127364[Reply]

song lyrics
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Anonymous 127775

you’re not having fun
i think that you should ride
call me when you’re ready to be real

Anonymous 127776

did i get lost along the way?
lose my mind for a new identity?
i quite enjoy ruining your day
and i just wanna cause a entropy

you tried so hard
to make a hero out of me
but there are some rules i don’t obey
and i just wanna cause a little chaos and
entropy

you tried so hard
to take the discord out of me
but guess what?
i wasn’t born that way
and i just wanna cause a little entropy

Anonymous 127777

and when you shame me
it makes me want it more

Anonymous 128023

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Anonymous 128024

panty-anarchy-pant…

Friday night, time to get drunk
Go, go to the party, time to get drunk
Arrive in the Clio, get driven by a hunk
Straight to the bedroom, driven by a hunk
Plenty of boys in the yard
One look at me and they get hard

H-Hard as stone, ready to bone
Like Medusa on a party throne
DJ, DJ, DJ DJ DJ
Slow it down for an epic BJ
Thanks, man, so glad you came
I think I love you, what's your name?
Don't leave yet, we're having fun
Friday night, number one
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Is my moid gay? Anonymous 127962[Reply]

Is my moid gay?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a few years now and he was always into cute, anime, gaming stuff. Which is fine, since i am too and we both connected with our interests.
But lately i’ve been feeling a bit uncomfortable with his obsession with anime girls and cutesy japanese animation.
Hanging posters of anime girls into his room, wearing shirts with cat girls on it, having tattoos of anime characters, keeping anime girl figures by his beside table. And never a male, only girls, especially the cute looking ones.
And it makes me extremely uncomfortable.

He’s a great looking man, he goes to the gym every day, 6’2, pretty jacked and respectful, but his obsession with all those cutesy things makes me feel like he is something he doesn’t want to tell me.
I feel like it strips downs his masculinity but i am afraid of telling him that. I just wish he could be more of a man instead of a sissy-loving-anime fan.
It makes me disgusted, and i don’t say this in a homophobic way, not at all, i just wish he was more in tune with being a man instead of… that…
And that we could be more open and truthful with me. It makes me extremely self conscious his liking of anime cute girls and not his own girlfriend. I feel horrible about myself.

Or maybe I am crazy, help me nonas
Am I The Bad Person?
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Anonymous 127980

hating on your partner because they don't measure up to some abstract gay image is kinda misguided. but it is a problem if he makes you feel neglected or maybe embarrassed I guess, which might be what you're truly feeling inside.

are you young? you both sound young as fuck. maybe he'll grow out of it. I'd even say you kinda lucked out if your biggest problem is him being into anime and not being into watching Tate or some bullshit

Anonymous 128005

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>>127962
>xher boyfriend

Anonymous 128009

>>127962
he released oxytocin while death gripping to anime girls. congrats, your moid has officially formed an emotional bond with japanese cartoons.

Anonymous 128018

>>127980
nobody lucks out when their partner is into anime. anime is fucking retarded.

Anonymous 128022

>>128009
Beautifully said. I am engraving this on my tombstone



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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

Previous thread >>>/feels/120288
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>>128007
Who "socialized" the first pedophile? Lmao.
>Instict and conscious decision are an oxymoron
Retarded take. I have biological desire to have sex with men (instinct) but I refuse to act on it becaue I know men don't see women as human and are dangerous (conscious decision). Idk if you know what oxymoron means anyway because it doesn't make sense in this context.

Anonymous 128013

>>128003
Yeah
A lot of animals instinctively dominate to secure resources but it’s not a universal strategy
Sounds to me like you’re both arguing over semantics anyways

Anonymous 128019

>>128010
>Who "socialized" the first pedophile? Lmao.
Probably when males realizied they can get away with doing shit and women can do very little about it?
>I have biological desire to have sex with men (instinct) but I refuse to act on it
You can refuse to act on it because it's not an instict. It's not the same as a cat burying it's poop in the litterbox to hide the smell from predators even if there are no predators around, because it's an instict. You'll probably think this is a stupid comparison but there is no comparison that can be made equally in humans because we don't have instincts.
>Sounds to me like you’re both arguing over semantics anyways
I'm just tired of people labeling certain behaviors as "instinctual" in humans because instincts cannot be overridden. Humans can mentally override anything if they put their mind to it.
Maternal "instinct"? Abortions, giving up kids for adoption, not wanting kids, hating kids etc. (not saying any of those are bad)
Survival "instinct"? We all know like 50% of the population lacks it. Oh and, suicide, and voluntarily going to war.

Anonymous 128020

>Survival "instinct"? We all know like 50% of the population lacks it. Oh and, suicide, and voluntarily going to war
Chimpanzee groups literally wage wars against each other for years… It is an instinct, humans want to secure territory for resources just like animals. That's part of "survival" instinct. It's more elaborate and convoluted in humans but it's still there. Socialization cope is literally supported by women who want to make excuses for continuing to fuck men. Daily reminder the age of consent in USA used to be 10 years old. Then women started fighting for raising it. So men started to hide their pedo tendencies, but they're still there, just hidden lol. Some women are really stupid, they think that if men don't openly show them something it's not there

Anonymous 128021

>>128020
I mean chimpanzees are also highly intelligent just as dolphins, elephants, orcas and they all have complex social systems that we as humans will never completely understand for obvious reasons. I wouldn't be surprised if they don't really have instincts as well.



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Anonymous 128011[Reply]

My boyfriend is on a trip to visit his best friend. Idk if should be worried cause they're female (gender fluid. I don't care about what you think about stuff like that so please don't make all the replies about that one detail.) they have been friends for a long, LONG time. I don't even know how long really. He describes her as like a sister to him

The only reason I'm not really worried is because my boyfriend is damn near asexual. It took a lot of time before he would even be willing to kiss me. He has only dated one other person, and even then he didn't sleep with that person. Any sort of physical affection takes time for him because he's the nervous sort of guy. He's only dates in the hopes of marriage and stated before we even started talking that he doesn't even need sex to feel fulfilled in a relationship.

The only reason I worry is because any man can cheat, even the seemingly good ones. I just don't wanna be one of those girls that thinks their boyfriend is different just to get fucked over, but I truly think he is better than most. I'm just worried it could all be an act.

Anonymous 128014

wow honestly i'm slightly jealous because if i'd only date a moid if he were borderline asexual like this and I wasn't sure those even existed..

But on topic, I don't think you need to be worried. It sounds like he is just visiting a friend, and with what you told it sounds unlikely he would even be interested in engaging in activities that are considered "cheating"

I do have to say, if you're worried it's always well to communicate issues with him. Or don't be afraid to text or call him and ask what he's been up to.

How long have u been together? I just kinda wonder how long he could keep the 'act', it sounds unlikely. Because if he doesn't even want sex in a/your relationship, it's not really an act.. unless gay

Anonymous 128015

What if their gender fluids are leaking out all platonic like?

Anonymous 128016

>my boyfriend is damn near asexual

I'd check his phone, he might jsut be spending all his libido on porn and has no interest in real sex

Anonymous 128017

>>128015
this is gold. really needed this laugh tonight. thanks nona!



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Is it bad to be skinny fat? Anonymous 127971[Reply]

Boyfriend keeps calling me fat and disgusting even though I'm only 28 pounds overweight. Picrel accurately describes what my body currently looks like right now. I'm basically skinny fat but because he's a short skinny manlet he thinks he can talk any type of way to me and calls me fat and disgusting and it only makes me feel more depressed and want to eat even more. The truth is, before I started dating my current BF this year, I got broken up with this really hot skinny guy that I was seeing and he was like the guy of my dreams. I only settled for my current BF now because the previous guy broke my heart real bad. If I really gave a fuck I could be a skinny sexy bombshell Stacy if I wanted to. I've always been pretty and I already used to be underweight in my early 20's, but I simply stopped giving a fuck about my appearance because even when I was a skinny healthy Stacy I still attracted the most disgusting human sludge ugly male bastards known to existence. It was truly a black pill and made me realize that no matter how pretty and skinny I was, I still attract ugly bastards meanwhile other Stacies could attract actual Chads here simply because they're whiter than I am. It's because my hometown is shit and only ugly weirdos want to come to me with my darker skin color and appearance. I'm just glad that I'm not as far gone as my other friend who looks almost like me, she ended up becoming morbidly obese and trooning out on top of that. I keep telling my boyfriend (we're long distance) that eating my feelings is not as bad as how my other friends turned out but he still doesn't listen to me and only accuses me of being fat and disgusting and stealing away his chance of getting with actual "Stacy me". Well sucks for him because the more he talks shit to me like this the more I'm just gonna eat my feelings. Oh well.
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Anonymous 127989

>>127987
the problem is, the longer you tolerate this bullshit the bigger toll it's gonna keep taking on you. it's a death by thousand cuts.
I'm sorry you feel trapped and no, I don't think there's something wrong with you inherently that would only attract evil moids like this.
he probably knows you're trapped and that's why he acts this way, my bf acted the same until I just straight up said I'm leaving lmao.
btw your moid is probably pathetic, childish and thinks he can do whatever he wants and you're just gonna take it. do you have parents or relatives willing to house you?

Anonymous 127994

>>127987
You only have one life and you choose to spend it on tolerating human sludge monsters

Maybe get out of the "It's better to be with a troglodyte than to be alone" mindset

Anonymous 127997

>>127987

You gotta get your bread up Nona. You should want better for yourself and your progeny

Anonymous 128002

>>127997
Okay well how do you go about doing that? No one is telling me how, that's the problem. How is it my fault that only ugly bastards want to approach me and my darker skin while all my whiter friends are getting Chads while barely lifting a finger? I've tried everything, even tried presenting myself as more white and still worthless low value men are the only ones ever to approach me. So at this point I just stay a NEET and inside of my house away from people

Anonymous 128008

>>128002
Try moving to a slavic country, you'll get plenty of white men. Warning, they're all disgusting faggots



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Opinions and advice about Poly relationships Anonymous 127903[Reply]

Any thoughts and opinions about Poly relationships?

I'm in one myself and it's mostly just connections if that makes sense. I have no interest in being sexual with any of my partners and so far they all respect that. Haven't met anyone opposed to how things are, but I also haven't been looking too hard either. Anyways I'm open to discussing this with the rest of you <3
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Anonymous 127927

i don’t understand what opinion are you looking for? like, you seem fine, you want us to congratulate you or judge your asexual connections? there’s nothing to discuss here. enjoy it ig

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>>127918
Made this thread to gather opinions and maybe shoot the shit on what most would consider an alternative lifestyle since i noticed there was a lack of a poly thread. You don't need to give me validation, just don't be an asshole :|

>>127927
Basically the same as up top, minus the asshole part

>>127919
Realest comment in this thread so far. Half of them do and half of them don't. I'm trying to be logical but the heart is a fickle creature sometimes.

Anonymous 127995

>>127991
I don't get your lifestyle but I do find people who take personal offense to random threads like this amusing

Anonymous 128001

Not inherently bad. People associate poly with lots of different things but to some it means not entertaining additional relationships besides 2 people you're dating or not dating someone who's seeing a different number of partners than you are. However it seems to overlap with a particularly uncomfy kind of "queer" person who has very poor sense of boundaries and often couches it in manipulative therapy language, or faux rad ~sexual liberation~, whatever else. Manipulation occurs in all kinds of relationships of course but there's a specific character about polyamorous manipulators that makes me uniquely uncomfortable.



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Anonymous 127891[Reply]

My brother is always baking and shit and making a mess, yet the hag that pushed me out of her vagina always hovers around and babies him and tries to help. Whenever I go in the kitchen, she glares at me like I'm encroaching upon her territory or something. She nags the fuck out of me and talks out loud to 'herself' but I can hear her from another room. She calls me vile things all because I'm making some fucking pancakes and not even making a mess because I'm not a retarded moid like my worthless fag brother. Boymoms are utter filth. FUCK YOU YOU FUCKING WHORE WHY DON'T YOU GO SUCK THE FAGGOTS COCK AT THIS POINT YOURE CLEARLY IN LOVE WITH HIM YOU BITCHASS MOTHERFDUCKING WHOOOOOORE. I WANT TO KILL HER WITH MY BARE HANDS STUPID FUCKING EVIL VILE CUNT BITCHJ
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Anonymous 127926

American pancakes are disgusting

Anonymous 127945

Nona my family is like this too. My mother always pushed me to study/work hard regardless of what trauma I was going through and always reminded me that I was a financial burden on the family. I grew up, got a good job, and covered half my uni tuition in scholarships all without any professional mental help for my mental illness. Meanwhile my dumbfuck scrote older brother fails so many courses he has to take multiple additional years of uni, has never worked a non-mininum wage job ever, and is literally handed 1500$ a month on top of having his rent and tuition paid for for "discretionary spending". My mom even borrowed money from ME to pay HIS rent and this is all sustained by my dad working overtime in his manual labour job. Oh and my older brother abused the shit out of me growing up too but if I bring up anything about him being a loser bum my mom scolds me about hurting his fee fees.

Anonymous 127960

Older ladies and failure pickmes can’t stand other woman in the kitchen because they’re afraid someone will be better at cooking than them. And they will not be needed for one if their shallow “purposes.” in their minds, they have to compete/show value and that’s the only thing they got left to prove themselves. even if their cooking is not that good and they’re just being nice… it’s like an insecure narcissistic moid in the gym when another scrote is lifting weights beside them, it makes the insecure moid seethe and try to one-up him. even when it’s their own daughter or a woman several decades younger than them, they still can’t stand it!
if someone witnessed my other attempts at this reply, i am terrible at phoneposting

Anonymous 127978

>>127945
This sounds like a nightmare. I hope you're doing well now.

Anonymous 127984

>>127978
thank you nona <3
i finally saw a therapist and got meds. career is going well too. most days i can just avoid my dumbass mom and brother



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How to properly love my boyfriend Anonymous 127930[Reply]

So, long story short my boyfriend has trouble with relationships because relationships with some family members/partners were abusive. Sometimes when I try to discuss things with him his brain goes into 'survival mode' and he gets defensive and assumes the worst out of any critical statements I make. Most of the time I can make him see from a rational point of view and he realizes he's being silly. I can accept that it will take time for his perception of love to be normal. I guess it's just new to me.

We both have never been in proper/healthy relationships. I have never truly loved anyone, for the most part it's only just been infatuation, boredom, and love of the chase. I have been treated poorly by a 'situationship' before but I understood how I was being manipulated and how things would end, I just wanted fun I guess?

He on the other hand has only dated one other person that constantly manipulated, used, and cheated on him. So I understand why he sometimes acts the way he does.

He sometimes freaks out when I try discussing stuff, but since I struggle with communication I have a hard time speaking and go quiet. Then he spirals and assumes the worst. I hate how sad it makes him. I'm trying to be better about communicating with him.

Idk this is half a rant half me searching for advice on how to communicate more effectively with someone like this.
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Anonymous 127946

>>127944
what in the chatgpt response

Anonymous 127947

>>127946
Noo I wrote this myself😭 i thinks thats quite obvious

Anonymous 127949

>>127947
I thought it was good. Don't accuse, explain how it affects you.

Anonymous 127955

Your boyfriend sounds anxious and you sound a bit avoidant. That's the most agonizing dynamic in a relationship.

Anonymous 127968

>>127955
It's true but I'm getting over it for him. I've been more open bout my feelings and forcing myself to communicate cause I love him and whatnot. It's hard but he's worth it to me



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i feel so ugly Anonymous 127948[Reply]

i feel like the ugliest person ever. every single time i see my face in the mirror, i start crying because of how ugly i feel. i’ve been insecure my whole life, struggling with an eating disorder since i was eight, and with my appearance in general. i’ve always known i wasn’t conventionally attractive, but over the summer i was talking to a guy i really liked, and he started talking about looksmaxxing and things like that. i began looking into it, and ever since then my insecurities have gotten so much worse.
then in october, i found out he was dating another girl and had been talking to her at the same time as me. that made everything even worse. i hate it so much. for the past few months, i’ve only gone outside at night because i don’t want anyone to see how ugly i am. i hate going to school so much. it’s horrible. half the time i end up skipping my classes because i don’t want anyone to see me.
i only have one friend, and i don’t know what i would do without her. i’ve told her how ugly i feel, and she always tells me that i’m not, but that’s what everyone would say in that situation. she’s one of the prettiest people i’ve ever seen in my life, and i know she’s my best friend and i shouldn’t be jealous of her but i am.
i don’t know what to do anymore. i honestly feel like there’s no hope and i should just slime myself out. i also think i just need to deal with it for now and hope it gets better once i’m older cause i’m only 15. i obviously want to get a good amount of plastic surgery when i’m older but i don’t think i’ll ever be able to afford it.
idk if anyone is actually going to see this let alone read all of it but if you have any advice on being less insecure or any tips on being less chopped i would really appreciate it


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