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My cousin is so “normal” and I envy her sometimes, not really her life but how easily she seems to make decisions and stay kind of oblivious and content.

She has the career in corporate hell (based on her personality she’s the type to believe if you work hard you’ll get promoted even though this is rarely true), the husband (who is literally just a TikTok rage bait video at this point), the kid (who will likely grow up repeating the same cycle or check out of society), the house (poorly made in America, basically cardboard and always needs repairs), the car (expensive, pretty sure it’s like 80k), the vacations (they just go to hotels and say they visited that country).

All these things are good if it’s with the right people don’t get me wrong.

It seems like in the West, people either naturally fit into this kind of life and enjoy it, or they’re pressured into it and eventually learn to be fine. Then there’s everyone else, who they call losers, who are either too unstable health-wise or financially to deal with life, can’t give a shit because it’s all going to crap anyway, or stuck in the “should I or shouldn’t I” limbo.

I think I’m stuck in that limbo. This might sound crazy, but I think about just trying to fit the normal life to pass time because life is too long. Like my cousin will likely wake up one day divorced, doing gig work, fired from her job for daring to be older than 50, etc., but at least she’ll be 50-something and have spent those 20-something years doing something, unlike me who is essentially doing nothing.

I’ve chatted to some people online anonymously who’ve said they regretted doing the normie life. The grass is greener on the other side. I don’t think these people actually picture what they would be doing if they weren’t doing what they’re doing now.

Maybe I’ll marry an “incel”, adopt a kid, and hope my shitty mindset won’t be passed on.

But who am I kidding. I think you really need to be a bit oblivious and used to making “dumb” decisions to live life like this. I don’t think you can fake it, even though people say they are every day. I don’t really believe it, or maybe I’m just so lazy that I can’t even imagine faking it.

Do you guys ever struggle with loneliness? Is the feeling almost constant and intense, or is it more buried and hidden until you think about how alone you are?

Share you thoughts, feelings, vents, insecurities, fears etc about loneliness, maybe we can all help each other out to not feel so alone for a second <3

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I feel lonely, but I also want to be left alone. I miss familiarity, intimate conversations, and the kind of easy banter that comes naturally with people who know you well. But when it comes to the reality of maintaining friendships: texting regularly, making plans, calling, showing up consistently, and all the emotional labor that goes into sustaining those relationships… I just can’t bring myself to do it.

I don’t know if it’s because I’m lazy, emotionally drained, or because I’ve learned how fragile friendships can be. People move away, get caught up in work, partners, kids, and family. Life changes, and relationships fade. After seeing that happen enough times, it’s hard to convince myself that it’s worth investing so much effort, especially when it often feels like I’m the one doing the chasing while the other person doesn’t seem to bother.

I envy people who seem to fit into life like a glove. People who belong wherever they go, who can find familiarity almost anywhere. I knew someone like that once. I hope they’re still enjoying that wrinkle in the fabric of life, where belonging comes so effortlessly.

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I work a dead end job, no higher education, I'm not saving for retirement, no real plans for the future unless you count Pinterest boards for the future lul, I have health issues I refuse to address, etc. I don't know, I'm just tired of hearing about self improvement everywhere. I genuinely don't care and would be happy just decaying on my desk chair while scrolling on the webs all day. Anyone else like this?

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Hi nonas! I am a 29 yo autistic woman but even though Im awkward and bad at socializing Ive managed to keep some (girl) friends on my social circle, some of them Ive known since HS. Anyway fast forward to today and for over a decade none of them have managed to help me bag a boy/moid (whatever term you prefer). So I decided to try to find out what the moids had to say about it and several of them told me that I have friends who are gatekeeping me out of relationships with men. This honestly shocked me a little because I think it could be true I dunno. How can I tell if my friends are driving away moids (even the good ones)? I have no social skills and this is frankly eating me up on the inside, if this is true I do not know how to react to this or how to confront any of my friends. Please help me I am so confused I don't know what to think. I don't want to be in my 30s with no boyfriend experience, I dont need a super handsome moid just one who will love and respect me to some degree at least. Thanks!