There was this moid I met online (alongside some others) and we all became a sort of friend group. I became drawn to him because we had similar tastes in music and in our views, and he was just so interesting. We never really grew that close or anything though. Almost every time we did dm it was him reaching out to me about something, but our conversations would never go any deeper beyond whatever it was that he was going to show me or that I was going to show him. I started to develop this big crush on him. He was very smart and working on a PhD but I liked how we both had the same terminally online humor and that he allowed himself to be silly which I found to be pretty cool as he had to do all of these projects and even teach classes. He did eventually show his face when we all did at some point and was pretty hot which just added to it.

This might sound delusional, but I did feel like feelings were mutual. He once said I was attractive to someone but then afterwards said something dumb so it was possible he was just not being serious, but he’d also bring up wanting to move to my state for work a lot. We jokingly got married as that was a feature on this site and he would always say he “loved me as his wife” but I just saw it as being silly and didn’t read into it. I wasn’t the only one who sensed that there was possibly something between us. He did tell me a bit about something bad happening to a family member of his which is pretty personal and I guess he trusted me with that which I appreciated. I haven’t seen him active on the site in months but we did have each other on discord and we’re a part of a discord server consisting of a small group. I noticed he left the server a few weeks ago very suddenly and I haven’t spoken to him in forever so decided to just reach out the other day and ask how he’s doing. I didn’t want to immediately say anything because I didn’t want to put any pressure on him or seem like I was keeping track. I genuinely wondered why he left as he was somewhat active in this chat and we are all pretty chill. He didn’t respond and I did happen to see he was active the other day which meant he ignored me. I’ve been trying to not spiral about this because it’s not like we’ve ever even met each other, and I know he probably is going through his own problems. I just wonder if I did something wrong or if I weirded him out because I am pretty sure he has spoken to the others but just not me. It didn’t help that there was a timePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>129905
Did u get over him? Why was he talking to you when he had a girlfriend?

My bf is suffocation me. We have to do everything together. I watch a tv show by myself. He wants to watch it with me. Even if it’s something he doesn’t want to watch. I play a game, he has to watch me play. I just want to do my own things and him to do his own things but it’s like he wants to consume me. He likes me too much. Like I’m a kitten he’s about to squeeze to death. I’m not trying to be a bitch but god forbid I wanna do things without him interjecting that he wants to do them with me. I literally stopped playing baulders gate because if I tried to just play it without streaming it. He’d throw a fit and bother me about it. So I just felt bad for wanting to play it without an audience. I just quit playing all together

>>130002
Dump him

>>130002
Kill him

>>119489
you have to just stop caring what others think. easier said than done yes, but that's truly the only way.

i need a gf. i dream of picrel being my future.

>>108556
>first crush?
a girl in elementary school, but i didn't understand what i felt for her at the time. first crushes i recognized as crushes were in middle school. i imagined being married to her and i told my mom abt it.
>what’s your local lesbian/LGBT scene like?
troonland
>cute stories about your gf
am a femcel
>favourite lesbian media?
does madoka magica count? my lesbian experience with loneliness, kase san, run away with me girl are among some of my faves. sailor moon and utena also mean a lot to me.
>lesbian media you hate?
most things that are modern and western
>coming out stories
told my mom when i was 15. she blamed it on me hating men.
>are there any cows you’d uhaul with?
idk lol
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Is the "do I want to be with her or do I want to be her" truly a classical lesbian question?

Is it true that they are better kissers?

>>118889
Right time right place. You also gotta do background checks and search for their discord handle in the archives before adding. If you see him posting in sexting threads and shit like that, don’t add him

my gf and i have been long distance for a bit over 3 years now. im getting frustrated because every time i ask what our long term goals will be i get a vague non answer ("well when i graduate…" etc)

thankfully both of us have the income to afford multiple trips a year to see eachother but it's definitely affecting my life since i feel like all the time in between visits is just like… the void. like im standing around in an elevator waiting to get to the next floor. i almost feel like i'm wasting my life on this but that's hard to admit.

i want to make it work and i feel like we can but man this is so taxing. at least its gone better than my last LDR where the first time we met up she immediately dumped me and we had to spend the rest of the trip awkwardly being friends only lmao.

I see my post about him from a long time ago was deleted. Much to think about.

I know this thread is pretty dead but has anyone gone through the CR1 process without a lawyer? I'm worried my fiance is about to piss away thousands on something we can file for ourselves.

>>127271
post on reddit maybe?

Kill him

Have he done something bad? It look like you are the only one who think it is.

>>129992
OF COURSE HE DID SOMETHING BAD. Because he dumped OP. GRRRR. He "Groomed" her, she has no responsibility! They both sexted each other, now HE must pay! GRRR.

Have you thought about being more interesting?

>>129918
Relationships are tough. Frankly people need to realize functional and healthy relationships are the exception and not the norm. You need to find somebody who you can not only tolerate being around but who is actively interested in things you're interested in. Not only that but they need to be attractive enough that you don't wince every time you look at them. They also need to know or at least be willing to learn how to fuck properly. They also need to be responsible in their daily lives and supportive when things are difficult. There's a metric fuck ton of stuff that can go wrong here so it's really unsurprising so many people these days view casual sex as the better alternative. Without cultural norms, laws, and religion keeping people in relationships, there's almost no reason to be in one unless you've literally found your super special unicorn soulmate which is incredibly unlikely.

>>129986
>Without cultural norms, and religion
If this is what holds together relationship for you why do you bother? It sounds like willingly sticking your arm in acid.

>>129987
We collectively bother as a society because these relationships lead to families and those families are the backbone of a nation.

If they have other options, of course they won't commit. The male mating strategy is to spread their sperm.

>>129938
this but sleeping around is bad.

Nihilism is objectively true

Everything is gonna be alright

>>129982
this is how i sleep knowing 5 to 10 mil get it per year

OP here again, I should also mention that whenever I try and explain to her that screaming and startling at a crying infant does nothing but aggravate them more, she brushes it off and says “it’s fine she doesn’t care.” Fucking retarded man.

>>129976
Where did you get that implication from me saying that I’m unemployed and broke??? That’s just how student life is, not some universal ‘female’ thing where we all want to wear big-boy pants and work until we die. I don’t understand what you’re talking about. And also, moids are simply unreliable as husbands.

99% of this was just venting, that 1% is me asking if the right call is to start taking recordings or have another approach

>>129978
>>129976
this is the avatarfag moid dont engage pls

>>129974
>career
that's a cope she just hates your father and never love him in the first place.

>>129689
they’re all booing but im clapping. you don’t ever gotta feel bad about cheating on cheaters.

Do both of yourselves a favor and leave him. If hes lying about porn usage what else is he lying about? cheating is not good either and if youre vernting your frustration that way, why not just cut off the source of it rather than "dealing" with it?

If you're as skinny and pretty as you say you are, then what are you doing dating a balding fat porn addicted, erectile dysfunction having moid? I don't even feel sorry for you at this point because from what you say you apparently have the access to get a much more decent moid who's actually handsome and doesn't jerk off to porn all day. Skinny women should never settle for fat men, they're disgusting, smell bad and have ED. Plus you're in the cosplay community, there are tons of model looking men who are in the cosplay scene. The world is your oyster when you're a skinny woman and you can have access to 90% better looking moids. You're only shooting yourself in the foot.

strawman^strawman type thread

>>129689
men will never give up porn. no matter which moid u get they will always want porn so if youre not ok with it you will never have a moid.

You know what… trust your perception iykyk

>>129960
Based

>>129957
Other ways to have sex?
>penis in mouth
>penis in the pooper
Sounds equally disgusting.

>>129963
Lesbians