Have you been cheated on before or something? Where is this coming from.

I’ve been feeling really hopeless but repressed so I asked to be taken off of my antidepressants, I tapered off of them by convincing my doctor I was fine. Now I am off of them, I feel so much more true to myself. Not in a good way. I’m so irritated by everything and I’ve always felt doomed, but I can really feel it crystal clear now. Yeah I know “Antidepressants stop that” but also no they don’t. They just block it out for me, but I can still feel the feeling. It just doesn’t feel fuzzy anymore. It feels clear. Now I’m off my medication I’m not sure what I’m going to do, to myself or just in general life. I’m tired. I think I’m just really tired. I don’t really know if I trust myself right now. And I want a friend but it isn’t possible. Just don’t understand why I’m wired like this

>>133499
Some Stacy acknowledging that all men are rapists so you shouldn't care if they die or kill themselves. Why would you cry about a man's death on a site where saying KAM is accepted lmao go back to Kiwifarms or 4troon

>>133508
A woman was in love with him. Mocking or implying that she's wrong for that is degrading her grief. Also, no, the one who replied was acting nasty about nigel-havers and anorexics/bulimics, belittling them
>"b-but we're supposed to be BASED STACIES on this site"
Pathetic. I'm not poking at another woman with a holier than thou tone about how she shouldn't really care during a horrible time in her life, all because she needs to drop her urges and, what, "fight-the-fight" against males(? She's straight and can't help who she loves. Acting ratty over a woman being hetero and indulging her sexuality instead of barring herself off from everything she desires in life (for who exactly) is bitterly misogynistic. Mean spirited shit

Like seriously, most people want love, it really is not so shocking that regardless of the situation we're in, women will pursue it. What are you expecting from a female userbase, genuinely.

>>133509
You’re right but I would’ve just replied telling her she’s not a Stacy but a middle aged schizophrenic on a forum for social rejects

>>133445
Cheering you on
You'll make it!

>>133472
This is so based

>>133445
I was a NEET for 4 years (8 years when including university years and odd jobs) and am now cleaning floors and toilets in a stable job
Pretty comfy as you can listen to music with your earbuds if you want and people generally ignore you

Ricing my libreoffice calc sheet for bonds currently. It's ugly right now but I find it kind of fun anyways.

I often think about all the girls I’ve ever interacted with on here and how we’d probably be good friends if only we knew each other. When I feel lonely and I think about how I have no fellow female friendships, I get even more sad because I start to think of all the other girls like me… It sounds so silly but I really love all my fellow lonely girls that I’ll never ever meet or even know… It’s a bittersweet comfort. Of course that’s not to say all cc users are lonely neets or anything kek, but the ones I’ve had the small pleasure of interacting with, have felt so similar to me

Yeah yeah so the typical lolcow/tumblr poster. What else is new?

>>133502
What are some of the bigger things you have lied about nona? You might as well say it here. I’m curious

Nature or nurture? Why're you like this

>>133482
I’m the same as you, I guess to answer how I cope, I just use my imagination. Recently I’ve even started to listen to those cringe reddit gwasi audios. I’ll probably never even hold hands with another person. For now I just cope like that until I eventually get too lonely and then I rope or turn schizo, something like that. I also have a few internet friends, so sometimes just talking can feel non-sexually intimate or can feel similar to a hug, that’s another short term cope I use. Hope things work out for you Nona, I don’t know what circumstances are like for you but for me I’m severely deprived of any sort of interaction with other humans, and there’s not a lot I can of think of doing that can help me achieve it. I’ve tried everything. I’ll be thinking of you

>>133482
I don't enjoy physical intimacy and affection.
It makes me uncomfortable when people hug me or lay next to me on a couch. People who show affection for me, especially in a romantic way, make me feel contemptuous.

>Do you just eventually stop thinking about it?
Yes
If you're alone for long enough you'll sooner or later reach a point where you stop caring altogether, because there's no other option.
You can, if you want, counter some of the sadness by remembering all the things you aren't at risk of (or at lower risk of) by being alone, such as stds, stis, cheating, physical abuse, arguments, infections transmitted through kissing, partner perpetrated misogyny, betrayal, pregnancy, vaginal tearing, awkward moments that don't feel soft or funny but instead embarrassing, lies, judgement based on how you age, loss of love with the only one willing to give you affection/intimacy, nasty in-laws, your partner using porn.
But nothing will replace the void of wanting someone to share your life with, there is no cure for it. The pain only dulls

>>133489
Surely a sign of mental well-being

>>133482
idk if this pov will help you since I'm in a different moment of life but, having a pet is indeed a nice way to cope with loneliness.
I got dumped couple years ago through phonecall. It really hurted me since it was a long distance relationship so intimacy was a rare thing and cute words were few of the things we used to share each other. Hurted even more knowing that I'm a really shy and introverted person, dating is a pain in the ass with my personality and my looks don't help either.
During that period of time, my cat got her sterilization so needed a lot of care. Passing so much time with her calmed my anguish of the sudden breakup and nowadays me and my cat are quite close, she likes sleep on my lap while I study or play games. Not every cat likes contact but if you are clingy enough with them during their early days, kittens end liking being hugged or getting pet unprompted.
Reading and exploring hobbies you didn't tried out before also helps a lot to cope with the sadness being alone for too long carries with.
Im sure youre going to find the affection you need sooner or later.
Hope I explained myself a little I'm ESL, I wish you the best.

im a non native english speaker i was so confused i thought it was a thread only for children to post on lmao

googoogaga

i love that there is a thread on this. when i am off work i will contribute

>>133276
19 day shift, rip

Seeing people accuse only children of selfishness is certainly something. I feel I'm only so chill about sharing my belongings and accommodating others precisely because I've never had it expected of me or forced onto me inside my own home

This seems like bait but if not, I'm sorry that happened to you. Love is out there if you want it but be discerning when choosing a partner. Nobody is beneath love

That old man was an inhuman monster. There are still good people out there; they are just much harder to find now.

No, allowing yourself to be the victim of incestuous abuse will only make your life a trillion times worse at least. You should tell somebody about this especially if it happened while you were a child

>>133465
Based on the fact she called him "her grandma's husband", instead of just "my grandpa", I'm assuming she isn't blood related to her abuser, which would mean it wasn't "incest" technically. But it might also be some language barrier thing, maybe her first language isn't english, and thus my interpretation is faulty, as it's based on subtleties in the phrasing of her statement. Or she said "my grandmas husband" as a way of coping, because confronting that he's her genuine, biological grandfather is too difficult for her.

>when did you start?
the summer after first grade which has been 18 years that I've been doing this

>why did you start?
I had lice that summer so I started doing it because I thought I would be able to see if I had lice but it became a nervous habit

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
not really honestly

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
yes, my 4th grade teacher made me wear ponytails every day and now I have headaches if I have my hair up for too long, in 5th grade my teacher made me flip my card for touching my head, at one point in middle school, I pulled so much that a pile of hair was on the floor

>have you ever had bald spots?
yes, in middle school it got so bad that my grandma made me wear hats when she took pictures of me

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>>113089
>when did you start?
When I was around 8/9
>why did you start?
Anxiety
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
I took escitalopram for years to help stop with it, and I was able to ween myself off it and not re-start the habit.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
I had bald spots until I was about 20 so yes.
>have you ever had bald spots?
See above
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
I'm about 10 years clean now

> when did you start?
i think in 2017 or 2018?

> why did you start?
an eyebrow accidentally got tightly stuck in my nail and when i pulled it it was painful but kinda good. i pick my skin so picking my eyebrows was a similar fidgeting relief

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
honestly not really. but a few times when i had gotten my nails done i noticed i barely did it bc i was physically unable to

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
i wouldnt say my friends made fun of me but they pointed it out when they noticed. then i told them to keep poiting it out so i could stop bc i do it unconsciously

>have you ever had bald spots?
yeah lol but then i bought a black eye pencil and realized i could just cover the bald spot with it

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>>113089
>when did you start?
when I was 13-14
>why did you start?
combo of OCD and real bad rough patches when I was a kid
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Yes. Almost a year ago my issues culminated into panic attacks, I thought I was having a heart attack on a daily basis. I took zoloft for a few months and picked up a book called Feeling Good (self help CBT) the apathy combined with the new coping mechanism pretty much stopped my pulling within the 2nd month.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Too many to count
>have you ever had bald spots?
My hairline resembled Mao Zedong's for years on end
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
eight months and counting.

when did you start?
Around 11 or 12.

why did you start?
No clear reason. I think it started as a fidget thing and turned into a compulsion. Stress makes it worse but it's not like I only do it when stressed.

have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Not fully. Keeping my hands busy helps somewhat (fidget toys, knitting), and wearing a hat or keeping my hair up makes it harder to do mindlessly. But nothing has made it stop completely.

have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Yeah. Mostly when people notice me pulling and I didn't realize I was doing it. Also comments about my eyebrows or hair looking thin.

have you ever had bald spots?
Yes. Eyebrows and a patch near my part.

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>>133119
There are people from other countries here but generally everyone just speaks in english here because it's easiest. I don't think I've heard of any germans on here though

>>133119
I'm German and I've met multiple German women who use this site. But I haven't found any group settings to meet others like us, it's always been 1:1 so far.

>>133119
You can always just use translate to translate the page automatically, thats what i do with a lot of sites now