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Anonymous 128331[Reply]

I HATE TATTOOS SO MUCH

STOP FUCKING DOODLING ON YOURSELF

IT LOOKS SO BAD

EITHER GO ALL OUT OR DON'T DO IT

Anonymous 128333

sorry you regret your tattoo desu

Anonymous 128339

Why use a mid photo of a tattoo to prove your weak ass point lmao. Anyways none of this shit matters. Get over yourself, other people shouldn't have to center their existence on some bitch that probably can't order at McDonald's without stuttering


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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

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Anonymous 128329

>>128325
Don't be hasty. Going back to the dating market in its current state might not be the best course of action.

Anonymous 128330

>>128329
I'm not being hasty, I'll only cut contact if he does it first. And I don't think I'll be looking for anyone for a while if that ends up happening

Anonymous 128336

>>128319
i assume some of his skin/eye were destroyed before the scan

Anonymous 128337

>>128336
one of the eyes is missing i think it’s AI half chimp/half man not a scan because that looks way too simian (t anthropology student)

Anonymous 128338

until i saw that eyebrowless downie, i did not know fat girls could have small tits or that small tits could point straight down. the news of the incurable STD also got spread through the grapevine. i honestly love that you’re jobless and diseased and have to pretend like you’ve changed and are happy and this life isn’t killing you. you look like you want to blow your brains out in every picture of you for years now besides one shot your talented cousin got. walking behind you two that last time i smelt literal fecal matter from unwashed ass and that things hair looked like a fucking clown wig. i doxxed you again on every major social media website again.


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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

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Anonymous 128252

I've had the same best friend for 9 years and I've been in love with him on and off the whole time. We talk every day, do stuff together, he has gotten me expensive thoughtful gifts, we talk about everything. I knew he'd sometimes use apps and go on a few dates but nothing was ever serious, he was mostly focused on his work. I thought of confessing my feelings a few times but I genuinely can't imagine my life without his friendship and decided against it every time in case that could ruin it. He randomly started dating someone like two months ago and only started to notice a difference in his behavior towards me during the last month. Talks a bit less, takes longer to reply (he'd always do it immediately). He has told me about her, which is weird since I never really heard from any of the other girls before. She's ugly (he's attractive), sounds uninteresting, larping as the same religion as us, doesn't share any interests with him… I feel so hurt and sad and like I've lost him. I don't know if it would hurt less if she seemed like a better option for him, but I guess he really likes her for whatever reason. I want him to be happy but we always said we'd be friends no matter what and I'm starting to panic. I know when we first meet someone we get extra excited and this might change for him eventually, but seeing how things that were a given to me change is so painful.

Anonymous 128281

>>128237
What makes you say? I am struggling a lot because of the things he has done. I would love to see him from another perspective.

Anonymous 128316

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I'm so scared of being watched and exposed it's terrifying
I can't even explain it

Anonymous 128334

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idk if im lazy or just super depressed. nothing sounds fun or appealing, not even tv or games. I can manage to drag myself to work but I come home to a hoard of trash and unwashed dishes. i cant do something as simple as clip my fingernails T.T

Anonymous 128335

I picked up the third book in the series instead of the second on accident and the prologue spoiled the end of the second book. And everyone says the second book is the best one in the series. I want to fucking KILL MYSELF.


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Is it bad to be skinny fat? Anonymous 127971[Reply]

Boyfriend keeps calling me fat and disgusting even though I'm only 28 pounds overweight. Picrel accurately describes what my body currently looks like right now. I'm basically skinny fat but because he's a short skinny manlet he thinks he can talk any type of way to me and calls me fat and disgusting and it only makes me feel more depressed and want to eat even more. The truth is, before I started dating my current BF this year, I got broken up with this really hot skinny guy that I was seeing and he was like the guy of my dreams. I only settled for my current BF now because the previous guy broke my heart real bad. If I really gave a fuck I could be a skinny sexy bombshell Stacy if I wanted to. I've always been pretty and I already used to be underweight in my early 20's, but I simply stopped giving a fuck about my appearance because even when I was a skinny healthy Stacy I still attracted the most disgusting human sludge ugly male bastards known to existence. It was truly a black pill and made me realize that no matter how pretty and skinny I was, I still attract ugly bastards meanwhile other Stacies could attract actual Chads here simply because they're whiter than I am. It's because my hometown is shit and only ugly weirdos want to come to me with my darker skin color and appearance. I'm just glad that I'm not as far gone as my other friend who looks almost like me, she ended up becoming morbidly obese and trooning out on top of that. I keep telling my boyfriend (we're long distance) that eating my feelings is not as bad as how my other friends turned out but he still doesn't listen to me and only accuses me of being fat and disgusting and stealing away his chance of getting with actual "Stacy me". Well sucks for him because the more he talks shit to me like this the more I'm just gonna eat my feelings. Oh well.
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Anonymous 128251

>>128247
u cant water fast out of nowhere
the day before a water fast theres gotta be iron and potassium rich foods like bananas and spinach before u try it. think the first day of a water fast is easy, the second is hard, the third gets easier again but i myself havent gone beyond a fourth (ate on the fourth)
dont think water fasting is THE way but its A way just bit radical. trying alone cant hurt just dont be afraid to quit if its getting too much. but dont overwork urself during it tho!

Anonymous 128272

>>128251
>water fasting
the way you y'all talk about starving yourselves is frying me idk what else to say lol.

Anonymous 128273

>>128251
So what's the point of water fasting if the day before you're just gonna… eat enough for another day ahead?
Sounds silly tbh, like, fasting never madesense to me. I guess for some people, it feels like a sport or a hobby. But i you want to lose weight and not gain it back reducing daily calorie intake seems more viable

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>>128251
>>128273
Butalso… spinach as iron source is not very great, spinach has oxalates which hinders iron absorption plus a bunch of other vitamins/minerals, that's not counting in the fact that nonheme iron is poorly absorbed to begin with.
So you're better off eating a steak, with fruits like oranges to help absorption

Anonymous 128332

>>128272
>y'all
>frying
Where do you stupid tiktok whores find this place and why do you all speak like nignogs


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Anonymous 128299[Reply]

Why is making friends so hard as an autistic woman? I have ptsd from past female friendships

>Women who used me for emotional labor when she was upset/lonely, then totally disappeared until she needed advice or comfort again. She never asked how I'm doing
>Women being fake
>Women when they make fun of people passing by, whether it’s another girl wearing pants that they don’t like or a disabled person who can’t control their disability, their snide comments, make me instantly uncomfortable
>Women always trying to find validation from 'hot guys'
>Women making comments about your style or how to appear more beautiful
>Women want to vent about their various men, who are pumping and dumping them, constantly
>Dating men who she knew was toxic for her. Ruining her mental health over them (like intentionally hurting herself and sending herself to the hospital to see if they cared enough to show up) and dumping it all on me
>Women want to complain about their day constantly, the conversation is just an exchange of complaints
>Being thin is like blood in the water, especially to female secretaries. they diminish you to your looks, and when you're also smart they get offended
>They only talk to you to share trauma or trauma dump you or try to make you feel responsible for their life choices
>Putting down other women. and then being nice to those women to their face
>Be cautious around woman who become your best friend really fast
>Even childhood friends being jealous towards any accomplishments and goals that I have. It comes from insecurity
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>>128299
It has nothing to do with being autistic. Most of them are desperate for some kind of approval. So you should immediately dismiss any kind of judgement or rejection from them, Especially if youre in a higher place and didnt initially come in looking for that kind of chaos. When i was younger i would try to understand them but its better if you dont. If theyre coming from a place of harrassment of any kind theyre like starved dogs already. I honestly dont think most women are any better than men because theyre brainwashed as hell and begging for scraps because of social conditioning when they dont even have to. Even the prettiest women on earth act like this. (Well honestly i think theyre even more brainwashed to behave desperate, because they have to act the part to please the man that already expects them to behave like this.)

Anonymous 128321

most women are male centered and don’t want to be saved. i don’t think women are as bad as men but i don’t think most women are “good” either. they will stop at nothing to actively uphold patriarchal norms and cater to men.

Anonymous 128327

>>128321
This is true tbh. The amount of women I met that forgive anything shitty their husband does just to not end up divorcing is sad. That being said, it's mostly women in their 40s, the younger generations seems to have better bundaries but are still melow af and 4b is definitely not that popular here except not having children (which is more due to financial issues anyway)


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Anonymous 127725[Reply]

I cannot stand the political climate that exists today. As a leftist, I’m told to hate Republicans. I live in a very Republican area and these people are not bad people. I have a very bad cold and I can’t really breathe and I had to go pick up medication and it was like $100. I didn’t have enough money and I had to call somebody to ask to borrow some money and while I was calling, this old lady overheard and paid $100 for my pills. How can I hate these people when I know that they’re good at heart?
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Anonymous 128257

>>128256
not just a retard, but a child rapist retard. I won't be surprised if a law passes that lowers the age of consent to 14

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>>128159
It's not about left or right. Right wingers have a lot of batshit insane stuff but it doesn't make them bad.
People are imperfect and make mistakes all the time even if they are good willed like >>128208 said, society would be much better if people weren't as tribal whether based on lineage or political persuasion like >>128232 said

>>128167
Please be trolling

Anonymous 128286

Lets get priorities straight. Political systems don't matter, only genetics matter. Genetics determine all human culture.

Anonymous 128287

>>128286
Interesting way to sell national socialism and eugenics

Anonymous 128322

You are right. Hating the other side achieves nothing and makes you easier to manipulate by the bad people on your own side.


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NEETs what do you do all day? Anonymous 125667[Reply]

NEETS = Not in education employment or training. I’m over 25, any over over 25 NEETs? What do you actually do all day?

I’m awake now, took two puffs of my vape. TikTok scrolled, Reddit scrolled and played a game on my phone and I’m immensely bored. Ideas are welcome , any of active forums I should know about? Any & all welcome

There’s a lot of times where I just bed rot and do nothing due to the depression but I think this isn’t one of those days. But I am lonely as I have no one and bored and I don’t feel like gaming tbh.
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Anonymous 128275

>>128268
>you're still young at X
NEVER think this way. It will end in regret.

Anonymous 128310

Clean, cook food, game or watch yt videos, go on walks with my friend sometimes, torture myself with the fact that I need to start looking for a job because im running out of money

Anonymous 128311

Besides satisfying my physiological needs, not much. I think a lot. From the moment i wake up i start thinking and i don't stop thinking until all my energy is depleted. It is lonely to be a thinker, to have realized things that take long time to realize, because you can't explain to others something that takes long time to realize for the same reason you can't learn a language by having someone explain it to you. It takes time and i have spent a lot of it. Now there is an abyss between me and other humans, it feels lonely, but at the same time i feel fortunate, i regret nothing. There is a way back to people, some day i might start helping them, but my compassion is still lacking.

Anonymous 128312

>>125667
Self study. Free courses online. Laugh at streams. Hobbies. Cloud watching, painting, woodwork. Explore. Go on virtual tours. Plenty of free crap to do online and IRL. Volunteer.

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I'm over 30. It's possible that I have AuDHD but I never got diagnosed, and never will. I just watch useless videos, scroll useless sites, read useless things, argue with useless people online, and do useless stuff. I live with my parents and help around the house, and I watch movies during days where I don't feel guilty about wasting my time.

I have tried many attempts to change my life, but my attempts always crumble because I try to take drastic steps to change. I try to change to take steps that could be as simple as starting to go out for a walk or as drastic as getting an interview but I could never really make it out. The simple changes don't stick for more than a weak and the drastic changes are too overwhelming I just crash out the next days and completely hit rock bottom again.


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i am getting more autistic as i age Anonymous 121894[Reply]

22yo autistic girl diagnosed at 16. up until last year i never thought anything of it. that it was just some stupid label given by the doctors to label me as difficult and stuck up.
but now it seems my autism diagnosis wasn't actually a lie. i never had friends that i could get along with like other kids since i was 5 until now. people talking hurts my ears. i didn't really like any of my peers, they were always too outgoing and bright for me. they always did unsoliticed physical contact that made me so uncomfortable i ended up not leaving the house for the next few days. for some reason i cannot handle theatre audio systems anymore. i have to wear ear plugs just so i can watch movies on a big screen in film quality. everything sounds too sharp, like nails on a chalkboard. i cannot maintain eye contact with my psychiatrist and my therapist while talking. i talk staring at my hands while i fold and unfold the paper with my queue number on it (i bought a fidget cube so i can stare at my hands doing useless shit for as long as i need, paper degrades too easy). making exaggerated facial expressions like other people has gotten impossible. (people have gotten worried because my face is unmoving while i interact with them)
i feel like myself in high school where i hated everyone because i couldnt understand them for being so excited and so loud. now im in college and i can understand them more due to reading more philosophical/psychological topics on the human mind. but no matter how much i fucking "nerd out" i can never be truly human and day by day i feel more and more detached with humanity.

i'm turning into a sociopath. the more i have to make myself acceptable to society the more i feel like i am disappearing. this sucks. what if i really disappear and when i do have a chance to be a mother to a daughter, my rhetorical daughter will hate me for being so emotionally flat/empty/dead inside?

say that my dreams of raising a daughter better than my parents raised me will never come to anything. it'll hurt and i'll cope with that but, there are some days i feel so detached and not myself i have this slight unease if i murder family. i already hate my parents so i feel like they'll be the victims foremost if i do lose myself. but what i'm scared of is being so far gone. i commit murder in catatonia and get assessed in court in a catatonic state. no longer human, no different than an animal.

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Anonymous 128096

>>121894
I am 30 and my autism symptoms got worse I got diagnosed at 30. I always knew but it was never official, and I also have ADHD.
I feel like I did get more sensitive, but I know these conditions don't "get worse". Instead, I think we just get better at understanding our limits. Which you are, too. I don't ever leave my house without ear plugs, and have done so for only 2+ years as I thought I just need to deal with that.

I had a bisalp since I don't ever want to raise kids or spread autism and ADHD; consider if you can raise a disabled kid by yourself. If you have doubts, it's a NO.

Anonymous 128105

You're not turning into a sociopath. In terms of personality disorders the symptom you seem to be experiencing the most is not dissociality but rather detachment.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ICD-11_classification_of_personality_disorders
But there's a less concerning explanation for what you're going through, it's called autistic masking and I also experience it. What helps is to have some autistic friends and have a place /activity where you feel comfortable taking time to yourself. Having these moments with other autistics and having alone time to be yourself are extremely helpful in terms of not feeling like you're losing your mind about it, it also helps with depression and the like.

Anonymous 128198

>>121894
loop engage earplugs help me so much in loud environments

Anonymous 128235

Find socially competent, masking autists if you can to keep you from struggling with normie interaction. They do exist. You'd be better off finding other autistic women who understand your issues. Just find a legit autist and not one of those self diagnosed qwirky TikTok diagnosed ones

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>>128105
OP here, it’s been 8 months since I posted this. I’m doing better and the only thing that’s ever helped me so far is staying away from most people and cutting ties with people who just wore me down all my life.

I’m on antipsychotics and antidepressants. The antipsychotics help tremendously with the “I’m not human, I’m subhuman with no feelings.” kind of thoughts and the anxiety that came with it.

It was, (my psychologist said it was “creating and maintaining boundaries) but i think its more extreme, i just stopped trying to socialise with normal people. In other words I stopped masking. The moment school ends I go home immediately and avoid socialising “like a normal person”

All throughout my life my dad had put on expectations on how I should act, feel and look, and what should I have accomplished at certain points in my life and I’ve realised that shit is fucking toxic like industrial strength acid. Those expectations he put on me corroded my self esteem and self worth.

I dropped that mindset and I still have thoughts that I’m not as good as other people in being “a normal person” and I’m still struggling to come to terms with my autism. But I’m doing better.

(Sorry if the wording seems off, I’m typing this in the middle of class)


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Anonymous 128191[Reply]

How would you describe the feelings and differences of

>Young love
>Love at first sight
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
>Loving a friend
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
>Being "in love"
>Long term love
>Falling out of love
>Settling

Anonymous 128219

>Young love
When you're in high school or college and you date for the first time. Exciting but doesn't last long. Just don't endup with a child at this age.
>Love at first sight
Happens when you have an unhealthy attachment style. Usually avoidant. Avoidant feel intense love at first,which leads to lovebombing, and eventual discard, when those intense feelings subside
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
This is what i would say if i was deeply afraid of commitment
>Loving a friend
This is actually not that bad if the feeliings are reciprocated. you get to be love someone you're actually bonded to
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
See above
>Being "in love"
First 2-3 years, when the relationship is still new and in honeymoon phase. if you're avoidant/commitment issues that can be 1 year or less
>Long term love
Both people have a stable attachment style, and don't stop loving each other after the honeymoon phase ends
>Falling out of love
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>Young love
When you have no idea and you get caught blindsided by strong feelings of desire towards someone. You want to do everything for them to be happy and to be with them always. You have few boundaries and if they let you, you stick to them like glue and people please to hell and back. If they feel the same way towards you, you have a wonderful time for the longest of time possible.
>Love at first sight
You see someone and you get the impression that you know them. They seem so familiar to you. You want to be with them. You are infatuated.
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
Few rules, few regulations, you both have an interest in each other. You try to see if there is secondary attraction and compatibility.
>Loving a friend
You appreciate them a lot. You want to protect them and help them but you don't want to be with them all the time, you don't want to kiss them or know every detail about them and you are not infatuated.
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
That honestly comes across as someone you look up to or idolise.
>Being "in love"
In love means infatuated or bewitched. Your mind is occupied by the person daily. You feel excitement and glee to see them and spent time with them. You look forward to being around them. Butterflies.
>Long term love
Contentment that comes after infatuation/honeymoon phase ends. You are still attracted, want to spend time with and find the person appealing but you feel close to them and content in a way. Not likely to grovel during this phase and you see the person better for who they are and accept them.
>Falling out of love
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