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Anonymous 126610[Reply]

I've never had a single friend in my entire life and I fully intend to keep it that way for the rest of my life. There are no friends in this world. All relationships form the way that they do based on power dynamics. All relationships are purely transactional. Anyone who you think is your friend will turn on you in a heartbeat once you are no longer of use to them. Love doesn't exist and never has.

There is no such thing as good people. All human beings are profoundly rotten to the core.

The sooner you learn this, the better.

Anonymous 126611

Hmm.

Anonymous 126612

You've never had a single friend but you think you know how friendships work?

Anonymous 126613

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The more you have, the more that people want from you. The more you burn away, the more that people earn from you. The more you pull away, the more that they depend on you.



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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

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Anonymous 126605

i saw the femcel phenotype meme a year ago but i cant stop thinking about it.
im the fucking blueprint: i have brown hair, i have glasses, and look mid.
it doesnt help that im socially inept and autistic.
people just always look at me weird when i try to talk to them and the only people i can even get along with people r older than me. i think its both because of my personality and appearance. i wish i had a neurotypical brain.
i just wish i could have a loving nerd bf but when they talk about their fantasies, its some retarded shit about wanting a busty goth femdom mommy. or they decide to troon out. ive been trying to have a fictional bf to cope with the loneliness but honestly the depression keeps on growing stronger. i want an actual connection. i wish i could snuggle in someone's arms every night. i wish someone would see me as special. im fucking worthless and my parents have never cared about me since birth. i have nothing to look forward to.

Anonymous 126606

>>126605
The "busty goth mummy" shtick men do is so weird. Like that's not even their type. They're literally just copying a lame meme and acting like it's their authentic opinion. They have literally never fucking fallen in love with a goth in their life, they don't even KNOW any goths. It's like watching someone quote standup from someone like david chapelle and act like it's their anecdote.

Anonymous 126607

>>126606
Based.
What's even better is that the scrote who told me about having this fetish would actively get mad at me whenever I gave him a single instruction in a video game.
Even flexed to me how he punched a desk and got his knuckles bloody cause I always won against him in a shooter game.
He would never do this around men btw.
But yes!!! He's such a feminist king for wanting to fuck a "busty goth mommy"!!! (aka e-girl wearing all-black).

To top it all off, the guy would whine about how no girl loved him, but would also send me pics of random women and call them ugly. Oh, and he would randomly derail conversations into about how he wanted to fuck his anime waifu. He would NEVER shut about her.

Why did I tolerate him?
Well, I was in a really bad point in life and was honestly desperate for any attention. He also had like 20 diagnosed mental illnesses so I pitied him and had a stupid mindset of "I could fix him".
I would try to call out his bad behaviour, but in the end he never learnt, so I just cut him off.
Turned out to be a massive poser too and never liked the video games he claimed to be a fan of.

Anonymous 126608

>>126605
No games or books you're looking forward to?

Anonymous 126609

>>126608
I've been playing a lot of MMORPGs like ff14 and getting into elder scrolls online recently. Action games too.
But the loneliness keeps seeping back in.
I just wanna feel happy in someone's company.
Video games aren't gonna be enough for me my entire life. I need an actual connection with someone.



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meeting internet boyfriend Anonymous 125231[Reply]

hi nonas,

have any of you met a moid from the internet before? i have been talking to a guy for a few months now and we are considering meeting. i have never had a relationship before so i'm nervous about what things will be like in person.. i don't know what to expect.

i have a tendency to self-sabotage and i worry that i am going to cut off this one chance i have at a relationship because i'm scared of what's unknown to me.. can anyone share advice?

thank you anyone who leaves a comment, i wish i had some friends i could talk to about this..
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Anonymous 125235

> hi nonas,
Kek, the surviving 1/3 of genuine posts ever posted in this site are trannies, aren’t they?

Anonymous 125265

Yes, when I was 13 I met a moid from discord. I got my virginity stolen from me that day.
met another last year, we got high, and again, in my weakened state, had sex.
met one last week and yet again, it was a hookup.

it made my self esteem plummet and reminder that I am a whore. I don't want to be a whore, I just crave physical intimacy, not even sex, just cuddles or kisses. don't meet up with moids from the internet. but if you do, make sure you trust him and its in a public place.

Anonymous 125266

>>125233
I really want to meet up with an anon moid, hes from Norway and is really sweet. I'm pretty against e dating, but my city is shit and I hate all the guys here. I've met up with 3 different guys from the internet and it all lead to us having sex.
I'm fine with sex, I just don't want it to be dominantly that. hopefully a true relationship.

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>>125231

i met my bf when we were 15 on a Discord server. i was very socially inept and depressed and i hated talking to most moids but he was always very kind to me and never made me uncomfortable, always comforted me, never expected anything. one time i got fucked up and really drunk and confessed that i liked him in call, and eventually we started dating.

we were kind of on and off dating when we were younger because we were dumb and stupid. now i'm 22 and graduating nursing school and we're getting married next year and i'm moving in with him. i'm still bad with social stuff and i don't have any friends but he has always been there for me and i'm thankful.

keep looking nona God has a plan for you and he will bring you a wonderful man soon. he will make your life easier and shelter you from all the evilness in the world.

Anonymous 126604

>>126423
im genuinely tearing up reading this. that sounds so sweet i hope your life gets better with him :)



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Just one more year. What should I do? Anonymous 126476[Reply]

I'm stuck in a weird position.
When I newly turned 17, I met with a 30 year old guy from 4chan because I was lonely and wanted a friend. We had some common interests in games. We hung out at the arcade and in the same year, I went to his house to play co-op. However, the friendship was short lived as he asked me to be his girlfriend right after. I was young and stupid, I saw no issue with him. He was unfit and never had a girlfriend before, I never had a boyfriend before. So I thought I should give him a chance.
It's been 1 and a 1/2 years now. Due to feeling unsafe at home, as soon as I turned 18, I moved out to this dude's house. He said he'd support me. So I moved and enrolled to a highschool near his house.
Over time, living with him, I began to pick up on things that do not sit right with me.
Firstly, he has figurines of some anime girls that troubled me from the very first time I came over, but I thought I should just overlook it. Figurines of miku, vtubers and Fate characters. He has plushes of vtubers, his profile picture is a vtuber. He admits that he likes vtubers but doesn't watch them anymore. Yet when I criticise them for milking money from men he opposed me.
Things that disgust me include him loving the anime 'yuru yuri' a show common among lolicons, loving the soundtrack of 'yuru yuri', he downloaded all of them and calling the government 'woke' because the age for marriage is 18. Other than this, I told him I do not use twitter, but everyday, I check what he has posted and who he recently follows. When I checked his following for the first time, I burst into tears. It was anime porn artist after anime porn artists. Most of his following was that. Yet checking his recently followed, he still actively interacts with these anime porn artists. When he shows me something on twitter, he's very wary and cautious of ever scrolling too much, and when he accidently does - it's all vtubers and ecchi drawings of anime girls. Last night, I checked his following again, and I cried again discovering he followed 20 more disgusting anime artists.
The worst thing is, these anime porn artists also draw porn of underage characters… in other words loli. It's a trend I've noticed across the artists he indulges in.
I feel so stupid, I was too young and dumb to notice this before I lived with him. And now I'm stuck with this borderline pedophile. I should've picked it up when I told him my real age and he said "15 is legal anPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 126560

>>126555
Honestly, I'm inclined to take that back.
Like the part about making weird implications, I'm sure you'll make a great doctor, using a moment of weakness against you was really mean of me, I'm sorry about that. I still think you shouldn't kill him ofc, you're right to think about your future.
But you're basically still a child with your whole life ahead of you and being with a pedo is definitely dangerous for you, get out of there

Anonymous 126563

leave him, listen to your intuition. he’s a pedo gooner. take photos and screenshots of all of his degeneracy and send it to his family. does him mom know about this or does she just enable it? also, see if there are any women’s shelters near you. can you get him to give you money, like lie and say it’s for like cosplay lingerie or something?

Anonymous 126586

>>126560
>>126560
i was going to yell at you but i was too tired. i’m not her but thank you for apologizing to her.

Anonymous 126600

>>126586
Yeah, I tried to delete the post but I can't since 30 minutes have passed.
Thank you for being someone who yells at people when they say stupid things.
>>126476
Once again, I'm really sorry, don't even read that shitty post at >>126555
I get into a both-sides mentality too easily when abuse is usually from one aggressor to someone whose aggression is usually just self-defense.
You clearly have many reasons to defend yourself, especially after what you've experienced and the overall person that moid appears to be.

Anonymous 126603

>>126486
you have the same mentality of a moid. stop slutshaming depressed women.
>>126600
thanks for owning up to your mistake instead of just running away from responsibility like a lot of people do.
>>126525
im not qualified to give any advice, but i just wanted to say i hope things get better for you. i know how it feels, thinking that the only love you'll get is from the lowest of the low. that pedofag doesn't deserve you.



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Lesbians are the most oppressed, idc Anonymous 126590[Reply]

>Discord will ban you if you don't like trannies
>Reddit will ban you of you don't like trannies
>/r9k/ supports prison gay men and attention seeking fakeecel ethots but will shit on you and exclude you for being a lesbian
>/lgbt/ will shit on you for not being a Goldstar
>radfems will shit on you for not finding fat hairy ugly bitches attractive or for liking anything that isn't holding hands and kissing bc anything else is "male gaze-y"
>right wing twitter shits on you for being homosexual
>left wing twitter shits on you for being transphobic, aka for being an actual homosexual
>Bluesky…. Why are you on Bluesky?
>I don't know any secret tags on Tumblr for lesbians, but the fact if there were any it would be annoying to have to walk on eggshells else-wise the tag gets raided for not liking trannies
>third world countries… You don't even have any rights.
>Most of the western world will arrest you if you publicly say you don't like trannies
>Even in America, trannies are allowed in female only spaces even if its prison or a domestic abuse shelter
>Growing up having to learn in school that you were treated as inferior in every way all throughout history up until very recently

Not to mention having to deal with the rhetoric against lesbians being so mind-numbingly dumb and illogical.
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Anonymous 126592

>>126590
>waaah I don't have a girlfriend, it's because I'm being oppressed
I don't deny the oppression, but…
>Gay marriage was a mistake
> I hate my life. I hate being horny. I I just want a girlfriend. I hate men for getting women easily
>why not date a woman at that point? She'd love you, that man will never love you like she could
>I just hate how women would rather be with a Buffalo Bill then get with another girl, I want the worst for them. I want them all dead.
>yet you'd never give another woman a chance
Sis, some people are just straight.
Get it together, noona.

Anonymous 126593

>>126592
That's no excuse to lust over some ugly ass man. Lusting over an ugly unkempt man is a paraphilia, same way if a woman lusts over a deathfat or fully transitioned pooner.
Like no way are these women out here looking at an unkempt dude who would gleefully skin you alive and go fuck a man's ass afterward, going "wowww… Sooo cutee, omg, what a poor baby". How do you know you're straight at this point? These women love to talk about "love" with these men but never sex because society doesn't expect women to have pleasure during sex, so its like, why not try to get with a woman instead? Surely it is an upgrade compared to a neckbeard or an ugly tranny?
>>126591
It is. It is bland and cardboard-y, but frozen pizza is cheap compared to the calories in it if you're a dumb fuck who couldn't be bothered to eat two - three times a day (me)

Anonymous 126594

>>126593
what upgrade
you sound insane

Anonymous 126595

>>126594
To add: look, don't take this as a judgment on your personal self, but you're clearly under affect and other people can tell you're not okay. This is probably the reason why these women avoid you. This is basically THE incel mentality. I don't think you're doomed to be this way forever but you clearly need help first.

Anonymous 126596

>>126594
Some greasy unkempt freak << a woman who takes care of herself and isn't an asshole.
I get that he's a man but he's not even human at that point. Some disgusting blob of filth, like the average tranny or neckbeard? If they aren't gonna chase after a normal man, they might as well get with a butch or something because there is no way in hell the unkempt moid is more desirable.
I'm not talking about women seeking normal men, I am talking about the sheer amount of women who get with these unhygienic ugly failures of society. That is a paraphilia.
>>126595
It's not that women avoid me, I don't reach out to women because I do not know how to find women who are into other women. Dating apps are inherently unhealthy and the area I live in is full of woke slop because it's meant for people in their 30s/families, not people in their 20s. Every "lgbt" space here is trans-centric too and weirdly focused on "trans youth" in particular, which is creepy. The gay bar got shut down during Covid, I never got the chance to go there.
I am going to a concert for the first time next month and I plan on actually going outside places in general instead of being a recluse, but the blackpill has a grip on me regardless. I feel like no matter what I'll do, it will all be pointless. I hate the thought of going outside where I am forced to play nice toward trannies in order to have access to communities they should be kicked out of. I hate having my sexuality be some type of secret where I'm forced to be paranoid about in case something bad happens to me. I don't like being resentful like this, though. I just kinda hope theres women out there as resentful as I am, and maybe we can meet together, we can have each other instead of being lonely incels.



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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 115657[Reply]

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Anonymous 126547

most of his old usernames were just “cypheroptics” so that was what the snapchat will be under. maybe you can access it somehow. godspeed.

Anonymous 126550

and you’re welcome for the internet footprint, niko.

Anonymous 126580

the evidence speaks for itself.

Anonymous 126581

normal sex doesn’t result in crime scene photographs, janelle wilkins.

Anonymous 126587

when i die they’ll list my cause of death as suicide. just know it was murder.



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Men make me feel so lonely Anonymous 125423[Reply]

I can’t handle how lonely men make me feel. No matter how kind, patient, or understanding they seem, they always end up disappointing me. They’re all lustful. They all watch porn. All of them struggle to see women as actual human beings, some just get better at hiding it. They all want you to perform for them in some way shape or form.

I ache for this so called true love. I want romance, tenderness, respect. I want someone who sees me, who values me, who cherishes me. But instead, day by day, I grow more bitter and resentful. It feels like I was sold a lie about what men and relationships are supposed to be. It makes me angry and doubt romantic love is even real at all. It all just feels like a cruel lie. I even feel like the women who claim their men are so great are experiencing some sort of cognitive dissonance.

I keep telling myself I just won’t ever get this from a man, but accepting that is so hard. The loneliness eats at me. Sometimes, it feels like being a straight woman is nothing but a curse. Being alone sucks but being with them makes the loneliness even worse.
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Anonymous 126564

>>125519
You're just describing the vast majority of humans in general. 80% of all people are fucking stupid, you just don't care when it's other women because you're straight. If you genuinely cared about how people behave and held your friends to the same standards you hold prospective partners to, you'd be friendless. Maybe you already are, I don't know. You just sound really bitter and unwilling to accept that basically nobody alive gets to have a "perfect partner" who's everything they could ever want. The chance that you're the same perfect pairing for them is even more miniscule.

Everyone is broken and "wrong". If you can look past a pole's failings and be happy with him despite those failings, then that's all that matters. You only get one life and being fucking miserable because you're a perfectionist for whom no real person is good enough is your own fault.

Anonymous 126574

>>126568
Why are you so obsessed with cocksucking, BJ-chan? Is that the only thing on your mind, even when someone is talking about yearning for romance and respect? Genuinely, what is wrong with you?

Anonymous 126582

>>125767
i thought nikolas parent was different and he raped me within a week of dating.

Anonymous 126583

>>125768
they want a virgin because being the one who degrades her makes them excited. it’s not romantic. they want to be the one to defile you. they want someone who said no to everyone else. they don’t actually care if you say yes to THEM. they will rape you and just lie and say you said yes.

Anonymous 126584

>>125602
had a man tell me he literally saw me in his dream for half a decade before he met me, rape me the second we were alone, bragged about me to this incel friends who were jealous he “stole me” from a friend i didn’t have feelings for and had told no i didn’t want to date you 500 times. there was no stealing. and then he timed the rape so he could escape out of the country, left me because he couldn’t rape me anymore and i was showing signs of trauma and crying in public at six flags with his friends there about what did to me. then spent all his time abroad having sex with prostitutes around his base until he was dishonorably discharged and ended up dating the minor he had been online grooming for months before and after me.



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Anonymous 126416[Reply]

I found the best man ever and I started dating him and we get along so well together and my life has improved in so many ways since meeting him, but for some reason I'm not falling in love with him.

He can tell that I don't have strong feelings for him, and it's important to him that a girlfriend does. He talked about how betrayed he felt by a past girlfriend that was with him just to not be alone. I don't feel like I'm settling for him, my brain just doesn't produce the correct feelings that I need to have.

Why does life have to be this way? Am I broken? Asexual? I'm just going to be single for the rest of my life the way this is going and it's making me feel very anxious and sad.
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Anonymous 126474

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>>126417
I'm not latina

>>126450
>>126455
I feel like I can be myself around him, though we haven't known each other that long.

We haven't had sex but I can imagine myself hating that if it doesn't work out. Every other worry I've had has melted away the more I've gotten to known him, though.

Thanks for sharing your experiences, noonas. I still desperately wish I could try this anyway, but whatever happens I think I'm at least going to tell him what I feel, that way it's not just me deciding what to do but us together. If I'm lucky maybe he will offer his friendship instead and that will make me less lonely somehow.

Anonymous 126475

For me, sometimes observing my own feelings is like observing something with a microscope that is too small, that gets damaged by beams of light. If you are this way, and you haven't known each other for that long, then maybe you can just wait. Time and silence is sometimes all it takes for your inner thoughts to speak up. This is especially true if you've never been attracted to somebody in a long-term way before, you very well could just be slow to discern what you want. But if this is the case, then maybe try not to move forward (esp physically) until you can discern, as that would only increase mental noise and make it harder to figure out.

Also, are you like this in all other areas in life? Ex: if you adopt an animal, move, make new friends, change jobs/career ambitions/school concentrations, do you start worrying about your choices the same way you are with your boyfriend?

Anonymous 126480

>>126431
I think it's at least partly due to the fact many women are so used to men being complete garbage that when they meet one that's decent, who respects them and whom they respect, they'll interpret it as love. And from there, it's mostly just the usual cognitive bias and sunk cost fallacy that will trap them in a loveless relationship.

Anonymous 126573

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>>126475
I also experience feelings that way. I have to observe them indirectly a lot of the time. I'll notice that I've talked more than usual or that my thoughts are optimistic, and then conclude that I must be in a good mood.

I'm not really worrying about choices like that. I'm not worried about if he's the right one or not.

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Update on OP:

I talked to him yesterday and described what I feel and what I don't feel. He way okay with it so maybe he thinks it's still too early to be able to expect me to have strong feelings yet. I don't know what the usual timeline for these things are. I still have a feeling that it's not going to go my way in the end, though.

Anonymous 126579

>>126573
Progress, I guess. Did it alleviate the guilt any?



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Ugly Vent Thread Anonymous 124874[Reply]

A thread for women to vent and share their experiences with being ugly and how they cope in this look obsessed society.
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>>126244

there's nothing wrong with you. the world is filled with normies who all have the same boring interests and lack the ability to leave their small box of social rules.

you should embrace being off-putting and just be yourself. drown your self in weird obscure niche hobbies and interests. eventually with time you will attract people based off of those things. there are lots of moids who like autistic women who will find you interesting to talk to.

work also makes it easier to socialize too. the constant forced socialization helps build charisma skills and it'll help you talk to more people. maybe you won't make friends at work but talking will get easier and you will become less off putting to people with practice.

don't give up nona i believe in you.

Anonymous 126529

>>125929
Samefag, I was right. I caught him following insta e thots and actively liking their posts. Staying because I have no self respect

Anonymous 126534

>>126529
you have to love yourself and leave nona. you deserve better.

Anonymous 126552

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>>126534
I know I should but I fear I won't ever find anyone else ever again because of how I look

Anonymous 126567

I dated the first guy who said he loved me online even if he ended up being a bad person because I just wanted to feel desired and now I’m back to feeling ugly ever since it ended and I should be “healing”



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