Word. The whole 'social skills are important u guiz, emotional intelligence is cool' schtick goes out to a small pool of assholes. The type of people with no theory of mind – the type of people who have literally never considered why they shouldn't hurt others.
There's nothing wrong with focusing on booksmarts. Women are so, so discouraged from being intelligent in a way that's threatening. I worked at a summer camp for a few years, and I noticed that there was a certain age cutoff (late 4's, 5) when girl children having interests like math, robotics, airplanes, and so forth started making people uncomfortable. Even though these girls were often some of the smartest in the class.
It's okay to study and be smart. Just don't be an intentionally malicious asshole. But, I don't think anybody should need to tell girls that. The social conditioning is everywhere… we know.