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Anonymous 115283[Reply]

Is it normal for friendships to come and go?
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Anonymous 115362

I think so, to a certain extent. Especially when you're under 30. Your lives change, you develop as a person, your interests shift, your needs and wants change or you might move physically away and as a consequence a friendship may no longer be compatible.

Anonymous 115373

>>115283
It’s normal, it happens to me all the time unfortunately. It happens a lot if the other person is too anxious to deal with confrontation and it doesn’t matter whose fault it is, they will just avoid avoid avoid. It gets better after mid 20s

Anonymous 115442

Yes

Anonymous 115609

That’s normal. The average life span of a friendship is seven years. Just keep making new friends knowing they’re not meant to be forever.

Anonymous 134045

Yes, it's normal when it just happens naturally. You just start talking less but you still have each other's contact info. Ghosting however is a sign of immaturity and possibly mental issues.



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Anonymous 134033[Reply]

How am I able to not achieve even a single thing in the past 2 years?
I don't think I've made even one visible change in my life.

Anonymous 134034

maybe you made progress but arent there yet

Anonymous 134042

>>134033
It's men. Men are the problem.

Anonymous 134043

Because you're an average person with no motivation and nothing to aspire to… maybe

Anonymous 134044

procrastinating for 2 whole years? dont feel too bad, just need to start with the little achievable goals as you build up and reward yourself as you go along



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unheard Anonymous 127364[Reply]

song lyrics
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Anonymous 131688

This Sunday instrumental is goated btw

Anonymous 131745

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Oh, won't you lay down with me?
Let yourself be free

Hold your breath, don't breathe
Just believe in me
Trust you're coming with me
We can finally be free

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IcYfWknChuo

Anonymous 131853

>>131687
>>131688
Moby lover <3

Why is all his new music so shit. It started being shit after he quit drugs and alcohol.

Anonymous 132962

Benjamin Netanyahu…

And you're looking at the leader of the chosen people, homie. Your master dick was [music] just a bad copy.
Rapping is easy with Jewish verbal IQ.
And even if you somehow beat me, then I'll just sue you.

Anonymous 134041

someday you will ache like i ache



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Vent thread Anonymous 132763[Reply]

Again we need to vent
Previous Thread >>>/feels/129800
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Anonymous 134020

>>134018
not that but what happened? what did you do?

Anonymous 134029

>>134020
i really don’t know. he refuses to even actually talk with me and when he does talk he’s just cold and cruel. which is kinda why i feel i hated.

Anonymous 134038

>>134029
why do you even want him back nonа? he sounds like a pretty shitty guy honestly. have some self respect, you deserve someone who actually treats you well.

Anonymous 134039

>>134018
Never chase after males, they return when they feel you're done with them
Mine ghosted me for ~2 months and a week passed after I blocked him, and he came bck to me and he's now mentally my slave

Anonymous 134040

>>134029
He's enjoying stringing you along, he likes that you're on your knees at his mercy, stop this bullshit and realize when you're the one running away they start to chase



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My dad has ruined my life Anonymous 134005[Reply]

I fucking hate my bastard father. He’s completely ruined my life, I feel like I don’t have the strength to pick myself up from all his torture and abuse. I have no idea how, he’s essentially completely cut me off now, which thank god. However im left to deal with everything he’s done to me. How the fuck do I heal? I’m completely terrified of going:g outside, my self esteem is shattered and most days I feel like a waste of space. I’ve truly considered killing myself but I’d never have the guts to do it. So I just exist in my room. I’ve already gained weight from binging. How the fuck do I move past this? Has anyone tried online therapy? I feel worthless for letting a fucking weak insecure man ruin my life. Im tired of feeling this way
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Anonymous 134028

>>134005
What do you mean by cut you off? Like you're essentially homeless now? Or he just doesn't want to talk to you? Do you have a job?

Anonymous 134030

I’m 20 right now, I currently don’t practice meditation. I’ll look into this thank you very much, I deeply appreciate it.

Anonymous 134031

Well he had kicked me out, and I went to live with my mother and stepdad and my stepdad was also abusive. My mother chose him over me and now im living with my grandmother. I did have a job, im in the process of trying to find another one now.

Anonymous 134032

>>134031
Do you have any money saved up? I don't know what country you live in but maybe staffing centers exist where you live. Go to one and they should be able to get you a job within a week. It'll be a shitty job for minimum wage but it's work.

Anonymous 134036

Block him on everything.

Start talking therapy/EDMR.

Move out (if you haven't already).

Get physically moving a lot NOW.

I thought my physically/emotionally abusive mother had ruined my life, now after finally cutting her off and moving far away my life is infinitely better in every way. You can do this OP :)



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Chronically suicidal nonnas how do you cope? Anonymous 133852[Reply]

Hi s, basically title. I have been chronically depressed and suicidal for the vast majority of my life. I will probably be like this for the rest of my life. I'm a pretty stable person at this point. I have a routine, I take care of myself, but as I go through my 20s I feel distant from people and can't really engage with them because I know my inner life freaks people out. I'm curious how other chronically suicidal s cope with their feelings outside of the obvious answer of therapy or medication, which I've been in and out of for many years and has never provided any relief. What distracts you or makes the next day more enjoyable?
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Anonymous 133914

>>133852
i was suicidal for some time and even did some fucking stupid shit because of it, but now im mostly fine, even though recently i've been rethinking about it with no apparent reason.

I've always coped by distracting myself, either with the vidya, tv or movies and it has always worrked out.

I think that the best thing though is getting into an hobby that involves creating things, when i got into sewing i got wayyy less shitty thoughts and lived more happily, seeing your work improving is source of immense satisfaction.

You'll get better !

Anonymous 133918

>>133852
Bad advice, but I just go full automated and I ignore what I feel until I explode and cry my eyes out.

Anonymous 133971

>>133852
So, I don't actually know how to cope in a healthy way, so my advice is bias and only works for me because it's what I've adapted to. I'm not able to go to therapy because it's expensive (and I'm not even sure if I could convince myself to go anyway), so what I do is just reflect on my own suicidal thoughts and why I am the way I am. But that can drive me insane, so most of the time, it's really just me venting, and nothing productive is done about it.

But I would suggest journaling or keeping a digital diary so you have a way of getting your thoughts out of your head. It sounds cliche, I know, but I find that it works really well when you feel isolated as you bottle up these feelings and don't reach out to anyone. Please, please keep talking about your suicidal thoughts. Talk about why you feel the way you do, how it came to be. Write about the way you feel. It doesn't matter however you do it, just get it out there. This significantly helps and it will also make you feel lighter. Distracting yourself only works temporarily and will make you feel worse, if you only distract yourself.

Anonymous 133983

Unironically find a hobby. If youve had suicidal thoughts for so long its become part of your identity. In my peak (or actually lowest of lows) i could only describe myself with physical characteristics because there was nothing more to my soul than the wish for death. Deciding to do anything remotely productive (such as studying) was extremely scary to me because it implied a future; which went against my whole identity!

Ive picked up a few hobbies. I can do my hobbies alone in my room, doesnt require me to go out or interact with people since that can be difficult for me when im feeling low. It not only distracts me but calms me and subconsciously makes me have the future in mind: i have a project to finish, i have to go to the store to buy x, etc.
The best hobby is when you create something, not passively consume.
Im not saying its going to fix everything but try it and see where it brings you. If you have difficulty thinking of something is there anything you used to do which you enjoyed? Or something youve always wanted to learn? Something that might be laying around that youve never used, etc. Lmk if you decide anything am curious

Also , you dont have to share your whole inner world with someone. “superficial” friendships are also good. If we were always talking about deep stuff with everyone that would get pretty tiring. Find some thing you can bond over with people and dont stress it tm

Anonymous 134035

>>133983
This!!! Wonderfully said



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How to deal with my hatred towards pickmes as a woman Anonymous 107469[Reply]

How to deal with constantly having to see women act trashy for men, having to be gaslighted as an individual by women as a collective which is very vile and makes me doubt myself as if I'm a crazy person just making up shit, having to be surrounded with the patriarchy they co create with men especially through heterosexuality, having to see women acting desperate for men, being hated for having self preservation, literally getting mad responses from pickmes, having to live in this society with no community I can connect with and having to suppress my mind and "ignore" the issues aka just… suppress myself to fit them, having to be exposed to constant brainwashing and grooming by male lovers, having to deal with female socialization and being held to higher standards than they hold men to.
It's all just evil, women as a collective oppress individual women, and celibate women who don't want to engage in heterosexuality are seen as controversial and male lovers are threatened by us. I know people will just tell me to "ignore" but I want a community or else I'm a fucking slave in this society. Its hard being an autistic, mentally gnc woman cause other women hate you, not in the way hatred is usually displayed by humans but it's still real. I also feel intellectually suppressed/oppressed in the female socialization and female socialization is also very aggressive. I'm very unique(I know that we all go though the same experience and all human feel the same things, I just resort to seeing myself as unique whenever it's a temporary state or not or even trauma, it just helps me understand what I am in relation with others in the context of this issue here)
Please don't nitpick this cause I'm so tired, it's NOT just about being celibate please understand what I mean cause I've seen male lovers accusing volcel women of basing their worth around the "lack if male presence" in their life "just as male lovers base their worth around male presence". Wtf
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Anonymous 119806

>>119544
Your family dynamic is toxic nona, but you already knew that. It’s easy for me to say to walk away from that shit when it’s not my family, but still, reading all that, my first thought was “run”.

Your mom has an emotionally incestuous relationship with your brother (typical boymom, many such cases) and it will only get worse, and as it gets worse, she’ll demand that YOU pick up the slack when her health fails. You can’t reason her out of this. Her entire identity is serving men. It’s a standard primitive survival tactic, probably enforced into her as a child: she knows that men are stronger, are more violent, command more respect and have more resources, so she hates and betrays other women in the hopes of being spared or protected from other men. It’s fear-based, but if she’s malicious, she’ll also actively enjoy other women’s suffering. Pick-me behaviour.

The best you can do is keep your head down, save your money, and leave. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, it happens to way too many girls and women. Your mom doesn’t respect herself, or you.

Anonymous 119817

>>119364
>>119365
Not op but lmao I can't even see women like you as human anymore, you're so mentally enslaved. Also don't call op a radiem, she's blackpilled and supports biological realism. Meanwhile radfems believe in socialization theory bullshit and most of them still want to suck dick

Anonymous 119851

>>119817
Are there any female blackpill & bio realism places left? I miss r/blackpillfeminism

Anonymous 119853

>>119851
Richard Dawkins related spaces used to be great but full of people that are way older than me. He used to talk about trans issues from a biorealism point of view but now he actively avoids the subject in anything he does.

Anonymous 134000

The main reason why pickmes get hated is because they dare putting their own interests ahead of collective interests of women, sometimes they harvest attention of all the boys so they can do the picking, leaving the rest with leftovers.
But in love there is no place for gender solidarity, one might think that pickme haters are into sharing husbands.



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Worried about cheating friend Anonymous 133666[Reply]

I'm a close friend of two people who later became a couple. They've been together for a year and 2 months now, and I'm worried that my female friend is in the process of cheating on him, or has already cheated on him.

She's been taking a class for the past four months, and that's where she met a guy. I've seen the way she looks at him, almost with longing in her eyes.
Over those months, they went from simply getting to know each other to:
>texting about class stuff
>making excuses to meet up and spend time together
>leaving together after class
>taking public transportation together after class
>texting about their lives and interests
>texting each other at around 11 p.m. or midnight
And so on.

Apparently, HE asked HER out weeks ago. She said she had a boyfriend, he said no problem, and I was happy. I thought it was over and that we'd dodged an incoming storm…
EXCEPT that my friend texted HIM a couple of hours later.
Ever since then, they've gotten even closer, added each other on all their socials, started sharing stuff, etc.
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Anonymous 133676

>>133673
> I just feel sickened by how she's treating her boyfriend, I would've never expected this from her, and this is just from what I've seen and what she has told me so I have to imagine the real thing is even worse.
I don't understand. This is your own friend. Someone you're supposedly very close to. Don't you think it's possible that she could just simply be getting carried away?
Sorry Nona but if she's really your friend you'd have a little faith in her. You'd feel comfortable talking to her about your feelings. You're failing her by not coming forward.

Anonymous 133705

>>133676
Yeah how old is the OP and her friends? This sounds so immature. Either they are very very young, or not as close friends as OP says.
>>133673
I hope my friends would approach me if I was in a period of my life where I'm doing something questionable that goes against my typical character.
>I've never seen or heard about a woman in a relationship rejecting someone because she had a boyfriend and and then trying to claw the guy back in while escalating things
Please tell me how old you all are. This is bog standard emotional cheating/monkey branching.

Anonymous 133929

just talk to her wtf. it makes no sense to be scared of her reaction. you don't have to come at her with an accusatory tone, you can approach this sensibly and with empathy. ask her what she is doing. she might just be bored/passive/stupid idk. tell her how this looks and what her bf would think. don't talk to her bf first unless you want to throw shit on fire. it also might backfire on you if it turns out to be different from what it seems or if the bf doesn't see it the same way as you
talk to her

Anonymous 133930

Femcels have gotten to be so fucking lame. You feel bad for a moid. Like actually?? Men cheat all the time. I love women and male orientated fields.

Anonymous 133997

>>133930
ok based



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Lesbians are the most oppressed, idc Anonymous 126590[Reply]

>Discord will ban you if you don't like trannies
>Reddit will ban you of you don't like trannies
>/r9k/ supports prison gay men and attention seeking fakeecel ethots but will shit on you and exclude you for being a lesbian
>/lgbt/ will shit on you for not being a Goldstar
>radfems will shit on you for not finding fat hairy ugly bitches attractive or for liking anything that isn't holding hands and kissing bc anything else is "male gaze-y"
>right wing twitter shits on you for being homosexual
>left wing twitter shits on you for being transphobic, aka for being an actual homosexual
>Bluesky…. Why are you on Bluesky?
>I don't know any secret tags on Tumblr for lesbians, but the fact if there were any it would be annoying to have to walk on eggshells else-wise the tag gets raided for not liking trannies
>third world countries… You don't even have any rights.
>Most of the western world will arrest you if you publicly say you don't like trannies
>Even in America, trannies are allowed in female only spaces even if its prison or a domestic abuse shelter
>Growing up having to learn in school that you were treated as inferior in every way all throughout history up until very recently

Not to mention having to deal with the rhetoric against lesbians being so mind-numbingly dumb and illogical.
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Anonymous 126681

>>126590
I used to get frozen pizza only on birthdays..

Anonymous 126682

>>126675
the way i started nodding before i realized what you weirdos were on about. how is a woman loving another woman DEVIANCY? go ask the men in your life hard questions and leave wlw alone? go bother a fucking coquette age player? literally there are entire reddit communities of pedos and people who molested children to harass. you could get this energy out any other way and instead you’re being homophobic because a girl will hold another girls hand. you sound crazy. literally there are men in your life who have harmed women and have crazy internet footprints. where is this energy for them?

Anonymous 126683

>>126681
i will make you a frozen pizza daily my princess. i would make you REAL pizza.

Anonymous 127295

>>126590
This is so chronically online. Half of the things you mentioned don't even exist in the real world. You are spending so much time and energy being negative,, no wonder women don't like you lol. And then you use this fictive rejection to blame and generalize other groups. No way you just made me defend moids among others…

The way you're expressing yourself sounds like someone who's hurting, but not someone who's beyond hope. I can recognize how badly you want a relationship, a connection with another woman. I struggle with the same thing, with not being able to find women who are into other women. Perhaps also because I am femme4femme. But I don't think it's as impossible as you make it out to be.. because if you don't even try to reach out to women then what do you expect?

I hope your concert goes well, but also don't lose hope if something doesn't work out. You deserve a good relationship and I wish you the best in pursuing one.

Anonymous 133985

>>126590
I'm not a lesbian , but in some ways you're right.

I agree that lesbians in third world countries have no rights (women in these countries typically have no rights), but judging by how you write, I don't think this applies to you.

It also grinds my gears when trans """women""" call themselves lesbians or faggots, because they aren't. I don't browse the internet half as much as I used to and I have still heard trans """women""" say such things in public with their mouths. I live in Australia, and this year I heard about the "Tickle v Giggle" case, which involved a trans woman who sued a "girls-only" app owner (the troon won $20,000 AUD). Funnily enough, if the owner had just said "she was excluded for being ugly" it probably would have been ok and the app would still exist.

Where I disagree is where you say that lesbians are the most oppressed. I don't know if it's possible to quantify which group is the "most" oppressed, but if I had to pick one, I'd pick poor people. I'd say ugly people are the second most oppressed. I say this because there are no laws for discriminating against SES, nor are there laws for discriminating against how attractive someone is, at least here. Race, gender, sexual identity, and religion are protected, but your income and your face are fair game it seems. Even if people don't overtly discriminate against poor and ugly people, they definitely act more nicely towards rich and pretty people. Most people who talk about oppression never bring this up, maybe because we've been conditioned to think it's "bad" to acknowledge that some people are poor or ugly. Being ugly isn't bad though, it says nothing about who you are as a person. Same with being poor. idk, just ramblin'



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