you're not

There’s nothing wrong about your decision and embracing the single life.

You're not being too stubborn at all, I think you are noble, and I'm sorry about your miscarriage nona

>>107147
I'm sorry about your poodle nona. It sounds like you had a very close bond with him. I have the feeling I'll have a similar situation as you in regards to always tearing up when I think about my cats passing. He died in my arms, and it was devastating knowing there was nothing I could do to save him.
I think you're right though, in regards to getting another cat later down the line. Right now I can't even imagine doing it as no other cat could ever replace him. But I also know that I wouldn't actually be replacing him.
He was so talkative and I really regret not getting any video recordings of him when he was being chatty.
For any pet-owning nonas in here, take as many videos and photos of your babies as you can. You never know when their time will come.

So sorry, anon.
Yes, I lost my childhood cat (and best friend) when he was 15 a few years ago. It was awful, I broke down sobbing at work and felt the deep emptiness of his missing presence to my core. I'd always be expecting him to come around the corner or slip into my room and onto my bed like usual.
My mother encouraged us to get a new kitten a month and a half later, and even if it felt like betrayal of him I'm so happy to have her! Like other anon said, she's so different in her personality that it doesn't feel like a "replacement" as I feared. I could never replace him after all, it was just meeting a new friend to help the healing process.
The period with no cat felt 6x longer than it actually was though, fuck.

All this to say, don't feel guilt about making a new friend but also only do so when you feel ready. And take as long as you need to mourn both he and your life alongside him. 14 years is a long time filled with what I assume to be some of your early memories if he was your first cat (even if you got your first cat at 20, that's young in a different way). Take time to appreciate his companionship during your ups and downs and growth. Also don't let anyone make you feel silly for mourning a pet.

I lived in a big house in the rural area of a city for most of my life, so I've had more pets than the average person. Still, I always grief for months when my pets die.
Like >>107168 said, adopt another pet when you feel ready. Helping an animal in need is the best way to honor the memory of your pet. You're not replacing them in any way, I have so many good memories of all the pets I had. I'll die one day too, but until then I'll love and care for as many animals as I can.

>>107168
>I'd always be expecting him to come around the corner or slip into my room and onto my bed like usual.
I'm so sorry nona, this is exactly what I'm going through with my cat. He'd always jump onto the bed with me at night time and be purring away until he fell asleep. I miss him so much.
>>107169
I do actually have two other cats that I got last year. I just don't have as strong a connection with these two.
Originally I had two cats, the one who just died plus another who died at the start of 2022 (kidney disease). My senior cat went into a bad depression and stopped eating after she died, which is why I got the other two cats. So you could say they were his cats, and he became his happy self again once they settled in. Thankfully they seem to be doing okay without him, I suppose because they have each other. It's just so strangely quiet without him because he was super talkative, and they don't meow at all. I hope I can grow closer to them with time.

One of my cats died recently in about October or November. We're not sure how, he was found dead under my sister's bed. No blood or throw up or anything. I miss him badly, my remaining cat seems so lonely and confused without him. I hope there's an afterlife for pets and that we can be with them again one day, I miss him badly. My aunt's dog died over the summer too and my childhood dogs have been gone for a while

You might be suffering from pretty privilege tbh. Sounds counter intuitive until you see how lonely prettu people are because their communities isolate them due to a perceived notion of "oh, they have it easy, they don't need my company." Also people are afraid of initiating with a pretty person.

If its not that, then maybe its your personality?

I dont know you, so take this with a grain of salt

The thing with making friends is that most people already have friends, so you'll come across a lot of people who already have as many friends as they are satisfied with. Look for fellow loners. Although lonely x lonely does come with its own troubles.

>>129699
I never thought of it that way, specially because I'm quite insecure even though I have always been told I'm attractive.

I'm not perfect just like everyone but I like to think that I'm good at understanding people and getting along with them, I'm kind and entertaining, I am pretty sensitive though so maybe I value friendship more than what the average people do.

>>129705
Yes, I struggle with this big time. I have tried this as well, I was hanging out with a girl who I thought was in the same situation as me. It was extremely one-sided, I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt (maybe she's shy/maybe she needs some time to feel comfortable with me). There weren't any signs of her not being interested besides never taking initiative. Turns out she had a bunch of friends that I never knew about.

I feel you anon. All friends I had in school I fell out of contact with after a while (mainly because of us being put in different classes) and now I don't have any friends left from school. My only current friends are online friends but I know even those friendships are very shaky and could collapse at any time

Failed my learner's license theory test last week, and I have it again this morning. I've been doing the practice tests and as many times as I redo them, I never get to the point where I'm regularly passing them. And then it costs a hundred dollars for every time after this one that I take the test. What a pain! If I fail again, I may just take the L and give up.

>>129706
Don't.

>>129712
It's a moot point because I passed it anyway

>>117334
this was my post from over a year ago. we broke up about a month after and sometimes I still think about it. I spent years getting groomed online after childhood SA. At 17/18 I decided I was done with being taken advantage of by older guys and that i wanted to be with a cute and nice boy, and that’s what I thought I had. my mother was so abusive to the point where an older bf was a better adult figure in my life despite being so disgusting.

he took my virginity that I was saving for a “cute nice boy”, and it was the first time a man put his hands on me and I actually wanted and enjoyed it. it feels like shit now. I chose the very thing I was running from just because he was cute, young looking, and “sweet”. I wish it could’ve been a nice boy I liked in highschool or something. I sometimes still try and convince myself that he wasn’t weird and that it was okay so I don’t feel like an idiot who was taken advantage of again. how the fuck do I even come to terms with this?

I should’ve seen it coming. the way he followed me at 17 when I was in high school, started liking my photos a bit after I turned 18.
I’m 19 now and I could never see a high schooler and think “wow I can’t wait to date them when they’re 18”.

to any young nonas, please don’t make the same mistakes I made. I spent 7 years of my life being taken advantage of time and time again because it was all I knew. you deserve real love, not predation

>>129713
Congrats!

>>129682
Feminists did that by inventing terms like "sex work" and promoting indiscriminate acceptance. In consequence society stopped shaming WHORES as it used to and young girls are getting the impression that prostitution is legit work and not a downward spiral to ruin.

>>129651
They were always zombies. There is no soul behind those eyes.
>>129678
Things were never good.

>>129679
Feminism's biggest myth is that men are redeemable and could be socialized out of their sexuality with some sort of culture change, and that this would be deeper than merely conditioning them to be less open about their sexuality. That one was debunked almost out of the gate. Football team members might do the most rape per capita in colleges but you wouldn't want to be locked in an elevator with an antiporn but heterosexual male feminist either. But everywhere you look you see people clinging to the myth of male 'socialization' making them the way they are. Nobody is going to walk away from a myth just because it was completely debunked.

>>129679
No. Onlyfans rose on the promise that it is NOT conventional porn and NOTHING comparable to prostitution since she would be at most being physical with her physically present significant other, with no direct interaction with any other save through anonymized text through which she would be directly compensated. Onlyfans phenomenon proves that women are sufficiently vain as to be willing to do almost-porn and not-prostitution for money, which were already known in this sphere by virtue of cosplay scandals.

>>129682
I do not subscribe to the mind control theory of advertisement anymore. Ads do not target women due to some special vulnerability of women. Men are not immune to propaganda and women do not fold after seeing a single attractive woman enjoying a product. It is just that women are in the social position and suffer the social expectation of shopping, and in recent cultural memory even had the social expectation of mall-as-girls-hangout, which hangout millennial women are visibly nostalgic over. I also no longer subscribe to 'dumb slut' stereotypes. Bonnie Blue is probably smarter than many other equally financially successful entrepreneurs in the field of exploiting young boys' sexuality. Certainly smarter thanPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>129686
I still believe there is potential for men to be good but it has only been accessed by a few like Mr. rogers, Steve Irwin, and Bob Ross. I wish this was the norm but it’s not even close. The vast majority of men I would agree are garbage

>Working in porn is empowering
>The patriarchy groom women to sell their bodies
There is simply many polar opposites takes in feminism.

>>129700
Two different strains of feminism that despise each other to the death, anon. You haven't picked that up yet?

>>129689
You're degenerates.

>>129690
I’m aware I’m a degen, that’s why I wanna stop. I wasn’t really like this until recently and it makes me feel terrible

"He’s been a great partner and has been treating me amazingly" does not fit a porn addict profile, and you're not any better. Leave him and become a nun, you might be able to redeem yourself.

holy fuck you're a mess lmao

>>129708
yeah this is what shitty boyfriends and having BDD/former anachan does to u lol

Porn has ruined moid brains to where they seek younger women and even children to a degree never before seen in history. Every moid is tainted so it becomes a question of staying single or dealing with their degeneracy to some varying degree

>>129643
I get but im too lazy for all this. Hopefully I can be some mentally ill mans neet wife and he'll let me sleep under his bed or in his closet or something (I love small enclosures). he can bring me food occasionally and throw away my piss bottles
>>129660
Moids on 4chan are psychotic idk
>>129665
kek it is true
>>129664
I mean honest im not aiming that high I just want someone that will let me leech and buy me shit off steam. thats all I want

>>129660
If you have to go to 4chan, if you REALLY have to, then please do not pick a catch-all board like /r9k/ l, /b/ or /soc/, these are the worst places to ask in, instead pick a board with a dedicated interest like /v/, /g/, /sci/, /lit/, …etc

>>129687
You are not selling a dream. Just slave your way into a small studio and give up all your dreams, live alone and die alone.
What if I don't want to?

mmm, schadenfreude