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trichotillomania Anonymous 113089[Reply]

not sure if I should post this here or in hb, but does anyone else suffer from trichotillomania? if so,
>when did you start?
>why did you start?
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
>have you ever had bald spots?
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?

Anonymous 113090

>when did you start?
the summer after first grade which has been 18 years that I've been doing this

>why did you start?
I had lice that summer so I started doing it because I thought I would be able to see if I had lice but it became a nervous habit

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
not really honestly

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
yes, my 4th grade teacher made me wear ponytails every day and now I have headaches if I have my hair up for too long, in 5th grade my teacher made me flip my card for touching my head, at one point in middle school, I pulled so much that a pile of hair was on the floor

>have you ever had bald spots?
yes, in middle school it got so bad that my grandma made me wear hats when she took pictures of me

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Anonymous 113093

>>113089
>when did you start?
When I was around 8/9
>why did you start?
Anxiety
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
I took escitalopram for years to help stop with it, and I was able to ween myself off it and not re-start the habit.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
I had bald spots until I was about 20 so yes.
>have you ever had bald spots?
See above
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
I'm about 10 years clean now

Anonymous 113119

> when did you start?
i think in 2017 or 2018?

> why did you start?
an eyebrow accidentally got tightly stuck in my nail and when i pulled it it was painful but kinda good. i pick my skin so picking my eyebrows was a similar fidgeting relief

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
honestly not really. but a few times when i had gotten my nails done i noticed i barely did it bc i was physically unable to

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
i wouldnt say my friends made fun of me but they pointed it out when they noticed. then i told them to keep poiting it out so i could stop bc i do it unconsciously

>have you ever had bald spots?
yeah lol but then i bought a black eye pencil and realized i could just cover the bald spot with it

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Anonymous 116084

>>113089
>when did you start?
when I was 13-14
>why did you start?
combo of OCD and real bad rough patches when I was a kid
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Yes. Almost a year ago my issues culminated into panic attacks, I thought I was having a heart attack on a daily basis. I took zoloft for a few months and picked up a book called Feeling Good (self help CBT) the apathy combined with the new coping mechanism pretty much stopped my pulling within the 2nd month.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Too many to count
>have you ever had bald spots?
My hairline resembled Mao Zedong's for years on end
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
eight months and counting.

Anonymous 133470

when did you start?
Around 11 or 12.

why did you start?
No clear reason. I think it started as a fidget thing and turned into a compulsion. Stress makes it worse but it's not like I only do it when stressed.

have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Not fully. Keeping my hands busy helps somewhat (fidget toys, knitting), and wearing a hat or keeping my hair up makes it harder to do mindlessly. But nothing has made it stop completely.

have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Yeah. Mostly when people notice me pulling and I didn't realize I was doing it. Also comments about my eyebrows or hair looking thin.

have you ever had bald spots?
Yes. Eyebrows and a patch near my part.

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Vent thread Anonymous 132763[Reply]

Again we need to vent
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Anonymous 133464

I really wish I could live my dream of going out and having a fun life, having a group of friends and living out some romp with cute guys but instead I'm just some loser who rots in my mother's unmade bed 23 hours out of the day and posting on imageboards because I'm too anxious to make real life friends. All the women in my area won't make friends with me because we barely share interests, the men in my area are all ugly misogynists. I can barely find motivation to do anything by now

Anonymous 133466

>>133461
You don't have to take me seriously, but I genuinely mean it. I already struggle with feeling like I'm not enough, so hearing things that reinforce that doesn't exactly help. I know how unlikely it seems to me. We met in person, too—he was the one who approached me, not the other way around. He was actually surprised that nobody else at my job had really asked me out. I just can't seem to understand what he sees in me.

It's honestly bizarre because he's basically the kind of guy I'd invent in my head while falling asleep to boyfriend ASMR. Except he's an actual person I met in real life.

Anonymous 133467

>>133466
He doesn’t even really sexualize me. He’s never asked for nudes or anything like that, and when he does say something suggestive, it’s always really subtle and deliberately worded. That’s honestly what makes it stranger to me. I’m used to guys who are interested say something gross almost immediately. With him it’s more like, “I think it’d be cute to see you squirm” or “I wanna see you afraid.”

Anonymous 133468

Feeling depressed again.

This troon caught feelings for me and I turned them down in dms. Now they're turning all my friends against me. Never felt this isolated.

Anonymous 133469

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I hate how i can't stick to anything. I've had a mental breakdown 1.5 years ago after going hard all day everyday for 8 years at my work and i have not been able to do anything productive since, I just sit alone in my room. The idea was to stop working a job that was all consuming and left me only with enough time to shower, eat, and maybe play a game or watch something for an hour at most, and start learning how to design and create. I have spurts of "motivation" where i want to work out and study, and practice, and take care of myself, but then it all dissipates and i go back to not doing anything. My life is flying by, i feel pathetic that all my friends have income, great partners, and a will to live, the only thing i have going for me is that i look alright, but then get frustrated since i know if i had support i couldve been hot. I hate how fucked my mind is and holding me back, its been 11 years and i have nothing but some shitty art pieces to show for it that at best are "oh thats neat".


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Is S/A the only way? Anonymous 133444[Reply]

I've never been pretty (maybe I never will). Even my family made (and still) jokes abt that, and as a child I belived it even if it was just a joke, since growing up there was no boy even wanting me and other girls made fun of me and never took me seriously as a friend. Only one men has touched me and it was my grandma's husband, I still feel gross, if I was unloveable already, that made me a fucking monster. But I can't let that go, what if that's the only time I can feel desired and will never happen again? I'm scared, I try to be skinnier by fasting and exercise, I don't have a coventional style (since I like visual kei and alt things in general) but I try to look pretty with it, but still nothing happens, I need some nice man to touch me and feel everything is okay, but until then, I'll only have the image of a old man licking me, and I'll never be able to forget that until I feel real love.

Anonymous 133446

This seems like bait but if not, I'm sorry that happened to you. Love is out there if you want it but be discerning when choosing a partner. Nobody is beneath love

Anonymous 133460

That old man was an inhuman monster. There are still good people out there; they are just much harder to find now.

Anonymous 133465

No, allowing yourself to be the victim of incestuous abuse will only make your life a trillion times worse at least. You should tell somebody about this especially if it happened while you were a child


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Any German Women here? Anonymous 133119[Reply]

I'm German and would like to connect with other German PinkPill Women on here. Have you found community? Only see English speaking threads everywhere

Anonymous 133120

>>133119
There are people from other countries here but generally everyone just speaks in english here because it's easiest. I don't think I've heard of any germans on here though

Anonymous 133390

>>133119
I'm German and I've met multiple German women who use this site. But I haven't found any group settings to meet others like us, it's always been 1:1 so far.

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>>133119
You can always just use translate to translate the page automatically, thats what i do with a lot of sites now

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how to date when you're a chud? Anonymous 133372[Reply]

genuinely i feel like i got nothing to offer. i have a job but it's minimum wage and i'm struggling to find work elsewhere. i can't drive even though i'm in grad school. and i'm chopped af (even though whenever i say this people are like "nooo you're so pretty ahaha to make me feel better. like bruh if wasn't ugly i wouldn't be here).
i usually end up third wheeling while my pretty friends get hit on or listening to their woes of people thinking they're hot and it just makes me feel weirdly uncomfortable because thats rarely happened to me. and obviously i don't think they should get attention they don't want! but i guess i feel a terrible sense of jealously over being desired even if i know it's wrong. it's weird and makes me feel guilty.
it's gotten to the point where my online friend made a weirdly nsfw comment to me but i wasn't even bothered by it because it made me feel wanted for once? i know it was bad and i should call him out, but it's been the only think to make my heart skip a beat in so long.
idk mostly a vent but if anyone has any advice on how to not be a total loser i would like to hear it ^^ hoping whoever is reading this is doing better than i am

Anonymous 133432

>>133372
For one, you should draw a line with people making comments like that towards you. That’s a pretty big red flag that they’re only really interested in you because you’re a woman and they want to get their willy wet.

I get wishing people would flirt with you, I really do, I was and still am in a similar boat with you in regards to feeling unwanted, but when I actually reciprocated the few flirts I did get, bad stuff happened that lead to my heart getting broke. As for what you can do, I would say just make the most of what you have, something that’s numbed those feelings a lot for me is trying as much new shit as possible helped a bunch, and constantly leaving my comfort zone to explore has made me feel a lot more grounded.

When it comes to actually finding what you seek, I’m sorry Nona but you’ll have to be patient. Finding someone you can trust and reciprocate the want you show them cannot be done in a day. If you branch out from your comfort zone, you’ll hopefully find what you seek, but you’ll have to show initiative.

Anonymous 133448

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Like the other nona said, get out of your comfort zone, you'll meet many more people and learn about yourself. If something isn't your thing then at least you have the experience and an interesting story. You'll become more interesting and that will attract people to you. More opportunities to meet people and some of them will become friends and potentianly maybe even lovers. The right person is out there, you just have to go meet them


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Anonymous 133377[Reply]

I feel pathetic.
I broke up with my gf of couple years earlier this year and tried dating guys, and found one who fits me well. We have same hobbies, get each others humor, always a gentleman, treats me well, he has a stable well paying job, is not weird pervert or gambling addict, plays lots of same games as me, and likes the type of music that i do. The only thing is that i don't find him attractive, i am gay and knew this before getting with him, but i wanted to be the one taken care of for once and not have to be the "top". I broke up with him couple months ago when i was sure that i cannot be with him despite him being exactly the partner i like. I still talk with him online and we watch anime often, neither of us have many friends around, he moved to the area couple months ago and hasn't found a local friend group yet. I only really talk and hang out with my best friend but she is crazy busy all the time and we only see each other like once or twice a month, which i appreciate greatly her making time for me. I went on a couple dates recently with a girl but we did not really get along well so we broke it off, she was the only person who held me in a very long time and i miss having physical contact. I told my friend that im gonna see the guy this weekend and she said that its a bad idea, and one of our friends that was with her told me i need to stop fucking around and seriously get myself in order. I know it is, but i am lonely and want to be wanted and i have someone trusted who i can see and spend time with. I know he won't do anything to me, he's harmless, but i feel disgusted at myself doing this. I felt so jaded and callous lately that i think im expressing that by doing problematic things and not caring that its wrong or hurtful to others or myself, i just want to feel something. I need to work on my career and get more out of the house but i need to feel alright before i can take on the world. I'm disgusting for using a good guy like him who truly cares about me but its this or spiraling mentally alone in my room.
I know the answer is simple, get a girl that loves you like he does, but the way i am right now, i do not have anything good to offer to a partner. I guess i could cook a bit, and be supportive and offer advice, but i don't have a stable job or could provide anything substantial. So even if i found a girl like me, i cannot do anything for her.
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>>133383
I do know it will be hard work, and i know what the correct path is, i think i just wanted to vent my feelings so i came here to just get it out and well, not feel as lonely for the moment. I appreciate your replies

Anonymous 133387

>>133380
It's not just them. I get such bad vibes from you. Girl you sound like a parasite.

Other women aren't going to tolerate this nonsense so you go after the moids only to realize you don't like them and that you can't hide the fact that you're not willing to have sex with them forever. You want someone to do everything for you.

And then you turn around and cry because no one tolerates but you'll never do anything about these behaviors will you?

Anonymous 133388

>>133377
is this the nona that was dating a tif who didn't put out and trying to get them to detransition?

Anonymous 133409

Nona I have a question if you're still here.

Why didn't you just stay with him and have a platonic or open relationship? You said he moved to your area right? It sounds like he'd do a lot for you. You could still have someone that takes care of you while getting to go on dates and sleep with women.

I would look into it if you feel comfortable. There are a lot of relationships that function this way.

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>>133409
This is an interesting idea, i have not really considered this. I broke up with him because i want to be with a woman and fully dedicate myself to her. I respect him and enjoy spending time with him but he deserves someone who can be his everything. I know that if i stayed it would be an uncomfortable love and would nag me on the inside the whole time. I am slowly separating from him while still being amicable. I think we could be platonic friends who are just close without any issues of feelings getting caught up. When i told him i had a couple dates lines up he was genuinely happy for me, i am trying to help him get dates too


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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 133314

>>133296
Dean Withers is so fugly

Anonymous 133335

I really ought to start getting some sort of income or a job
I’m paranoid if I lose my husband aka only breadwinner I’ll get fucked

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gonna try and escape neetdom. hopefully it works this time. wish me luck.

Anonymous 133360

>>133359
good luck have fun

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>>133360
thanks nona i'll try!
>>133359
update: already have been rejected from one job. so that sucks.
my anxiety is so bad, but the only way it's going to get better is if i continue to move forward.
i WILL make it out. i WILL find a job. i WILL turn my life around. one way or another i WILL do it.
idk exactly how, but i will.


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I cannot be normal around my mother Anonymous 133385[Reply]

Looking for advice and the possible reason for this. A couple years ago, I lost a couple family members including my father through an accident which led me to isolate, losing the ability to socialize properly, but after some therapy I was able to make a lot of new friends, now I can easily make friends and go out. My problem is, I act completely different infront of my friends/relationships compared to my mother. I go into a small shell, she has never been abusive but incredibly supportive of my journey but this really gets to me because she probably things I am genuinely retarded when I am actually a big socialite and I can look into other peoples faces and hold good conversation, good posture, hygiene, etc. It's like I see her as a caregiver.. I don't know why I do this because it really makes me look really weak in front of my family. What can I do to become more normal and functioning around my mother that I can do with my friends?

Anonymous 133386

>>133385
An average day for a friend is:
I am in makeup, nice clothes, smiling, socialising, making the effort, planning, eye contact, good posture, smell good, eat well with friends

an average day with my mom:
hair tangled, hair greasy,eating junk, i dont say hi or talk to mum, my brain goes foggy, i am unable to talk long conversations without messing up words, i wear same top a week straight, i dont leave my room

why does this happen when i love my mom the most?

Anonymous 133389

Autism

Anonymous 133396

>>133385
Why do you think you do that

Anonymous 133397

>>133386
Just try behaving differently at home, whats stopping you

Anonymous 133440

Because you take your mother for granted and so you don't have to try.
You put in the effort for others because you have to earn it, while your mom you already have her unconditional support so you have no reason to improve.


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Cats Anonymous 133411[Reply]

i wish i had a cat so bad theyre literally so cute and adorable. cats reduce stress too!!! im one of those people who believes the cat chooses you, not the other way around lol. i hate when ppl say “you’re gonna be a lonely cat lady with cats and wine” like thats supposed to scare me babe thats literally my dream life. i love cats so much

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>>133411
Listen, sis. You can't spend your whole life chasing a 1% cat chad. Even if you got one, he'd just use you (and every one of your neighbors) for food. You gotta learn to love a 8/10 cat. And don't wait for one to come to you. find one you like and take him for yourself. Trust me, the cat will be happy you're paying attention to it.

Anonymous 133413

>>133412
scrote all cats are 10/10 cats

Anonymous 133423

I have a cat that is a wonderful companion and I love him very much.

Only annoying he ever does is run and jump on/off my bed when I am trying sleep which wakes me up. I have enough trouble sleep as it is so I had to start kicking him out of the room at night. He cries at my door and makes me sad but I need sleep

Anonymous 133438

>>133411
my mom dont like cats she’s actually scared of cats. how tf do i convince her to let me adopt one??


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