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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 133473

>>133445
Cheering you on
You'll make it!

Anonymous 133477

>>133472
This is so based

Anonymous 133478

>>133445
I was a NEET for 4 years (8 years when including university years and odd jobs) and am now cleaning floors and toilets in a stable job
Pretty comfy as you can listen to music with your earbuds if you want and people generally ignore you

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Ricing my libreoffice calc sheet for bonds currently. It's ugly right now but I find it kind of fun anyways.

Anonymous 133496

I often think about all the girls I’ve ever interacted with on here and how we’d probably be good friends if only we knew each other. When I feel lonely and I think about how I have no fellow female friendships, I get even more sad because I start to think of all the other girls like me… It sounds so silly but I really love all my fellow lonely girls that I’ll never ever meet or even know… It’s a bittersweet comfort. Of course that’s not to say all cc users are lonely neets or anything kek, but the ones I’ve had the small pleasure of interacting with, have felt so similar to me


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Only Child Anonymous 133251[Reply]

This thread is intended to be a safe and relatable place for only children to share their unique experiences and perspectives.

Anonymous 133252

im a non native english speaker i was so confused i thought it was a thread only for children to post on lmao

Anonymous 133256

googoogaga

Anonymous 133276

i love that there is a thread on this. when i am off work i will contribute

Anonymous 133494

>>133276
19 day shift, rip


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No affection Anonymous 133482[Reply]

out somewhere today
see this couple absolutely shameless about PDA
holding hands, hugging, leaning all over each other, the whole thing
they looked genuinely comfortable with each other

meanwhile I’m sitting there thinking about how I barely ever get affection
never experienced affection from a man either
never been intimate with anyone
honestly don’t even really remember what a proper hug feels like anymore

not even trying to make this into some “woe is me” shit
just got me wondering what it actually feels like to be loved on
to have someone want to hold you, touch you, cuddle you, whatever
must be a weird feeling when you’re not used to it

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Anonymous 133484

>>133482
I never meet men i truly like so it doesn't matter. I guess i could care less about affection but i came from a neglectful home life. (Its fine they throw money at me as a sign as affection i guess)

But at the same time I've never met a guy I really liked or trusted. It takes a lot more than for me to want affection at random. I have to find a specific person, it never happens. I dated a bunch for a while and all the guys i dated i wanted to break off with. I think I just like solitude.

Anonymous 133487

>>133484
Thats not to say you shouldn't want affection op. I realize this post came out very wrong. But i come from neglect and its almost like i distrust affetion because of the bs it comes with

Anonymous 133488

>>133482
I’m the same as you, I guess to answer how I cope, I just use my imagination. Recently I’ve even started to listen to those cringe reddit gwasi audios. I’ll probably never even hold hands with another person. For now I just cope like that until I eventually get too lonely and then I rope or turn schizo, something like that. I also have a few internet friends, so sometimes just talking can feel non-sexually intimate or can feel similar to a hug, that’s another short term cope I use. Hope things work out for you Nona, I don’t know what circumstances are like for you but for me I’m severely deprived of any sort of interaction with other humans, and there’s not a lot I can of think of doing that can help me achieve it. I’ve tried everything. I’ll be thinking of you

Anonymous 133489

>>133482
I don't enjoy physical intimacy and affection.
It makes me uncomfortable when people hug me or lay next to me on a couch. People who show affection for me, especially in a romantic way, make me feel contemptuous.

Anonymous 133493

>Do you just eventually stop thinking about it?
Yes
If you're alone for long enough you'll sooner or later reach a point where you stop caring altogether, because there's no other option.
You can, if you want, counter some of the sadness by remembering all the things you aren't at risk of (or at lower risk of) by being alone, such as stds, stis, cheating, physical abuse, arguments, infections transmitted through kissing, partner perpetrated misogyny, betrayal, pregnancy, vaginal tearing, awkward moments that don't feel soft or funny but instead embarrassing, lies, judgement based on how you age, loss of love with the only one willing to give you affection/intimacy, nasty in-laws, your partner using porn.
But nothing will replace the void of wanting someone to share your life with, there is no cure for it. The pain only dulls


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Vent thread Anonymous 132763[Reply]

Again we need to vent
Previous Thread >>>/feels/129800
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Anonymous 133479

Is it awful to say that I think my boyfriend is causing my depression? He's the only good thing in my life and all I want to do is snuggle with him under the covers forever. I don't want to take care of myself, I don't want to go to work or do anything else.

Anonymous 133480

>>133479
no idea but I'd love to hear a response to you from someone who does

Anonymous 133485

I've been attempting to recover from an eating disorder for the past few months and I can feel a relapse coming on FUCK I don't want my progress to be undone because I've really been able to have some peace of mind around food and my changing body. It hasn't been this way in years, where I eat whatever I want, with whatever servings, and not feeling guilty about overeating. But fuck, I just have to feel stressed again about other things and then turn it inward towards myself. I don't know what to do. I felt really ill before I decided to try and recover, but the idea of having control again is really tempting. It's also insanely hard to snap out of the restrictive mentality when it creeps in and I let it take hold. I just don't know what to do.

Anonymous 133486

>>133485
The heart issues and gastrointestinal disease, the worn down enamel, the shitting issues, the thinning hair, the lack of energy. There’s nothing about restricted eating that’s worth it. You either want to live or you don’t, choose to live while you’ve still got a chance. Good luck

Anonymous 133492

>>133491
Bitter misogynist


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Anonymous 133323[Reply]

What are unique struggles of being a lesbian? As a straight woman who passionately hates men, I always wondered.

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This photo makes me want to goon

Anonymous 133329

should be obvious. it's very, very lonely even by everyone else's standards. majority of women are straight, even if you hate men you're still attracted to them and at some point you'll still yap about them in some form.

you deal with all this suffering and for what? to have a smaller dating pool that has the same problems that the hets and bisexuals have because too many women are picking up the same bad habits and traits that moids have.

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>>133323
i'm vry feminine and so is my girlfriend– it's lovely and amazing (we're the type that have cute picnics and braid each other's hair)

also, her and i both hate men, but i don't think anyone should date women just bc they hate men… you should LOVE women too

i was vry vry lonely and had never dated until meeting her so i guess that is a big issue…

Anonymous 133336

>>133332
it seems like it's not necessarily about gender but about compatibility, connection, respect and liking each other

Anonymous 133490

learning to separate your dating pool from your friends so you don't get hurt.
You are going to crush on your friends and the other women you spend time with at school or work. And most of them will be straight. You will likely get played by some girl who says shes bi but turns out to be entirely straight and is just experimenting with you.


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Is S/A the only way? Anonymous 133444[Reply]

I've never been pretty (maybe I never will). Even my family made (and still) jokes abt that, and as a child I belived it even if it was just a joke, since growing up there was no boy even wanting me and other girls made fun of me and never took me seriously as a friend. Only one men has touched me and it was my grandma's husband, I still feel gross, if I was unloveable already, that made me a fucking monster. But I can't let that go, what if that's the only time I can feel desired and will never happen again? I'm scared, I try to be skinnier by fasting and exercise, I don't have a coventional style (since I like visual kei and alt things in general) but I try to look pretty with it, but still nothing happens, I need some nice man to touch me and feel everything is okay, but until then, I'll only have the image of a old man licking me, and I'll never be able to forget that until I feel real love.

Anonymous 133446

This seems like bait but if not, I'm sorry that happened to you. Love is out there if you want it but be discerning when choosing a partner. Nobody is beneath love

Anonymous 133460

That old man was an inhuman monster. There are still good people out there; they are just much harder to find now.

Anonymous 133465

No, allowing yourself to be the victim of incestuous abuse will only make your life a trillion times worse at least. You should tell somebody about this especially if it happened while you were a child

Anonymous 133481

>>133465
Based on the fact she called him "her grandma's husband", instead of just "my grandpa", I'm assuming she isn't blood related to her abuser, which would mean it wasn't "incest" technically. But it might also be some language barrier thing, maybe her first language isn't english, and thus my interpretation is faulty, as it's based on subtleties in the phrasing of her statement. Or she said "my grandmas husband" as a way of coping, because confronting that he's her genuine, biological grandfather is too difficult for her.


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trichotillomania Anonymous 113089[Reply]

not sure if I should post this here or in hb, but does anyone else suffer from trichotillomania? if so,
>when did you start?
>why did you start?
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
>have you ever had bald spots?
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?

Anonymous 113090

>when did you start?
the summer after first grade which has been 18 years that I've been doing this

>why did you start?
I had lice that summer so I started doing it because I thought I would be able to see if I had lice but it became a nervous habit

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
not really honestly

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
yes, my 4th grade teacher made me wear ponytails every day and now I have headaches if I have my hair up for too long, in 5th grade my teacher made me flip my card for touching my head, at one point in middle school, I pulled so much that a pile of hair was on the floor

>have you ever had bald spots?
yes, in middle school it got so bad that my grandma made me wear hats when she took pictures of me

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Anonymous 113093

>>113089
>when did you start?
When I was around 8/9
>why did you start?
Anxiety
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
I took escitalopram for years to help stop with it, and I was able to ween myself off it and not re-start the habit.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
I had bald spots until I was about 20 so yes.
>have you ever had bald spots?
See above
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
I'm about 10 years clean now

Anonymous 113119

> when did you start?
i think in 2017 or 2018?

> why did you start?
an eyebrow accidentally got tightly stuck in my nail and when i pulled it it was painful but kinda good. i pick my skin so picking my eyebrows was a similar fidgeting relief

>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
honestly not really. but a few times when i had gotten my nails done i noticed i barely did it bc i was physically unable to

>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
i wouldnt say my friends made fun of me but they pointed it out when they noticed. then i told them to keep poiting it out so i could stop bc i do it unconsciously

>have you ever had bald spots?
yeah lol but then i bought a black eye pencil and realized i could just cover the bald spot with it

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Anonymous 116084

>>113089
>when did you start?
when I was 13-14
>why did you start?
combo of OCD and real bad rough patches when I was a kid
>have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Yes. Almost a year ago my issues culminated into panic attacks, I thought I was having a heart attack on a daily basis. I took zoloft for a few months and picked up a book called Feeling Good (self help CBT) the apathy combined with the new coping mechanism pretty much stopped my pulling within the 2nd month.
>have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Too many to count
>have you ever had bald spots?
My hairline resembled Mao Zedong's for years on end
>what's the longest you've gone without pulling?
eight months and counting.

Anonymous 133470

when did you start?
Around 11 or 12.

why did you start?
No clear reason. I think it started as a fidget thing and turned into a compulsion. Stress makes it worse but it's not like I only do it when stressed.

have you ever been able to find coping skills to not do it anymore?
Not fully. Keeping my hands busy helps somewhat (fidget toys, knitting), and wearing a hat or keeping my hair up makes it harder to do mindlessly. But nothing has made it stop completely.

have there been any moments that people looked at you funny because of it?
Yeah. Mostly when people notice me pulling and I didn't realize I was doing it. Also comments about my eyebrows or hair looking thin.

have you ever had bald spots?
Yes. Eyebrows and a patch near my part.

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Any German Women here? Anonymous 133119[Reply]

I'm German and would like to connect with other German PinkPill Women on here. Have you found community? Only see English speaking threads everywhere

Anonymous 133120

>>133119
There are people from other countries here but generally everyone just speaks in english here because it's easiest. I don't think I've heard of any germans on here though

Anonymous 133390

>>133119
I'm German and I've met multiple German women who use this site. But I haven't found any group settings to meet others like us, it's always been 1:1 so far.

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>>133119
You can always just use translate to translate the page automatically, thats what i do with a lot of sites now

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how to date when you're a chud? Anonymous 133372[Reply]

genuinely i feel like i got nothing to offer. i have a job but it's minimum wage and i'm struggling to find work elsewhere. i can't drive even though i'm in grad school. and i'm chopped af (even though whenever i say this people are like "nooo you're so pretty ahaha to make me feel better. like bruh if wasn't ugly i wouldn't be here).
i usually end up third wheeling while my pretty friends get hit on or listening to their woes of people thinking they're hot and it just makes me feel weirdly uncomfortable because thats rarely happened to me. and obviously i don't think they should get attention they don't want! but i guess i feel a terrible sense of jealously over being desired even if i know it's wrong. it's weird and makes me feel guilty.
it's gotten to the point where my online friend made a weirdly nsfw comment to me but i wasn't even bothered by it because it made me feel wanted for once? i know it was bad and i should call him out, but it's been the only think to make my heart skip a beat in so long.
idk mostly a vent but if anyone has any advice on how to not be a total loser i would like to hear it ^^ hoping whoever is reading this is doing better than i am

Anonymous 133432

>>133372
For one, you should draw a line with people making comments like that towards you. That’s a pretty big red flag that they’re only really interested in you because you’re a woman and they want to get their willy wet.

I get wishing people would flirt with you, I really do, I was and still am in a similar boat with you in regards to feeling unwanted, but when I actually reciprocated the few flirts I did get, bad stuff happened that lead to my heart getting broke. As for what you can do, I would say just make the most of what you have, something that’s numbed those feelings a lot for me is trying as much new shit as possible helped a bunch, and constantly leaving my comfort zone to explore has made me feel a lot more grounded.

When it comes to actually finding what you seek, I’m sorry Nona but you’ll have to be patient. Finding someone you can trust and reciprocate the want you show them cannot be done in a day. If you branch out from your comfort zone, you’ll hopefully find what you seek, but you’ll have to show initiative.

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Like the other nona said, get out of your comfort zone, you'll meet many more people and learn about yourself. If something isn't your thing then at least you have the experience and an interesting story. You'll become more interesting and that will attract people to you. More opportunities to meet people and some of them will become friends and potentianly maybe even lovers. The right person is out there, you just have to go meet them


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