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dealing with change Anonymous 124964[Reply]

Changes in routine make me absolutely miserable, even when the change is good like getting a better job. I'll spend like two months depressed, crying, and then it goes away when I get used to it. The worst part is I feel I have to perform for people, idek how to explain it.

How do you deal with this shit I'm so done
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Anonymous 124968

>>124967

I'll try to give context.
In 2022 I was working hostels, got good savings and I decided to start a new, less useless degree (pharmacy here is good and pays relatively well). I'm now starting my last year. I had some credits due to my othee degree and was able to move up a year.
This summer I started an internship in a pharmacy, and they want me to stay there and work.

But I already had the experience of studying and working and I had to stay two extra years in my old degree because I couldn't manage.

So, it's good in a way because I'm learning what will be part of my future job (although they suck at teaching but that's for another day), and I'd be making money (savings don't last forever).

But on the other hand I wanna finish my degree this year and since I have 6 subjects (one of them depends on my prof schedule bc it's a project we have to work in between the other classes), and I feel that even a part time will delay my chances on finishing the degree.

I'm always so indecisive, and thrn I get depressed which is even worse because I feel I make my decisions based on my heart instead of my head.

And yup masking that's it exactly! I need some alone time to recharge

Anonymous 124983

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>>124968
Sometimes you have to sacrifice one for the other (and do whatever you can to make the decision work). If you don't choose one, you may end up losing both. You're indecisive because it's easier to choose between a good decision and a bad decision, but it's not easy to choose between a good decision and a good decision. They're both good.

I'd say money and work experience is more valuable than a degree, but that's because of the circumstances I am in and I'm from a place where degrees are equivalent to tissue paper, but it may not be the same everywhere.

Anonymous 124985

>>124968
If you don't finish your degree can you make progress in your carreer at your current job?

Anonymous 124987

Nipp

Anonymous 125004

>>124983
>>124985
this degree will make me a pharmacist, the pay will be almost double than what I'd be making right now. I only have one semester with classes left, the other one is internship again (this internship I did now was extra). I'm just afraid I'll end up failing any subject and then I'll have to stay an extra year like in my last degree and spend more money in tuition.

Some of my classmates work and study, almost all of them are either part time studying or left subjects behind.

Thanks for the help btw


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What hath befallen the race of bois Anonymous 125000[Reply]

>be me, le schoolgril
I feel the boithirst in my bones, but I look around me and the dating scene seems postapocalyptic
Practically every boy in my program and in the social milieu I've fallen into (I'm a passive-type Pokemon)
- literally has an Instagram account and actually uses it
- either already has sleeve tattoos or is budgeting for them
- is unironically trying to looksmaxx or this-maxx or that-maxx or doing some other modern horror from TikTok
- has no dreams and no personality and either wants to be some kind of influencer or youtuber or smth, or pour his entire person into some soulcrushing desk job and have no other interests aside from killing beers, watching sportsball and slaying sloots

Some boys have approached me but the average quality is in the pooper, e.g. one guy on my res floor has this creepy radar for upset females, literally every time some girl is crying he shows up to give unwanted hugs and follows it up by asking her to coffee, he's transparently following some reddit guide to dating for manlets and it's so cringe and awkward, especially since I'm a femcel and I have a hard time saying no and hurting people's feels even when they probably don't have any

The worst thing is that the dating culture now seems so mercenary, everybody's on swiping apps and I feel like so much online brainrot has lurked through them into real life, everything is so contrived and hypercompetitive and awful
I feel like there is no love out there anymore because people have had it burned out of them by the brain-frying 5G death rays that come out of any phone with Tinder installed on it

Many grils seem to be able to give boys a shot and then move on when they prove to be loosers, but that doesn't sound like me, I'd probably end up crying for the rest of my life over some guy named Gary who thinks having a favourite flavour of vape is a personality trait

So wat do ladies, do I just an heroine or spend the rest of my life spending my NEETbux on Hello Kitty Island Adventure furniture, watching my mom's Gilmore Girls DVD's and cryibg?

Anonymous 125002

>spend the rest of my life spending my NEETbux on Hello Kitty Island Adventure furniture, watching my mom's Gilmore Girls DVD's and cryibg?
I think this is lowkey what led to the current dating situation. Most people are socially stunted and everyone thinks they have autism because they spend too much time gaming or whatever. It's not a judgement against you nona, of course, but I think the best thing you can do is try to socialize with people anyway. Not in the sense like overlook everyone's personal faults and date them anyway, but in the sense that you need to get curious about people and become more discerning for what you need and who can give you that. Permanently backing off into a fantasy world is dangerous and less healthy.

Anonymous 125003

I went the hikki route, fun in its way but gets very anxious around 30


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bf attracted to other girls Anonymous 123128[Reply]

am i supposed to just accept that every guy is going to be attracted to other girls, even while he’s in a relationship with me? people say it’s normal, but honestly, it really hurts. i wish it didn’t get to me, but it does. my boyfriend always follows hot egirls on social media and sometimes even talks about how hot he finds them, celebs or not. it hurts. and yeah, even when it’s a celebrity, it still stings. i don’t really see a difference between him saying that about a famous girl or some everyday girl. it still makes me feel like shit. i’m struggling to come to terms with this ‘norm’, but it feels like i have to. seems like every guy is like this, and there’s no escaping it. it honestly makes me feel sick. what am i supposed to do?
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Anonymous 124936

>>124375
ppl like to act like they can “multitask” love, but splitting attention always weakens the bond. that’s why most poly stuff is just cope. depth requires focus. and yeah, some guys cut back on porn, but discipline doesn’t mean much if it’s still wrapped in “sex positive” excuses for disrespect. labels don’t matter if someone can’t actually give their partner respect and presence.

Anonymous 124943

>>124375
>I've seen more guys now who are atheists or agnostic controlling their lust

that's because they don't have a libido lmao don't ask me how i know that

Anonymous 124945

It's normal, this is actually just your insecurity which is your own problem not his. Getting all upset about moids looking at other girls or watching porn is just insecure femcel mentality

Anonymous 124946

>>123128
Aren't women also attracted to other men? I mean, I am for sure, that doesn't mean I'm going to pursue them and cheat on my bf. I assume it's the same for decent men. To be a cheater you have to actually act on these feelings.

The fact that he follows these hot egirls is a redflag though. I'm not going to follow random tiktok lookmaxed twinks. Whenever there's one in my inbox I avoid talking to him. It's also weird that he tells you about the women he's attracted to when he obviously knows it makes you upset. Assuming you're not the one asking him about it all the time of course, but it seems he's the one who randomly brings the subject. Honestly I don't think this man respects you. It reminds me of these "practice gf" situations. I think you should consider if this relationship is a positive for you. You shouldn't feel insecure all the time in a relationship. And it doesn't seem that the problem comes from you only. He's definitely not considerate of you.

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>>123128
that's not right nona, but ik what you mean, it feels like there's no escaping that now
i really hate what instagram and tiktok and swiping apps have done to romance
like it's one thing to see an attractive person in the street and give them a glance just kind of reflexively, that's just human, but i hate how there seems to be no such thing as a private relationship anymore because a whole world of online brainrot and egirls are invading what's supposed to be your cozy world for two


Anonymous 124982[Reply]

The one job I was going to be good at and make a living on was ruined four years ago when you accused me falsely of cheating and I got banned from pretty much every Pokemon tournament on this fucking slavegrind earth. I thought Watson Institute ruined my life enough, but you took my one final chance and crushed it. Crushed it into little tiny bite sized pieces.

Had I rightfully gotten my prize for winning that tournament, I could have been emancipated as a minor, I could be in Norway right now as a black metal artist, or I could even be camping at Laurel Hill.

Prozzub, I want you to know if you are the one reading this that you ruined my life. I couldn't care less if you hate me, I despise myself just as much if not more than you hate me.

Thanks for nothing!
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Anonymous 124991

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>pretended to die in march
lol lmaoo

Anonymous 124992

Good morning/Good afternoon/Good evening, dear Pikachu hooded diva, how are you? I asked you not to disappear, and you simply disappeared! How are you, fugly?

Anonymous 124993

https://arch.b4k.dev/vp/thread/54054626/#54054626
Lookin cute, Aiden.

Anonymous 124997

>>124992
I never disappeared, just you couldn't recognize my posts

Anonymous 124999

>>124992
yeah, the retroachievements thread was obviously his in hindsight


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tech in america in the big 25 Anonymous 124044[Reply]

I hate it
fresh outta HS
Tech careers look screwed
Dream job is ruined cause of market oversaturation
Years of fucking code experience wasted cause of AI, though ig I have some experience with major AI corpos too
I don't wanna apply to a CS major and murder myself financially
I hate everything else
What do I do

I'm not a regular here sorry
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Anonymous 124974

Talented or/and hardworking programmers are still finding jobs. The problem is that you are competing with people who have been doing it since they were 13. The fact that you say AI has "wasted" your experience just shows me you only care about the advertised lifestyle and salary, and not about the field or CS in general. You can't really compete with people who love the field, tie their identity to it and spend all the time programming or exploring technology.

I mean, is it really a "dream job"? Have you written any software outside of CS classes? Do you talk to other programmers? My guess is no because if you did, you would know that most do not take it as a serious threat and are preparing for an era of "vibe debugging" consulting.

Anonymous 124978

when we kill all indians the tech job market will finally open up but it won't affect you as you will have been delegated to life as a concubine by then

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>>124978
Young women are outearning young men more and more each day btw.

Anonymous 124996

>>124044
If you don't mind working bedside for a while, become a nurse. Then get a job doing health IT, as an RN medical coder or working with a medical device company selling shit. Or you could become a nurse practitioner and have a chill 9-5 prescribing rehab patients suboxone or some shit.

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>>124073

I'm fucking dead, an ex friend of mine does this and I can't help but thing of the rampant misogyny and sterotypes that permeates in that industry.

>>124044

Im right there with you Nona. Current personal and financial situations basically makes it seem like the tech industry is harder to break into nowadays but if its something you really want you should go for it. You can always try to network yourself at events or on LinkedIn. What are your thoughts on bootcamps? Is it the same as college?


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Is he hiding a porn addiction, cheating on me, or just weird? Anonymous 124972[Reply]

My bf is the sweetest, most attentive, loving bf. He is in general very honest and says that honesty is very important to him.

Weird behaviors:
- Only uses incognito mode on his phone and on his computer (no search history)
- Once got an YouTube AD for OnlyFans
- Says he doesn't like to use non-incognito mode because he gets recommended "weird/sexual ads"
- Doesn't post me to any of his social media
- Makes his Facebook followers private from everyone (including me) but let me go through them on his phone (he says he doesn't like getting friend requests from strangers)
- Doesn't like any posts on Facebook in general because it will "mess with his algorithm"
- Doesn't let me meet his friends (he says he's not close to any of them)
- Doesn't want to be posted on any of my social media
- Initially didn't want me to meet his mom, but I gave him an ultimatum and met her
- I had a dream he cheated on me (if that means anything

However:
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Anonymous 124975

>>124972
He definitely has a porn addiction. You should break up with him and join us back in the bucket, fellow crab.

Anonymous 124976

It sounds likes he's just very careful about his personal information. If he posts photos of himself and friends on social media but not of you and him it seems kind of weird.

Anonymous 124977

Could be a simple case of tech-panopticon born paranoia, that's a good thing imo

Anonymous 124979

where are u all finding bfs who don’t follow other girls

Anonymous 124994

He's weird, but he seems the schizotypal kind of weird instead of guilt conscience weird. I actually really get not wanting to be posted on my SO's social media etc.

The only thing I really didn't like in the list is he doesn't want you to meet his friends or relatives. Like yeah, I get it he might be afraid of it being awkward and that's it, but that's not a good excuse to compartmentalize his social life imo.


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Vent Thread Anonymous 120288[Reply]

Previous thread >>117577
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Anonymous 124888

>>124887
I still appreciate what you said nona. I have to do something you’re right. Ironically as I’m typing this he sent me a text saying “I see you” in response to me pinging someone on that site. Almost as if he’s constantly keeping tabs on me and this was after I told him I was going to run errands for a bit. Its so over for me

Anonymous 124894

Bored

Anonymous 124896

>>124888
I see you (pfft)
But if he's that obsessive and vigilant, it might be fun gaslighting him by posting misdirection and baits.
Hard to be that callous when you're the one in the sights, I know. Do you have any friends or an LLM bot that would willing to do it?

Anonymous 124937

I feel so miserable. Got woken up by xy sibling opening/closing some big heavy door right near my room, like 100s of times not exaggerating. Yet the whole family polices my noise level when the moid is sleeping, which is the only time I can feel sort of at peace. I cant stand him due to his incessant harassment, "joke" threats, and so many other things. I dont feel its a good idea to confront him, as he holds grudges, and wishes violence on women who stand up to him. Plus I dont want him or mom messing with my food or doing who knows what else. So I deliberately change my sleeping pattern so its slightly offset from his, and I can get some peace at home when hes sleeping. Then he follows my sleeping pattern, and I have to get up much earlier, and it repeats.

I go outside to enjoy some peace in the garden? He goes outside too, and idles his stinking vehicle to get exhaust fumes everywhere. He even drove it around, moving his vehicles around for no reason, when I supervised our rabbit outside. It felt dangerous like he couldve ran it over. He pretended not to know. Mom also joins him in harassing me or defends him. No matter where I go, she just happens to be watching me, or asks me what I was doing outside when she was watching me from the window. I was pulling weeds, you dumb boymom. Plus he has a camera to protect the only thing he cares about, his trucks, so Idk why theyre so mental.

The moid siblings room is right near the bathroom. Nearly every time I go to the bathroom, guess who wanders around in the hall all of a sudden, when before, he was outside? The moid sibling. His harassment used to be way worse/obvious, but is more subtle ever since I couldnt take anymore and I got angry about it. Ofc mom sided with him, told me not to ever call him a creep again. A very hurtful experience.

Go out to the store? Guess who insists on driving or texting? Yep, the same creepy moid. Mom makes me out to be an awful person to everyone if I say no to him. He likes to speed and gets aggressive quickly over nothing, like if someone passes him or drives the speed limit/"too slow". Mom is proud of his "masculine" driving, gross. I also get questioned by mom and/or the moid, if I dont text back the moid sibling quick enough. Mom asks him how many minutes it took for me to reply, right in front of me. Yet mom doesnt care if he doesnt respond to me.

So our parents can pay like $500/month for this middle aged failsons multiple vehicles inPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 124986

I fell and hurt my back. Moving hurts so much but I still have to work and do chores. Aging sucks.


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i am the worst person in the world Anonymous 124716[Reply]

most women are deluded when they think they meet a good man. all my life i've never met a good man. until i met this one. his behavior was akin to Jesus Christ. it seemed as if it was physically impossible for him to do anything which even mildly inconviences anyone, let alone hurting anyone. as for me, it seems like i am physically incapable of doing anything but hurting people. to cut it short, he absolutely did not deserve what i did to him. i met him online and within less than a month of dating i got blackout drunk and cheated on him. like an idiot i talked to my friends about it because i cant keep my mouth shut about anything. i talked to my best friend about it and what we decided was since it was so early on and i genuinely saw a future with him i should just move on from it. forget about it. so i didn't tell him. we kept talking.

we decided we wanted to see eachother in person. he spent $5000 on a plane ticket and an airbnb for 25 days. i started birth control- the Opill, 3 days before he came. the first 2 days were heavenly. then on the 3rd night we shared a bottle of vodka together. i was doing okay until i put on his boxers. i was reminded of what i had done to him. i grabbed a kitchen knife and started to cut myself in front of him. i cut my neck. then we went to sleep. the dream was over. over the course of the next couple weeks i just wanted to stay in bed all day. i kept arguing with him over the tiniest things. it was like i was constantly on edge. he said it felt like i was never actually there, never "lucid enough to have an actual conversation with." we only had sex a few times because he said he could only have sex with someone who he felt loved him and he didnt feel like i loved him. we didn't go out a lot, not a lot of "cute dates…" we went out to fast food joints a few times. then he broke up with me. he said we could still stay friends and he could keep "taking care of me" but we couldn't have a romantic relationship anymore. he said i should leave the airbnb for a few days. my best friend, who lives nearby where we were staying, asked for his discord tag because "he's a foreigner trapped in an airbnb alone and we (her and her roommate, an acquaintance of mine who also knew what i had done to him,) want to be there for him incase anything goes wrong." then i left to go home.

then it gets worse. basically to cut it short they told him i have something to tell him and i threatened suicide over it. i video cPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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Anonymous 124770

>>124716
So stop whining and get a hold of yourself. I wasn’t there and you said you omitted a lot of stuff but he doesn’t seem very hurt. You however don’t seem ready for a relationship and he probably sees it. You behaved like a shitty person yes but it’s not like you destroyed his life, you seem more like someone mentally ill than a bad person and the dude probably notices that too.

It’s not the end of the world. You wasted a chance for a potentially happy relationship and through that maybe a happy life. You hurt someone you care about, it happened, there’s no fixing it, there’s no going back. I’ve been there too, it still makes me sick. You know you did something bad, means you have a chance to reflect and be a better person and maybe be more understanding to people who were shitty to you. The chance that you had however, is gone. Unless he’s Jesus Christ personified and that much into you but I wouldn’t count on that.

You can cut yourself and behave like a psycho all you want but that will only do more damage. Take a while, go to therapy, reflect and there’s that. You’re still alive, you can still change everything. When your mind starts listening to you again and some time has passed text him, apologize and explain your behavior. That will give you closure.

Anonymous 124771

>>124738
There are other gasses you can use beside helium, helium is just the easiest to buy. I won’t tell you which ones tho.

Anonymous 124950

>>124721
>when i cheated onhim i wasnt even thinking of him at all then i saw he had been texting me and i was like holy shit what the actual fuck do i do now
You're lower than a human being, you're an animal that chases pleasure and doesn't have a bit of long term thinking.
Its funny to think that I share a website with this kind of people.

Anonymous 124951

>>124763
I second this notion

Anonymous 124984

>>124716
You're a saint compared to Prozzub. I would rather have people like you in the world if the other option is having a person who makes false accusations that end up fucking my life up.


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Help Wanted - Watson Institute Ruined My Life Anonymous 124980[Reply]

When I was 14, I was sent to this school called Watson Institute. I was often threatened with rape and sexual assault, and one kid there tried to tear out my eye with a pencil saying he would force his penis into my eyesocket. I was never believed by any of the teachers. Because most of the other students were boys, the bullshit excuse I got was "boys will be boys".

Ever since then, I have not known how to interact with people. I was fired from two jobs and then kicked out of college twice. I live at my parents' house and at this point I am sitting around waiting to die. I don't want to be percieved as this mentally unstable thing people percieve me as. My life is destroyed.

I want Watson Institute sued. I can give as many names and addresses as you need me to. I just want help suing them for enough money to move into my own house to rot away there instead of my parents' house. I also need restitution for my mom for the damage to her life she suffered from giving birth to me.

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