Similar boat. If I were you I'd just take the jany job because some money is better than no money, if nothing else you can feel less like a piece of ahit by atleast paying your own phone bill or something, maybe take them out to eat everyother week. Go on indeed and look up different kinda jobs, save anything that even remotely interests you and research it. At the moment I'm an overnight baker for a supermarket which is pretty monotonous but atleast I'm not screeched at by geriatrics all day like most service jobs and the pay is decent. My goal is so save up to buy a cheap ass piece of land and homestead, maybe you can do the same. If you live with your parents and save up all your checks you can probably buy yourself a pimped out trailer in like a year, or maybe a cheap condo if you move to bumblefuck nowhere
Last resort you can save up for a pc and vtube. Seems pretty lucrative if you can stand stroking moid ego for money.

>>120178
I was in a similar situation to you. Now over 10 years later I drive trains in my state and make decent money. Never give up.

>>120192
How'd you get into that? I always wanted to be a train driver but it always seemed like something you needed to know people to have a shot…

>>120199
I was in a subway adjacent role before this that kinda sucked, so it helps to get your foot in on the entry level. Probably works the same for traditional trains, get in on the entry level and keep a lookout for openings.

>>120188
People really need to know one simple thing; You can't directly change people. It's entirely up to them. All you can do is be an inspiration and nudge them. Keep nudging him a bit, but if he doesn't bother changing drop him.

>>120191
I can try to nudge him, and yeah I do have to realize people can't be changed. Thanks for replying. I just don't want to hurt his feelings. I wish he would realise how naive all of this sound with no concrete job plans.
Also, I can't just drop him. He was my first everything…so it's not an option

>>120194
>He was my first everything…so it's not an option
This is why you shouldn't have sex before marriage, otherwise you might be afraid to break up with someone who has no future with you

>>120194
Also, make sure to clearly communicate your thoughts and feelings as well. Communication is key and if he reacts with apathy or anger, then it's a problem.

Young people don't always know what to do in life or what career to choose. I only realized this when I was in my late 20's. Though, if he is a deadbeat and has no plans to change anything, being guided only by his hedonistic tendencies, than it would be best to move on.

IMHO, trusting your partner to be there and support you when you will need it is different than trusting him to provide for you. If you are independent and can provide for yourself, you won't have to feel like you need to be tied down to a moid. That way you know that the reason you are with your partner is because you love him.

>>120194
>Also, I can't just drop him. He was my first everything…so it's not an option

This is called sunk cost fallacy. In the old days you'd be stuck with him forever, now you are allowed to say you made a mistake and move on.

What's your job? What do people do to you?

>>120176
CNA, which is a shitty enough job as it is. You would think coworkers would have your back, but no. RNs, doctors, techs, other CNAs will go out of their way to insult you, set you up for failure, or otherwise beat you down.

I heard a nurse say that you have to suck it up and deal with it, toughen up to get good at the job, but that seems contradictory. It's like you the more heartless you are the better nurse you are??? We are supposed to be helping people. I wanted to be an RN but now I don't know what I want to do.

>>120179
it's been like this everywhere all my life though. why can't people just be fucking nice?

>>120179
Hospitals are shit. Take your skills elsewhere.

>>120179
Pivot into something else nona, become an X-ray tech or mri tech. At the very least the load of people you have to deal with will decrease significantly

All attraction died for my now ex bf when I found out he was sexually abused during childhood, he cried and shook like a leaf during sex and I couldn't help but laugh, I feel as cruel as the moids I spent my life shitting on but I can't help my emotions, like I wouldn't laugh at a woman that has been through this yet I ghosted this dude because of his trauma. Then again a moid that can't even have normal sex is pretty useless imo.
I know it's a meme but I just get turned off so bad when I see a man cry, like a repulsive reaction going up my throat, anyone else feel like this or am I just a bitch?

>>120177
Latter

>>120177
You are just trash as the same level of moids you complain about

>>120177
Holy fuck you are a depraved and heartless cunt and I don't think I've ever read something so horrible on this site before

I've always given things to other people in my life. I remember looking out for my older siblings, but where are they now? After everything I'm lonely and they don't even care. I feel like I missed my chance to do anything with my life and no one notices or cares. My best friend moved on in life without me, they left me like yesterdays trash. I'm on the ground and everyone steps over me, even though I'm the one that picked them up, got them to where they are. I don't think I'll ever find someone who'll love me, and if they do I don't deserve that type of person. Is there a point in still going? Not many people would miss me, and not for long.

>>120143
>He didn't want to have children before dating me
OK, now the story is clear.
Your bf doesn't want kids. He says that because of your words now.
He will be an absent father.
Your kids NEED a man who provides and raises and loves his kids.
There are men out there who can be that they just can't present themselves as good fathers.
If you want kids, break up with your bf. Your wasting time.

He grew up rich and you didn't and now he doesn't even value money. He grew up too rich to care now and that will make him a bad father.

I'm sorry that your struggling. You should leave him now. Trust me this guy won't lead you to a happy relationship.

There are a few men who actually love playing, talking and learning with their kids. If you want to find them, maybe look for a man who "would be willing" to be a stepdad, but who's single. Look for a "provider" type.

>>120167
Normally it's the man who takes the lead in driving the childmaking. Your bf is unfairly luck to have you.

Usually it's men who push towards childern and women who just agree.

You desreve at least a man who wants kids as much as you.
If your bf doesn't REALLY want it he won't be commited to his duty as a father.

I promise you, you can find a man who makes money and loves you for being his kid's mother.

Nothing less.

>>120165
He is lazy and doesn't want kids.

Okay op, so basically sounds like you need to leave. Your BF, for better or worse is a bachelor, he's comfortable and has no intention of becoming uncomfortable. Of you love him, I would give him a another 6 months, try to prod him in the right direction, make your desire to be a mother clear. I can tell you 40-50k isn't enough to raise a family on unless your willing to perma-rent in a bad neighborhood or move to nowhereville. If he's not willing to make any changes the year out, you need to walk, or you will wind up being those 30 year old couples still dating like teenagers posting furbabies on your timeline, or worse you get pregnant by him and then resent the fuck out of him for making the family live in poverty because he had no aspirations beyond what his bumble fuck job is now. A real man should want to provide and plan ahead for the nest, his "I don't want our kids to be snobs" is pure cope at best and bullshit to shut you up at worst.

That's not a good situation nona, when I told my fiance I wanted kids he almost immediately started looking for better work. We're even downsizing our wedding to save for a bigger house because we're both nerds and want space for kids and for our hobbies. Have you tried looking at jobs adjacent to your fields? Try checking Indeed, there's lots of jobs that literally just want a random degree and will train you in a complete different career, they just use the degree as a retard filter.

Drama? I thought it was funny
People need to stop taking cartoons seriously

>>120142
Id argue the omegaverse stuff you described is more degenerate because its trying to brainwash people actively, trying to make a nightmare into reality by describing it "realistically", and not just getting them off.

>>120153
>trying to make a nightmare into reality
Women already live in a nightmare reality. Using art to express and understand that fact is one of the higher purposes of art. It is also a fact that women's nightmare reality is sexual in nature, that the illegal crimes committed against women and the inhumane laws and social structures built to exploit and harm women are overwhelmingly sexual and sexually motivated, and must be artistically captured by deliberately sexually expressive media. The stiflement of sexually expressive media created by and appealing to women is part of society's defenses against the liberation of women by preventing the acknowledgement of the nightmarish structure of real life social and sexual dynamics. When normie women read Dworkin's work, especially "Intercourse," the most common attack they mount against her is that her horror at everyday sexuality seems "fetishistic" and fixated on the rapine - this is not because Dworkin was incorrect nor because she was a fetishist. We have been robbed of the language with which to describe reality by social taboo.

>>120156
illegal crimes committed against women and the inhumane laws and social structures built to exploit and harm women
Pick a lane

>>120156
I'm just hearing a lot of blah blah blah mpreg is actually very deep blah blah blah.

i feel chronically empty all the time i feel nothing at all and it is everything at the same time at once . im literally biblical depictions of the devil incarnated into a girl

I used to feel the same. Getting professional mental help helped me.

This might be shit advice but I just try to find things to get excited about, it doesn't have to be anything big, sometimes I try to get obsessed over media or something so I'll be excited to spend time consuming it. Could be a hobby or some little treat you grant yourself on a certain day. lowkey jealous of the yumejoshi bc they always seem to get excited about doing things related to their waifu/husbando, way better than getting obsessed over someone real since you can't get hurt or disappointed either

Sounds like your family is just being a big bitch and making shit dificult for no reason.
Instead of a motel, maybe try renting a cheap air bnb, you may have to be willing to drive out to find something affordable for a week long stay. I did this a few times years ago and helped me destress from my families petty bullshit.
Otherwise you could try spending all your time at the library, but I'm a nerd so I like quiet spaces