I hate having a wide face, I can’t even tie my hair back or put it behind my ears because I look like the moon emoji and charlie kirk. picrel

>>127744
> Is it possible to not care about this, even temporarily, without convincing yourself that you’re pretty?
Dear nona, I have some insights for you, do with them as you please. I want you to look back to yourself, as a child. Do you have any pictures to look at, or can you picture yourself in your mind? When you look at her, I hope, you probably think she's quite cute, still happy. I hope, you wouldn't say such harsh things about her, as what you may tell yourself now.

You might think how that's way different. You're older now! And you're right. What was the age you started becoming self conscious? For me it was pre-teen, I think this is similar for everyone, perhaps teen years. While we grow up, and our brains develop, we can process our life experiences and become aware of certain expectations. This is my insight: Unfortunately all suffering and misery can be led back to other people, and the pressure of the expectations they hold. I'm not necessarily talking about a certain person in your life, but how all people basically act and think due to how our society is set up. (and remember: women are, still, always at a disadvantage!!)

So When you feel sad/or are picking yourself apart, think about why? It isn't even making you happy! So why are you doing it? try to remember when you learned to see that aspect of yourself as negative, or even 'important' to think about. A nose is made for breathing for example, why do we care if it small or big? You will find out it will always be due to ideas from other people (either direct or indirect), and even though you can't do anything about this, it does redirect the 'fault' from you, to, well, others. This has made me at least feel better, because I, nor you, don't have any inherent faults or uglyness. It is always a result of societal pressures.

And social media doesn't help this at all. unfortunately the majority of people you see online are -in terms of beauty- exceptional. You don't see these people in regular life, but online it's become 'normalized'. It is a bit cliche, but recently I have completely deleted all social media (even messaging apps) , and I cannot begin to describe the benefits it has brought me. Aside from my immensely improved focus, not having something/someone to compare myself to (sub consciously even) has also incredibly helped my sPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

>>127744
It’s like what people say about grief. You don’t get over it, you just learn to live with it. Just give it time is what I am saying, live life.

i constantly wear a full face of makeup and always have my hair done while only keeping heavily angle and lighting frauded photos in an attempt to delude myself into thinking i am prettier than i am. ofcourse, it doesnt work and leaves me with intense feelings of guilt due to being a catfish. I also try comfort myself with the idea that in the future ill get all these surgeries to fix what ive got going on, but in this economy i wont. being a 4/10 lanky, socially inept teen was a traumatic experience.

no matter what, I never seem to look put together ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ Worst part about having shit genetics

Pretty sure I asked a guy I work with, out on a date, and I think he said yes… but honestly I have no idea. We didn’t even exchange numbers. I’m so confused.

i was very close friends with a guy for like a year, then one day he got mad over something he refuses to tell me about and said he'll never speak to me again. its been weeks since we've last talked and im just gutted because like… how is it that we were literally spending multiple hours per day hanging out and now i dont even deserve to know what i did. like i try really really hard to be kind to everyone i know so im certain that i didnt say something obviously rude or offensive to the extent that would warrant this, so it's gotta be some petty thing.

originally when he wasn't talking to me i figured he needed space and just let him be for a while. but then eventually he started being annoying with it and so i confronted him about it online and said i was willing to apologize for whatever he's mad about, but what he's doing is unacceptable. in that conversation he said that we are done and had been done for a long time (???????) and told me to cut my losses and move on. now he just wont speak to me, and i'm really sad. i asked him in person why he's doing this and begged him to have a proper conversation and work it out and he just said that he made his stance clear and went back to ignoring me. when he saw me crying he just went "oh boy" with a sigh and that's the last he's addressed me.

i still have no clue what even brought this on. for once i thought i actually had friends who liked me and cared about me, but i guess i was mistaken if i was so disposable to him. i wonder if he sleeps well at night. i wonder if he's happier with me gone. makes me sick. if he ever does this to some poor girl during a breakup i'll kill him.

>>125814
>picrel
too fucking true

I don't care if it's petty but it's really fucking annoying when people find my social awkwardness "endearing" or "charming". Do they not understand that the thing they are chuckling good-naturedly at is actually the fact that I am just fucking uncomfortable?

I'm lamenting the shortness of life, there is no point in departing my comfort zone to accomplish things, because it all will be gone in a flash anyway.
I'm wondering, what to do with my excess time.
I wish i had some responsibility to make me feel like i'm part of society, part of life with other people.
Occasionally life bestows a responsibility upon me, that makes me wish to be free from society and its pressures to accomplish ultimately meaningless tasks.
Sometimes i just wish to discard reason and feel passionate about something, to put on a mask and forget i'm wearing it, another times i wish to see with eyes unclouded.
What is this?

A couple months ago my group of friends blew up cause this one gay guy tried making a move on one of the straight guys and the two of them got into a bar fight. I wasn't there and I was like the only person who sided with the gay guy after and so I've spent the past months listening to him whine about the whole thing and it kinda trashed my social life. I honestly felt like people overreacted and that it was crazy to stop talking to him just because someone else spazzed at getting hit on

Last week he started saying he was maybe bisexual and then later grabbed me by the waist and shoulders a couple times when we were drunk and dancing at a club after I told him to stop the first time and then grabbed my face and kissed me. I feel so stupid because now I don't want anything to do with him and have no friends in my program and should have believed everyone else when they said he had no boundaries I think I just sympathize when someone gets ostracized because its happened to me but I need to realize sometimes its for a reason

I wish I would of asked for your number

I want to kiss you but i don't want to fuck up both our lives

It's like Stockholm syndrome how badly I miss you sometimes, and I hate how much I don't want to

I just don't want to hurt your feelings

Please just come back one more time, but see me in person this time, please please please

>>129623
thank you sm! i love these

>>129623
these are unironically good

Fixed it with one conversation because I forgot my boyfriend is an autist that needs me to be direct with my wants and needs 👍

>>129612
Any reason to not be direct? Maybe the autist is you.

We did it s, we saved her relationship!

>>129553
wait you’re so cool that sounds so hard. where did you see this or can you not reveal it here

>>129557
It's just the reddit account of someone I know personally. If you've ever had a reddit account and value your privacy, you should send an archive removal request to arctic shift ASAP.

you. do. not. get. to. declare. yourself. absolved. you are not forgiven. you have not repented. you have not faced justice or punishment. the only absolution for you is a bullet to the brain. i’m not that merciful. i am going to let you rot of cancer unforgiven and then i get to torture you in hell. you do not get closure and there is no end to this.

It's been a month since I've stopped flushing the toilet. I hope you get the message

Come back to me. Come back to me so we can finish what we started. I know you still want to finish it. Don't even lie to me. Don't pretend you don't care. And honestly, I know I still tug at the back of your mind, but you won't admit it to yourself. So come back. Just for a little bit.

haah even posting this i feel like im close to a panic attack . im so scared of everything

maybe be happy on ur own before you can be happy with someone else. and then you can find the right person for you to enjoy life with

um for what it's worth i like the picture you posted do you have more cute images like that

sammmee im ruining my already ugly appearance with bulimia wooo! I relate to everything ye said so at least ur not alone. Is there a place in this world fr people like us I wonder

I have casual sex because I like sex. I don't like emotions. If you can't have sex with catching feelings, then casual sex isn't for you. That's fine.

>>129537
If you like sex, casual sex isnt for you. You need to get to know each others bodies first, likes and dislikes etc.

I have personal circumstances that prevent me from being able to have a long term relationship but I still want affection. Its not the healthiest but I can squash my feelings easily because I remind myself of the circumstances I’m in and other things that make me unworthy of a relationship. I also don’t have friends and only really interact with people for sex yet I’ve met interesting people this way.

>>128629
I've genuinely never met anyone who enjoys casual sex other than straight men, gay men and some butches who just covet masculinity to hide their own pain. This whole thing that everyone loves casual sex is a LARP.

>>128629
You think I'd be interested in casual sex because I'm a bippie but I've been assaulted, stalked and borderline raped that almost nothing excites me about men anymore and I haven't tried casual sex with women either so… it's not worth it. I have a surprisingly low sex drive I just blame my trauma for it

>>129432
men who fuck you like that literally wouldn’t care if you died in front of them

>>129481
true as fuck
>>129429
Yeah ive noticed this too, People are blatantly rude to you when youre an ugly woman. Especially men. They are literally violent as fuck like gorillas. I hate them and im scared of them. Also nona, the guy youre with sounds like a total pos please have a back up plan in case you have to leave him

>>129555
shyt sorry I meant to reply to >>129538

I feel like if you are below average and manage to bag a guy, it's still not worth it. He would treat you as a fleshlight at best, not romance to speak of.
Guys would court beautiful women only because they know their worth and are not easy, so that's where eleborate dates, flowers, sweet talks etc come from. As for beautiful women who don't get princess treatment… Girl, love yourself, you deserve better.
Anyway, going back to us uglies. We wouldn't get any courtship or respect because for guys, it's just not worth the effort and reserved only to pretty women, and even then guys will try to be cheap.
Do you want a relationship with a lazy slob who will get you on a single coffee date once and then just crush at your place for drunk sex while never showing you affection? Yes or no? Because that's all you'll get.
I know it because I was desperate enough to try having a relationship and it was the best I was able to get.
If it's okay to you and you have no self-respect, be my guest, go on and date.
But if you are an ugly women without a profound mental illness, please don't try dating, you will be treated worse than your partenered peers, you will compare yourself to other girls who get flowers and gifts, and you will hate yourself even more.