>>126855
Just ignore the breakup. Make pretend it never happened and carry on as usual. Completely avoid and skirt past any attempt of his to think it's over. Give him the "shhshh you're just upset. Ya hungry?" talk.

i married a rich moid and he buys me whatever it is i want but i am still unhappy and lonely. why is that?

>>126920
Do you have close female relationships? If not, then that could be a reason why

>>126852
It means you don't like him. I don't really understand why you were dating in the first place but if you don't care about someone breaking up with you it means you don't really like them

>>126921
nope. my family doesn't talk to me and his family and i have nothing in common. he is the only person in my life who is my friend which ik sounds pathetic and sad so it makes me depressed

>>125973
It’s not just you. As a fellow fem4fem it’s just made it harder to wade through the muck, and it feels weird to have to relinquish what would be a completely feminine space to the invading sausage party for the social brownie points. A lot of the lesbian scene has been choked up polys trying to pawn their ugly boyfriend on me, or trans with hairy chests. I honestly have more luck in bars than on dating apps now, cause the bullshit you have to sift through just to find regular fem women is getting to be annoying asf.

agree with everything you’re saying here and nona you can date me if you want.i think you could call me futch i like wearing feminine clothes and makeup im just lazy asf but if I was dating a girl I would put more effort into my appearance again

>sapphic
you fucking cocksucker

Your post reminded me of myself (in a good way!). If you want a drinking friend or to chat with another person who has experience in this field, feel free to add me on discord: archer054

I relate to this post. High and and ugly shut in femcel

>>125613
in /b/

do heroin

I hate you larping faggots. Go back to tiktok

>>126880
Mostly his looks. Not many straight men in their 20s who look like twinks

>>126880
a bit of an insane take
no matter the gender anyone as a cripple would still have normal social needs. existing without a working hand != trauma dumping

>>126883
Good take nona

>>126858
why not just leave. this is unbelievably cruel and i’m not going to defend men at all. but theres no way you are not emotionally disabled in some way and are on here. like i have ptsd i’m an emotional cripple. you are probably stunted or broken in some way too. and i think maybe that fear of being unable to be loved because of it is causing you to have these thoughts and post these terrible things. because you secretly feel that way about yourself.

You sound like a cringy tiktard trying it's hardest to larp as a genderbent 4chan moid. Insufferable whiny cunt

>>126902
to be fair to him, most people can’t admit to doing something as terrible as he did. he kind of had to lie because what are men’s choices when they back themselves into corners. be a person they have shown that they are not already by virtue of committing the crime they did and be impossibly chivalric and admit to something he could go to jail for to try and help me emotionally. or lie and not risk jail time and being socially ostracized. the saddest part is what he did wasn’t even bad enough to go to prison or for people to care. people stay supporting men who beat and violently rape complete strangers. no one is going to care about a man abusing someone in a much less violent way. he could have just talked to me. i don’t understand why he didn’t at first, or what could have possibly changed that he now apparently feels guilt. i wish he would just apologize to me so the both of us could stop suffering. i don’t want him to be literally fucking suicidal over something i want an apology for. why would he rather die than apologize to someone who used to be kind to him. nothing makes sense to me.

>>126909
it kinda makes sense to me
maybe the shame is too strong to face you, seeing how strongly it affected him ("song after song")
he's only gonna be able to face it after the pain subsides

at least that's how I see it
makes sense for an avoidant personality you mentioned too

>>126913
four years ago he wrote me a letter saying that he never meant to hurt me in the ways that he did. that was as specific as he was willing to be but we both knew what he was talking about. but he also began it with “i’ve come to realize i handled things the wrong way but at the same time i don’t regret it because you’re a terrible person. at least to me.” so like. he knew what he did was bad but apparently i’m awful and deserve it because i sent him a letter saying how he affected me. after that i WAS terrible to him; pointedly. before that though i did nothing wrong. he even wrote i treated him well and we had a good relationship but he just didn’t feel “it” like okay thanks my ex from five years ago i realized we weren’t in love at this point for sure already but thanks for confirming the obvious??? i don’t know if he just can’t express himself through the written word or if he was in denial or what but almost nothing i’ve experienced has made me angrier than getting a letter like i know i hurt you but you deserved it. AFTER sending him a victim impact statement about how hurt i was by his abuse.

and yeah the avoidant thing is insane. he even said in the letter he never thinks about me and won’t ever again and told one of my friends he didn’t remember my name. yet here he is now. so i do not understand anything. he’s a taurus so maybe it’s his pride. i’ve never met a more stubborn person. but i don’t get why if he now genuinely does feel remorse he at least claimed he didn’t in the past, why he would just suffer in silence. because it isn’t noble. it’s hurting me worse than if he apologized. i literally feel better just from realizing hes sorry. it feels like an actual piece of metal was removed from my stomach two nights ago and i keep waiting for the feeling to come back. i’ve said over and over i want an apology. i want to know hes not just laughing at me for being upset at what he did, which is what everyone tells me he does. which is making this even more bewildering to me that hes listening to all this stuff and then lying about how he feels? or is the music the lie and the words the truth? maybe he just likes how the songs sound. i don’t get it.

>>126916
you know what they say, you can't reason someone out of a position they haven't reasoned themselves into. but even irrational and dumb behavior has concealed benefits to it. his songs are probably an attempt to process it, but the denial is to protect himself. I can only guess what's the benefit specifically but there's some benefit here 100%.

as for him telling he doesn't regret what he did because you were "terrible" to him. he could have genuinely believed that in the moment even if it's wrong, or it could be another mental defense. people with trauma and mental illness tend to project intentions that aren't there for example.

he seems like a very confused person that hasn't figured out his own emotions himself, so in that sense his behavior is immature but it's something you could expect.

I've gone through something similar once, a formerly close person suddenly doing the unthinkable or something that makes no sense. It makes you want to jump to the worst conclusions. It took a while for me to analyze everything too so it didn't settle immediately, felt like nothing makes sense etc… It's normal. Anyway I'm really happy you feel a weight has been lifted nona. I can only make assumptions so don't take them too seriously. You're the only one who can reach the truth on this, especially the truth that will make you feel at peace.

pic related, a perspective from some dumb VN. I think it shows what I'm trying to say

>>126912
Also to add, I don't know if he truly means this but he says he would kill himself if I died and I freak out because wtf? He also just talks so poorly on himself that it's getting to me and I don't know what to do because I do believe in male mental health but he doesn't even know how to look after himself let alone be in a relationship with someone

>>126914
DO NOT MEET WITH HIM!!

>>126912
a man in his mid twenties love bombing a teenager he met online and now using suicide baiting guilt tactics on you?

i don’t know how to say this lightly but nona. he’s going to force himself on you. whether it’s sexual or forcing a relationship.

this is a jobless adult man who is resorting to dating teenagers because other people his age have apartments and engagements and degrees and careers. he has to date your age because it’s less weird to you at your age for someone to not have these things. but he isn’t a teenager like you. he is stunted and probably dangerous.

if i were you i’d pull a:
“hee hee i don’t remember you asking to be my bf!!!”
“ohhh well it’s a bit fast and i want to be able to meet someone before i decide”
“ohh im not feeling well and since i won’t be able to get what i needed to done, i’m going to have to push when we meet back!”
and then talk about all of your responsibilities and working towards having a life of your own and see how he either thinks he is more important and be repulsed or he’ll have to back off. and then i would slowly stop responding or respond less and less. he will probably freak out at you a little. don’t reply right away then pretend you’re super sorry and worried reply for a bit then have “something come up and you’ll be right back” you have to back out of these things slowly and carefully. idk how obsessed he is or how much do your info he has. he’s already threatening suicide with you cooperating. he WILL threaten you or harm you at least emotionally if not worse in the future if you don’t comply. think about how weird he is being when you’re being agreeable. THIS is his honeymoon phase?

nona you better run or we will all be disappointed in you. you know deep down already this man is a creep. you’re just a baby still. don’t worry. rejecting this man will open doors for new men to come and you’ll have a higher sense of self worth each time you reject a man. the higher your standards are the better. rejecting men like this is how you build your standards. you’ve already taken the first step in identifying this is a certifiable freak. that’s major. you know what you need to do deep down.

>>126821
this feels like a moid social experiment post

>>126867
It literally is, he really expected women to be like "ohh that's so true sis slay" so he could take a screencap n bitch and moan in /r9k/ lmfao fucking loser

>>126906
there’s like five women here and a bunch of men spamming. why do they care about this place? because it’s not morally evil inherently like lolcow is so they want to punish the women here more for just being nice and chill?

>>126821
i miss u

>>126838
Uh is this man posting here, on this website?

>>125970
I am going through something EXTREMELY similar right now. How did this work out? I want to be with him but the timing is TERRIBLE but I'm so worried that he will move on before I'm ready. Is he still waiting for you nona?

>>126901
Last I heard of him he was planning to commit suicide, he hasn't texted me since. I'm still worried about him and it's terrifying having to come to terms with the fact that he might've done it or not and that I'll won't know in a long time anyways. However as the days go by, memories of our time together keep coming back to me and they tell me that we weren't actually that good together. We were very flawed and we enabled bad behaviors on the other person. I can't tell if you and this man are good for each other, but there's a good chance you can move on regardless of that, nona. Just remember that now's not the right time, and pushing it will only make it worse.

>>126901
sometimes moving on for a bit IS the good timing nona. people usually don’t end up with the first person they’re with now and that’s a good thing. you both probably needed time and more life experiences to grow and that’s why it didn’t work out. if it’s a right person, wrong time thing, you won’t have to lift a finger and worrying could even hold things off longer honestly. but even if they’re held off longer it’s because you needed that time and those additional life lessons. what’s meant for you will always come to you. the only thing you can do wrong in life is try to force anything. it’ll all work out. trust me the impossible just happened for me on a random tuesday evening after ten years. if he moves on it’s because his next partner has something to teach him that he needs. if he’s yours, no one can steal your soulmate. if he’s not your soulmate you’ll be relieved when you find your real one and the lessons he taught you will make that relationship work.

>>126904
i just want to say i’m glad you’re in a good place about this. you would have heard if he died. he’s a freak for leaving it hanging that he might have died and he probably knows it upset you and that was the point. i’m glad you’ve realized that man is toxic. i’m sorry that hes suicidal but that’s a really cruel thing to do to someone and even as i’ve been in the process of attempting to harm myself, i had the wherewithal every time to know to hide it from other people so they wouldn’t be hurt by it. that’s not something you do to someone you love. that’s something you do to someone you’re trying to punish. i hope you find your happiness nona.

this is why I don't expect friends with randos from imageboards. at most expecting a one time chat is reasonable I think.

as for being interesting, you're supposed to learn that from experience anyways.

don't expect to become friends right off the bat*

>>126888
its just exhausting introducing myself over and over and i barely get any reciprocation. maybe they are dull and boring like me.

>>126896
you're not supposed to be doing that tbh unless they're interested, you're supposed to make them feel emotional things first and foremost. which is hard to explain cause you need to experience it to get it