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Chronically suicidal nonnas how do you cope? Anonymous 133852[Reply]

Hi s, basically title. I have been chronically depressed and suicidal for the vast majority of my life. I will probably be like this for the rest of my life. I'm a pretty stable person at this point. I have a routine, I take care of myself, but as I go through my 20s I feel distant from people and can't really engage with them because I know my inner life freaks people out. I'm curious how other chronically suicidal s cope with their feelings outside of the obvious answer of therapy or medication, which I've been in and out of for many years and has never provided any relief. What distracts you or makes the next day more enjoyable?
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Anonymous 133911

>>133910
I guess I just treat life like normal other than this, but it’s something ive never felt like i could share with anyone.

Anonymous 133914

>>133852
i was suicidal for some time and even did some fucking stupid shit because of it, but now im mostly fine, even though recently i've been rethinking about it with no apparent reason.

I've always coped by distracting myself, either with the vidya, tv or movies and it has always worrked out.

I think that the best thing though is getting into an hobby that involves creating things, when i got into sewing i got wayyy less shitty thoughts and lived more happily, seeing your work improving is source of immense satisfaction.

You'll get better !

Anonymous 133918

>>133852
Bad advice, but I just go full automated and I ignore what I feel until I explode and cry my eyes out.

Anonymous 133971

>>133852
So, I don't actually know how to cope in a healthy way, so my advice is bias and only works for me because it's what I've adapted to. I'm not able to go to therapy because it's expensive (and I'm not even sure if I could convince myself to go anyway), so what I do is just reflect on my own suicidal thoughts and why I am the way I am. But that can drive me insane, so most of the time, it's really just me venting, and nothing productive is done about it.

But I would suggest journaling or keeping a digital diary so you have a way of getting your thoughts out of your head. It sounds cliche, I know, but I find that it works really well when you feel isolated as you bottle up these feelings and don't reach out to anyone. Please, please keep talking about your suicidal thoughts. Talk about why you feel the way you do, how it came to be. Write about the way you feel. It doesn't matter however you do it, just get it out there. This significantly helps and it will also make you feel lighter. Distracting yourself only works temporarily and will make you feel worse, if you only distract yourself.

Anonymous 133983

Unironically find a hobby. If youve had suicidal thoughts for so long its become part of your identity. In my peak (or actually lowest of lows) i could only describe myself with physical characteristics because there was nothing more to my soul than the wish for death. Deciding to do anything remotely productive (such as studying) was extremely scary to me because it implied a future; which went against my whole identity!

Ive picked up a few hobbies. I can do my hobbies alone in my room, doesnt require me to go out or interact with people since that can be difficult for me when im feeling low. It not only distracts me but calms me and subconsciously makes me have the future in mind: i have a project to finish, i have to go to the store to buy x, etc.
The best hobby is when you create something, not passively consume.
Im not saying its going to fix everything but try it and see where it brings you. If you have difficulty thinking of something is there anything you used to do which you enjoyed? Or something youve always wanted to learn? Something that might be laying around that youve never used, etc. Lmk if you decide anything am curious

Also , you dont have to share your whole inner world with someone. “superficial” friendships are also good. If we were always talking about deep stuff with everyone that would get pretty tiring. Find some thing you can bond over with people and dont stress it tm


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Vent thread Anonymous 132763[Reply]

Again we need to vent
Previous Thread >>>/feels/129800
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>>133976
Take your time, love. For instance, I only ever make jokes about killing myself; in real life, I have absolutely no intention of doing so, because I love being annoying and I want to see the people I hate suffer a great deal

Anonymous 133978

I want the stupid cunt who lurked the unsent letter thread and made it to where any message that isn’t like two paragraphs long gets deleted. Fuck you .

Anonymous 133979

>>133431
Felt that in my soul. My dad also used my credit card, but it was completely nonconsensual. I just found out one day nearly all of the money I had on there was gone, and it was used to pay off some debt he owe or something. The whole story is fucked up because despite him saying he'll pay me back, all the factors surrounding his situation tell me he will never pay me back. I worked overtime to earn what I had at that point. What really gets me is that it could've all been avoided had I just put it into savings sooner. I planned to, but didn't get around doing it, so it was all my fault I'll never get it back unless I work for it again… I've contemplated reporting him too, but there's also a lot to consider with that regarding his situation, so I don't know. I'm still fucked up on it.

Anonymous 133980

>>133978
The unsent letter thread got purged?

Anonymous 133982

>>133976
Typical misogyny blaming women for whatever issue. Stop visiting this site then if its making you miserable. In fact, also get off 4chan. Neither sites have/are accurate representations of women or men. Get offline find a hobby and you will be feeling better


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Are these icks valid, nonitas? Anonymous 133939[Reply]

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Anonymous 133961

everyone replying is retarded. this isn't actually OP's list, it's obviously screenshotted from instagram. I'm guessing it's a moid who saw this and got mad and wanted to post this to see that we'd agree so it'd affirm his beliefs that 'women le bad' . DNI

Anonymous 133963

>>133961
theres like 1 or 2 people who actually thought this is ops list lol

Anonymous 133970

>>133939
Icks are never valid
If they were they would be red Foags

Anonymous 133972

>>133970
I don't find red flags valid anymore
because they are communist. and I associate that with airheads and animal abusers.

Anonymous 133975

>>133939
All of this reads like mental illness and I hope it's a joke.


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every day feelz Anonymous 133973[Reply]

All I really do every day is watch soap operas and play Pokemon. There are new versions coming out but they never say when and they set a date but it feels like it will never come. And meanwhile the couple I am shipping on my show broke up ;__;

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Anonymous 133974

Which game are you playing right now ? What's your team?


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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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>>133747
Oof ouch owwy my feelings. I've barely posted here in the last 3 months though.

Anonymous 133799

Been getting very into emergency preparedness again. I’m building up supplies and have a very useful bag to keep things in. Is it making me feel a little like a schizo? Yes, but I believe my concern is valid, and there’s a very big difference between anxiety and just mental awareness. Burying my head in the sand is no good, and being prepared can help me live life more comfortably with the knowledge that if things get bad, I am prepared for it. Any other s into emergency preparedness/prepping? I’ve thought about making a thread for it but I don’t think it would be a very good one. I highly encourage anyone reading this to stockpile, you don’t need a basement full of jars of musty food that you’ve had for years, just think about what your household would need if things got bad for at least 72 hours. When you go grocery shopping, pick out non-perishables. You can build it up over time. I think it’s a very useful thing to do

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Does anyone else remember the shitty deep fried and "abstract" meme era
I hated them at the time

Anonymous 133907

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>>133906
That makes no sense, like the person doesn't know what irony is

Anonymous 133968

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I had to go to a government services center yesterday. They were supposed to give me an updated passport, but they lost all of the documents I gave them, including the old passport. The woman explaining the situation to me was so apologetic and assured me it's like the only time this ever happened. Right. At least they did as much as possible on their end so I only had to submit some papers to get the restoring procedures going.


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Using meds without medication: fucking stupid? Anonymous 133818[Reply]

Hello s, im looking for some genuine advice.

Basically, i think i have something going wrong with my head, maybe ocd or something wrong but there is shit that doesnt work properly.

i dont have neither the cash nor the time to get into therapy and get diagnosed, but i fear that this shit is actively making my life way worse, for me and those around me.

So now for the thread topic, heard that many ppl that got better in life with the use of medicatons, i was thinking of prozac in particular.

Do you think it would be fucking stupid to try and get it in other ways, without prescriptions? What are the cons? Can it improve my life?

Ricky because him and trailer park boys are the only thing keeping me sane
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Anonymous 133889

>>133881
>i don't think that is wise.
But taking a random medication, despite having no idea what your "problem" is, or how that medication will ultimately affect your body, since you have no medical or psycho-therapeutic know-how whatsoever, is?
>doctors will either prescribe you a pill, prescribe you a surgery or some kind of therapy
You realize you don't actually have to do whatever it is the doctor recommends you to do if you disagree with him, right? The point is just to get a basic idea of what the problem actually is, from a person that has a professional understanding of the human body / mind / hormones / psyche. And even then you can still disagree with the doctors results, if you have reasons to do so, but it will almost certainly give you some degree of insight or at least perspective on what's wrong with you, some degree of information that you can use to evaluate the problem. Again, my point is that identifying what it is that is causing you anguish is the number one priority, once you know what the problem is, you can choose how to deal with it as you see fit (be it with medication, therapy, taking a different approach to life, etc).
>what if there isn't a problem? what if what appears as a psychological problem is completely reasonable behavior given the situation.
Then your therapist / doctor will tell you as much. And even if they try to ""sell you on being mentally ill"" because they are ""greedy and in cahoots with big pharma"" (I'm not american, so I don't know in how far these sorts of claims are based in reality or if they're just a popular superstition. I can say for certain that it's untrue for my european home country) you can just tell them no (but I've already explained this concept of getting a 2nd opinion and then still making your own decisions beforehand). But this is irrelevant to the OP regardless, because the OP already identified there being a problem with her life. As long as the OP feels there is a problem, there is a problem with how she feels. Technically she could "get rid of the problem" by ceasing to view it as such: she could just "stop caring". However, as she has described "making the lives of those around her way worse" due to what she perceives as a problem, stopping to treat it as a problem would entail an abandoPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

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>>133841
>>133849
>>133850
>>133851
>>133889

s, i really dont know how to thank you all, every time i wrote something here you've all been extremely helpful and kind, even now!
I Will treasure all of your suggestions and try to get something good from my days that doesnt involve getting on the meds, i'll also try to get in contact with my uni for cheaper therapy.

Really don't know how to thank y'all, have a wonderful night! (Or day!)

Anonymous 133901

>>133889
I absolutely don't want to invalidate the others that still have me really nice suggestions, but thank you so much especially to you !! Will treasure everything you and all the others said

Anonymous 133938

random passer-by here, but i've suffered from anxiety/compulsion stuff, there's a supplement (N-acetyl cysteine) that really helped ease it. Also cured my gfs severe nailbiting habit. Cheap and good safety profile, only issue is it smells like sulfur.

Anonymous 133965

>>133938
that's interesting! Can you get it without prescription?


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i wish i died in pandemic Anonymous 133917[Reply]

I honestly can't handle life after a while being a neet.
Before that I was a normie that went to uni, made her chores and kind of behave with my family and society.
Nowadays
>I forgot easily making simple chores I've got ask for
>My mood is a disaster
>My coping mechanisms are a disaster
>Tried killing myself 3 times I think
>Self harm when I get angry
>I dropped uni, went again and im struggling with finals
>My family and I can't stand each other anymore.
>Only feel okay when I'm on the phone, drawing stupid shit or having sex with bf or jerk off
Im.not the person I used to be, I feel I can't be that person again and I wish I was dead.

Anonymous 133926

>>133917
op here
does anyone else feel like this?
if you so, how you manage these feelings?
i'd like to know.

Anonymous 133927

>>133926
Yes. I can't believe how old I am now. 2019 hs grad and I feel so behind in life. Many things that were meant to happen to me were delayed. I feel like people who are younger are more experienced and I realized its because I actually couldn't learn things I was meant to because I was stuck inside. I mean, I couldn't go out on my 21st birthday to drink ffs so I'm learning that stuff in my mid 20s and I feel like a jackass.

Anonymous 133956

Sounds like life will pick up for you again the moment you get a job or have less of that sort of idle time.
Uni sometimes feel like the wrong kind of busy, specially these days where you don't even know if that degree will account for something.


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Worried about cheating friend Anonymous 133666[Reply]

I'm a close friend of two people who later became a couple. They've been together for a year and 2 months now, and I'm worried that my female friend is in the process of cheating on him, or has already cheated on him.

She's been taking a class for the past four months, and that's where she met a guy. I've seen the way she looks at him, almost with longing in her eyes.
Over those months, they went from simply getting to know each other to:
>texting about class stuff
>making excuses to meet up and spend time together
>leaving together after class
>taking public transportation together after class
>texting about their lives and interests
>texting each other at around 11 p.m. or midnight
And so on.

Apparently, HE asked HER out weeks ago. She said she had a boyfriend, he said no problem, and I was happy. I thought it was over and that we'd dodged an incoming storm…
EXCEPT that my friend texted HIM a couple of hours later.
Ever since then, they've gotten even closer, added each other on all their socials, started sharing stuff, etc.
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Anonymous 133675

>>133667
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Anonymous 133676

>>133673
> I just feel sickened by how she's treating her boyfriend, I would've never expected this from her, and this is just from what I've seen and what she has told me so I have to imagine the real thing is even worse.
I don't understand. This is your own friend. Someone you're supposedly very close to. Don't you think it's possible that she could just simply be getting carried away?
Sorry Nona but if she's really your friend you'd have a little faith in her. You'd feel comfortable talking to her about your feelings. You're failing her by not coming forward.

Anonymous 133705

>>133676
Yeah how old is the OP and her friends? This sounds so immature. Either they are very very young, or not as close friends as OP says.
>>133673
I hope my friends would approach me if I was in a period of my life where I'm doing something questionable that goes against my typical character.
>I've never seen or heard about a woman in a relationship rejecting someone because she had a boyfriend and and then trying to claw the guy back in while escalating things
Please tell me how old you all are. This is bog standard emotional cheating/monkey branching.

Anonymous 133929

just talk to her wtf. it makes no sense to be scared of her reaction. you don't have to come at her with an accusatory tone, you can approach this sensibly and with empathy. ask her what she is doing. she might just be bored/passive/stupid idk. tell her how this looks and what her bf would think. don't talk to her bf first unless you want to throw shit on fire. it also might backfire on you if it turns out to be different from what it seems or if the bf doesn't see it the same way as you
talk to her

Anonymous 133930

Femcels have gotten to be so fucking lame. You feel bad for a moid. Like actually?? Men cheat all the time. I love women and male orientated fields.


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keep wanting him while having a boyfriend Anonymous 133677[Reply]

I have a bf but I keep thinking about a past guy. We were good friends and both liked eachother. But eventually drifted apart. I frequently thought about him.

2 months into my current relationship we coincidentally had contact. it felt so good, we talked for a couple of days. there was always so much unspokenness between us so then i texted him: i want to be honest with you, i used to like you and it was good to talk to you again but i think its better to let go now and not talk to eachother anymore. I didn't mention my boyfriend.

we had a good last conversation and he said he respects my decision and he regrets not having asked me out, and that it'll be difficult for him to let go but he's glad we're on good terms.

but still (2 months later) we keep having these small interactions on social media. i can tell he is still paying attention to me and i am also to him. I check his profiles every fucking day. Sometimes even while I'm with my bf. He doesn't know i have a boyfriend now. I think that would hurt him and he'd feel deceived. It's my responsibility but i also keep seeking out interactions with him and make it clear i still think about him. I look forward to like texting him next year to ask how he's doing.

i just feel so shitty. i know i should probably remove him from socials to minimize this and move on. but I don't. I want to hold the door open. It feels so good thinking back to us and fantasizing about what could've been. Our chemistry was so insane and talking with him felt good in so many ways. He's also really funny and I feel like there's more I like about him than my boyfriend for example. And yet I love my boyfriend fully for who he is and i want to spend my life with him. part of it might also be that i feel like im a difficult person to love and my boyfriend is so supportive and i don't think i'll find that in other guys. I'm scared that if i were to pursue somethign with the guy it'd fall apart or something or it'd be like i deceived him because i have so many issues. then again i also had those thoughts with my current boyfriend- and despite my worries we turned out really well.

my bf is so patient with me and understanding and loves me so much. its not like he's treaating me wrong and i'm missing something in the relationship… i just suck

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Anonymous 133685

thank u all for the replies. I want to elaborate it's not that i'm idealizing the guy. we were friends for a while and I started to fall in love with everything i got to know about him. For me new people aren't 'enticing' at all because I want a connection before anything else. In my opinion friends to lovers is the way to go. That's why it's difficult with him because we already have a history and I know him. And truthfully his qualities resonate more with me than the ones my boyfriend has.

>>133681
your comment brought me back to reality. You're right it's crazy to think about breaking up for someone who isn't even clearly communicating with me. When we had the conversation he showed regret not being more direct with me and asking me out. But he still isn't doing that- maybe because I told him i didn't want anything more. Then again, I also said he could always text me if something was up. So he knows he could ask me. Instead he is making playlists with my name on spotify and telling me in the description to reach out to him. I won't interact w that anymore. If he actually were to communicate w me I'll say I'm in a relationship now.

thank u nonas <3

Anonymous 133750

>>133677
yeah you should break up if only because the longer this goes on the more it will hurt your current bf when you inevitably betray him

Anonymous 133759

>>133685
You will break up with your current boyfriend so you might as well do it now, think of it as charity so another girl who’s satisfied with just one good man can have him

Anonymous 133862

i feel the same abt a bf ive had for like 6 months, idk why. ive had the same experience, the guys nice respectful super chill, we recently had a nice chill conversation about life and stuff. idk why i want him aswell. i wish my bf would breakup with me but i also dont i want both at the same time

Anonymous 133925

hi i can see the future! here's what's in the cards for you:
>keep stringing bf along
>keep entertaining other guy
>interest in bf keeps decreasing
>he gives you the ick by now
>break up
>hook up with other guy
>he doesn't know you had a bf all along
>omgwtfdoido
>you lie
>he finds out
>breaks up with you
>now you have zero (0) bfs

that's rough, if only there was a way to avoid it…


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