>i feel like im losing my youth and guys won’t want me anymore.
they find women in their early 20s (18-25) to be the most physically attractive. desirability peaks at age 21, then declines 'significantly' after 31. you're not missing out on their concentrated attention by turning into a new adult, so you can safely shove off that anxiety for now.
besides, the ones you're talking about that hit on you during your younger years are hebephiles. predators. so there's no need to miss their interest, because it was always going to expire. they are not the kind of men you can rely on for proper relationships/family-rearing (if there are any at all.)

pedophilia feels everywhere because epstein bomb residue is all over the place. the normalisation of teen-fetishisation was far worse years ago, believe me. songs fully included predatory lines, and 'jokes' flew by without serious scrutiny. we're at a loss now since we're finally taking it seriously, and are disgusted to know that it's ALWAYS been this bad. we're noticing more - same phenomenon is happening with disease & sickness. detection is better. but of course the internet is making it easier for people to accept the commodification and fetishism of youth, and to abuse images and icons of desirability, aka to slip into fetishes/mentalities they'd otherwise avoid. all people after-all, regardless of sex, show a preference for youthful features.

but you'd be unlucky to marry and have children with an actual pedophile or minor-focused predator. unfortunately, they're charming and deceptive; not exactly easy to filter out. the best you can do is pick someone from a country that doesn't normalise child abuse, and learn how to quietly check his devices for cp before you have kids together.
if you can't cope with the risks, nor the idea of him losing attraction to you as you age, then don't bother at all. it's inevitable. and mutual. he'll get flabbier, balder, smellier, droopier. you need to think about losing interest in him as he gets older.

easy. have like a dozen children, collect child care, actually raise ur children and after they reach certain ages theyll be easy to look after if not basically looking after themselves and ur gucci

>>129702
Read yaoi and mock how ugly they are as a group in return. Its the only solution to their trash existence. They are hideous compared to women and have insufferable personalities and honestly deserve to be in the basement. We are supposed to give a shit about their hideous masculinity why? Can someone seriously explain why we don't turn them all into goon material since thats all they deserve to be? Thats what they do to us. Porn has obliterated gender relations. Use it against them and goon to young bishies only. <3

I'm 36 and my dating experience has only improved over time. I'm in a long-term committed relationship with a decent man, meanwhile in my 20s and earlier it was much harder to find someone who doesn't have brain worms. Don't let moids and crab-bucketing other women fool you into overvaluing your youth.

>>129737
yeah that makes sense. im just paranoid about this stuff because of getting groomed and i dont want to have to go through it again. im talking to a guy right now who is a year younger than me and he’s not a weirdo thankfully, so i hope this goes well :)

buut anyways thx to everyone in this thread, you guys made me feel a lot better. i get really caught up thinking about this stuff, haha

So sorry, anon.
Yes, I lost my childhood cat (and best friend) when he was 15 a few years ago. It was awful, I broke down sobbing at work and felt the deep emptiness of his missing presence to my core. I'd always be expecting him to come around the corner or slip into my room and onto my bed like usual.
My mother encouraged us to get a new kitten a month and a half later, and even if it felt like betrayal of him I'm so happy to have her! Like other anon said, she's so different in her personality that it doesn't feel like a "replacement" as I feared. I could never replace him after all, it was just meeting a new friend to help the healing process.
The period with no cat felt 6x longer than it actually was though, fuck.

All this to say, don't feel guilt about making a new friend but also only do so when you feel ready. And take as long as you need to mourn both he and your life alongside him. 14 years is a long time filled with what I assume to be some of your early memories if he was your first cat (even if you got your first cat at 20, that's young in a different way). Take time to appreciate his companionship during your ups and downs and growth. Also don't let anyone make you feel silly for mourning a pet.

I lived in a big house in the rural area of a city for most of my life, so I've had more pets than the average person. Still, I always grief for months when my pets die.
Like >>107168 said, adopt another pet when you feel ready. Helping an animal in need is the best way to honor the memory of your pet. You're not replacing them in any way, I have so many good memories of all the pets I had. I'll die one day too, but until then I'll love and care for as many animals as I can.

>>107168
>I'd always be expecting him to come around the corner or slip into my room and onto my bed like usual.
I'm so sorry nona, this is exactly what I'm going through with my cat. He'd always jump onto the bed with me at night time and be purring away until he fell asleep. I miss him so much.
>>107169
I do actually have two other cats that I got last year. I just don't have as strong a connection with these two.
Originally I had two cats, the one who just died plus another who died at the start of 2022 (kidney disease). My senior cat went into a bad depression and stopped eating after she died, which is why I got the other two cats. So you could say they were his cats, and he became his happy self again once they settled in. Thankfully they seem to be doing okay without him, I suppose because they have each other. It's just so strangely quiet without him because he was super talkative, and they don't meow at all. I hope I can grow closer to them with time.

One of my cats died recently in about October or November. We're not sure how, he was found dead under my sister's bed. No blood or throw up or anything. I miss him badly, my remaining cat seems so lonely and confused without him. I hope there's an afterlife for pets and that we can be with them again one day, I miss him badly. My aunt's dog died over the summer too and my childhood dogs have been gone for a while

Its going to be 4 years since i lost 2 of my childhood cats. There are times where i feel pangs of sadness but i need to lock in for my other cat. Shes 10 years old and i just want to appreciate whatever time i have left with her. It sucks cause i gotta work a full time job now but i reframe it as making sure she has a confortable life. But after her im not having another pet until i get 6 figs annually. Being poor and having a pet fucking sucks. Sorry for going on a tangent.

To answer your question…. Let yourself feel the grief. Repression doesn't do anyone any good. Find people who you can talk about your passed on pets to, or write about them. Whatever you do, keep their memorie alive because they're only in your life for a short while, but you're their whole world for their lifetime.

[Chorus]
She's a naughty girl with a bad habit
Bad habit for drugs
She's a party girl with a bad habit
Bad habit for drugs

[Post-Chorus]
Ecstasy, ecstasy e-e-e-e-ecstasy
Ecstasy, ecstasy e-e-e-e-ecstasy

So, it's Halloween
And you feel like dancin'
And you feel like shinin'
And you feel like letting loose
But what ya gonna be?
Babe, you better know
And you better plan
Better plan all day

Better plan all week
Better plan all month
Better plan all year

You're dressed up like a clown
Putting on your act
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I ain't got no panties on
Ain't got no panties on
I ain't got no panties on
On the dancefloor

It took so long to remember just what happened
I was so young and vestal then
You know it hurt me
But I'm breathing so I guess I'm still alive
Even if signs seem to tell me otherwise
Got my hands bound
And my head down and my eyes closed
My throat's wide open

Do unto you now what has been done to me
Do unto you now what has been done

Tool- Prison sex. The latter half of the songs explains how abuse comes full circle, the abused become the abuser. Abuse like this leaves a hole in you that only seems to be filled when you hurt others. But you never truly get your power back.

Yo, listen up, here's a story
About a little guy that lives in a reddit world
And all day and all night
And everything he sees is just reddit
Like him inside and outside
Reddit his house
With a reddit little window
And a reddit Corvette
And everything is reddit for him
And himself and everybody around
'Cause he ain't got nobody to listen (to listen)

>>129315
No it would've been rip her dms you hate incels but keep gender reversing their talking points

>>129315
I'm not mad because I'm not bitter.

>>129655
>rip her dms
yeah her dms would be full of ugly faggots with horrible personalities with zero redeeming qualities. she would not magically score a cutie like this guy did.

You're not alone. Ugly man psyop is fucking real. Men love seeing women suffer.

>>129745
If you have an ugly man all the others wil look at you and you get all the attention and you are the more attractive of the two in the couple

"He’s been a great partner and has been treating me amazingly" does not fit a porn addict profile, and you're not any better. Leave him and become a nun, you might be able to redeem yourself.

holy fuck you're a mess lmao

>>129708
yeah this is what shitty boyfriends and having BDD/former anachan does to u lol

>>129689
advice to you or anybody that has problems with their bf that they feel they couldn't resolve.
Break up.
Simple.
Never ever ever cheat, you immediately lose your argument if you do. Why cheat and stay in a relationship anyway if you don't like him anymore? Break up and finish it.

>>129689
they’re all booing but im clapping. you don’t ever gotta feel bad about cheating on cheaters.

>>129537
If you like sex, casual sex isnt for you. You need to get to know each others bodies first, likes and dislikes etc.

I have personal circumstances that prevent me from being able to have a long term relationship but I still want affection. Its not the healthiest but I can squash my feelings easily because I remind myself of the circumstances I’m in and other things that make me unworthy of a relationship. I also don’t have friends and only really interact with people for sex yet I’ve met interesting people this way.

>>128629
I've genuinely never met anyone who enjoys casual sex other than straight men, gay men and some butches who just covet masculinity to hide their own pain. This whole thing that everyone loves casual sex is a LARP.

>>128629
You think I'd be interested in casual sex because I'm a bippie but I've been assaulted, stalked and borderline raped that almost nothing excites me about men anymore and I haven't tried casual sex with women either so… it's not worth it. I have a surprisingly low sex drive I just blame my trauma for it

I'm a 99% straight woman. I sleep peacefully knowing I will never have ONS with moids. Its one of the most demonic shit sold to women.
But I want to try it with a woman so bad.. Just like how it should be anyways.

The thing with making friends is that most people already have friends, so you'll come across a lot of people who already have as many friends as they are satisfied with. Look for fellow loners. Although lonely x lonely does come with its own troubles.

>>129699
I never thought of it that way, specially because I'm quite insecure even though I have always been told I'm attractive.

I'm not perfect just like everyone but I like to think that I'm good at understanding people and getting along with them, I'm kind and entertaining, I am pretty sensitive though so maybe I value friendship more than what the average people do.

>>129705
Yes, I struggle with this big time. I have tried this as well, I was hanging out with a girl who I thought was in the same situation as me. It was extremely one-sided, I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt (maybe she's shy/maybe she needs some time to feel comfortable with me). There weren't any signs of her not being interested besides never taking initiative. Turns out she had a bunch of friends that I never knew about.

I feel you anon. All friends I had in school I fell out of contact with after a while (mainly because of us being put in different classes) and now I don't have any friends left from school. My only current friends are online friends but I know even those friendships are very shaky and could collapse at any time

I'm 22 and I have no friends.

>>129700
Two different strains of feminism that despise each other to the death, anon. You haven't picked that up yet?

>>129715
In that case, I can be an activist for any cause and says that it's feminism. A movement need a general direction.

>>129727
>I can be an activist for any cause and says that it's feminism
That's pretty much what happens

>>129700
Men need to have their sexuality controlled, women don't. Men should not have easy access to women's bodies through porn, prostitutes, social norms, etc. etc. but it's fine if people have easy access to men's body. These things need to be regulated for men, not women. The ONLY time a man should see a woman naked is if she decided to let him.

The amount of fandom spaces I've been in that got infested with child groomers and other sexpests is insane so I feel your pain nona. Seems like almost every online group is full of these types of insane people

>>129722
Me too, I've only been with a woman once online and I'm terrified of men at this point. I find it hard to click which women are bi / gay that I'm embarrassed to ask and pursue irl. If anyone who's dated girls has tips please send them