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Are my "friends" sabotaging me? Anonymous 132098[Reply]

Hi nonas! I am a 29 yo autistic woman but even though Im awkward and bad at socializing Ive managed to keep some (girl) friends on my social circle, some of them Ive known since HS. Anyway fast forward to today and for over a decade none of them have managed to help me bag a boy/moid (whatever term you prefer). So I decided to try to find out what the moids had to say about it and several of them told me that I have friends who are gatekeeping me out of relationships with men. This honestly shocked me a little because I think it could be true I dunno. How can I tell if my friends are driving away moids (even the good ones)? I have no social skills and this is frankly eating me up on the inside, if this is true I do not know how to react to this or how to confront any of my friends. Please help me I am so confused I don't know what to think. I don't want to be in my 30s with no boyfriend experience, I dont need a super handsome moid just one who will love and respect me to some degree at least. Thanks!
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Anonymous 132141

>>132119
>Its just weird that theyre all doing great romantically (well most of them some have shitty bfs but oh well) while Im just left by myself
if people have the social skills and looks to find a boyfriend, they will do so. socialisation can only be taught to a certain point, and you haven't even asked for their help. why would they be thinking about your love life, and how is it weird that they have more success than you? are you even trying at all

>I feel hurt, besides I also want a bf experience.
they won't miraculously find you a bf, you're the only one who knows what you want, and it's your job to try. they can't carry you through your love life. the most you could even ask is for help with outfits, texting back, flirting & hangouts with scrotes that they know. it takes quite a bit of mutual involvement, and naturally, most people don't jump to do it without being asked

>>132120
socialising isn't your strong point? that explains the not-dating thing, much easier than the possibility of sabotage. but yes, we can't write off the chance of sabotage entirely, even if a lack of social skills could be a more obvious answer.

yes, they could be keeping you as an autistic jester (if you're asking about whether or not that's real, it is.) but it's tiring to keep around an autist just for this reason though, and there are generally more glaring signs that people pity you rather than like your company (ignoring what you say, speaking over you, friends breaking off into smaller groups where you're not included, forgetting what you've told them, etc)

>they basically said that my friends think that I am romantically incompetent or they want to have a "poor, sore loser around"
you didn't question them further about whether your friends said or implied these things directly behind your back? what are they basing these assumptions on? putting up with an unsociable autist just for an ego boost isn't as likely as your friends simply not knowing how to help you or breach the topic, for example.

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Anonymous 132142

wait, don't tell me you asked moids that have never met your friends

Anonymous 132145

>>132098
You should use a dating app.

Anonymous 132161

is your moid better than theirs and are you prettier or maybe have more going for you in life? if so then absolutely yes. they probably have you around to humiliate you or look better despite you having a lot of value that you haven’t been allowed to recognize. they infantalize you and have a boxed in notion of who you are because it serves their own insecurity. this has happened to me before and is what i take away from it. the women in question were not ugly but didn’t take care of themselves or have style and were poorer than me with family issues.

Anonymous 132344

>>132119
it's not actually your friends obligation to get you a boyfriend, and they probably struggle with romance like everyone else, nothing you've said indicates they are bad friends, you're a groan woman and if you want a boyfriend your going to have to find one yourself, or at the very least explicitly ask your friends for help romantically → and even if you do that it's not their fault if they can't find you a mate.

the 'gatekeeping' thing doesn't really make sense at all, like they have exclusive access to the moid store or something, no that's not how any of this works


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Lonliness Anonymous 7090[Reply]

Do you guys ever struggle with loneliness? Is the feeling almost constant and intense, or is it more buried and hidden until you think about how alone you are?

Share you thoughts, feelings, vents, insecurities, fears etc about loneliness, maybe we can all help each other out to not feel so alone for a second <3
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Anonymous 132313

>>132312
And thus encapsulates my friendship with most women. This conversation! I'm honest, open, and genuine; and people don't like it.

Anonymous 132314

>>132313
>I'm honest, open, and genuine
I notice you didn't say you were friendly. What makes you think people want unfiltered honesty? If your friend walked up to you and said you were a 6/10, would you appreciate her honesty? Human interactions are a lot more nuanced

Anonymous 132315

>>132314
I wouldn't have a problem with that. If she told me I was a 9/10 or a 10/10, I'd immediately start trying to figure out what she was trying to manipulate me for. Here is an example of the weird shit I deal with from the past month.

>wake up
>bathe
>feel pretty and happy
>talk about it
>guy in friend group asks for pictures on discord
>I decline
>troon and its minor friend get pissy about me getting attention
>later get a DM from the young girl going on about how bizarre it was that I would talk about myself with children around
>??????????
>expect the worst
>block and avoid
>time passes
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Anonymous 132316

>>132315
Jesus, where do I even start with this? Listen, I have to go to bed but you really need to pick better friends though I imagine you don't have many options after reading your other posts. Anyway, time for sleep

Anonymous 132343

Recognize the vanity of your longing and rejoice, for loneliness tempers the spirit for death.


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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 132288

Slept for like 2-4 hours again before waking

Anonymous 132298

I really need to be taking better care of people around me. They are my greatest resource and treasure. It might be easier to just keep involving myself in reverse engineering, technical writing, research, but when my close ones suffer, I must be able to choose to do the right thing.
I will do this, I will support you, I will take better care of you, I promise.
It’s just that, it’s hard, all my life I’ve been doing abstract stuff and I can hardly help myself. But, we must coordinate and we must cooperate. Otherwise this will become our bottleneck.

Anonymous 132320

>>132238
That would be a great book for our modern age since illiteracy and distrust of science is on the rise.

Anonymous 132322

>>132267
That sounds cool. What about only keeping to simpler technology to keep the book shorter? Like explaining concepts like electricity and letting them innovate on their own

Anonymous 132342

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Being irrational… le bad even though pi is an integral part of many mathematical things


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Cool facts about women! Anonymous 132063[Reply]

1. During pregnancy, cells pass back and forth between a mother and her baby. What is truly amazing is that these baby's cells can stay active in the mother's body for decades after birth—a phenomenon known as fetal microchimerism.
If a mother’s heart, liver, or other organs suffer an injury later in life, these lingering fetal cells will actually migrate straight to the site of the damage. Once there, they can transform into the specific types of cells needed to help repair and heal her body.

2. A surprising number of life-saving and everyday inventions were born purely out of women looking out for others. In 1902, a woman named Mary Anderson was riding a streetcar during a freezing sleet storm in New York City. She noticed that the driver had to keep opening the front window to manually wipe away the ice, leaving him shivering and delaying the passengers.
Feeling bad for the freezing driver, she went home and sketched out a lever-operated rubber blade that could clear the window from inside the cabin. She patented the very first windshield wipers a year later, entirely because she wanted a stranger to stay warm and dry.

3. In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, a brilliant group of women known as the "Harvard Computers" completely revolutionized astronomy. At a time when women weren't allowed to operate the university's telescopes, they were hired to analyze thousands of photographic glass plates of the night sky by hand.
Despite being barred from the actual observatory equipment, their mathematical precision unlocked the universe. Annie Jump Cannon created the star classification system still used by scientists today, and Henrietta Swan Leavitt discovered how to measure distances in deep space—the exact "cosmic yardstick" Edwin Hubble later used to prove the universe is expanding.

4. Biologically, some women possess an actual superpower when it comes to perceiving the world. While the average person has three types of color-sensing cone cells in their eyes, a genetic variation allows some women to possess four distinct types of cones.
This condition, called tetrachromacy, allows them to see up to 100 million different colors—roughly 100 times more than the rest of us. Where a standard eye sees a basic green leaf or a gray concrete wall, a tetrachromat can perceive an incredibly rich, shifting gradient of entirely distinct shades and tones that most people simply cannot detect.

Women are amazing!
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Anonymous 132282

>>132279
Do not respond to subhumans, do not reward the gaping holes in their brains and chromosomes with attention.

Anonymous 132292

>>132271
siding with israel because the opposition will turn you into into a sex slave is quite valid nona

Anonymous 132335

>>132247
Sounds like an amazing life

Anonymous 132336

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>>132335
And that’s the saddest part of it all. Men will never break free of it, because deep down they think it’s quite wonderful. They all want nothing more than to see women cry their names in ecstasy, to give them their emotional, physical, and existential validation all wrapped up in one. Complete salvation that no stupid doll could replicate. The harder it is to reach, the more satisfying it ultimately is.

It’s not enough for men to simply fuck a woman, otherwise a prostitute would be sufficient. Nor is it enough for a woman to like them, platonically. Only the completeness of true, female, romantic approval properly does the trick.

Does the same apply to women? No. Female virgins are prized if anything, like princesses. Whereas if you look at all the “powerful” men of the world, you’ll find that almost none of them are incels. The idea of a man finding value unto himself is something society finds laughable at best and extremely dangerous at worst. Men are nothing without their specific traits and their specific deeds. And that’s how they prefer it. After all, men never enjoy receiving participation trophies in sports. So the tyranny continues and will continue forever. Victory can’t exist without loss, and a verdict can’t be reached without a judge.

Anonymous 132341

Woman are people.


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bf clothes smell like ferret Anonymous 131785[Reply]

i love my boyfriend desu
but clothes that hang up in his room smell like ammonia-y ferret droppings. not musky, like cat pee if it was even worse, and without actually coming in contact with the pee. he has to wash his clothes when he comes over. when i go over i have to keep my clothes shut in my zipped suitcase. my dumb ass just hasn't told him that i know the source of it
we're ldr and idk how to broach the topic that it is gonna be me or the ferrets if he wants me to move in with him. i have migraines and my ocd already makes me think i'm stinky
also it's bad for animal welfare i think
wtf i do
(i already am bitey when he doesnt do stuff to my standard in my home, he just says ok and does it tho)

Anonymous 131787

build a decontamination chamber in your house

Anonymous 131788

>>131787
do not worry
there will be no house if this is not dealt with somehow

Anonymous 132339

If they're not spayed and neutered, then doing so should help a lot. If they already are and they stink that much… they are susceptible to human illnesses; you could try to give them the flu.


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Vent Thread Anonymous 129800[Reply]

Again because we need a gazillion of these
Previous Thread >>>/feels/125413
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Anonymous 132331

>>132330
…Are you okay?

Anonymous 132332

>>132331
No I'm really not

Anonymous 132333

>>132332
Is it a medical emergency? Can you call an ambulance?

Anonymous 132337

Wishing everybody here a happy weekend and some form of hope for the future to hold onto. You are all beautiful and know that for what it's worth I care about you even when it seems like nobody does.

Anonymous 132338

>>132337
Wishing you an even happier weekend for wishing me a happy weekend on an anonymous imageboard.


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Abusive OCD bf pt 2 Anonymous 95617[Reply]

>>>/feels/34633
Last thread hit limit and many nonas seem concerned for her safety.

If you see this, we hope you are ok! Please give us an update on the police situation.
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Anonymous 128450

>>128440
I cant even believe this thread is still here…..but four years later here we are.

Anonymous 128467

OP here. I'm going to a shelter. I feel weirdly calm about it.

Anonymous 128468

OP again. I started second-guessing myself. Husband keeps calling and threatening to call the police (what?) and show up at my workplace (I'm not there). Suddenly I'm worried the shelter won't take me. I don't know what the shelter will be like, which worries me. I don't know how I'll find another job.

But at least I won't be abused any more.

Anonymous 128474

On my way to the shelter. My husband showed up at my workplace so they're filing a police report.

Anonymous 132334

>>128474
updates?


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Anonymous 132317[Reply]

help i don’t know if this is the wrong place to ask this or if this is gross and tmi but like i genuinely dont know if this normal
so everytime i masturbate by penetration i pee… is that fucking normal ive looked everywhere and it said that it’s just squirting but i don’t know if it’s actually that and i’m fucking scared that if i get boyfriend and we have sex i’ll fucking piss on him

Anonymous 132319

Yes—this can be normal.

During penetration or strong arousal, the muscles that control urination can relax, and pressure from the movement can stimulate the bladder. Some people also notice a little urine (or “leakage”) especially with deeper penetration, certain positions, a full bladder, or intense stimulation.

What helps:

Try peeing beforehand.
Use a position that gives you more control over depth/pressure (or stop and adjust if you feel it happening).
Place a towel on the area to reduce stress.
If you do pelvic floor exercises (Kegels), many people find they reduce leakage over time.

When to get checked:

Burning/pain, strong urgency, foul-smelling urine, blood, fever (possible infection).
Wetting that happens often even when you’re not aroused or pressure is minimal.
Trouble holding urine, or new leakage after a change (e.g., childbirth, surgery).

Anonymous 132321

>>132319
Did you use ai to write this

Anonymous 132326

Uhh gynecologist? Hasn't happened to me


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what is wrong with me am i normal Anonymous 132022[Reply]

ive been with this guy for 6 months now and i’ve never felt so fucking horrible in my entire life because of him. we were dating but then he ghosted me for 5 days because i hung up a call to talk to my friend real quick. i was literally gonna call him back and that call only last 10 minutes. after that everything went to shit. he was saying he didn’t love me anymore out of no where. i felt like i got stabbed in my heart 5000 times. i begged him not to leave, bawling my fucking eyes out on call. and he did. so now we’ve been talking and flirting but to him we’re not official, to him we’re “just friends” despite how fucking much he flirts with me. the love he gives me doesn’t even feel real now. also i don’t know how to time all of this, its a lot, i’m sorry. but also i think i may have bpd or something i don’t know. it’s like all the littlest things he does makes me feel like shit and then i bawl my eyes out and start cutting myself. whenever he doesn’t wanna call i do that. or when he slightly sounds like he thinks another girl is attractive or something even though he’s not directly saying that. but also he views women in a very object way. because of that i cant really see men the same either. he’s told me whenever he saw a girl that he thought that was hot, talked about the porn he watched. i felt horrible. i loved him so much i didnt even think of any other guys i just thought, “wow this guy is so fucking ugly and boring my boyfriend is so much better” whenever i saw other guys. and he doesn’t even feel that way back. and when i told him about how i felt about it he just brushed it off saying it wasnt a big deal saying all men do that. but anyway, me and him just got into an argument because he promised me to call but he said he didn’t want to and i started crying and cutting myself. he didn’t even comfort me. he never comforts me. i feel like if he did i wouldnt even care that he didn’t wanna call. but its the fact that it’s like wow he just doesn’t give a shit about me. i just blocked him. please tell me am i fucking crazy? am i overreacting? i’m also partially asking this because he thinks i’m crazy.
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Anonymous 132028

>>132027
i guess i’m in love with the old him. i’m keep thinking he’ll go back someday. he used to treat me so good

Anonymous 132029

>>132028
Sometimes people change. The ideas they're absorbing, the experiences they live through, etc. It can all change how someone perceives the world and how they behave. If speaking with him doesn't help, it'll be very difficult to see eye to eye

Anonymous 132030

>6 months
This is not worth it
Please block him or something he’s manipulating you

Anonymous 132031

>>132028
>he used to treat me so good
This is exactly how it starts. It is also a pattern with moids from conservative culture that I’ve noticed. They treat women like queens but then also like shit because of how they objectify us or something. So he really doesn’t love you even though he fills some sort of unfulfilled emotional need.

Anonymous 132323

>>132028
This is a common tactic used by narcissists. The "old him" didn't exist, it's a facade.


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