>>119544Your family dynamic is toxic nona, but you already knew that. It’s easy for me to say to walk away from that shit when it’s not my family, but still, reading all that, my first thought was “run”.
Your mom has an emotionally incestuous relationship with your brother (typical boymom, many such cases) and it will only get worse, and as it gets worse, she’ll demand that YOU pick up the slack when her health fails. You can’t reason her out of this. Her entire identity is serving men. It’s a standard primitive survival tactic, probably enforced into her as a child: she knows that men are stronger, are more violent, command more respect and have more resources, so she hates and betrays other women in the hopes of being spared or protected from other men. It’s fear-based, but if she’s malicious, she’ll also actively enjoy other women’s suffering. Pick-me behaviour.
The best you can do is keep your head down, save your money, and leave. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, it happens to way too many girls and women. Your mom doesn’t respect herself, or you.
