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i am getting more autistic as i age Anonymous 121894[Reply]

22yo autistic girl diagnosed at 16. up until last year i never thought anything of it. that it was just some stupid label given by the doctors to label me as difficult and stuck up.
but now it seems my autism diagnosis wasn't actually a lie. i never had friends that i could get along with like other kids since i was 5 until now. people talking hurts my ears. i didn't really like any of my peers, they were always too outgoing and bright for me. they always did unsoliticed physical contact that made me so uncomfortable i ended up not leaving the house for the next few days. for some reason i cannot handle theatre audio systems anymore. i have to wear ear plugs just so i can watch movies on a big screen in film quality. everything sounds too sharp, like nails on a chalkboard. i cannot maintain eye contact with my psychiatrist and my therapist while talking. i talk staring at my hands while i fold and unfold the paper with my queue number on it (i bought a fidget cube so i can stare at my hands doing useless shit for as long as i need, paper degrades too easy). making exaggerated facial expressions like other people has gotten impossible. (people have gotten worried because my face is unmoving while i interact with them)
i feel like myself in high school where i hated everyone because i couldnt understand them for being so excited and so loud. now im in college and i can understand them more due to reading more philosophical/psychological topics on the human mind. but no matter how much i fucking "nerd out" i can never be truly human and day by day i feel more and more detached with humanity.

i'm turning into a sociopath. the more i have to make myself acceptable to society the more i feel like i am disappearing. this sucks. what if i really disappear and when i do have a chance to be a mother to a daughter, my rhetorical daughter will hate me for being so emotionally flat/empty/dead inside?

say that my dreams of raising a daughter better than my parents raised me will never come to anything. it'll hurt and i'll cope with that but, there are some days i feel so detached and not myself i have this slight unease if i murder family. i already hate my parents so i feel like they'll be the victims foremost if i do lose myself. but what i'm scared of is being so far gone. i commit murder in catatonia and get assessed in court in a catatonic state. no longer human, no different than an animal.

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Anonymous 128096

>>121894
I am 30 and my autism symptoms got worse I got diagnosed at 30. I always knew but it was never official, and I also have ADHD.
I feel like I did get more sensitive, but I know these conditions don't "get worse". Instead, I think we just get better at understanding our limits. Which you are, too. I don't ever leave my house without ear plugs, and have done so for only 2+ years as I thought I just need to deal with that.

I had a bisalp since I don't ever want to raise kids or spread autism and ADHD; consider if you can raise a disabled kid by yourself. If you have doubts, it's a NO.

Anonymous 128105

You're not turning into a sociopath. In terms of personality disorders the symptom you seem to be experiencing the most is not dissociality but rather detachment.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ICD-11_classification_of_personality_disorders
But there's a less concerning explanation for what you're going through, it's called autistic masking and I also experience it. What helps is to have some autistic friends and have a place /activity where you feel comfortable taking time to yourself. Having these moments with other autistics and having alone time to be yourself are extremely helpful in terms of not feeling like you're losing your mind about it, it also helps with depression and the like.

Anonymous 128198

>>121894
loop engage earplugs help me so much in loud environments

Anonymous 128235

Find socially competent, masking autists if you can to keep you from struggling with normie interaction. They do exist. You'd be better off finding other autistic women who understand your issues. Just find a legit autist and not one of those self diagnosed qwirky TikTok diagnosed ones

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>>128105
OP here, it’s been 8 months since I posted this. I’m doing better and the only thing that’s ever helped me so far is staying away from most people and cutting ties with people who just wore me down all my life.

I’m on antipsychotics and antidepressants. The antipsychotics help tremendously with the “I’m not human, I’m subhuman with no feelings.” kind of thoughts and the anxiety that came with it.

It was, (my psychologist said it was “creating and maintaining boundaries) but i think its more extreme, i just stopped trying to socialise with normal people. In other words I stopped masking. The moment school ends I go home immediately and avoid socialising “like a normal person”

All throughout my life my dad had put on expectations on how I should act, feel and look, and what should I have accomplished at certain points in my life and I’ve realised that shit is fucking toxic like industrial strength acid. Those expectations he put on me corroded my self esteem and self worth.

I dropped that mindset and I still have thoughts that I’m not as good as other people in being “a normal person” and I’m still struggling to come to terms with my autism. But I’m doing better.

(Sorry if the wording seems off, I’m typing this in the middle of class)



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Anonymous 128191[Reply]

How would you describe the feelings and differences of

>Young love

>Love at first sight
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
>Loving a friend
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
>Being "in love"
>Long term love
>Falling out of love
>Settling

Anonymous 128219

>Young love
When you're in high school or college and you date for the first time. Exciting but doesn't last long. Just don't endup with a child at this age.
>Love at first sight
Happens when you have an unhealthy attachment style. Usually avoidant. Avoidant feel intense love at first,which leads to lovebombing, and eventual discard, when those intense feelings subside
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
This is what i would say if i was deeply afraid of commitment
>Loving a friend
This is actually not that bad if the feeliings are reciprocated. you get to be love someone you're actually bonded to
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
See above
>Being "in love"
First 2-3 years, when the relationship is still new and in honeymoon phase. if you're avoidant/commitment issues that can be 1 year or less
>Long term love
Both people have a stable attachment style, and don't stop loving each other after the honeymoon phase ends
>Falling out of love
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Anonymous 128317

>Young love
When you have no idea and you get caught blindsided by strong feelings of desire towards someone. You want to do everything for them to be happy and to be with them always. You have few boundaries and if they let you, you stick to them like glue and people please to hell and back. If they feel the same way towards you, you have a wonderful time for the longest of time possible.
>Love at first sight
You see someone and you get the impression that you know them. They seem so familiar to you. You want to be with them. You are infatuated.
>"Just Dating" / "Seeing each other"
Few rules, few regulations, you both have an interest in each other. You try to see if there is secondary attraction and compatibility.
>Loving a friend
You appreciate them a lot. You want to protect them and help them but you don't want to be with them all the time, you don't want to kiss them or know every detail about them and you are not infatuated.
>Someone who you genuinely appreciate and feel grateful for being able to meet, and can make you emotional because of how they make you feel
That honestly comes across as someone you look up to or idolise.
>Being "in love"
In love means infatuated or bewitched. Your mind is occupied by the person daily. You feel excitement and glee to see them and spent time with them. You look forward to being around them. Butterflies.
>Long term love
Contentment that comes after infatuation/honeymoon phase ends. You are still attracted, want to spend time with and find the person appealing but you feel close to them and content in a way. Not likely to grovel during this phase and you see the person better for who they are and accept them.
>Falling out of love
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Vent Thread Anonymous 125413[Reply]

I don't even know what number we're on

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Anonymous 128241

I don't want to go home. But I don't have the money not to.

Anonymous 128248

Most trolling on 4shit an expression of mental illness
The “trolling” part is the pretense one

Anonymous 128252

I've had the same best friend for 9 years and I've been in love with him on and off the whole time. We talk every day, do stuff together, he has gotten me expensive thoughtful gifts, we talk about everything. I knew he'd sometimes use apps and go on a few dates but nothing was ever serious, he was mostly focused on his work. I thought of confessing my feelings a few times but I genuinely can't imagine my life without his friendship and decided against it every time in case that could ruin it. He randomly started dating someone like two months ago and only started to notice a difference in his behavior towards me during the last month. Talks a bit less, takes longer to reply (he'd always do it immediately). He has told me about her, which is weird since I never really heard from any of the other girls before. She's ugly (he's attractive), sounds uninteresting, larping as the same religion as us, doesn't share any interests with him… I feel so hurt and sad and like I've lost him. I don't know if it would hurt less if she seemed like a better option for him, but I guess he really likes her for whatever reason. I want him to be happy but we always said we'd be friends no matter what and I'm starting to panic. I know when we first meet someone we get extra excited and this might change for him eventually, but seeing how things that were a given to me change is so painful.

Anonymous 128281

>>128237
What makes you say? I am struggling a lot because of the things he has done. I would love to see him from another perspective.

Anonymous 128316

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I'm so scared of being watched and exposed it's terrifying
I can't even explain it



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Unsent Letter Thread Anonymous 128239[Reply]

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Anonymous 128307

can’t wait to decide if you’re allowed to keep your next job or not.

Anonymous 128308

>>128298
>>128305
>>128307
You're all the same moid

Anonymous 128309

it’s crazy how you only kept one friend.

Anonymous 128314

may 4th save the date !

Anonymous 128315

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modern technology is incredible. using scans from the skull of a neanderathal, we’ve been able to digitally bring to life what prehistoric men looked like. we’ve been able to do the same with bog bodies and bodies found in ice. it’s incredible this is what we evolved from. i just wish they had made him look happy instead of a grotesque contorted face of physical agony and abject misery. i’m sure that a long time ago, he was happy even if at the moment the scan captured he was clearly being tortured.



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NEETs what do you do all day? Anonymous 125667[Reply]

NEETS = Not in education employment or training. I’m over 25, any over over 25 NEETs? What do you actually do all day?

I’m awake now, took two puffs of my vape. TikTok scrolled, Reddit scrolled and played a game on my phone and I’m immensely bored. Ideas are welcome , any of active forums I should know about? Any & all welcome

There’s a lot of times where I just bed rot and do nothing due to the depression but I think this isn’t one of those days. But I am lonely as I have no one and bored and I don’t feel like gaming tbh.
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Anonymous 128268

>>128267
how? you're still young at 22 lol

Anonymous 128275

>>128268
>you're still young at X
NEVER think this way. It will end in regret.

Anonymous 128310

Clean, cook food, game or watch yt videos, go on walks with my friend sometimes, torture myself with the fact that I need to start looking for a job because im running out of money

Anonymous 128311

Besides satisfying my physiological needs, not much. I think a lot. From the moment i wake up i start thinking and i don't stop thinking until all my energy is depleted. It is lonely to be a thinker, to have realized things that take long time to realize, because you can't explain to others something that takes long time to realize for the same reason you can't learn a language by having someone explain it to you. It takes time and i have spent a lot of it. Now there is an abyss between me and other humans, it feels lonely, but at the same time i feel fortunate, i regret nothing. There is a way back to people, some day i might start helping them, but my compassion is still lacking.

Anonymous 128312

>>125667
Self study. Free courses online. Laugh at streams. Hobbies. Cloud watching, painting, woodwork. Explore. Go on virtual tours. Plenty of free crap to do online and IRL. Volunteer.



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unheard Anonymous 127364[Reply]

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Anonymous 127776

did i get lost along the way?
lose my mind for a new identity?
i quite enjoy ruining your day
and i just wanna cause a entropy

you tried so hard
to make a hero out of me
but there are some rules i don’t obey
and i just wanna cause a little chaos and
entropy

you tried so hard
to take the discord out of me
but guess what?
i wasn’t born that way
and i just wanna cause a little entropy

Anonymous 127777

and when you shame me
it makes me want it more

Anonymous 128023

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Anonymous 128024

panty-anarchy-pant…

Friday night, time to get drunk
Go, go to the party, time to get drunk
Arrive in the Clio, get driven by a hunk
Straight to the bedroom, driven by a hunk
Plenty of boys in the yard
One look at me and they get hard

H-Hard as stone, ready to bone
Like Medusa on a party throne
DJ, DJ, DJ DJ DJ
Slow it down for an epic BJ
Thanks, man, so glad you came
I think I love you, what's your name?
Don't leave yet, we're having fun
Friday night, number one
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Anonymous 128306

sing for me my sweet acolyte



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Hate Thread Anonymous 118525[Reply]

What do you hate and why?
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Anonymous 128269

AI bros- especially and specifically the ones that use AI to generate fake gfs to abuse, use it to undress pictures of women, use it to generate porn of women without their consent, etc.

Feels like AI is just another tool in the box for men to abuse and degrade women

Anonymous 128302

moid celebrities, especially comedians who oftentimes manage to be inflammatory, woman hating and ugly at the same time in an already lousy industry that objectifies and commodifies women to the extremes. a list ones are also evil incarnate. I'd like to send them all into a giant pot of scalding water and watch the skin boil off their bones

Anonymous 128303

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>>128302
>I'd like to send them all into a giant pot of scalding water and watch the skin boil off their bones

Anonymous 128304

>>128302
Youre hating on ugly women in an industry that commodifies them what

I get the hideous moid part but please name me some celebrity women that are ugly

This looks like more of the same basic primal bimbo shit

Anonymous 128313

>>128304
I never said any celebrity women were ugly what I said the men were ugly



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Anonymous 128299[Reply]

Why is making friends so hard as an autistic woman? I have ptsd from past female friendships

>Women who used me for emotional labor when she was upset/lonely, then totally disappeared until she needed advice or comfort again. She never asked how I'm doing

>Women being fake
>Women when they make fun of people passing by, whether it’s another girl wearing pants that they don’t like or a disabled person who can’t control their disability, their snide comments, make me instantly uncomfortable
>Women always trying to find validation from 'hot guys'
>Women making comments about your style or how to appear more beautiful
>Women want to vent about their various men, who are pumping and dumping them, constantly
>Dating men who she knew was toxic for her. Ruining her mental health over them (like intentionally hurting herself and sending herself to the hospital to see if they cared enough to show up) and dumping it all on me
>Women want to complain about their day constantly, the conversation is just an exchange of complaints
>Being thin is like blood in the water, especially to female secretaries. they diminish you to your looks, and when you're also smart they get offended
>They only talk to you to share trauma or trauma dump you or try to make you feel responsible for their life choices
>Putting down other women. and then being nice to those women to their face
>Be cautious around woman who become your best friend really fast
>Even childhood friends being jealous towards any accomplishments and goals that I have. It comes from insecurity
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Anonymous 128301

>>128299
It has nothing to do with being autistic. Most of them are desperate for some kind of approval. So you should immediately dismiss any kind of judgement or rejection from them, Especially if youre in a higher place and didnt initially come in looking for that kind of chaos. When i was younger i would try to understand them but its better if you dont. If theyre coming from a place of harrassment of any kind theyre like starved dogs already. I honestly dont think most women are any better than men because theyre brainwashed as hell and begging for scraps because of social conditioning when they dont even have to. Even the prettiest women on earth act like this. (Well honestly i think theyre even more brainwashed to behave desperate, because they have to act the part to please the man that already expects them to behave like this.)



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Anonymous 127725[Reply]

I cannot stand the political climate that exists today. As a leftist, I’m told to hate Republicans. I live in a very Republican area and these people are not bad people. I have a very bad cold and I can’t really breathe and I had to go pick up medication and it was like $100. I didn’t have enough money and I had to call somebody to ask to borrow some money and while I was calling, this old lady overheard and paid $100 for my pills. How can I hate these people when I know that they’re good at heart?
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Anonymous 128256

>>128232
You dont think healthcare, abortion and banned books effect you? Food safety laws stripped down because half the population voted a retard into office?

Anonymous 128257

>>128256
not just a retard, but a child rapist retard. I won't be surprised if a law passes that lowers the age of consent to 14

Anonymous 128285

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>>128159
It's not about left or right. Right wingers have a lot of batshit insane stuff but it doesn't make them bad.
People are imperfect and make mistakes all the time even if they are good willed like >>128208 said, society would be much better if people weren't as tribal whether based on lineage or political persuasion like >>128232 said

>>128167
Please be trolling

Anonymous 128286

Lets get priorities straight. Political systems don't matter, only genetics matter. Genetics determine all human culture.

Anonymous 128287

>>128286
Interesting way to sell national socialism and eugenics



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