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future Anonymous 111032[Reply]

>no hobbies
>no interests
>got diploma with few extracurriculars, no volunteer hours, no community engagement shit employers want
>no skills
>no friends or connections
>in community college but not really doing anything
>broke working dead end job
what do i do with my life?
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Anonymous 111043

>>111037
I heard the market isn't great rn for stocks, but if you do your research you might be able to figure out what works and what doesn't. I don't trust myself with investments because I'm not savvy enough. If you trust yourself with stocks invest in what you think will sell, what's doing well and do it!
You don't necessarily have to pick a path now, maybe just think of what would actually be fun to do but have a greater reward than writing- since it's a tough market and yeah a gig economy of sorts. I would only consider doing it if I started with short pieces or short stories because I don't have the attention span for a full book right now, but my long term goal is to work in PR for entertainment or music. My dream deep down has always been since I was a little girl to finish and write a book that hits it big kek. Which seems impossible. changed my major several times in college so I could decide on what I really wanted to do. My initial major like yours was undecided / psychology! It won't be too late to change if you decide to and you've got a good head on your shoulders starting core classes first. You're in a good place and you sound smart and levelheaded nona, and in the fray of it all a lightbulb may go on. You may discover what your true passion is and find a wonderful opportunity that allows you to exercise it. Once you do and if there's no opportunities yet, set a longer term goal on what you wanna do and how you can start.

Anonymous 111045

>>111043
i definitely need to do more research on investing and stuff, cause you're right it might be a super bad idea to start right now, but i'm sorta desperate, and hopefully it turns out to be a good avenue? it all seems really confusing but probably is a good thing to know about in the future, even if the market is bad right now.

i think i'm gonna take a bunch of different classes next semester to see if anything is interesting? i have a list on my phone of all the things that might be fun, i just don't know if i'll end up being fit for any of them. it's not the end of the world, i just feel really depressed & hopeless right now. like i wasted all my formative years rotting online & now i'm in the real world with nothing, oops

& thank you for your advice, nona! you also seem very smart to me, and i'm sure that you'll be capable of writing a beautiful book! what did your major end up being? pr and music seem like really good choices, similar to some of the things that i'm interested in taking classes on.

Anonymous 111046

>>111040
oops i guess that didn't really make sense. i meant that colleges care about that stuff, and employers care about colleges. i also think it would probably look somewhat good on a resume to be active in a community and a social, good person or something? idk

Anonymous 111047

>>111045
Go onto your bank's website and see if there is any tips for investment. When I started investing, I ended up calling my bank about it and they directed me to a free info-session that was hosted online. It was me and a bunch of other people being taught by a financial advisor about the basics of investment. Most banks will have these free informative resources for you. Try to find people around you that are interested in the stock market and ask them for their favourite stocks to buy. Right now, research airline company stocks. A lot of airlines are still recouping from COVID loses; if you invest now, you may double your money after 5-10 years. A lot of stocks are waiting games, especially the safe options: once you put the money in, you don't expect a good return for at least a decade or more.
>I wasted all my formative years
Nona much love to you but human beings have an average lifespan of 80 years. Even if you spend the next 20 years fucking around doing batshit stupid crap you will still be able to turn it around and die happy and secure at age 80. Let go of the illusion that childhood or youth matter. You will feel much freer.

Anonymous 111048

>>111047
i'll see about my bank's info, thank you!! unfortunately i am a loser with nobody around me, but i'll try checking out groups online about it for advice!
>let go of the illusion that childhood or youth matter
i think you're right generally, but since i've traumatized myself a lot as a kid, i don't think i'll ever be a suitable wife or mother (which is what i think i'd ideally want). i'd be glad to find a decent job and live a comfortable life alone for a while though.



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moid hate thread Anonymous 85163[Reply]

doesn’t have to be about your boyfriend. I just hate fucking men at this point.

>everyone of them has failed me

>any moid I’ve dated either had a rape kink, or raped me
>porn/hentai addiction
>used me for my body
>always had an alternative motive
>manipulated me into insanity
>abused me if I didn’t do anything they wanted
>even my own dad has failed me

I have no fucking hope in this world.
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Anonymous 111014

>>95982
>picrel
kek my childhood crush on link might have made me a femcel but maybe femceldom is a fate slightly better than being manipulated and exploited by a scrote. interacting with scrotes and dating them in hopes of escaping an abusive home was a mistake. there is no escape for me. salvation through christianity for women is only for married women who give birth, while men can just repent and be saved. i am undesirable, too hideous to find the unicorn man who will treat me with basic human dignity and that is ok. if being a femcel means i'm going to hell despite my faith, so be it.
>>111013
"male loneliness epidemic" is a joke that writes itself. how hard is it for scrotes to show a woman they're attracted to some basic human decency? i guess it takes 0.1% more effort than treating a sub-10 woman like absolute shit so they choose to be alone instead.

Anonymous 111016

>>111014
Well, we are going to be alone too, according to a projection by morgan stanley, 45% of working age women will be single by 2030.

Anonymous 111017

>>111016
if 60% of males are single but only 40% or so of women are projected to be, does that mean some of the taken males seeing multiple women at once? that's bleak. imagine sharing a disease-ridden manwhore. women are single by choice, most of the time. males are single because they are pornsick abusive degenerates and it's a miracle if they trick a single woman into putting up with them, much less several.

Anonymous 111034

>>111014
>>111017
>a small sunset of men dates and cheats on multiple women at once
>this leaves no women left for a huge portion of other men
>somehow in your brain this translates to "Those single men are all abusive and bad! Not the men who are serial cheaters, they didn't do anything wrong, it's the single men who I hate!"

Lol. Women really do all just want Chad, and will forgive Chad for anything. Women are only ever single because they aren't hot enough to be one of Chad's countless side bitches, they cope with it by pretending they actually hate all men while secretly praying for Chad to use an abuser everyday.

Anonymous 111044

>>111017
could you really say that women are single by choice when the reports say something like around almost half of them going to be single?



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pros/cons of your bf Anonymous 105405[Reply]

can we please start a pros/cons list of the bf you are dating.

i am sick of seeing bf brag threads, we need a counterbalance with the crappy things your bf does on top of the good things. can be as little as pet peeves!
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Anonymous 111033

>>111031
kek is this a reference to that one lcf post

Anonymous 111036

>>111029
this made me laugh, thank u

Anonymous 111039

>>111023
>all of us here basically therapists for our boyfriends
Therapists? You all sound more like pets to me. You sit around doing nothing while your boyfriends work full time and exist to serve you.

Anonymous 111041

>>111023
I'm not a therapist, therapists are emotional prostitutes. I actually care about him.

Anonymous 111042

>>111041
>I actually care about him
Care about all the free money he gives you in free favors he does for you maybe.
If you ever actually needed your help you'd dump him and get with a new guy within a day.



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/vent/ Anonymous 109995[Reply]

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Anonymous 111024

>>111021
your old online friend group sounds like a bunch of dramawhores. you don't owe them anything.

Anonymous 111025

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>jobless
>had mental breakdown that ruined life and also lost pretty much all irl friends
>afraid to reach back out to irl friends because I ghosted them when mentally unhinging and why'd they wanna talk to me
>dealing with mental health medication roulette for the past 3 months
>each medication worst reacting than the last
>fell allergic to lamotrigane after I was doing well on it for almost 2 months
>went to the ER twice bc of lamotrigane and then a medical grade panic attack from the withdrawal and a trigger
>lower grade antipsychotics gave me horrific akathisia and dyskenisia for a month
>barely slept for weeks
>having to start new medication
>please let this one work
>thus far it's just giving me tiredness and increased allergies
>doctor so concerned about me she's prescribed me clonazapam for panic episodes in case the meds fail
>why'd aps and a mood stabilizer ruining my mental health with side effects you're supposed to be helping me you retard pills
>and the worst part is lamotrigane worked before I went off meds for 2 years after I initially lost my insurance
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Anonymous 111027

>>111024
these ppl are all irl :,)

Anonymous 111028

>>111027
politely distance yourself, you don't owe em anything.

Anonymous 111038

>>111025
This literally happened to me almost one for one .-.



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How to leave him for good Anonymous 109222[Reply]

I need advice on how to no go back to my ex.

My bf is not a bad man but he is not helping enough with chores, is now unemployed and I work a split shift that leaves me dead tired at the end of the day. I'm obviously still in love but I know that its time to leave him before i waste more time with him teaching him how to clean and maintain a house like a normal adult. I live with him and that's the difficult part of it. Any advice, I really need it. +5 year relationship
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Anonymous 109307

>>109306
I understand, I hope it wont come to that.
The fact that he thinks that you are not serious about it is hard to understand after such a talk.

Did you set a hard deadline when, he and all is belongings have to be out of your place?

Stay strong nona, it will be fine!

Anonymous 109421

>>109307
thank you! i told him he had one month. its a lot of time for me, I feel like if i he was somewhere else it would be soooo easy. I know its not good but i would just talk to men so i dont get bored and maybe write smut or whatever but sleeping with him is just too much. I am super mad at him right now, sometimes i miss him and want to go back but today i want him out

Anonymous 109424

>>109421
One month is huge, you are not sleeping in the same bed anymore, aren't you?

Anonymous 109428

>>109424
I am, i dont have any other bed nor will I sleep in the sofa. and he wont either, I thought of buying in a sleeping bag or a futon i dont really want to waste my money in this.

Anonymous 111030

>>109428
Did he leave yet?



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remote places thread Anonymous 110993[Reply]

i am obsessed with remote places. i know some of you must be as well. picrel is the baikal lake.

Anonymous 111022

Sometimes I like to just open up google earth and fly over remote and desolate places.



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Anonymous 110384[Reply]

Hey you.
This is Wunjo, she wants to tell you something.

I know some of you have felt stuck for a while.
It seems that no matter what you do, you always end up right back in the same place.
I know how that feels.
The world is a bit crazy now, so much is changing at such a rapid pace.
There are so many options, so many unknowns, that we often get paralyzed and decide not to decide at all.
Out of fear, we stay with the current situation, even if that situation might not make us happy.

Today Wunjo is here to remind you:
Don't give up!
You have to rebel!
Failure hurts, but it's only temporary, compared to the eternal pain of regret.
Never stop trying to live the life you want.
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>>110979
This is his Ripy.
she's very small as you can see… she has a lot to learn about being a little fairy.
He also has a Luo, just like Wunjo. He doesn't name his dolls though.

Anonymous 110990

Owning dolls of little children screams pedophile. Fuck off.

Anonymous 110996

>>110990
Does owning figurines and plyshies of animals makes you a zoophile?

Anonymous 111001

love you

>>110990
retard

Anonymous 111019

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>>110996
>>111001
please don't fight.
>>110990
I hope that whatever has irritated you today doesn't continue to bother you



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how the fuck do i control kids with a timid personality and a small frame being a teacher? Anonymous 110272[Reply]

having no experience in working as a teacher for now im just asked to do desk work and to observe other teachers to learn from them, but yesterday as someone was busy i was asked to cover for them and it was a really embarassing day for me.
some kids used their cell phones in class, and i grabbed one of their phones but just as i turned back to do something the phone was gone and someone swiped it back. maybe 20% of the class listened to what i was saying while the rest were just talking or sleeping. some of them didnt finish their homework and were copying them in class. some of them didnt care about me when i asked to submit their homework notes even if it was empty and only like 10% of them gave their notebooks. one kid didnt even notice that i was standing next to him and was using his phone and scrolling instagram. some kids started to ask me if i am in a relationship and my age and my personal details and being the oversharing idiot i am i was responding to them and saw them sisterly. theyre girls so its cool but later i realized its very unprofessional.
i felt disturbed by all this and went to another teacher and she told me that im supposed to control the class and that i dont have to be tyrannical but i have to explain what theyre doing is wrong and make them face the consequences for their rule breaks and i just dont know what to do. one thing she told me that affected me the most is that "you are not their friend" and "dont let them call you "sis".

there are some teachers who are scary and also tyrannical ways to control students like shaming them for being dumb but i feel that these things are so wrong. i dont want to make the kids feel bad and traumatize them but at the same time i wish i also knew how to control them and make them be decent so that i dont get fired for being a poor teacher. there are rules that i shouldnt abuse, even verbally, but other teachers dont seem to care and call them horrible names.
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Anonymous 110942

>>110910
>Quality post
Cheers

>Bad actors dislike being watched

I think they like being the centre of attention, which is why yelling at them from across the room is so ineffective - it gives a chance for a back and forwards which means the remaining classroom will alternate attention between you and the troublesome one. Stopping your lesson and walking over to them still keeps me as the centre of attention (the real reason we're teachers amirite lolz??) and gives them minimal chance to 'look cool' in the eyes of their peers.

>taking their phones

Thankfully there's a "phone ban" in all schools here; if a kid's using a phone in school and refuses to hand it over it's basically an automatic suspension (who would've thought that having government legislation support teachers leads to positive results???). But I do agree - getting your way by force will put a target on your back.

>>110907
>Not a single teacher is compassionate about the students
That's really unfortunate. I know some teachers who are hard-arses as a way of being compassionate (e.g. "if you don't study, you'll fail, so I'm making you study for your own good"), and some teachers who are doormats because they don't care at all (e.g. "I'm close to retiring so do whatever the f___ you want, idc what you get on your test"). I'm compassionate in the sense that I want kids who were in my economic position (i.e. lower to lower-middle income families) to have a chance at a quality education too.

Anonymous 110968

>>110942

You're right. they definitely do like being the center of attention. A better term than bad actor might be "Chaos agent". Yelling and high emotional states are thrilling more than they are punishing. Stopping the lesson and having the room go silent is the opposite of chaos. It makes sense that doing things your way would reduce chaos and make a chaos agent a lot more uncomfortable.

Sounds like you've got a supportive admin. Cherish it, I'm sure you already do. I don't know what your union culture is like, but a lot of them are always slandering and shitting on the admin. Understand that your administrators are actually fighting back the Karens for you. It's a lot easier for district level admins to just dump all the Karen complaints on school staff and demand that you figure it out.

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Anonymous 110982

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Um, nonas seeing all these replies make me think that teaching is a job where narcissists and psychopaths thrive. You get admiration from students if you're a good teacher and a platform to be the center of attention, and you also get to break their minds and dominate them if they don't do something you want to. Both of this are highly stimulating and floods the brain with dopamine. A better metaphor for all this is just vampirism. Teachers are vampires.

I also notice how good it feels to explain concepts and answer questions when students ask me, and I also feel really good when I see a student do something that I taught perfectly. I think it's triggering my fixer urges.

I don't want any of this and I wish I could just do this like any other job. I also earn peanuts so I don't want to stay as a teacher forever.

Anonymous 111015

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Today I was asked to sub in for another teacher who was busy with something else and it went quite horrible. A dozen of students didn't even consider that I existed in the room and when I entered they were howling and catcalling me. I kept screaming and asking them to stop talking and I even went and asked them what their problem is but it was impossible to even establish some communication with them. Like, how can I even talk with someone who doesn't even want to listen to?
These brats were just bullying each other and one student even started to beat another one who was sitting next to him. They behaved like they're in playschool. I was helpless and I just stood there not knowing what to do.

I asked the students who were actually listening to me and wanted me to talk if their behavior is causing problems for them and they were like "just ignore them and teach for us we will listen" and apparently this is what the other teachers do too. I asked them why they're not complaining about them or doing anything about it and they were just silent. Nobody responded to my question. I guess they don't want to make enemies out of these meanines so they just ignore their presence, and their silence and ignorance gives them free reign to do whatever they want. I didn't like it and I'm not sure what to do if I got to teach these kind of students in future.



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Abusive OCD bf pt 2 Anonymous 95617[Reply]

>>>/feels/34633
Last thread hit limit and many nonas seem concerned for her safety.

If you see this, we hope you are ok! Please give us an update on the police situation.
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Anonymous 102335

This is so fake. This is an elaborate troll who's been stringing you all along with storytime posts for t h r e e years. Surely you don't believe these journal entries-type of posts and conveniently ignores any and all advice unless it's an excuse as to why she can't follow your advice, are real? How she baits and reels you all back in with a glimmer of hope ("I'm getting divorce papers") only to excuse not going through with it ("wait no actually I can't he-he") and repeating the cycle all over again.

Anonymous 102366

>>102335
some of us believe/know it's fake but it's like engaging in a larp so it's kinda fun/entertaining idk

Anonymous 110997

OP here. I left when tge raids got bad. I also don't want to be a lolcow. Things have gotten way worse. I reached out to a women's shelter but they're full right now. I went to a city counselor and got a lot of advice, and now there's a record if me seeking help. I'm looking at a new share house to move to next week. If I can move I'm going to go no contact and change my phone number while I get legal advice.

Thanks for being my friends when I needed it and helping me realize I was (and still am) being abused.

Anonymous 111011

>>110997
if youre not a troll, i'm proud of you for trying to get out

Anonymous 111026

>>110997
Good luck nona. Hoping you stay safe



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