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Anonymous 121744[Reply]

The whole phenomenon of this dude is proof that standards/body-shaming/fatphobia don’t exist for males. If the original post had been of a woman it would be like any other post and be lost to time. But because someone had the audacity to try to socially enforce any rock bottom, bare minimum physical standard for the sacred male, everyone threw a fit and he got a whole media festival of events, money and opportunities thrown at him for weeks on end. In real life a female is torn to shreds for not spending most of her mental energy on appearances, but something as febrile as “hey maybe a male shouldn’t be so fat he can barely walk” is completely socially unacceptable and would get you fired while every handmaiden within ten miles performatively throws themselves on his gangrenous fat-entombed micropenis.
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Anonymous 121750

>>121749
Know your place, perverted fetishist!

Anonymous 121751

>>121749
i promise you that you can easily find an attractive moid nona. thats the only type of men you should ever date tbh

Anonymous 121914

>>121751
Dating is for retardpilled worthless eaters and it’s completely irrelevant to my post
Sorry I forgot 99.9% of people are illiterate mongoloids and tried to have a discussion about something

Anonymous 121915

>>121914
lol okay but i will continue to oppress fat ugly men like picrel by rejecting and ignoring them for the rest of my life and so will most women. i love fatshaming men

Anonymous 121923

>>121915
Your individual actions aren’t relevant to the discussion of collective societal actions you self obsessed fool



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Abusive OCD bf pt 2 Anonymous 95617[Reply]

>>>/feels/34633
Last thread hit limit and many nonas seem concerned for her safety.

If you see this, we hope you are ok! Please give us an update on the police situation.
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Anonymous 120943

I'm scaring myself into staying…

I only make about 260,000yen a month after taxes. Our current apartment is 90000yen/month. Share houses start around 40000yen a month… I don't have much savings. Maybe I could rent a room with someone but I feel that will be hard to arrange on the DL. Manga cafe is 3000yen/night on weekdays. Hotels are more.

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Anonymous 120945

>>120944
Some errors here use this in place of number 2.
http://www.nwsnet.or.jp/

Anonymous 120946

>>120945
https://nwsnet.or.jp/
Sorry the 's' was missing

Anonymous 121922

op Here. I let my husband convince me I was the problem again. I convinced myself if I did better he would treat me better. I stopped fighting. I went along with everything. We had more good times, but he would often just turn cruel without warning. And when I didn't give into his baiting he would punish me.

Tonight I agreed to throw out some "contaminated" trash and do extra cleaning. I followed all his instructions. While I was cleaning he was watching tv, eating, and drinking. He kept accusing me of not cleaning and lying. When I finished a task he told me I didn't actually do it. Then he told me I finished too fast. This happened repeatedly until he set a timer and told me I had to spend 2 hours cleaning the entry way ( about a 1meter x 2 meter space including the genkan). All the while calling me a bitch and a liar. He was using headphones so I quietly put on some dirty clothes from the hamper and ran away. I turned off my phone. Bought food because I wasn't allowed to eat until I finished cleaning. Now I'm at a manga cafe. I feel a lot lighter even though I have no plan. tbh the thread of that girl who was groomed and kidnapped who had first made a thread about how to fix herself was running through my head.

>>120944
Sorry for not replying earlier. Thanks for the support. I've spoken with the shelter in my area and they will take me but I have to quit my job which I can't do right now.

I have no plan and I have a medical test and have a big work thing this week but I7ll manage.



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Anonymous 119969[Reply]

Anyone else just accept the fact that they'll never have a husband and kids? How do you cope?
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Anonymous 121875

I had a relationship with a guy a few years ago and it showed me the depths of my emotional problems, as well as how my "gender non conformity" makes relationships with men very difficult. I've been alone since and, although I do long for companionship and even family, when I try to picture myself in that scenario, it feels ridiculous, almost impossible. I've always wanted children, but find the prospect of motherhood very grim. I guess I cope by reminding myself that I wouldn't be a good parent.

>>121726
I hope you can follow through and end this relationship. If you truly want to have children you should give yourself a chance at it.

Anonymous 121892

>>121888
the vast majority of men in prehistoric times never reproduced lol

Anonymous 121896

Bump

Anonymous 121902

hope-freedom-wonde…

Humans don't breed in captivity, that's our species's last defense against enslavement.

Anonymous 121908

>>121902
it may interest you to know that the japanese have adapted Anne of Green Gables to anime again.



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Positivity. Anonymous 116556[Reply]

Share any positive feelings or positive things.

Garden your soul garden.
Every focus is infinite multiverses.
Keep watering the ideas/plants that make you feel the loveliest love


Here’s a thing that has made me feel so good and is important to me:
Thousands of Polska girls and Belarus girls are covering my NorthAmerican city with graffiti. They’ve somehow clearly gotten the idea to all become collectively like a splatoon. It has changed the energy immensely and really improved the omnipresent feminism quality~level vibe. These girls have religions about ancient euro queens and it really shows, lots of ethereal stuff.. I see so many soulful girls are more comfortable loitering around and making anywhere a party! That’s SO important! Sovl
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I've been having sinus/throat problems all week but suddenly they seem to be getting better!

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Five years ago a nona here was nice to me on my birthday. I think about her every year.

Anonymous 121359

>>118890
congrats!!!

Anonymous 121360

>>118890
congrats!!! wish u the best

Anonymous 121920

I'm wearing a new dress for the first time and I feel so pretty!



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Vent Thread Anonymous 120288[Reply]

Previous thread >>117577
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Anonymous 121904

>>121898
Ok first, breathe. You’re not an idiot and you’re not lazy. All of nature tries to put in the least amount of work in order to survive and nature is still too complex for us to understand. Obv the human world is different than the natural one, but don’t blame yourself for not conforming to a relatively recent invention. The amount of work may seem insurmountable, but 15 days is plenty of time to do plenty of work.

"Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs."
–Henry Ford (ik hes an asshole, it helped me tho)

Good you’re scared. 15 days is a bit too nebulous to really quantify. I would break your time into the number of hours you have and estimate time needed for each task.

I don’t have adhd, yet I use only 60% of the free time I have, even when I’m trying my hardest. I would recommend to take similar considerations. Try getting a time app for studying. I use this korean one (ypt), but any would do. Make sure its only tracking time spent working, and you’ll find your own efficiency ratio.

Do the pages first, why study a week before an exam to forget when you actually get there. Kill the smallest of your writing assignments and work your way to the big one unless there are other factors (earlier due date/group)

Tbh I think you’re burnout is due to the fact that 15 days is a long time and if you did whitelnuckle it would take only 10. But spend the time to get situated and know how much real time you have. I really think you got this nona, the only enemies you have are stress and work. It’s just stress and work. Overcome the stress and do the work, the rest will follow. Good luck nona.

Anonymous 121905

>>121898
Are you on ADHD meds? If not, just go for Adderall or Concerta. That shit does magic to your productivity for the first couple of weeks you take it.

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>>121904
thank you. You don’t know how much you’ve helped me. the part about 60% of your time actually made me feel so much better… and breaking it into hours is a good idea. And the app too I will look into…. It’s for tracking time spent working? to organize yourself?

>>121905 yes I am on adderall, thank God. When I wasn’t I just didnt do shit and it was horrible.

Anonymous 121909

>>121906
Yea its basically a glorified stopwatch to track true studytime. I would also set minigoals throughout the day to track progression (I always miss mine by a bit). I’ve begun logging the time it takes to do a certain task such that I can estimate it in the future. Really a waste of time if you’re confident, but to me I need some semblance of control. Sorry for sperging out so much on this, glad I helped a little. You got this!

Anonymous 121919

i feel completely heartbroken. not just emotionally, but physically. my chest actually aches, like my heart is bruised. my stomach feels sick all the time now. i try to eat, but every time i do, i feel like i’m going to cry. food just isn’t going down right. i feel so full of tears instead of hunger. i feel like I’m walking around constantly on the verge of breaking down. i cry randomly. when i try to sleep, i feel like i can’t breathe and i start to panic. it’s like this huge wave of grief is sitting inside me and i don’t know what to do with it. i hate how consuming this is. i hate how someone else’s actions can affect me so deeply. i feel weak and raw, like my body and emotions are just unraveling. i don’t even know what i’m doing right now. i just need to let it all out.



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how do I begin to heal Anonymous 121912[Reply]

I'm sure the subject I'm using has been posted here at least a hundred times but I believe this a slightly more unique situation.

For context, I met this guy online. Keep in mind he's much older than I am. (I have a preference…) We met online and chatted for about 6-7 months. During that time, we discussed me running away with him. Sure, I'm ready for a shortcut to escape my issues. I'll take whatever opportunity you give me, Mr. Sir. December of 2024 is when that internet idea came to real life. I ran away with him. I smashed my devices and left no trace of where I was last or where I was headed. No note. No verbal confession of either. I left with my last words being "I'll see you guys later."

I went on the run with him. I knew he was being looked for by the feds but didn't think much of it considering he convinced me it was purely over some discord scandals that happened years prior to us meeting. Sure, it struck me as odd but it sure as hell wasn't my first time running into somebody in the mix with the law for the wrong reasons.

We fled together. He did not tell me where we were going initially while we were online.. understandable lol. I loved this man dearly. We had our hiccups but, we always managed to overcome them.. When we got in person I didn't expect abuse as he assured me that he wasn't that way whatsoever. I was wrong to convince myself he wouldn't do that to me as he did. I was gone for just a month and a half but it felt like years. I ran to escape the exact things he would do to me. Eventually.. the case went national as they figured out I was no longer in the state. The fbi got involved and we were found after someone gave them a key lead.. his "identity."
We were detained at different times. I'm not sure who was first. I was taken by undercover law enforcement from the place we were staying and questioned about if we had any "activity" together by male officers after requesting female law enforcement.. I guess that's the least upsetting part of the whole thing..
I was returned home after questioning and holding. I still lied for him and covered his ass. I was not giving up the truth for anything. Not long after I returned back to my state, the lead detective on my case contacted my family and requested to see me.. nobody would tell me what for. So, I began to worry and get ahead of myself. A very long and excruciating hour and a half later, they arrived and I was met with the question of hisPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

Anonymous 121913

>>121912
im so sorry that happened to you nona
i uh……………. have no words. im speechless.

but
>much older than you
>the feds were looking for him
>didnt inform you of where you were going
yeah these are some extremely huge red flags you never should have ignored

>how to heal

seek therapy. talk to friends and family. but most of all, promise yourself to never make the same mistake of ignoring red flags in men. you WILL heal in time, everyone does. and hes just some worthless faggot who deserves to rot in jail. he would just have dragged you down. i feel bad for his ex. what a disgusting creature

Anonymous 121916

>>121913

Really, I wish I had never ignores those signs. I was very clearly being decieved and allowed myself to fall into it. I loved and still love him and I do not know how to make these feelings go away. I guess the first part in healing is making these feelings go away. But I don't know how.

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>>121916
this sounds recent so it might take you months to fully process. try to occupy your time with things you enjoy doing like your hobbies or interests. i know this is very cliche advice but even just going to the gym 3 times a week can be enough to get you on the right track of trying to get your mind off him. try to seek out support groups of domestic violence. try to tell yourself that you were never truly in love with him, because like you said he was deceiving you. you were in love with a fake, made-up version of him. the true him is an abusive murderer, basically the lowest of the low. he succeeded in deceiving you because he found you in a vulnerable state of mind and manipulated you.
its easier said than done when youre experiencing something thats as emotionally taxing as this, but you just cant give up.



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looking for betterment advice Anonymous 118711[Reply]

I have pretty much no family that cares for me, I'm sure I've lost my partner at this point, I have basically no friends. And of course, it is my fault. I am extremely mean to the people around me and push people away with how insane and insulting I am.
I pushed my partner away because I am insanely jealous (over nothing) and I start arguments (over nothing) and I am extremely selfish. I do not want to be this way forever. This has gone on so long my partner does not believe I can change. I know I can change, I want to change.

I have nothing left, I'm afraid it is already too late to prove I can change. I have been seriously considering the obvious. What do I have to lose anyways? Who cares?

I just want to be better for my partner, I want to be able to have a healthy relationship. I want to stop being so mean. I want to change my behavior. Therapy and medication do not seem to help. I just do not know what to do at this point. I can't eat and despite only getting two hours of sleep, I am not tired. I am wide awake, I am starving, I am nauseous, and I am full of hate for myself.

How can I make myself better? I am a reflection of my mother and I do not want to continue living this way.
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Anonymous 118721

>>118714
It was originally created for borderline personality disorder but people with ptsd or generally struggling with overwhelming emotions have found it effective. I’m not a great believer in talk therapy but DBT is more about building practical skills you can use everyday

Anonymous 118734

>>118711
>> I'm afraid it is already too late to prove I can change

How old are you? It's rarely too late for change

Anonymous 121910

hi guys.. OP here. He actually kidnapped me and is now in police custody for identity theft and evading police arrest for 7 years. I'm doing fantastic now! I'm going to be starting therapy and moving on with my life. I've definitely changed a bunch.

Anonymous 121911

>>121910
I don't believe you but I'd still like you to explain further

Anonymous 121917

>>121911

hi! I just posted about it in feels with the frog as the cover photo! I can give you his name if you'd like



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Am I not depressed enough to get help or something? Anonymous 121823[Reply]

I understand obviously there's people with a lot more issues in their lives but I don't understand why I've been waiting so long for help despite actually seeking it out. Its been over a year without so much as a peep and I've been so super low it sucks. Do they want me to try to kill myself again or something? Do I need to go back to chopping up my arms? What's going to trigger them to get me the help I need?

Anonymous 121828

>>121823
What if you go and get help and then you tell us in this thread how it went? We will be here waiting.

Anonymous 121907

>>121823
Help is not coming. You must self rescue.



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i am getting more autistic as i age Anonymous 121894[Reply]

22yo autistic girl diagnosed at 16. up until last year i never thought anything of it. that it was just some stupid label given by the doctors to label me as difficult and stuck up.
but now it seems my autism diagnosis wasn't actually a lie. i never had friends that i could get along with like other kids since i was 5 until now. people talking hurts my ears. i didn't really like any of my peers, they were always too outgoing and bright for me. they always did unsoliticed physical contact that made me so uncomfortable i ended up not leaving the house for the next few days. for some reason i cannot handle theatre audio systems anymore. i have to wear ear plugs just so i can watch movies on a big screen in film quality. everything sounds too sharp, like nails on a chalkboard. i cannot maintain eye contact with my psychiatrist and my therapist while talking. i talk staring at my hands while i fold and unfold the paper with my queue number on it (i bought a fidget cube so i can stare at my hands doing useless shit for as long as i need, paper degrades too easy). making exaggerated facial expressions like other people has gotten impossible. (people have gotten worried because my face is unmoving while i interact with them)
i feel like myself in high school where i hated everyone because i couldnt understand them for being so excited and so loud. now im in college and i can understand them more due to reading more philosophical/psychological topics on the human mind. but no matter how much i fucking "nerd out" i can never be truly human and day by day i feel more and more detached with humanity.

i'm turning into a sociopath. the more i have to make myself acceptable to society the more i feel like i am disappearing. this sucks. what if i really disappear and when i do have a chance to be a mother to a daughter, my rhetorical daughter will hate me for being so emotionally flat/empty/dead inside?

say that my dreams of raising a daughter better than my parents raised me will never come to anything. it'll hurt and i'll cope with that but, there are some days i feel so detached and not myself i have this slight unease if i murder family. i already hate my parents so i feel like they'll be the victims foremost if i do lose myself. but what i'm scared of is being so far gone. i commit murder in catatonia and get assessed in court in a catatonic state. no longer human, no different than an animal.

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Anonymous 121900

>>121894
the early 20s is when people usually start figuring themselves out, but it takes a while and that process may be longer or harder for someone with autism/social difficulties. there is nothing wrong with being withdrawn or disinterested in popular hobbies/activities. look for things you like doing, appreciate the time spent doing those things, use your time wisely to cultivate your skills.
eventually you'll find like-minded people and form sincere friendships with them, but if you're not interested in that, there's nothing inherently wrong with it either.

if you still live with your parents, try to limit your time around them until you manage to live by yourself. understand people unfortunately will always have certain expectations, but not meeting them doesn't determine your self worth.

focus on what you can do to feel better and build a routine that isn't distressing to you, since you have a lot of sensory issues.
if you truly dream of having a daughter, dont give up on it because of current limitations. but for now you should focus on yourself. once you improve your situation then you can start thinking about that.

being scared of hurting others/going crazy are common fears for people who have gone through abuse. that drives you closer to humanity, not further from it

take care



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