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Vent thread Anonymous 132763[Reply]

Again we need to vent
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Anonymous 133451

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Went to a psychologist recently as part of a general check up. She told me I must not keep negativity inside me, I must reach out for help or support whenever I need it.

But I just can't do it. I can't even find the words to express what I'm feeling. And the more I think about it the more I just want to go numb. After all, what's the point of dragging someone else down with me?

Maybe I just need to come up with a different approach. Try expressing myself in a way that's a bit more productive, something like that.

Anonymous 133453

I got jumpscared by nsfl on another website. The most disturbing thing I saw was probably people faces being blown up and decapitated and horrifically deformed after a bomb went off. If the face was destroyed I would've been able to handle it maybe but the fact that it was left looking somewhat intact but mutilated as if it was some kind of rotting prop fucks with me so bad. I'm tearing up thinking of it and have been unable to sleep after seeing it. My dumbass got flood detected ugh shit shit shit

Anonymous 133454

>>133443
woke up to there being $6 left to spend on the card and he spent $15 at 7-11. idk why I didn't lock it before but I just did. I'm so sick of him and idk why he wants to fuck me over so bad

Anonymous 133455

>>133451
Noni I really relate and sympathise with you, I hope you can find something that will make you feel better, talking to people is always seen as the solution but if it’s such an indescribable feeling it only makes it worse. All I do to try and help me is write. I can never write out exactly what the feeling is but I’ve gotten close sometimes, and it can still help me understand a little better.
Also picrel does something for me sorry

Anonymous 133456

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Just so sad about where my life is. I always thought my 20s were going to be great and I dreamed of being a mom by this point. But I've accomplished none of it and I am a neet who is rapidly approaching 30. Events during my early 20s totally mentally scarred me in so many ways that I became extremely closed off. Idk if I'll ever be able to find a husband and have children at this point. I need to get a job and move out first if I want any hope at finding a husband. I'm not sure any guy would want to date a loser neurotic girl like me who still lives with her parents. I hope I can turn my life around. I know people get married and have children in their 30s but it's not ideal and it's just going to be an uphill battle for me since I also am battling years of extreme depression and anxiety. Although at this point, I'd be happy if I can just fix my neuroticism. At least then I wouldn't feel like shit about myself all the time.



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Any German Women here? Anonymous 133119[Reply]

I'm German and would like to connect with other German PinkPill Women on here. Have you found community? Only see English speaking threads everywhere

Anonymous 133120

>>133119
There are people from other countries here but generally everyone just speaks in english here because it's easiest. I don't think I've heard of any germans on here though

Anonymous 133390

>>133119
I'm German and I've met multiple German women who use this site. But I haven't found any group settings to meet others like us, it's always been 1:1 so far.

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>>133119
You can always just use translate to translate the page automatically, thats what i do with a lot of sites now

Anonymous 133449

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how to date when you're a chud? Anonymous 133372[Reply]

genuinely i feel like i got nothing to offer. i have a job but it's minimum wage and i'm struggling to find work elsewhere. i can't drive even though i'm in grad school. and i'm chopped af (even though whenever i say this people are like "nooo you're so pretty ahaha to make me feel better. like bruh if wasn't ugly i wouldn't be here).
i usually end up third wheeling while my pretty friends get hit on or listening to their woes of people thinking they're hot and it just makes me feel weirdly uncomfortable because thats rarely happened to me. and obviously i don't think they should get attention they don't want! but i guess i feel a terrible sense of jealously over being desired even if i know it's wrong. it's weird and makes me feel guilty.
it's gotten to the point where my online friend made a weirdly nsfw comment to me but i wasn't even bothered by it because it made me feel wanted for once? i know it was bad and i should call him out, but it's been the only think to make my heart skip a beat in so long.
idk mostly a vent but if anyone has any advice on how to not be a total loser i would like to hear it ^^ hoping whoever is reading this is doing better than i am

Anonymous 133432

>>133372
For one, you should draw a line with people making comments like that towards you. That’s a pretty big red flag that they’re only really interested in you because you’re a woman and they want to get their willy wet.

I get wishing people would flirt with you, I really do, I was and still am in a similar boat with you in regards to feeling unwanted, but when I actually reciprocated the few flirts I did get, bad stuff happened that lead to my heart getting broke. As for what you can do, I would say just make the most of what you have, something that’s numbed those feelings a lot for me is trying as much new shit as possible helped a bunch, and constantly leaving my comfort zone to explore has made me feel a lot more grounded.

When it comes to actually finding what you seek, I’m sorry Nona but you’ll have to be patient. Finding someone you can trust and reciprocate the want you show them cannot be done in a day. If you branch out from your comfort zone, you’ll hopefully find what you seek, but you’ll have to show initiative.

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Like the other nona said, get out of your comfort zone, you'll meet many more people and learn about yourself. If something isn't your thing then at least you have the experience and an interesting story. You'll become more interesting and that will attract people to you. More opportunities to meet people and some of them will become friends and potentianly maybe even lovers. The right person is out there, you just have to go meet them



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Anonymous 133377[Reply]

I feel pathetic.
I broke up with my gf of couple years earlier this year and tried dating guys, and found one who fits me well. We have same hobbies, get each others humor, always a gentleman, treats me well, he has a stable well paying job, is not weird pervert or gambling addict, plays lots of same games as me, and likes the type of music that i do. The only thing is that i don't find him attractive, i am gay and knew this before getting with him, but i wanted to be the one taken care of for once and not have to be the "top". I broke up with him couple months ago when i was sure that i cannot be with him despite him being exactly the partner i like. I still talk with him online and we watch anime often, neither of us have many friends around, he moved to the area couple months ago and hasn't found a local friend group yet. I only really talk and hang out with my best friend but she is crazy busy all the time and we only see each other like once or twice a month, which i appreciate greatly her making time for me. I went on a couple dates recently with a girl but we did not really get along well so we broke it off, she was the only person who held me in a very long time and i miss having physical contact. I told my friend that im gonna see the guy this weekend and she said that its a bad idea, and one of our friends that was with her told me i need to stop fucking around and seriously get myself in order. I know it is, but i am lonely and want to be wanted and i have someone trusted who i can see and spend time with. I know he won't do anything to me, he's harmless, but i feel disgusted at myself doing this. I felt so jaded and callous lately that i think im expressing that by doing problematic things and not caring that its wrong or hurtful to others or myself, i just want to feel something. I need to work on my career and get more out of the house but i need to feel alright before i can take on the world. I'm disgusting for using a good guy like him who truly cares about me but its this or spiraling mentally alone in my room.
I know the answer is simple, get a girl that loves you like he does, but the way i am right now, i do not have anything good to offer to a partner. I guess i could cook a bit, and be supportive and offer advice, but i don't have a stable job or could provide anything substantial. So even if i found a girl like me, i cannot do anything for her.
I don't know why i made this thread, i guess to vent. Please, if you have anPost too long. Click here to view the full text.
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>>133383
I do know it will be hard work, and i know what the correct path is, i think i just wanted to vent my feelings so i came here to just get it out and well, not feel as lonely for the moment. I appreciate your replies

Anonymous 133387

>>133380
It's not just them. I get such bad vibes from you. Girl you sound like a parasite.

Other women aren't going to tolerate this nonsense so you go after the moids only to realize you don't like them and that you can't hide the fact that you're not willing to have sex with them forever. You want someone to do everything for you.

And then you turn around and cry because no one tolerates but you'll never do anything about these behaviors will you?

Anonymous 133388

>>133377
is this the nona that was dating a tif who didn't put out and trying to get them to detransition?

Anonymous 133409

Nona I have a question if you're still here.

Why didn't you just stay with him and have a platonic or open relationship? You said he moved to your area right? It sounds like he'd do a lot for you. You could still have someone that takes care of you while getting to go on dates and sleep with women.

I would look into it if you feel comfortable. There are a lot of relationships that function this way.

Anonymous 133447

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>>133409
This is an interesting idea, i have not really considered this. I broke up with him because i want to be with a woman and fully dedicate myself to her. I respect him and enjoy spending time with him but he deserves someone who can be his everything. I know that if i stayed it would be an uncomfortable love and would nag me on the inside the whole time. I am slowly separating from him while still being amicable. I think we could be platonic friends who are just close without any issues of feelings getting caught up. When i told him i had a couple dates lines up he was genuinely happy for me, i am trying to help him get dates too



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Is S/A the only way? Anonymous 133444[Reply]

I've never been pretty (maybe I never will). Even my family made (and still) jokes abt that, and as a child I belived it even if it was just a joke, since growing up there was no boy even wanting me and other girls made fun of me and never took me seriously as a friend. Only one men has touched me and it was my grandma's husband, I still feel gross, if I was unloveable already, that made me a fucking monster. But I can't let that go, what if that's the only time I can feel desired and will never happen again? I'm scared, I try to be skinnier by fasting and exercise, I don't have a coventional style (since I like visual kei and alt things in general) but I try to look pretty with it, but still nothing happens, I need some nice man to touch me and feel everything is okay, but until then, I'll only have the image of a old man licking me, and I'll never be able to forget that until I feel real love.

Anonymous 133446

This seems like bait but if not, I'm sorry that happened to you. Love is out there if you want it but be discerning when choosing a partner. Nobody is beneath love



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(un)official blogposting thread Anonymous 69765[Reply]

tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
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Anonymous 133314

>>133296
Dean Withers is so fugly

Anonymous 133335

I really ought to start getting some sort of income or a job
I’m paranoid if I lose my husband aka only breadwinner I’ll get fucked

Anonymous 133359

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gonna try and escape neetdom. hopefully it works this time. wish me luck.

Anonymous 133360

>>133359
good luck have fun

Anonymous 133445

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>>133360
thanks nona i'll try!
>>133359
update: already have been rejected from one job. so that sucks.
my anxiety is so bad, but the only way it's going to get better is if i continue to move forward.
i WILL make it out. i WILL find a job. i WILL turn my life around. one way or another i WILL do it.
idk exactly how, but i will.



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I cannot be normal around my mother Anonymous 133385[Reply]

Looking for advice and the possible reason for this. A couple years ago, I lost a couple family members including my father through an accident which led me to isolate, losing the ability to socialize properly, but after some therapy I was able to make a lot of new friends, now I can easily make friends and go out. My problem is, I act completely different infront of my friends/relationships compared to my mother. I go into a small shell, she has never been abusive but incredibly supportive of my journey but this really gets to me because she probably things I am genuinely retarded when I am actually a big socialite and I can look into other peoples faces and hold good conversation, good posture, hygiene, etc. It's like I see her as a caregiver.. I don't know why I do this because it really makes me look really weak in front of my family. What can I do to become more normal and functioning around my mother that I can do with my friends?

Anonymous 133386

>>133385
An average day for a friend is:
I am in makeup, nice clothes, smiling, socialising, making the effort, planning, eye contact, good posture, smell good, eat well with friends

an average day with my mom:
hair tangled, hair greasy,eating junk, i dont say hi or talk to mum, my brain goes foggy, i am unable to talk long conversations without messing up words, i wear same top a week straight, i dont leave my room

why does this happen when i love my mom the most?

Anonymous 133389

Autism

Anonymous 133396

>>133385
Why do you think you do that

Anonymous 133397

>>133386
Just try behaving differently at home, whats stopping you

Anonymous 133440

Because you take your mother for granted and so you don't have to try.
You put in the effort for others because you have to earn it, while your mom you already have her unconditional support so you have no reason to improve.



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Cats Anonymous 133411[Reply]

i wish i had a cat so bad theyre literally so cute and adorable. cats reduce stress too!!! im one of those people who believes the cat chooses you, not the other way around lol. i hate when ppl say “you’re gonna be a lonely cat lady with cats and wine” like thats supposed to scare me babe thats literally my dream life. i love cats so much

Anonymous 133412

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>>133411
Listen, sis. You can't spend your whole life chasing a 1% cat chad. Even if you got one, he'd just use you (and every one of your neighbors) for food. You gotta learn to love a 8/10 cat. And don't wait for one to come to you. find one you like and take him for yourself. Trust me, the cat will be happy you're paying attention to it.

Anonymous 133413

>>133412
scrote all cats are 10/10 cats

Anonymous 133423

I have a cat that is a wonderful companion and I love him very much.

Only annoying he ever does is run and jump on/off my bed when I am trying sleep which wakes me up. I have enough trouble sleep as it is so I had to start kicking him out of the room at night. He cries at my door and makes me sad but I need sleep

Anonymous 133438

>>133411
my mom dont like cats she’s actually scared of cats. how tf do i convince her to let me adopt one??



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Anonymous 133080

I miss you.

I wish other people hadn't broken and ruined me. You had more patience for me than anyone else despite all the years of trauma have have piled up on me mentally.

No one else will ever love me the way you did and I wish I was in better condition to receive that love instead of running away. I'm sorry.

Even if I come out of therapy renewed and whole again I'll still feel like killing myself up because I fucked up so badly.

Anonymous 133219

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R,

I like to think that my life's improved since then. I still get depressed sometimes but I'm doing way better now. I've been diagnosed with autism and I've been going to therapy. I'm doing fine career-wise. I feel like I luckily won't ever reach that low, ever again.
Although everything's changed, I do sometimes still think about you. I wonder what you've been up to. Sometimes I'd just like to have a chat with you, as friends. I hope you're ok.

H

Anonymous 133407

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I’m gonna miss you, my handsome bf. Well, I guess you’re not my handsome bf anymore. I’m still in denial about it, I don’t want to delete the folder I have full of photos of you and our messages, nor do I want to scribble off the date on my calendar when you were meant to come down and see me. I understand this is my fault, I was too harsh with you and I hurt you. I hope one day we can be together, even if it’s another lifetime. Thank you for everything Jay, I will love you forever with all my heart, my little plane autist.

Anonymous 133408

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>>133219
>>133407
You're all so depressing. It's just a moid. There's so many of them out there and I can promise you that your moid will talk to you again if you message.

Anonymous 133410

I miss you more than I probably should, and I wish we could’ve done all the things we talked about. I regret fucking it up when we were so close to actually having it all. I guess what hurts most is realizing that maybe you never felt as deeply about me as I did about you. I hope someone loves me one day as much as I loved you, and when they do, I hope I never hurt them the way you hurt me. I just wish things had turned out differently.



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