I get the same issue, it's like a weird guilty feeling, like I feel rude or some shit.
I kinda came to realize I'm pretty demi, I don't feel right thinking in a sexual context with a person unless there's a romantic intimacy going on.
Doesn't effect general masturbation to porn or hentai or whatever, but I can't focus on an actual person without this weird wrong guilty awkward feeling.
Maybe look into demi? hope my ramble helped in some way.
I used to get this but it was because I was repressed and also felt bad sexualizing someone against their will.
Now I'm generally less empathetic and more selfish, so I don't care. It's also not as if they'll ever find out, and if they do (in a relationship context) it would be fine anyway.
>>14447 I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it except in situations where it's like, nudes stolen from their private accounts or something
internal fantasy is your own business, so as long as it feels cool to you, and you're not contributing to any skeevy stuff with what you might view, its all good
lmao demi is a made up term for people to feel special. it's normal for some people to feel okay with this and others to not, your preference isn't an orientation. calm down. it's not weird anon, I've never been able to. I agree, it feels rude even though it's internal and no one will ever know. I'm currently dating someone and I find I can think about them just fine, but it's because I feel like i have "permission." as long as you have another way to get off, it doesn't matter. just have fun ;)
Yeah I can't do it while thinking of anyone. I feel wrong and like I'm crossing boundaries, like I know I wouldn't like it if someone did it to me so I have that same respect for others, I guess.
whats up with those weird euphemisms… i cant really masturbate to the thought of people i know irl either, it feels kinda violatory for some reason. i guess i dont like the thought of others masturbating to me, so i dont like doing it to them either
>>16843 >is this a common thing or are we weirdos Both. I'm not shunning it, but pushing it to your lover is probably going to make you even more lustful for them, whatever bad that is to you.
Nope I could never either. something feels wrong about it and it turns me off immediately. it feels dehumanizing in a way like my brain goes "omg anon that's so creepy of you, stop it! that's a kind person!".
At most i had a dream where i kissed my crush and touched their leg. i felt like a sick pervert when i woke up lol. made me so ashamed, i couldn't talk to my crush for a few days because i remembered the dream and felt disgusting.
sidenote. that's a very overly quirkyyyyy style of reddit eupherism. i don't like it at all tbh.