Sons or Daughters Anonymous 216037
Which would you prefer?
I could see pros and cons for both.
This question runs into John Rawls' "Veil of Ignorance." Rawls' solution to the Veil of Ignorance is that one should attempt to aim for the highest minimum, rather than the highest maximum or even median. Under both options the question becomes "what is the worst that could happen."
The worst possible daughter seems infinitely better than the worst possible son.
That's an awfully negative way of thinking… Would your answer be the same if you were looking at averages or best possible outcomes?
Daughters, but that's primarily because my only experience with boys is my own son who was, sadly, born without any survival instinct. He causes me moments of sheer terror almost daily as he immediately gives into monkey instincts to climb tall things, go as fast as is physically possible and is fascinated by anything flammable.
I'd prefer a daughter, but it seems like in general sons are a bit lower maintenance, can do chores, and offer security in their older years. But it also seems like if your son was violent, it would be really scary. Just thinking about a 16 year old who is a foot taller than me, yelling at me that I can't legally kick out of my house freaks me out.
The happiest men seem far happier than the happiest women, the most financially or sexually successful likewise.
However the median male seems distinctly inferior to the median daughter. This is reflected even in a simple, lazy examination of college admissions rates.
Having a football captain, good grade, obedient son seems like a much different experience than 350lb neckbeard reddit user. How do you even prevent the ladder? Is it just fate?
>>216052>Having a football captain, good grade, obedient son
I'm sorry nona but you're going to need to pick 2 out of those 3 at most. If he's smart and strong he's going to raise hell.
Whenever I'd interact with boys going to private schools, they seemed to fit into those categories. Maybe having all three requires having lots of money.
I would be very happy with either option. I am not picky, but I really do want a son. I keep having dreams where I am very old, on a porch and there is a little boy in my lap with dark features and curly hair like the prettiest doll. It makes me want to cry when I wake up. I know that sounds idealistic and actually having children is different from your dreams, but I want it so bad :(
But I would equally love a girl. I would like to teach her how to care for animals and ride horses etc. She would be so cute.
It's inherently immoral to bring male life into the world.
Daughters, part of why I don't think I'm anywhere near mature enough for kids is that I genuinely just… don't want a son. I imagine myself as a parent quite often but it's always this vision of having a girl and replicating the dynamic I had with my own mom
>>216037>d there is a little boy in my lap with dark features and curly hair like the prettiest doll.
I noticed that men treat children as part of their "legacy" while women think of them as cute little accessories, both are bad imo. Do you never think that you're bringing an entire person with consciousness into the world?
If I ever get pregnant I’ll be having either a daughter or an abortion
>>216044>can do chores
I'd choose a daughter. I have a job where a lot of customers come in with kids. The daughters are always so kind to their mothers and help out, even if they are three years old they will still try to help their mommies bag their groceries. The sons are hit or miss, they either stand there holding a Fortnite gift card their mom buys for them or they lie in the basket of the shopping cart despite being old enough to walk and talk. Only one boy seemed polite and he was wearing a school uniform and did not complain when his mom asked him to go get some cream cheese. Usually older (teenage) boys will help their mothers, but anything younger than that and they usually just stand there and watch their mom do everything. Though sometimes a daughter will be filming tiktoks instead of helping, but this is much more rare. Easy solution is to not let your child have a tiktok (the girls are like 10)
This but ideally I should not reproduce because I would be an abusive mother.
I would prefer mostly daughters but wouldn't mind having a son. I'd like my firstborn at least to be female.
>>216052>How do you even prevent the ladder?
Instill good habits into them at an early age. Provide them an appreciation (not infatuation) with food and proper nutrition. Allow them exercise every day and opportunities to go outside (as simple as registering them for a sport). Let them have opportunities to interact with peers. Be strict, but not overbearing, with electronics, especially as they become older.This needn't be said but this isn't 100% foolproof; you can only nurture someone for so long before nature takes its turn. But I will say from experience that encouraging good habits in young children will provide them with the tools necessary for a fulfilling life in adulthood
It's right there in my reply duh.>>216057>I know that sounds idealistic and actually having children is different from your dreams
The entire question of whether you prefer a girl or a boy is pretty objectifying to begin with. You should be ready to support your child regardless. When you ask "do you never think you're bringing a bringing an entire person with consciousness into the world?" The answer is no because I'm not shooting out kids on the reg.I was just talking about my unconscious thoughts, dreams I couldn't even control, but it's not reality. I'm actually putting off children until way later on in my life as well so I can plan properly because I know it's another human life. But it's pretty easy to assume things of comments from anonymous people.
I mean like carrying stuff and mowing the lawn type stuff. I usually only see grown moids and boys doing stuff like that. I'd like a house with a yard oe day, but I'm not pushing a lawnmower around all day or shoveling snow. >>216195
If your first born is a son, you could use him to beat up moids trying to get with your daughters. >>216204
I hear contact sports (Wrestling, Football, other marital arts) and a physically imposing… father help to sons to control their strength. Its like when kittens and puppies fight each other. They learn boundaries.
Not sure if I would bring a girl to this world
I always imagined myself having a girl but I guess I wouldn’t mind a boy.
My family is riddled with mental problems, addiction stuff and autism anyway so the kid is gonna have some issues either way.
daughters by far. i wouldn't want to deal with male puberty as i obviously have no connection to that experience and i think i'd be awkward with it. i know my daughter would be a complete nightmare like me during puberty though but maybe i'd be able to handle it better than my own mother kek
Daughters. There's no way in hell I'm producing more scrotes to fuck up the world.
daughter by a fucking mile i'm throwing myself down a flight of stairs in hopes of a miscarriage if the fetus is male
there used to be a safe, legal option
Maybe the right answer is both. Get to experience both. Maybe I'm being idealistic but it does have a nice ring to it in my head. Going to my son's sporting events. Playing with my daughter. Getting to watch them both become well developed adults. huuuuuhhhhhh…
But then you have to put equal hard effort so both of them will grow up to be good people. I'm an older sister and I'm a failure loser with no experience and I hate the world while my younger brother is a successful, good normie with gf and social life.
I'm sorry to hear that and you probably aren't a failure. I think the ideal way to raise both sons and daughters with with a good maternal and paternal figure. With either sex they both pay important roles in development. Fathers teach restraint, self control, and discipline, while Mothers keep their children happy, creative, thoughtful, and a whole lot more. I think its just tough for kids in a single Mother or father environment. Moids can't really do a mothers role and a mother can't really do a father's role.
I wouldn't say my parents were bad parental figures but they were always kind of absent because of work, so that's the con of having multiple kids unless idk you're rich and have time for your kids.
Despite paychecks getting lower (compared to inflation) work hours have gotten much longer have the decades.
How do you know when you've found the right partner to have children with?
see how they react around kids
But which reaction is good? should they be really into kids? uninterested?
You could also just ask. Just because someone likes
being around children, doesn't mean that they want
children. The question of raising a family is a pretty serious topic on its own that warrants a 'sit-down' conversation.
What kind of reaction should they have? There is generally little reason to interact with other peoples kids. I imagine most men, and probably most women, have a negligible interest in random children.
Not necessarily. I grew up with a guy who runs his own construction company.
In school he was an over achiever in practically every subject and was captain of the swimming team.
He's always been strong, kind and good natured. His family, like mine, was lower middle class so it wasn't money. It was his parents. They've always been extremely good people and they have a way of making you feel welcome and accepted. They were the kind of neighbours who would mow your lawn because they were already doing theirs. Invite the family over for Barbeques in the summer and if they were going to do something fun, come over and ask if you wanted to join them.
I have all kinds of fun memories with him, and he had a crush on me from middle school all the way to the end of high school. Then I went off to university and he went to an accelerated trade school even though he had a ticket to whatever college he wanted to apply for. His parents were behind the decision 100% because they were confident he knew what he wanted.
10 years later and he's running a residential construction business and I'm posting about him on a Nonas Knitting and Cross-Stitching BBS.
You can play with your daughter and
attend her sporting events. I don't blame you for wanting both though.>>216896
Are you sad you never got with him? Did he age well? It seems like private schools may be the way to go with moidlets. Is it because the teachers are stricter and are allowed to discipline kids?
Ideally a daughter AND a son.
I'm an only child and I'm 100% convinced my life would have been better if I had a sibling.
>>216037>Which would you prefer?
Daughters are the only option. Anything else is an abortion.
And why would I do any of that?
Boymoms are some of the most embarrassing pick-mes out there.>as long as they're not black
Wait, what? Why?
Knowing North Van his Mom is probably a chinese mainlander. At best Korean
Mainlanders are really uneducated and unrefined, to say the least, regardless of how much money they have
You're telling me that's a person and not a brand of camping accessories for living in a van?
Yup that’s what I was thinking. I’m asian and asian moms and grandmas are super racist against blacks (They lump brown guys with blacks too btw). Been told the same thing to not to date black or brown guys.
>>216044>but it seems like in general sons are a bit lower maintenance
I would have to disagree.
A young boy's rowdy and energetic behavior can earn them getting into a whole heap of trouble, even before they've begun schooling.
This moid is literally handed everything. I doubt he even respects his pickme mother
Don't let your hate for men blind you to the reality of the sex ratio and its consequences on dating and general intersex relations.
In China there are 30-40 million more men than women due to sex selective abortion in previous decades. On one hand this allows for chinese women to demand more from men due to shortage (and so the chinese government tries to shame them, telling they are old at 27), but on the other, it causes loser men to "lie flat".
If the situation is reversed, and there are more women than men, then all men will benefit from it one way of another.
Reading /r9k? makes me not want to have kids. Like, what if it turns out male? It's ironic, hearing moids sperg 24/7 about how women should be having kids makes me not want to have them.
women who pamper their sons are the biggest gender betrayers around
daughters, i'm confident in my ability to educate a son to be a good person but im pretty sure there is an unavoidable biological component to male retardation that i cant do anything about
they're not lying flat they're kidnapping women from other countries and being violent retards.
I'd rather have a boy because I want mental peace. I was sexually assaulted as a kid and the fear of that happening to my daughter would not let me sleep at night. There are way, way too many pedos in the world. And even if she escapes child abuse, I still have to worry about her finding a moid who will abuse her as an adult.
With a boy you just have to teach them not to be the abuser. As teens they become very anti-gay and are more likely to fend off a male abuser. Women pedos pretty much don't exist so the chances of him running into one are much lower.
I don't want a boy but I need a boy.
>>217060>Mainlanders are really uneducated and unrefined
They're some of the best educated immigrants to the US actually.
It's funny because Taiwan and Hong Kong are vastly more "traditional" than the mainland, in all of the shitty, misogynistic ways that entails. And I'm not even going to discuss SEA Chinese and the fact things like husbands with de facto concubines is accepted.
I'm glad the CPC destroyed these elements of traditional Chinese culture. Tbh they didn't go far enough.
>>217358>With a boy you just have to teach them not to be the abuser.
you can't do such a thing
Sure you can. Don't feed him too much protein when he's young so he stays small for his age and doesn't learn aggression. If he tries to be aggressive at all at school he'll fail miserably and learn quickly that it doesn't work. Don't sign him up for any sports. Keep him away from video games and the internet. Just books, music, arts and craft, and light outdoor play. He won't be able to abuse anyone.
Even if that worked, the whole point of having a son is to propagate your genes, which such a creature could not do. Neurotic manlets are not sons, functionally they are at best a kind of neutered animal.
Nona, please don't have kids until you resolve your trauma. It's not healthy to keep your child malnourished, or to control your kid in such a way that you prevent them from doing harmless activities like sports. I also want to say from personal experience as someone who was neglected in childhood, underfed, and weak, I still acted out physically even as feeble kid, and was overall really hard to manage.
I’ve only ever wanted daughters. I don’t like most boys names. Plus I believe in gender abolition and I feel like in some ways it’s more acceptable to have a GNC daughter than a GNC son- they’re more likely to be harshly bullied as kids and troon out I feel. idk I feel like I’d cave to pressures to raise my son to be tough and masculine to avoid him being bullied than I would be for a daughter if she didn’t want to be feminine. like I was a tomboy and it was fine and chill but the boys I knew who liked feminine things were called fags. does that make sense. I just feel like in a way it’s easier to raise a girl these days.
Seriously this. When my two cousins were both kids, my aunt would always defend her son's rowdy behavior with, "well he's a boy, boys will be boys, they're like that because they just are". That boy would bully his sister, steal her money, and hog her school supplies. It pains me a little to watch mothers get into a dream-like state when they speak about their sons and defend their actions but when it's time to talk about daughters? They're either like "oh she's fine", or making a melodramatic deal about how having a daughter is "torture". When mothers get overprotective of their son's sex life and start treating any girlfriend like shit for not being copies of their mothers or what the mothers personally find attractive, it strikes me as borderline incestuous. It gives me the creeps, just like with those fathers who would threaten to hurt or even kill any boyfriend of their daughters that aren't a practical clone of themselves.
reminds me of that youtube couple where a korean mother disowns her son after he brings a black woman home
imagine being a boymom.
Are you kidding me? Is this image real? I had no idea Vancouver was so beautiful.
I don't know. I understand financially supporting your daughter or son when things get REALLY rough, but the fact that this mom bought her son a whole ass house in Vancouver while she also cooks him meals every weekend….that's the sad part about boy moms. They love their sons too much, and they coddle them which shields them from personal responsibility. Naturally, when the son grows up and lacks the sense of responsibility due to the coddling, the boy mom is forced to keep taking care of him as now the son really doesn't know how to take care of himself. Boy moms wouldn't have to keep pampering their sons like oversized infants if they didn't keep doing so in the first place. Even the fact that this mom cooks for her son every week gives me the impression that she secretly doesn't really trust him to cook for himself.
Private schools don't have to kow-tow to state testing so the good ones have more leg room to teach the kids things they actually care about which naturally leads to better behavior since they aren't locking the moids up force feeding them the steps to mitosis
Rich people have less time for their kids.
Rich people are rich in money, but not rich in time.
Rich people work long hours and are away on business trips.
My dad is a doctor and I would never see him because he'd be asleep as soon as he gets home.
My parents aren't rich and they have just as little time. Guess you have to be lucky in this age to have present parents.
There still is if you don't live in a shithole country
>women would be disadvantaged if males became the minority
might be the most braindead opinion I've ever read on the internet
less moids means less misogyny, fewer rapists, and fewer males to practice class solidarity
Sort your issues out before even thinking of having children, let alone sons. We don't need more moids with mommy issues in the world.
Boymoms and pitbull mommies give off the same energy tbh.
They are both so overprotective of their children or dogs to the point of using mental gymnastics to convince themselves that their "angels" never do anything wrong. I don't get it. Do these moms and dog owners see their children and dogs as complete copies of themselves, which makes them more likely to defend any bad thing they do? But why project yourself onto your kids and animals? I don't get it.
i want daughters only
i cant imagine loving a scrote regardless of his age
also moids regularly rape and kill their mothers (look it up its a real thing)
also with a scrotelet you need to make sure there is a strong father figure that hes taught to be masculine but not violent that he doesnt watch andrew tate or pron make sure he actually goes to school instead of drinking with his buddies… just too much shit to worry about>>216098
>>217723>scrotes regularly rape and kill their own mothers
Fucking hell, imagine having a mini moid that grows up and sexualizes you. I really have no anger or judgement to any woman that doesn't want a son.
daughters hands down. I'd rather not get murder suicided by my kid (and as much as we like to be gender blind we all know murder suicides are committed by men like 99% of the time). Apparently if you have sex slightly before you ovulate instead of during ovulation you'll be more likely to get a daughter since X-sperm survive longer in inhospitable environments but move slower while Y-sperm move fast but die easily. even at the sperm level women are just better. >>216038
I like this
Based on how they always act, teenage moids are one of God's greatest mistakes. They like to sexually assault girls, they treat their moms like shit, and they love to bully teachers who are just trying to do their job. I unapologetically hate teenage moids and I don't shed a single tear when I hear of them dying from something stupid like their own tiktok challenges or dares. I don't care if I'm mean, I hate male teenagers.
Women will become disadvantaged because a skewed sex ratio will favor men in dating/courtship. Meaning the "bar for men" will become even lower.
Russia and other slavic countries to lesser extent have the opposite problem of China. This trend will get more unbalanced in the future thanks to the current war going on and Russian government throwing more young men into the war meatgrinder. I dont know about you, but Russia does not seem to me like exceptionally feminist country, even compared to its neighbors on West.
Ngl I'd do the same if I had a son. Minus the racist part.
I'd want an older boy and a younger girl. I feel like older brothers usually take a bit more care of their sisters if that makes sense, plus I could put most responsibility on my son so he won't grow up to be awful. Just a thought, one of my friends in middle school had an older brother who was pretty protective of her. I always thought it was really sweet, I think it gives them a sense of responsibility.
Ime older brothers bully and harass their younger sisters
I want a gay son. He will sexually harass girls less
I'd like to have a good amount of both
So he can rape a little boy instead of a girl?
that's not the issue, the problem with gay boys is that homosexuality isn't a cure for misogyny, sure they might be too grossed out to rape a woman but they aren't above the reproductive exploitation and the general degradation of women through other means.
Why do asians hate brown and black people? They never colonized them
By that logic india and China is a dating paradise
Wanting to birth a son over wanting to birth a daughter is like wanting to parent a rabid chimpanzee over an actual human infant. A mental illness. Am I dehumanizing men because I don't like them? Fuck yeah.
I've noticed that my supposedly feminist sister still spoils her son more than her daughter.
It's that boymom brain. I don't know why, but it's like having a son always kills the common sense and rationality of any woman no matter how intelligent she was before the pregnancy. Pampering their sons with too much free labor and money when they should know how to cook/clean and work by now, always making excuses for inexcusable behavior like saying he was a "good boy" when he commits a crime, acting hyper-territorial of her son about his love/sex life as if SHE's his fucking girlfriend even though she's the mother, and more things that I'm sure I missed. I don't know why moms always get like this when they have a son, but they always just do. Maybe they put too much value on their son because they're emotionally desperate enough to view him as like a second husband. Maybe this is what people mean by "emotional incest".
There are a couple of things that I noticed from what I've seen of MILF MANOR.
First - the emotional incest is mutual. From the very first episode, the moms are mateguarding their sons, and the sons are mateguarding their moms. You start out wondering if the boys are just that way be>>216052
cause the fathers were out of the picture given the nature of that show, or if it's scripted like the rest of reality tv, but uhm. There are husbands and wives who are less mutually jealous than these sonsbands and milfs.
Second - these sons are in the top whatever percentage of male specimens, physically, and probably socially. These are the males >>216052
was talking about with>football captain, good grade, obedient son
so - this is how football captain goodgrade obedient sons are made.
Boymoms must be like that quote about sausage factories, "if you like sausage you don't want to see how it's made."
i see what ya did there