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i meant modded not modified sorry spellcheck

Maybe you just haven’t found the right community. I’ve made vent posts and received nice replies, but they were in the appropriate places. I won’t name them for obvious reasons, but yeah, good places for this type of thing exist.

>>267148
you have a point, i post sometimes in the aspie subs and although sometimes i get understanding responses, still sometimes i get the well you sound depressed so go to therapy

Go to therapy is Reddit for stfu and I refuse to hear different. People just don’t want to hear it because it makes them feel uncomfortable, so they deflect with jokes or say something like “go to therapy” that sounds helpful but is actually just dismissive. Why they can’t just scroll and not comment is a mystery to me. Plus this “everyone needs therapy” culture is extra fucking stupid too.
Incoming blog: Take it from an upper middle class firstie who got diagnosed with the anxiety and depression meme and had access to meds and therapy on therapy while I was still living with my parents. It does nothing unless you have a specific problem to fix (like a phobia or specific trauma, not just intense emotions). I pretty much would just complain about school and not having friends at individual and use group to hear gossip from people with more problems than me. I’m happy I did it because it provided twice a week interaction with someone other than my mom and my judgemental classmates but did I need it? No, and expecting someone who isn’t 100% mentally stable but not psych ward bad to waste 5 years on therapy and SSRIs just because they could kill themselves but probably won’t is stupid
I made a private discord server with a vent channel and I also use my notes app. It’s free and discord/apple don’t care enough to get me 5150’d over my data

>>267143
I like going to therapy, but people act like it's so easy to get a good therapist. There are so many quacks out there and you have to pay them for the first few sessions just to realize they're not for you.

People take vents personally

redditors are obsessed with the concept of therapy and think it fixes everything

>>271377
My therapist commented on me not wearing make up as a woman

>>271391
Every female therapist I’ve ever had has been an absolute cunt whose #1 focus was bitching about my appearance in one way or another.
Only therapist I ever liked was a gay guy too old for his brain to be testosterone poisoned, and then, this best-case scenario was that therapy was inoffensive but useless.

You can always went in your own notes. If you post it on a public forum, mostly men will see it, and they really do not understand the concept of venting. They see it as someone nagging them to fix something for a stranger. Go to therapy means "i don't know you, you don't pay me, go pay someone to listen to your bitching". After all why should they care about your problems

>>267143
Ah, I really feel similar. Even around people that seem to care vaguely about mental health, anything that's to heavy just invites exactly what you described.

The therapy comments are very distasteful to me. Not everything needs to be medicalized I think. Feels like an easy way to put down any dissenting thoughts as wrong and treats variety in human beings as abnormal. I think it also makes people look at other remedies as non-viable, like it's the only thing that can help.

I wish more grim conversations were more socially permitted. I understand most people don't have solutions and aren't doctors but empathy is nice. I'm a constantly suicidal person and not being able to talk about it easily without someone just wanting to hospitalize you instead of getting to speak about it honestly just makes things worse. I feel like I'm constantly sanitizing my true feelings for the people around me.

>>267143
>tfw in therapy and still fucked up
doesn't fix everything

What do you get out of venting? I hope this doesn’t sound judgmental, but I’m genuinely curious. I used to be someone who vented a lot, but now I can’t remember what I even enjoyed from it.

I had better results from mediated group therapy. I got to bounce my thoughts off other people and see they had similar struggles. It is so much better than unpacking things to a therapist that seems to just affirm things and have a "think positive" mentality. Smiling and looking for the bright spots won't undo years of trauma.