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Most people talk about food and I don't see it as an autism thing. It's small talk just like talking about the weather. (for context I'm not autistic)

>>295140
Right, but I mean even in situations where others consistently have not given a single fuck about what they have to say about it. I've known this one clown who for years has uploaded YouTube vids about testing different types of soda (not linking any for obvious reasons) and linking then to a Discord channel I'm a member of, receiving exactly zero replies every single time.

>>295145
Obviously. Also I agree that the word "normal people" or "normal person" really doesn't mean much in the end.

>>295131
Is that theory that autistic people experience senses like taste and texture differently, sometimes in a hypersensitive manner, and have difficulty expressing these sensations concisely?

>>295188
No, it's a combination of two things:

First: At least some autistic people do understand that the stuff they'd really want to talk about is not appropriate for most situations. Everyone has to eat, so they resort to food as a crutch to talk about at least something that they think is relatable to others.

Second: Autistic people often have problems differentiating their own thoughts from those of other people. If they like their own uninteresting/repetitive/both comments on food, then so does everyone else as well, at least as their reasoning goes.

>>295198
Adding to this (OP here again): People generally want to be polite, so autistic people might just never be told that their ramblings aren't interesting to other people. Even if they hear it from someone about topic A, they might still think it's okay to ramble on about topics B, C and D, thinking the issue is the topic, rather than the rambling itself.

I'm certainly sick of every woman I know under the age of 30 claiming to have it just because they are socially maladapted tiktok vacuuming retards.

Troons are 3-6 times more likely to be autistic than cis people BTW https://www.spectrumnews.org/news/largest-study-to-date-confirms-overlap-between-autism-and-gender-diversity/

Idk what I am. Maybe I'd get diagnosed as autistic if I ever got tested for it, but I don't care enough to do that. What difference does it make? It's just a label, and I want less of those, not more.

I try go about my business without bothering anyone. I eat the same thing for lunch, it's easier that way; planning healthy, balanced meals is too much effort for the perceived reward of variety. It's neurotypicals who won't shut up about food, and my food in particular. What I eat is no one else's business; I never asked it to be, yet they question me on it. Why is it bizarre for a human to eat a consistent supply of healthy food? Why am I being shamed for that? I could be shaming them for the junk they funnel down their gobs; a coke here, piece of cake there, a 2pm "snack" because you're 35 and haven't figured out that your cravings are actually dehydration (drink water ffs). Classic neurotypical behaviour - bring up a topic then get mad when weirdos like me continue the conversation down a direction they weren't expecting.

>>295436
xd

>>295436
i feel this lol. i'll try to make friends with fellow weirdos only to find out i'm just the only one who bothers with masking. seems like a better deal to make friends with tolerant normies
>>295343
also a factor. i've met some women in fandoms who are right on my wavelength but pretend to be men. their vanity and porn addictions really get in the way of what could be a great friendship

>>295439
You and I both… Why are people like me so rare?
Or maybe everyone's like me and I've never bothered to notice… No it's definitely the former.

>>295219
I've never met anyone that fits this description; ADHD seems like the trendy meme diagnosis from what I've seen

Yeah it seems like there's a rise in assholes saying they're autistic and either it being completely self diagnosed, or just very mild.

That in itself is fine I don't really care, but it's the fact they do it like it reaps the social benefit of not having to take any responsibility for being shitty and put in their place, and will then lord over more obviously autistic people with real neurological issues, way more severe social issues, and treat them like trash. Call them creepy or stalker or something as innocent as "staring too long" or literally being non verbal, or having a breakdown when treated like a criminal for a miscommunication and being trapped, unable to defend themselves verbally. It's fucked up.

You'd think it would mean MORE sympathy to autistic people. Not less.

A really autistic guy I knew trooned out after joining the MLP cult

>>295597
News at eleven?

I hate having autism, I wish I could be normal.
I struggle everyday because I don't know how to be human and some bitches think this is fake. I wish it was fake. Some people genuinely think I am mentally retarded. I am on a constant delay, everything processes like five seconds later. I cant even speak normally, I am always misspeaking and slurring my words, its so awful to not being able to speak in person. I think I am suppose to be nonverbal but I was forced to talk as a child and now I trapped myself in a reality where I have to talk. I hate existing. Other humans seem like such a foreign and alien thing to me, I wish people understood the depths that I mean that. Everyone pities me. I feel like I have to constantly hide myself just to fit in and that is just torturous. I hate staring people in the eyes because I can feel that there's a disconnect.

People only seem to want to talk about autism when it's viewed as a cute and quirky thing and totally undermine the real struggle of what it's like to have autism. The don't want to talk about how painful it is to be isolated for being the "weird" one. How simple normal thoughts are non-existence because you mind always done it this way and it cannot perceive any other way. The fear of no matter how hard you pretend to be human that there's always one that just knows. It's just so hard to pretend to know what to do.
I wish I wasn't human so I could have an excuse on my own shortcomings.

>>295962
>I think I am suppose to be nonverbal but I was forced to talk as a child and now I trapped myself in a reality where I have to talk.
The more you hate something or put it off, the worse you will be at it. I had this problem (and sometimes have it if I am not careful):
>I am on a constant delay, everything processes like five seconds later. I cant even speak normally, I am always misspeaking and slurring my words, its so awful to not being able to speak in person.
It will probably be improved if you practiced in the mirror and watch video clips of other people speaking in public. I try to mimic them now, and it works to some extent. I am always having to think before I say something and when other people are talking in my surroundings, I find it impossible to speak and lose track of what I am saying. When I am tired, I lapse back into old habits like stuttering, delayed speech, grammatically incorrect phrases. Pausing when talking is good actually so nobody notices the 5 second processing time you take. It’s mostly in your head. And if you need to, you can practice filler words like “I’ll have to think about that.” or “Can I get back to you on that?” If you can’t think fast enough. But practice in the mirror and watch videos of well spoken people and try to mimic.

>>295969
Thank you for your attempt at helping me.

The struggle with speaking has been a life long thing, since I was a child. Words feel so foreign to me. My tongue feels heavy and the contouring of face muscles seem off. My mind constantly gets words mixed up in the moment. Even if I know what those words mean.

If it's not a scripted line that I remembered and something I have to ad-libbed my inability to speak always shows.

And other people do notice my delay, I stand there blank face until their words suddenly make sense in my mind and stop sounding like gibberish. I've been called out on it before. Sometimes when people talk to me and their initial response is too complicated I can't even get a word out until it's processes.

>>295131
normies talk about food (and travelling and nieces/nephews and marathon running). it's just a sign of being a bad conversationalist, not autism.

Feels like being treated as autistic is then having autism, much more in the puberty stages

Everyone treats you as sub human do not get a diagnosis if you can with the incentive being the pic of a recent study.

>>295991
It makes me sad that the common belief of autistic people is that they are incapable of having emotions or empathy just because they cannot display have emotions in a neurotypical way. Like having to smile just to show your happy. Or making sure to convey the right tone in your voice.

>>295991
Oh what the fuck. This reminds of those ancient "sagely" men who would argue whether women were humans or things.
>do not get a diagnosis if you can
Hard agree.

>>295131

As a autistic person myself, I can say that we indeed are anoying asholes

Can someone link the "autistic [something]: not reading this report makes it sad" video? Can't find it

Non autist here.
I'm gonna make a confession: Autism pisses me the fuck off. I don't know if I'm just into shit a lot of autistic people are into or if autistic people infest every single interest out there, but I fucking can't stand trying to socialize in a world full of autistic people.

Generally speaking they start out great. Like, they will enjoy the shit I like and I can talk to them about it, but then I quickly realize they don't see me as a human being but expect me to see them as a human. Like I need to be super aware of their feelings and be emotionally available to them whenever they are down, which is totally fine. I like helping people when they are sad.

BUT, the fact is, if I want them to be emotionally available, they either shut down or get pissy at me. Before you say this is my fault or this not all autists, I have NO issues with this with non autistic people, and this is years of experience dealing with so many autists that if there is an emotionally available one it has to be one in a thousand autists.

In my experience, autists that make horrible, selfish 'friends' who will NOT be there for you if you need them.

I don't care if this vent post is me kicking a bunch of retards. I just need to get that out there.

>>297385
Do you know how autists react to each others presence? Do they hate each other or do they prefer each others company? How do they deal with the neverending meltdowns?

>>297385
sounds about right to me as well

>>297683
“As an autist” and all that, I generally hate other autists. I put energy into masking and keep my shit to myself, and in my experience most autists never show me the same courtesy and expect me to babysit them.

>>297385
I agree with this so hard, even if i suspect autism in myself. Most people just act unbearable and expect you to be patient with them as a kind and loving parent would. It's so tiring and unfulfilling because they're "unable" to do even the remotely similar to you. Like being patient nice and emotionally intelligent is something "i have to do" for them.

quick pro tip: the

>this reminds me of [some random unrelated bullshit]

mannerism is 101% a sign of autism

>>298007
Oh. Having some other realization

autistic moids are so overly argumentative and have little consideration for others. "sensitive young man" who has the emotional cognition of a child and feels threatened by women. I see autistic rightoid moids complain about women doing the same behaviors moids do. They're unempathetic yet call women who reject them/are independent and don't cater to their needs "unempathetic masculine monsters".

The whole idea that autists are like super interesting and stuff honestly seems somewhat false. I'm an autist and see a lot of them have the same wannabe counterculture interests like hazbin, jjk, chainsaw man etc., especially the theatre kid types and stuff and they're often gendies too. When you have actually individuated interests(neolithic europe, UAPs, not tiktok Gyaru fashion) they feel uncomfortable around you.

>>298248
autist moids and NT women marriages fall apart a lot lol

>>297673
to me this sounds like the army guy had PTSD. like he couldn't deal with it because he's seen actual people try to move after they get blown apart and it was too similar or something

>>298248
>autistic rightoid moid
pretty sure this combination is way more common than people think

i go to an autism charity and the men there are so fucking scary. some guy heard i was an artist and whipped out his phone full of ai generated loli slop. i've reported him multiple times for shoving porn in people's faces and being racist but no one cares cause "he's autistic"

>>298758
they lack empathy for others and massively stereotype others via pattern recognition and expect us to cater to their fragile egos. autist women are taught the world doesn’t revolve around them and that they are “so speshulll”. fucking every time i go on xitter, i see some moid complain about “muh sensitive young man”. there are sensitive young women out there who don’t have a massive victim complex and have irrational hatred of men. i have autistic female friends and they’re usually politically homeless as it’s called.

I'll vent a bit here

I live in a country where autism is trying to get visible nowadays, it isn't as in the US or anything like that.

I can notice immediately when someone is autistic or not, the way their voice sounds, the way they talk, the way they look at something or even when they look at you directly at your eyes.

Whenever I notice someone is weird I just, stop talking to them and leave/don't have contact again.

My ex is autistic and I think he is the only autistic person I can barely stand, but I've acted as his mom so many times, they just don't care, they can love you but they don't care about shit.

But goddamn, they can blend in if they're high functional but theres' still this "thing" they have that is super obvious or it is at least for me.

I'm not mean at all against them, just I tend to ignore them since I prefer neurotypical people in general, since autistic people are too self-centered and (as the experience I've got around so far) never ask how you are doing, they only talk about themselves and if you tell them they'll try but its just too uncanny for me to handle the situation, some are really clueless to basic social interaction which is the thing i hate the most, as ex: a girl I used to talk to came to my house when I wasn't doing well and insisted to do my laundry while I was on bed, I told her more than 10 times no, and she still did it defending herself as "you need to grab me and tell me no, I won't listen to words that way sometimes".

Of course I got angry and I raised my voice and she began to cry, I told her I'm not her mom and I shouldn't be grabbing an adult's hand and tell them no just for them to understand, sighs, sometimes they're children, REALLY old children, the older they are the more I'll avoid them.

Lowkey hate how many of the things I like are full of autistic people.
My biggest no-no's are never meeting internet friends, I know I'd end up being disappointed or uncomfortable, unless we've talked through VC but everytime I VC with someone they just are too autistic to make a proper conversation.

>>299155
Autistic people famously hate eye contact.

>>295219
I’m a a legitimate autistic woman. I believe majority of troons fixate on gender roles due to stigma as a child and never get over the obsessive thoughts about it then it compounds to the point of changing their gender to fulfill their autogynophillic fantasies.

Similar theory behind this post
>>295198

I’m tired as fuck of “high functioning autist” people, like you don’t have autism. Every symptom you describe is something every other human has. “I don’t like eye contact” “I don’t like small talk” “I don’t like fluorescent lights” “I’m neurospicy, sometimes I forget stuff”. Like shut up, and they always run around acting like they’re disabled advocacy experts. Do you really think there’s people out there that love small talk, eye contact, and fluorescent lights? That person is not real. You are not “neurodivergent”, everyone is fucking “neurodivergent”, retard.

Picrel is a perfect example.

>>299155
>they only talk about themselves and if you tell them they'll try but its just too uncanny
I see there is still no winning with the eternal allo
>talk about yourself: the allo is pissed
>ask the allo about themselves: the allo is also pissed
you're supposed to tell a story from your own life that connects to what the autistic person is saying which shows that you understand what they are talking about. here's an autistic guy on youtube who explains it: https://youtube.com/watch?v=yYbdNw7JRCQ

>>298250
Autists aren't more fascinating than the average person from what I've seen but the ones you mention specifically sound like they're just normies larping

>>299220
What the fuck is an allo

>>299220
>”autist” requests to be grabbed and told no instead of developing some self control
>you requesting that people do some special thing when speaking to someone who is “autistic”
Do you see a parallel here, both require you to do nothing and everyone around you to know your specific bullshit problems and make accommodations for your lack of self development
Low functioning autism is the only real autism and everything else is just attention seeking and munchausen

>>299229
This is a site filled with fat women who have bitter feelings about men. You're better off just using Taimi and trying to meet "transmen" who haven't began using testosterone, or had their breasts removed yet. They look exactly like cis women, and you'll have no competition.

>>299223
>What the fuck is an allo
an allistic (non-autistic) person
>>299224
>”autist” requests to be grabbed and told no instead of developing some self control
I'm going to guess this person has previously been told that when allists say "no" about favors then they really mean "yes" but are trying to save face
>you requesting that people do some special thing when speaking to someone who is “autistic”
woe is you. autistic people have to deal with the completely inscrutable and self-contradictory rules that allos make up seemingly on the spot, all day every day of their lives
>lack of self development
>"please abide by my arbitrary social rules"
no