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Asexuality Anonymous 36860
How many of you are asexual? I feel like a significant portion of CC is.
I've never been in a relationship as I've rejected any guy who has asked me out, so I don't think I know for sure. I think my distrust of men has led to me feeling this way. The only guys I'm able to be attracted to and consider crushes are guys I don't talk to.
Can anyone relate?
Anonymous 36866
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>the only guys I'm able to be attracted to and consider crushes are guys I don't talk to.
DELETE THIS
Anonymous 36873
Does only liking anime boys count
Anonymous 36906
>>36860I am aro&ace. I always loved anime boys growing up, and always found myself fantasizing about romantic relationships, but as soon as someone said they were attracted/interested in me, I found myself in disgust or turned off? Like please leave me alone…I couldn't understand why I was like this until my then best friend (I was 18) told me, hey, you might be aro/ace. I consider myself to be specifically lithromatic and lithsexual.
Anonymous 36910
>>36873No, that makes you cartoonsexual.
Anonymous 36926
>>36860I am aromantic and asexual.
>>36866Liking someone from far doesn't mean you want to have sex with them. Many asexuals can't even imagine sex is the real thing that happens in the real world because it is completely different to fantasize about something and do it in sweaty, disgusting reality.
Anonymous 36946
aexuality doesn´t exist, is made up tumblr cope, not a real thing.
Anonymous 36947
>>36946>made up tumblr copeAVEN was founded in 2001. I don’t see why people like you get pissy when people with low/zero sex drives choose to label themselves as asexual. It hurts no one.
Anonymous 36962
>>36946It does exist, not all asexuals are even Tumblr generation. Some asexuals think completely differently about sex, they don't have just a low libido but they don't understand whether a situation is sexual at all. I think about sex exactly like when I was a child, don't understand when someone is flirting with me or how men think. I think that sex is silly and it makes me giggle and getting naked is stupid in front of others. When people have sex they are basically digesting food at the same time and it turns into shit. I never realize which men are flirting with me, even when they get naked because I have met some hippies that just walk around naked and it is nothing sexual. I didn't realize that in movies people had actual intercourse, because it was not shown on the screen. I thought this way when I was 25. Now over 30. In my case I'm also probably autistic, so that's it.
But even when you consider teens who may be late bloomers calling themselves asexual then it is still understandable because sex is forced on young people everywhere. It is completely normal to be 15 and think that sex is gross and kissing is yucky but you have to hide it to be popular. Adults talk to teens as if they were tropes from a bad book, assuming very stereotypical things and don't listen when you say you don't like drinking, smoking, partying or boys. Or even when you think typical teen things are extremely stupid. So it is obvious that teens look for communities where they can be accepted for what they are and where they don't have to pretend they like sex. Even if they will like it later.
Anonymous 36980
>>36962>When people have sex they are basically digesting food at the same time and it turns into shit.What? You have to explain this, anon.
Anonymous 36988
>>36980nta but I think they're referencing that your body is digesting food at all times, including during sex.
i don't see why that is a reason to find sex disgusting, though. everyone is technically turning food into shit at all times, that doesn't mean I'm going to giggle at a world leader because that's occurring in their body at a given moment.
Anonymous 37034
>>36947>AVEN was founded in 2001It doesn't matter, anon's point was that people who support this are the same ones who are either active in the political side of tumblr or would use it if existed in their generation.
Anonymous 37035
>>37034And that matters why? How does that invalidate the existence of asexuality?
Anonymous 37036
>>37035Because the only people who claim it's real are mentally ill and don't know how things work?
Anonymous 37037
>>37036Explain how asexuality “isn’t real.” Are you saying it’s not possible for people to be uninterested in sex?
Anonymous 37038
>>37037The only situation where people can be uninterested in sex is if they experienced trauma and they're sex repulsed, anything else is incel cope.
Anonymous 37042
I think "asexuality" exists in that there are people who do not feel sexual attraction, but I dont think they need their own special sexuality and arent comparable to gays, lesbians and trans. theyre basically just straight people, as defaults
Anonymous 37043
That's not how sexuality works. Your personal distaste for the guys who've asked you out doesn't determine what you're capable of being attracted to.
Stuff like this is not as easy as it seems, so I don't know what to tell you, other than try some explicit material and see where that takes you.
Anonymous 37418
>>37038No, it is possible to be biologically not that hormonal. Extremes exist in evolution. For instance, some people fuck anything, some people want the gender that wouldn't help them to produce babies, some have problems getting an erection and so on. It isn't anything that weird that some people don't want to have sex then.
Also, asexuality is defined as lack of sexual attraction for people, not that you don't want to masturbate.
Anonymous 37426
>>37037 asexualitiy as an identity and sexuality is not a real thing. You are just another normal ass person that doesn`t have a huge libido. You didn`t mention a single thing that is not a common normal ass person`s trait.
And it gets really dumb when they start with the "i`m asexual but asexuals have sex too! and get romantic!" Fuck that, not real, the deeper you validate that crap the more retarded it gets.
>don't understand when someone is flirting with me or how men think.Thats not a sexuality, you are just using some generic trait every other person has and making a label out of it. You are just socially akward beta girl, don`t cope with made up terminology.
>In my case I'm also probably autistic, so that's it. Imagine that
Anonymous 37452
>>37426Asexuals are not attracted to people and they don't get aroused by people. "People" is the key here (or animals, just to exclude zoophiles). Everything else doesn't matter, they can have sex, but this is only physical, there is no attraction involved.
For instance, if a man can get off by fucking a hole in the wall it doesn't mean he is attracted to walls. He won't see walls sexually, doesn't feel any attraction, ejection happens just as a result of mechanical activity.
For some asexuals it is the same way. Others won't have sex ever.
Being romantic has nothing to do with sex or sexuality.
>You didn`t mention a single thing that is not a common normal ass person`s trait.Asexuals are normal too. But most sexual people understand sex differently than they did before puberty. Many asexuals don't. Nothing in their brain related to sex changed during puberty. They still think that naked people are funny/boring/cold and kissing scenes are boring/slimy or whatever they thought as children. It is not the same as having sexual interests but being to shy or picky. They don't recognize sexual situations not because they are bad reading other people's minds but sex isn't a real thing for them. Part of the brain that interprets sexual cues and also social context related to it (like jealousy, monogamy, sex as a sin, shame, sluttiness, etc) is completely missing.
For instance, most people think that certain makeup and dresses sexualize children. I don't see it that way because I see only shapes, whether that specific color or dress suits that child. I don't like child pageants because they are tacky and adults force them on children, not because children dress too sexy. I just don't see anything else but shapes and colors.
Anonymous 37453
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>Being romantic has nothing to do with sex or sexuality.>Everything else doesn't matter, they can have sex>Asexuals are normal too.Yeah, if i was not convinced before now i am super not convinced
Anonymous 37461
>>37453Epic refutation, i’m convinced asexuality isn’t real now.
Anonymous 37514
>>37453How does any of those sentences confirm that asexuality is not real?
Asexuality is an orientation, it is not the same as being frigid or having a low libido. Avoiding having sex is the smallest problem for asexuals, the daily life is meant for people thinking sexually after puberty. They have to navigate in this sexual world. Defining asexuality is important because of this and also for people themselves to recognize they are asexual, instead of trying out all kinds or sexualities and genders and forcing themselves to have sex.
>>37461This is not even a refutation, there were no arguments.
Anonymous 37515
>>37514>it is not the same as being frigid or having a low libido.Seems like exactly the same.
Anonymous 37525
>>37515How? You haven't explained even once why it is the same.
Just like heterosexuality isn't about low libido for the same gender, asexuality isn't either. They both lack attraction, not just libido against certain gender (or both).
Anonymous 37531
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I'm not asexual, but I can easily imagine how someone might be biologically unable to be attracted to other people and that there is likely a spectrum between complete asexuality and hypersexuality. It's not hard to imagine how one's sexuality or lack thereof might be determined to some extent by both innate biology and environmental factors, and that as a «new» niche and historically ignored group asexual people have created an easy-to-don identity that hangers-on will use to stand out even if they don't really feel that way. I have no way of telling who is «legitimately asexual», so I'll just judge people by who they are instead. And really, it's never too hard to tell the poseurs from the people who really feel that way.
Anonymous 37545
>>37514>This is not even a refutationI know lol, I was just being sarcastic
Anonymous 37620
>>37514>>37514you are literally describing completely standard people with low libido, also being dellusional about how is such a big trouble or the world is somehow difficult to navigate. Is ridiculous. This kind of labels should not be validated, it´s an excuse to play pretend in the identity politics rpg game.
Anonymous 37626
>>37620Homosexuals and heterosexuals have no attraction to one gender. Asexuals have no attraction to both genders. If you agree that lack of interest in the opposite gender is not just low libido then asexuality isn't just about libido either.
It has nothing to do with politics. It is important for people to understand their sexual orientation, instead of forcing themselves to have sex or even worse, getting married, having children and needing to stay married and provide for their husband sexually because couldn't raise the children on their own.
Anonymous 37630
>>37626no one is forcing anyone anything, this baloney with make believe identities is just there to confuses kids even more. A lot of it is toxic validation if you ask me.
Anonymous 40025
My past experience with people who oppose sexuality are people who can only think about is sex and or squeezing out as many babies as possible. Kind of like how I think the more homophobic someone is the more they are in denial of being gay.
I do agree that the tumblr movement ruined ace, trans and gay movements making a ridiculous pitty fight. Making the terms seem more like a joke and something to tack on to seem more special. But it didn't stop there.
I don't find being ace a cope for incels, if anything they seem to be the ones more oppose to it. Yes some aces have trauma, doesn't mean all of them do. But like everything there isn't one set rules on how it should be. For example just because your straight doesn't mean you have to find every man attractive. Asexual may or may not find people attractive. Some may have sex for the sake of their partner. But I don't think aces enjoy sex or feel much pleasure.
Anonymous 184377
I wish to become asexual, how do I do that?
Anonymous 184378
>>184377the only way i can think of is taking medication that kills libido.
Anonymous 184379
>>184378Which kind? At this point I'm willing to do anything to fix myself.
Anonymous 184380
>>184379well ssris seem to fuck up your libido and its easy to get prescription apparently
Anonymous 184384
>>184380I'll try that and hopefully it works. I don't really know what else to do. I hate being this way.
Anonymous 184702
>>184380im on 3 medications that are supposed to kill my sex drive, im still hypersexual due to life long sexual trauma
Anonymous 184704
>>184702i dont understand how can anyone agree to take 3 meds (ssri?) daily. girl at this point u should just use heroin
Anonymous 184705
I'd say I'm pretty asexual but heteroromantic. I always crush on guys and want to play home with them until my heart is broken and I have a short period when I think I'll never do it again and then some guy does w/e they always do and I'm again riding the bus to heartbreak via his arms. It's weird. I want the guys to be sexy but I also don't really care about sex so idk??
Anonymous 184709
>>184702Fuck. I don't think I have severe sexual trauma. I mostly escaped it actually happening, even though I was in a couple situations where it almost happened as a kid. I don't know why I am the way I am, I just know it's been this way since puberty. I can't live like this.
Anonymous 184715
How do I begin to figure out if I'm ace? I'm constantly horny but it's directed at my daydreams or erp content only. I've never found any real or fictional person physically attractive and the idea of fucking someone IRL turns me off. I have done it with a moid and it was even more mind-numbingly mediocre than I could've imagined.
Anonymous 184900
What do you want from life? I think I might be both asexual and schizoid. I never had a crush (real or fictional), never found anybody attractive, I don't enjoy anybody's company and I don't ever feel lonely. I was always content, but now its beginning to feel like the world is built in its entirety for someone else.
My goal was always to find a job I could do remotely, buy some land and a house and live a pretty simple life spending time on my hobbies.
With the current state of the world that feels outright impossible. My savings are shrinking instead of growing. Getting a reasonable loan is impossible on my income. I could easily acheive what I want if I shared my expenses (and life) with someone but I'm not sure its worth the price.
Anonymous 195461
While I do accept asexuality I don't accept demisexuality. Not that I think it's fake but idk it doesn't feel like it should be considered a sexuality? Also I hate people telling me that I'm probably demi because the idea of being sexually attracted to a random person is weird.
Anonymous 195468
I'm not convinced asexuality is real. But if it is "distrust of guys" isn't it.
Anonymous 195762
>ace
>demisexual
>pansexual
>et cetera
when did everyone get so obsessed with made up words for BS that doesn't exist?
for all of human history, we have recognized that some people are very interested in having sex and others not so much. It's literally just a personal preference.
It would be like people who dislike bacon creating a whole word for it and then basing their identity around that.
Anonymous 196336
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>>195762>when did everyone get so obsessed with made up words for BS that doesn't exist?People need to be transparent and to define themself precisely for the Market, so the Market can see through them and know what to sell to them. It is most convenient when people just announce to the world their consuming preferences in matters of medias, other humans, food… in excruciating details.
Hence the new words. This is just market segmentation disguised as sexual liberation.
Anonymous 196342
>>195762To be fair n0nnie, asexuals are pretty much the only one of the new gays that aren't made up. A lot of people with autism (or other issues) have 0 sexual anything in them and that deserves actual recognition as an identity more than any of the made up shit straight people use to be "queer"
Anonymous 196801
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>>196342>deserve recognition>deserveWhat is the point?
Anonymous 197713
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>>196336That's a great point. I hadn't considered that, but it makes a lot of sense.
and eventually, we'll only be allowed to identify with a pre-defined personality template. Instead of being individuals, we're relegated to being nothing more than robots.
Anonymous 199262
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>>197713That guy made the argument.
To him, this also means the end of desire.
Anonymous 199495
>>196801No, I get what they mean. I feel like queer still implies an interest in sex. Asexuals can be hetroromantic or homoromantic
idk if that's the right terminology. So like, a asexual who likes the opposite sex only in a romantic way isn't queer. They're just not interested in sex.
Anonymous 199498
I don't see the point in having it as a separate identity unless we're talking about the "aromantics" or the ones who genuinely don't want any kind of sex or romance for whatever reason. Homo/hetero/biromantics are literally just gay/straight/bi people with low or no sex drive.
Anonymous 199634
>>199495Yeah but why would you deserve (or even need) recognition from people of your lack of sexual interest?
Bunch of narcissistic souls, I'm telling you.
Anonymous 199637
>>199634hmm personally knowing about asexuality and talking with other people who feel the same way could have helped me a lot while i was a teen. everyone is confused and more or less insecure at that age, and for people who have less common sexualities it can be an extra challenge.
i forced myself to have sex with multiple people in hopes of fixing myself, felt less than other people, wondered about having medical conditions and feared that i could never find someone that would be okay with dating me.
knowing about asexuality can save a lot of stress and painful experiences for someone who feels different and wrong because of it.
Anonymous 199640
>>199498there are also aromantics who aren't asexual
Anonymous 199651
>>199640Is loveless fucker really a queer orientation now?
Anonymous 199673
>>199651only if that person is also gay or something like that
Anonymous 199682
Split attraction model don't real btw.
Anonymous 199728
>>199682maybe for women but its scrote sexuality 101
Anonymous 199913
>>199640so just gay/straight/bi people with commitment issues, no point in separating them. actually I think the compartmentalization and separation of sex and romance is doing way more harm than good for everyone regardless of orientation
Anonymous 200206
>>199637I get you. We come back to the lack of sexual education. A simple "some people enjoy having sex a lot, some a bit, some never. And sometimes it changes. Everyone is different" would suffice.
I still get the feeling that this is a mountain out of a mole hill because it's made by teenagers (with non-genuine encouragement from the Market) but no one know you're a teenager full of hormones or a dog on the Internet.
Anonymous 200281
>>196801Ayrt because I think if someone experiences 0 sexual desire then that kind of excludes them from being straight or gay. Every new sexual identity that we have now is a fancy way of saying "I am straight but I am terrified of beinf perceived as straight because I have to be special". An asexual is just an asexual
Anonymous 200334
>I'm going to use this sex flag to show that I don't like sex.
Okay?
Anonymous 200345
>>199495>Asexuals can be hetroromantic or homoromantic idk if that's the right terminology. So like, a asexual who likes the opposite sex only in a romantic way isn't queer. They're just not interested in sex.yeah, they are not interested in sex meaning they are not interested in
any of two sexes, in any way, not that they just don't like intercourse but have
feelings Anonymous 200356
>>200334literally.
also i feel like i've been transported back to my 2014 tumblr dashboard holy shit it's neverending.
Anonymous 200366
>>200334so dumb, like why do they need a flag to say they're celibate? ok you dont wanna have sex cool you're not special. i guess i could technically be considered "asexual" but i find labels like that so stupid and useless that i don't consider myself to be one.
Anonymous 200390
>>200366can't the same be said for every sexuality's flag tho. Like as a straight as can be woman, making fun of self-identified asexuals for having a flag while gays lesbians bisexuals and all the genderspecials have their own flags seems ridiculous to me. Two sides of the same coin if you ask me.
Anonymous 200436
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>>200390>comparing asexuals to bi, gays and lesbiansAre you serious?
Anonymous 200700
>>200436nta and not even ill-intentioned i just want to understand your pov, what is the problem with that?
they're obviously different in the sense that they feel sexual attraction and asexual dont, but beyond that theyre still orientations that differ from the norm and that present more challenges socially speaking that simply being straight no?
Anonymous 200710
>>200700It's an oppression game for them
Anonymous 200717
i'm not even asexual but having had a sexual dysfunction i sympathize. one of the main critiques i see of asexuality especially from lgbt people is that they've never gone through sexuality-based oppression and while on many levels that's definitely true, anyone who isn't even downright asexual but has simply had low libido or sexual dysfunctions can testify to how socially isolating these experiences are and how sex is literally everywhere and if you for some reason don't want or can't partake in it, or even don't want to simply hear about it, well good luck! lol
it's not that people shouldn't talk about sex, in fact i believe sex has to be talked about even more than it is for multiple reasons, it's just genuinely frustrating for some people because it's indeed a sensitive topic for so many yet they have no choice but to live in a world obsessed with it.
and lack of sexual activity or sexual desire is stigmatized. just an example, the word "prude". or how virginity while valued to an extent, does become ridiculous to the eyes of people after a while, and tbh it was never praised between teens, everyone knows there is peer pressure to lose it even among girls. at least, that was my experience.
asexuality definitely would have had a similar fate to homosexuality and bisexuality in terms of social exclusion, and it is very much frowned upon, atm it's completely justified for lgbt people to shit on asexuals and they're seen as the next weird thing who should be silent about it.
the reason it didn't experience the same degree of social issues is because it's by nature less easy to identify, for example you can tell a gay couple on the streets but you can't tell that someone walking around is asexual.
it doesn't mean they still don't experience drawbacks from their orientation and aren't just as presumed to be straight when they're not.
Anonymous 200728
>>200717>anyone who isn't even downright asexual but has simply had low libido or sexual dysfunctions can testify to how socially isolating these experiences are Thank you for having a sympathetic, nuanced take. Of course, I will never be murdered for not wanting to fuck (unless it's by an angry man), but the loneliness and lack of understanding sucks.
Anonymous 200729
>>2007170 days since da gays on tumblr have said asexuals just didnt find the right one yet
Anonymous 200944
>>36860I used to identify as asexual back when I had some woke friends irl and online. Later I became disillusioned with the queer community and decided they’re attention-seekers obsessed with sexuality, as well as realization how harmful the trans acceptance is.
Even though I never changed that I hate the idea of sex, would never participate in it, would not seek a relationship even if sexless because I don’t need it in my life, I feel people who call themselves asexuals are mostly cringe. And here goes all the snowflakes who think not having sex frequently makes them asexual too. Only shows how our society regressed due to sexualization.
I know only a few genuine asexual people but they don’t make this “orientation” (for me it’s a lack of thereof/lack of sexuality) their whole personality or any major discussion topic. They also happen to have similar interests to mine and are really cool close friends.
I am bitter every time I see ace symbols online because it reminds me stupidity of all these idiots who do nothing for any acceptance of people who wish to have sexless lives. This is a private topic and I don’t see why it should be a pride movement, but if someone happens to know and mocks a person, it’s bad too. Unfortunately the bandwagon orientation crazies don’t help, being so obsessed with their relations to other people that they can’t describe themselves without the mention of sexual preferences or lack of thereof and their twisted pronouns.
Screw the asexual movement and what it became. Why make a flag for it? What’s the point to call it an orientation? Thanks to these idiots and many people I never met personally but were active online, I feel like I wasted some portion of my youth. Screw them all.
Anonymous 201008
Most people who hate on asexuals and tell them they have issues to work through ironically have a lot of hang ups with sexuality and think theyre dirty for masturbating or smth lmao
Anonymous 201025
>>200944>asexuals are mostly cringeI think this is because there are people sucked into LGBTQ+ shit but are too intimidated by all the hypersexualisation of everything all the time so they larp a sexuality that seperates them from that. If "queer" culture didn't include ramming fetishes down everyones throat by force in every LGBTQ+ community space, you wouldn't have people needing to fake asexuality as a shield against it
Anonymous 201247
I think asexuality exists and my feelings mirror what
>>200717 said also the struggles of ace people isn’t exclusive to asexuals which I think is why lgb people get annoyed at them. But to say that you don’t face any issues is a bit weird but I guess it’s cultural then. People will get nosey when you’re not married and old. It’s really satisfying when you find out there are others like you and you finally put a word to how you feel (or lack of).
On the other hand there’s nothing more cringe then someone saying “excuse me I’m sex repulsed can we not talk about sex” in gay circles, almost as cringe as queer theorists and queer tiktokers redefining the what is means to be gay/lesbian/bisexual.
Is it weird that while I don’t take aromantic people seriously I don’t mind aroace. Demisexuality is just too hyper specific and means nothing especially when “friends falling in love” is seen as the ideal relationship.
Anonymous 201376
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>>200717>anyone who isn't even downright unemployed but has simply had low income or freelance employment can testify to how socially isolating these experiences are and how job is literally everywhere and if you for some reason don't want or can't partake in it, or even don't want to simply hear about it, well good luck! lol>it's not that people shouldn't talk about job, in fact i believe job has to be talked about even more than it is for multiple reasons, it's just genuinely frustrating for some people because it's indeed a sensitive topic for so many yet they have no choice but to live in a world obsessed with it. and lack of employment activity or employment desire is stigmatized. just an example, the word "neet". or how career success while valued to an extent, does become ridiculous to the eyes of people after a while, and tbh it was never praised between teens, everyone knows there is peer pressure to gain it even among girls Anonymous 201383
>>201379i think it's supposed to be a gotcha. it's a smart copypasta ngl but idk if the main message comes across
Anonymous 201388
>>201383yeah i didnt understand the point but i agree jobs drive me insane and the things shes saying are true
Anonymous 201391
>>201376You're right, NEETs should be represented in the gay flag too.
Anonymous 204258
>>201376Are you implying working is comparable to sexuality? I dont get the meaning of this post
Anonymous 204376
I still think it's funny how they added being black or brown to the gay pride flag.
Just goes to show that the majority of people waiving said flag dont actually give a shit about gay pride and its basically just the latest fad.
Now I just see random shit tacked onto it like the Ukraine stripes lol.
adding pepe makes about as much sense as anything else now
Anonymous 204493
>>204258Asexuality rights are to gay rights, as NEET rights are to gay rights.
Anonymous 204532
>>36860I am in the actual sense that I don't feel sexual attraction to someone. Been that way all my life and I'm not a spring chicken anymore. Then again, I have a verified Cluster A that lists a lack of sexual attraction as one of the common side effects. I can't speak for anyone else or their reasons. Luckily I also have almost no libido to go with it, otherwise I don't know how I'd cope with wanting to screw all the time but not having any example of who I would participate with. When I was younger, I would get frustrated and try to force myself to like men; when it didn't work, I tried to like women instead but, obviously, neither worked and I gave up. Now I'm just kind of glad I don't have to deal with the same obsessive preoccupation everyone else seem to have over looking for sex.
"Asexual" is just a descriptive term. I didn't know what I was experiencing had a name until I strayed across the term by chance looking through some old feminist material a few decades ago. No interest whatsoever in the strange focus on using one's sexuality (or lack thereof) as an identity and all this flag nonsense; it's shaped some of my life and who I ended up being, but I am me first and my traits second. Never participated in the strange communities and fandoms that seem to have sprouted up around idpol and I have no interest. I think a grand total of 3 people on the planet know that the term applies to me, and it's not something I think about unless I happen across threads like this on the few sites I occasionally discuss things on.
>>37038Dismissive over-simplification of potentially complex issues for the sole reason of disagreement is not typically a sign of intelligence.
Anonymous 204594
>>204493that post seems like a very shoehorned response to one that didn't even mention if asexuality should be part of lgbt or not though
Anonymous 204618
>>204594Because obviously it shouldn't.
Anonymous 204637
>>204618yes, but is "should asexuality be part of the lgbt or not?" the only topic of discussion when it comes to asexuality? lol
in fact, the nona didn't even mention that in her post. she was talking about other things entirely. so that response either embarrassingly missed the point, or it was just some purposefully petty remark that had nothing to do with the topic at hand
Anonymous 204881
>>204637Asexuals make some gays irrationally angry just by existing lol
Anonymous 206415
>>204881It's almost like they want to hijack the movement out out of narcissism while gays need to fight homophobia
Anonymous 206449
>>206415it's almost as if gays don't also shoehorn their way into asexual discussion.
this thread itself has an example of a gay or gay sympathizer person mocking someone over lgbt discourse when no one was saying that asexuals should be part of the group, and people were in fact talking about something else.
Anonymous 206714
>>206415No one is "hijacking" a movement. "Hijacking" implies malicious intent and they're literally not doing anything to hurt gay rights.
Anonymous 219300
Can you be attracted to only fictionally people?
Im not attracted to people in irl and find most people hard to look at.
Anonymous 269472
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Discovering that I'm asexual, more specifically aegosexual, was the best discovery of my life. Unfortunately, I'm still romantically attracted to moid and women. I hope to find a girlfriend one day.
Anonymous 269473
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>>Can you be attracted to only fictionally people?Yes, uh. It's under the umbrella of asexuality, it's called "fictosexual". Some people say that this 'sexuality' was created by wanker otaku moids, but I believe it's valid.
It would be something like enjoying playing a game where you stab people, but you would never want to stab people in real life.
Anonymous 269482
>>36860I feel bad for straight asexual nonas. I feel like 90% of asexuals are women.
Anonymous 269486
asexuality is not real
Anonymous 269487
>>269486I mean it probably could be, it just isn't a hecken' valid sexuality and is a sign of something else like mental or hormonal illness.
Anonymous 269491
>>269486It may not be, but I'm glad I don't have to engulf myself in moids' cocks like a pig to satisfy myself sexually.
I love being asexual and I hope to remain so until I die.
Anonymous 269493
>>269486Asexuality is real but it's a disorder. Probably has something to do with emotional damage as a child, or maybe something wring with the brain itself. Regardless, I definitely think it's a real thing.
Anonymous 269496
>>269487>and is a sign of something else like mental or hormonal illness.That's literally all sexualities except straight THOUGH.
Anonymous 269500
>>269482This doesnt make sense, if anything you should feel bad for women that willingly engage in sex with moids.
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>>269500I believe she was referring to nonas who are asexual, but not arromantic. In this case, those who are heteroromantic.
They fall in love with moids, but they will never be loved and cared for by these wankers who only think about sex.
Anonymous 269560
>>269526Women don't need "love" from men to feel happy or fulfilled, so it's all good.
Anonymous 269572
I've seen my share of women claiming to be asexual but *-romantic, heterosexual but homoromantic, and a very small number who claim to be homosexual but heteroromantic (I imagine these are mostly coping about coming out of the closet after marriage). But I have not seen many women who claim to be voraciously sexual and totally aromantic.
The issue with that is that the set of actions that constitute romance is socially constructed, but the set of actions that constitute sex are biological. I have a hard time believing that there are so many women who feel a biological imperative to be taken to a movie and hold hands specifically with a man or specifically with another woman because of some deep intense moviegoing instinct versus the number of women who have an intense sexual urge but no movie or touchy impulse. It seems more likely to me that the number of true asexuals is tied to the number of true aromantics, and that 'asexual-but-romantic' likely has a sexuality that is hard to express with a partner (esp. a male) or to see depicted in media (esp. media with any% male audience).
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i could never tell if im aro or ace bc i keep switching from liking romance and sexuality to being disgusted by it. figured out a few days ago i might be graysexual which is i think on the asexual spectrum? i dont like labeling bc i still have a lot to learn about myself lol ^_^ but greysexual kinda sounds right to me rn. i could totally live a peaceful life without sex tho, considering the furthest ive ever gone w a guy was fingering lmao but whenever i was sexual with him i dont think it was like a natural urge, more of a "oh okay this is what ppl do so ig im gonna play the socially acceptable role?" thing. my experience w him made me think im not asexual but now in retrospective my thoughts and inner reactions were pretty asexual lol. i did it more bc i wanted the experience (u never know if u never try ig) and not bc i felt the sexual urge yk. still not sure if im grey or completely asexual tho
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Statistically, of the 1.66% of asexuals that exist the majority of them are women/AFAB between the ages of 18-27 and most of them are on the spectrum. HealthyGamerGG even talked about how common it is for people with autism/fear of intimacy latch on to sexual or romantic fantasies of fictional characters vs real people. And if you look into the asexual forums and subreddits, it's just a bunch of deranged people lumped together under this incredibly vague umbrella term. Some people legit feel nothing romantically or sexually, others are Cluster Bs, others can't get off unless a woman farts on them, others have never touched grass, and others are just run of the mill women who don't like hook-up culture. This is not a sexuality, this is just weird cope for autistic femcels trying to label normal behaviors. Like, if you have social anxiety and think you're ugly OF COURSE you're not going to feel like fucking. If all the guys around you are fat, immature uggos OF COURSE you're not going to be attracted to them. If you're afraid of intimacy OF COURSE you don't want to date anyone. This goes double if you're ND or have some kind of other issue. HELLO??? It's obvious.
Anonymous 269657
>>200717>t's not that people shouldn't talk about sex, in fact i believe sex has to be talked about even more than it is for multiple reasons, it's just genuinely frustrating for some people because it's indeed a sensitive topic for so many yet they have no choice but to live in a world obsessed with it.This is funny to me because every asexual I've ever seen or met is OBSESSED with sex. One girl I rped with called herself a sex repulsed aroace and had a meltdown because she wanted me to rape her character. The amount of rape-centered whump fics asexuals write in general is insane.
Anonymous 269681
>>269560Not everyone is a lesbian, nona….
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>>36860I’m “asexual.” I put it in quotes here because I fully recognize that my lack of interest for sex almost assuredly has to do with my history of assault and low self esteem. Maybe that just makes me mentally ill. But, however you want to label it, at the end of the day I have no desire for sex and don’t see that changing.
Honestly? It fucking sucks. I’m lonely and feel resigned to be alone for the foreseeable future. Romance seems fun and I would love to be desired and it’d be nice to have a bf but good luck trying to find a moid who genuinely doesn’t care about sex. All of my friends are dating or getting married and I’m starting to be left behind a little bit because I’m the odd one out. Just venting at this point but gosh I wish I was just normal
Anonymous 269867
I feel like true asexuality is extremely rare, which makes a bunch of incels and femcels flock to that word for validation and the feeling that they are a special butterfly
Anonymous 269873
>>269860Why don’t you work on yourself then? Get therapy or pick up healthy hobbies, try meditation or mindfulness techniques, join a group…
Something I hate about these labels is that people relate to them and then make it their whole identity instead of trying to work on themselves. Lots of people go through horrible traumas and self esteem issues, but you got to push through it somehow if you want to live a good life. And before someone claims I don’t know what it’s like to have traumas, I grew up with a single mom who was treating her bipolar with cocaine and alcohol. I get it. But giving up isn’t going to make your headspace any better.
Anonymous 269876
>>269873haha wear diapies not cringe i swear :)
Anonymous 269884
I believe that there could be a subset of people with naturally low enough libido/sexual desire to care or seek it out; but I feel this group is also likely smaller than the amount of self-proclaimed asexuals.
I think a lot of the latter group are some combo of bad experiences/trauma making one averse to sex, an over-corrective response to an overtly sexualized society, or some other indicator of poor health (med side effects, bad diet, little exercise, toxic environments, etc.)
Anonymous 269885
I'm in a weird position where I'm not exactly "asexual" by definition, I still experience sexual attraction, but I dislike sex and I don't seek it out. It was never pleasurable to me, I always found it irritating if anything and disassociated the entire time. I can get myself off fine though.
Anonymous 269888
>>269885That's called "autosexual" I believe
Anonymous 269890
>>269876Wanna try dismissing me in English next time?
Anonymous 269891
>>269876Wtf does your retarded ABDL fetishist have to do with what she said?
Anonymous 269895
>>269891trauma usually leads to sexual deviancy
Anonymous 269897
>>269895She literally made an argument against letting trauma dictate your sexuality. Reading comprehension is clearly not your strong suit.
Anonymous 269902
but im making the argument that most people do not have the will power or fortitude to actually do anything about it and once they have been diddled they are sexually broken forever, and yeah i have a learning disability so you make fun of me for it? wow very big of you punching down and making fun of people who actually try…
Anonymous 269904
>>269902So you were unironically suggesting that she try shitting herself and saying that doing so isn't fucking retarded? Lmao
Anonymous 269906
>>269904did i say that? i understand completely, i also have learning disability, i cant imagine what day to day life is like for you… nona i appreciate you trying to understand the conversation, it was purely annecdotal, see online there are these things called memes, i just posted one haha, its so funny :) you should learn to lighten up :D
the alternative was posted bc thats the extreme ppl go to when left to their own devices without that frame of reference you wont know what you are talking about, now if you have unsolved issues and are super defensive when i bring up diapers thats your prerogative and your own battle to fight.
being a sexual deviant is generally a bad thing and if someone defends it they are probably a sexual deviant and a retard and you cannot take what they say seriously.
Anonymous 269908
>>269907what makes you think that im the one with the diaper fetish?
just because i brought it up? do you think everyone who has ever brought up a nazi is a nazi too?
nona its worse than i thought, you will be in my prayers tonight
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>>269908I think you may have more than just a simple learning disability
Anonymous 269915
oh and now your personally attacking me based off of my behavioral issues to? what gave it away?
:/ i cant believe youve derailed the thread into talking about your diaper shit when we could have just left it at the unfunny joke that points to the alternative that a vast majority of people end up in, also nice dog fucker cartoon you got there, whys that on your hard drive?
i think asexuals are extremely fucking rare, the real ones, and the people that larp as them are either coping or trying to fit into some kind of box they can put themselves into to seem more unique or cool than they actually are.
Anonymous 269917
>>269915It's a meme from pre-2007 4chan, I wouldn't expect you to get it, what with you openly admitting to being retarded and all.
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I can't make heads or tails of what the fuck is happening here, why are we talking about diapers and learning disorders?
Anonymous 269919
>>269915So you wear the diapers because you fuck dogs? Did the knot prolapse your butthole, Nona?
Anonymous 269921
>>269918All internet discourse boils down to diapers and learning disabilities, aka retards shitposting.
Anonymous 269922
It's interesting the retarded diapershitter brought up Nazis and furfags, as there is a lot of overlap between the three groups.
I'm taking notes.
Anonymous 269923
>>269921i genuinely wasnt trying to shit post, like yeah it was p low quality but the point stands that a vast majority of people are broken and want to keep other people broken because they can take advantage of them (and ppl dont usually change unless a proverbial nuke goes off), it doesnt have to be sexual in nature i just grabbed the most weird thing i could think of, and instead of just ignoring the internet bully i continued to engage in it.
Anonymous 269924
>>269923Retard-san… Lurk moar. Riling yourself up over precieved conflict is only going to make it harder for you to get your point across if you already struggle with it. Calm down before correcting miscommunications.
Anonymous 269934
diapernona is my favorite poster now
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>>269873I am trying to work on myself. I’ve gotten a little better with time (I’m not as scared of men for instance) but I’ve had so many bad experiences since my teenage years that it’s going to take a lot to unravel that stuff. Maybe I’ll find a moid who’s actually caring and willing to work through this stuff with me, but from what I’ve experienced, I’m not holding my breath.
I use the asexual label because it’s easier to say that than explain all my issues to people. I don’t like traumadumping on my friends
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Too schizo for a relationships and I refuse to take my meds
Anonymous 270072
>>269956I understand, yeah. It's good that you're working on yourself and I wish all the best for you. If it helps, there are some good moids out there, you just have to weed through a lot of trash, unfortunately.
Anonymous 276106
What difference is there between claiming to be ace, and just accepting that you're a permavirgin?
Sugarcoating it? Wanting to fit in somewhere? I don't get it.
Anonymous 276124
>>276106Either autists over analyzing themselves and wanting to sit at the Cool Kids ™️ table (lgbt+ being pushed as cool and unique) or sad retards not wanting to admit to themselves that they’re unlikely and not fit for human society. Or some flavor of cluser b.
Anonymous 276166
>>276106Some people just don't think about sex. If their thoughts were on a list, sex would be down at the bottom or not listed at all. Sometimes they can have sexual thoughts but feel little or no desire to act on them or at least with a real person.
When I meet someone new, I never think about anything sexually related to a person, even if they're attractive. Even months in knowing someone, I don't even want to know if they have ever had sex. I don't want them to talk to me about their sex lives. I just don't want to hear it. As far as I am concerned everyone is asexual.
Anonymous 276169
>>276166That’s most people unless you’re dating them. You have to by a hypersexual lunatic (or male) to look at the general public or a friend and think fleeting sexual thoughts about them. Every single asexual I know is chronically horny. They read ‘spicy’ books and fanfic, they rp sex online, use chatbots, look at horny fan art etc. the only thing is that they are too autistic and awkward to form human relationships with people and even when they do luck out they are too neurotic/low self esteem/medicated to really connect with their partner like that. But this doesn’t make it their sexual orientation, they need social training.
Anonymous 276188
>>276169Social training is overrated and no real dick out there is worth it
Anonymous 276193
>>276188If you say so, but humans are social creatures whether you like it or not.
Anonymous 276261
I consider myself "demi-romantic" but asexual.
I was married, I only felt lust over my ex which I loved romantically those times (I still love him but as family since we spent many many years together).
Never felt those feelings that some people talked me about before, lusting over someone out of nowhere just coz they're cute or hot.
I can differentiate attractive people, but is mostly in an "artistic/hegemonic/aesthetic" manner than a sexual one, more like, appreciation of beauty like if you went to see a sculpture in a museum.
I get horny of course, but only a few days before I get my period, but it isn't about anyone but myself, if I do is just thinking about my body and how I'm feeling it, I never felt this necessity that some people claim is a "must" to have sex in daily life or something, the idea even disgusts me.
My thoughts are that there's no need to have sexual intercourse to have a relationship, unless it is discussed, but nothing better than spending time with someone appreciating memories than just having sex.
Anonymous 276264
asexuality isn't real and it's just autists who are coping. just say you have a low libido lmao
Anonymous 276275
i am full on sex repulsed though romantically into women
Anonymous 276291
>>276264It wouldn't be that much of a problem if other people didn't have issues about not wanting sex. Not everyone wants to be a breeder.
Anonymous 276296
>>276275Being sex repulsed isn’t normal nor is it a sexuality. I wish people would go back to self improving instead of hiding behind retarded labels.
