I'm all for supporting dysphoric men because they tend to have a lot of injunctions in their heads that they are not allowed to be themselves, at the risk they get called fags and other insults, and even get treated like disappointments if they dare act a little feminine, but they aren't women and homosexual women will never be into them because they're not even the right sex. The most they will get out of lesbians relationship-wise is friendship. (In the same breath theyre not disappointments/failures as men either, theyre just feminine men and that's okay.)
I know they go for the transition route because they think it will make people like them or respect them, and to an extent, protect them, but sometimes i wonder if they realize they are putting obstacles in their own path to happiness when they join these lesbian groups because it cements their "I'm a failure who will never find love" mindset they have in their head.
I feel like they need to work on their self esteem and tell themselves they are okay as they are and recognize the people who encouraged them to believe they were a dissappintment and had to be a certain way to be liked in the beginning (parents, friends, society, internet) and stick up for themselves against those people before they start trying to find romance.