/b/ - Random

are you sexually attracted to women? men?

i made a chart for you

>>76343
nothing makes me more angry than he/him lesbians and those who defend them. just why???

>>76353
i’m the person who posted that but if it came off as supporting he/him lesbians it wasn’t my intention (i forgot to add a yes at the top)

>>76353
You WILL suck her DICK

if you want to have sex with a woman but dont want to with a man.

im not a lesbian so ive never struggled with sexual orientation, but how hard can it be to figure out if youre gay? this post sounds like it was made by a 13 year old.

>>76356
Ur good babe smooch I was just bringing it up because I know people whom that chart would piss off specifically bc you have to be a woman to be a lesbian lmao

I unironically do not know. It's very confusing. I'm not sure I even like women, but I've been with one before. Honestly for me it wasn't really about the sexual parts, I just wanted someone to love me, and women are very good at that. I guess I could do sexual things with my ex in the end but I'm much happier with men, I just find them a bit oafish and hard to understand, and they're really not as soft or as kind…

Mm. Bumping so someone more knowledgeable can answer.

>>76603
>it wasn't really about the sexual parts
>could do sexual things
Honestly if you're not sexually attracted to women, then you're either straight or one of those 90/10 bisexuals for men. Likely the latter if you had minor attraction.
I'm the reverse and have pondered it a fair bit, if that qualifies me to make a judgement. A mostly-gay instead of a mostly-straight.

>>76361
They aren't even trying to be women anymore, they just want you to nod your head along with everything they say

Honestly I wonder this myself, my first kiss was with a girl at 5 which I enjoyed very much. My first kiss with a boy was at 6 and didn't really enjoy it. As I got older and my sexuality developed, the erotica I like to view tend to be female centric (WLW or yuri), 2nd to women and men. I enjoy viewing female bodies and go eh at the sight of men. I think I like the idea of a phallic object in me, but I prefer if its with another woman (not like "dickgirls" lol). I dated a couple of men in my life and I think I had actual romantic relations with them but they never last long/well. I used to call myself 'bisexual' but now I don't know.

Let me know if you find out
I am repulsed by men and only fantasize about girls and yet I'm still not sure kek

>>83778
sounds like you're bi with a heavy preference for women

>>83814
It is really wild to me that you think that is bi. It's basically the exact scenario in that My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness manga.

>>83816
HOLY SHIT I FUCKED UP POSTING THIS SO BAD.

I meant to post this in the female gaze thread with this reply (pic) and link to it here as an example of a man I find attractive where my reaction is not 'eh'. I think the 'eh' reaction to even men you would consider attractive is really telling if you're considering whether you're actually attracted to men at all.

>>76603
I used to think I could be a lesbian because I hated men so much. But I wasn't attracted to women either. Sometimes when I'm not being cynical, I think I just haven't found the right man yet. But the search is always so exhausting and ultimately disappointing.

Maybe I'm too optimistic, but I feel like men have the capacity for love and empathy. The majority are just emotionally stunted and there is no pressure for them to mature.

>>83816
>>83817
NTA but I do feel eh about men I find attractive. I used to not even know when men were attractive or not, but I have slightly more developed my ability to appreciate them aesthetically. I only get aroused by men if I purposefully sexualize them by imagining them in sexual situations with me and basically objectify their bodies as sexual objects, and even then it's not very strong and kind of uncomfortable.

>>83827
And with women?

>>83830
I've always been attracted to women and I always preferred w/w stories. I've never been with a woman though so I'm scared maybe I'm fake and actually wouldn't like somehow. Like maybe the smell is somehow incompatible and I just don't know because I haven't done it (I know that's a weird think to fixate on lol).

I have a bf though, in case it sounded like I was an obvious lesbian.

>>83833
It really sounded like you were an obvious lesbian. IDK nonnie, you do you. You sound incredibly gay like:
>I have to force myself to be attracted to men
>I am automatically attracted to women
>I am bi
IDGI

>>83835
I don't get it either tbh my sexuality confuses me a lot. My bf is LDR so I can't be sure if I will like it irl, but I am attracted to him and get off to thinking about being with him. I like how he looks but it feels like it's because he's my bf, if he was a stranger I wouldn't care probably. Before I met him men were basically entirely nonsexual to me, now I can sort of sexualize them but unless it's him I feel like a robot trying to emulate straight women.

>>83837
Well for real don't let me tell you what you're doing. If you're happy and comfortable that's all that matters. I would say if this doesn't work out IRL you should try dating women, because your fears there are totally unfounded.

>>83839
Yeah you are most likely right. Thanks anon

>>83833
Hey I'm the other anon thats similar to your case and honestly, I get where you're coming from. Another anon told me I could be bi with more preference towards women and another anon says its like the scenario from MLEwL(should I read it?). The closest I ever been with another woman is kissing, Ig I should try dating one to see how it works.

>>83849
It was just this specific part I thought of on MLEwL. I'm not saying your life is as much of a fuck-up as the mangaka's (but if it is mine was for a long time so don't sweat that too much either).

>>83849
MLEwL is good, I think it's similar to your situation. But without spoiling it too much, I feel like it's more of an asexual story and she wants to have a loving human connection with someone more than preferring girls over guys.

If you would lick a woman's pussy, you're a lesbian. If you would also suck a dick, you're bi.