girl (platonic) friend thread Anonymous 104231
how are nonas finding friends??
i'm really struggling to find likeminded girl (platonic) friendships… ive been a shutin for a long time due to the demands of my course load, but i would really love to try and put myself out there and find friends again.
the friends i have, which are mostly long distance (i've moved around a lot) or online, are nice. we engage in a lot of chats ab common interests, hobbies, views on the world etc. but i found that some often pander to moids and they don't seem to be fully aware of how damaging the patriarchy is. like they haven't woke up to it yet / or ready to accept the gravity of it yet.
so as a result i often get painted as "sexist" lol (as if thats possible)/ or i end up just keeping my mouth shut on topics and being passive. i feel like as a result, i cant really build authentic friendships bc my value system is such a large part of who i am.
i think bc of abuse and my experience w moids, i also associate girls w my value systems/similar opinions on moids as safe.
i've tried bumble friends, discord, and more. im in a radfem server at the moment, but theres troons in there. & i'm in another cc related disord server - which is the safest one i've been able to find. but would really love to try and connect w more nonas..
how are yall making girl friends? or dealing w the lack of friends??
Anonymous 104232
sorry i dont have a comprehensive answer for u nona, but i just wanted to say keep your head up <3 from this post alone i'd be interested in befriending you so surely u will find people!
Anonymous 104234
>>104232thanks nona. its hard bc even if potential friends reply here i'll be so suspicious that they are moids. there is no safe place for us anymore
Anonymous 104242
In a similar boat nona. Thus may be weird, but Reddi.
Anonymous 104256
>>104248
thats a bold assumption to make.
not that i need to explain myself but: i have really good political/educational boundaries. i dont impose them on others and i dont engage in any religious, political or social/political chat in any early relationship.
most of what i mentioned was observations. & any time i do go to say anything or painted as "sexist" as i mentioned, im talking ab experiences ive had from deeper friendships where i have given my opinion. most of the time i am passive, i dont speak up on my views, i keep my "mouth shut" as i mentioned.
my point of the post is that.. i found as relationships progress, it becomes a problem later on bc my value system / and beliefs on feminism are very central to me.
Anonymous 104258
>>104242damn nona i feel you. wish there was a way to reach you and connect.
Anonymous 104515
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i don’t know.. there’s a girl i work with who wanted to be friends, she actually invited me to hangout with her. but i didn’t know what we should do. and i’m kind of gay and another coworker told me she’s gay. so i was like Fuck. and got nervous. and canceled. it’s over. i felt like i had to perform. she is so so so so so sweet. i think i am too evil to be friends with someone like that. i don’t know what we would talk ab. she is just too fucking pure and sweet and naive and cheerful i cannot. i wish the best for her though
Anonymous 104516
Biochan in pants.j…
>>104515what if secretly she is as evil as you and she uses her innocent looks to lure in other naive girls to do
evil things with them?
Anonymous 104517
>>104515give her a chance. dont be a jerk
Anonymous 104930
me too. day in day out is the same thing where the only people i talk to are the coworkers i fake my personality around or it’s just moids and strangers in my dms. there is absolutely nobody i can be myself around because i’m not friends with any likeminded girls and i just mimic their personalities so they like me and are nice to me. i want to get rid of my social media for this reason but at the same time it’s the only socialization i get outside of being outside. i have one online friend but her and i both suck at texting so a lot of the time my days are just quiet and alone. lonely