Does he love me or am I young
I'm still in hs and have been getting attention from older men recently (their age range being 22-35). So I started dating this one guy who's 6 years older than me and he's nice and all, buys me stuff, takes me out…
But how do I recognize whether he actually likes me for me and doesn't want me just because I'm young?
And another issue, I'm still a virgin and don't feel the need to hurry, he asks to have sex every time and I tell him no, but I feel like leading him on or that he'll be mad at me for doing so. I feel like men would judge me harshly in future relationships for not being a virgin/would make them less likely to marry me.
What attitude to have towards losing virginity? Saving yourself for marriage?
I am a wallflower
I am the most forgettable person on this planet. Proof:
>people commonly forget my name ever after years of knowing me
>shy and introverted (a given)
>at work nobody hears my pages for customer assistance
>in conversation I can never get a word in no matter how loud I am, I am often talked over on the regular
>both therapists I've seen have forgotten about me completely and didn't show up to appointments
>at this point I could walk into a public place stark naked and nobody would care.
The only attention I get is from scrotes who want sex and my family. Kill me
Living with someone with a serious disorder or disability
Part vent, part desperate plea for help…
My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)
I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.
I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.
And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.
Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?
embarrassing memories
i was socially retarded, completely socially retarded until i started going to college and i still did embarrassing things but i was the worst in high school because i was too old to behave this way no wonder i had no friends.
i have two stories that i have been thinking about today that make me cringe physically and they're both fueled by my oblivion to social norms in addition to my attraction to girls, I'm sharing them here to get it off my chest and hopefully out of my mind for the time being.
>first story
i have a crush on a classmate who is mean to me and only keeps me around because i was so insane it entertained her, she had an older sister in school with us that had vitiligo and was generally sickly, as a result, my classmate was very protective of her older sister and really cared for her and i was crushing on the classmate which i didn't know at the time i drew pictures of us together and made her lunchboxes and was too nervous to look her in the eye… blushing, heart racing were some of the things i felt when i was around her plus my heart was beating through my vagina the most embarrassing thing i did with no good reason was going to the sanrio store (i was retarded) and spending 1/2 of the money i had on gifts for the older sister for graduating plus a small gift for my friend, i never had a real conversation with the sister or knew what was she into, i even wrote a gift card, i just got her what i thought would be appropriate which wasn't. i went to my classmate with the big fat giftbag with flowers peaking and gave her, she hugged me because she thought it was hers and i had to tell her that its not and the way she looked at me was so confusing, i never knew how to read expressions then but i knew that was not a happy look, she kinda became meaner to me and stopped talking to me and i did not know why for the life of me until it was very very late.
>second story
i managed somehow to get with the catty girls who are slutty on the downlow and it was fine, i learnt a lot from them and they were accepting of my weirdness.
there was this tomboy who hanged out with us sometimes and she was obviously not straight and i had the hots for her just like i had them for my classmate, they gossiped about her a lot, one time they were gossiping about how she's such a dyke and i agreed and told them that she is okay with the term i knew because i asked her before and told them that i'd ask her again for them, they assumed i was joking so they said yes and laughed it off but i actually did it and told her that it's for my friends, they went apeshit and bullied me for it for days and i really really couldn't fathom why were they so upset.
i always lost the friends i made for what i thought was no reason but i get hit with the realization years later, i can't explain why i was so naive up until college when i was supposed to be an adult.
Vent Thread
Previous: >>63354
Male Focused Porn / Erotica
I hate the way gay men have ruined any sort of male focused erotica/pornography.
Any time I'd wanna look at erotic pictures or videos of a dude, it'd ALWAYS involved something that mostly gay men would enjoy (shots of asses, femboys, multiple men getting very handsy with each other etc).
I don't really watch porn that much anymore, but just remembering how annoying this was made me feel like going on a rant.
i'm attracted to men, but only in theory.
in practice i'm disgusted by them, or indifferent at best. i rarely have positive feelings towards a male, and even when i do it's nothing beyond slight affection and camaraderie.
i know i'm not a lesbian or bisexual because i never felt attracted to a girl, or at least not strongly and consistently.
but at the same time, i don't really feel that way towards men either, be it celebrity moids or irl ones.
it's like an emptiness of romantic and sexual drive where i know i can feel it and wish i did, but can't find anyone to direct that flow of energy towards because no one makes me feel that way.
a limbo.
Dating someone with autism
Hello, i need some advice. To make a long story short, I have been thinking of dating a man who has admitted to being diagnosed with autism. I don't really have any idea on what to expect. And if anyone has an experience with dating someone on the autism spectrum please let me know.
Help??
>boyfriend comes over and fingers me
>I overstimulate,
>My leg twitches for the rest of the evening and is still current
what does this mean???
work thread
ITT: we discuss frustrations at our jobs whether you were wronged or you yourself messed up
NEETS need not reply
Dreams Thread
This is a thread where you can post all your dreams you have and maybe discuss it with other anons. I don't know where else to post it on here so here goes:
I had a strange dream last night that I can't quite understand. I usually have dreams that foretells of future events or just random dreams that are made up of the thoughts I had the night before so this one is unusual even by my own standards.
>for some reason im in a jail cell serving 5 months for disrespecting a officer
>im sharing a jail cell with some guy, which is weird because im pretty sure mixed sex jails don't exist in my county
>he's nice to me and we end up being friends
>i get out one month early for good behavior
>while im walking out of jail i think "i can see how this fucks up people now. it makes you more antisocial [???]"
>the police officer who pressed charges on me calls me to his office and says he released me early because im 17 and i shouldn't be serving 5 months in jail anyway (im 19 in real life)
>i try to get to my house but i end up bumping into my cellmates jogging outside with a drill instructor
>i leave to use the public restroom and two prisoners end up following me in there
>one of the prisoners was my old cellmate. wtf
>they start to grab me and drag me in the stall while other prisoners come in there to basically.. yeah
>wake up confused as fuck and worried
Context: The area i live in is kind of dangerous and the crime rate has gone considerably up in the past 5 years. I walk outside for all kinds of reasons and i noticed there's a lot of shady men who follow me around and try to talk to me and such. I recently got almost abducted.. twice.. just because I was outside by myself after 9pm. I feel paranoid tbh but i don't know anyone who has this feel
Why do random teenage girls laugh at other people in public?
I hear it happening to moids all the time but it just happened to me too. I think they fucking followed me home. I had just got back from the gym so I looked like shit, maybe they were calling me ugly and unkempt or something.
It reminded me of when I was in highschool and the "popular girls" would straight up verbally harass people in public, and get away with it because… they were pretty I guess?
Heartbroken again by a moid on the internet who lives in another country, I don't do it on purpose but I keep meeting virgin dudes online whom I think I connect with and I start fantasizing about.
I'm stupid for thinking that we could be a thing because we're both ugly and nerdy, he only wants attractive girls that make me insecure. He probably does it on purpose, showing me little interest then complain about being single or asking how to approach the ladies, it's my fault for talking to men online.
I'll stick to imaginary husbando and my animes.
Moral dilemma
I'm stuck with a moral dilemma. I received a package today that was not meant for me. It has my address but it's not to me, or the last Tennant before me. Without thinking I opened it and it is a very expensive blanket. It's so soft and comfortable. I'm torn because I really want to keep it but I feel bad because it's not mine. Im not sure where to begin on returning it because the name on the package is relatively generic so it's not like I can just look them up and sending it back to the seller seems moot because they're a huge brand and they're not going to help the person actually get their package. I know I'm a POS for keeping it so any sage advice would be appreciated. Pic related, it's me being comfy as fuck in this blanket.
General advice thread
I haven't found one in the catalog so I thought I'd make one so we don't have to make/derail threads with questions.
am I retarded
>talk to some guy on discord for a while
>discussion about mental illness and brain stuff on public server
>I get into a kinda fight with another guy I sometimes talk to about something unrelated
>guy 1 tells me rather rudely to take it to private channels and not disrupt the discussion
>I get emotional and unload on him and write wall of text about my problems in private
>he ignores most of my posts and tries to calm me down
>I block him
>unblock him some time later
>he won't accept my friendship requests and doesn't reply when I try to talk to him on public servers
Is there a way to salvage this
Traumatic Experiences
What was the most traumatic experience of your childhood (before 20)? I'd say mine was losing my house and a lot of my belongings in a fire.
I've never had any friends in my life. I went to an all girls school were I was singled out as the "weird one" so no one ever spoke to me like a human. I live in a very traditional country where a lot of people don't even own computers, I've never had anything to talk about or relate with other people.
There's no where to meet people anyways, and online is even worse, full of exhausting pc police girls and horny moids. I'm 20 now and the loneliness is really getting to me. I think I'm going to die alone behind my computer screen one day
Age Regression
does anyone else non-sexually age regress?
i’ve always been considered somewhat “childish” and my mom makes fun of me for watching my little pony and still buying stuffed animals at my age but its honestly so comforting to me and is one of the few things that helps me relax. i have this constant nostalgia and longing to be a little kid again, and indulging in these things makes me happy. i think my mental illness does play a part of it too, especially given that i was sexually abused at a young age, but you can still age regress without trauma.
any other anons experience something similar?
>well over 33 years of age
>still single
At least I'm still good looking
Depressed about being in university too long
I started uni 4 years ago for a bachelors, but because I changed my minor and general laziness I'll need 2 more years to actually graduate.
I feel so depressed and anxious about my future, I was supposed to be done after 3 years, but while everyone I know is out looking for their first real job or going on vacation before their masters I'm still stuck here.
I feel like a failure and despite them saying otherwise I feel like I'm disappointing my family.
By the time I graduate I'll be years behind my peers and I don't know how to deal with that.
>wake up
>no texts
What do you do if a man beats you in a relationship?
Long Distance Relationships
Thread to discuss Long Distance Relationships. The struggles, the pros… meeting the person for the first time… meeting them for the 50th time… vent both sad and happy things. LDRs can be quite a challenge but it's the right thing for some people.
where do i meet someone to hang out with? should i make a tindr?
so much anxiety my hands are tingling and swelling i feel dizzy an dlightheaded my stomach aches and i feel like throwing up I'm posting her to take e my mind off things and to breathe.
its funny that I've experienced these symptoms since i hit puberty.
i hate anxiety and I'm never taking stupid prescribed drugs that make me addicted .
/fcg/ - femcel general
post all things related to your involuntary celibacy
thread prompts:
>when did you realize you were a femcel and how old are you now
>what does being a femcel mean to you
>vent about celibacy
>what are your interests ? ( just curious, not necessarily related )
feel free to add more
vent thread - feels edition
post/vent about a time when a m*le hurt your feelings or made of of them
I need some support gals. I'm sorry to make yet another moid thread but, I seriously didn't expect this.
So this moid I've been talking for a while, we recently got into some sort of LDR and it seemed to go well I guess. Until he told me he didn't see anything wrong with dating a minor. I tried to argue against it but he just didn't see anything wrong with it. He's in his early 20s.
There were some redflags but I ignored them cause I thought he was genuinely a good person. I know I'm doing the right thing by not talking to him anymore but I'm honestly sad. I want to cry but honestly I'm still in shock, so I guess after that wears off I'll be able to cry.
I'm so close to giving up on men honestly, but I'm only 21. I want to have a deep connection with someone, I'm only human after all. I wish I were a lesbian so badly.
Do ugly girls get matches on tinder and other dating apps?? Or is it like ugly guys where you go months without matches or atleast get very few.
confessions thread 2
>>51270 previous bread
I never brush my teeth for the full 2 minutes
Share your relationship problems here
Dating Older Men
At what point is it ok and healthy to date a man in his 30s? I'm not attracted to men my age because I don't think most of them are really capable of having respect for women.
That being said I'm aware if an older man likes a younger woman, it could be a red flag for abusivness.
Is there an age where it becomes ok? Or a measurable level of maturity (if that's possible)?
Breaking up with a friend
Have you ever ended a friendship? I personally think it hurts more than regular breakups.
Prompts:
>How long have you been friends?
>How was the friendship when you were starting out vs when it was nearing its end?
>What caused you to break up?
>How do you feel now?
>Got any regrets?
I have a crush on Geddy Lee.
People call me weird, because of that. On top of that, I have always loved Rush's music and Geddy Lee's vocals aren't that annoying as people say!
how does a goblin become something other than a goblin
How do you accept being extremely creepy looking and unlikeable, and stop being self-conscious about it and instead just move on?
Honestly my whole life has been a trainwreck. I won't get into details but let's just say I was born with a few disabilities, my family tried to murder me when I was a child (there was a court case over it), while my peers said I looked like a creepy demon and guys made jokes about me shooting up the school someday. I grew up without any friends while being constantly bullied.
I am ugly. Awkward. Weird. Have nothing really to say besides desperately wanting to get along with people bc the only times in my life I felt ok was when I was having fun with others (often bc of some fluke). I tried glowing up after breaking down over realizing how fucked up I was…it failed and it turned out I was just ugly and too masculine looking. I'm here on HnB bc I spent many years chasing after those things and it just backfired.
Now that I'm older I'm at the point that it's completely dumb to expect me to ever look cute and, holy shit, I made such a massive mistake in focusing so much on my looks. Most of the best things in life have nothing to do with looks tbh.
I thought by being beautiful I'd finally get people to like me but I realize that I was just cheaping out all along. People aren't gonna like me and most of that has to do with me as a person. But I'm having so much trouble with getting over my past experiences with others that I can no longer authentically talk to them or treat them as individuals. It's always "oh let me just be super polite and super defensive". AKA, constantly anxiety-fueled deer in headlights "omg I don't want to bother them" energy…except ironically I probably unsettle people more over acting the way I do. AND I'M IN MY MID 20s. This is unacceptable to be so goddamned self-conscious.
I'm ashamed of the way I am and I'm not sure how to move on bc tbh I have this dumbass voice in my head that says that I need to look a certain way or act a certain way that…I just don't know how to.
I idealize people that talk freely, have fun together, say cute weird things and ideas and stories. And I feel like some fly on the wall, eternally menacing, and I'm so ashamed of it.
>Decide to go to the library to work on my story even though I know it's a bad idea
>Go there
>See a couple
>Overhear them talking about stuff I know about
>Immediately hate myself for being alone and career virgin
>Stop by chinese restaurant on the way home
>Place is full of couples
I want to fucking die. Why did I have to be born wrong.
I hate when normies try to get you to open up about your mental state
you will hear these people judge any morbid thought put out into the world and weep at slurs but think they can handle hearing you talk about why you are the way you are
and its obvious they don't actually care they just want the superiority of feeling like they can fix someone's illness
>smacks hand on a wall in annoyance
>ends up having to go to hospital to get xray
>greeted by a female wanting to get some details about me
>asks how old i am, i say "i'm alright"
>behind me is a hot male…
can life get any worse?
Do you doomscroll?
I CAN’T STOP GETTING PAINFUL CRUSHES ON MEN THAT ARE TOO GOOD FOR ME TO EVEN LOOK AT
I want to have sex with other men that's not my bf but I know he won't ever let me. When I think about it I feel so bad knowing I'm letting my youth pass by while missing out on the experiences I should have while I'm young. It frustrates me how possessive and insecure moids are with things like this
uhhhhhh my ex says im an abuser? what do i call this thread
so i dated and lived with this guy for two years. for reference im a 20 year old female and i dated him from the ages of 17-19. he was only a year older.. he was emotionally manipulative and i believe a narcissist. i myself have bipolar disorder, anxiety and bpd(dont roast me just bc bpd pls).. usually narcs and bpd's always end up together. anyway two times in our relationship he lied to me and nearly cheated and both of those times i experienced blackout rage and hit him. first time was hitting on his back and second after he invited another girl over i punched him in the face.. we broke up after that because he told his mom i abused him and he had to move out.. but now he goes around tellling people in our city that i abused him. and i mean i did twice.. but saying i abused him feels like a bit much for what happened no? i mean i can recall during the last argument he sat on top of me and choked me.. and i dont tell anyone that he was an abuser.. am i an abuser? he also tells people that i starved him which i NEVER did. not to mention he lost like 30 pounds AFTER we broke up-.-…but anyway yeah now a good amount of people that i used to be friends with blocked me online because they think im an abuser and others dont wanna be my friend bc theyve heard around… …. constructive criticism welcome
32 yo and virgin with no social life
32 f here. Probably autistic. I spent my life extremely isolated and alone. Never had organic social life outside my home. I have convinced myself it's not such a big deal. I am seeing a guy and he says I act like a robot. I really, really like him andso every once in a while I say "you're really special to me" so he knows."
He's starting to say I act autistic and he is tired of not knowing how I feel. I'm scared of losing him.
32 years with no touch is hard on a person. I have decided if we are to kiss or touch at all it will be in marriage, otherwise I'm just not ready to. I hope he asks me to marry him so I can finally be free of the constant loneliness.
Can you all relate to me?
Should I be worried?
How can I fix my problem?
Do any other bigger girls hattteee when people single out your face as pretty? Like you know exactly what their hinting at. It makes me wanna scream. Allll the damn time I hear how if I lost weight I’d be a 10, like I honestly should give a shit about that.
Penis Pain
i hate dudes but i cant stop wanting to fuck em. What do i do?
>see attractive male
>think to myself "he probably has a girlfriend"
>feel angry and envious for about 20 minutes
Anyone else do this?
Do you have an unhealthy romantic obsession with someone?
>zoomers referring to suicide as "The Final Yeet"
I just can't anymore.
i will never be able to have a relationship with the most perfect guy i have ever come to know because he is from spain and i am from america and it hurts
What's a self employment alternative for a weird dummy?
I can't handle the stress and anxiety of working for someone and I figure the only solution is working for myself.
Do you dislike or look down on girls who are not feminine? I have always been very insecure around other girls (have been bullied by them before which might be part of it).
I hate 4chan so much!
This site is full of pedophiles, nazis, Holocaust deniers and overall immoral people. 4chan is why I hate moids…
I am literally Kobeni
>youngest of 6 brothers
>forced to look for a job because parents couldn't afford uni
>chose to become a P.I because it sounded like fun
>now I can't leave the house without being scared
Have been working at this for three years now and I know this line of work is likely to end up in a gruesome death before I hit 29 but I love my bros so much that I'll do anything to keep reeling in the money. Not everything is bad, I get free food for stakeouts (which last hours at a time) and the senior who trained me was nice enough to let me smoke inside his car.
>inb4 were the options really this or prostitution
More like this, onlyfans, a call center or MC wagie.
How should you deal with your boyfriend when he's being an ass?
Sometimes he does stuff that makes me want to wack him with a mallet, but when I calm down I know that's irrational.
So how should I deal with him when he's like this, should I just ignore him and bottle these feelings up or try explaining to him why he's an ass?
I was playing Coldwar COD this weekend because it’s my long weekend and I’m chilling, and I get an invite to join some guy and his game on coldwar, it says we’re friends but I don’t remember adding him.
He spammed me with invites the first day and sent me voice messages and he sounded so cute and funny, I sent him one back saying hi and that I can’t play I’m too tired and went to bed. He said he was very drunk and I went to bed.
The next night I got onto play and he begins spam inviting me and messages me and sends voice recordings like “hey where you at let’s play” lol, and I will be honest and say when I get invites from Anyone in game lobbies to play with them I don’t accept, it’s mostly guys and I’ve had far too many bad experiences with men online and IRL to let myself be in a position like that again.
I’ll get invites from girls sometimes but they don’t invite me after that because of how autistic and slow I am in the game, so they just think I’m rude and weird.
I accept his invite and he’s playing with 2 friends, his friends don’t acknowledge me (which I love) but the guy that Invited me is super excited I joined lol and he starts the game up and we all start playing.
Then he asked for my Snapchat (which I’m always hesitate to give any info to anyone) I gave it because hes cute and well if he tries to get me to cybersex him I’ll block him,no harm no gain.
He sends me a pic, I send him one of my face
He’s so cute lmao, and he sent me all the guns he had and his gun collection.
He showed me a video of him at a music festival.
He was so charming and :/I knew him for only 2 days and it felt like I felt in love with this guy I’m so sad.
Long story short some point when we were alone in the game I asked to see a movie poster he said he had of the movie Drive, because he asked me what movie is my favourite and we both said that one. He said his gf is sleeping in his room and he can’t show me and she would probably be upset that he’s sending photos at all let alone talking to another girl in game, and added onto Snapchat.
Also he was drunk (told his friends he was) but was very coherent the entire time we all played.
He went to bed late after me and him played just me and him after 4 hours, he said we would play later when he’s awake.
He sent me a link to the poster of the movie because I wanted to buy it
I now come to see
Now I see he’s removed me off Snapchat and PS4 and COD, why do I feel sad about this?
How do I navigate straight people culture as a straight woman?
It's no secret that straight men enjoy pitting women against each other, from female friends to even mothers and daughters. They like creating resentment and hostility between us for some reason, and some women even join in and deride other women for their boyfriends or husbands. I don't want to find myself in social situations where there's bitterness and animosity between me and another woman just because some guy is involved and we're both female.
- How do I avoid being used as a pawn in these "social games"?
- How can I find women who see through these men and don't want to be part of these games either?
- How do I signal to other women that I don't want to put up with male bullshit and female competition? Should I pretend to be a lesbian? Or asexual?
I think I have my first ever serious relationship (that’s consensual), but it isn’t what I ideally expected or desired. My BF? (Friend who’s a boy?) is very similar to me in almost all ways, which I love but is also scary.
He also admitted to me on the first date that he has bipolar disorder (1) and goes to therapy, I also told him I attend therapy, after that We began talking about our therapists and it was so fun lol.
But he switches between texting me a lot, sending me videos and memes and talking about interesting mutual topics, to not talking to me at all or being very distant.
Also he lives in my city (kinda) but he lives very far, and him and me both are like giant adult children and we don’t drive or have licenses and both of us get major anxiety when we have to be alone in distant places.
It feels like it isn’t a relationship but idk what this is?
He’s never dated before, also he’s asexual and so am I, this is probably my favourite thing about him. It just proves to me he doesn’t want me for sex like everyone else has done to me, he likes talking to me and spending time with me because he likes me
On our first in person date he wouldn’t hardly make eye contact with me, and I did the same lol, it was so great it was like we’re on the same level and he’s like me.
He even told me that he’s very awkward
Ahhhh I’ve never felt this from a man before omg lol
I am fucked
>22 year old high school graduate, autistic hikkikomori,have shit motor /executive functioning/ verbal/ writting and social skills that immediately distinguish me amongst other adults and make me a target for ableism
>Not on disability cause psychiatrist keeps procrastinating
>It's the start of the school year where you have to attend preuni classes for a year in order to take the uni entrance exam
>Can't even study cause i have a meltdown whenever i think about it
>Last time I tried attending i had a meltdown
>parents expect me to enroll
Who here tired of being a fucking autist
Sketchy Dating Advice
Do you follow "sketchy" or manipulative dating advice? Similar to how men have their PUA bullshit.
Where do you get it from? Has it helped you?
I have no interest in hurting a man, but I am interested in getting them to like me.
i would have liked to make a thread about discussing experiences with sexual assault, but i am convinced that there'd be moids reading it and getting turned on by the stories. and it makes me sad that we can't even talk about it here and be safe when it's already a thing we can't safely talk about in real life. i don't know a single woman who hasn't at least experienced some sort of harassment, if not outright rape, but i don't know a single one where there were consequences for the perpetrator. and some days that thought pops up in my mind and it just makes everything feel so bleak and depressing.
Anyone else feels like there are no CC women in your whole country?
I really wish I could have an at least semi-irl friendship with a like minded girl, but I live in a place with a disproportionate amount of normies.
In love with a NEET
I've been seeing a blackpilled NEET guy who I think I'm in love with. He has taken distance lately, and said he can't start a real relationship because of his glaring personal problems. I'm aware of them and I know they are bad, but I'm still in fucking love.
He's insecure and can't believe how hot I find him, and how strong mental connection I feel. But I've been in emotional pain for the past few weeks, because I just want to marry him but he can't even be in a relationship.
>Forget all about me.
>Cuz guess what? That's what's gonna happen.
>He's NOT gonna let me be your friend,
>he's NOT gonna let us do stuff together,
>and there's NO WAY it's gonna be able to work,
>and you're gonna have to come to a point
>where you're gonna choose him or me,
>and you're gonna choose him. You will.
>Because that's what EVERYONE does.
>That's what ALWAYS happens.
>IT'S NEVER ME.
>I'M NEVER GOOD ENOUGH
>I'M – AHHHHHHHHH
Why are they like this?
Did your boyfriend/husband wait for marriage before sex? What is your experience with convincing men to wait? Is it worth it? Does it work? Do the good men also walk away? Is it even a good idea in the first place, if seemingly no one seems to do that anymore?
I am from Germany and this whole concept is basically completely foreign to young people here.
career paths
is anyone else really struggling to find a career path?
i'm 20 now and i'll be finishing my a.a. this spring. the problem is, i don't know what to do after.
i'm scared if i don't continue college i won't ever be able to support myself so ideally, i'd like to.
my dream job would be wildlife biology but i've heard a lot of the work is long, hard, unpaid or paid very little.
so…right now i'm thinking about a paralegal or graphic design certificate program at my college.
i love to learn, write, be creative/design/sew, make music, and be around/care for animals, but i feel none of my interests can really translate into a career.
writing a book? having an etsy store? making an album? not anything that will make me money, and if it does, i cant support myself from it!
im seriously losing my mind because i feel like i need to decide soon or else ill be some loser. not to mention i already feel bad that i dont wish to pursue a career such as a doctor or therapist or something…
i just don't know what the right fit for me would be. i just want to be able to be around animals and create cute things and make music but i need money to live.
Was I a groomer?
I was a 17-year-old libfem when sjw keyboard warriors were new and I was all for sex and body positivity and all that jazz and around the same I was talking to this 13-year-old boy that I met on an art platform, we used to spend hours in calls talk about life and shitty parents and drawing, his parents were divorced and mine weren't any better so we bonded over that.
We disconnected for a few months and when we talked again, I was 18 and he was 14 his voice was deeper and he looked much older and I can't lie it moved something in me, something deep down from the time where I used to watch shota hentai, I tried to fight it as much as I could but I think I might have slipped up a few times because at some point I tried giving him some sex ed, in my mind if I gave him body-positive sex ed so he wouldn't turn into an incel but looking back i was talking with a 14-year-old about penis size and what to expect from sex and it makes me lose my sleep at night because I myself was groomed when I was younger than him.
He used to talk about his many girlfriends with me I'm not sure if he was trying to make me jealous or what.
The year was 2018, he was 16, I was 20, we were falling apart and I was discovering radfem while he was IRL groomed by his friend's mother which I didn't realise at the time because I thought he was just getting into tranny stuff but when I asked him he told me that his friend's mother who was a single mother made them wear her clothes even her heels and underwear, do their makeup using her own and make up take pics while they're crossdressed in exchange for alcoholic drinks, it was disturbing and I tried to warn him but he thought I was insane and we stopped talking at all until Christmas last year I got messages from him on my old account that I rarely check, I checked a month late but he said he wanted to talk and I was scared to death because what if he wanted to confront me, I agreed because it's probably well deserved but he never wrote back ever.
I am worried that I might have groomed him, he probably thinks of me as the creepy woman who groomed him when he was younger, it's a really scary thought because people who have been abused usually reflect the same abuse later.
I had an anorexic friend that I met years ago when we took the same classes.
I don't think she's a hardcore anorexic since she's never been hospitalized afaik but she only eats 1 meal a day plus snacks, severely underweight, works out very regularly, loves to body check and compare all the time and I feel that she only befriended me because I motivated her to not gain weight because I was overweight then.
she'd talk about how [thing] makes her feel skinny and tries to make me do it which always made uncomfy and embarrassed because she'd grab a part of my body that is fatty then act surprised when I tell her it makes me feel fat then in response she'd always make me touch said part on her and it was of course boney, she did that all the time it was weird.
then right before the pandemic I lost ton of weight and a bmi of 22 which was a huge improvement, she stopped seeing me and became busy all the time.
during lockdown I gained ton of weight and my bmi skyrocketed to 29 and she now wants to hang out with me again.
I started working on losing weight and one day i was wearing leggings and a tanktop under my jacket that I took off while we were chatting and she looked at me with disgust but prolly noticed that I'm losing weight again and I haven't heard from her since and she's busy again.
I also noticed that she's always surrounded herself with mostly heavier women, 4/5 of her closest friends were fat, she had another anorexic friend briefly and they used to exchange dieting and excise tips but it didn't last long.
Was she using me to fuel her anorexia? am I just fatspo to her? we've been friends for 5+ years I feel deeply betrayed.
>haven’t had a crush in years
>talk to this really cute boy on a dating app
>he’s really nice doesn’t ask me for nudes or anything
>sends me a picture in a towel and my brain melts….he looks like a freaking ken doll.
>he asks if I wanna hangout….I think this means sex
>except when I get there we cuddle and he plays with my hair and gives me forehead kisses
>things get a little more lewd and handsy but he keeps asking if I’m okay with it and if I’m okay in general. We don’t have sex cause he doesn’t have a condom.
>the entire time I’m getting dressed he keeps running his fingers along my skin.
>I think I messed it up because I could barley talked I was so nervous….and he didn’t message me afterwards
>is this the chad experience…..? :,)
I’ve gotten so depressed that I really haven’t felt like eating. I have basically caused malnutrition in my joints in about a week, not that I honestly care. I was having trouble sleeping so atleast now with the lack of nutrients I can sleep.
I haven’t cleaned my room in about 4 days, my bf gets home from work and immediately starts lecturing. He knows what’s been going on it seems that he just doesn’t care.
All in all he told me he’s sick of me and then locked me out of my room.
I really hate men
I had a bad childhood, and as a result as a teenager, I acted out in ways that I now regret. This continued up until my mid twenties. I can see now that I didn't have any real friends and unintentionally hurt some people because I was so used to being hurt myself.
I have a good life now and have put a lot of distance physically and mentally between myself and my past. However, I feel that no matter how hard I try, I'm still stuck with the painful memories inside my head. Even the smallest inconsequential word can trigger a related memory.
How can I cut the first 25 odd years out of my head permanently?
Is your boyfriend perfect? Does he have any negative traits? How about positive traits?
Talk about it here!
how is my plan?
boyfriend cheated on me 6 days after my birthday last year.
he doesnt know i know.
Tried to cheat back. couldnt.felt disgusting.
Coovid made me gain a little weight. I built a PC and he will not stay off of it unless he works.
thinking about gym max-ing and dumping him on his birthday in a year or so. maybe take him on a vacation?
I've been on the internet daily talking to strangers for over a decade now and my brain is fried to the point of no return, I haven't been able to make that many online friends in the last three years and the few I had/made are almost all gone because I've been working on myself and making IRL friends and started to see that these few people treated me badly and I was wasting my time talking to them… Still, I can't really live without reporting everything I do and every small thought I have to some audience, my experience with discord servers in the last two years was even worse than five years ago and I don't know where to find servers that I could fit in without feeling uncomfortable; I wouldn't be comfortable spamming in say a CC server or to someone, I met through CC because there is always the possibility that I could get my doxx and personal info posted all over.
That being said I've been considering maybe going on /soc/ despite it being leagues worse but I saw miners talk about meeting nice people through /soc/.
maybe it's a good thing that it's harder to meet people online and connect with them now, maybe it's about time I start wasting less time talking to strangers and focus on my IRL relationships only but I can't help but feel an itch and a need to text someone and share the memes I found with and my IRLs ghost me for days at a time and the handful of online people I have left are no different when it comes to ghosting.
I crave attention so much, should I start posting my life on twitter and instgram??
Vent thread
Previous thread >>60740
What is the most fucked up thing your boyfriend ever wanted from you?
My first boyfriend turned out to be a porn addict. He was also generally a loser. I wish I had the confidence I have now.
>has a foot-fetish and wanted footjobs
>wanted me to watch porn with him, which was one of the most mood-killing experiences I ever had
I broke up with him not soon after he asked me to try anal. I hate how that's a thing now. I hate how so many moids can't enjoy normal sex anymore and demand these weird things from you.
Is it okay to pursue roommates?
A few weeks ago, we got a new housemate in the house and I have a massive crush on him. He's good looking, tall, super kind and makes us all dinner, very clean we have a lot of deep and meaningfuls and I think if we were to go drinking, I could pretty easily successfully make a move.
The thing is, I've had roommates in other houses go after me before and I haven't been interested, so it made things super awkward and frankly, awful for me having to avoid people in my own house. So I know how badly this could go if he turns me down.
Have any of you had experiences of hooking up with roomies or trying too, or it happening to you and how did it go?
I'm doing so well but yet I've never wanted to die so much as I've wanted to the past year. I find myself going out blackout drunk and laying at bus stops just to remeber how it was back when I didn't have any money or anyone that cared about me. Idk why I'm so unhappy when I have everything I ever asked for. Was even getting a job at a super nice lolita clothing brand, got my dream home and I finally got attention from the girl I like but idk it just feels too late.
studying
about to start school soon and am stressing out.
how does a lazy good for nothing slacker become a studious book smart student? what do you do to study and stay on schedule? what do you do to focus? how to not get stressed out in school? how do you not fall behind? im genuinely clueless and am afraid ill fail all my classes.
Regrets
what do you regret, anons?
Studying something I hate
I spent my teenage years being depressed and not really caring about anything, I kinda wanted to study botanics (is that the english term) but my parents told me to go study programming and I was like ok may as well. We have barely started it but I already hate it so much. 90% of the class are either nerds or just fuckboys, the girls are not much better and I hate programming itself too. Fuckkkkk I should have just studied botanicism, the few extra hundreds on my paycheck is so not worth my sanity and me not having any social life cause all these people can talk about is getting wasted or some random hobby that they autistically obsess over.
All I wanted was to study something I could understand that is reasonably practical and where I could meet people that are neither nerds nor just oversocialized babies, but I signed myself up for the complete opposite, fml.
Why is rent so fucking high
I'm breaking down I can't fucking afford shit even if I live in an inhuman piece of shit apartment with nothing but a fridge I still can't afford it. I still live with my parents and they don't let me do some stuff I want to do because of "my house my rules" but I can't get out I want to scream but that's not allowed either.
Do you ever just over hear your parents/relatives talk about you and its like they don't even consider the possibility that you might be mentally ill or autistic and that's what's stopping you from having a functional/fulfilling life
They just think you're lazy and you have to get over it
Qt Partner Thread
Greentext traits and how lovely your partner is
Any femcels here
>Whats stopping you from not being a femcel
For me its not like there aren't any guys that are into me it's just that its hard for me to connect socially with people.
Need to get OUT
I need to get OUT of this place.
I’m going to lose my fucking job because of stupidity. I’m going to lose my therapist, my doctor, my apartment, my life up to this point. I’m 20 and am entirely financially independent, if/when I get my plug pulled I am going to be FUCKED. Fuck this hick ass state, fuck these ignorant ass people, get me the hell away from PA. Help me live out my Dune fremen fantasy and pick which state go to in the American Southwest.
my ex has ruined my life and taken my friends from me and he continues to be popular despite abusing myself and other girls and people look up to him i cant take this its ruined me so bad mentally i need to kill myself im not strong enough for this
>be me, 25 y/o
>check mail one day
>get letter from guy i used to know back in high school
>address listed as a prison
>what
>this guy was always a little awkward but nice, no way he could've done anything that bad
>open letter and read it
>he says he's been looking for me for 2 years, calls me his best friend and says to write back as soon as possible
>am now extremely suspicious and concerned since we were just friendly classmates
>do a bit of googling
>he's in prison for kidnapping and rape of a middle school girl
>mfw
what the fuck do i do? we were only in the same friend group and never spoke again after graduation… i live in a different state now, how did he even find my address? do i write back and tell him to not contact me again, or just ignore this and try to forget it happened? i feel gross just being remotely associated with him.
>invite some people to join a study group with me for a very difficult course
>they all enthusiastically agree and join a gc with me
>invite them to study at a well-known location at a clearly specified time days in advance because we had an exam coming up
>also post a reminder in our gc 30 minutes in advance
>studied at [earlier specified location] for 4 hours alone before going home
>they all ghosted me
>didn't even tell me they couldn't make it
>nobody even bothered lying to me to save face
Why is it so hard to make friends in current year +7? I don't think I acted autistically in this situation at all, and I'm always outgoing, friendly, dressed nicely, not fat or hideously ugly, etc, so what gives?
confessions thread
i tell my dentist that i floss regularly even though i dont
jealous over other girls
how do i stop feeling jealous and insecure with the previous women my bf was with? i was a virgin before i met my boyfriend so i've shared all my firsts with him. first date, handholding, kiss, hug, sex etc. i have been thinking about my relationship with him and reflected on what i have always wanted, which is to share firsts with another human and explore intimacy. which has led me to the heartbreaking feeling that i am not his first. i love him deeply that it pains me to not have been there with him when he explored love and romance for the first time.
i feel like i missed out on all his first intimate moments with a girl, and that girl wasn't me but someone else. i never got to see his nervous demeanour on his first date. i never got to see his reaction when he first hugged a girl. held hands with a girl for the first time… first kissed a girl. touched intimate body parts of a girl, viewed a naked girl's body for the first time… i never got to experience all those 'firsts' with him and i feel so depressed over it.
i often find myself wondering who these girls were, and i fantasize about the moments he had with them. was it magical? what were they like? how did he interact with them? did he kiss them the way he kissed me? was he attracted to them physically? what did they talk about? what interests did they share? does he miss them when he's with me? does he regret not waiting to share all those moments with me? i want to ask him about his past, about these girls, to give me peace of mind. but i am nervous and scared. what if he liked some aspect of them more than he likes me? what if he misses one of them?
would really appreciate insight from anyone who also went through a similar thought process or fear and got over it. is it a good idea to ask him about his past, or to be blissfully ignorant?
Have you ever been rejected(romantically)? How did you handle it? How did you react?
do any miners here have a very specific preference when it comes to a partner
i am just starting to realize that I have a very specific "type" when it comes to my attraction towards men, but im wondering if anyone else has any specific non-vague types. I honestly haven't really talked to anyone about their own or even my "type", but the ones I have seen in media are maybe vague or fall into some trope/cliche/stereotype. Therefore, i am not sure if my certain preferences are normal or not, maybe i am looking for reassurance or a reason to talk about it.. i dont know sorry if this seems dumb/stupid/insignificant, but it has just been on my mind recently and i supposed that this was the best way to get it out. sorry if this was cringe.
When the moid won't moid
I don't want to initiate sexual stuff with the guy I like but he doesn't do it either and I'm getting girl blue balls whenever we talk at this point (it's an online thing).
I flirted with him a bunch of times, but he doesn't flirt back which embarrasses me.
It's not that it makes me feel insecure or it breaks my heart or anything, I just want to coom with him.
I guess I'll just stop though because I don't want him to see me as pushy and coombrained.
Anyone ever got back together with an ex bf or gf?
Just to clarify, this isn't a "is it a good idea to get back together with an ex" thread, more a curiosity for what people's experiences with it were like. I know a lot of people might strongly believe it's a bad idea, I'm not advocating for it, simply looking to hear stories out of interest.
Some questions for consideration, answer as much or as little as you're comfortable with:
>What was the cause of the breakup?
>How did you feel right after the breakup? Angry, miserable, numb, or something else? Did you want to move on forever or were you still hanging onto the relationship?
>How long were you apart for before getting back together? What was this time period like?
>How was the idea to get back together brought up? Why did you choose to get back together?
>Do you feel like enough things changed or that enough steps were taken to address the reason for the original breakup?
>Are you still together today or did you break up again? Why do you think that result happened?
>Overall, do you regret getting back together?
Maladaptive Daydreaming
How do I put an end to it? I feel like I've wasted most of my best years due to this.
>tfw too polite to say no to things i do not want to do
>tfw i let down a friend group today because I was too scared of letting down my family who i was scared to ditch
Scared of relationships, need advice
I want to be loved, but I don't want to date anyone. Thinking about a future with someone else, raising children, having to share spaces. It's all awful. I know I could have a boyfriend (I'm not hideous or handicapped) but I just don't want to. I feel uncomfortable around men, I'm always expecting the betrayal, ready to be disappointed, waiting for something to go wrong. I'm terrified of things not working out and getting my heart broken in a million pieces, of being stuck and hurt. I don't want to marry anyone, but I don't have to live going to to multiple tinder dates a week and hooking up either. How do I cope with the realization that I'll die alone because I just don't like other people? Is this okay? Wait if I regret this later, and I find myself alone and unable to have children of my own? Is there a way for me to overcome my fear of men and relationships?
I dated a guy before, when I was 17-18, and I hated almost every second of it after we started officially dating, I don't think I can stand to be so close to anyone else ever again.
Also, since I've only had sex with one person I'm scared of having sex with other people. I don't know why, I just find it anxiety inducing. I didn't like sex when I had it, and I'm certain I won't like it if I try again. I hate the idea of someone seeing me naked, I find it embarrassing. How can I know who actually likes me for being me, and who just wants to get in my pants but won't see me as a person? I start spiraling with all kinds of thoughts related to the matter. What if other guys don't want to date me because I'm not a virgin? Or what if they don't want to date me because I'm not "easy"? Or what if they don't want to date me at all? What if none will ever love me? I just feel disgraceful, ruined. I want to be happy, but I'm scared of being seen and touched and I can't make myself happy, either. What can I do?
Ghosting
Have any of you girls been ghosted? A guy ghosted me after we were close for a couple of months and I still think about him every day, I feel so shitty about myself now…
Constant fear my boyfriend will stop being attracted to me
Okay so I constantly fear that he will stop being attracted to me and leave for retarded reasons.
I literally just got my bangs cut and she cut them too short (they're like a finger's width above my eyebrows, I wanna kms) and now I'm scared when he sees it he won't be attracted to me anymore
We've had a lot of drama lately as well because I've been in quite a bad place, and I've constantly been fearing he will leave me or that small things will be the last straw.
Can someone tell me I'm schizo and get me to stop fearing he will leave? Or give advice on how to strengthen my relationship again and show that I care and am not a psycho bitch (even though I probably am)
loneliness cope
i met my friend group through my boyfriend, so all of his friends are just kinda cool with me now, and its been like that for nearly two years now. i dont have anyone close to me other than him, i have no siblings and my parents and i dont have the best relationship.
every time his buddies would get new gfs, me and the chick would always get close, but as soon as they break up (usually within a month) she leaves and i never get to talk to her again and im getting pretty tired of getting close to them just for them to disappear.
do i keep trying to pursue friendships with them? feels kinda pointless at this point, but girl talk can be refreshing sometimes
>best friend is 25
>she is excited and telling me about her new moid
>attractive, tall, good job, yes, yes, yes
>he's 35
>red flag for me
>try to drop subtle hints this may not be a good idea
>meet him
>now I have a crush on him and I'm seething and jealous
Fucking kill me
No real life man is all three
>big dumb sexy bara himbo
>not gay
>not a misogynist
Yet another reason why I don't date men
> be me retarded mixed breed, 26 yrs old
> get abused 24/7 growing up and r*ped by older step bro
> only solace is neet shit like anime and vidya
> get really fat because neet and severe ptsd and depression
> always getting bullied at school, even my friend group didn't really care for me
> becomes fat friend™ and literally no one wants to date a roastie
> get abused mentally and physically by moids because i just wanted to feel loved
> go to college and get useless lib arts degree
> try to kill myself multiple times
> only people who care are my elderly godparents
> at least they got to see me graduate
> immediately return to neet life after graduation with my ex bf
> finds out he's cheating
> mfw i'm over 1k miles from home and my parents hate me
> start making plans to kill myself because my life was basically over
> meet really sweet guy on reddit
> we end up falling for each other
> i leave my ex and move in with my bf
> his family welcomes me with open arms even though i'm a retard
> let's me be a neet at their house while i find work
> not long after i end up getting my shit together, going to therapy, taking my meds and losing a bunch of weight
> no longer a neet and i have a big family that i think likes me
> bf is planning to wife me soon
> we're going to be able to afford our own place next year
I still plan on killing myself tho.
There is no happy ending for me.
Is there any place which is not infested by coomers and kids? I just want to make friends.
Nowhere feels like "home"
>22 years old
>Dirtpoor country
>Had to move in back with my parents due to high rent prices
>Degree in a useless major, no marketable skills
>Can't get a job, forced to be a NEET
Now I feel like I belong to nowhere. I don't feel like I have autonomy, I feel like I'm floating between days. Nothing I own feels like it is mine. I don't even feel comfortable in my own body. There is nowhere I can go, I have this constant feeling of "I wanna go home" even if I'm in my own room. Nothing brings me warmth and comfort and I don't really have a social life. I really don't see the point of this uncomfortable existence.
Neet thread?
Is anyone else a neet?
>How long has it been?
>How do you spend your days?
Honestly i'm so hopeless for the future and sad that i do nothing these days. I used to watch tv shows/animes/read mangas to cope when i was younger but they bore me now, same with video games, i never finish them. I despise social media so i don't have them, imageboards are fine sometimes but i feel like the toxicity is getting to me. I just stare at the ceiling and listen to music these days.
uhhh feels
girls who cultivated a male persona online can i ask you smth?
idk why but I'm so enamoured with the identity I've created online, I like messaging girls my age thru this persona and act like I'm flirting with them, inb4 you say wow lesbian moment Im straight but I can like girls through that male persona. It also helps that I can disguise myself as a guy because it's so much fun, like leading them on cuz they fuel this persona of mine.
Irl I'm okay with being a girl but online I'm comfortable as a man. One day i type she/her in my bio then quickly delete it cuz i dont want anyone to see it. But I'm not gender dysphoric or anything I'd never transition but I feel more comfortable as a guy online.
Maybe it just boils down to attention, I like the attention I get from other girls, I like the power I have, but I think I'm in too much love with this persona and I need to grow up, I need to learn to be accepted as a woman but it becomes difficult when the communities your in are weird to women and I feel dumb af when I see other girls be brave enough while im just hiding behind a male persona bc im afraid of a guy flirting and make moans when I speak. Even though as a guy I FLIRT with other girls,
Its just a sad cycle that Im ashamed of being a hypocrite of. Tldr I'm just a weakling who hides behind a male persona bc Im afraid of guys flirting with me but Ive become the mask bc Im doing the same thing
>Be me, khhv 23 year old
>ugly and no friends rl
>on discord 24/7
>meet a qt guy on discord
>long conversations, we talk on voice chat late night for 2+ hours
>show my pic and he calls me beautiful. First moid to call me beautiful
>He's also flirty otherwise
>I catch feels and blurt out that I like him one day.
>Says he likes me too but we can't be together because we live in different countries and such things don't end well
>We continue to talk and spend time, he's still occasionally flirty
>After a month again I ask if we have any future if I do certain things
>He says no, he can't commit to anything like that and says he wants time off
>Comes back after 24 hours
>We start talking again
>He's normie with thriving social life and has less contact with his friends due to pandemic and job
>He calls me friend but I still wonder what I mean to him, a friend truly or just an arrangement till everything gets back to normal and he can go back to his rl friends
This is the closest I got to anything romantic with a moid.
Idk what should I do with him
When I see people who are doing worse than me and have fewer privileges than I have I feel both sad for them and guilty for misusing it and wasting my time comparing myself to others who are better than me but this feeling never lasts because the next moment I see someone who is doing way better than me and I feel anger; anger because of inequality than the first group and this group but also anger because this is not me.
I'm stuck in this cycle of feeling grateful and guilty to feeling angry and jealous.
I'm not sure if it's someone everyone goes through or is it because of the way my parents brought me up teaching me to look at people who are doing worse and trying to help them, even then I found myself looking at girls who had it better and felt devastated… I had no one to talk with about it because I felt shame for even having these thoughts when there are people starving, as I got older and mature I realized these are normal human emotions that everyone feels, that it's normal to want more in life but I never had the chance to express that so I'll always struggle with regulating these emotions.
I have a lot of anger in me. I got out of therapy and I'm not going back, I'm not kidding when I say it was some hippy dippy shit like laying down with both palms facing upwards and thinking about the people you hate who have wronged you and walking a mile in their shoes. Fuck that noise, being told to do that just made me angrier and like my experience as the wronged is not important and like I'm not heard. By the time I got out of therapy I've already become self assured enough without the help of their bullshit DBT because meds have finally calibrated my brain. But lately when my anger overwhelms me I take my razor blade and cut myself (it's actually possible to cut yourself on all that edge - sorry, had to). The blade has gotten duller so it hurts a fair bit more drawing blood. I've done this a couple of times already and it might become an actual problem later on like with those people who are addicted to it. It doesn't really bring me any sense of relief or anything though, I do it almost unconsciously.
I don't hate myself, I have high self confidence like I mentioned earlier. I work out, I'm straight edge, eat well, sleep well, drink plain water and I'm on meds. I've done it all and I've done my best. I'm just a depressive. Right now I have a deadline for when I'll carry out my plan. I've got 23 more years to live since I have my little nieces and nephew to live for and protect from my pedophile incest freak family and from this shit world. I'm saving up the money for it. Time can't pass quickly enough. For the time being I'll express myself through art, find a few or a bunch of fwbs once lockdown is over and be there for as many people as I can even though I'm 24/7 in a mental health crisis myself. I just take a lot of pleasure in cheering people up or helping them through their problems, plus it distracts me from my own. Thanks for reading this stupid post but that's about it.
wanting to get assessed for autism
I have been struggling with this for the past 5 years, and its really starting to frustrate me. I really want to know what is going on with me. I already have been diagnoses with ADHD, anxiety, and OCD, but i just have this feeling that autism may be the root of most of it? At the same time, I am not sure if what im feeling even is autism, and if it isnt, then what is it? I just feel tired thinking about what part of me may or may not be adhd, anxiety, OCD or even autism. I wish I just knew for sure what was wrong with me instead of going through this awful process. theres so much I could talk about, but just thinking about tires me. I just want to get assessed… I am so tired.
by any chance, are there any miners who are attempting to get assessed? Doesnt have to be autism it could be anything really, i just would like to know if anyone has felt this way/is currently going through this.
/goodfeels/
post about something positive that happened to you, even if it’s small
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Ever wanted to give someone a piece of your mind but you know you'd just regret it? Post in here and get it off your chest.
avoidant personality disorder
I finally know what's wrong with me. My brain has been scrambled to want to run from confrontation, social events, social connections and all the things we as humans need to have in a social life. I am stuck, I cannot do all the things that normal people can do but the truth is that I don't want to get better because I want to resign myself to a bedroom all day.
It's exhausting. I wake up with dred, I get a buzz during the day thinking of all the cool things I could do in the future, I go to sleep, and the cycle continues. This is my daily routine for years now. I haven't done much with my time. I am only motivated with a delusion that it'll all magically fix itself.
shit normies say
>Why do you never talk?
Birthday
It's my birthday in a few days and I would like to do something nice but I don't know what I could do.
>recently broke up after 4 years and still hurting over it
>recently had to withdraw from college, NEET time now
>no true friends, a few people who like me but I don't feel connected with them
>people are mad about COVID here (leaf) so there's a lot of restrictions still
>live in small town
>don't want to drink or do drugs (I have addictive tendencies) or have casual sex
Does anyone have any ideas? I think I'd feel bad if I didn't do something special and different, but I'm not sure what I can do that'd really set the day apart.
What do you do when you crush on someone? Is it bad that I sometimes ignore or ghost him?
Dreams and wishes thread
Wanted to make a thread for us to write about stuff that we want. Could be:
- Attainable dreams
- Unrealistic dreams
- Stuff that you want for the long run, like a type of career, housing and moving plans, etc
- Stuff that you really just want right now, like a holiday, a cute set of clothings, food
- An imaginary setting in your head that you want and want to talk about, being it realistic or not, like imagine a life you wish you would have
And all the stuff in between, I guess.
THE ANGEL FROM MY NIGHTMARE
Lifelong perm neet
Any other disabled neet here? I’m a woman and a lot of neet communities on discord resent me for such. I’m asexual and aromantic and have no boyfriend or interest in one. I also can’t drive and am essentially a adult child. My therapist even says my mental age is 12 due to me still loving toys at my age. I am autistic. I typically lurk here figured this will be likely my one and only post. Im in my late 30s almost 40. I like my life and it’s fairly ok. Parents gave me the master bedroom and I chill all day with my hobbies and internet. Curious, am I the only one? Totally fine if I am a lot of times I feel like the only one. I lurk the entire internet never or rarely ever posting.
how does one accept being ugly?
i’m a hideous bio female that has linebacker shoulders, a round face, wide nose w/ a bulbous nasal tip, acne, and narrow hips with no ass. i’m working as hard as i can to fix my acne and gymmaxxing to increase my glute size, but as far as all the other stuff, how do i stop hating myself for being ugly?
marriage and stuff
how do you have a wedding when you don't have friends?
also did any of you get married?
>4chan makes me hate women
>cc makes me hate men
>just stay home 24/7 unnerved about people
Is this the ultimate outcome of imageboarding?
Feeling bitter about good news of others
I'm at a really shit place in my life where nothing is really going my way, it has been this way since the pandemic. All of the people I talk to are getting jobs, getting accepted to places, their hobbies are booming, moving in with their boyfriends etc. I cannot handle their good news anymore, I feel bitter and build up resentment towards them. It's not like I don't want them to succeed, I just can't handle any more good news from others (the lives that I wish I could have a sliver of) when my life is so shit. I desperately want to be happy for them but every time I have to congrantulate someone on something I rip my hair out. Does anyone else feel like a bitter bitch even though thats not their usual personality?
there’s this girl i have mutual friends with and for some reason she’s just rude shit to me all the fucking time for literally no reason, i’m really nice to her and i honestly don’t even interact with her much so i’m not sure why??? it’s driving me crazy and the fact that i’m on my period rn doesn’t help either, i’m taking serious hits to my ego rn
i usually wouldn’t care about stuff like this at all but i’m having pretty extreme mood swings rn and i honestly don’t know what to do or how to cope, i don’t even know why she doesn’t like me in the first place (we only have 1 mutual friend that i regularly talk with so it isnt because of some beef or whatever)???? she has been rude to me since she met me and i really genuinely have no idea why
Every time I imagine myself in the near future I don't see myself as anything coherent. My plans are to get a job and to improve the skills I'm interested in, but that's about that. I don't imagine myself raising kids or marrying anyone.
There's a lot of stuff to do besides the most common stuff like family and career. I'm too autistic for either of those things.
But what happens when I've exceeded in things I pursued? books, music, crafts, art, etc., both making and consuming. Is there anything to look forward to?
god when I get PMS sometimes I suffer the most agonizing self-loathing. and I KNOW when it is happening, too, and it doesn't even matter. the urge to self-harm (typically banging my head against things or biting my knuckles until they bruise/bleed) gets so fucking unbearable it's all I can do to just sit and keep myself from doing it. I can't get any work done for a fucking week, and I seem like an absolute lunatic to my husband who has to suffer through it too by proxy. He always listens to me but he always wants to try and solve the problems when I physically and psychologically cannot fix them with just making adjustments to my actions. It's this absolutely unfounded self-hatred that comes along every 3 or 4 months that puts me into an absolute state until my period is over and done with.
I always hear about women getting grouchy/irritable during PMS but I have never met another woman who just gets demented levels of depressed like I do. It's like, any mistake I make or if I perceive I have caused any trouble for someone else, I fly into a violent shame spiral and need to hurt myself to atone for it. Not looking for medical advice (try going to the goddamn doctor and explain this to them, at best they'll prescribe you birth control for the thousandth time, at worse they'll have you committed) just wondering if I am alone out there, and also needing to rant about it.
Jealous Boy
I have a boyfriend who is a little insecure and gets jealous over silly things. He's a nice guy actually, but I'm a little worried about his jealousy.
Well, I've been talking to an old friend who I kinda liked years ago. And he's been more upset than ever. We've only been talking as friends, but it still makes me feel bad. I'm really scared of losing my boyfriend, but I also don't want him to feel like I own him. Is the jealousy he feels for my friend justified? Is it okay for me to talk to this guy if I was a little attracted to him in the past?
Romantic friendship
How would you feel about a female friend expressing some level of homolust towards you? Is any level acceptable?
I am quick to get infatuated with friends. It isn't sexual and I don't want to escalate but the feelings are definitely romantic in nature. I just want to flirt and hold hands and face no consequences.
I don't get infatuated with the occasional male friend since I need to be wary of them trying to fuck me and moid friendship isn't very intimate or interesting anyway.
Fat bitch hours, tips 2 lose weight
Tired of being over 200lbs. Anyone have any ACTUAL good advice for starving? I hate being light headed all the time, it makes it hard to drive n shit. Also any advice for stomach pain would be mint. Also no body positivity bs, I’m here for it for other people just not me thnx.
uggo feels
>be 22 year old khv
>finally find a bf
>he is super cute meanwhile you look like a rat
Anyone else has this problem? I know guys cheat on girls quite often, and I'm afraid of my bf getting bored of me/cheating on me because of the difference in our attractiveness. I'm unfortunately completely ugly (tall wide face etc.), meanwhile he is a pretty boy. How do I improve? I feel so happy and blessed when we are together, but it hurts to be compared to him and constantly feeling insecure. Has anyone here managed to maintain a relationship despite big gap in attractiveness?
pain
>be me, 19 femoid
>dating a 20 year old dude from the next province over, let's call him J
>both me and bf are friends with this 28 year old from across the country let's call him P
>we both love this guy and see him as a crazy older brother type friend
>me and P have recently gotten quite close, but we've been friends for a while before that
>J and P have met up before and they love hanging out together
>it's just me and P who haven't met up yet
>fast forward to last night
>have a horrific nightmare of P assaulting me and myself getting pregnant from it
>in the nightmare P then stops talking to me for fear J might find out
>wake up crying in a cold sweat
Why would I even have this dream? What does this mean? I love P like a brother and he would never do something like this in real life at all. Why did my subconscious do this to me?
what do with moid dad
gals, I accidentally ranted to my leftist pro tranny father about my frustrations with transcult, and he told me that I'm just full of hate and was clearly disappointed. I fear that I might have damaged my relationship with him…I'm a lesbian, so he started saying homophobic shit and said that it's the same as my arguments against delusional moids cutting their dicks off…he just wouldn't listen to me, and I really fear that he might view me differently now. what do I do?
why are moids so heartless
Got cheated on by the only guy I ever dated, I have told him before how I feared cheaters and if he ever felt out of love, just resolve it thru communication or break up, told him about my abandonment issues and how I was abused/neglected as a kid which made me already have low self esteem. Still the mf did it. How can someone be so heartless? I gave him all my love, respect and was nothing but loyal even tho he was below my looksmatch and had problems of his own. He even cheated on me with this airheaded, frivolous, feminine girl who probably doesn't even love him. I just loathe moids right now.
How to deal with feeling trapped?
I feel like I'm trapped with men in my life, making my life considerably less happy and more cumbersome. It feels like I have no control over my life. I just want to be free, but it feels like it'll never happen. Does anyone have experience feeling this way, and how did you/do you deal with it?
Is true deep love possible?
feels like every relationship ends, people can't truly connect, post your good love stories or share your bad relationships that ended sourly
Can't sleep because of nightmares
Like I am a pretty happy person and I am more-or-less in an okay place, but I have constant nightmares, almost every day. Every day I wake up shaken and sometimes I just wake up in the middle of the night and just sit there for an hour (while crying). The nightmares themselves are also completely random but also insanely horrific (I have to cut off a kid's fingers and tongue with a knife for some reason; get lost with a kindegarten class in a nightmarish world where the kids start to vanish one by one without ever starying from the group, etc). I have no insomnia or anything and I just don't know why it happens to me, I hate it so much
What's it like being an attractive girl? I feel life would be completely different for me if i was at least a 4/10
so there is this dude I met through 4chan… kinda.
I joined a 4chan server in 2019, wasn't super active, people were talking about the Bianca murder the hour it happened since it was everywhere and I was confused and this cat pfp person that I assumed was a lady from the pfp and speaking manners DMed and told me all the details and shared links to the threads, I talk about how men suck and s(he) agrees, we talk about how sex work, kink and all these things are promoted by liberal feminism that are dangerous we keep talking and I later discover that it's a guy who is younger than me [ 17 years old ] but we quickly become friends.
We get closer and closer and we wind up exchanging nudes a few shameful times, he even asks for cam sex but I refuse, we get over it but it was obvious that we both liked each other sexually at least, he even grew his hair out for me and changed a few other things I talked about.
Gets more troubling as I start feeling guilty even though he's no much younger than me but also because I had a boyfriend at the time I'd vent to him about.
It becomes obvious that we're too different, he's an immature 4chan user with yellow fever and a misogynist.
I block him.
I keep thinking about him.
six months later I add him back and he accepts me, welcoming me back, he didn't care and was just happy that I added him back, same cycle minus the yellow fever.
rinse and repeat 4-5 times.
it's 2021, he knows me more than most and I know a lot about him too, we get close, I feel that he genuinely changed from that misogynist Asian fetishist I met two years ago, maybe we can be good friends.
he talks about how it's normal for women in Afghanistan to wear the burka because ""it's their culture"" and they're accustomed to it like how people are used to the sky being blue… I'm upset for a week. I try to cool down so I send him a meme with a Japanese woman and he starts talking about how he will go for a Japanese [virgin]] woman because they've ""evolved to have tight vaginas"", and keeps trying to make it sound logical, I was really angry not only because he went back to point zero but also because I felt slight jealousy, I thought that he was changing and becoming a better person, I really thought we can be friends, I really thought he was willing to change for me as he did before and how he promised.
I feel mad about it, mostly mad at myself for falling for this, I feel like pure shit and it's too embarrassing to talk to anyone about it.
I also miss him a bit despite hating him and him being a gross ugly manlet creep, I keep on thinking about him when I encounter things that we talked about before.
I hate myself.
Feeling disconnected from people
Everyone just pretends to know me and i cant even prove myself to be intellectually above others due to adhd and my thoughts just being weird, not genius, just creative and anxiety inducing. Im tired of this. All i want is to raise my social status through hard work. All i want is to be an epic sigma lolz i have the fucking mindset but i just cant do it because adhd and people dont understand especially since im a woman they think im just a typical dumbass woman who doesnt want anything more from life and is depressed and anxious because of silly little mundane matters im gonna fucking k*ll m
Is it normal to want a relationship, want to have intimacy with someone, have an interest in romance, and then when a real guy takes an interest in you, go completely numb? Why does this happen?
I don't know how to feel about the fact that most men growing up now consume porn to some degree.
I fucking hate that on many imageboards there is promotion of pedophilia
I go to 4chan, there is pedophilia, I go to 16chan, there is pedophilia, I go to other imageboards, there is pedophilia. I mean, it's clearnet and they should have some rules instead of that shit.
How to be less clumsy
I started a new job where I have to be pretty quiet and it's making me realize how often I bump into things and drop stuff. It's pretty bad. I'm trying to be more spatially aware of where my body is but it's not working very well.
Any other clumsy anons?
dad is dying
My dad got diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer. We only found out he had any kind of cancer just two weeks ago. What am i supposed to do? I feel so lost. Sorry for retarded image
bf gets sad because of my ed
Everytime i mention my eating disorder or tell my boyfriend i feel bad he gets really sad. He feels he's not good enough for me because he can't help me and many times he cried because of it. Now I messaged him telling him how upset I am because I can't eat fish fingers made by my mom and I didn't know he's gaming with his friends. I ruined his 'boys night'. I tried not talking with him about these topics but I just can't. He always tells me to talk about my struggles but then he gets so sad. I just want to talk with somebody about my problems. He's the only pearson in my life that I can talk with about everything.
Please excuse my typos or grammar mistakes.
>makes jokes about gangstalking and pure paranoia
>starts believing that i'm being gangstalked
>mfw i get in this sorta shit
phrases to use when standing up for myself?
Hi girls. Sometimes my bf will do or say something that I'm not comfortable with, and I get so scared of making him upset or worried that I don't tell him my feelings. I feel like it's easier to just accept it than break the barrier of voicing my thoughts. I also get scared to invite him to do things I think are fun because if he doesn't like it I'll just feel anxious and responsible for him not having a good time.
Obviously this is a problem and not sustainable but I literally don't even know where to start.
I grew up in an environment where telling people my needs didn't get me anywhere so now I feel like it's pointless. I don't want it to be a pattern in my relationships but I can't stop, it is drilled into my being to just accept whatever happens.
:( Help Me
hikikomori
do any true hikikomori browse this imageboard?
>I'm a shut-in because of covid-19
I'm asking for the people who were (pre-covid) and still currently are a shut-in, what's your life like? How are you today?
Please, if you go to work or school/university but call yourself a hikikomori this thread does not apply to you. You can ask questions but don't try to play it off as the same thing.
Preferably looking for people who stay in weeks at a time, 3 week average or higher would be highly relatable. pic unrelatedo
Cheated on
I have been married to my husband for 8 years and we have two kids. I just found out my husband got a blow job from our also married neighbor over the summer. I feel like shit and don’t know what to do. Has anyone been cheated on and gone on to have a healthy relationship?
I am socially retarded.
Am I fucked?
>dating very cute man who is respectful, kind, buys me stuff, basically worships me like a goddess
>find out last January that he has been jerking off to our past classmates instagram photos
>After I find out he has said he feels very shitty about it, that he regrets ever doing it, etc etc
>in return he has been even more supportive, emotionally and in every other way possible to make up for it i guess
he is literally perfect aside from that one thing and i still dont know what to do. Some really nasty inner thoughts came from this, like every man I'm with is always going to be thinking about another woman. It still scares me to this day. Am I fucked for life if i choose to stay with him?
I have everything I've ever wanted, I don't understand why I'm so broken. I married my high school sweetheart, he makes almost a quarter million dollars a year. We have 3 children that I homeschool. It's literally everything I ever wanted, but I'm miserable. Crushing anxiety and OCD steals every positive feeling I ever have.
>"Oh aren't you kids so sweet? What if they got cancer and died."
>"What if your husband left you because you've ruined his life by being fat and miserable and he makes you homeless?"
I have no friends or hobbies and honestly I don't even want them. My family doesn't even want to talk to me because all I do is spew negativity at them. I don't even want to get out of bed most days. Why can't I just be happy?
My therapist(in training) is the only person outside of my family I speak to every week, recently I told her I would be sad when I can no longer see her anymore (my autistic shy phrasing of it) and she said “Awwww, I’ll miss you too” and started crying, I feel like I’m gonna spiral when she ends it (or whenever her professor tells her to end it with me)
I feel traumatised by visiting 4chan
As a woman I went there not knowing their rules and I felt torn apart by visiting it. Not willing to tell what I saw there and what happened (no, I'm not Jessi Slaughter).
>This whole board
>my dad is pretty aloof and doesn’t seem to really give a shit about me.
>it hurts my feelings a ton idk I think that’s pretty normal but maybe I’m just a huge immature baby.
>that’s why my bf thinks at least, because when I started crying he told me to grow up and get over it.
>which also turned into him telling me what a piece of shit I was. How he takes care of me but I care more about my family and just tons of other mean horrible things, cause why the heck not. It just turned into a pitty party for himself.
>idk ladies I kinda just wanna kill myself. I probably would if I didn’t have my dogs
help help help
i have no friends online or irl. i spend excessive amounts of time on anonymous messaging services like omegle (and a few tor sites), usually 2 or three hours a day. im such a shit person i drive everyone i love away. i constantly feel like im dyimg, literally. i always have this feelimg in my chest that i suffocating, sometimes its not that bad and sometimes its worse, but its always there. im incapable of communicating with other human beings for anything but necessity. the best i can do is 30 minute conversations over text, and that normally doesnt go well. im a boring person, my only real hobbies are home ec type things like sewing and knitting, and i play the flute but am pretty shitty.
Last night me and my very last friend were fighting so i told him "i fucking hate you, never talk to me again and i wish i never met you" (paraphrased, but you get the point).
anyway, you get the gyst of it. how do i repair myself? am i beyond saving? i used to be kind of cool but then i turned to shit.
i hate myself. i hate myself so much and i hate the world.
if youre advice is "kill yourself" please at least describe the method you suggest i use thats most effective (no guns pls). im open to almost any suggestions, and will try anything to fix myself.
Digital Footprint
Does anyone else get anxious over thinking about how much of 'you' is out here? Like how much you've put out into cyberspace?
I've been using the internet from a very young age. I've certainly made my mark, but I wish I could keep it all 'under control' and know exactly what it is I have out there. I have a lot of old cringy posts out there someone that I posted under a username I still use to this day. On YouTube I also have a video of me doing some stupid shit, waiting to be recommended and turned into the next meme or some shit. I wish we could just delete all traces of ourselves.
I've been feeling extra anxious now that lots of girls are using sites like 'Onlyfans' and exposing themselves all over the internet. I mean… that shit can't be erased. You're gonna just post yourself doing fetish/porn stuff like that? For all to see? With no way to get rid of it? My ultimate fear is someone gathering all my posts and info to embarrass me.
little brother using /r9k/
Back when he was 12, and i was 17, i caught my brother with Aspergers using /r9k/. I stopped him right away and told him to never go back there again. Well, 3 years later, guess what i found? He was still using it.
He doesn't have friends, but he is smart, and despite going to a good high school with high expectations, he still gets great grades.
I don't want him to ruin his future and end up like them.
Is there any way to help him?
Do you guys seriously fall in love all the time or is there something wrong with me? I'm 23, almost 24 and never fallen in love. I always had to make up I was in love with X when classmates asked at school because everyone had a crush on someone. I'm still waiting for it, for the day I don't just find someone physically attractive but also not annoying and retarded. I have read that it's completely normal to not fall in love until later in life but at this point I think I'm gonna stay like this forever. It's actually fucking painful, I crave a romantic relationship with people I make up in my mind but when I think of anyone real I just can't.
>inb4 gay
I already know I'm gay, I probably hate women more than men because I don't have anything in common with them.
>inb4 rape
I was never raped/traumatized in some way that could have scared me away from romantic contact and human relationships in general. While growing up no one in my family was in a romantic relationship so there weren't any romantic displays of affection around, so that could be it but it sounds too retarded.
Anyone else has gone through this?
asexuals in denial club
Anyone else an asexual in denial?
>have never felt sexual attraction to anyone or anything (don't even know what it would feel like)
>SO confused by what people mean when they say they fucked someone because they couldnt control themselves
>never get aroused
>have never had pleasurable sex
Now this wouldn't be a problem, but I still desire a relationship. Therefore it causes me constant despair because I have a boyfriend that I will never desire sexually. If i had one wish a functional fucking sex drive would be it, fuck world peace or money.
How to live for myself?
I feel like everything I do is for male approval. I structure my entire life around men and any interests or hobbies I partake in is a manufactured attempt to get potential male attention. I am unwilling to do anything unless men will perceive it. If I eat alone, or entertain myself alone, I feel like I'm wasting myself. I feel like a scarce resource instead of a human being.
Somewhere in adolescence I forgot how to enjoy things for my own sake, to do things because I want to, like I did as a kid. Does anyone one else feel this way? I just want to reset myself, become a person again. To live independently of men and do what I want, without worrying about whether it makes me attractive or not. But my brain just screams at me if I'm not constantly making myself available and attractive to men. Please advise
Cheating
Has anyone ever cheated on you? My ex did, and now I have severe trust issues.
People basically ignore me all the time
What the title is. I have always been ignored. When I was a kid this wasn't so bad.
I was an only child and fairly solitary in general, happy to keep my own company. As an adult I have a miniscule social circle, interacting mostly with my fiance, mother, and coworkers. I had friends at one point but they have all disappeared, swallowed up by distance or their children.I have tried starting MeetUps to engage with people, but my group got derailed by a Troon and I lost members and those neonate friendships.
I was at a company function on Friday and I was sitting alone. It ocurrred to me that no one gave a shit that I was there, and so I just walked out early and took 1/2 the day off. Today is Monday and no one has mentioned it. No one noticed it. I could have walked up to talk to someone but at this point I'm so tired trying to generate conversation/relationships with people.
All my life I have been the one reaching out and no one has ever made the attempt to reach back. I am worried that I am starting to get used to being alone/friendless/unnoticed, because it scares me. When I am 30/35/40 and beyond, am I still going to be a friendless faggot? Will I even care?
~MY BOYFRIEEEEND~
How much boyfriend talk do you tolerate from other girls? Is it worse to hear about a good relationship or a bad one?
Trying to find a friend: L
Dear L, whose email started with ghosts(…),
I hope that someday you manage to see this thread, even if by chance, long after I post this. CC is small, but I have a feeling you'd love being here, so I hope you find it. I talked about you in the missed connections thread, but I think the chances of you seeing this here would be bigger. And I'm pretty sure you will someday.
It's been two years or so since we last talked. I don't even remember why I disappeared; if it was you or if it was me, but my closest friend wasn't comfortable with you because you know why, so back then I thought it was the right thing. I just wish I had managed to make things work in a different way. I really do. I apologize even for my excuses, they're not very good, are they?
Sorry it took me so long to try to contact you. When I emailed you last week and saw your account didn't exist anymore, I felt very sad. Now that I know you nuked your email I have no way to talk to you, and that leaves me broken hearted.
The last news I heard about you is that you got a divorce. If that's true, I am really sorry, but I hope good things come out of it.
Rereading our emails together is funny because we were so similar in many ways… And at the same time I was such an oversharer with you; you made me feel so comfortable.
I just hope you are happy, truly. Yesterday I remembered the song you sent me on my birthday and that made me laugh.
Wish you could understand my feelings, L. I wish we could have been closer friends. I hope your illness hasn't taken you away.
If you ever find this, even if you're not sure of who I am, please respond.
Wishing you all the best.
-M
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Admin said it was ok to make threads directed to people we lost contact with. I'm sorry if anyone gets upset about this, but I really have no idea what to do.
Post-stupid-drunken-night
How do I get over my ego and wanting to be the center of attention?
Anyone else bisexual, but only wants to be with women? Never been with either, have had a few male orbiters but shut them down without outing myself. It's not for political reasons or anything, I'm just way more attracted to women (and video game men for that matter), in fact I used to think I only liked women until I was like 16-17 years old. Not to mention that I don't want to have to bother with birth control.
How do I keep the parts of me I love alive when they’re deprived of attention from the good friends I once had?
I’m super isolated. You can say just get more friends but finding ones that stimulate this very very unique part of me that I love most is challenging.
How do you feel when you look at an attractive man?
I'm wondering if there's something wrong with me because it's hard for me to determine if a man is attractive or not. I feel like I'm ticking off a checklist.
When I spend a long time with a man I'll get used to his appearance and start liking his face but that's probably not attraction since that exact same thing happens when I befriend ugly women.
Debating getting new job
I like to buy things like food and stuff and where I live keeps going into lockdown. I have the issue of not getting paid during these lockdown times. I have been trying to work but as I am trapped inside of my house I cannot.
I have started to realistically consider if I love my job enough to risk the lack of money. Do you think I should look for a job or try to hold out on the lockdown ending (no idea when this will be). Please help. I need to buy monster and noodles.
I'm hungry and nervous. I got paid $0.00 for working 0 hours this week and I didnt even see a cent of it.
I don't like being gay. I don't like other lesbians. I don't like when people tell me they wish they were a lesbian. I don't like my sexual thoughts towards women either.
What are your thoughts on a relationship where you're 100% emotionally and mentally attracted to and compatible with someone, but your physical attraction to them is middling?
If you had screenshots and proof that someone who groomed you as a 13 year old was planning to rape and groom other underage girls, what would you do?
How do I become more unhinged?
I’m sick of being uptight.
I want to be more reactive and instinctual
I want to exude energy
I want my inner self to connect with my outter self
does anyone else experince this?
since I've been little I've been told by the few older people that met me that I had so much potential, that I was special…
This repeated all throughout my life but especially in the last 2-3 years, I'm 20 and I've been told this by a handful of close online friends and even by my therapist "you'll achieve great things one day", i never had any great goals and I never accomplished anything or talked about it so I'm wondering if it's just something they tell anyone to cheer them up.
I haven't achieved anything in my life and if I don't achieve anything by the age of 25 I'll be upset.
Masking
To all anons with autism; how do you mask i.e. pretend to be a normie in everyday social situations?
Did you learn any specific "techniques" that you think other miners would find useful?
long distance is a killer
Hello. I'm in a sticky situation right now. I'm a 23F who has a guy (23M) that is interested in me.
We met online while playing World of Warcraft 4 months ago and things seemed to have gone really well between the two of us.
We're both Master's students, we have a lot of similarities, we have similar interests. He said that he's never spoken to a girl like me before and that I was essentially the female version of him.
We video call for 5 hours each time regularly, we talk on the phone for about 30 minutes to an hour every two days and we text daily. These texts tend to be very long (both ways.) He even talks about his friendship circle and his family to me regularly.
I'm insanely attracted to him and can't help but feel that way as each day passes by. The chemistry we feel right now is insane.
I haven't met him yet but I'm planning to in September after my parents have seen me hand off my dissertation. They're ok with that. He told me that we need to meet in person to see if a connection is there romantically or if this should remain a friendship. Things seem to go really well for me and this guy. But the main problem is distance.
I live near Leeds and he lives near London.
I've always wanted to work in London ever since I was a little girl because I know that's the place I want to be. I'm not moving for this guy. It's for myself. Even if I got a flat in a county outside of London, surely I can commute to London and back, right?
dancing
How do you all dance and how can one start? I'm adult and have never.
Getting upset over minimal shit
I had a fight with my boyfriend again and now I'm literally after crying over dumbass shit. A fucking video game too. We were playing Among Us with a few school friends and he managed to get Impostor like 4 times in a row. Each time he would literally be like "ANON IS THE IMPOSTOR I SAW HER VENT/KILL" literally 5 seconds into every round. He got away with it every time calling me fucking "sus" and shit. I literally left the game crying because he wouldnt stop it. He came into my room as he was on his laptop in the kitchen about to give me a hug or some shit and then he fucking batista bombed me while singing the "DUN DUN DUN DUN DUN DUN DUN, DU DU DUN" song and screaming "STOP BEING SO SUS" saying my head is the shape of the fucking red astronaut
How do I not get angry over video games?
>be a weird introvert child with no need for friends
>start to feel lonely and need for friends when entering the puberty
>fail to make real friends at school
>desperately don't know where to find people to talk about things I am interested in
>start to listen to metal
>become mega ultra brutal heavy metal 16 y.o. girl
>telling everybody metal is the only proper musical style
>"metal is the best, metal is my life, it is definitely NOT only a phase"
>literaly METAL METAL METAL
>gaining instagram followers thanks to gothic and metal photos
>suddenly a lot of 20+ y.o. guys want to be friends
>not only friends :)
>getting only few years older, finding different people elsewhere
>almost not listening metal, listening to jazz and almsot everything else than it
>everybody still thinks I am brutal and not able to listen normal music
>looking back realising how cringe I had been but never telling anybody
>a new bf telling me "I think you did it just because you needed friends"
> xO
I just needed to tell it. I feel too shame to admit it in real life.
Does anybody else feel that it's degrading as a woman to be attracted to men?
I've spent a lot of time on male-dominated forums like 4chan so I know how the male populace as a majority views women. We're pieces of meat to them or less than dirt.
But at the same time I can't help being attracted to males. I have no interest in women romantically whatsoever, and of course not sexually either. Oftentimes I catch myself fantasizing about having a partner, but I then feel as if that would be giving a more-than-likely disgusting male "what he wants" so to speak so I refrain from seeking one out.
Is this something that can be gotten over without a severe amount of copium? Or should I unironically just become a celibate?
Can you change your personality as an adult?
Is it possible to significantly change your personality once you reach adulthood? If no, by what age do you think somebody's personality, habits, etc. are permanently crystallized?
I just learned that a friend of mine (he's a real sweetheart but socially awkward and he's not that handsome cause he doesn't care himself) went and fucked 2 prostitutes when he was on a trip with his friends. The friends pressured him a lot cause he was a virgin and even paid for the prostitutes and I feel so awful that he had to lose his virginity that way and kinda disgusted by him cause I was thinking that he was treasuring it or smth and that he was a really pure dude. The friend that told me this was supporting that action cause he "needed" this shit. I really wasn't such a man-hater but I'm starting to get really disgusted by them slowly as I age. What the fuck
Do you ever spend a lot of time on female-dominated imageboards and when you return to tumblr, twitter or other normie sites you realize that nobody, including members of your own sex, shares your views and literally everyone is a tranny supporting, porn and onlyfans loving, overly sensitive complete retard and you'll always be alone with your worldview
How do I deal with a guilty conscience and a ruined life?
My boyfriend and i were talking about the appeal of make up, so like what's the best colors and the best style. Talking about lipsticks i said that i don't really like using it because it fades away and it can stain skin so it's kinda tricky to kiss someone or take it off properly; at that he said "it doesn't stain skin! or else i would be already stained for life!" alluding to the girls he has been before me.
I feel betrayed because normally he says that he doesn't want to talk about it because i'll be sad, so why the fuck did he have to bring that up…
i confronted him about it and he promptly apologized and admitted his errors, but i still feel betrayed and disappointed…should i just forgive him and i'm just being overly dramatic or i'm in the right?
Do any of you also struggle with OCD?
I can't stand people who think calling themselves a "perfectionist" would be a good thing.
I can't endure this "I do it perfectly or I just won't do it" mentality. I've reached the point where I'm like: hmmm, my mousepad is a little bit tilted, let me fix this before sleeping. I probably had at least 10 accounts in every social media and hundreds of e-mails. How can I stop?
Vent thread
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my good male friend likes me
i have this good male friend of me, he too is very autistic and we regularly do seshy uni things together i.e. getting blackout drunk and doing horse tranquiliser
we have a good rapport and it's worth mentioning that even though hes straight he's always made out with/seduced any guys ive had any interest in (said guys were bi not gay making it slightly insulting but hey lmao)
a couple nights ago we shagged and it was actually pretty good, i'm on anti depressants and hes like suicidal so neither of us came tho, he was trembling the whole time and his wee insulin/diabetic tamagotchi wire was swinging about
recently a mutual friend has informed me that he wants to take me on a date next month and i'm worried since both of us but mostly him are suicidal and he's od'd a bunch of times plus i'm 22 and he's 19 so there's a gap in experience also we're both in an established friend group and i dont want to fuck any of that up
at the same time im very horny for him atm and our chemistry is really good but the possibility of eventually having kids and those kids inheriting our autism makes me really worried since i was bullied in my youth a lot for it please help me CC
money related troubles
ITT: Money Misery, Regretful Purchases, Gambling Addiction etc etc
Not a serious problem to have, but how do I stop thinking about money and worry about spending? I've had an anxiety for some odd reason about buying things I am hesitant about, even if theyre only 5 bucks or whatever.
I get nothing from relationships.
Honestly I can feel my soul being sucked out of my body just being near 99% of men. It used to be worse actually though. I used to have horrid depression from the way this made me feel. Now I have great ways to cope with it. But I'm not sure what to do next…
Heteronormativity makes my energy feel like its being sucked out of my body. It deeply reviles me.
Why is this?? What do I do about it? I've been to tons of therapy, but it didn't help much. I am 35!!! I work in hospitality. I love fantasy to death but serving the public is so draining.
Ever since I got stalked my mind kinda snapped and never went back to normal. It isn't the cause, but it really magnified it. I really don't trust people like I used to but I don't see the solution because I don't want to be join society. Its not like I can switch it off. Does anyone experience anything remotely similar? Where you were triggered in a way that made "never want to go back?"
How do I get my mom to stop buying me things?
Before you call me a brat, let me explain.
My mom is almost a hoarder. I say almost because she definitely has a spending/collecting problem but will sometimes give items away after awhile. She also likes to give gifts, just for the sake of buying said gifts. She's also in a lot of debt, so I don't understand why she bothers with it all.
I have ADHD (diagnosed) and one of the best ways for me to handle it is minimalism. Otherwise I just cannot keep up with my belongings and my room ends up looking like a pig pen and I can never find anything. You may think I'm disgusting, but people who understand ADHD will understand that we just can't wrap our heads around organization.
My birthday is this month and I KNOW my mother is going to get me $150 worth of cheap garbage from Amazon. Little knick knacks, things I can never make use of, clutter, and things that will break within the year. Most of the time she doesn't really go gift shopping, she just hoards a bunch of stuff, never takes it out of the packaging, then decides to give it to me when my birthday or christmas rolls around.
I'm very tired of it. It stresses me out a lot and she doesn't get it because she has no troubles with organization.
Are any of y'all's parents pseudo-hoarders? Do they try to push it on you? What do you do about it?
ADVICE NEEDED- I'm afraid to use lesbian dating apps
I'm a single lesbian. It's coming to the end of quarantine in my country, and I want to start dating women in my area. Social isolation has given me plenty of time to self reflect and realise that I do have the courage to meet new people and start dating (anxiety).
Here's the problem. I'm afraid of being assaulted/catfished by transbians. I'm too socially anxious to deal with a situation where I go to bed with someone and they surprise me by pulling a penis out. I'm also very afraid that trying to turn someone down in this situation is going to get me hurt. This happens quite a bit. I even recently read a story on Reddit by a woman who went to hook up with a "woman" and ended up being beaten up and raped.
I'm afraid of that happening to me. Weapons are not legal in my country and I hate that I have to say that because I shouldn't need to think about bringing a weapon on a date.
What do I do?
Miners with strong platonic male friendships, how do you do it?
I haven’t been socialized in early childhood on how to be “just friends” with a dude, and when I did have friends, they were all women. Now I’m faced with the challenge of befriending a moid I’ve come to care about platonically, but am worried I will eventually be ghosted when he realizes there is nothing romantic to provide.
So far I’ve figured out you can’t be as emotional with them as with female friends, as their emotionally unstimulated brains explode with romantic urgency and they mistake you caring as you having feelings for them.
What else should I do? For women who have PURELY platonic male friendships, how do you have to act behaviorally in order for platonic friendship and only platonic friendship to form?
Impostor syndrome
Do you have it?
What do you think may be the cause?
How do you cope with having impostorism?
Personally, I hate it since I'm pretty much in a vicious cycle of self-loathing.
>i'm retarded because i'm not X enough
>can't improve myself in X because it's useless/i'm useless and don't deserve it/i'll never be good enough (if i actually do something)
>i'm retarded because i don't do shit/don't do enough shit
and so on
I done fucked up
So, I've been in community college for over a year now (two semesters). It's been entirely online, and online school is kicking my ass. Every semester goes the same: I promise myself that I won't fall behind and yet I still do. I did horribly in two semesters straight with no real explanation for it. My GPA isn't just bad, it's laughably bad.
And that isn't the worst part. My mom is fully expecting my to transfer to a full year and I just flat out don't have the ability to do that. I massively fucked up the situation by not only lying to her, but panicking when she asked for a transcript and giving her a fake one.
I'd like to try starting a career as an artist after getting an AA, but I'm really starting to feel like it's just a pipe dream. I feel like I end up failing at everything.
My mom is going to meet me in person next week and I'm planning on telling her the truth then. How do I handle the situation, miners?
What is it like without depression?
Without trying to come across like some young teen posting after an emotional episode, I've been thinking a lot about other people and how they can carry themselves like that. With college, I struggle greatly to pay attention and sit at a desk while completing my work. I then see my parents who are almost like robots and able to wake up every day for their jobs. I don't understand how some people aren't just miserable with it all every day. I hate the every day battle and the constant social media "Mental Health Awareness" shit everyone posts. How is this worth it if everyone is going to embrace the misery like this.
literally me
I e-cheated on my first and only boyfriend of many years.
I thought I was missing out for never dating around, and thought I was making a huge mistake by staying with him. I wanted to see what if I was justified by talking to other men online.
I regret it so much. I feel like I defiled this relationship and I get nauseous thinking about it. I haven't gotten decent sleep in days.
Does this feeling ever go away? Does time heal it? Do I need to go to therapy and take meds? Seriously I feel so disgusting and anxious I could die.
Has anyone here successfully managed to lose a large amount of weight? Did you have much loose skin?
>Don't feel jealous of people's lives you see on social media! That isn't real! They have problems too!
Bitch I can see enough from those photos to know they have a better life than me. Unless you're telling me those pictures are photoshopped they have things I don't have and can never have. At least they have those things to comfort them. And it's not like I'm without hidden baggage either.
getting jealous over my boyfriend hanging out with friends?
I’m probably crazy but whenever my boyfriend hangs out with a group of friends without me, I just feel overly jealous. Usually it also involves girls I’ve never met (but have heard of, so I know he’s not interested in them, but it still hurts my feelings). Also, usually he hangs out with friends that also used to be my friends, but now I never see since I started dating him.
Basically, since I’ve started dating him, I’ve had no social life outside of our relationship. Any friends that I had mutually between me and him basically never try to talk to me anymore since we started dating for some reason but continue to hang out with him.
I still feel irrational for getting jealous of him simply hanging out with people and having a social life and idk what to do about that. I’m drinking a lot (which is why this probably makes no sense) and going to get shitfaced with my dad tonight to cope with this cause idk how else to do so.
Can someone try to tell me if there’s a valid reason I’m getting upset or if I’m simply being crazy and need to stop.
The Unrequited Love Thread
Is it your best friend, your colleague, or a forbidden dalliance of the classes? Do you have a passing crush, or a lost love?
Some questions
>what made you fall for them?
>what keeps you apart?
>are you sure its unrequited?
>are you still friends? or do you think you can remain friends?
>how often do you think of them, if ever?
>what is the ideal outcome?
>what is a realistic outcome?
In a few months I turn 20. Yet while most of my peers are being productive and have part time jobs I haven't even been successful in finding one. Is it worth getting down over the fact I've not gained experience while everyone else was or is this not a productive thing to worry over.
Love at a distance
I met such a wonderful guy. He's so different from other men: he's kind, romantic, not promiscuous… he's the best man I've ever met. But we live so far away… almost 400 miles apart. Do you think long distance relationships can work? Tips on how to make it work? He's the love of my life, I'll never meet a man like him again.
another demisexual girl around here?
I am going through a couple breakup and I cannot masturbate if it is not thinking of him in a romantic way. I need to change this
Are there any people here who have actually had a successful relationship lasting more than 18 months? Please tell me your secret to lasting relationships.
Wolf in sheepskin clothing
I have a friend (let's call them D) who is generally very sweet and very funny. However, D is also a self loathing narcissist who manipulates people into falling in love with them to validate that they're attractive. D specifically target people with disorders like BPD (BPD almost specifically) because D is aware the people their hunting will fall wildly in love with them and stroke their ego. D always complains to me about these people wanting to get serious but D refuses to learn or grow as a person.
The sad thing is that D has the potential to be a great person, and they know they can be a great person, but D just won't make good person decisions.
Something that's bothering me lately is an obsession with a particular person (who we will call A). A was in a relationship with Ds best friend. D and A had an affair, totally destroyed the relationship, and now they're still all friendly with eachother but D is mildly obsessed with A. I'm afraid my friend is going to try and lure A into an affair again. A has a relationshop but A is already hanging around with D late at night without As partner.
D has told me before that sometimes when they make decisions that ask themselves if I would be proud of them. Whenever they're ashamed, they tell me. I'm wondering if D and A are already shagging again but D is too ashamed to tell me
coping strategies for breakups
hi everyone, so nearly six months ago my ex-boyfriend of two years and i broke up. he was a god complexed, manipulative narcissist.. the break up was really fucking messy. but throughout the relationship i was so terrified he'd leave me for his ex he had dated about a year or so prior to us. and about two weeks after we broke up, they got together and have been happy since. makes me want to unalive myself lol. i've cooled off internet stalking them both.. but i'm left thinking about him every waking moment, either dwelling on the fact that he did exactly what i was most afraid of after years of insisting he'd never.. or thinking of ways i could get him back, or if he wants me back. or if he ever really loved me, if i was just a rebound for two years since he's essentially thrown away any sentimental feelings he had for me and replaced them with adoration for his ex. did i ever mean anything to him?! how could he just push me to the side so hard. i want him out of my head.. i have a job but he occupies my thoughts even when im there. i probably have bpd or some shit, but i cant stop obsessing over this shit bag. i know time heals but it's been 6 MONTHS!!! help
cute romantic fantasies
does anyone here daydream extensively about an ideal boyfriend to do romantic things with? like going on picnics, road trips, cuddling on the couch, relaxing on the beach or going to the movies. i'd be interested in hearing other people's visualizations of their perfect date with their perfect guy.
I have only hugged one person who wasn't my mom
Looking for an old friend
Hello, I'm looking for an old friend that I met on discord. I just want to know if she's doing well and all, and I know she's a lurker so I thought I'd give it a go. Her name begins with K.
I got fucking arrested
I am not happy about it at all. I just got out of "jail" 40 minutes ago and I am still shook.
My mom, who lives more than an hour away, had to drive and pick me up as the police chief, or whoever the fuck this fat goober was, told me that "only family or a lawyer can come for you". (I have absolutely no idea if that's even legally true but he didn't seem to care) I sat in the police station for 9 hours, handcuffed to a bench behind fencing in the assclown's office while he questioned me, from the other side of the gate. He said he was "doing me a favour instead of putting me in the actual cells". I was allowed out ONCE to drink a water bottle. I cried pretty much the entire time. This happened because my friend's neighbours (she lives in a duplex) were messing with my motorcycle helmet, and when I asked them to stop and took my helmet back, one of them called me a bitch and kicked my bike over. I reacted… animalistically. Turned out the pricks were 14, and after hearing from one of their moms how if this happened before her accident "I'd be dead on the side of the road" They arrived while I was on my bike just making sure everything worked and none of the leaks were that bad.
When they arrested me, the "partner" got just a little gropey with me, but the "senior" was a sneering grumpy black woman who I figured wasn't interested in listening. and the worst part is one of the charges is "attempting to flee" I might never get my motorcycle, which belonged to my dad, back.
Anybody here have any experience getting arrested and dealing with police? what do I have to look forward to from here? Is the fact that the judge is a woman going to help me any?
How do you decide when to help people and when not to help them?
I have had a problem in the past with being a yes person and being resentful over helping people when I didn’t want to.
Recently faces with this situation:
>sister in law, mid 20s has a baby with bf, we are friendly and I’ve always liked her but we hang out with different people
>doesn’t have a drivers license, constantly missing ID, driving anyway w/o license
>can’t buy a new car without license, the car that she has was given to her and it’s a 25 y/o POS that’s been in the shop for weeks
>she works at a local fast food joint and can’t ever get her kid to her moms to be babysit to get to work without a car
…
But if she had a license she would be able to buy a new car and not have to deal with this. Instead, she asks me and everyone else for rides. BUT if she doesn’t get a ride she’ll just deal with it. Tonight she was just going to go walk her baby home in the stroller across town at 11 pm if I didn’t drive her.
I don’t want her doing that but at what point will she get her shit together? I am not responsible for her, but her baby doesn’t deserve to suffer.
In addition to not having a license or ID her baby doesn’t have a SS# and she can’t get any covid bucks for him and insists “the SSI office is closed”.
no normal human is attractive anymore
The constant push of more and more extreme beauty standards is turning a good 95% of humans into uggos. If you don't have the time, wealth and skills to modify your appearance and essentially perform sophisticated body modification on yourself, you have 0 chance of being seen as attractive or desirable by the average member of society who has been conditioned to only view those as attractive who tick very specific, and gradually harder to reach, boxes, therefor exponentially increasing your chances of dying alone and unloved
And it's only getting worse
FTM considering detrans
I'm a 19y/o who troon'd at like 15 for reasons that I believe now had more to do with bullying and self loathing than actual dysphoria. Upon realizing this I have stopped T (I'd been on it for about a year) and am debating on if I should detransition entirely.
I ask you; if my body, naturally, before the T, had made me look like a literal ape with no tits and a Hank Hill ass, does it even do myself or anyone any good for me to detransition? I believe I would be happy to be essentially a butch lesbian if I was a lesbian, or at least bi, but I've never been attracted to women and thus I'm stuck being the exact opposite of the kind of shit straight guys like whilst having to care about it.
Inability to unplug
How do I practise stepping away from my devices? I literally cannot be left alone for periods, my mind is always racing and I spent most of the day in my head.
Climate Change Zone
How does it make you feel? How do you prepare? Where do you live that its effecting big time?
Most of my life I felt the way things disappeared in nature around my house acutely because I loved nature.
I fiercely hate the conservatives who push it aside as a nonissue, with a passion some days. I don't see the point in having children at all. I look at my niece and wonder what the hell she's going to do.
Most of all I have no motivation a lot of the damn time. I hate people who pretend like work is going to save them, that it means anything. Who pretend things around them aren't going on. I don't know how people can live in an illusion. I never talk about this with anyone, accept my mom and she hates it. I've become wary of talking about things that make people extremely mad IRL, though I'll discuss things online… I don't see the point in discussing it though. What can I say that I haven't already said?
People react to this topic with such rage because its jolts them back to reality. They say "you don't live in reality" because you only work fir 11$ an hour, and play games and drink and write, and get into escapism… But if anyone's not in touch with reality its enraged types who haven't accepted it at all.
face hate vent
I just got a haircut this afternoon (no drastic change) and of course took a bunch of selfies when I got home to see how it looked, send to friend, etc.
I have a really weird face and looking at the selfies started to upset me. All my features are huge – I like my big eyes and big mouth but I hate my big hook nose and big forehead. My eyelids are asymmetrical and I have really dark circles under my eyes. I'm embarrassed to think people look at me everyday. I don't think I can ever afford plastic surgery for my nose, and it feels like a waste of money anyway.
What do you hate about your face? How can I not hate my weird face?
>pic related and also lol pepperoni eyes
how do i tell my ugly friend i don't want to be friends with them anymore?
everytime we go out guys don't want to talk to us because she's not really attractive, quite the opposite.she's overweight and she doesn't wanna change, and i don't feel comfortable outside with her. any tips?
When did you discover that you were unatractive?
Dealing with aging
I'm in my late 20s and now I miss being younger and more naive and feel like I lost my opportunity to have cute stereotypically female experiences. I mingle with much younger people sometimes due to shared hobbies (weeb stuff) and I realize that I feel way too old for it (and them). It makes me feel bitter about missing out on all the fun stuff because I feel like I wasted my entire youth being depressed and anxious. I really dread becoming even older.
During our last session my therapist dropped on me that she doesn’t know how many more sessions she’ll be able to have with me because she might be reaching the max level with me, and because she’s a student working under a psychologist professor; she has no say in regards to keeping patients on for longer than allowed.
I’m such a pussy but I feel so much idk why, I haven’t cried at all during therapy but I’m crying now.
What’s fucked up is I’m starting a new chapter in my life currently and I could use my therapist the most right now, but now who knows when it’ll end.
I swear to god every time I get preposition for a threesome, the girl is alwayyyyssss so attractive but the dude looks like a goblin. Like I almost always wanna say yes so I can finally lose my lesbian V card to a hot chick. But theres no way Im gonna get with an ugly ass moid to do so.
A weird novel of a confession I want to share with you all lol
There's this guy I met 4, approaching 5 years ago on the last day of summer that I can't stop thinking about. If I had to chose a person that is on my mind the most it's him. I don't think I've though about my mom as much as I thought about him.
I don't want to give too many details, so I'll try to keep the story short. there's a park that I like going to when I feel like looking at trees and listening to music. I decided to sit on a bench and get lost in my thoughts. I haven't slept for the whole night that day so it was really easy for me to dissociate from reality. There's a small hill in front of the bench, and that guy was just hanging out alone, idk, but he was just looking at his phone. Then I noticed that he's looking at me and smiling. It didn't even freak me out. Some time later he sat down near me and bought me ice cream, we talked a bit. He said where he works so I thought yeah he wants me to go there and meet him. I never fucking did because I'm retarded and autistic.
I love everything about that day. It was my favorite weather, and I like how he looked. He was also very calm and friendly and not creepy at all. The only problem that's there is that he's very likely 10+ years older than me and when I was 15 when we met.
After that, I only saw him in october with his friend. We just passed each other, I don't know if he recognized me. I posted a lot in a group trying to find him (it's a group specifically designed so that ppl who are too shy to approach someone irl or trying to find someone who they had no chance of speaking to). Eventually I found a person who has a vaguely similar situation to mine. We had great convos about it too, I finally felt like I'm not being judged. She told me he just wanted to talk to someone and he could probably not have any romantic interest at all.
The thing is I don't really care that much about that anymore. It sure makes me upset thinking he never even liked me or he's probably dating if not married already but i wish I could just contact him and see if he remembers me. I could never admit I obsess over him to anyone. The only people who know about it irl is my best friend but I never talked about it with her after that year ended, and now I'm too embarrassed to bring it up ever again.
Sometimes I see men who look like him I try to tell if it is really him. And if I'll ever date someone I want the guy to remind me of him as much as possible.
I really want to know who he is besides what I saw that day, really. it's part curiosity and part obsession. I posted my story on a subreddit for stuff like this but got BTFO'd kinda by ppl telling me to stop obsessing over a pedophile that tried to groom me.
I constantly fantasize about being very close to him, like we're going to date soon and hiding it from my parents and classmates. If I'm doing something interesting I imagine doing it with him.
It hasn't been that bad recently because I'm more focusing on finding a job and improving some of my skills I'm passionate about. I think like 2 months ago I saw a guy on a bike that looks eerily like him, especially that smile and how he looked at me, you ever get that feeling that someone is staring at you? I felt that and due to social anxiety I couldn't bear looking at him for more than 0.5 of a second. But i wouldn't be surprised if it is him.
Anyway, if someone responds to this autistically long post I am willing to talk about it more. I'm willing to listen to any opinions although I hope this won't be as upsetting as reddit was. My discord is SunnyThursdayMorning#0638
Unclean
I've recently become aware that I'm not as good of a person as I insisted to myself that I was. Something I've always told myself is that I'm relatively innocent and that good things will come to me eventually because good people are supposed to get rewarded somehow.
I focus on my good qualities without really opening my eyes and seeing the bad qualities. I can be very selfish, cruel, lazy, and hypocritical.
I feel like I've lost my innocence over the years. I wish I felt like a good person
any lesbian considered dating ftm
you think dating suck in this day an age as lady attracted to men cackles wait till you experience the mess of the wlw dating scene. why eles do think everyone think terf=lesbian. for a long time used to be a dyke for dyke only. over time i realized i do like bi women. when i was younger and insecure about my sexualtiy i went for butch women bc it alivated my "straight girl dysphoria" ( at the time it felt like me being gay some sort of mistake like i was ment to be edgy goth girl with a crust gamer bf).
then i started haning around straight women and no longer felt like i was given the wrong sexuality. over time i have been able to meet some pretty chill cuspers (ftm who also id as lesbian) im friends with them so nothing sexual. I was wondering hey maybe i could go for chill ftm who ids as lesbian or chill with the fact im mad gay. the only htink that bothers me is potentially no boobs. im not really big letting the whole world know im lesbian but i would miss the opportunity to cal my s.o. my wife. but on the other hand we could potentially travel to other countries as and display pda if he passes. idk any other dykes feel the same way?
are you 'that' friend?
>Always feel bad about being lonely
>Don't make efforts to reach out
>Not enough productive hobbies
>Feeling like even replying to messages takes a lot of energy
>Only truly feel close to 1 friend, only 1 out of many I feel comfy with texting and asking to meet up
I fucking hate myself so much
Overbearing mother - need advice
I've been planning on going on a trip to meet someone I've known online for over 2 years. I've seen their face and have videochatted with them. I know they're a real person.
I am in my 20s, work 5 days a week, & pay my bills. Because of high rent I cannot move out and I live with my mother atm. The last time I tried purchasing plane tickets, she yelled at me for over an hour about how I was going to be a human trafficking victim, and about how me going on this trip was to "purposely hurt her" and was equivalent to my dad cheating on her. She also threatened to kick me out of the house because she didn't want someone who "hated" her to live with her. There were a lot of tears and I felt utterly hopeless.
I want to purchase plane tickets soon. I don't want to destroy my relationship with my mother but I really want to meet this person. Please tell me how and when (how far in advance) I should tell her I am taking the trip. I cannot take more verbal harassment. I don't want her speaking with him because I know she will be aggressive and interrogative. I don't know what to do. I was thinking of telling her a few days in advance and then booking a hotel room for myself to avoid the drama.
I wish someone would cuddle me
Self harm
Anyone here struggling with self harm? Wanna talk about problems you face with your self harm, like your parents' reaction to it, how strangers react to your scars, what SH did to you physically or maybe vent, etc.?
Maybe there's a character you can relate to and they have self harm issues in your headcannon?
please help me
i'm a very shy person irl – usually i rely upon my friends to speak for me etc. bcus of this i've only had one irl bf as i usually pussy out or am forbade to date them by my parents (strict diaspora type).
since covid i've been spending a lot more time online and i ended up having two ebfs, and am currently somewhat trying to get a new one. for some reason i find it much easier to communicate with moids online, and a perk of edating for me is that my parents do not need to know (i can date boys from outside my ethnic bg).
i know that edating isn't "real" though - i want to be able to get a "real" bf but not have it be some borderline arranged marriage stereotypical freak and not be so awkward. i don't want to have to move back to my homeland just to find love.
how do i get a boyfriend, and should i stop edating if i already know it's somewhat self-destructive?
Its 27°c (very hot) where I am every day. I'm stuck between opening my window to make the summer heat more bearable, or closing my window to avoid the shrieking retard toddler next door. I'm fucking sick of it. So sick of it in fact that I loudly ranted down the phone about it thinking they couldn't hear me and they almost immediately took the little twat indoors.
I'm leaving them a note anyway. I'm sick of having to hear that yoke barking and I'm sick of having to listen to every detail of her parents arguments. I'm sorry but I'm saying it- I hate when inner city Dublin arseholes move to the outskirts of the city and still behave like they
1)have to constantly talk louder than passing cars and
2)act like antisocial scumbags
And I'll break their poxy dog in half if it doesn't stop triggering my dogs into barking matches
I was watching my old high school graduation videos and saw my old best friend who I haven’t really thought about much. We had a falling out just after school over a dumb boy of all things. Should I contact her again? I don’t remember a lot of what happened but I do miss her… But I’m worried this sad nostalgia might be one-sided.
Abusive relationships
A lot of women, on cc aswell as lolcow, report having an abusive boyfriend or ex-bf.
How common is it ? Why does it happen so much ? Are moid abusers even aware of their abuse ? It's fucking weird that scrotes always insist that it's the women fault if she desn't leave. Do they secretely want to abuse a woman if she is insecure enough to let them do it ?
And for victims, how do you know you're in an abusive relationship ? How do you differentiate an abusive partner from a moody one ? Who helped you to get out ?
I'm personnally always paranoid about moids trying to take advantage of me, so I always overreact and have a lot of troubles making compromises in relationships. I don't get abused, but I don't have LTRs either.
Theory: the comparison between femcels and incels prove that Women are better people than men
you don't see anyone here getting bitter or angry, calling for the heads of all men for not dating us. We don't worship Chads whereas incels constantly orbit stacies and we have actual empathy for each other instead of crab bucketting each other out of spite
When’s the first time you realized you were kinda empty inside?
>someone told me today that they saw this guy I had been thardcore into for the last couple of years, at the bar with another girl. Normally something like this with throw me over the edge. But I felt absolutely nothing, not sad , not jealous. Im finally completely empty and numb.
My husband is watching porn
I'm a 24 years old married French anon, my husband is 28, we are in relationships since 4-5 years with no big problem.
A few day ago, my curiosity pushed me to check his phone's web history (when he was asleep lol).
I discovered that almost 1 day on 2, he is watching porn sites.
What's puzzled me the most is the researches he made : "sister" and "teen"
What's the psychology behind "sister" and "teen" porn?
I can't stop thinking about that.
I feel disgusted.
I don't want to talk/ask to him about that.
Advice?
Ps: pardon my English
Other people
How do/would you react to your partner talking about how someone is attractive? What do you say to them after that? Do you care at all? Does it make you insecure? Do you consider other people attractive?
I personally have no idea what to say. I do feel insecure and shit but just because i know im not pretty. I dont even know what kind of conversation he expects, do i just say my opinion? I can ask him who he finds more attractive, me or her, but i already know the answer to that.
Well honestly i dont even know what it means to him when he says that someone is attractive…
can someone empathize
I've got poor English, but I'll try to elaborate as much as I can. I haven't been eating right because of neurosis, and my health deteriorated yadda yadda. Anyway I've got fear of needles because of past trauma, and the way of treatment chosen was nutrition through the venous system.. anyway I had to get straddled down and held down for the injection.. I felt pretty bad and slept during and after while at home.. I slept and woke up with a bruised arm I wish I could do something about it…
So I thought I finally found a group of people I like and I somehow belong to. I was in a quite big facebook and the only rule was not to report. I was there for ca. 2 years, organizing meetups and I know many many of them personally. And today I misstaped and accidentally reported a post. The admins immediately kicked me out, without any discusion, without chance of any explanation. When I tried to contact the one who kicked me, he laughed at me. Another admind added me back and I wrote apologizing, however they kicked me again. Fortunately, some of them still like me and are on my side.
I am so sad. During the last year I was slowly starting isolating myself, started having problems with getting know others and avoiding strangers.
And this hurts me, because many of them just denounced me. And I know if some of them do the same, they wouldn't be so tough.
girl discord
Anyone want to be in a female only discord. I don't have many female friends.
Stuff that'd be fun that I like:
Anime, art, video games, etc.
My mom used to tease me when I was 11 and say I was I closet lesbian because I didn’t have any friends and the only clothes that fit me at the time we’re boys clothing
Going to start spitting in my dads girlfriends food
I'm in my dads house while I recover from a surgery. I'm pretty much bed bound, and I spend all day in my room alone because of it. I'm lonely. Well my dad said I can take one of my dogs upstairs with me (they live here while I live elsewhere) and I was absolutely delighted to finally have some company in my room. Well that selfish cunt decided to have a problem with that, and because my dad has no spine, he rang me on the phone while he was in work to let me know that he realises shes being a cunt and it's his fault for telling me I could have to dog upstairs but that I have to take him downstairs and vacuum the stairs to make sure there was no fur. Just to be clear, she isn't allergic to fur. She knows I can't stand or walk after my surgery and she want me to carry a heavy vacuum up the stairs on top of being alone in my room. Fat cunt.
This is only one incident in a long line of retard behaviours from her. It's always like this even when I lived there. It's always her crying over dish towels or something and making my dad come to tell me that he knows thay shes acting like a cow but to go along with it because he doesn't want to deal with her.
So I'm going to start spitting in her fucking food. I'm going to start leaving the vacuum where she leaves her bike. I'm going to wipe my spit on the rim of her coffee mugs if I see them in the press and let it dry into them. If I didn't feel sorry for mt dad, I'd start tossing shot glasses of my own piss infront of her bedroom door or wiping it inside her shoes. I've already starting wiping my armpits with her clean laundry
Does anyone else get the impression that women are being brainwashed?
Right so, unpopular opinion here I'm sure. That said… Sometimes I feel like the media is trying to convince women that being empowered, strong, and respecting themselves, is the same thing as being sexual, naive, and sexist (towards men, but sometimes towards women as well).
I feel like in order to be respected by fellow women now, I need to have a disregard for any romantic relationship because a "man has no right to control me", which is true, but also that doesn't give me a right to treat him as replaceable and unworthy of me because I'm a 'queen'. It feels like I have to show all of myself, and there's a reverse slut shaming where girls who aren't comfortable with that are against the flow of progress or are prudes. It feels like while the media says it's empowering to dress in little to nothing, really we're still sexualizing ourselves for others. I could go on and on but my point is that sometimes, I get the sneaking suspicion women are being controlled by this new wave of feminism. It feels like originally, the message was pure, but it's been tainted by the people in power who profit off of women acting the way they do now.
I don't know. If you disagree, please tell me why. I'd like to have a conversation about it but have nobody to ramble at.
Vent thread
last thread was >>56355
Cheating
I've been in a ldr for quite a while, and its all going amazing. Still, lately I cannot help to think that my boyfriend - who truly loves me - could be tempted to cheat in the future (or already tought about doing it). I know he wouldnt, cause he is very sensitive about my feelings and liked me for 2 years already (even tho I dumped him the first time we tried dating).
Anyways, I've been cheated before and thats probably why this still haunts me, but I just can stop this feeling and its destroying me. Already asked him about it. He comforted me saying he would never do it, and I know he was speaking truth.
I trully love him, but I cant control those feelings. How do you deal with this?
Why does my mother call me just to talk about nothing? As I'm typing this, she's telling me about what she had to eat and reciting new recipes she tried.
If not food, then she's talking about men issues…it's weird. I mean, I'm used to it, because she's always been the type to at length talk about mundane stuff going on in her life (I've never been comfy enough with her to talk about my own life, then again I'm not interesting), but yeah. Anyone else's mom/dad do this?
Friends
How the fuck do you make new friends? Is there like an app or something I can use? Or do I have to subject myself to the "discords" these trannies seem to lurk.
Why is friendzoning considered worse than fuckzoning?
If I have a crush on someone it's because they're a great person, I don't need to get in their pants, I'd also be happy with being friends with someone like that. Hearing "either we bone or I have no interest in interacting with you" sounds like a huge insult to me and if my crush implied that I would no longer want to bone them in the first place.
Sorry to bump but I need female opinions on this.
I have a crush on a guy whose in one of my university clubs(but he goes to a different school). Because of covid I rarely see him irl but we still have weekly virtual meetings… which I've missed recently but let's get to the point.
How do I make him notice me? My guy friend told me to slide in his DMs and just ask him out or make small talk but it seems too direct to me. Appearance-wise he's my looksmatch but everything else about him is out of my league. He's super involved in local activism and community service and on top of that is in grad school which I really admire. So he's super busy and I know he'd make time for me if he wanted to but I feel like I'd be disrespecting him if I talked to him since he has more important things to do than talk to that rando freshman chick from Sunrise. And we don't talk outside of club activities which isn't very often so I feel like it would be out of the blue.
What should I do? I can't tell if my hesitance comes from low self esteem or good reason. I'd have to make the first move because he wouldn't notice me otherwise. Not that I want to chase him but yeah… Should I try to become friends with him, which would probably lead to feelings on his part?
I love women hate threads
They really show how bad men really are. It's funny how women hate threads are always the same recycled images(have been for years), usually about women having their nudes leaked or the dating 'hierarchy.' Or about women expressing their sexuality.
Meanwhile, if women made moid hate threads, we'd have a lifetime worth of new content. We wouldn't even have to cherry pick or reuse images. Rape, pedophilia, murder, abuse, etc. Never would need a reused image, because each day men do something more shocking than before. Not only that, the statistical evidence of pedophilia in men would be a great image for that.
Anyway, that's all I wanted to share. The thought brightened up my day.
I downloaded tiktok and I got this horrible feeling in my stomach it was weird. I felt like everyone was degenerate or weird while they weren't doing anything wrong and I'm quite confused why I felt that way. I had this feeling when I went out the other day as well with my boyfriend, it was like we were the only clean people in the world everyone else was dirty. I don't understand what the fuck is wrong with me, is this because of quarantine? This is the reason that I kinda cut contracts with most of my friends like everyone just seems degenerate or ugly. Why is this happening I wasn't like this I was always enjoying meeting new people I'm so mad and sad about myself. Am I a bad person, how can I fix that?
I am lost.
I was friends with guy who was really initiating contact with me. We made it clear that everything was platonic and he, himself said nothing was between us.
He initiated everything from wanting to hang out together, texting and calling. This went on for a month and after some time, I started getting used to him being there and regarded him as a close friend. I did end up telling him about something I was insecure about. He did share with me that info of him early during around friendship. During that convo, he was really empathetic and said he struggled with the same issue, as well.
Out of the blue, he doesn’t initiate any contact anymore. Even my texts, he is unresponsive to it whereas before he would even double, triple text me in a day.
I regarded him as a friend so, I am hurt with this sudden change of behaviour. I did ask him directly if everything was fine between us and he said all was well. He was almost ‘love-bombing’ me in the initial and once I let my walls down, he just disappeared.
Am I over-reading into things or was I just another ‘challenge’ for him to see if I would let him in?
I hate my dad, I hate hating my dad, I hate how people stereotype the whole "daddy issues" thing and although I hate him I still wish I had a good relationship with him
Punish bf for forgetting our plans
My bf and I were supposed to watch an anime yesterday, we’re LDR, and he forgot that we made plans a week ago.
Problem is this happens a huge majority of the time. He forgets I made plans. I say I because he never sets up plans with me I’m always the one having to set things up.
He also almost never calls me. The few times he did was when he was driving to fucking Taco Bell. He tells me how much he loves and misses me but his actions do not show it.
How can I punish him for missing plans for the 10th time.
Tw: rape
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I need help. I have been raped 4 times in the past 5 years by 4 different guys, and after the most recent one I am afraid that it will happen again.
The first 3 happened in rapid succession and it totally ruined my life for a year. I went through a shit ton of therapy and I am emotionally and mentally fine now, but a week ago it happened again. I had thought “oh I was naive and had low self consciousness, but now i’m more independent and confident so it won’t happen again” but clearly that isn’t the case.
I’ve never spoken about it publicly IRL and don’t plan to.
I need real advice. There are a lot of shitty people and clearly I am not doing enough to defend myself. I need to learn some concrete things that I can do to stop this from happening or some self defense suggestions.
I can give more specifics about the situations if it would help. I don’t mind talking about it at all now thankfully.
Help me?
I need help, please.
I think I need to clear my mind with something I'm going through and I need some input from someone more experienced than I am (I'm 18). I don't want to put myself in a dangerous situation.
I don't want to discuss what it is in this post, but I'll leave my discord so you can add me if you want to help. It would mean the world to me.
No, I'm not going to ask you for money or anything, I just want life advice.
Add me Teabag#7246
distance
i'm considering in leaving my boyfriend,we planned to meet this summer since he lives pretty far..i was his frist online relationship and he told me when we 1st dated the only way we could date was if we met…..my family is broke we can barely afford keep the lights on, i don't know how to tell him, he's told his parents about me and let me meet his friends over vc.I love him so much and this is the 1st healthy stable relationship ive been in he's my world i'm so scared of losing him over money but i just can't tell him so i might have to leave him 1st….i keep coming up with things in my head to make him seem toxic so i can leave him without feeling guilty but the things i find are so small like when he asked to do ''stuff'' the same night i was having a mental breakdown but that's not even bad im sure he didnt mean it that way, rn i'm currently not speaking to him and staying off of social media….i just don't know what to do can someone please give me advice
>lesbian
>watching princess jellyfish with male friend
>imagine him extravagantly dressed as a woman (like kuranosuke)
>feel butterflies in my stomach
I don't even know if this was attraction or what. Does it make me bi? I feel lost and confused. I'm very upset at this.
I am a former pickme and somewhat tradthot.
I got into feminist theory, particularly radfem theory, and the way men treated me my whole life finally started making sense. For years I thought my mistreatment was my own fault for not being pretty enough, submissive enough, young enough, cultured enough, etc. It took me this long to realize that no matter how well I performed femininity, men did not treat me any better. Misogynists will never see women as human and they'll never make room for exceptions, the archetype of the exception that I chased desperately.
I don't really know how to move forward in a healthy way. I was always afraid of men, but now I'm afraid in a whole new way. Men hate the women they have under their thumb but they hate women outside of their influence even more. I'm in fear of what my ex might do to me if he ever feels like he needs to take me down a notch. I can already feel myself becoming more paranoid in my daily life as a result of my new mindset. I am losing my self-loathing and exchanging that for loathing and fearing men. Though justifiably, I'll add.
If anyone has been in the same situation as me please tell me how you were able to move on, and become happy. The paranoia is very intense, and I'd really like to overcome it.
>there are males on this board reading this post right now and they're just here to laugh at us
angry
Would it solve most problems if cosmetic surgery got better?
Seems like an obvious thing to fix
husband has had an affair
>be me
>26F, tradwife & married
>two young boys
>finds out my husband has been conversing conversation back and forth on Facebook behind my back to an ex-college friend
>husband has perverted humour and cannot decide if he may be having an affair with them
>asks him, he denies
>shows the messages i had been taking screenshots of, he denies an affair
>a couple months pass
>see that he's been talking to them frequently again all of the sudden, i stalk his location
>finds out they get coffee together every week
>i snap, he begins to act sulky, in half-denial, but later admits he's been having coffee with her but has been no "affairs"
>a couple weeks pass, finds out he had an affair
I want to leave him and stay at my mothers' for a while and put my mental health together before coming back to the house as it has been slowly draining me but i'm scared of leaving the kids with him - he'll start to get possessive over them and threaten to do something to himself if I take them.
I cannot leave my husband because without him, I'd be living in a council house and i cannot bare being alone
Kevin Samuels and Finding a Man
Anybody watch any of this guy's videos / streams? I realize CC isn't LSA, but LSA wouldn't be able to understand my frustrations.
His videos have women who are usually single who talk about their past relationships and I'm shocked by the sheer amount of them that have had boyfriends! They talk about having 2 and 3 boyfriends in the last few years and I can't even manage to find one! I don't think I have too high of standards or anything, but I'm not sure where these women are finding men. Is it easier to find a man if you're black?
why when my boyfriend wants to improve himself I feel a horrible feeling in my stomach?
How do I stop this
Giving up on dating
I haven't seen any threads made on this topic, so I'll make one myself. I want to stop dating men as a form of separatism. I don't trust men anymore, I don't want to form a family or live my life with someone I can't trust. Most men are vile, they want to take, take, take. I don't want to have sex or relationships with them at all. How can I achieve this without driving myself crazy? Is there any effective way to avoid men as much as possible?
How do you heal the relationship between you and men?
I've always been scared of men, even though I act cold and nonchalant but deep inside I have such a scared/hatred for them since I've had such terrible experiences with them ever since I was young. I try to manifest better men to come into my life but it never lasts as long. Any tips?
>into femdom
>met beta orbiter on 4chan
>he's into femdom too obviously
>tease him and humiliate him a lot
>he's so desperate for me
>he says that he loves me every day
>showers me with compliments and affection
>never felt anything like this
>he's always there for me
>we do stuff like watching anime together
>waits for me whenever I go out at night to tell me goodnight
>sends me gifts on his own will
>I play with his feelings a lot
>lead him on a lot
>switch from pretending to love him to telling him I would never even let him touch me back and forth
>this goes on for months
>it's been a week since he disappeared out of the blue
>turns out I loved him for real
Rude awakening n.42245
>Some guy messages me and asks if we can exchange songs
>You agree
>About 2 weeks pass, I like the songs he sends and he likes mine
>Decide to check his page
>"Modern foids (pretty much the english equivalent of the word he used to refer to women) are disgusting. I could honestly not understand my younger self for falling for them. Fuck this shit
Why does it always has to be like this? I'm about to ask him why he thinks that way and why he's talking to me even tho I'm a disgusting foid. Fml.
Unable to relate- existentially alone
Does anyone else experience the following?
Do you feel out of place wherever you go? Unable to relate to anyone on any significant level?
Thread musical theme https://youtu.be/bpew5DB47Jw
I feel as if I am old yet not even 30. I struggle to relate to others on imageboards generally for a variety of reasons. I do not have that compulsion to get hitched or even make friends irl and I feel that alienates me. I think people worry themselves too much about the future and buy into politics and I am just sick of it but something is wrong on an even deeper level.
People will tend to like me and want to spend time with me online or offline (my only experience is psychwards for socializing irl) but I generally do not enjoy being near others and prefer to be by myself.
I try to talk to people and make friends and it becomes so much of a burden so I typically vanish on them. (now I tell people before talking that I will cease contact at some point as it is not nice to ghost people).
Am I a horrible person for treating relationships as an easy way to entertain myself?
On the rare chance I do get close to someone I become a crazy BPD (diagnosed lol) ver them and end up suffering a lot as a result.
Is there some way to fix this? it is only getting worse and I have fallen so far behind with the world. I decided to try discord and did not fit into any public community and even obscure text/imageboard discord communities seem to be full of kids.
It is less that I want to fit in and more that I want to want to fit in. I do not understand people if that makes sense.
Most people seem to make friends with anyone that will like them and I personally do not care about being liked at all and only want to like someone else yet struggle.
I am being taken to some social groups with a social worker soon and hoping I will be able to enjoy being social but I worry I won't.
Do you relate? do you have any tips? I can talk to people for long periods and never bond with them despite wishing to.
I worry that isolation has ruined me for life.
Sorry for a badly written post I did try and I want to hear how you feel.
Your thought
Thoughts are plants. What is a thought plant you water but have told none?
Is there really a good man out there for me? Are there such things as good men? Do you still have hope?
Have any of you girls ever have success with getting a cute bf by becoming an arthoe? I feel like my current fashion style is too generic to stand out. So I might try it or maybe the goth look idk
Science says that Love only lasts 6 months at best, why do you want to get married or even have a long term relationship? Men are natural whores, is part of their nature, you can be the hottest woman on earth but he will eventually get bored of having sex with you.
I want to take drugs, yes, I want to take drugs forget about all my sadness and be happy.
narcissist bf
my ex sorta boyfriend was such a fucking asshole and I don't know why I feel so bad for us not talking anymore. i wanna type up something here about our history but I don't know if anyone here will read the entire thing so sorry
i had known him for two years and i had a crush on him forever but i didn't go too far with him because i still had a boyfriend at the time (he hit me a lot and was very jealous and controlling). I wanted to cheat with him so bad because I just wanted to escape from my fucked up relationship so much that even though me and him connected on the most basic things like music and stuff i felt closer to him then i ever did to my then bf.
i broke up with my abusive ex, only at his whim, because he already moved out of my town for college so we were dead to begin with at that point. even though he hit me, demanded looking through my phone and social media constantly, i had never felt so invalidated in my life when he left me. it was horrible, but because he was my first and only relationship in my life, i felt like i lost something big.
I tried to patch it up by getting with the guy in question here. We "dated" for about 6 months and he changed a lot. i said he used to be awkward and shy, now he was super aggressive sexually, acted a lot more like a stereotypical fuck boy, at least over text. when I met him in person for the first time in forever, he was alot more like how I remembered him in high school, awkward in a funny way, soft spoken. i remember he brought me to a music store for our first "date" and I was so nervous I got a rash on my chest and I felt so sweaty. when he dropped me off at my house i hugged him and told him I liked him. he liked me back.
I won't waste anyone's time by detailing our whole relationship, but i guess I can try and include the most important parts. basically as time went on even though I felt really close to him and so did he he reminded me of my ex too much with the not so subtle jealousy and insecurity. I tried really hard for him so much it makes me cringe. I went along with whatever fantasy he had, i was super open about my kinks with him, i told him i wanted to be his little princess for daddy, I wanted him to spank me. it makes me feel gross now because i was probably giving him so much power he felt like he could say and do all the fucked up and down right mean things to me when we got into our "fight". he told me he was a virgin and i inflated his ego so much once he lost it to me. i was a fucking doormat.
the one thing I hated the most, was no matter how sweet he tried to be with me, he would either somehow use it to try and get sex, or he would act like the relationship was all about himself. he would talk about himself SO MUCH. he would talk about his interests instead of asking about mine, and whenever I would try and get him into my music he would pretend to listen to it and I could tell he wasn't even listening to the playlists I sent him. I was trying so hard for him and he wasn't for me. one of my cringiest moments is when he spent several minutes talking about "german philosophy" and I just sat there and tried my hardest to be as genuinely interested, because I loved him so much.
over time this anger over his narcissism just built up in me, and one day after he hung up on a phone call I called him out for being a selfish fucking dick. he tried talking to me and asking me what was wrong but when i wasn't responding to his texts he lashed out at me and called me a dumb bitch, he said my vagina smelled like fish when we had sex and in the heat of the moment that made me cry so hard. I face timed him because I wanted him to see the damage he did, I wanted to guilt him so hard and bring his ego down. I guess it didn't work because god knows why but we made up and stayed together for at least another month.
things weren't so bad, at first he tried being nicer to me, he would let me talk about myself alot more, but eventually he kind of went back to his old ways of caring about himself more than me and acting like I existed to serve him. I kept seeing the little things about him that gave me the ick, and one day I just ghosted him after sending me this text that reeked of his typical arrogant self importance. He seemed worried at first, asking if i was okay, but then just like the last time he starting getting angry and resentful, hurling insults at me. I didn't have the energy to get into a phone call fight this time so I just kept ignoring him. i spent several days wondering what I did wrong, and if there was anything I could have done to prevent him from becoming the way he did. i even felt like it was MY fault for some reason. one day he texted me "I'm sorry for the way I am sometimes". all i said was "don't be, it's not your fault sometimes". he said something else after that, but I forgot because i deleted all our messages and haven't talked to him since.
he was such a fucking dickhead to me. a week ago i felt happy i could move on but i can't get him from living in my head. what the fuck is wrong with me?
Have any of you ever had to end a long term (let's say minimum of 2 years) relationship that you didn't really want to end, but you felt like you had no choice?
>What made you leave?
>How did you feel afterwards?
>How did life go after becoming single again?
>Did you date again, and if so, how was it overall?
My fiance is a heavy alcoholic. We have been together for four years and I have tried time and time again to help him to quit but he just isn't trying. It's an endless cycle of him vowing to stop and then drinking the very next morning. Yesterday I woke up to him being absolutely wasted at 10 am and then he came home from a friend's house hours later even more fucked up with a mysterious gash on his forehead, wallet and glasses missing, and passed out on the porch. I love him so much but his drinking is slowly killing me and I just can't do this forever. He has done so much for me and I feel like such a bitch even considering leaving him, but I have absolutely no stability in my life and the drinking makes me feel even more like my life will never be in my control.
I've never really been in this predicament because I've only been in one other long term relationship and he was physically abusive and cheating on me, so it was a much easier choice to leave, but this time it just feels so much more complicated and hard. We were supposed to spend forever together and I'm watching him slowly but surely poison himself and destroy our chances of having any semblance of a normal life instead.
Adhd
I feel like my adhd is out of control.
Between that, lack of motivation, and the internet I never get anything done.
I just read shit online. All day long. Not social media. Just. Like articles or whatever.
When I could be doing something anything else.
I have so many hobbies that I love to do. And I just. Don’t.
I know I need to change my adhd medication to extended release.
But it’s being online so much that really bums me out.
I don’t even watch tv or YouTube.
I need to reinstall my screen time password that my husband knows because I legit have zero self control and no other apps are worth anything.
Between 5 to 10 hours like wtf. I hate it.
Almost molested
I think my uncle tried to molest me as a child. He is about 8 years older than me, and growing up we lived in the same house. Because I pretty much perceived him as the other kid in the house I would always bother him.
Something that haunts me is that he likely tried to molest me. The incident I remember was that I was about 6 or 7 years old and we were watching Spirited Away in his room. He told me to get out for a second and he wanted to show me a secret. When I came back in her had a pillow on his lap and his pants kind of down. I don't remember what happened but it must have only been a few seconds before he ushered me out the door without actually doing anything.
I don't know how to deal with this. I didn't think anything of it as a dumb kid. We have a relatively friendly relationship even though we only see eachother every few months.
I don't know how to deal with realising that someone I used to idolise tried to abuse me. Did he even try to abuse me? It seems so obvious but I don't want to believe it. I doubt he even remembers. I'm terrified to confront him incase I'm totally wrong, but I don't think I can let this go
> texting a man in the morning
> time of the day when he’s most aroused from overnight testosterone production
> you can get the neediness you want from him
:3
Self harm general
Anyone else self harm(ed)?
>Why
>How
>Advice
>Have you ever been caught?
>Do you want to be caught?
>Do you try to leave scars?
chasing emotionally unavailable men
why do we do it anons
In a void over the 'oids
I came here thinking it would be based, but I still haven't found my niche. How come other women want to make spaces just for them but discourage interesting topics or discourse? The rules are really sensitive that I might be breaking one by making this post. they're constrictive and makes the dialog here feel like bathroom gossip. random,media,imgs,feels?? this is a stereotype in real time (woman have no hobbies, only follow men, don't create innovate, just regurgitate),its a bad look /pol/ is right about and I don't want them to be cause they act like knowitalls but isn't it funny, they will never be a woman.
I've had all guy friends my whole life but it seems like like-minded men are increasingly resentful towards woman, I'm lonely in my mind..people I meet irl are either normies or rarely based and fuckzone me because they are deprived and only want one thing at this point. we arent kids anymore..
More positive/fun female-only online spaces?
I feel like many of the female-only spaces online end up concentrating on hatred of moids and subsets of moids– or just negative emotions in general. I mean, I get it, that's actually how I ended up finding the female-only spaces I'm referring to, but I suppose what really drew me to female-only online spaces was this deep desire to connect and enjoy things with other women.
I try to only involve myself in the more fun threads and make more lighthearted/shitposty threads myself (be the change, etc.) , but I feel like it just doesn't get as much traction as threads that cultivate feelings of anger, outrage, sadness, or a blackpilled/cynical view of life.
I guess I've been craving female-only online communities where I can just chill and talk about interesting stuff and meme around and such. I keep coming back here because I have that craving, but it seems like the most active threads are also the ones that are the most hatred or sadness driven. Again, I get it. Moids take away so much from us and it's unjust and repulsive to the nth degree. But I just want to chill in a female-only online space without feeling my own mental health deteriorating.
I thought about posting this in /meta/, but I already made a post suggesting we have boards for specific interests, e.g. science/tech, sport/exercise/fitness, music. I think having boards that are more interest-focused might improve things. IDK.
Tfw only child
I wish I had a big sister
Dealing with loss of pet
My dog died unexpectedly much younger than we ever thought she would (9 years old) last night after a tumor we had no idea about ruptured and she bled out internally. We had no idea she had cancer. She was fine at 9am and by 6pm she was almost dead in our vet's office and my fiance and I had to make the call.
She was my first dog as an adult and she felt like she really was my child, she gave me the love I can only imagine a daughter with mommy issues could have given, and I'll never have anything like what she gave me again.
How do I cope with this loss? I feel stupid saying I feel like I've lost a child but that's really how it feels. I feel so empty and waves of sadness move over me every so often, sometimes I'll be crying hysterically other times I'll be just laying there catatonic. I have so many regrets, I wish I spent so much more time giving her so much more than I did.
Weddings
Do you want to get married?
If so, what's your dream wedding?
Who would you invite?
What wedding dress would you wear?
What theme would you do?
Feeling stuck
Does anyone else struggle with getting out of a 'rut'? I've recently left secondary school during which I got pretty badly bullied and teased from supposed friends. I'm really asocial now and I'm starting to neglect educational duties as well as forgetting about job hunting. I haven't picked up enough productive hobbies and I'm starting to get sick of this lifestyle I have lived for the past few years. How do I make meaningful changes to my life? Starting to think I'm missing out.
Vicarious Trauma
Hi miners. I saw something terrible on the web and I have been having panic attacks about it. There's nothing I can do to change the outcome, but I keep fantasizing about saving a baby that was brutally murdered. I feel okay until it's time to sleep and then it gets so hard to breathe and my heart beats out my chest. This sucks.
Internet Romance
Story time! Have you ever fallen in love online, sisters?
Bonus points if it happened back before webcams and smartphones were ubiquitous.
why
why do i have no sympathy for humans, only animals and fictional characters.
i can see a baby go through terrible things and I wouldn't blink.
why.
Distant boyfriend or needy girlfriend?
I have been in a ldr with this guy for about 2 months. The earlier weeks were really nice. After that, work happened and both of us got kinda swamped with it.
I did try to still make time for him by texting/calling him at night, dedicating atleast 15 min or more for him. But when he was the one packed by work, he ended up ignoring me. He texts me at late night saying he loves me or any texts that states he is horny.
Everytime I initiate the calls or even if he did, he would only be doing work. I asked him for 5-15 mins of his time yet, it was said to be unfair to him as this project is really important to him. I faced a failure in one of my projects and he couldn’t be there to console me as he was too caught up with work.
Earlier, we have fought due to other small things like him following half-naked women, cursing at me casually, joking about finding a new girlfriend etc. He apologised for everything and told he would fit it, which he did.
Every issue was brought up by me, which he also pointed out, including the current issue, about me not getting any proper attention for the past 3 weeks or so. We had a deal that we would set a time to call, which I suggested, yet he would conveniently forget about it. If I called first, he would just say he is busy. We’ve discussed about the calls thrice.
I broke up with him once because of this reason. He asked me for a few more days as his project would finish. So, I decided to give him a chance.
2 days after his project finished, I hit him up, called him and all, which he declined and texted me for abit, instead. That night, I clearly told him that I really want to talk to him and wanted his attention. He said he’s tired with work and wanted to chill abit, stating he’ll call later, which he never did. He went out with his friends and partied.
The next day, I jokingly texted him to prove his love to me, asking me to show his love to me. He got annoyed and told me to chill. He wants to play video games and will check up on me later. He apologised for not being present enough for me. I didn’t reply to his text and neither did he called.
A few days has passed without anything from him. What should I do?
Rolemodel thread
We all have people that trouble or confuse us but what about our rolemodels?
I talked to this older lady on Wednesday. She talked about finally meeting her financial guardian in person again and that it had been lovely. I said that sounded nice and that quarantine could probably get lonely sometimes and that it's a nice change. She looked me straight in the eye and said that she never, ever felt lonely. Because she felt like a part of humanity. She'd sit in her chair and look at the clear blue sky and enjoy her inner peace. She had been troubled before but not anymore.
She is a very calm and peaceful person and has something refreshingly youthful and cheeky about herself, too. Everyone who meets her likes her. It's always a blast and easy-going hanging out with her.
There is a social worker helping her that gets called by his first name by his co-workers. She asked him if she could call him that, too. He asked back how he'd call her then. And she said: I mean, Miss XYZ of course! And he laughed his ass off at that.
She is a badass. She has Parkinson's and used to be sick emotionally but not anymore. It was a struggle that she has overcome with the years. At the moment, she is preparing her burial in advance, so that her daughter will not have to go through the trouble. That is so admirable. And most of all, I admire her inner peace.
She is one of my rolemodels.
Late twenties and older singledom thread
I’m 29, single my entire life and worried about fertility issues in the future. I used dating websites in the past but had no luck with it. Ladies in the same boat, how do you cope? What are your hopes for the future? Are you doing anything about your singledom?
pornography in a relationship
hi,
how do I cope with porn being present in my relationship? and to be clear- I’m not the one watching it. I know that being mad about it is childish, but I just can’t help feeling hurt. I know my partner is faithful to me, happy with me and loves me very much. Nevertheless, I can’t stop thinking about them watching other women’s bodies in those vulgar videos/pics…it seems so primitive to me… how to explain to myself that pornography isn’t the greatest evil in a relationship? literal me in the pic
Internet sucked the joy out of life
Do any other younger users here feel like they missed out on a lot by not being born before the internet became so mainstream? I do realize that some of it is just nostalgia, but people talking about how life was like in the 90s and early to mid 00s just sounds awesome. I am by no means old but I live in a country where internet only became widely available by the time I was like 8 or 9 and I could literally feel it suck all the fun and uniqueness out of life. Nowadays I am just bitter that (among other things) I did not get to experience life before all of this and honestly, it is just gonna get worse and worse. I spend a lot of my time just indulging media and fantasies that take place in that era. Does anyone else feel the same? (And could anyone recommend me any movies or shows with that distinct 90s era nostalgia?)
I don't want to exist
Not death. This isn't some suicidal cry for help or anything. I just don't want to exist. I want to sit outside of time and watch everybody I love live happy lives, and I want to be able to push them along the right paths to make sure that happens. I don't want to interfere with anybody else, I just want to watch people live and make mistakes and fall in love and whatever else…
God. I really don't want to exist. It's too much sometimes. The only time I don't feel like I exist is when I'm dancing. I know that sounds weird.
Ah. This suddenly strikes me as stupid.
afraid of men
I live in a latin american country and reading the news about what men do to women (random, their wives, gfs, daughters) has made very scared of them. I used to just find them gross but now it terrifies me to think of all the things they could do to myself or other women. I wish I could go back to just thinking they're pathetic instead of getting so anxious and tense my body starts to hurt whenever they get close to me.
kissing
going to be meeting up with my ldr boyfriend for the first time soon. i’ve never kissed anyone before and i’m so terrified to try in case he thinks i’m a bad kisser. help me cc!
Add
It has fucked up my life.
How to feel like part of something? People care for me and i care for them but there is no home
Happy Feels/Vent
Share the good things that have happened to you recently!
I randomly got a call for a job that I didn't apply for, but the job offer is my passion (cake decorating)! I went to the interview yesterday, and was hired immediately. The chef is a cool druggy gamer guy as are the other dudes in the kitchen, so now I'm gonna make a bunch of awesome cool nerdy friends! He really liked the cake I brought him and the work I did. The pay is more than I was expecting.
The only thing that makes me nervous is that he also wants me to work the line, which I've never done, but the place is classy so we're putting out beautiful food that I'm really proud of and even messing with molecular gastronomy, which I've wanted to get into for a very long time! I'm so excited to do my best.
I live in a single-mother family. My mom is a pathological liar and must have some kind of schizophrenia. She never really took care of me and always abused me a lot. That's why I lived with my grandpa. My grandpa died this year and basically, my whole fucking life fell apart. I have no one to call family I have no house to feel at home and when I see my friends with their perfect loving families I'm not jealous but I just have the urge to cry no idea why. My mom basically gives me 0 money that's why I gotta work to buy shampoo or basic stuff. The thing is that she throws tantrums or just straight up makes me leave the house extremely late hours because she's pissed with me for no reason then her personality changes and its like nothing happened. I can't communicate with her when I'm trying to talk to her she's never looking at me or just talks over me about whatever like I'm some kind of trash. I wanna rent and leave but I can't get a full time job because of uni and my part-time job can't even pay a month of rent let alone all my other needs.
I'm just going to kill myself at some point I guess. I can't handle this I miss my grandpa so much I miss having a family.
getting over breakups
tldr i was with him for over a year. we were eachothers first love and everything else and lived together. i recently moved back home and have cut off contact with him but just slipped up today. its been getting easier but now im crying my eyes out and feeling really terrible again. i regret contacting him but i was so curious.
i left because he was getting cruel and abusive and developing bad, bad habits. he changed so fast. he says he loves me and will never move on, but he never reaches out to me and isnt even trying to change. he hasnt even apologized for anything.
i keep having false hope. the worst part is i just feel useless. i feel not good enough to have made him want to treat me better, or i wasnt worth loving. it hurts a lot. i feel like a failure, like all of my dreams and hopes wont work out for me. i want to heal and be better and create things i can be proud of and move on and maybe make a name for myself online whatever. im just hurting a lot. i lost my best friend essentially and i wasnt good enough to treat well.
Why is it that women, especially pretty Stacy women, are cursed to have to date ugly moids?
Why is it common that you’ll see a 10/10 woman with a 2/10 man, but never the other way around? Stupid fucking men can be selective jerks and be picky about whatever woman they date, but pretty women have to date an ugly beast because “iT’s wHaT’s oN tHe InsiDE thAT cOuNtS”. It’s fucking bullshit and it makes me angry, just look at this pic for example (yes I know they’ve long broken up by now but still)
I HATE MEN
They are very gross.
Trying to harden myself
I'm sensitive to other peoples feelings and tend to form very strong bonds. However, my sensitivity makes me prioritize other peoples feelings over my own and the way I bond often leads to one sided loyalty.
I'm working on hardening myself. I've already started cutting out ALL unnecessary/painful people in my life. But it's hard.
There are people I'm attached to that are bad for me. At times it feels like I'm severing my own arm even when the hand is trying to strangle me.
How do you harden yourself, anons? How do you train yourself to go cold? I need it for the sake of my sanity. I can't keep loving everyone and seeing the best in people. It will be my downfall
vent thread
last thread was >>54448
i feel like shit and hate the world so much right now. my moid friend (one of my ONLY friends) is so dense yet seems to assume i dont know what im doing half the time. imma take a leisure walk and go to a convenience store to buy a diet coke. i will listen to a podcast and pick pretty leaves on the way. i think i cant be friends with men anymore for a while. imma focus on just women and myself and start lifting weights.
Changing your life
Anybody else wishes to have a fresh start?
While I was always very shy, I still had at least some friends in kindergarten and primary school.
Getting an ed when I was 13 ruined my life. I always felt inferior to other girls, my body was all I ever cared about. Over the years the number of my friends shrunk more and more, I started to become the "weird" one. I missed out on so many things because of it. While the other girls were busy dressing up, having fun and going out, I was even wearing sweatshirts during summer to hide my "disgusting fat". Later I fled to the internet, got interested in unusual things (kpop and vkei), meaning I spend even more time in my own world - on the internet.
Now I'm starting my 4th year of uni, I gained 70lbs, have close to zero friends and major social anxiety.
I just wish I could be like any other normal girl as well. Waking up without feeling miserable, having the energy to do a skin care and makeup routine (without being obsessive over it), eating something healthy, being confident enough to put on cute clothes and then go meet up with my friends. I don't want to be super popular, just have some girls to talk to, sometimes go out to eat or the cinema, etc. I'd love to overcome my weebness or at least also have interest in other, more normal stuff, so that I could talk about it openly without having to fear judgement(also, getting over the fact that I'm white and will never look like some asian waifu). I want to be able to enjoy food and exercise regularly without getting obsessive over it. I don't want to cry and panic every time exams are coming up, I just want to be more carefree and don't overthink every single little shit. I feel like I never really go to be a young person, simply doing stupid things, I was always already stuck up, acting much more mature - and that's why I don't fit in with others (not that I'm not trying to, I'm just always somehow perceived as unpleasant).
Yesterday I got so desperate about losing weight that I started browsing pro-ana sites again, that's how dumb I am. I tried starting a diet (of course I failed again and binged in the evening), but while I was sitting there and studying I thought to myself 'What if I succeed in losing weight and being disciplined enough to study? In the end I'll just be a skinny person who studies all day long, alone in her room, that's all that there is to my life.'
That one guy who called my calves "manly" which caused my ed and my addiction to the internet destroyed my life. In one week I'm already turning 23 (let's see if anybody of my friends remembers it and texts me), meanwhile I'm still sitting here like a slob, no hygiene, no sleep, with food being my only happiness.
Thoughts? Advice?
I hate it when people worry about me yet I want love
I just realized that I hate it when people I love worry about me. I hate it when they ask me if I am ok or they do nice things for me. Don't get me wrong, I hate it people treat me badly, but I just don't like it when people are worried about me or they try to forcebly help me out. One thing I do like though is when people are just more quiet and chill. I already read about love languages and attachment theory, but honestly I only end up becoming more overwhelmed. Can anyone help me?
embarrassment thread
share embarrassing stories & pictures here.
Did you do something embarrassing? Did another person give you secondhand embarrassment?
Dealing with obsessive and negative thoughts
How do you cope?
Have you managed to stop obsessing over things you can't change/should stay in the past, etc?
How to change?
Etc
Dopamine addiction
How do i increase willpower and focus?
Break ups
We just didn't mesh, he had so much wrong with him and honestly I just move on. If anything I'm not even interested in men, it's women… He was very femme and was always quite androgynous so we made it work. I worked myself into being able to get use to sexual stuff with him, to even get attached to it. But how do you even start, how do you move on. How are you girls coping. This lockdown had made new socializing and dating hard so how do you make it work. Kind of just lost here and feeling all over the place, any advice welcomed.
dealing with rejection
i confessed to a close male friend that i found him attractive while drunk and living with my abusive ex. im trying to heal and i asked him why he reject my comment and the friend said it was because i can be too unstable (while mentioning good qualities) and i mentioned it when drunk and living with my bf at the time which he didnt like. i feel like a piece of shit and burden. i miss my ex a lot but i was tired of the abuse and i didnt get out of it until recently. it took a long time for me. and then the friend i find attractive rejects me so i feel like im the issue…sorry nonnies im drunk and breaking down i know its pathetic. with the breakup and this my self esteem is really low and i dont know how to be independent and love myself im sorry. ive been on new meds which help balance my emotions but i guess im still not good enough because i get sensitive and needy
how can i free myself from being brainwashed and patriarch subscriber?
what helps you?
my top ten hobbies:
- being in a position where my head is upside down so all my blood flow to the head
- staring at myself in a mirror or phone camera
- waiting for time to pass
- walking around in circles
- banging my head with my fists
- talking to others in the psych ward and noticing i do not care i do not care about their most absurd of schizo stories because i do not care about anyhting
- take meds
- play battle tetris
- play mario kart
- listen to kanye wets ghost town
Social anxiety
It seems that according to a lot of posts, a lot of us deal with this stuff, so maybe a thread for trying to improve through it would be good!
>How bad is it/used to be? di anything in particular cause it?
>How do you deal with it in social situations?
>If you used to have it but managed to control it/surpass it, what helped you improve?
>Book/podcast recommendations that helped you
>etc
Anyone else here have one of those families that lets the men do nothing and expects you and your female relatives to do everything?
My family expects the women to cook, clean, do school and work, but men can just work and relax afterwards. My male relatives are fucking slobs but I get blamed when the house is dirty because I'm the "eldest female" and should just be able to keep up with my dad throwing garbage around the house 24/7. And then because I can clean better than anyone else it reaffirms their beliefs that women are naturally better at domestic matters, but I clean better because I was taught how whereas my dad and brother never were.
Romantic movies/anime/manga are lying to us
I'm so disappointed in myself for believing for so long to this bs romance entertainment media is selling to us. Human relationships don't work like that and now my perception is skewed.
(I know. I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed - I'm a sucker for romcoms)
lord why do i like being treated like a child
It drove me to creepy/annoying ddlg communities and the worst relationships. I don't know how some people romanticize being unable to create adult mature love instead of only enjoiyng being treated like a retard kid. Lord help me
How to develop a healthy attraction to males
I feel so lonely, and I know how much I want to have a partner, but because of this, I am wary of all contact I have with males. How can I develop a healthier view and approach with them?
I hate social media
The surface web is becoming more and more a unified clump of consciousness, everything is the same everywhere and everyone is the same.
You probably have noticed how everyone catches on trends around the same time as you and you'd think that you were one of the first ones but if you really go back you were just like everyone else, exposed to posts that you unconsciously picked up, even if you don't use social media most importantly TikTok and Twitter because they're echo-chambers you'd still find yourself in this cycle.
Quarantine had made me nostalgic for Vocaloid and J-fashion but no that wasn't my original thought, everyone else had the same thought even kids who never lived through that era, I'm seeing 13-16 year olds doing doll eye makeup with the fake waterline and with music I used to listen to when I was their age, I feel disappointed in my own self for being caught up in this but it doesn't stop here, the music I listen to, the images I like, the way I dress, hair… everything.
You'd think maybe it's a micro-community and you're surrounded by it so it's all you see but honestly no, I used to think the same until I saw people I knew IRL being into those, pop artists, millions and millions of views, random accounts I find by accident, so no it's not a micro-community. The reality of all of the (public) internet being mostly on social media create this hell of dystopia where everyone seems to be part of a hivemind, even myself, even people who think they're above all this and not use any form of social media aside from Discord and imageboards, they too are affected, and it will keep on getting worse as long as everyone from children to artists to politicians to seniors used the same social media and were all exposed to the same algorithm.
It's living hell when you are aware that none of your thoughts is original or unique, knowing that you only got this idea from Pinterest or youtube or somewhere else on the passing and your brain picked it up because of repetition, you and some random 10 year old are the same. This is also probably why communities aren't as strong as they used to be, not only nothing is unique or niche anymore but also everything got watered down to "aesthetics", nothing feels genuine or real anymore. we're all stuck in this collective consciousness that powers us to be consumers.
All I want is to enjoy something niche enough that I don't see kids discuss us, to have a connection with people who truly do enjoy this, and for it to last.
What antipsychotics do to a bitch
I don't fucking care that I have a good life with no responsibilities.
What point is that if I have no emotions or desires.
I just wish I had emotions, then I would care about things, feel comfortable, not feel bad constantly, and be able to improve myself and stop getting fatter.
But instead I care about nothing and make myself fat as fuck. I have no desires or wants, I want nothing, I hate every single thing about life, and I do not want to exist.
Do antidepressants work?
Also, i feel like adhd meds would work nicely on depression since they make your mind focused on something else than emotions. Am i correct or not?
A tornado ran through my town and basically played hop scotch with all of my relatives towns. I could see the tornado from my yard, as could my brother from his yard in the next town, and yet none of us got hurt. The way I feel now is so strange. All of my problems feel so insignificant now and I feel so much more awestruck by everything. Seeing a tornado circling my home is the closest thing I can imagine to how it would feel to see a deity. I looked up how people tend to be affected by surviving natural disasters, but it was mostly about PTSD from loved ones dying. Has anybody else experienced this? Is this normal?
I have now developed myself narcissistic personality disorder due to the need to hold on to something in this world with no objective meaning.
>tfw BPD
I have absolutely no sense of identity, any advice on how to gain one desu?
Hi, I am a 20 year old femcel (almost 21 years old). I met a pretty attractive guy (body 10/10 and face 5/10), he's interesting and I think he's a nice guy. He told me he wants to have sex with me and I really want to experience what it feels like to be in a man's arms, but I don't want my first time to be a casual relationship. I really like him, how can I make him ask me to be his girlfriend? He is 25 and he is not as cocky as other young men.
Anyone else here whos just never really had friends besides family members, feels completely disconnected from other people due to having a mind that works differently and sees neetdom as a favourable option. I just wanted a deeper meaning to life so that i could know that my input matters but apparently everything is subjective and you assign things their value. Given that im unable to see the same value in things people on average see, why cant i just live for myself instead of pretending theres a connection between me and others?
Rejection
I just got rejected from an aspie I've been crushing on for 2 years because he's "too busy with university to date". I've never confessed to anyone before and he was the first one I felt attracted to enough to make the leap. I am also autistic and this is hitting me real hard. I lost my last will to live and I feel as though I am dropping into a deep depression. He and I are both KHHV so I don't understand why he wouldn't want to date me. He even said I was attractive to him. It feels like god is playing with me. Every time I build my hopes up it comes crashing down. I am trying to hard to find happiness in things other than romance but my mind is set to the thought that starting a family is the point of living so nothing is working. I can't be happy for myself. I need love
This book is giving me feels. Maybe I should post on /media/ but the only book thread there is awful. Anyway this reminds me of In the Mood for Love, a movie that makes me cry just thinking about it. Every time a character says a name or looks at someone in this I experience a physical reaction so strong that I have to stop reading just to catch my breath. Last time I felt that way was with Swann's Way by Proust. I think books are the only way I get to experience emotions most people experience with their own lives. Anyone else knows this feel?
i miss my ex so much. everything feels so weird now. i've had to move back home and i feel so lonely and useless and unworthy. i dont think he will fix himself, and we still are in contact, its just so tough. i should probably get a job or something soon to fill my spare time, im just nervous. i try to fill my time with hobbies, but even that is becoming boring. i dont want to sleep or eat, im just hurting. it hurts not being held by him anymore. he was my first real relationship and im scared ill never have that again (i only would want him, anyway. but he treated me awfully most of the time).
it just sucks. i feel so alone. all of the time in the world to grow and accomplish my goals and im just spending it depressed playing vidya and too sad to motivate myself. i dont want to work but i should just to keep myself busy. ifeel so awful
Is this a toxic relationship?
A little bit of background, my boyfriend and I both recently got out of toxic environments. Me being put in situations where I constantly had to chase and crave for a person’s attention and validation, being made to feel worthless and all. I did took the time to heal and went for therapy and all. My boyfriend on the other hand was used to jumping from relationship to relationships as a mean of escape. He partied alot, drank and messed with alot of girls. Obviously, as he was used to those kind of situation, his behaviour wasn’t ideal but he wanted to change and prove himself.
A few months in, I find myself getting resentful as for me, he was just not capable of understanding basic human decency. I found his liking half-naked girls’ photo, which he apologised for and said he would stop, but he just continue doing it anyway. We planned a virtual date together and he flaked on them at least 3 of them, giving excuses which I am questioning whether they are lies or truth at this point. He would also curse at me casually during our conversations which hurts my feelings.
I was aware of his history of messing around yet, I didn’t know his behaviour goes this far as in the start, he was very sweet and kind. He still is, most of the times but I do end up feeling resent and disrespected. I kept pointing out those behaviours of his and he said that it really hurts his feelings and how hard it is to change. We fought about it. He apologised and asked for chances to prove himself saying he is trying to change and change is hard. He said he would appreciate it if I didn’t turn everything into an argument. In my head, I kinda feel like he isn’t ready to date.
He made it really clear that I do mean alot to him, says that I am important to him. But these little things are making me question everything. I do love him and other for those stupid arguments, we get along well. It is just that as we grow closer, the arguments are getting more and more often and it’s starting to feel like I am his rehab or something. Am I in another toxic relationship or should I give him some time?
My boyfriend of almost a year used tinder to get weed and said I was just projecting my insecurities onto these girls and that he wouldn’t cheat on me with a tinder bitch when he didn’t even tell them he was dating someone (said it’s normal for smokers to use tinder for just weed) . When I tried to say he was leading girls on he said he wasn’t. He only deleted when I agreed that I just didn’t want him to use tinder. Is this normal lol :’)
I want female friends who aren't woke or SJW. Who won't talk all the time about colonialism and transphobia. Who don't mind a bit of dark humor. Who don't BLM/ACAB their whole personality. I also would appreciate if she's into anime, literature, or videogames. Most girl I see online with "nerdy" hobbies seem to seek orbiters and not so much female friendship. Is there any way I can make online female friends who aren't pickme's, deranged, or SJW?
what are the best things about being an adult?
Being a fangirl as femcel cope
Any other femcels here who throw themselves into worshipping boybands as a distraction from loneliness?
I’ve realized this is a common cope for Asian femcels. The virginity rates in Japan are 25% for females aged 18-39. The beauty standards are so high and you have to be very thin (around 37-45kg is ideal) extra pretty & under 25 to really compete in the dating market there. Not to mention a lot of the guys are coomers married to their 2D waifus, and prostitution is everywhere in China, Korea and Japan. I feel really sad for East Asian women in this regard. So I can totally understand why they prefer to obsess over boy group members who represent the ideal boyfriend to them.
I’m 27 now and have been following boybands since 2007. I tried online dating for a while but each guy I met was awful or ended up ghosting me and I gave up and am now back to being fangirl. Yes some might say it’s kinda sad or pathetic for a woman my age but I really can’t see an alternative now. I really relate to these lonely single women, who have to resort to a fantasy ideal of a boyfriend. At least it’s fun. I’ve met a lot of really sweet female friends through concerts, and am considering staying in Japan or Korea on a work visa so I can attend more. If you are prone to maladaptive daydreaming and such anyway it’s a pretty good cope.
Any of you ladies ever be the first to approach a boy and ask him out? How did it go?
There's a cute boy that I work with and I have been giving him signs that I'm into him (Like biting my lip sometimes when speaking or listening to him.).
I'm not sure if he is just oblivious to my hints or if he plain doesn't like me. Should I just bite the bullet and ask him out first?
I worry I’ll never be ready to have kids
I’m 25, and quite a few of my peers are already mothers. The others talk of this desire to have kids that I just don’t have yet. I did always think I wanted children, and I’m scared of being an old lady with no one to visit me, but I can’t see myself ever wanting to give up living a (kind of) carefree inner city life, doing cool shit and hanging out. Does this change as you get older? Does anyone feel the same? I think maybe I’m just kind of selfish, I don’t really want to give up focusing on myself.
I cannot take my fiance's drinking anymore. He drinks almost every single day. I see him cross-eyed and stumbling more often than not. I've tried everything short of shelling out 14,000 dollars for rehab but I feel like he isn't trying at all and is in denial. He often gets defensive and tries to excuse everything when we discuss the drinking. Every time we're short on money I buy practically nothing to get by, but he'll spend our last 10 dollars on alcohol. I don't know what to fucking do, because if I leave him, it's just me and my deranged family. I'm in college right now and I feel stuck. I'm so fucking tired of it.
ଘ(੭ ^ __^)੭ hello, fellow miners!
- What is a ~~good person~~ in your opinion?
- Are you one? Be honest. If you're not, why? and does that bother you?
- How can someone become a good/better person? What steps do they have to take?
I'm trying to improve myself because I've been frustrated with some of my current ideas, behaviors and inner thoughts.
Dub/Reggae/ska General
Lets start this reggae feels thread with a little lee scratch perry
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ke6NVMfIhcI
https://youtu.be/S_aQpIRXB7Y?t=906
sister big stuff a classic anthem for all the women out there!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UaeRlWs_OFQ
couldnt figure out how to use the youtube direct link for posting more than a single URL, anyone know?
angels, how do i stop going on lolcow? i find i can spend a lot of my free time there (which is a lot currently) when im depressed or avoiding productivity. i dont engage or think any of it is nice but its really interesting and a way to just distract myself from using my brain. and i hate it. i know it isnt good but im not sure how to stop or replace it? i dont want to go on it at all. its so negative. will blocking the website help? i have an internet timer but i just bypass it.
So, I'm pregnant. Now I am a realistic person, and I understand the logical thing for me to do is abort so I don't sink the entire trajectory of both my life and that of the father, but I suddenly have serious reservations about it for very emotional and unrealistic reasons. I need some guidance.
To start with, the father is my best friend. We realised pretty early on we could never co-habitate peacefully, but we are extremely close and very compatible, leading to very sporadic sex. He's caring, supportive and respectful. He's also from a large, very close family and has years of experience raising kids from infancy to adulthood. He's filled to bursting with love, would make an excellent father and absolutely wants kids.
On the downside he's also a very well educated scientist at a very critical juncture in his career. To add onto that, I only last week encouraged a friend to pursue him romantically because they share so much common ground. I also know for a fact that if I told him I was pregnant, he would drop everything to provide for us. We would not make a happy couple actually living together, but he'd put himself through the torture for his baby.
Now for the weird fantastical thinking stuff - I feel like this is destiny. First, he was my first ever real friend who stuck by me during all my worst days. He helped me overcome my social anxiety, was there to scrape me off a park bench at 3AM after binge drinking, then helped me quit drinking and pushed me every day to succeed at uni. He's always been there for me and we've always shared this kind of sixth sense for each other, even though I don't believe in that kind of thing. Second, I'd only just finished debating having children one day, and confirmed it's what I want. Third, when we had sex it was the most romantic and rewarding sexual experience of my life - in a room overlooking the beach at midnight as a storm rolled in off the sea. Even though I absolutely do not believe in the supernatural, it's been screwing with my head that we conceived a child that's meant to be impossible as lightning struck around us - bringing me to my last point. I was told by 3 doctors that I would never conceive children. They were pretty emphatic about that fact and told me it could never happen, and yet this baby survived contraceptives and my inhospitable body to survive.
It's dumb, and I don't believe in it, but I can't help but feel like this baby is meant to be.
Anyone else feel like it's practically illegal to be an edgelord these days? I unabashedly love irreverent, dark shit and I feel like internet culture has done a complete 180 into overly soft goo these days.
Feels like my youth all over again- having to hide in the closet because I am a bit of an edgy retard. It's practically social suicide to be into dark humor these days if it isn't PC. I'm not a totally socially inept weirdo (hide it just fine.) but I freaking love dark themes. I feel like my entire personality in the public/online sphere is fake due to so much fear over being branded a pedo or a ____-phobe or a racist or some shit just because I happened to like some book or something that is "problematic."
Media and games are so weirdly soft these days- I feel like a complete fucking boomer staring a screen where a game is asking me what my "preferred pronouns" are, and warns me with a mile long trigger warning list that practically spoils any horror or adult themed stories. I pretty much only play old games these days, which sucks because women always get the short end of the stick in those due to pornsick moid devs. (I'm not a total stick in the mud, I do have standards.)
Tell me about your unrequited love. Can be platonic, romantic, etc.
I'm thinking of stopping giving a lot to one relationship that I don't think will bloom beyond a friendship due to her being very insecure to show affection back in the way I need. Kind of hard for me to get done though, so I'd like to read others thought processes through theirs and what it's like now for you (if it continued or ended).
>too much self hate to watch a movie with my husbando for coping purposes
How do I solve this ?I feel like even dreaming of a qt bf is delusional and that I don't deserve it and that my husbando would hate me if he new me
How do you deal with being sexually attracted to your friends?
idk if this should go to /nsfw/ but this shit keeps happening to me. i wish i was fwb with him but i'd never initiate smt like that, not to mention that it messes up the friendships… why cant we live in a everyone-has-sex-with-everyone type of happy society like that one monkey species?
Anyone else terrified of becoming exactly like their mother?
>narcissistic personality
>alcohol addiction
>mood stabilizers
I'm terrified
if it's true that this place is all radfems then i'm asking the wrong people… but, hi, how do i get along with normie women? i consider myself a normal woman… i just don't know how to make friends with people i'm not sleeping with anymore. sigh
When was the last time you fell in love anon? What was it like? How did it end?
How do I train my Autism away? My goals are to be able to enter a foreign environment and instantly feel connected to the people there. Like when taking a new job and instantly making friends with my coworkers like any normie woman is seemingly able to do without any problems.
I also don't want to stutter or stumble over my words like a retard. Have basic seduction skills, so I know what to do, when a guy approaches to talk to me. And also maybe some public speaking skills, so I don't embarrass myself, when trying to speak in front of a crowd. I might need that for my career at some point, who knows.
WHY DOES NO ONE LIKE ME TO BE MY FRIEND! I WANT TO FIX THIS!
vent thread
Last thread was >>51005
advice please?
so i finally did it. i made friends. im in a really sweet friend group of 5 other girls, but i’m super scared to fuck it up. it’s been 2 days and it’s going well, but that lingering thought of it all being temporary doesn't leave my mind. this is my path out of hikikomori-dom but i’m too scared to ruin it, so i stay quiet a lot even though that’s the opposite of what i should do if i want to make friends :/ i’ve been ignored for so long that it kinda all feels surreal now
i’ve been feeling so much better and now i walk home like a dumbass with a smile on my face
any advice to stop the autisms from fucking it up? thank u :)
comphet
Thoughts on comphet?
>Compulsory heterosexuality is the idea that heterosexuality is assumed and enforced by a patriarchal and heteronormative society.
Am I a Lesbian? Masterdoc
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1I6qGAzzibnRJFin_c8U2OBm0588M-V0NmfobQnRii44
tfw no infp gf
Anyone else here who only has male friends? In a different thread someone pondered what it would be like to stop all unnecessary contact with men and I replied that I would literally be friendless.
I want to know if anyone else in a similar situation feels like they are losing out on anything. I have always been a tomboy and I had to learn about makeup from youtube channels. I never had any girlfriends to do this with. During my teenage years I was also not treated like a girl by my guy friends. Which sometimes felt bad, when they excluded me from ever being someone they could feel attracted to, when they talked about girls. This only changed in my 20s, which was bad in another way, because it caused some drama and made me downsize my friend circle.
Yandere
Why do i keep fantasizing about people i'll never have. Everything hurts so much and i can't stop thinking about them. I know that im just obsessively infactuated and this wont last but i just want to risk it all for this one person.
friendless feels
the title says it all.
i ended up scrolling through the account of someone a few years younger than me and saw posts like pic related…just people (kids i guess) having fun with their friends and it made me sad because i never got to have that ):
can anyone relate?
also, general friendless anon thread.
opinions on emotional detachment from family
what are your experiences with choosing to have a purely financial relationship with your family?
My goal is to give my family a house and stuff with my work, but even though my parents are sweet and caring we arent really compatible, so i prefer not to show any affection. I spent years without talking to my brother while living on the same house, so i think i can stop talking to my parents as soon as I move out,while still supporting them and paying them back for all the money they spent on me
People testing your patience
What are your ultimate pet peeves?
>eating noises
>being loud, smacking surfaces, high-t behavior
>passive-aggressiveness
>spitting in the street
What are you guilty of?
>always late
>constant allergies = sniffle a lot
>smartass
I’m so tired of being ugly
Looking in the mirror has become a chore. Also, general ugliness vent thread
>mom and dad are arguing again
☽ paracosms
a thread to post about fantasies you have & general 'feels' you wish to experience. . . simply because i'm always interested in reading about people's daydreams! & i'm sure others feel the same way.
Is it true that all men are attracted to underage girls?
Every single guy I have e-dated ended up being into minors and jailbaits and I found evidence of it. The worst part is they all seemed like pretty nice normie guys on the outside, not stereotypical 4chan weirdos or discord groomers.
My boyfriend cussed me out and called me bitch for leaving my wallet at his parents house. No apology yet and there might not even be one. Maybe I deserved it. He said he wasn’t mad at me just disappointed. That adults (I’m 19 he’s 24) don’t just forget their wallet and go oops. That I should have told him the moment I forgot. I was in the middle of carrying something to his car so I just forgot. That I should have figured out a way to get it back the moment I forgot it and not wait till Friday cause I can’t drive and didn’t want to cause a fight with my mom simply asking her to take me to get it. I don’t know how to feel or anything. Been crying for over an hour now
I'll be having my first ever therapy session soon, it's gonna be online given the current circumstance.
I'm both excited and scared, I feel like I'm gonna benefit hugely from therapy because I've been doing nothing all day but engage in escapist behaviour, I've been falling behind in life for 3+ years and I have no one to talk to about it with, I'm scared of being judged and I'm almost certain it will be so hard for me to open up to the therapist but I know that it has to be done, honestly I'm terrified, the thought of talking about myself with no filter is terrifying but this has been a long time coming.
I've been trying to put my life back on track for the past year+ but with no luck, I always relapse and get worse but this week I did some big girl decisions and left myself no way of engaging in destructive behaviour and applied for therapy, I'm tired of being a living corpse, I forgot the last time I lived in the moment or felt a real connection to myself, I lost interest in everything I once enjoyed and I've become a shell of my former self I truly don't know what I believe in or what I like anymore, I'm completely and utterly lost.
Wish me luck anons, and share some tips on how to open up/what to expect if you've been in a similar place.
i think i just triggered my ed again i thought i was doing well becuase ive been eating atleast two meals everyday but i looked at myself long enough and now i know im gonna starve and restrict
i deserve it anyway im disgusting
how do you cope with your boyfriend's female friends.
Gaslighting
Gaslighting seems to be a really common tactic among men to use against women, especially ones who get angry and vent by taking it out on others. Men in my life regularly use manipulative tactics and lie to try and make me feel bad about myself or tell me that things that happen to me are deserved. My boyfriend constantly says edgy shit about women and upsets me and then just calls me sensitive. It happens on 4chan and even on this board. We're told we're crazy for finding certain behaviours and thoughts repulsive, and we're not allowed to criticise them. If we even try doing the same thing to them we get swamped by accusations of being 'crazy'. It's all too much. I'm sick of being painted as crazy or angry for trying to get people to give a shit about my feelings and understand me.
Anyone else have this problem?
Was I being used as time-killer?
I confessed of liking to a guy that is older than I am as I want to know where he are heading. He rejected me by saying that as of now, he doesn't find anyone sexually attractive and I should see him as a friendl
But I felt he deliberately led me on and wrote it off as being friendly. We have only known each other for a few months and he telling me that he loves me, he misses me etc. I put up a boundary saying I don't accept my friends saying those words to me and he agreed.
We also often go out for walks, dinners and lunches and text each other almost daily, which I understand might be platonic so, I let it be.
Soon, he started making lewd jokes often. I feel that my sex life isn't something I am comfortable telling about to a random friend whom I barely know nor should he be casually sharing about it to me.
He also joked about how r*pe is the solution to everything and he tends to overly sexualise whatever statements he can. I felt disgusted by him so, I ended the so called 'friendship' as I felt that collectively , his actions are considered as inappropriate as I repeat, HE said we are just friends.
Now he is complaining publicly that females always either fall for him or always complaining about his 'openness'. That none of them, females, can just be his friend.
I felt bad for abruptly ending the friendship as we did spend alot time before so I asked if the statement was about me and if he wants to talk about it? He just went "nope, not you".
Is it bad if I feel like he wanted to just use me for a boost of his ego and for his benefits, or is that so not the case?
I feel angry with myself for even confessing to him in the first place as rn, I really feel used.
Any advice to avoid feeling like this in the future or words of comfort is really appreciated.
Getting over a guy when you have low self esteem
To preface, I’m an extremely insecure person and tend to become obsessed with guys that make me feel inferior. I’m aware of it and try to act against this quality. I.e., avoiding interacting with said person, investing my energy towards my hobbies, focusing on school, etc. And yeah, I do realize that my feelings, beyond being a bit cringey, are also a bit dramatic and unimportant in the grand scheme of things.
Anyways–I fell really hard for a guy mainly out of attraction to his intelligence/wit. I’m not even sure if I can call it that. He’s just better at logic-oriented things and when he runs circles around me at topics that I’m passionate about, a weird mixture of attraction and envy emerges inside me, but is not really the type of person I would be attracted to otherwise. All that aside, he’s rejected my advances so far and for some reason it genuinely stings (yes I know I sound bitter). I thought it was bullshit to feel scathe just because someone rejects you, but I’ve never felt more inadequate in my life. It feels like every foundation of my self esteem is being hacked away by the lack of reciprocation. All the insecurities that I’ve collected through my life are compounded by this one dude, and he’s not even someone worth feeling slighted by. I’ve started obsessing over things I haven’t given a shit about in years, like my looks, relative intelligence, and race (???).
In the end, I’m not planning on confronting him about this. Yes, I realize this sounds like adolescent bullshit but the self awareness fuels me to want to get over it as quick as possible. Coming home and crying about the fact a guy doesn’t have feelings for you is the most pathetic thing, I hate how emotionally invested I am in someone who, quality-wise, is actually kind of shit. This isn’t said out of frustration, to clarify, I know I keep repeating that this person’s an asshole. He genuinely is: I thought he was irritating at the beginning of when we met (would express offensive, fringe ideologies out loud to people that he barely knew) and only really started to become close to him because we are partnered in class.
Like, I find myself rolling my eyes at the shit he says, he’s the dude you find scrolling his phone on 4chan in the middle of a social event, his personality is awful, so WHYTHE FUCK AM I ATTRACTED TO THIS DUDEplease if there’s any older femanons who understand what I’m going through–being attracted to someone you know you’re not actually attracted to because you’re touch starved and heavily reliant on social validation–some advice would help. I’ve also become sort of a pickme because of this whole thing, which I’m ashamed of the most.
hi there, I'm an awkward girl and always have been and in recent years I glowed up a lot and I'm with a wonderful boyfriend, things have been rocky between us recently and it's got me down about my appearance and my cuteness in general…. I'm very excitable about my interests which I used to be ashamed of but people seem to find that endearing and I get complimented a lot for being small and cute but I want to be cuter and find ways to make my boyfriend blush again after this rough patch…. what can I do anons? he shuts off during hard times and I want to make him weak for me again because that in itself is the cutest to me
….teach me the ways
Guy in a relationship "flirting" with me
Just wanna say that I usually just lurk on here and this is my first time ever actually posting something. I really fucking hope I'm not doing it wrong, I apologise if I am lmfao)
So there's this dude I know who's been in a relationship with this chick for 3 years now,he posts her a lot on his story and they generally seem very happy
We've only recently become friends and he's been showing a lot of interest in me. And by interest I mean constantly replying to my snapchat stories, constantly asking me personal questions, constantly trying to start a conversation. He's even called me a queen several times and joked about sexual shit with me, it's so strange. I'm definitely not in the wrong for thinking this is weird right? I think he's just super over friendly but it's still weird regardless, especially when you consider he's in a literal relationship.
English isn't my main language so please ignore if I made any errors
Bf is ignoring me because he’s going through some severe mental stuff right now. I know he still wants to be with me but it still feels awful. I don’t know what to do or how to live because I am so attached and obsessed, and I feel so horrible after he abandoned me. I love him but I think maybe this is an opportunity to break up even though I love him and work on the issues that make me so fearful of abandonment and so unable to be alone. What do you think I should do anons? I really do love him but I’m terrified of how much I care about him and I think maybe leaving him and focusing on myself would help me in the long run to manage my BPD and other issues.
Being lonely
i'm always lonely, i have social anxiety because i go bullied by subhumans in middle school. I just can't trust people, what if they call me ugly or stupid
I dont have anything and i wanna become something like a demigod because yolo you know
i have some talent in art but not really patience and enough shits given. im in a psych ward now and feel like is this really it? once i get out of here and the meds normalize me will i just get a job and educate myself and get a bf and thats it? all i wanted was something more
Had a dream last night that one of the bubbly and cute girls I sort of knew in HS flirted with me, we were walking down the halls and our arms kind of bumped into each other so she latched arms with me to be playful. Then she flirted with me and sort of suggested she was interested in me. And I was confident and casual when talking to her. Back then I believed I was straight. Urgh
Why does high school hang over people so much? Just want to leave that behind
lockdown rage thread
Share your anger about the virus or the lockdowns
Guys Approaching You
I just feel kinda undecided on this. I'd kinda like to at least be in the presence of a guy for a week or 2 somewhere like Uni class before they approach me for a relationship but even then its
awkward. What are the favourite types of guy approaches the femanons here like?
being alive hurts at this point
>do not enjoy anything i once used to
>neet , whenever i try to escape neetdom my brain disassociates too much to be functional , cant complete adult tasks such as studying
>asked my therapist for help, he isn't helpful , asked my mom to swich him she said i should stick with him
>he suggested i take antidepressants , i don't trust them they never helped me
>friends don't help, 4chan is misogynistic, reddit ignores my posts
everyday i just want to go to sleep because there is nothing to do when awake only feeling the pain of feeling trapped
Being needy
WHY WHY WHY do I have to be so goddamn needy? I hate it. Every time my boyfriend takes more than 0.05 seconds to respond, I get paranoid and I think he hates me and that I'm a stupid bitch. I hate feeling this way but I can't help it. How do I cope with my partner having stuff to do that isn't chatting with me?
I love large dogs, I even consider myself a dog person, but I hate those little yapping ones. Yap yap yap. My neighbor has one and it angrily yaps at me every time I leave or come home from work. I wish they would teach it not to bark at people who are just walking by, that is literally the bare minimum to being a respectable dog owner in an urban area. I would like to give that evolutionary failure a stout kick. Pic related is a based dog and a good boy, not a useless oversized rat.
I want to know what it's like to be loved.
Are you going on dates right now?
Are you touch starved?
If single, do you miss having a genuine connection with someone?
i’m getting obsessed with my ex bff
a few months ago a very close friend of mine decided to cut our friendship (the reason isn’t important for this post but if you must know; it was because i supported jk rowling and apparently that was too bigoted and terfy for her) we were friends for 6 years. i was a hurt and angry at first but i overcame it –at least i thought i did. last month i started to check up on her, stalking her instagram, twitter and goodreads. every time i see her reading a good, classical book i get unreasonably angry because she’s improving herself (i’m not a self concious person myself, and in the terms of success we were always equal but still) and every time i see her tweeting a self deprecation joke i feel victorious because she’s miserable and i’m not. i know these are not healthy and i should stop but i don’t think i want to
How do I know if I should stay with someone long-term? What are the important factors?
My exam is in a week and I'm very stressed
German exam, to be specific. I was watching a video about its speaking skill part and started crying 20 seconds into it. I can't do that, my German sucks and one week isn't enough at all. And I can't even study properly because every time I make a single mistake I become so stressed only thing I can think about is the exam.
happy things ^_^
a nice thread to talk about nice things
i recently got a date, I haven't had a proper dinner date in ages I can't wait, i'm gonna wear a cute dress and hopefully have a really nice night hehe
Parents have a favorite child and it's not me
I think parents overall tend to like their older child better than the younger one overall, and some of them also seem to prefere the male son too.
I'm both the female and the younger child here, and I always felt rejected by my parents. It doesn't help that he's indeed smarter than me and etc.
It's not like they've never sided with me or whatever, but I always felt that they gave more to him than to me. Now, that he's in his 30's and I'm almost there it's not that bad but I still know that when I visit them they would rather to see the face of my brother instead of mine. Does anyone feel the same?
What would you do if you had a boyfriend but you can't stop thinking about some other guy? I see myself having a future with my boyfriend, I don't wanna ruin everything but I can't get the other guy out of my mind.
long distance relationships
me and my bf of almost 2 years are going to be pretty much breaking up in 2 months. he is moving away and doesn't want to do a long distance relationship, but i do. im willing to make sacrifices to make things work. when he moves away he doesn't have any intention of dating because he kinda doesnt even like girls (not in the gay sense), he just thinks girls are dumb. i also have no intention of finding someone else because whenever i even think of doing the things ive done with him, to another guy, i get repulsed. im not fully an emotional wreck, but it rlly just sucks because we are in such a good spot. i was literally just thinking the other day how i love him so much and we have been doing really well. he wants to stay friends, and ofc i do too, but i dont want to just be his friend. i dont want to see him with other girls, having any interest in them the same way he does me. feelings of my breakup from a few years ago are resurfacing, and it sucks. my whole life is changing, and little things are setting me off. i dont want to go anywhere because i dont want things to continue progressing.
acne
my acne ruined any chance i had at looking average. it’s all over my body and face, i don’t even feel human when i look at myself anymore, i feel like i look diseased. my best friend has amazing skin and i feel almost embarrassed standing next to her.
>inb4 just wash your face/see a derma/eat healthy/try this random product etc
as if i haven’t tried all of that for years. i’ve had bad skin since i was a preteen and i’m on differin now. i saw some progress but i feel like i’m just stagnating. might just be bad genes since my family has skin issues too.
how do i come to accept myself like this? i hate putting on foundation because it just clogs my pores and my skin still looks bumpy underneath. i was going to post this in /hb/ but it just turned into a rant, so..
no love no life
>the only guy who has ever flirted with me is a fuccboi
I'm autistic but him larping "babe" with me has awakened this deep, void in me that yearns for love
>tfw he isn't serious
I told him that I liked him and he didn't respond when I asked if he would consider going out with me
>I'm so ugly and my voice is so deep and I'm old and I don't have any accomplishments
I'm so sad that I keep crying. I want to block him because he doesn't actually like me more than just a friend, but at the same time, he's the only person to have flirted with me. Why am I so pathetic
>why am I everyone's sister but noone's gf
NEET Feels and Vent General
Vent about being NEET and discuss your plans to escape neetdom, if applicable.
Gritty.
How to cope with extreme loneliness? I have zero (0) friends in real life because of my autism. I try to speak to people on the internet but they're always so rude and vulgar. I feel that the last friend I had was my brother but he is also very mentally ill now so I can't really approach him anymore.
Virgin Thread
I always feel so alone because it feels as though EVERY woman has had some sort of romantic, or sexual experience. And here I am with nothing, a pathetic adult female KHHV. I feel so alone and as though my time is running out. My goal isn't to lose my virginity, but find someone who loves me.
Letting go of childhood toys
What did you do with your childhood toys as you grew up and moved away?
I'm no contact with my parents but my sister told me that I need to come back and clear out all my toys saved at my parent's house. I've been trying to find a way to decide which ones to keep and which ones to let go of.
I live abroad so I can only take a handful of them home with me, though I think I might feel a bit silly doing that since I haven't looked at them in years. I know they're not real but I feel guilty at the thought of having to pick which ones to keep and which ones to go onto a fate unknown, especially for ones part of collections.
I didn't have many friends growing up so I think I was maybe more attached to them than other kids. My parents pressured me to let them get rid of some before and I still feel bad about it.
Slowly you come to realise
You can't change the world. You can only change yourself. Judging other human beings is the path to self-destruction.
I dont particularly see myself as an ugly woman, maybe something like a 6 or 7 (makeup), Other than that I'm also a 20yo KHHV
So, while i was walking back to my dorm after class this cute guy (i'd give him a 6.5 or 7) comes upto me and says "Hey i think youre cute so i thought I'd come talk to you"
I didnt know how to react to this , no one has ever said this to me let alone approaching me out of nowhere, I didn't know how to react ,i said thanks and kept walking but now i cant stop thinking about our marriage and the babies we would have together
and now i'm beating myself over for not continuing to talk to him and what could have led to something
How would you feel if some 6 or 7/10 guy came upto you and called you cute ? What was your experience ?
Vent thread
Last thread was >>49241
do you like traumacore?
Advice about friend
I have a best friend and he was sending me some emojis and nothing else. After I didn’t reply to his fourth emoji, the chat ended. I later told him not to initiate chats with me unless he wants to have a conversation. I haven’t heard from him in four days. We usually chat everyday. I don’t want to contact him first. Is it over?
Social dissatisfaction
I feel like I'm invisible. Nobody cares about the subject matters I talk about. Nobody sees me. Everybody dismisses me or makes fun of the shit I talk about.
Even if it's subtle, it's noticeable. Most prominently with men (as always). It's due to a shitty social circle, but I'm fucking trapped. Caged in. Feels great when you're trying to talk about something you're passionate about and all you get in return is some stupid dismissive thing by replacing some words with stupid shit like "bruh".
This sounds like a dumbass boomer rant, but I'm so fucking tired of this irony culture and detachment from the world everyone has built up. I'm tired of the alienation. I'm tired of being dismissed as eccentric.
Even my female friends just joke about shit, because "xD mental illness". Like sure it was funny to say that liking some shit too much is a mental illness initially, but when you just use it to dismiss what I'm trying to talk to you about, it gets to me. Just tell me you don't care.
I don't want to fall into some sort of stupid "I'm not like the others" mentality. I'm tired of being a social reject. I'm tired of being a foreigner.
Making friends online is hard for me. I am too paranoid.
I'm so lost. My motivation to do anything is gone. I don't see the point in learning anything anymore.
I want to isolate. Rip it all apart. I don't like anybody. I don't feel an attachment to the material. Everything is cold.
What do I even do?
I have taken the easy way out and have decided that collectively hating people as a whole can help me avoid the pain of ostracization and inevitably being hurt by people.
I am autistic and I have incredibly low social intelligence. I can't be able to pick up the most miniscule social cues. I can't read faces and I can't judge what people are thinking by their facial expression alone. That's why I always end up being outcasted. A person can seem so nice to me one day but then by the next day they're at a distance with a group of friends pointing at me and laughing.
I can't take it anymore and it just makes me want to crawl into a dark space and rot there for the rest of my life.
Neurotypical people have it so easy. They can pick up those damned social cues navigate through life with no trouble.
Unable to care for pets
Is anyone else just unable to properly care for their pets? I ended up giving my cat away to my parents because I just couldn't handle feeding her and changing the litter box. I feel like I don't have enough empathy or something to understand why I NEED to do it. One of my pets that I got only a few weeks ago died (it was a bug) and I feel so horrible. It was really rare and I tried to feed it and give it water but I just couldn't do it.
I have friends with a lot of pets who get so much joy from caring for them and spoil them .. why can't that be me?
College/Uni feels
Share the good, the bad, and hell of pursuing a degree. Whether it be living in a dorm with a horrible roommate, classes kicking your ass, or something happening relating to school that has filled you with joy.
Can it just stay winter all year long? I hate the heat, it makes my head hurt. The bugs and ticks come out. I have to have my air conditioning on and it makes it hard to hear my music or stuff I'm watching without turning it up loud enough to annoy my neighbors. It is hard to sleep and I get restless. Why does anyone enjoy this garbage time of year
kms
what do u do when the only thing you look forward is killing yourself?
everything else is just painful to think about, suicidal thoughts are my only comfort.
Dating general
Continuing from >>>29416
How do I become a nomad? I hate my life and need to get away. I thought about suicide for a long time but I realize what I really want is to be happy. What is the best way? Is there a nomadic job I could get? Do I save money and buy an RV?
Seducing guys as a fat girl
Any advice? Even when I'm asking them out they seem to be unsure or just plain not wanting to go out on dates
The strength of men scares me
I am a caddy for my part time job (best job for an unskilled highschooler or university student btw). There is this cute guy there I have a crush on, but he seems quite shy and just likes to read his book while waiting for a golfer. The few times we’ve talked he seems quite pleasant.
I’ve always known men were stronger than us, but it’s another thing to see it in person. I’ve noticed that when he caddies, he carries the entire golf bag with one arm by the handle up and out to his side, kind of like the pose when flexing your bicep, and he fucking SPRINTS with it. He runs ahead on each hole to see where the ball lands, and he runs significantly faster than the golf carts.
He doesn’t even look like some sort of muscle beast from /fit/. He’s just a tall, thin, toned guy who might lift a few times a week. He could probably kill me with a single punch, and then follow up with 80 more without running out of breath. I would probably have a panic attack if we got in an argument and he got angry and started shouting. I don’t even know how you could have an equal relationship with someone when the difference in power is so immense. They say it’s borderline rape when a CEO fucks an intern due to the difference in power, but what about physical power?
I was already a little afraid of men’s predatory instincts and behavior, but to see it reinforced that whenever I’m around men I’m only alive because they permit it freaks me out. How do you cope with this?
Cant fucking sleep
For weeks now I can't stay asleep. I went to my doctor but she gave me some bullshit about it being my meds when I hadn't changed my meds and after adjusting them the way she wanted it still didn't help. I changed literally nothing about my life, I moved my tv out of my room and am taking melatonin. I still go on my phone before bed but 1) that's my alarm 2) who fucking doesn't? I used to fall asleep to the tv and sleep through the night. Help girls.. I'm going crazy.
Birthday Thread
Are your birthdays sad and lonely? Are they happy and with friends? In this thread we tell how we spend our birthdays.
I'm half mexican half white but i have a goblin black-tier nose and tan skin. I was thinking about getting a nose job and bleaching my skin after i lose some weight
Pic related is the ideal look I'm going for, I kind of feel guilty for wanting this. Does this mean I have internalized racism? or does it mean I just want to be more attractive.. idk
Friend groups
I have friends, but I don't have any friend group.
I haven't since the first year of uni, and even then, it wasn't really serious.
Here I always see people talking about their friend groups, like they'e hanging out in packs. it seems really wieird to me, since I hang out with 2 friends at the same time at most, except during parties.
Most of my friends have divergent interests, mindsets, political opinions, or are in bad terms.
Am I the only one in that situation ? Is it weird ? How do you get along with so many people at once ?
How do you deal with potential drama in friend groups ? I'm asking because most people in their 20s I know have had their friend groups collapse because of petty drama.
How to handle Tumblr/Twitterflakes in friend circles?
I miss my old friend and I want to talk to her more but she hangs out only with her FGO friend circle which is…Rather a questionable one. It has only two types of people:
- People who genuinely believe in millions of Tumblr-created, made up sexualities and shit like unicorn gender, because they think that English-speaking internet is cool and elite.
- Fujos or FGO coomers. I remember one of them tried asking me to have a threesome with him and the other girl.
The thing is, I am highly desperate for a friend circle or a group that speaks my native language (because I started forgetting it) and I just miss my friend, even though we don't speak too much anymore. The reasoning why we barely speak is because the first type of people made her feel convinced that she can use her Bipolar Syndrome as an excuse for anything she does. They also encouraged her dropping out of her university and sitting on her mother's neck at home, they all are convinced that they will become rich off drawing on the internet. It honestly hurts me how she tries ruining her life, but there's nothing much I can do. I still miss her.
I do not know if I really should trying getting into her circle because I can't stand tumblrflakes if they are super radical about their shit (I do not give a fuck if someone labels themselves as anything, but when they convince people and brainwash them onto their ideologies and put labels onto everything, I can't stand it) but I do not know where else to go and I'd feel more comfortable being around someone I know.
Has it happened to you?
I can't take being fat anymore. I gained about 40 pounds a few years ago, was already overweight before. I hate living like this. I'm so disgusted with myself. My body doesn't feel like my own, I look in the mirror and I see something that doesn't look like me. I want to lose about 60 pounds and it feels fucking impossible. I want to hide from everyone. I feel like the only people who will love me are sick fetishists. I've been trying for 2 years straight and I've only lost 10 pounds. I'm starting to believe that keeping weight off is actually impossible like all the studies say.
Sorry this is a ramble, I just hate being in this body and I can't take it anymore. How can I lose weight? Does anyone else struggle with this? I don't want an eating disorder, if I gave it up I'd just gain back more.
My absolute best internet friend of 5 years has semi-regular panic attacks because of their shit living conditions, and I don't know the proper way to make them feel even slightly better since i've never had a panic attack myself.
So to those who have them, what could someone do to make you feel better?
I've never been good at consoling people in a way that doesn't sound fake or condesending to my own ears, but i'm willing to try almost anything to help him since he's done so much for me.
You will never have a bf
>who doesn't watch porn
>who doesn't have at least some harmful fetishes like anal or worse
>who takes brushing his teeth and hygiene seriously
>who has goals in life
>and who has the basic discipline to work on them
>who has the finances to support a potential family
>who is emotionally available
>who will take an active interest in you and actively plans things for your relationship
>and who is taller than you, at least somewhat handsome and has a healthy body and lifestyle
Never ever!
interracial/interculture dating
whats the consensus on dating brown boys /feels/ ?
this south asian guy started working with me recently and we get along pretty well. pic unrelated hes cute and i was thinking of asking him out
have any of you anons been with a south asian before? i know im generalising, he grew up here but im worried there might still be a lot of culture clash. what am i getting into?
Misunderstood Him Asking Me Out
There is this guy I've been talking to casually at work (very recent) and out of the blue, he asked me if I wanted to hang out with him. I dodged the question. We chatted for a while and I forgot to reply to him and apparently he was waiting for me and he's like so how are you going to make it up to me? He would also constantly reply to every single status of mine.
I felt like he was being flirtaous and I thought he was asking me out for a date or something earlier and I said "I barely know you. It's too fast. Maybe somewhen in the future?". He then was visibly confused and asked me back "wtf, what? You must be mistaken. I didn't mean it in that way,".
It's something small but I feel really embarrassed. It kinda reinforce the idea that no one really wants me as I do have a history of toxic dating and very few confessions from guys.
Any advice or words of comfort would be appreciated.
How do I subtly get people to do this for me?
Goals
Do you have goals? Everyone I know has these "goals" they must achieve in their lives before a certain age, while I don't even understand the rationale behind it. I mean, I'm content with watch life just passing by and do things as they come.
Weird relationship
I’ve never been comfortable with my nudity because of my prime intimate relationship bc dude used me. And so it was hard for me to open up to anyone until last summer when I had my first time. We were really close to each other and I got attached. In January he broke up with me but we still have contact. However, it’s really toxic. I think I just still can’t get over the fact that he doesn’t love me anymore and the only solution my stupid brain sees is that he magically loves me again. We’re arguing almost everyday, sometimes I make anger him just like that. My behavior is more fucked up day after day. Since the breakup I’m so numb and I can’t say to move on. What should I do with him? Is it even rational to keep in touch after breakup?
long term bf failing school
I have no clue what to do. I’m with my boyfriend of several years who is now failing academically. Hasn’t shown up to class since the first day in August. He was in a severe depression, and by the time he snapped out of it, he re entered when seeing how much there was to catch up on. He hasn’t done hardly one assignment. He’s planning on dropping out even though he graduates in one more year and I have no idea what to do with him. We’ve been together since we were teenagers and I’m getting so much secondhand stress. I love him so much but I don’t know how he’s going to get a job if he can’t graduate, let alone hold one down and actually manage to make a career with stable income. We’ve seriously discussed marriage after graduation and I have tried everything in my power to help him. He just isn’t receptive whatsoever. Every time he’s motivated again he loses it and gets very angry at the thought of even being expected to do school. He talks about killing himself if he has to do school, which is always an empty threat. (He is a devout Christian and suicide is deeply antithetical to his views.)
I know I sound presumptuous saying he won’t kill himself, etc, but I’ve been in this situation since August and know it better than I can describe. What the fuck do I do? My hair is falling out. He constantly compares himself to me even though I’m barely keeping my grades together now. He is really considering dropping out and being homeless after committing to me for years, committing to himself, and saying he wants to marry me. What the fuck do I do????
im such a weirdo but this girl i have admired on tumblr for maybe 4 years (i have kind of followed up on her life on and off as i used tumblr a bit) her boyfriend has followed me and been liking my posts and interacting with me and i feel so honored! i know its quite dorky but the boyfriend of girl i look up to finds me cool enough to speak to? so lovely.
ITT all of us who wasted their lives because we didn't think we'd survive our twenties anyway and are now trapped in a hollow existence where our supposed "best years" are gone and it feels too late to start over so we're just trekking on until we either die or realize we could have turned things around 10 years ago if we started around the time we posted in this thread
Sister thread: >>>/feels/36
I'll start:
>30
>shit childhood
>academically promising but ADHD and mental health went unchecked because of my insane family situation
>only job experience is entry level shit, only worked for 3-4 years total
>never learned social skills, can't blend in
>didn't pay anything into retirement fund as you're required to in my country
>never thought i'd live past 25 (not just because I'm a depressed loser but also because of physical illness) and now deal with daily existential crises about my age and lack of potential
I don't want to sound like some normie but I really regret not getting better job prospects so that even in the time I wasn't able to work due to illness I could have at least had passive income.
I have intimacy issues and can't make a relationship work for longer than 2.5 years, I just shield myself off and get cold.
art feel
idk if it is because i am depressed but my already bad art is getting somehow worse ,which since drawing is the only thing i like doing (i wish i could become an illustrator)is making me suicidal
You can’t be a femcel if you have a normal spine.
has ANYONE here cured their autism? And how? thank xoxo
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Do any of you have good males in your lives that aren't family or partners? Like just friends. I'm a little frustrated because I've only had one guy who didn't try to make a move on me and he was good to me.
Hello guys, there has been something strange happening to me that kinda left me friendless.
I can't bare being with my "friends", I used to have a normie friends group that we used to go to parties like every Friday and stuff. It was my only female group, it consisted my "best friend" and 2 more girls. Once we stopped going to parties (quarantine and I got a boyfriend and honestly I never was a party person I was just going for the girls) we kinda drifted apart some drama happened now and there and when I go out with them I feel uncomfortable like there's a cold feeling I can't describe. We never really shared anything. I'm like okay I'll just talk to my other friends that kinda like anime and are the same with me. Sameish cold feeling??? Wtf what is wrong with me I feel like everyone is cold and I have a very weird uncomfortable feeling I can't describe. I just want some female friends that are kinda like me watch anime, play games and I know most of you if not all of you are like that and having you guys as my friends would really help me but we can't share our contact info and it's such a lost potential of many great friendships…
How to cope with aging?
Trouble making friends
Anyone else has trouble finding friends, in real life and online?
I want a female friend, I truly do, but I find myself unable to. My politicals views, in all honestly, a turn off for most women. I'm not a BLM/ACAB SJW type of girl, and I'm not the "right" type of feminist (oh no, she's a terf.)
I don't use social media, nor do I go to the the places where you could find women around my age (clubs/pubs, sports teams, college.) Which leaves me the online world as my only option to find female friends. I'm not in fandoms and I don't use social media. I tried going on 4chan, and other male-dominated spaces (not the smartest choice if what you want is finding a girl friend, an actual adult female.)
Where should I go? What should I do? Should I hide my views? My hobbies include literature and art which are, on my opinion, feminine hobbies. Is there any female community with people who share those interests I'm not aware of?
anyone else hearing from colleges rn? + happy news
After getting rejected/waitlisted from all the colleges I applied to, I got accepted into the last college I was hearing from. Yes, I know this is kind of indicative of poor decision making on my part, but honestly, I’ve never felt more relieved in my life.
i just started my first day of fulltime work at a factory its temporary i plan to quit at the middle or end of summer but god its terrible and strict and i get one small break and cant listen to music while i work but i just want some money so i will suck it up until i can do online classes again
ive signed up to therapy after experiencing assault, i'm sceptical about wherever it will work or not but it is my final option really, can someone with experience please tell me what to expect? honestly i just want a hug
After-Death Plans
What do you want to happen after you die? Do you want to be embalmed or not? Cremated? What do you want your funeral and burial to be like?
B&J’s
Before the crying is done, you have to pick one.
I choose New York Super Fudge Chunk, paired with a Bergman film.
anyone else?
Post a question to ask if anyone else feels the same way.
MNE: Is anyone else generally a bitch off of CC because they just think of others as normalfags and do not really care abut their bullshit in general?
I know this is wrong but I cannot really empathize with normalfags I do not wish ill on them I just cannot care about their problems but when I read a Cafe poster share about some problem even if minor it hits me emotionally.
i just want to kill myself at this point. my boyfriend is always belittling me, yelling at me, and making me cry. he only loves me on his time. i got my period last night and woke up today feeling sick and dizzy and asked him to help and he said he isnt a doctor and started yelling at me which made me bawl crying. he said im an annoying childish bitch and should go to the hospital and he said im gaslighting him and started mocking me and recording me…but i just feel like having a break down because of how he treats me. i told him the way he treats me makes me suicidal because i just want it to end and i told his mother if she knew what i can do, meds or what not, because my boyfriend isnt being helpful (she lives near us and helps often) but the. quickly told her nevermind that i need to just go home to get away from this.
he says i shouldnt have involved her and i know i shouldnt have but i dont know who else to tell or talk to. i have nobody and whenever he acts changed or like he loves me this happens again. i have no family here and i start a new job monday and no way to support myself. i dont want to just abandon the job or my kittens and im so lost. is killing myself the only way out? or is it my fault and i just should leave for good to rid him of me? ive tried to be a good girlfriend. i clean, take care of our pets, buy him things he needs when hes tight with money, etc. but i dont know what ive done to deserve this. i dont mean to be sensitive but im feeling really ill and i just asked if he could help me or get me medicine. i feel like im at a breaking point and want to kill myself just to escape this. but then i guess that makes me crazy or something. i just want to be happy but how can icfucking do that please im just so sick of this i just wanted medicine and a hug or kiss
Every single one of you is Beautiful
Yeah. Even you
In your life there is at least 5 people who care about you.
Talk to men, get active in hobbies, and take care of yourselves. Drink plenty of water. I want to see every single one of you succeed. You can do it. I know you can. You know it, too.
Godspeed, anons. We're all gonna make it.
living with STD
Around 3 months ago I caught genital herpes, and my mental health has just deteriorated. I'm legitimately terrified of dying alone.
Anyone else in the same boat? Coping tips? Whatever??
Can we have a wholesome thread?
Post memes, stories, anything uplifting. <3
/asdgen/ - Autism Spectrum Disorder general
How many cafe goers are on the spectrum? Autism presents itself differently in women and is heavily underdiagnosed and/or misdiagnosed among women. Share your experiences, thoughts, or feelings about your experience with autism in this general.
I am a literal autist, I was diagnosed with it by two separate pediatricians. Most people treat me like dog shit because they can tell that something is off about me, so to higher-functioning spergs or those who have known spergs: how do I make being a sperglady less obvious?
I'm a flat-chested girl and i hate hucows!!
stupid questions
is it possible to be bipolar with ‘low’ mania or is that just standard depression?
is this a valid fear or am i overreacting ?
at middle school one of my bullies would whenever i wore a skirt grab and "raise" it behind my back .
i now want to start wearing middle length skirts again(with short legging underneath) but i am afraid of getting sexually harassed
is this a valid fear or am i overreacting ?
for context i live in a eastern eu non slavic country, and in a part of town where mostly foreigners/immigrants stay but have never been harassed/catcalled there
feels webm thread?
I romanticize being fucked up/mentally ill so much it's going to kill me.
Why do I want to be like that? I know it's a painful existence and I know I would be suffering if I were like that. I know when I finally go back to dorming it will all go downhill. I want to be fucked. I want someone to have a reason to care. I feel so boring. So bored. I know I can't control myself.
Does anyone else feel this way? Why? please don't JUST flame me in the replies here.
He’s showing signs but I don’t know
So there is this guy in college who is really cute and he’s actually pretty sweet and I think I’m falling for him.
We met at the library because he sat at the same table as me, and he start the conversation and we just talked about life and what we did before college and stuff, I gave him my number and we started just hanging out in the library often or facetime.
Now the thing is he is on our colleges basketball team (D1) so I highly doubt that I am the only girl that he is taking to. I’ve never dated before. Should I just go for it and tell him my feelings? I really don’t know
There's something wrong with me
Just found out about BPD and I'm terrified how it just explains why I am the way I am to the t. Coincidentally enough I was about to seek out for therapy for the first time in my life. If my soon to be therapist dares to imply that I have it I'm gonna fucking kill myself.
>Also just realized that that sounds so fucking borderline haha haha wtf…
Wearing your heart on your sleeve
Is it better to hide your emotions/feeling or let them all out? (I mean not to cry in front of other people, hiding your hate or dislike towards some people etc.) I know it depends on the situation, but what do you think in general? Is it worth the relief of being open or is it foolish?
About to have a breakdown
i touch myself thinking about spoiling my boyfriend with romantic gestures.
is this weird
LDR general & feels
Let's talk about long distance relationships and share our current feels!
To get it started, here are a few questions to pick from:
>How long have you been dating? If you're single, since when have you had feelings for the other person?
>Did you meet IRL or online?
>How long did you know each other for before you started dating?
>Did you enter an official (between the two of you) romantic relationship before or after meeting IRL?
>How did you confess?
>If you met online, how was the first meeting?
>How far apart do you live?
>How often can you see each other?
>How do you communicate? (chatting, calling, video)
>How much or how often do you communicate?
>Can you recommend any apps or websites for LDR couples?
>How do you feel about your sex life when you're apart?
>Are you monogamous? Do you have exceptions?
>How happy are you in your current relationship?
>What are your plans for the future?
Vent
What's the point of telling a therapist about my childhood rape?
What's the point when it happened, nobody stopped it and the damage is done. What's the purpose of me telling some stranger that doesn't know me or care about me about my childhood? They could careless, humans are instinctively narcissistic and selfish. Why would my therapist even care about something that happened to me a long time ago??? How can anyone else care when my own family didn't?
How would anyone else bother caring when my own parents didn't? The world and myself are a huge disappointment What is my therapist going to do for me to "make it all better"?
It's sad when you know nothing and nobody can fix you (me) This is the realization I knew I would come to if I were to seek therapy. I can't be helped, I should just drink myself to death like I've been begging to do
How do you stop being stuck in the past? I'm ready to move on with my life but I don't know how.
Last night I dreamt of my crush. I was sitting in a restaurant and they just walked in; then I immediately woke up in the middle of the night.
I want to get a boob job
I also want to get a surgery to increase my height because I am 4' 11'', I cannot have tall and handsome boyfriends.
Am being ignored by my friend after her stream.
I Somehow caught covid and have been laying in bed while having anxiety attacks. It's hard to move at all.
Soul crushed after my LDR bf (almost) broke up with me. He broke up because I lied few times that I'll fly to visit him but never did. I was also really insecure and constantly was asking if he really likes me. Now he found some girl in real life and he's really happy with her. I'm still shut-in loser.
It's been a year and I still can't move on
What to do?
how do i stop being a pussy and live the life i wish for?
>just turned 20
>cant drive (only permit)
>moved in with bf across country in summer
>neet (but waiting to hear back about interview)
>chubby (gained some weight)
i feel so pathetic. all i do lately is spend my days cuddling with my bf (he works nights) and even my hobbies have been hard to indulge in. while im hoping the job i should get pulls me out of the rut, i worry it would make me worse since its fulltime factory stuff (and with past experience i know it can be soulsucking…) i plan to attend college in the fall but fuck i dont know.
all i have right now are my goals. i used to envision myself with an online shop and small internet following…posting art, doing so many things every day.
im not suicidal and i want to do these things but i hold myself back. i feel like im not good enough and i just repeat the cycle of being overwhelmed and making no progress. i want to make my dreams come true, i dont want to be stuck at some pathetic job. ive considered onlyfans or something. i just keep seeing so much social media of happy unique girls, seeing people put out more than i do in the world.
all because im too overwhelmed and insecure to do it. i dont know where to start or how to plan it. i just dont want to be a failure.
How to stop being love deprived.
My mom never really showed me love. My parents are divorced and growing up I didn't really talk to my father. (We just started being kinda close recently). The fact is that I'm just searching for love too much and all my friends are from a good growing-up place and I don't want them to feel overwhelmed by my need for love.
They're treating me very nice and I'm super lucky to have them but I guess it's just not enough.
How do I stop being love deprived, needy and be normal?
i found a secret i can eat whatever i want and drunk a fuckton of alcohol and if i feel bad i just throw it up
Pretty sure my friend hates me now.
It feels like nothing I do will ever be good enough. I've already given up my soul.
Anyone ever done onlyfans stuff? Is it better than having normal jobs
Best advice for getting yourself unstuck?
>20
>works 40 hrs a week at a shitty job only making $10 an hour
>can't afford a car. only recently got permit & since i'm under 21 I have to wait til june to be able to drive legally anyways
>lives with mom
I know it's becoming more common (at least I assume) to stay at home longer than just leaving the nest at 18, but as more and more time progresses I feel like I'm stuck and can't ever leave. I barely make enough for the rent my mom makes me pay, plus the internet & other bills. Just feels like anytime I catch up I'm right back where I started the next month. Idk this is turning into more of a vent post than an advice post, but if you're in a similar situation or have gotten out of one I'd love to hear how you did it.
body focused repetitive behavior
any others here who have this? I hate it.
I basically have had a compulsion to pick at/rip off my fingernails since I was little. I pick at my skin a little bit but it's mostly the nails.
most of my nails right now are literally 2/3 gone. at my worst I was able to pick at them until there was actually no nail left. none. it sounds insane but it's normal to me.
it's like an itch that never goes away, and it's worse when I'm nervous. people have noticed and ask why I do it and it's like…i just have to. I don't want to do this. I would stop if I could.
Is it wacky if i think i have simultaneusly both add, bipolar and bpd heh
>cant stop thinking about ed thoughts again
kill me also i aint recovering until i get to a 17 or lower bmi
what's the dumbest thing a s/o has gotten jealous about?
>ill go first
bf got mad I was streaming & looking at /cm/ and called this random character I knew nothing about hot
Advice Needed
I have a knack for keeping toxic friends but I am working more on it thus, I am here for comfirmation if what I am doing is right.
I am recently friends with this guy, let's call him A. Out of blue, he starts putting space between us and when I directly ask him like "hey, are you okay? I've noticed we haven't been communicating as much," he just told me that he likes to sleep and I should go meditate. This happened for about a month, him just giving curt answers as such whenever I reach out. Once, I asked him if he is okay and he called me emotional for being concerned about him. The thing that makes me confused is that now, he is acting all friendly like everything is fine.
I struggled with abusive relationship and tho I am out of it, I tend to still talk about my abuser from time to time. Last time I spoke to him, he made a remark under his breath saying "not this guy, again,". That made me feel hurt and ashamed.
Other than that, I'll say he is a pretty nice friend. We have similar interests and I could ask him from help. I kinda felt like it is basic human decency to not act as such, so should those issues be addressed or would it be right for me to just drop him?
No family
Does anyone else have no family? I’m no contact with my parents, very low contact with my sister, never met anyone on my dad’s side, and only met my mum’s family a few times (the last being at a funeral 10 years ago) as she’s estranged from her family, meaning I am too by extension.
I’m always jealous of people who have cousins, they seem like built in friends. I can’t imagine how nice it must be to have grandparents or aunts and uncles that you can visit and bond with. My parents didn’t even have any family friends to substitute as aunties and uncles.
Not only that, but everyone always just assumes you have a family and that you get on. I’m often stuck between lying or making things uncomfortable by trying to explain.
It also feels like I have no safety net in life. I don’t have any close friends (and can’t make any for various reasons) so if I broke up with my bf I’d be completely alone in the world.
Story time
>Be me
>One of the lonely gfd anons
>Work full time at a family owned donut shop
>Gather all the unbought pastries at the end of the workday to transport to a nearby homeless shelter
>Begin walking with them outside
>Hear someone whistling what I think is Claire De Lune
>See a thin boy, looks around 19
>He has pretty green eyes and gorgeous orange fluffy hair with light streaks of blonde sprinkled about his cute little curled ends that go down all the way to the center of his chest
>He's 5'4''
>I put my hands to my mouth and let out, to say the very least, a not at all subtle gasp
>Drop all my pasted beauties in the process
>Create the kind of abstract art piece that would make Pollock proud, all over the sidewalk
>shit.jpg
lonely
when im obligated to spend time with other girls (doesn't happen often but sometimes it comes up) i end up leaving feeling worse about myself. a part of me wishes i was like them because everything just comes so easily for them and i'm jealous but at the same time i hate them for being so stupid and so shallow. i often freeze up around them because i don't know what they're talking about and i end up saying responses that don't make sense. even just stupid things like the way i hold my fork or order a drink weirdly or they try to lend something to me but i don't want it and they keep insisting and i say no over and over and then finally im weird or offensive cuz i don't want to borrow a movie or sweater. they tease me and it's always "in good spirit" or they're "joking" and i always try to laugh like it doesn't hurt me because i don't want to give them the validation that they can do that. but it does hurt a lot and makes me feel like i'm broken or something. im under the microscope when im around them and dont know why because they act more retarded than me all the time they're just "loud" about it or something idk. when i'm honest with them i offend them and because they're people i'm sometimes obligated to spend periods of time with so instead i end up just keeping all my thoughts inside and laugh when i feel humiliated. it's all tik tok and doja cat and "love island" that doesn't even matter and i feel so stupid all the time next to them because i don't know anything about it. i am afraid of men and haven't felt a deep irl connection with anyone ever. maybe once but that's all. im so fake around ppl and let people walk over me all the time when, i am afraid to be back in public now because i've experienced life not faking it and i can't go back to being around them regularly even if it's rare.
I found out recently that my niece was sexually abused by a female friend of hers.
How could I approach her on this? Is it my place to do so?
Intrusive thoughts
Does anyone else struggle with thoughts they don't want to have? In my experience, when I have fragile things in my hands, I sometimes start thinking about how awful it'd be if I dropped them. Then I start to feel guilty and anxious, as if it actually happened. I have an overactive imagination in the worst possible way.
There are also times when I get mental flashbacks to shock images, and they put me off whatever I'm doing until I can make them fade out. I feel like I have some kind of sadistic NSA agent in my brain that likes to flip switches to make me suffer. Please tell me I'm not alone.
anons i have no idea what to do. i'm supposed to start college this year after taking a year long gap year. but i really don't want to go to college, i don't want to spend time in college for so long since with my career path i have to go to grad school. but i don't want to let down my family since i'd be the first of my maternal grandmother's grandchildren children to actually go to college. i also don't want to be poor. i was considering becoming a flight attendant. i'm still definitely going for school for now but do any of you have any good job recommendations or just some motivation to stay college thanks
Why is roleplaying and fanfiction weird but fanart isn't?
If you write a story about Harry Potter becomes the president of the united states, or roleplay it, you're some freak. If you draw the same thing it's suddenly funny and interesting. Why are people so dismissive of writing as an artform just because it involves someone else's characters?
I swear if you collaborated on a fan comic and it was drawn well, you could show it to everybody, but again, writing and roleplaying is just dismissed.
Got ghosted by my only close friend
Haven't been able to do much besides lay in bed and cry.
How did you guys cope with losing friends?
i been playing shovel knight and its just so hard and not relaxing but i have to finish it because i had ASD even though im having a break down trying to beat it
basically what happened is im on the last level/area the castle and i just finished beating the first section
then i jump while swinging my shovel because im raging and i discover you can smash the check point globes to gain crystals!
wow lucky me and angry me i thought! i should have known this earlier in the game i missed so much gold! so i rage! then i go on and die
well then i find out if you smash the globes you dont go back to them when you die you start all the way back to the beginning
i raged so hard i went on instincts and tried to bite my wireless controllers cable like i did in the old days of gaming and bit my tongue so hard it started bleeding
then i just laid in bed screaming into my pillow alternating crying and laughing at my life until now
How to figure out what you truly want
Recently my ex has come back into my life and wants to get back together with me and I’m not sure if that’s what I want. All my friends say it’s a terrible idea and my family said they’d support whatever I want, but I don’t really know what it is that I want. I feel like I split my feelings into two sides of myself and it’s so confusing and overwhelming. I just wish someone could answer for me so I wouldn’t have to deal with it anymore. It also doesn’t help that I’m still hopelessly in love with them and feel like I won’t get anyone better than them in the future. Really sucks
Guys please help me…
After quarantine and getting a boyfriend I can't handle being with most of my friends anymore. I dunno why. I'm fine with being with my best friends (1 is a guy and 1 is a girl) who I talk to multiple times a day but when I go outside with other people I feel this really uncomfortable and cold feeling. I tried ignoring it, blaming my problem on quarantine but it's not getting any better. Everyone feels so cold for some reason, everyone moves out of people so fast for some reason, everyone is so cold to one another, I feel so bad it's fucking messing with my head. I used to really not care how other people lived their life but now if they're somehow different and more edgy than me I just don't want them to be on my life, I hate this since when did I become so picky. Normies freak me out and I don't even want to talk to them, Edgy e-girls make me sick, Stacies are making me uncomfortable and insecure about my relationship, grown-ups are making me feel despair (I'm 19). Why is this fucking happening?
Vent thread
last thread was >>46828
Anyone feels sadness and feelings in general too much?
I feel sadness in my stomach so much it's so painful I don't know what to do…
I just started feeling feelings like a year or two and every month my feelings keep being more extreme.
I'm so tired of this pain in my stomach everyday.
Advice for someone looking into dating other girls
I've gone on a date recently with another girl, she's adorable and we have a good amount in common and I can see myself dating her. But I have no idea what the protocol or how exactly courting a girl would work, I'm also really worried that we'll eventually reach some hurdle that a girl/girl couple would struggle to get over. I'm also really worried that when you're dating a woman and you're walking home at night you won't be as safe with another woman than you would be a man, I like this girl but I really am worried of the difficulties that may arise from it.
Coming out
Me and another girl are on the cusp of going out, when we finally start dating I don't want to have to hide my relationship with her from my mum if we end up being together long term
How should I come out to my mum? She would likely be a bit surprised as I've only dated guys before but I think she'd be accepting for the most part
I'm worried she'll ask me questions about when I realised and stuff and I don't really want to talk about that or make things awkward, what should I do?
>My biggest crush turns out to be vegan
I keep falling further in love with him as usual.
Does anyone else, every once in a while, just go on 4chan and give way too much information about yourself and bait the men there into insulting you? It's addicting, I adore it and hate at the same time.
Especially I like letting them know I'm a woman, a vulnerable and insecure girl, which in most ways, I am. But it makes them take it to a whole other level of distain and hatred for my existence.
I've heard some psychologists (who should not be trusted btw) call this sort of behavior "digital self harm" wherein someone uses a stock account to abuse themselves on social media, or more common in people with neurology developed beyond the degree of a 13 year old, where people deliberately seek out communities they know will degrade them.
But it doesn't feel like self harm. I used to actually self harm and I don't know, it felt a lot more similar to a poisonous version of the emotional release I get from impact play during sex (although obviously not erotic and more steeped in sadness).
It feels like I'm being proven right. I honestly can't tell how I look, but I generally operate under the assumption I'm a 4-5/10 in terms of appearance. Most people are average, it seems like a fair assumption. But I would much rather be right about my ugliness than wrong about my attractiveness. I would prefer being proven right to almost any alternative.
These spirals of external self-loathing are confirmations of safety I think.
Thoughts?
Miners, how bad should I feel about being an asshole to people/overly-judgemental in my head? I'm kind of a jerk, and I can't keep myself from calling others "retards" and "faggots" and nitpicking every little thing they do if they displease me. I am easily displeased.
My only saving grace is that I tend to keep my venting anonymous – here or LC, or /r9k/, or random forum accounts that get ditched within the month.
What are your thoughts on non-monogamous dating?
hi friends. im really scared to work a shit minimum wage job again and i have extreme anxiety. i have an interview tomorrow and want to chicken out because i feel like 3 full days of work for less than 200 a week is such bullshit…
im not one for sex work but due to my anxiety and the fact that i dont want to slave around, should i do something more private like sell panties or feet pictures? how can i make money online? im skilled with crafts but that all takes time to sell and im scared nobody will purchase (i sew and make bug shadowboxes (mostly butterflies). can ptsd and anxiety get me disability…
running away
The title is a bit of an exaggeration, but I want to move out of my parents' home.
For context, I am over 18. My parents pressured me to take a degree that I didn't want. I did my best but I ended up failing and getting expelled still because it was a degree I wasn't suited for.
Because of being expelled I'm currently a NEET and I just want to not be one. Our home life is dysfunctional and I really just want out.
Even if I don't move away I at least want to get a job so I can spend all-day working instead of being at home.
I want to get a job and move out preferably but I feel overwhelmed, I don't know where to start.
Another thing is I can't really move freely because my folks are helicopter parents. Honestly I resent them a little for being so overprotective that I lack street smarts and turned into whatever "this" is. But that was then, it's not too late for me to learn and fix that now.
Our home has CCTV cameras too so I have no idea how I can even get a job that requires me to go outside.
TL;DR: I want to get a job and move out of our toxic home, but I have no idea how to concretely go about it.
Stalking/cyberstalking/harassment victims
Have you ever been a target of stalking or harassment (on the internet or IRL)? Considering our environment I would guess many of us have had at least some experience with this.
I hope it's okay to make this thread, I saw some related to the subject but not the exactly the same.
I'm feeling guilty because my crush (and also friend) sent me a text during a psychotic episode that was kind of embarrassing for them understandably. They just apologized for a bunch of meaningless things like running into me whilst they were travelling or not holding a door open for me. And now I can't find myself attracted to him anymore. Should I feel bad? I don't know.
Anon, why haven't you killed yourself yet? Genuine question, what's stopping you from ending it all?
I can't find any will to live anymore.
separatism with super best friend
Hey anons
sorry if this is schizo or dumb it’s 4 am when i usually sleep at 12am and i just was thinking about having a relatable significant other that’s a retarded robot and getting through life together with her, losing our magical autism powers and growing old and living for each other
When are you supposed to start feeling like a real adult?? What do I have to do?
collecting dolls
I am 22 and want to start collecting dolls like barbies and what not. They are beautiful and think it'd be fun to have. I just feel like a child for wanting to do this and know society would shame me for this. Should I say f society and go through with it?
Lockdown Isolation Coping
It's been 10 months of lockdown, and it's really getting to me. I'd stopped taking classes January 2020 because I had just lost my scholarship, and so I was pretty much locked in the house all that time. I was able to finally get a part-time job last October. However, I don't think that's enough, the isolation is getting to me. Group chats aren't enough replacement for face-to-face interaction with human beings, and so that's why I'm losing my mind. How do you get your socialization in safely? I'm worried I'm going to snap.
So, since Friday whenever I was in class I started not being able to breathe correctly and my heart rate would increase then after some minutes it would be unbearable and I was forced to leave.
That's a panic attack right? First time having it.
Now the thing is that I've never been that anxious or afraid of anything and I was super chill in class. This happened all of the sudden.
Anyone can help or relate?
Explain why you think your life is a mess right now.
Infertility, pregnancy, and health complications
This thread might not be relevant to a lot of you, or it may sound silly and stupid. I just really needed to talk. Shrinks just don’t cut it, this post will be long.
I am a small young woman. From birth I have had congenital abnormalities related to heritable genetic defects, and always known in the back of my mind that fertility, genetics, and labor would have complications.
I am not technically infertile, but I am fully grown and 4’7 with 71 pounds on my body. The malnourishment has been attempted to be treated since I was born with failure to thrive. I have skeletal dysplasia and underwent invasive surgeries to reconstruct my hands and left arm. I have had T3-L3 of my spine fused. I am waiting on surgery for my hips. I have a connective tissue disorder and Holt-Oram syndrome. I will not divulge further because it will get too lengthy. Doctors have repeatedly given me the long talk about genetics, and my own health for pregnancy and labor. At my size, a premature caesarian would be non-negotiable, I am at risk of tubal pregnancy, and I am at risk of amniotic rupture and uterine prolapse. I would be required to go on bed rest at 4-6 months of gestation with monitoring. This poses a risk to myself, the child, my husband’s psyche, and our finances. The child is at high risk of inheriting several autosomal dominant genetic disorders. I have them mild. The child would be severely afflicted in comparison to myself, on top of being premature.
From youth, I have loved children. I am the youngest child in my family, but I volunteered with a family member at a local church to provide care with a week-long Bible study in the summers, catered to children ages 4-6. I was around fourteen at this time, and since then, I have wanted to go into childcare. I want to teach grade school children.
Childless women are not trusted among their peers, who have begun to have children of their own. Women always, whether right or wrong, distrust a childless woman’s skill with children. More so that I have no little siblings, or cousins. I will never be accepted among peers in that way, and I will be a quiet bystander in discussions of how my friends children’s are going up, how they grow from starry eyed children to untamable adolescents, and then to young adults. I don’t think I will be accepted as a whole woman. A woman’s identity is deeply engrained with her maternal profile, and I will never be able to have it. I don’t want to be pitied— I don’t want for my friends, who are to become mothers, to pity me and always stay hush hush around me when children come up. I don’t want to make people uncomfortable.
I have a wonderful boyfriend who intends to make me his wife. He is my blessing. I know in many ways, he craves to be a father, even if he hasn’t really considered it in the way I have. He is a delightful young man with a clean bill of health and a big heart. He would be a fantastic dad.
Children are still in the future for us, without a doubt. They are not something we are prepared for or ready for, but we are still in the position to think about it. And as much as I feel like a monster for it, I just don’t know if I could financially support such a sickly little child as well as they deserve, and still cope with their suffering and pain, and find the time to reserve with their medical appointments and whatnot. It was a massive, massive strain on my parents just with me. Financially they struggled so much, they entered debt and my father worked long hours to foot the medical bills. My mother and father had to find the time, exhausted as they were, to bring me to innumerable appointments with surgeons and specialists and expensive tests.
I also don’t know how my body would handle the pregnancy. My doctors put their noggins together and spoke with me directly. Chances of genetic inheritance, chances of infant and mother’s mortality, chances of disability for myself post-pregnancy. The outlook is not good. My husband would love me regardless of how I am, he would work to help me where I couldn’t and he would sacrifice so much for me. But how could I do that to him, truly? How could I put him through that, with myself out of the game and my child sickly too? What if I passed away? I discussed this with him and the thought seemed to make him sick. For this and this alone, I know I absolutely cannot subject him to that.
Women and men in my family are a little old fashioned. They still continue to say, “well, you may change your mind…!” and look all expectant at me, as if they just know I won’t be able to resist having a child. Even after my numerous explanations of why I can’t have a kid, despite being fertile. They just can’t wrap their heads around it. They don’t understand, and they don’t understand how their prodding hurts me.
Or, they say, “well, you never know how genetic medical science will come im X years!” Well, in X years, I will be in my late twenties and thirties. I can’t afford that time for several reasons, and it also poses a big ethical dilemma for me. It weighs how much I want to mother a child, versus my own view and thoughts on genetic editing. I am religious and it does not really hold up well for me. This is even if it will be safe and available and legal then— and again, affordable. The child would also have to cope with knowing they are engineered this way. I don’t know what that could do to them. And there’s still my own mortality that comes into play.
I don’t know how antinatalists will like my desire to mother my own children. I would happily adopt a child, and love them like they are my own skin, flesh, and blood. I would do it without hesitation and complaint. But I cannot deny my desire to have the experience so many women take for granted. Women who don’t give a single fuck about their children can pop out nine and not even provide them a bed to sleep in. They won’t take them to the dentist. Their children are an afterthought to them. I would love to nurture, protect, and love these children as my own. But there’s still just… the desire. I want a product of my husband and mine’s love, I want to see his eyes in them and know this is his greatest gift to me. I just. It’s so hard. I can’t describe it at all.
I seem very whiny, and I know this entire vent is me feeling sorry for myself. It’s just so much to process. I just want to have a family to love— a husband and a child to love, like my mother never loved her husband, and like my mother never loved me. I know a perfect mother doesn’t exist. But desperately, desperately I want to love a family of my own. I mourn the loss of the children I never had. And I don’t know if this guilt for my own body being too fucked to have kids will ever go away. I don’t know if the longing and pain will go.
I’m blessed in so many ways. I’ll just process this sting on my own. If you listened, thank you.
irrational anxiety disorder
I am afraid of snails and slugs. I'm not sure why exactly and I am ashamed to tell my therapist about it. Anyone know such feelings? How do you deal with it?
Alcohol abuse
Anybody else struggle with alcohol abuse? I've had some really awful messy nights out at clubs or parties and drank a ton by myself, I'm really embarrassed by a lot of the things I've done.The worst thing I've realized is that it hurts the people I love and that some people avoid me because of it. I'm going to make an effort to put an end to this but I have so much regret and shame from things that have already happened.
morals and pride
Do you ever feel like that your sense of right and wrong is the only thing that keeps you in line?
I've had some lesbian experience with a friend of mine (let's call her Dolly) while I was single. Now I'm with my boyfriend (long-distance relationship) and there is still this sexual tension between her and I and it's unbearable. We often chat about lewd stuff and she would describe how she's masturbating in those moments and taking pictures of herself. Of course I decline Dolly's offers and joke around to distract… but the mere thought of her makes me shiver. My sense of dignity keeps me from sexting with her. I'm kind of proud for keeping her off, but I still feel like a slut. Because deep down I probably am. It's not like I'd even want Dolly for myself alone. I would be fine with my boyfriend pounding her while I hold her hand. But it's all too risky, my love for him is stronger than lust. God, someone with more guts would block Dolly…
You don't have to give me any advice, but I'm interested in your stories in regards to moral dilemmas. Storytime :)
Hedonism
Lets talk about it. Are you capable of stoicism or dependent on comfortableness and immediate pleasure?
If you're conventionally unattractive, men will try to manipulate you. They seek girls with low self-esteem, build them up and dump them. This goes especially for the low-tier "virgin" men. Don't fall for their bullshit.
Feels about pets
This thread goes out the anon in the vent thread that lost her cat and recently adopted a different one. I know there's already an animal general thread in /b/ but I think this thread would be more suited for feels inducing stories and vents. I have many stories about cats and kittens to tell and I know there are anons that must have things to share about other animals too.
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- (Why) do guys…
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What's your favorite thing to do when you're drunk and alone?
The answers I find on Google are male-oriented.
in need of advice/
don't be mean, it's the last thing i need rn
i got in an online relationship w/ someone. she saw me irl my face caked with makeup a long time ago (long enough that she'd have forgotten what i look like) and i'm incapable of sending pics of myself n facetiming. recently it's been getting to me more and more, we're not able to have a normal relationship because i refuse to do this stuff that's expected of everyone and she lives in the usa n can't visit.
i'm ugly and i know she'd not be attracted to me if she knew what my face truly looked like. i know i should show her my face cuz i've been misleading her but i literally can't. it makes me fucking sick to take pictures and look at myself and i can't have her tell me she's not attracted to me, it would destroy me and my self esteem is already in the gutter.
so i feel like i have no choice but to end this but i don't know how to do this and i'm scared of losing her. this is my first ever romantic experience, i know it was dumb asf to get into this but i craved love and companionship more than anything else. look where it's gotten me
i have no friends or family around me. she's the only person i have in my life
>tfw I just want to be the gf of a couple that's already together
>I want the man and woman to fall in love with me together
>I want them to both snuggle me at night and love me
>I want to be a sex toy for them individually and together
>I just want to be the cherished 3rd wheel in a relationship
It's not fair.
Is there a name for when you discover something traumatic happened to you in the past, but you didn’t know it was wrong when it was happening to you?
How to make friends?
I have a hard time making friends with others both online and irl. Does anyone have advice in how to make friends and be likable and sociable?
>24 year old
>no BF
>tfw
I thought there was no such a thing as Womcel, what is happening with me?
comfort media
What kind of games/shows does cc use to relax and unwind? Harvest moon and Ghibli movies are a pretty relaxing way to spend an afternoon.
Motivation
If I am not pursuing someone romantically I have no desire to maintain my physical looks. I will do basic hygiene/maintenance but other than that I will stop putting effort into my appearance. I will wear my hair in an ugly bun everyday and stop wearing makeup. What are other ways I can be motivated to upkeep myself ?
There was a friend I met from lcf's Discord that I knew briefly. We had a falling out after a few weeks but I still listen to this song she showed me.
Hello, fam.
Lately I find myself in a loophole of anger.
I have this habit of making a post or comment on social media and getting an inevitable hateful reply that makes me angry, so angry to the point where I want to reach into the screen and brutally beat up the person on the other end. And even though I know the next time I'll post a comment, I'm gonna feel that exact same way and get so angry to a point where it makes me sick again, I just can't stop.
It's like I'm on a treadmill effect of anger, is this healthy?
It's not even partial to one social media platform, it's all of them. Reddit, YouTube, instagram etc.
I leave a comment with my opinion that goes against the grain of what people want and I get hate for it and then I get into pages long arguments with them that only leave me feeling angry and unsatisfied, like my anger could only be quelled if I met the actual person in real life who is saying shit to me and I could just beat them bloody and senseless until they couldn't get up from the ground.
Is this healthy to do and to constantly make myself feel this way?
Copycat
Are you a copycat? Have you ever stolen aspects of another girl's personality, interests or fashion sense on purpose to be more like them?
If I told anyone this in real life, they'd probably think I was bizarre, but i want to get it off my chest. To be honest most of my personality now and my likes and dislikes and interests were stolen from a girl who's blog I used to read 3-4 years ago. She wasn't anyone e-famous but I just stumbled across her and somehow I became obsessed. I cyberstalked her all over the internet and I started listening to every band she posted about, watching every movie, posting things with the same sense of humor and going over her selfies for aesthetic details every time she posted them so I could try my best to copy her style. I've never spoken to her openly but I used to send her all sorts of anon messages so I could find out things about her to better emulate them. Eventually I stopped stalking her accounts as much and lost track of her online profiles as she would change names a lot. Recently I checked back to find she was completely different now, and in my opinion much less interesting. I'm still basically a reflection of her from 4 years ago, and I'm fairly comfortable with it all still even though it sounds quite creepy when I type it out. Most people who know me now weren't really around in my life 4 years ago, and they have no idea that almost everything about me is copied from some random girl online i've never even properly spoken to. I still use some of her dead aliases as screen names (don't worry, only as nicknames on places she would never be able to see or be disturbed by if she did find me). Am I alone in this? is anyone else this creepy?
Has anyone here had emotional numbness from antipsychotics and got their emotions back once you switched to different antipsychotics? Is it possible?
What if the antipsychotic i wanted to go on was one from years ago that didnt mess with my emotions?
Would it still work? or not?
How do I cope?
How do I cope with being an unstable mess? I'm paranoide, see and hear things that aren't even there and have terrible moodswings.
I honestly feel like someone just scrambled every mental defect in a blender and injected it straight into my dna.
I'm so terrified of being alone, which I am. But also feel so guilty for whoever would be with me because I'd become such a giant burden.
Vent thread
Last thread was >>45059 vent your worries and frustrations
My bf has started seeming like he is depressed for the last few months. He said he is sad, hates himself, feels disgusting, and has for the last year or so. He seldom hugs or kisses me anymore and never wants to do anything. He doesn't even seem to like it much when I do it.
Not only that, but if I ask him to pick something for dinner he says "I don't know". He can't even pick an ingredient. Apart from washing the dishes everyday and buying what I tell him to, he doesn't do any housework. I study full time, work almost full time, and now it feels like I have to take on the entire household, especially the mental load. He only works full time.
It's not just that he is sad but mean too. He also complains we don't have sex but twice told me sex was boring so I'm not interested anymore. Having so much mental load is a turn off too.
He manages to work ok and is normal when talking to other people, though that doesn't happen much. It's only me he is depressed around.
I know it sounds like we should just break up, but I don't have anywhere else to live, especially with corona. I don't get on with my family and I don't think flights are even open here yet if I did want to go back to my country. I don't speak the local language so I can't just find a local place to stay.
I kinda just want to stop trying and ignore him but that feels more lonely than if I were alone. Being constantly rejected is awful too.
I really don't know what to do. I'm not a fan of therapy (it feels like there is a third person in the relationship) or anti-depressants (they don't solve the problem, just make the feelings go away) so I don't want to recommend that he tries them.
I never really posted on here, just lurked but I am desperate enough to finally ask for some help and advice.
I have been e-dating a boy (i hate LDRs but he is really special and we are meeting soon and I actually wanna spend my life with him), I love him and he says he loves me. Kind of awhile ago I found a post he made about his ex where he mentions her tits and he says he misses them. She has big tits, and of course, I don’t. I really wanted to feel better and asked him about it and he admitted he does miss big tits and that he prefers them.
I have never been insecure about my tits before but this just destroyed me. I feel so undesirable and ugly and I feel embarrassed that I even had the audacity to show him my tits or send him nudes. I feel gross. He does not even care, he just gets mad at me for being upset about this. I don’t what to do or how to feel better I keep thinking about it, I am literally turning brain dead. Talking to him was unironically the only thing that made me feel better since I dropped out of school and don’t really leave my room anymore. The worst part is that I found his ex’s social media and she is very pretty and of course has giant tits. Not like big or medium, literally giant. Even if I tried to get big tits, they could definitely not get that big, I am too skinny. How do I feel better?
Dating General
I didn't know if there was one or if you ladies care. So I made one anyway.
Dating General is for asking questions and or advice, sharing experiences, telling stories and so on
how do you get over being obsessed with a guy you are not in love with?
i get butterflies whe he is nice to me and want to cuddle and suck his dick but i dont like him and his charachter,would never see us together
(maybe its because he gave me attention and now im attatched?)
cant sleep cause thinking of himm,or think of much else other than him wtf
I feel so frustrated. I've been losing weight for a few months and my start weight was quite heavy, im at a middle ground right now and I was proud of my progress. A guy i kinda know called me fat yesterday, it feels like all of this isn't worth it. I feel so foolish for convincing myself i look better with this weight loss but im still seen as fat. Nothing i do will ever be enough.
Hikki/NEET Diaries
I wanted to make a thread to blogpost about being a Hikikiomori or a NEET, mainly to be able to talk about how you're progressing and to help with accountability.
I've tried journalling for a long time but I always fall off because it feels pointless to write long pages to myself that no one will ever read.
Post ITT: How your day has been, woes of being a neet/hikki, things you've achieved lately, your fears, and goals.
>Hate this shithole website
>Loathe it with every fiber of my being.
>See absolutely no redeeming qualities for it
Why are people still using this site? In 2020?
If Google had just simply allowed YouTube to keep their upvote/downvote comment section system, I can bank on it that this shithole site wouldn’t even have lasted and it would have simply died and gone underway.
But no. YouTube had to develop retarded policies. And now the only place we have left on the internet with an upvote downvote system is Cuckdit, the land of the circle-jerking white knights and Karma pointed narcissistic cunts.
People shouldn’t have to rely on Reddit for a true objective opinion. It’s no where near as good as how 2005 YouTube comments section used to be.
There is no way to get an objective opinion on Reddit without too many variables affecting the replies. The sheer narcissism of mods and their bots to do the work they’re too lazy to do. You have to jump through hoops just to post a simple fucking thread.
>Post a thread
>Gets deleted
>yOu dIdNt AdD A fLaIr
>Tries again
>Gets deleted
>yOu NeEd tO rEpLy tO tHiS bOt
And the comments. Don’t even get me started on the comments.
Unless you post the most generic, banal superficial comment that emits you have a vapid personality just like the rest of the flock there, you’ll be shunned away and never have your opinion heard. They just want the same regurgitated shit said over and over again, then people shill out Karma points to them because they’re “lel so original” and they receive asspats and praise because they’re the hundredth person to post the same shit saying “Orange Man Bad” just to get 4,000 upvotes and a Gold medal.
This place is where the waste of humanity come to suck each other’s dicks and pet each other’s egos.
Pretty Girls Make Me Sad
I feel depressed and inadequate when I see pretty girls.
Being on the internet is especially hard with the constant surplus and bombardment of beautiful women selling themselves or selling a product.
Xmas gifts help thread
I know this is the most basic bitch question this time of the year, but I wish I could find my bf something nice n thoughtful for Christmas. Anyone in a similar situation with partners or family members, feel free to ask for gift suggestions and advice ITT! I would love to try and help, and maybe there are anons around with that magical gift sense who can solve all our problems.
Like many guys, my bf is tricky to find the perfect gift for because 1) he just gets everything that improves his life right away, and 2) his hobbies don't require equipment he doesn't already have. I don't want to ask directly, at least yet, because it would be more fun to come up with a surprise and I guess the point of gifts is to give something the recipient didn't even think of that enriches their life in new ways.
As a person my partner is pragmatic and invests a lot in stuff that improves his health, productivity, sleep etc., but also appreciates cozy and warm cottage-y or woodsy vibes and gets kinda romantic. He doesn't really care for fancy food items or clothes though. Some things I thought of that don't quite feel right yet:
- We both work a lot, so while planning some kind of weekend getaway or hike would be amazing and we do sometimes find the time to have fun, it's hard to gift experiences when our schedules are really unpredictable, and we might only have fully free weekends on very short notice in the next few months. Maybe something special and cute but flexible would still be possible? We're in the UK if anyone has ideas haha.
- He has repetitive strain injury in his forearm, and I wish I could help because he often feels bad about not being productive enough, but he got all sorts of braces and stuff, ergonomic workstation improvements, etc. already. I thought about a bunch of gift cards for back massages because he's also generally tense, but that feels so intimate with some rando lmao, maybe I'm just overthinking this though and it would be really nice.
- Anything that improves sleep quality and reduces stress would be super sweet. I worry about his workload-induced tiredness and he always thinks of ways to help me relax, so I would love to reciprocate, but again he already got himself all the standard stuff (like sleep masks, blackout curtains, foam rollers and so on).
I was fucking put on latuda years ago and ever since it fucked up my emotions completely and caused my head constant brainfog up until now eventhough i quit it as soon as i went on it, the effects of it lasted up until now STILL. i am now forced to be on abilify which i recently had to go on a lower dose of (10mg) because it made me unable to feel anything or get excited or happy about anything,and i am forced to stay on it or else i will apparently go crazy once i get off it and i will get brain damage. this is my life, im going to be stuck emotionless uncaring monster forever.
Violent hatred for everything I create
I was at one point a creative person, and I think I still am deep inside but I just am so displeased with everything I make that it's rare I don't destroy it out of frustration before it's done or just quit. My lack of skill is so embarrassing.. if I try, the things I make look like a preteen tried their best in arts and crafts.
I guess I'm wondering if anyone else here feels similarly. I know it's normal to hate your art and crafts but how common is it to just get so frustrated midway that you barely have any finished products at the end of the year?
>inb4 mental illness
I'm diagnosed with anxiety, adhd and bipolar depression and taking meds for it but I also think most everyone is mentally ill these days
childhood dreams?
tell me about yours, and maybe what you're doing now.
i wanted to be a character designer for games and cartoons. currently on track to become a bungling programmer.
Maradona is dead
Say something nice about him so I can stop crying.
halp
here is some Christmas yuri if you humanoids can help me
coping with ur void
ugh i know this sounds like moping but im at this point in my life where i dont even know what i fucking want.
i know i want to like someone but, commitment scares me bc i feel like i will start to deny myself autonomy just to keep someone around (from past experiences).
i constantly crave sex but when i have it with someone, who i even know well enough in casual sex standards i feel absolutely horrible.
i dont even know what kind of guy i like, and if i like someone i dont even know why i like them.
it's all so puzzling.
and figuring out that i might be neurodivergent (possibly bipolar or borderline), i can't help but feel that i'm doomed in this regard as well.
and i constantly keep feeling ugly as a south asian woman in europe where it feels like every woman whose standards were always present in my television is now all around us. the irrational feeling of nobody liking me because of my averagely chubbier body and having more body hair than usual is constantly fucking with me.
i've been reading this dbt book and i have therapy appointments soon which is really nice but it feels so meaningless to live a life without a favorite person. how do u become comfortable with your loneliness?
I've grown sick and tired of seeing all the bragging threads talking about special plans people have for the holidays, so I might as well start my own thread.
Anyone out there gonna experience the pain of being single and alone for the holidays? If you are, share your stories of what you're planning to do to cope with the pain and help pass time. Maybe instead of buying presents for others you're deciding to buy some special presents for yourself.
Note:
Basic Stacys and other girls in relationships are NOT welcome to join this discussion.
Just smile and he will be yours they said
It will be fun and easy they said
ex bf broke up with me keeps contacting me
Story:
Ex bf broke up with me because I did something that hurt him.
So I accepted that he didn't want to get back with me and went no contact.
The bitch keeps breaking no contact and messaging me.
However, everytime the same situation happens: he tells me he misses talking to me/miss me or some variation of that, I want to get back with him, he tells me he doesn't want to get back with me. He keeps telling me he wants to stay friends and not lose contact with me because I am important to him. I get mad and tell him never contact me again. He keeps contacting me, however, the no contact time period has gotten longer and longer and it's pissing me off. First we went less than a week, then 2 weeks, then 4 weeks, now it's been about 7 weeks and he contacted me once again.
I haven't replied or left him on read because I got school shit to worry about. I haven't left him on read so he doesn't know if I read it or not.
What the fuck sick game is he playing. This shit is pissing me off. I am too weak to leave him on block forever because I still want to get back with him. What do.
Family Violence
>tfw you're still terrified of your father
Just thinking about the violence I've suffered over the years makes me cry.
tfw no bf
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Posted already but in need of answers. How to get over cheating, even if it was non-physical? My bf is very supportive now and we're good, but I sometimes I reimagine it and feel deeply insecure. I reimaging scenarios, remember how I was when they happened, how I was trying to better myself while unknowingly it was never about me. How to move on? I want a healthy relationship and I know I can't bring it up.
>bf left me because I wont lose weight
Im 150 pounds
He's dating an asian now
My boyfriend keeps forcing PDA on me
I have no problem with hugging, cuddling or kissing him in private, when it's just us. But he keeps doing PDA, when I am with friends and even my family.
It's annoying and embarrassing. He thinks it's "cute", but at this point it's almost humiliating.
A few of my friends also think I am showing off and one no longer wants to hang out with us.
Was it the same for you?
My boyfriend is 25 years old. He's 3 years older than me and a virgin and he didn't quite cry, but got pretty close to it, when we were cuddling for the first time.
He didn't have such a reaction to when we had sex for the first time, so I am wondering what the difference is. Why is cuddling more emotionally intense? Is it like men can practice "sex" in a rudimentary way by masturbating, but since cuddling has no replacement, it feels more intense?
Has anyone here suffered from an eating disorder in the past and recovered? Or are you suffering from one now and trying to recover?
How do you deal when the eating disorder thoughts start to get really bad or when you see something that really triggers you? I'm having a really tough time right now, I think I'm relapsing.
Sorry please help fic admin
For some reason it says I look like a bot when I go to reply anywhere and the captcha is not even available for me to complete anywhere but here on feels or I would obviously ask in meta.
Can this be fixed I cannot reply to anything I am using google chrome and when I started posting here I had to get a ban appealed for being a bot so assume someone was IP hopping…
Should I just change IP? I was posting here fine the past few days.
>click on thread
>no captcha avalible
>cannot reply it says I am bot if I try
>no other board has the captcha for me to post a thrad on to troubleshoot
How do i stop running away?
Whenever something gets the tiniest bit too difficult for me i just end up doing something easier, where the payoff is more certain. Such things ofcourse would be eating and browsing websites, but also more specifically in my case drawing and i guess other kinds of creativity aswell. This is why artists are all miserable.
Sex doesn't feel good
Nothing haunts me so much as the fact that I can't enjoy sex with the man i love. I am straight, i find men aesthetically attractive. I mostly drool over 2d men and do find 3d men attractive.
I love my boyfriend but i lost my virginity to him in my early 20s and have never had sex with anyone else. I didnt start masturbating until 18 and sex was never a priority to me. I get horny but the idea of sex is so much better than the reality.
I don't feel even a little bit of pleasure when i have sex. He goes down on me, fingers me tries to really make me feel good. The only time i enjoy it is when i use my vibrator and he fingers me. When j use my vibrator during sex it doesnt feel good unless we're almost entirely stationary so i can focus it on one spot on my clit.
When we first started having sex i had a lot of pain but he helped me through it and was very gentle even though it took ages for us to have normal sex. I dont know what to do. He's my soulmate.
Do i just pretend to enjoy sex for the rest of my life? I never fake orgasms but i do pretend to enjoy penetration for his sake because i love him. But then i think, would any man go through these lengths for me? I am so sad
Dissatisfied with submissive sex
Why does it seem like most submissive men aren’t truly submissive, but instead are just channeling their lazy behavior into sex? I relish in being dominant from time to time but it’s exhausting when every time I feel like I’m centering the whole experience on his fetish, even when I’m not into it. It just seems like a manifestation of his depression or insecurity or repressed traumas into our sex life, which isn’t his fault. However, it’s annoying when I’m always taking the reigns because of one time where I was more dominant.
It doesn’t feel like truly submissive behavior. It just feels like him wanting me to tie him up and spend as much time as works for him pleasuring and indulging his very masochistic tendencies. I don’t even like being physically sadistic, and inflicting pain, but he loves it more than anything. There’s no real submission to me, and no real dominance over him. The dirty talk he wants is always forced and awkward for me, because it makes me feel awkward to verbally degrade him all the time. I’m fine with indulging this fantasy every so often, and I even like it from time to time, but it’s so exhausting when he always wants to submit to me on the bottom and be pleasured. And I love him, so I’m not letting something like sexual compatibility ruin our loving relationship. But I’m avoiding intimacy like the plague because I’ve been so exhausted by it for weeks. It doesn’t feel like my needs are met at all and it’s making sex feel like labor, or a chore.
Again, I am definitely a switch. I love taking the reigns. But I don’t even get off, even when I’m masturbating myself. It’s just so performative and strenuous and annoying for me. I’m even beginning to be resentful of submissive behavior from him in general.
And the worst part is that he has the rare dominant streak- and I don’t even want dominance sometimes. Sometimes I want loving missionary sex. But it feels like my options are blindfolding him and giving him blowjobs until he’s satisfied and goes to sleep, or being bent over a cabinet and fucked like I’m a whore. I don’t even want the latter. I’ll do it and sometimes it’s really good, and enjoyable for me, but I don’t want either extreme. I just want to enjoy sex without indulging a weird fetish. Sometimes, in his more vanilla moments, it’s really enjoyable. These are few and far between, but happen. But then he always goes back to “submitting” halfway through and I’m left slapping and abusing him when I hate it.
He would try to engage in happy or gently dominant sex with me, or even a softer, more subtle level of submission for himself where he’s actually a participant if I told him how dissatisfied I am. But it would make him very insecure. On top of that, he would be disinterested or dissatisfied in the sex too, and grow tired of it like I have. He won’t take the revelation well no matter how I break it to him. It’s pointless.
Am I just fucking doomed to hate sex and be completely unsatisfied and annoyed with it forever? What the fuck am I supposed to do? An open relationship is off the table for both of us and I just want to enjoy sex with him, as an active and engaging participant. I need a fucking cigarette. The one fucking time I was more forward and dominant, he loved it, and so I indulged it a little. But now it’s all he fucking wants. I just want a fucking cigarette and to break something.
Let me give you a piece of advice.
If you have a crush, tell them. Pursue them. Please figure out if he/she likes you or not.
Even if you get rejected, it's far less worse than the pain of never knowing what could have been.
I wish I had known this.
On the fence about motherhood
I have been on the fence of having kids for a long time. Sometimes the idea sounds good but after seeing how hard it is, how you have to give up so much and how unsupportive a lot of fathers are it has made me reconsider everything. I went to a psychic a few days ago and she told me I was gonna have 2-3 kids. All of the psychics I have visited have said this. I go back and forth on this. Is anyone on the same boat as I am?
How do I cope knowing most men are incapable of love without sex?
Careers
I am in software company and was just promoted to a manager position after being a software engineer for several years.
I don't like being non-technical but it's the only way I can progress up in our company.
The issue is, several people on my team have asked to transfer out already when word hit and one already put his two weeks in.
What do I do?
Is there any bigger myth than the ugly guys are nicer myth?
waiting to get medication
i've been anxious and depressed horribly for the past few weeks and i don't get medication for another month at least. how to i bide time until then and try and minimize my self-destructive urges in the meantime? i have few who i can confide in where i live aside from my partner who is shouldering enough already.
How the fuck are you supposed to trust men again after assault/rape??
It happened 3 times already anons, i'm losing my mcfreakin mind and none were even full on rape
Everywhere i look there's predators. On the bus i see men grinding against women who can't move, at college there are known pervert teachers and no one does anything about it, on the street i see harassment and stares, my insurance covers for doctors who abused minors, my favourite musicians and artists are scum and fucked teens, so so many watch violent porn. With every woman i talk to, there is a story like this, of men hurting them just to get off.
I distrust every single man,no matter what they are to me, because these aren't isolated cases, the ones who are normal human beings seem to be the rarity.
But i just can't fucking take it anymore, the fear. They're everywhere, they're stronger and our justice system is completely useless against even rape with all the evidence.
It got to the point where i'm mildly suicidal. There is nowhere to run and i can't avoid them, it seems inevitable something will happen again judging by the experience of the women around me.
I don't know what to do anymore and can't take it much longer, currently i don't even want to bathe because i am disgusted about touching my body and being reminded of stuff that happened or could happen.
umm helo anon.
If you are sad and reading this I just wants you to know that you are not alone in how you feel.
I know life does not always get better but lets hope it does because life is really hard and full of hurt and people hurting us
I can feel all alone and then knowing other anons are sad can help but it makes me feel sad that they feel as I do.
Wish I could help you feel better.
i'm so sick of men begging me to do butt stuff. Literally annoying af
Can you brake a media addiction? If so, how?
I KNOW I watch too much youtube and it prevents me from getting work done.
Its not even that enjoyable but the weekends are mostly spent like that, middles video after middles video and suddenly it's night when it was morning just a moment ago. At least with TV shows it's structured so even if you spend hours on it at least you can say that you have watched a show but with YouTube you didn't even accomplish that much.
Any advice on how I can break this habit and get into a more productive or educational one, for example reading books.
Is she our queen?
I'm so overcome with fear at the thought of going to university Judy because of the debt.
I know that where I am, is fortunate since school debt is one without interest and quite lenient but it will still be stuck with you for life, unlike for the previous generation.
I would be fine with a job that doesn't require a degree but I will never get to have that uni experience and fulfill mundane but desirable goals such as living in a dorm or getting to actively study what I'm passionate about.
I also think that I just want an academic career, or one that requires higher education, just because I will have validation that I am intelligent and that I am capable. And the kind of person I want and the friends that I surround myself wouldn't want the type of person I am currently heading to become.
Mostly just a vent but any advice from people with similar experiences would be very appreciated.
all i want is cute lesbian friends why is that so hard im so fucking sad
Maybe it's the air we breathe. The people's faces we see. The traffic. The school. The teachers. The coworkers. The boss. The insurance. The rent. The bank. The car. The Wal-Mart. The wood. The machine. The rain. The sun. another Christmas gone. Another year gone. Another summer gone. Another winter gone. Another year alone. Another cigarette. Another beer. Another hit. Another hit. Another hit.
My boyfriend is into crossdressing and wants to become a tranner. I said I supported him but he started trying on my clothes and it makes me rather annoyed and uncomfortable. Why do I feel do awkward and uncomfy? What should I do? He seems dysphoric but he also joked about being a kink to him. He also wants me to call him degrading names (like slut, etc.)
Anon, are you sure you're sure? Because I am not. How do you know what you're feeling, or if you're feeling anything at all? I don't know why I can't understand my own feelings, anyone else feels the same?
>be redhead
>want kids
>if it's a girl, she'll be fetishized by fucking weirdo creeps her whole life and just seen as a sex object
>if its a boy, he'll be tortured and bullied and most likely be a hideous abomination and almost certainly turn into an incel when he grows up
JUST
I was 25 days self-harm free but I ruined it.
How can I make my boyfriend appreciate his first time?
He says he doesn't care about firsts and stuff but I want to make him appreciate it?
What should I tell him to make him change his opinion?
Are you suicidal?
How do you anons plan to die if you are killing yourself?
Do you think you will likely an hero and is there a reason beyond life just being shit?
Bad dreams
I had another dream about my old friend who I was close to.
What bad dreams have you had lately anon?
>have they been good
>have they been bad
What are they like when bad or good?
Coming out as lesbian to bf
I want to break up with my boyfriend as I have realised I'm a lesbian. However, I'm conflicted as I don't have any friends besides him, so I'll be alone if I go through with it.
To give more context, this is my first relationship, and I mostly went out with him because I was lonely. When we met I didn't have any friends and I liked him a lot platonically, but when he developed feelings for me I went along with it because I didn't want to lose him.
Now we've been dating for 2 years, and I've tried my best to convince myself I like him but I just feel unfulfilled. It's not even his fault, since I can't imagine myself being fulfilled in a relationship with any guy.
He's a really nice person so I don't want hurt him, but I feel if I stay with him it would be more dishonest and more likely to hurt him in the long run.
I want to end things in a peaceful way that we can remain friends if he wants, but if he doesn't I'll respect that too. I was kind of hoping he would find someone else, but I can't just wait around hoping that'll happen.
>be me
>21 years
>virgin
>just don´t happend
>it's ok
>think how it will be when it happens
>no cute
>no soft
>no magic
>tears come out of my eyes
I am doomed, my first time will be with someone with more experience than me, it will not be sweet and gentle, it will be hard and wild.
Thinking of quitting therapy so I can have more drive to kill myself.
Does anyone else feel like this at all?
The pressure of going to therapy in a way helps me try refrain from self harm and doing anything but I really feel I will benefit from letting it all go.
Is this what you call self sabotaging??
I need some help because I have serious behavior issues that I don't know how to fix.
I get upset very easily (especially when I misunderstand a situation) and my anger escalates very quickly. From a normal conversation to me yelling,slamming doors, throwing things, crying, etc. I did some online CBT for a few months which helped me realize the root of this problem but it's flared up again. I think this is just my poor personality and I need to practice more awareness and self-control.
Does anyone have thought exercises they could suggest?
I also act extremely erratically (being extremely violent, yelling, breaking things,crying loudly for hours) and completely forgot them. This was partially substance based as I started drinking too much, but I'm sober now and I still have these blackouts. I'll remember everything up to and after the freak-out, but my bad behavior is a complete blank, even right after it happens.
I also try to set it up to look as if I'm the vulnerable/hurt party in these episodes.
Wtf is this? Is there a name for this? I want to go to therapy badly but going could cost me my job and I live paycheck to paycheck. :(
(I'm not sure if this belongs here or in /hb/, but it feels more advice-oriented so I posted it here.)
im sad all i want to do is get boba with a cute girl and become bffs with her how is that so hard i hate it here !! i just want a girl bff :( someone
30 year old virgin thread
Hi I'm a 30 year old virgin and I've never had a boyfriend or held hands or anything like that. I've been one like 2 dates because I forced myself to go on a date so I wouldn't be 30 and have never gone on a date. Covid ruined my plans of securing a man for the sake of securing a man, so here I am I actually turned 30 as pure as the driven snow.
Anyone else? Whats your story? Why are you a virgin? How do you tell people? Does it bother you? Do you plan on doing something about it? Lets gather and cry together sisters.
Need help Anons
Recently , my long time friend who used to be a fellow femcel(in denial) like myself got into a relationship with a guy that I liked. I've felt a swirl of emotions , ranging from anger and gloom and even guilt to some extent. How do I stop these feelings. I'm sure that I'm not jealouscel
Am I just a bitch?
I have a problem making friends because I just never feel the magic and after learning about people and how they think I just get bored so find the chatting stressful.
I do not pretend to be friends and then ghost them I let them know from the start nearly I may not get those feelings but end up stopping contact for my own selfish reasons.
I feel like a bitch because so many people just want to have someone want to be their friend and I someone who people tend to want to be friends with but throw it away because there is rarely any magic felt.
Am I a bitch for preferring to stick to anonymous posting to chat to people instead of talking with someone who wants me to be their friend as it is not enjoyable to me??
Am I a bitch? I feel guilty for the way I just am and wish I was not this way..
only positive stuff that happened recently
hi girlies!
let's talk about positive stuff that happened to you recently!
you can talk about anything you want, it just has to be positive!
i almost have no friends or people to talk to in my day-to-day life. The only person I talk to regularly is my boyfriend. I'm too intimidated by people I guess and even those I talk to probably find me annoying :/ I'm also extremely ugly so I guess that scares most people away .. w/e
Don't know what to do
Few months ago me and my would-be bf parted ways. I felt like we had great chemistry but I really wasn't ready to get into a relationship with me after my last bf dumped me on xmas eve. He was a really good friend and was actually respectful of my wanting not to rush into a relationship. I kinda knew that eventually we were going to start dating but I was really hesitant, and it felt like our relationship was just kinda in limbo. We were close friends and we knew we'd eventually date, but we hadn't actually reached that stage yet, so our boundaries and affinities were kinda out of whack, and that not being clear of what was what really started to mess with me, so I asked if we could just kinda go our separate ways for a while. He was clearly sad about it but he agreed, but I went like a week and couldn't stand not speaking to him, so I reached out and we sorta kept going like before, but then one night in early May I got really drunk and snapped at him for something that wasn't his fault and told him to get lost and leave me alone, and he did. I convinced myself he was a manipulative piece of shit for what happened, and I spent a lot of time angry and in denial that it wasn't really his fault and I was just being a bitch. He reached out to me twice since then to check on my but out of pride (and guilt) I couldn't bring myself to respond to him and admit that I was wrong, so he stopped trying to speak to me. Fast forward to now, 5 months later and I'm an absolute wreck without him. I get nosy and peek at his steam sometimes, and seeing all the games he plays and groups he's in with his friends having fun just tears my heart to shreds. Now that I'm over what happened with my last bf in 2019, and feel ready to get into a relationship, the only prospective relationship I had is gone because I fucking ruined it like I always ruin shit. The fact that he's out there, having fun and enjoying himself without me makes me want to cry my eyes out and fucking kill myself. I guess basically what I'm trying to say is that I don't know what to do now. The only person I wanted to date is long gone, and I just feel like I'm out of options. I heard from a mutual friend last week that he has a gf and apparently they're super cute together and they have all kinds of shared hobbies and shit they do and it just kills me. I know this sounds like yandere creeper shit, but the farther out I get from him, the more I realize he was like my best possible partner and I let him slip away. He was sweet, always in a good mood, never got mad at me, always put up with my moody bullshit and had jokes to cheer me up. When I told him I wanted to part ways, he didn't pull any niceguy shit and demand I give him a chance, he gave me the space I asked for. it's at the point now where I think about him almost daily and would almost rather off myself than continue to be tortured by images flashing in my head of a future with him I can never have.
Vent thread
We hit bump on >>43518 so here we go again, talk about your problems and vent your frustrations
bpd pushed him away and i fucking miss him
i’m so fucking sad I miss him so much he always said he would never abandon me and now he’s gone
i want to die. i was so close to just ending it when he left but i was hospitalized so i couldn’t
how do i find purpose in life i’m always so bored now and i just have nothing
Tfw i have stopped wearing a pad everyday in case my periods come back cause they have been gone for so long. but them being gone for long doesnt actually decrease the probability. its just an illusion. why do humans like to pretend theyre in control like this?
Expiration date
I am slowly but steadily approaching 30, and while logically I realize that this isn't the end of the line, I can't help but being depressed over a number society and nature itself dedicated to be an expiration date for women. I've been dreading this moment for years; actually for the majority of my 20's, burying myself in anxiety I cannot fight against.
I've never felt truly "young". Ever since the beginning of college I've been struggling with health and legal issues (nothing criminal, but still a mountain of paperwork which was more that I reasonably could handle), and what social life or partying can there be when all you are able to do during free time is to sleep. I've made it through college at the cost of my health, and yet my grades still tanked and I had no work experience by the time it was over, making my degree worthless. It's been several years since college and all I could realistically do was slow-paced freelance work, because no "proper" workplace hired me even once despite my countless attempts. The world doesn't need slow-paced but diligent workers: they need everything fast and sloppy. They don't need women either, because they might give birth, oh horror. Or maybe they just don't need millennials, period. What a joke. It's been several years and I already hate my chosen profession, and I used to love it with so much passion.
I've never felt truly "beautiful" either, and I doubt that I will ever, considering that my official expiration date is approaching fast, and from an ugly duckling who became an ugly duck, I'll transform into an ugly old duck. I have always hated how I look. It hurt to discover that I haven't actually been ugly at all as a teen: I was made to believe that. I have no idea whether I am actually ugly now, but I can't stand to look at my photos or selfies or myself in a mirror; plus my health problems made me gain weight, and yet professional doctors just smirk at me with condensing "oh, I guess you just love cakes this much to eat them daily", and I don't have the power to scream at these assholes that I don't even have this kind of money to eat cakes daily. At times all I had was plain rice.
I've never been truly "healthy" either. Ever since I had rheumatic fever as a kid I've been broken. My joints still hurt from time to time years later, my heart is compromised, my brain is damaged; and even with all the baggage which prevents me from being a normal person I am denied a disability, because it's all just too invisible. It's easier to label me as simply lazy. Sometimes I legit wish that doctors have never bothered with treating me, because what was the point. Letting me die of a heart failure would be even more easy for everyone involved.
Maybe my life never began in a first place; and yet my expiration date is approaching. Because in the society's eyes all we are good for is baby-making, and making babies is considered inadvisable after 30. My life as an individual has never been important.
This has been a rant. Take it as you will and thank you for listening.
>ywn be cute enough to make guys nervous
I get so nervous thinking about doing homework I'm behind on/difficult homework that I get paralyzed and end up putting it off longer, which makes me even more nervous. I've been doing this for years and it's been making my life utter hell lately. How do I stop? I'm doing my third year of uni during covid btw.
why did I break up with him? I just miss him every day now
Soooo we all know that BPD is the new hysteria, right?
Are you following your heart?
What changes would you need to make to your life for the answer to be yes?
Does anyone else just get really frustrated and stressed thinking about all the horrible things going on in the world that everyone just doesn't think about? People starving, ok. People being tortured and killed in war, ok. Millions of animals living miserable short lives in cages and killed daily, ok. Child slavery, ok.
People just go about their daily lives with no thought to where their clothing, electronics, food, etc came from. What is going on during the same day in the world.
It goes a whole new level to the word selfish, like people just don't even care to learn about these things.
But then there is so much going on, so much just accepted as normal, like killing a spider because it makes you uncomfortable instead of realising it is a living thing and pushing past your own selfish feelings and just putting it outside.
It's too much to think about but then you can't not think about it. But because there is so much of it there is nothing to can do to fix it all.
You can't be like other people and just block it out and not think about it but then living with knowing all of these things and seeing it all around you is torture too.
I feel like I'm stuck in a dark age textbook. Some person from the future is going to look back at this time and scoff at all the horrible things we do. I don't agree with this, I don't want to be part of this but it's inescapable. I'm part of this against my will.
How are you supposed to live like this?
Fuck Tinder
You know, I want to get out, meet people, hopefully get a nice boyfriend, but I feel like Tinder is just for easy hookups and one night stands.
I feel that 99% of the guys that go on Tinder don't care about having a long term relationship.
Am I wrong?
Disclaimer: I haven't used it yet.
Things that piss you off
When you get weird looks from the crotchety old HAGS because you don't have a bf.
Fuck you granny I'm working on it OKAY???
Obsessed with Sex
Anyone else here think they are over-focused on/obsessed with sex? I really feel like I'm more horny than the average person, and I have tried in many ways to lower my libido. It's also this weird balancing act - on the one hand I don't want to pathologize my sexuality just because I'm a woman and female horniness isn't talked about/centered as much, but I also want to take my own issue seriously if it is one.
It is the topic I think about most prominently, when I meet someone the first assessment I make is whether or not I would smash (in a vaccuum, I'm pretty inexperienced in sex lmao). Every night before I sleep I think of the same three sexual scenarios of fucking someone I am sexually interested in at the moment (these sexual crushes change every few years).
Blogpost - I was in therapy for two years bc of my opinions I have on sex among other stuff. Because of my focus on sexual daydreaming about other people I was thinking BPD, but I apparently don't fully fit the bill, especially the abandonment issue stuff (I got more the opposite problem lol). I got diagnosed with PTSD and social anxiety but I'm not sure about the former though I did have unwanted sexual experiences in my childhood.
since finding out about greater male variability hypothesis i feel pretty terrible and there's no way to talk about this on the internet bc invariably someone will think im not a woman but some moid larping lmfao i wish it possible to stop feeling like nature doomed me to be much more limited than i feel i am, than i wish i was. not even the things we're supposedly better at ("women are more creative!") are true…besides, having a high iq makes one understand much more and innovate much more…why do we have to shoulder such a burden?
Parasocial Relationship General
Parasocial Relationship
>Is a one sided relationship where one person knows a great deal about the other, but the other person knows nothing about them.
This term is founded by Donald Horton and Richard Wohl in 1956
What are example of parasocial relationship ?
>Youtubers/Streamers and fan
>Celebrity Crush
>Stans Culture
>Simp
>2d/ Fictional Character crush
>Vtuber and fan
etc
Anons,What is the best way to maintaining a healthy parasocial relationship?
Or
What is your experience with parasocial Relationship
I recently develop a lot parasocial relationships as coping from my loneliness because of the quarantine.
Video releted to Parasocial
>The Parasocial Problem with Livestreaming
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GvYAVti8nbk
>parasocial relationships in kpop
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AHP7JyrXZhQ&t=394s
>FAKE FRIENDS EPISODE ONE: intro to parasocial relationships
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x3vD_CAYt4g&t=10s
>FAKE FRIENDS EPISODE TWO: parasocial hell
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KLA-uFKjQ-g
>How Fans Treat Creators
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f0l_biTU3Vg
>The Lonely Fans of OnlyFans
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=djMojvschs0
>Why Are Celebrity Crushes So Intense?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLp1Yr3-KtA
Article related :
https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/article/parasocial-relationships/
Can we talk about how twisted our judgmentality on people tends to be? Ive noticed that as ive gotten my shit together, beaten depression and become skinny, people have gotten much kinder towards me. Fat and unhygienic people are deemed as disgusting and lazy instead of considered to be going through hell mentally (for me atleast eating has served as a coping mechanism against emptiness and poor hygiene has been due to lack of motivation for anything). Especially women who dont take care of themselves are viewed as defects.
tfw when you want sex but also want love before sex but also extremely cynic about men's ability to love but also shy and have ridiculously high standards and attracted only to very few guys.
Blaming books which made me a hopeless romantic and reality which made me see the truth.
Ways to cope?
>joined twitter for the first time to make friends
>made an account for a popular fandom, yes I’m a sperg
>everyone spams woke shit
>harasses and bullies people for minor things
>just want to share cute art and talk abt vidja
I know I’m an autist, but how tf do you actually make online friends that aren’t retarded? Should I just avoid Twitter
I just experienced homophobia for the first time in years. I’m 19 and two of my male classmates threw my calculator in the trash so I could “dig for it in my home”. I wasn’t in the room and told this by a friend. No one stood up for me or got onto them. I asked to change classes but can’t
Hello, girls I need your help because it's just too painful…
So, I'm in a relationship.
When my boyfriend speaks of his past my stomach hurts. Why is this happenings?
He's not speaking about relationships or anything (It's the first both of us have a relationship), just normal stuff.|
Any help, anyone felt the same way?
It's like a psychosomatic thing but I can't figure out why…
He's not saying anything hurtful or painful just normal stuff.
Self Improvement Thread
Post about how you want to improve yourself/your self improvement plans ITT and I will try and help you to the best of my ability, or just commiserate and talk if that's what you want.
Also general self improvement feels thread
Chads are the worst
They have all the regular terrible qualities of men (aggressive, promiscuous, violent, narcissistic), but in addition to that, they will also look down on you because they believe being good looking means they are the pinnacle of human life (ironically, their fading looks are all they have to offer the world, never having had to work for anything.) Ugly women merely existing offends them, i.e.
>That landwhale just smiled at me! She should be put in her place for thinking she’s worthy of my attention!
They were born with opportunities most people will never get laid out at their feet and they use it to be giant assholes. Even the ones who use their image to spread good (their subjective ideals) are just acting out a self-righteous masturbatory fantasy. The best thing a chad can do is look pretty and shut up.
I am way, way too sensitive and emotional. How can I get over this? I know i’m being dramatic, I don’t lash out at people, but over time I just accumulate stings from things they did that hurt me without meaning to, and they never understand how bad it hurts. And because they don’t understand how bad it hurt, their apologies always seem half-baked to me.
What do I do?
molestation by another female
when i was 12 in seventh grade i was molested by an eighth grade girl. me and my bf are both virgins and want to lose our virginities to eachother one day and i have paranoia about it i’m a virgin or not because what happened. basically we both had moms with hypersexuality (her mom was a prostitute and mine was an escort) and we bonded over this, but one time when we were sleeping over it was late. i didn’t have a bed in my bedroom so we were on a trundle together and she was on omegle getting naked for men. she pressured me to take my clothes off and i started freezing because of previous experiences with my dad where he touched me intappropriately and thought he was in love with me (he is mentally ill) but i didn’t stop her as she undressed and i didn’t say no. i just froze and panicked internally and let it happen when she began to touch my body and undress me. it was like i couldn’t move and it was disgusting and she put hickeys on my naked body and photographed it and sent it to people from our school and touched my genitalia a lot. she put her hands inside me too and i cried when she went to sleep next to me that night. i didn’t even say yes or no so i feel like i silently consented to it but also, my mom being an escort had men over constantly. and i don’t remember this year at all, 99% of my memories are completely blacked out, but my family accuses my mom of having men over who she would let molest and touch me inappropriately. i can’t remember any of this so i don’t know if it’s true or not and i can’t say i have trauma for it, but these issues overlap with before during and after this girl touched me. i remember crying in a family members lap after she told me this because i was crying and screaming that i couldn’t remember and she was saying how i used to confide in her that men my mom had over would hurt me sexually. i don’t remember this, so it doesn’t distress me if it even did happen, but it’s distressing what i can’t remember. i was also psych warded that year after being shunned when the photos of me circulated and remember only 3-4 days of my inpatient thing when it was 16 days long.
i feel like i wasn’t really molested or assaulted or anything because she was another girl, and also i didn’t stop her. i just started crying and went frozen. it was really horrible and like my body was on auto pilot. i feel like a slut and like i am going to hell for sleeping with another girl even if i didn’t actually want to. i also feel like im not a virgin anymore and it’s sad because i wanted my boyfriend to be my first time. i’m also secretly worried about him thinking i’m a whore even if i know he thinks i’m not. i cannot shake the feeling that i am a horrible dirty person
how can i get over this? sorry for long post idk what to do anymore, i can’t burden my bf with this he has his own issues to worry for and he loves me very much, and doesn’t deserve to have to carry my baggage.
wtf do i do?
Does anyone else ever get annoyed that the people who did amazingly in high school or even college just don't seem to be achieving much after that?
For example, if I think of all the people who would win all the prizes at prize givings, they just seem to have graduated and found a job and that's it. A few, especially from college, have gone on to get PhDs but then have just gone into regular jobs. Some of the jobs are ok and are related to their field but nothing that strikes as a dream job.
I look at their Linkedin pages and all their achievements are from high school or college. It's like they just gave up when they found a job. They don't seek achievements anymore. Why is this?
It's even worse if you look up people from Oxbridge or the Ivys. Someone will graduate top in their class in something like Chinese or Archeology but then everyone goes into finance positions with no relation to the incredible education they received. I'd expect someone like that to be UN interpreter or something like The Vintage Archeologist. It's like they gave up on their dreams, or even worse they were never there.
I realise that they might actually like what they are doing and they probably pay well, but it's just weird that none of them seem to go into something that is objectively considered to be a dream job and would be easy for them to go into to. What am I missing?
BPD
Post in this thread every time you did it again.
Pretending to be Normal
I appear to be a fairly normal person on the outside. I function in life just fine, I have a job, go to school. I look normal. I keep in touch with friends. Sometimes I have coffee with coworkers. Although I can get really bad anxiety at times that makes it hard to do things I eventually do them. I've traveled and worked abroad. I have funny stories to tell people that make me seem interesting. People tell me I don't talk much and am shy.
Despite all this I'm not actually very normal. I live with my parents in my late twenties. I've never dated a man. I don't actually have any deep friendships. I haven't gone out in over 3 years. I live in my head all the time where I've actually created entire fictitious worlds. I worry at times that I'll never manage to fully live like a normal person getting married, having kids, having responsibilities. I feel like I'm not really living.
Warning: this is a thread of the vent category.
Today I woke up from a really strange and disturbing dream. I was in a room with a gamer from twitch/youtube that I watch sometimes. In the dream there were also a bunch of other unidentified people. She was sitting on a couch playing a game called Mother 3 on GBA and I was was sitting next to her watching her play. I was being pretty touchy for some reason and doing stuff like putting my head on her shoulder while watching. Eventually, for some reason unexplained in the dream, she starts using my laptop as a monitor to play the game (but somehow keeps using the GBA as a controller, despite it not being connected to the laptop). Some time after this happens, I start groping her boobs through her shirt. Soon after she turns her head around and we start making out. Nobody in the room seems to be paying attention.
While this was happening, I woke up, confused, and now I can't stop thinking about it.
my kitten died yesterday. we found him under the couch and my boyfriend pulled him out. he went there to die within 30 minutes and i feel like i failed him. he was said to be 9 weeks but we suspect he was given to us too young. we treated him for worms and fleas and had a vet appointment in two weeks. as soon as i came inside within that time period to feed him dinner and give him another dose of medicine, he was gone. i feel guilty for not being hysterical. i just feel numb. my boyfriend asks “are you not sad?” because i haven’t been crying as much as him. and i am really sad, i miss my baby boy. he was so young. but i’ve only cried on and off randomly, not so often like him. is something wrong with me? it doesnt feel real but hes dead in the other room and we have to bury him later. hes dead hes actually dead but i dont believe it i feel like hes going to come out soon but i cant cry i feel so bad
>be me
>have no passion for anything in life
>depressed
>suicidal
>currently studying something I hate
>no friends
>no social life
>no motivation
>can't even talk to a neighbor because of the anxiety
>currently unemployed
>too old to change my course of life
>no experience
>no family to rely on
Whats the point of living, if each day is so stressful? I have no friends, no interests, no hobbies, no work, no money, no one to talk to. There's just no point in life. I hate every single day and I can't stand being along but I also hate being around people. It's like I can't win at anything.
changing what you are attracted to
I think the short guy fetish I've always had completely ruined my (already very slim) chances at losing my virginity. I live in a country where average male is 6'1. The rare short guys I've met were visibly disgusted by me and reacted negatively when I approached them/asked them out.
Is there any way to get rid of your fetishes/standards? The only thing I can get off to is art or hentai w short men. I've tried masturbating to stuff with taller men but it's like fapping to the thought of a chair. Completely unappealing. I can read romances featuring taller guys (like Kamisama Kiss), but they never get me feeling really excited, I never get the "God I wish that were me" feeling while reading them. Honestly, lots of tall guys I've met irl were super cool, and I'd be all over them if they were short. I'm rlly angry at myself for being so shallow. I know some manlet chasers miners here struggled w the same problem, how did you manage to resolve it? I'm so tired of being constantly rejected by men. Let's help each other out.
GIVE CUTE BF. GIVE GIVE GIVE GIVE GIVE ME NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW
anyone else miss being younger even if getting older has its perks? i miss my childhood the most even if it was bad, and i even get nostalgic on the last few years - i remember when id post here all the time asking for advice on my life, in the end it seemed to fall quite short. and my life is getting progressively more worse in multiple aspects - im getting more isolated and disconnected, both of my parents are tragically ill, ive been through a lot with drugs and i have a horrible eating disorder and not to mention i am terribly ugly. i miss the days when i had more hope, even if things seemed terrible back then too.
moid friend dating lesbian
moid friend's gf messaged me saying she really isn't into men as much as she thought and is losing feelings for said moid.
I'm close enough to both to know this may end poorly.
I also have a crush on her but I will never admit that to them
Do you ever wonder what it would be like to have a penis? I don't even necessarily mean the sexual aspect, I just think it would be neat. I also wonder if having one would immediately make me want to fuck and kill things 24/7.
makeup???
I really want to natuarally look pretty, but I dont mind wearing a bit of natural looking makeup. The thing is, I dont know where to start? any tips for learning how to apply light makeup or any good recs?
overcoming trauma to get ready for marriage
i am a christian, and i was sexually abused in the past. i have been trying to heal from this for awhile, but it’s difficult and still affects me a lot (but it has gotten a lot better.)
i have a really wonderful boyfriend and we love each other so much and want to get married within the next couple months, as soon as the priest will let us pretty much. i know i want to be with him forever and everything and think we are really meant to be together. and i have always wanted to be a wife and mother.
the main thing i am worried about is our wedding night, when you have to have the um marriage act. i get very anxious thinking about it. i don’t see how i can do that, and i don’t want to be looked at without my clothes on or touched. i’m scared that i’ll panic when the time comes and react really badly and make him feel bad. i have a lot of trouble being mature about sex. when he told me he was looking forward to doing that when we were married i just froze up and made a face and looked away, and couldn’t think of anything to say.
i really want to be able to be normal for him because i love him, i just don’t know how to prepare myself for it and what to do to fix my brain. (and don’t say anything immoral like sex before marriage or masturbation or anything) (also i’m unable to go to therapy)
How do I stop being a clingy schizo
Whenever I see my boyfriend talking to other girls I fucking lose my shit, and it’s starting to hurt our relationship.
If any other girl looks at him or talks to him too long/in too much of a friendly tone, it pissed me off so much. I’ve told him this for awhile. He’s humored my tendencies for the most part but it seems like he’s honestly getting worn out or tired of it and I don’t want that.
What brought me to post this something that happened earlier today. Whenever he talks to a girl waiter/server or something, I try to play off my frustration and so I joke and say “so is she your new gf?” Or something similar, then he refutes it then it eventually leads to him telling me he loves me and kissing me and all is well in the world. Well today, when we were driving thru Starbucks the Barista was a girl, so I said my line and waited for him to respond. What happened was he just sighed and muttered “my fucking god” (or something along those lines) and didnt say anything about it. He had this look of just being really done with my shit.
Anyways, what the fuck do I do? Did I fuck up our relationship permanently? Can I fix things with him? He’s the love of my life and I really don’t want to lose him. Has anyone else had similar experiences to this that they’ve had with partners?
why would someone actively encourage me to get into tinder and dating? is it cause they see me as a socially left behind autist?
Being bullied in childhood/puberty
>oh no, anon's here
>what did she said?
>stop following us
>what do you want from us?
>we're not laughing with you, we're laughing at you
>I'm not joking, I wish to offend you
>you're not one of us
I wished to die or kill them all each time I heard it. Have you anons been bullied too?
>diagnosed with anxiety at age 11
>minor symptoms, barely affects my life
>fast forward 8 years
>in the span of a year develop a major fear of storms and hypochondria, as well as frequent paranoid delusions
What the fuck happened
Shitty friends
How do you deal with them? Do you just cut them off despite a long history? Been misled by someone you thought you could trust?
Got any ridiculous stories?
Looking for advice on how to deal with shitty people who think they do nothing wrong (besides ignoring them)
>catch myself only finding men with feminine or androgynous traits attractive
>keep pushing it off
>keep dating men and be miserable
>realize one day i need to face the fact that im attracted to women and that ill be happier when i do
>nah thats for future me to worry about
how the fuck do I get over all my internalized misogyny. majority of my friends are male or trans women because of my interests. Didn't have many female figures in my life. I browsed image boards for too long and absorbed too much incel culture. how do you make woman friends? how do you allow yourself to be able to be emotionally intimate with another woman? I just want to be happy dammit.
I have drank two fairly big glasses of wine and that has caused me to become too afraid of dying in my sleep to go to sleep. Why am i like this?
How does this make you feel
I feel like garbage.
https://twitter.com/kthsk8tr/status/1309556190586843136
Vent thread
We've hit post limit on >>41254 so we can continue here, talk about your problems and vent your frustrations
Can we talk about depression cliches?
Does depression seem to be more common these days? Is it because people are less likely to force themselves just to get on with things? Or is it that people are more open about how they feel?
Does improving exercise/eating better/fixing sleep schedule etc actually work? Or are people right when they say it's brain chemistry and you need medication? Can you actually think yourself better by improving your mindset? Is it more important to solve the issues causing your depression instead of numbing your feelings?
Is there a level of privilege associated with depression and being able to do nothing? Can someone struggling to make ends meet in a third world country really suffer depression in the same way as someone in a first world country with a parental safety net?
I'm genuinely curious and not trying to lead the conversation either way.
My husband of three years wants to make our relationship "open".
Hating Women (internalized misogyny?)
I'm a woman yet I hate women. I'm filled with rage around them and I become jealous quickly and with vigor. I don't know if I hate the idea of femininity or just "women". I can't explain it. It's usually a hatred for normie/basic women, ones who are happy and content and shit. Maybe it's pure jealousy?
I have mommy issues if that's relevant lol.
What do I do? How do I stop hating women? I feel sick. I want to support my sisters but everything screams at me to tear them down instead. I just feel sick.
I grew up chubby with a plain face and nobody ever paid attention to me. Now I have a boyfriend and irl guys never bat an eye at me. I want other men to find me attractive so that I don't feel like my bf is settling for me and I want him to feel proud to be dating me and want to show me off to other guys. I'm scared that if/when I glow up (I'm overweight and losing) I'll start to get attention from other men and I won't know how to handle being attractive for the first time in my life and do something stupid. How do I make sure I don't become a ho
Red flags
I leave with the worst.
>he sees too much anime
>he's probably very childish and has pedophile or homosexual tendencies
rebounding
i stopped interacting with r9k moids a long time ago and it has helped my mental health greatly not being in a toxic misogynistic environment and being the token girl
but the worse part is trying to interact with normal people again w/o the autistic shit i had habits of before, and the mannerisms and behaviors i have acquired from it. i recently just joined /soc/ servers again bc i can't handle constantly holding a facade and being surrounded by such fragile people. i feel like im slowly integrating myself again into degenerate 4chan stuff again
how the fuck can i interact with normies? how can i hold healthy relationships with people? i cannot imagine being close to anyone who hasn't acquired the same behaviors i have
im losing my mind being so bored and dissatisfied with the people im speaking to. i want excitement and laughs again not lolcows who have a breakdown over the word femboy and post minecraft trans bee
it's been so long since i disconnected myself from the community but i still hold the same mannerisms and behavior. wtf do i do? can i ever truly recover from years of internet autism?
Female autogynephilia
Don't know where to post this, but does anyone else here relate to autogynephilia despite being a woman? I grew up scrawny and ugly with a visible illness that made me even uglier, didn't grow curves until my late teens, had very thin and dry hair due to said illness and only wore clothes that would make me invisible. Nobody acknowledged me as a girl until later in life and even then I was only approached by guys who sensed my insecurity and awkwardness and got off on me being "weird". Growing up I romanticized the experience of being a girl that was perceived as such, I was obsessed with femininity. I envied classmates with pretty faces or long hair, asked them to wear it down more, had a dislike for short haircuts or ponytails. I couldn't understand why someone who had everything I wanted to have wouldn't be proudly displaying it. I was so obsessed with women that I identified as lesbian for some time, while also longing to be desired by boys. I fooled around with bicurious classmates who would come for sleepovers with benefits but shunned me at school. I know this sounds like a stupid moid fantasy, but it was extremely confusing for me. I thought I loved women, but craved the validation of men. To this day I don't know if I'm straight or bi. I started doing art and had women model for me, so I was always surrounded by pretty women while being mousy and too self-conscious to try to make the best of my features. I have awkward body language and never learned how to do flattering makeup because I can't stand to look into a mirror for too long. When I date women, I miss men and vice versa. I could stare at women forever but sex with them leaves me feeling awkward and like something's missing, meanwhile when I have sex with men my experience is based entirely on feeling like a real, desirable woman by making the man desire me and get off on me. I often wonder if I'm really into girls or if I just fetishize living vicariously through a desirable woman and crave being validated by lesbian women as the ultimate confirmation that I am perceived as female. I compensate for my childhood experiences so hard I refuse to wear pants, resent everything that could make me look androgynous, I even experience what tranners call gender euphoria when people refer to me as she or girl and thus validate me in even the smallest way. I've never had normie men ask me out, I've never received flowers or a valentine's something or had a normal classic first date, and I know that's the case for many girls (especially here) but it's like I need the validation to feel like I'm a real woman because I've been deprived that experience for so long. I feel crazy and like I have no real identity because everything I do is a calculated effort to be desirable and feminine.
I'm 26 now and someone very important to me who's been there for me for the past decade is now gone
I feel lost
How can I find a therapist/psychologist who does not just deal with normies and could actually help me? I really wanna go to one, but have no idea what to look for :(
Why is life so unfair? I literally cant wear the types of clothes that i want just because im not the type to wear them and would look straight up weird in addition to unattractive. I dont wanna live if my chances for achieving the social status im wishing for are limited. I cant help but feel like some people are fundamentally defects. Why has nature come to create beings unable to achieve what they strive for?
I hate my career. I hate finance and business. I really do.I'm so bored. What should I do? I've already given up another career and I'm not sure what career to follow.
I still dont know what i want in life
Nothing feels enough. Not beauty, wealth, admiration or love. I go through periods of sticking to different extreme life philosophies and always return to emptiness. Maybe its a part of being young. But its gotten to the point where i cant trust any of my long-term decisions and im starting to suspect its going to be like this forever. Its just hard to imagine ever reching a conclusion and finding happiness with the way that i am.
What stage are you all in in regards to finding meaning???
>be bored, lonely 22 yr old gfd anon
>look for ideal qt short bf for months
>Sift through 100s of messages from creepy sissy guys and old creeps that are "mentally my age" for a month
>find one that's actually sane, a little funny too.
>trade pics
>oh shit oh fuck they're actually cute too, really cute
>long haired 5'4'' 19 skinny androgynous twink
>both get tested for covid and go on sweet mask dates in the park and I spoil him with nice patio dinners
>Buy him a few big sweaters and treat him like the sweet boy he is, and feel sweet together
>Breaks off the relationship after a few weeks and says he "needs to work on himself"
Life just isn't fair anons. Pic rel.
How do I even know if an internet friend likes talking to me?
I have this internet friend that I have been friends with for a couple of months. She's really nice and we have a lot in common but.. Over the past couple of months it's always me who has to start the conversations. Sometime's we'll be talking and she just doesn't respond for days, or just never, until I say Hi again. Our conversations are also a little dry. She has voicechatted with me too and she always says it'd be really cool to meet sometime in real life.But.. I don't know. Maybe she's just being nice? Maybe she's busy? Or maybe she doesn't enjoy chatting with me at all. I don't know frens.. I just wish I wasn't so confused
>tfw no smarter faster stronger bf to explain coexponential types, transfer operators and esoteric Vajryana to me
I just want to smoke pot and solve math equations.
At what point does paranoia become a diagnosable problem?
Since I was around 11 years old I've been very on guard around people and their intentions, enough to the point that I ghosted an online best friend because I was paranoid about her (shitty, I know. we talked it out later though) I think it started because I was bullied and backstabbed in a major way in elementary school.
Now, I am still very paranoid, but it's gotten worse and spread to aspects of my life that aren't purely social. Cameras in my apartment, neighbours spying on me, religious stuff (I was raised atheist), superstitions, and a slight odd fear of even numbers? I can't trust anybody – men especially. I always think that men are going to harm me physically. I'm still functional due to the fact that I know most of this stuff is probably me freaking out for no reason.
I can't imagine anybody genuinely wanting to talk to me without an ulterior motive. I always feel like the people I know are banding together to fuck me over in a major way or hurt me. This really fucking sucks because I isolate myself from everybody just to keep myself safe or because I feel like they hate me, but all I want is a bf and a stable irl friend group.
I have a slight family history of schizophrenia but that relative was fairly distant. I don't hallucinate or anything like that, so I'm not sure what this is, or if it's just anxiety.
Are there any ways to deal with this? Is this a chronic problem I'll have to deal with for the rest of my life? Is there even hope for me to have a healthy relationship?
What to do if you have a crush on your straight best mate? Anyone here ever had this issue? If so what did you do?
whens the first time you remember thinking about your looks?
For me it was about twelve or thirteen or so. I was in gym and a guy told me I had a porky pig nose. I laughed because I didn't know what else to do and ran off to the bathroom where I burst out in tears and wouldn't stop looking in the mirror. Before then I had a sort of ignorant confidence and had never really thought about the possibility of me being ugly.
Internet SO's
(some slight bladerunner 2049 spoilers but not really)
Just came back from across the country today from a week-long vacation visiting my "internet boyfriend"- a guy I met on another chan that I fell in love with and went to meet IRL for the first time. It was insanely bizarre– to go from videochatting every single day to actually being able to touch and hold and caress and sex him.It was everything I'd hoped it would be, but now that I'm back in this crappy part of the world and away from him it is so painful. Part of me thinks it was a mistake to allow myself to fall in love with someone I met online, but another part recognizes that this is life and living and love is never painless.
We saw the new blade runner together and that moment when the wAIfu was disconnected from the house and started walking around and experiencing things felt so real to me. It was like Her, except in real life.
I don't think I can bear to be apart from him anymore. It is so painful and I feel so physically alone now, all by myself in a city with no friends.
Share other similar experiences? How do you deal with this?
Suppose your friend was having an affair with her married boss, how should she end the relationship? What would be the exact words, what to say to prevent drama and keep the job? (She's a barmaid.)
How do I become less judgmental and more accepting of other people's POV and opinion? I don't think I'm better than others, but if I can't find common ground on some subjects, it ruins the entire person for me. For example making excuses for shitty people or having hobbies that seem goofy to me.
what's wrong with me? i'm the only one ruining my life but i can't stop. i want to be the best version of myself but i can't stop self-sabotaging
Me and this guy met on tider. We’ve been talking for a week and have seen each other in person 3 times. He really wants to have sex with me and gets halfies during our hardcore makeout seshs. We like the same shit. Anime, 4chan, paganism. I feel like I’m being too easy cause last night he played around with my boobs. I don’t know how to feel. I want to have sex, but I don’t want to be a easy little whore. I don’t want him to think low of me, even though he’s seen my breast. I want to disappear and just ghost him so badly right now. I just want to have a relationship.
Friend & siblings
This is something that has been eating me for a while. I have a very deep crush for the brother of my best friend from childhood. We have really good chemistry and lately we have become very close, it's getting harder with each passing day to suppress the need to confess or take steps at this point. To be honest there isn't any reason not to, except that I'm very insecure about how my friend will react to this.
She means everything to me, we have been together in everything, I wouldn't have with whom to share my happiness nor my sorrow. If she somehow doesn't approve our relationship or gets mad at me I wouldn't forgive myself for trading her trust and friendship for something that feels selfish or just wrong, but it is definitely what my heart wants.
So I am kind of desperate to hear if anyone has experiences similar to mine or if you have heard of such cases. How did it go? Is my fear just stupid? A part of me believes I'm overthinking and even if she's against it she'll grow to accept it over time.
the one who got away
do any of you know how this concept really works? did any of you lose a really great guy? is he coming back ever? pls share stories
anyone from portugal? i always see other girls act too bitchy when trying to pick up guys and I dont get it
who /lazy/ here
I'm starting a new job soon but I really don't want to go back to work
Betrayal
I am a part of a gang of friends. One of my friends really betrayed my trust. What can I consider as acceptable from my other friends, knowing that they know the situation and acknowledge that it wasn’t right?
I tried to treat her like normal tho there was no accountability from her side. She blamed instead for overreacting and my other friends agreed with me that I didn’t. On group chats, I can talk to her but seeing her today, I felt ultimately disgusted.
Vent thread
>>38741 last thread reached bump limit so I thought it would be a good idea to make a new one
A thread for talking about your problems and venting your frustrations.
How do you want to do stuff
I just cba to do anything. All the things I was into like anime, movies, make-up, fashion, braiding, even pointless shit like watching anime and drinking just feels boring to me. I am always like "yeah I will do X later I cannot right now" and later usually never comes.
Only thing I enjoy nowadays is taking long contemplative walks at night or in a forest by myself so that i feel scared and unsafe. The danger is the only thing that makes me feel alive. Also smoking I guess.
Maybe it is just depression but I used to be a lot more depressed some years back when I did all that suff, nowadays I just feel sort of disappointed and bored.
I took a plan b on the 7th of this month. I had my period on the 1st, but yesterday I started it again? I don’t know. I don’t know if my body is reacting to the plan b or I’m having a miscarriage or WHAT is going on. I was supposed to have it in THREE weeks, yet here I am having it the week after the other one. Kinda scared
Vent Thread
A thread for getting things off your chest, say what's on your mind, organize your thoughts, anything goes.
We reached bump limit. Old thread: >>35766
The "Sorry" Thread
Have you ever wanted to apologise to someone but never had the chance or courage? Do you want to rehearse your words before you go through it? Just wanna vent on an apologetic note?
Write your feelings away.
Medication/anti-depressants thread
Who else here is medicated? I've been on sertralin for a couple months now and I hate it. I feel nauseous and my appetite and enjoyment of food has completely left me, I've lost a good deal of weight. Anyone else here have any experience with anti depressants?
Actual women's sexuality
I thought I was asexual until my 20s because main stream sexuality is so male gaze-y (woman must always be pretty and perfect, sex isn't about emotional connection but domination/consuming her, porn influenced sex).
It seems even the stuff geared towards women isn't really authentic. Romance is boring and just feels like a script for the guy to follow, or borders on creepy stalky shit. I read some fanfiction but it's mostly written by people who haven't had sex or relationships yet kek.
I'm fucking frustrated, I want to have a good time but it seems men's sexuality fucks everything up. How do you even know if a guy wants to have non porny sex, without coming off as "slut"? Is there tells?
in love with best friend's girlfriend
i think im in love with my best moid friend's gf. we buy each other gifts and call each other wife but i cant tell if its genuine or just girls joking about marrying each other. she's so affectionate towards me and calls her bf stupid, vents to me about him sometimes.
really scared about homewrecking but also scared i am misreading her.
Men in groupwork
It gets so fucking tiring to keep having to handle men's triggeredness and pettiness. Literally all you have to do is not use nicey filler words that women are expected to use, "hopefully that makes sense?" "in my personal opinion…" "I could be wrong but…" "I think maybe we should…"
They get a personal grudge if you don't act completely submissive. Not to mention all the blatant idea stealing, I say my idea and it gets ignored, then literally 3 seconds later some dude steals it and they pat each other on the dick "yeah that's a great idea!" Hard not to sperg out. I hate the islam ones especially, acting especially pissy because they think women should be kept in the house. Petty fucking shits.
When did sex positivity turn into shaming women with social issues?
why do i hate my own gender so much
pic unrelated, it isn't jealousy..because I know I am beautiful, but so are like a million others girls and anyones beauty doesn't mean lack of the others.
I am super fem..so why do girls just..piss me off. I want to like women more, have more female friends. But it's just so hard.
And this isn't 'not like other girls', cuz again im super girly nd shit…
look yourself in the mirror right now and ask yourself if who you see could be someone’s mother
What’s one wish you would make?
who is going to save you anon?
i have never cum from having sex with a man. even when i was extremely attracted to him. i dont take antidepressants or birth control. am i retarded? genetic dead end? ? should i just kms?
Femcel Pottery Thread — NO STACIES ALLOWED
>every ugly woman is a mirror of cruelty
>a flesh-paned silver screen faulty
>for every man that looks upon her face
>and sees her irredeemable disgrace
>cannot refrain from hurling hate
>at a woman with no chance to ingratiate
>eyes that follow, eyes that taunt,
>eyes that cross, lacrimate, and haunt—
>with those eyes bear witness to
>the common tragedy of the dioecious:
>from the rakes who rent whores
>to the flowering spores of the lepidobotryaceae
>males only want stacy
hot asian guy at grad school. he scowls all the time, acts fake polite to people to get them to stop bothering him, and leaves as soon as he can. he doesn't have a girlfriend. how do you get his attention?
has anyone gotten professional help for any of these issues
>paranoia
>depersonalization/dissociation
>cptsd
>sexual assault
i'm trying to get a feel for what to expect when i dump my issues on a therapist
i guess emphasis on the first 2 because that has been preventing me from going, to the extent that i keep cancelling/not showing up
Men hating obsession
>tfw i can't stop thinking about how much I hate men
>tfw my internal monolouge consists only of the phrase "I hate men"
>tfw I can't read or think or concentrate on anything else but my hatred for men
what's wrong with me? why is my brain so fucked up? do I have OCD?
How do I escape the sneaking feeling that my boyfriend doesn't really care about me and wouldn't care about me if I was less physically endowed?
How do I screen men who just want to use me for sex? I want love but I'm terrified of being pump and dumped and discarded.
I'm new to dating so this feels like a minefield and like I will just be used no matter what I do.
Is it wrong to want someone else's bf? I have a pair of friends who are dating but I really like one of them and I feel bad for wishing they would break up so I could have a chance. I feel like a terrible friend just thinking about it. I would hate to see them break up since I know how much they love each other but my feelings clash pretty often on this.
>crashed my first car the first time i drove it
>had my license revoked for a while
>got fired from job for doing dumb impulsive shit
>consistently forget to take my meds
>don't take care of my body
why the fuck do i do this to myself? why do i keep self sabotaging? i can't get a job, nobody likes me, and i'm unattractive in every aspect. every time to try to do something good i fuck it up without fail and i'm not even allowed to kill myself. i don't even want to go into any career because it's just a matter of time before i fuck that up too. god i fucking hate myself
Anyone bipolar here? What have you been trying to achieve during your mania episodes?
>gift dad his portrait as a surprise present
>he smiles, says thank you, and goes back to doing his stuff
Daddy doesn’t love me confirmed
I don't like who I am, the hand I was dealt, and my place in the world.
I wish I skinwalking was a thing and I could just become someone else.
Does his heart belong to the pussy, or to your whole person?
How can you know?
Hate my little brother
I'm in my early 20s and he's still in elementary school. We have very similar features and health issues, and my parents treat him way fucking better than me. Pretty sure it's due to the fact that he's a male, they're retarded ass traditionalists. While they yelled at me to stop complaining about my health problems growing up, they listen to him and take him to doctors, meanwhile I have to fucking deal with the long term consequences of them not giving a shit about me. They buy him everything he wants, praise him for doing good at school… I want to fucking sperg out every time I have to see him being treated so much shitting better. They're delusional if they think I'm going to help or care for them or my brother, as soon as I suck them dry of college money I'm ghosting. Fucking bye you misogynistic shit stains, you reap what you sow. I hope your pwecious widdle son gets addicted to videogames and porn and fails at life, because that's the road he's going if he keeps being so fucking coddled. Little shit demands his mom feeds him while he watches the tv because 'he doesn't want to look away'.
NEETS
I know you're out there! Lets share some NEET feels and talk about our situation.
>why are you a NEET?
>how long have you been a NEET for?
>do you like it? why or why not?
>have you ever tried to do anything to change your situation?
>how much longer do you see yourself living this way for?
>how do you spend your free time?
Any other autist here who feels like everyone hates them
Whenever I talk to people I'm paranoid of making a social mistake and I compasate with being kind of a kissass
Was bullied hard at school for being an autist and I'm so afraid of failing like this again
Every time I talk to other I think wow I propable embarrassed myself and they dislike me
Sexuality
Is it normal to start having sexual feelings about a different sex than I have previously liked at a late teen age? I have way passed puberty, but some things are…stirring in me about women. Is this normal to have? Thanks anons.
Prematurely ageing
The stuff that my dermatologist gave me for my acne gave me noticeable premature wrinkles, and I STILL have acne, woohoo. I kept making sure with her, and she just brushed it off as normal, no big deal, your skin will become normal once the treatment is over. F-ing liar. I hate this. I look like 7 years older. I don't have the best looking face and this made me even more depressed. Whenever I try to improve it just blows up in my face, either by bad luck or people treating me shitty because of obvious autistic body language, thinking that they can get away with it.
Bisexual feels
Dear miners, help me out?
I'm so confused by my sexuality. I admitted to myself that I'm attracted to girls when I was 14 and came out as lesbian to my family because I didn't know bisexuality was a real thing. Later I realized that and have been living as bi ever since (10+ years). I never dealt with anything but casual homophobia and have had a supportive environment.
I have been in love with several women and several men, but the majority of my dating experience has been with men. I'm a femme who likes other femmes, so it's hard to be recognized as a wlw without outright stating it, so that may have something to do with it. Dating men is easy. But I'm not attracted to male bodies; I can appreciate a handsome face and a good body, but when it comes to women, I can find something attractive or endearing in almost any of them. On the other hand, I don't have as much of a sex drive with women - though I wonder if my sex life with men is tainted by my need for validation, so I have more sex to be a sexy sex-having cool girl, not because I want it all the time? Man, I don't know. I do know that I prefer penises, but I haven't had an ongoing sexual relationship with a woman, only long-distance dating or flings, so there is a lot left to discover.
I wonder if I can ever be truly happy dating one or the other. When I'm with a man, I miss femininity, but I'm drawn to the easier social structures that come with heterosexual relationships and being pursued and submitting to the man, so to speak. I guess I have a lot of internalized sexism to deal with, but that's another story. When it comes down to it though, f/f relationships seem so right and true to me, and I fear that I may just be buying into the romantization of lesbian relationships. I feel like such a fraud and like I can't be happy either way. I currently have a boyfriend and he doesn't mind me being with girls casually, but he wouldn't like me being emotionally involved with someone else no matter their gender.
What am I? Do I keep dating men and missing being with a woman? Do I date women and feel like a fraud for being less sexual and missing dick?
Happy Thread
There's no recent thread that's all about positivity and I bet many would benefit from sharing and reading about happy stuff so I'm gonna start one. Feel free to share anything from your life that is currently making you happy!
Is it true that most women are doomed to be submissive to their partner? I pride myself in being an independent person who isn't afraid to speak their mind. I'm 25 and haven't had a boyfriend since early high school. I'd like to imagine I wouldn't be the kind of person who just does whatever my partner says or values his opinion more highly than mine. I'm a virgin but I enjoy femdom porn a fair amount…
The issue I have is that i'm deeply afraid that when I get into a relationship, it'll melt away and i'll be like every other girl who lets the male take charge in everything. I've heard stories about "strong women" who end up loving being submissive to men when they actually get into relationships. I also feel like in general it would be very hard to find a man who isn't into being some macho dominant guy who doesn't care what his partner thinks. I'd like to think that the ideal relationship for me is a 50/50 relationship, one where I truly feel equal to my partner. We both respect each others opinions, we're willing to share duties, we're willing to switch things up sexually, etc. I mean a real emphasize on equal, I do not want some wimpy submissive boy who just wants me to mommy them. I still want a real man, just one that doesn't expect to dominate everything in my life.
So, are all women doomed to enjoy being submissive to men? And is it realistic to find a male who truly wants an equal relationship?
BDD
Has anyone here had bdd before and gotten over it? How? Or rather, how can you tell if you are just ugly instead of "having bdd". Gemeral bdd thread
creepy coworker
I work in a male dominated job, unfortunately they are very immature.
I'm short and shy which makes me an easy target. There is an older man, he is old enough to be my dad, who seems to be really interested in me for sick mental pleasures. I don't believe he is into me physically just the psychological aspect.
I'm easily rattled, I can give others a reaction easily. Which sucks. I'm still working on that. I'm improving though :) so I'm proud of myself for that. I feel a bit more stronger and confident on controlling my reactions. It's hard trying still, in such a toxic environment. So I'm pretty sure he likes that about me. Thing is, I have a "crush" on him which makes it worse. And everyone at work knows that cause word got out (yea I was stupid to confide in someone).
AND my department is also part of this. Trying to make me think about him, saying his name when I'm around. I try to avoid him, such as eating lunch later and taking my breaks later. Avoiding eye contact, acting emotionless. He used to sit right in front of me in the break room in my first few months of working there, we talked eventually there wasn't much to talk about since he's a really uninteresting boring person and doesn't engage much in what I'd say. So he started to sit right behind me, on my right side. So pretty much close behind… Which is really creepy for my creepiness level.
When I used to talk to him, most of the time it would be confusing. Or just one sided. Either he won't respond much and just react or he'd be the one talking and trying to get a reaction out of me. He would talk about something then eventually something random and purposely say something off guard and I would be like "what???" then just smile at me. Just confusing, like he has a lot on his mind and needs to spill it all out at once. Or I would talk about anything and he'd make an inflated/random answer to something simple. Like he's weird and crazy. He is well liked by everyone else so I guess popular. Charming, funny. Ugh I hate it. I hate that I like him and that I'm really f*cking frustrated at him and myself for that!
Worst part is that he has a kid! AND A WIFE. And he is doing this! I have a boyfriend!
Recently he flicked part of my hair while I was taking my break. He passed by behind me to his creepy viewing spot. So I turned around and said in the most valley girl assertive tone "I have a boyfriend, don't touch me!" Then he proceeded to blame the wind on that. I really want to punch his face with a metal pole. Next time I want to humiliate him in front of everyone else, just like he is doing to me. I don't believe I'm stooping to his level because I'm confronting him albeit in a mean way idc. I don't want to report to HR unless its dire necessary. I want to take this on my own till then. So girls, what is a way to break down a man with a sense of inflated ego?
I just felt like i never truly had any friends. The people around me kept come and go for one reason or another no matter how well i treat them.
Im really jealous of people that have life long friendships, big circles of friend that they can talk to at anytime of the day, their message notification kept vibrating all day long,…i always thought that im already gotten used to the fact that im not a charmer and every friendship i had was either end in flames or we just grew apart. No one seem to stick around with me, I felt like im forever cursed with not ever having a big or intimate friend circle. Im destined to be alone…
I would only want a boyfriend from 4chan r9k which fucks me over. I have much easily available guys IRL interested in me but them being normie just makes me so disinterested to even be friends with them let alone date.
What has your experiences been with dating from 4chan?
First time dating
My bf doesn't wash his hair. It's so greasy and gross. His main physical appeal is that he looks cute, but he started balding. All he talks about are racing games. He isn't interested in anything I like, and he never took me out on a dinner date (I took him out to the zoo though, it was fun). All we do is hang out at his place (he lives with his mom and she does every chore for him, he doesn't know how wash his clothes or clean the bathroom, and he is 23) or sometimes at my flat. I just watch him play racing games for a couple of hours, we cuddle, and then I leave. He's my first boyfriend ever so I was so excited, but I just don't know… Is that how dating is supposed to be like?
I really want to experience pregnancy and put my seemingly healthy organs to good use, but I don’t want kids of my own and no surrogacy agencies will accept me because I’ve never given birth. What do?
How do fuck do you study without getting distracted? I know anxiety is a meme, but I get so overwhelmed with everything and just go on my phone for 2 hours like a failure
Waiting for a relationship
Have any of you waited to be with someone? Whether it be your choice or theirs?
Right now i'm in a situation where I like someone and they like me back but I don't feel like it's a good idea to get into a relationship just because of our circumstances where we would be LDR for a long time. I've known him for a little over a year. I know what he looks like, sounds like but i'm too scared to give him the same yet he likes me. I'm genuinely ugly and am scared he wouldn't like it. I fear rejection more than anything, i'm already suicidal but I feel like if this boy rejected me for my looks which is something I can't entirely handle it would definitely put me on the brink of suicide and I don't know if I could stop myself. Additionally, while we both like each other we're both incredible losers (both KHHV long term neets) but he is actually handsome albeit f*t currently and know he could do so so much better than me and I feel it's unfair for him to be in a relationship for me. And the final thing is that I kind of don't feel like if I were to get into a relationship, I wouldn't feel like self improving. As much as I like the idea of being whisked away by a guy and kind of not have to think i'm too paranoid and scared of being put in a situation where if we were to break up a year or more later, I would be left at square 1 and still be the huge loser I am just with a heartbreaking experience with my first bf which would likely make me end it all. I'm so incredibly conflicted on dating him. I've told him pretty much all of this yet he keeps pushing me, he keeps telling me it will be okay and that he doesn't care about my looks and that he believes I can self improve. It's very tempting to give in but my shitty morals stop me from doing it. I feel like I am possibly pissing away one of the best opportunities i'll ever have in my life but i'm too scared to commit. I wanted to make a simple thread but I ended up venting a fuck ton. I don't have any other friends besides him, I don't have anyone to vent to.
Any advice on what I should try to do?
Have you ever been in a rebound relationship?
Was it any good?
>freshman year of college
>no job prospects
>no romantic prospects
>still live at home
>no friends
it's all down hill from here isn't it
If men are so bad at sex, why do women have sex with them?
Night Time Thread
Night is a blessing and a curse. The comfiest time and emptiest time. What are you doing awake? Enjoying the quiet? Regrets eating at you?
Please only post if it's night time for you. Night requires a special haven.
Anyone get out of a depression recently?
Maybe this isn't the appropriate place to post this.
But there are probably a few of you out there? It's weird having a new excitement about the world, but not knowing how to function properly to act on it.
I hooked up a few days ago with a dear friend of mine. After I left his house I felt a terrible amount of guilt and have been puking ever since. I feel as if I forced him to do something, even though he was the one who started kissing me. I feel like he hates me because he has seen my body. I am terribly afraid that I might start to feel something towards him. It's been years since I've ever felt affection or similar emotions, and I can't stand it. My head hurts from puking so much. I've already had 3 panic attacks in two days and I've run out of pills. I know he hates me. He thinks I'm disgusting. I know it, It's just a gut feeling I'm getting. What should I do? Should I simply forget about him and move on? I've never felt this way towards someone, I am very afraid I don't know what to do. I'm sorry for the long text, but I need some advice.
I think my bf has ADHD. How can i help?
I think my boyfriend has ADHD/autism. He shows many symptoms but he doesnt want to get a diagnosid or go to a doctor about it because of stigma (he feels really bad about the possibility of having it so he diesnt want to get looked at) Weve been together for a long time and by observing him i can see that having professional guidance on the matter could be really helpful for his life. What can i do? Should i try to convince him or should i leave the matter alone (his body his choice but getting looked at would mean a lot to me).
What do i do?????
what do i do when my fp starts dating someone? has this happened to anyone else? how did you feel?
BPD replies only please
how do I help her?
I work in the office and since my PC at home broke I stay there a lot after my work hours to use the computers. I'm pretty sure I was the last one on my floor today when I found a note left on a piece of paper in the toilet. Translated it was something along the lines 'please help! I'm trapped, respond if you can help me…'. I went back to my room, took some post it notes, wrote 'how can I help you?' and left it in the toilet along with a pen.
what do I do? due to how it looked I'm sure it wasn't a joke. It was left on purpose, at the time when the whole building is usually empty. People from the cleaning service don't speak language it was written in and I'm afraid they will bin both notes and a pen when they do the cleaning over night.
what do I do? I'm so worried that if she won't find her and my notes in the morning she won't reach out again
How do make normie female friends?
Normie as in: “basic”, probably extroverted, uses lots of social media, not super politically-charged, straight/ maybe bi, not a hardcore weeb or gamer, etc.
If it helps, I’m in uni and looking to join clubs and be social
anyone else here just have no friends? i mainly mean irl friends. but ive gotten to the point in my life where even my close internet friends are too busy to talk to me because they found real life friends. im not bitter about that, i think its healthy and theyre way happier. but its just reminded me that i don't really have that, even though i've always wanted that. i have one irl friend but i can tell we're growing apart, fast. shes into partying and all that and thats just not me. id love to join a club or something but.. i had a bad experience with the last club i joined(my fault) and my schedule makes anything like that difficult. where my lonely bitches at?
Cosy things
Name or provide an image of something that makes you feel cosy.
What are really beautiful men like? Do you know any? Doesn’t have to be a bf or lover, can also be your friend, colleague, classmate, neighbor, brother, dad, whatever.
Is it true they’re all dumb and rude?
>4chan Is banned from mcdonalds wifi but crystal cafe is not
Hello, I'm looking for someone that used to post a throwaway email here.
The throwaway email is [email protected]
If you're still here, please check it. I'm deeply concerned.
just got cheated on
found out my boyfriend was swiping on girls with the knowledge of my complex trauma. i have lost faith in human relationships. i feel so numb and nauseous. how far can the depravity of man go with their deviancy and cumbrains
I’ve spent my whole life being second choice. Family, friends, relationships… I cannot think of a single time someone picked me first unless there were literally no other choices.
Anyone relate?
Oxytocin is like a biochemical marker of your social relationships. Human connection and touch releases oxytocin which interacts with your other chemicals and your biology in general. So if you are lonely or socially isolated or starved of physical touch then its impacting your physiology negatively Increasing stress hormones, increasing resting heart rate, decreasing body temperature, decrease quality of sleep, problems falling asleep, disturbing appetite and probably causing full blown depression.
You don't just get it from a partner, but also from physical contact with friends, family and so on. So how do I get oxytocin?
I'm so lonely. I'm not happy. I don't really enjoy anything anymore.
Quitting Imageboards
Halp. How do I quit imageboards forever? I've been here for way too long.
Imageboards have done nothing for my life but made me a pessimistic, depressed little b*tch content with my isolation. I'm completely addicted to the internet, pron and video games and I hate it so much. I have important things in life that I need to focus on, like school but can't because I keep getting distracted by this meaningless escapism. I'm completely wasting my life, I'm 18 now and have very little real life experience, zero friends and terrible social skills. The only people I can talk to are my parents. I'm such an absolute wreck and often feel like I'm gonna be this way forever but I want to change I really want to change. Is there any hope for me? Have any of you ever tried to leave?
Does no-shlick really improve pheromones and skin, or is that only for no-fap?
I feel the issue of being a stranger is the real cause of femcels and of most future woes of the western world.
Think to yourself. Has any stranger ever walked up to you and talked to you about anything, and if they have are they even remotely your friend now? I mean like a real stranger not someone in your class or at a party, which in the post implys you have the money to throw away taking classes for the sake of talking to people or already have friends hence being at a party; but just in the world, on the street, at a store etc. Have you any friends that walked up to you at these places that youre still friends with now?
>"I must be really pretty cause people are always staring at me!"
>gain confidence and learn to hide autism
>people stop staring
>oh
How to cope with being mediocre?
how to handle hostility from crush?
>black femcel here
>randomly in the middle of the semester i start obsessing over this person
>just like everyone i come across he always broke eye contact immediately, never looked me in the face and actively avoided me
>quite literally out of nowhere he starts noticing me
>starts holding doors for me and waits for me even though I’m an awkward distance away from the door
>even one time with his foot and he acknowledged my existence he seemed to be looking at the area around my chin
>i’d always say thank you but never got a response
>he then starts acting hostile every time he saw me
>he puts his phone down, breathes in, puffs his chest out, made prolonged eye contact (head following me), then when i pass him he follows me
> he either then stood some space behind me, across from me or just smack straight in front of me
>he always stood by the exit so there was no way for me to avoid him
>I’m a loser so i took this as attraction and i gave him a valentines bag in the middle of December
>he leaves it on the ground and i came back to my senses on who i am
>he starts avoiding me again and i leave him alone
>once the semester was over i coincidentally ran into him everywhere and found out we both take the same transportation home
>my attraction towards him was still there
>since it happened months ago from that time i thought maybe i could start brand new and introduce myself
>i chickened out each time but stopped pursuing when i was talking with a classmate and i turn to look at her and he’s smack dab right behind her
>i assume he found out i like him
>rest of the month before covid he’d notice me a lot and became hostile again
>he’d see me down the hall, stop, wait on me to walk past him, make prolonged eye contact (head following) and then follow behind me
is he seriously that mad an ugly girl gave him a valentines bag? is he waiting on me down the hall expecting another one? googles telling me he's trying to pick a fight he is around 5'11 and I'm really not trying to get bodied what should i do
Feeling inferior and jealous
I feel inferior compared to my friends. I can never do sports, I don't have any musical skills nor am I the best in my studies. My leadership skills also at best, is mediacore. I hate feeling envious whenever my friends gets an award or scores better than me.
I was close with this group of friends, and they are great achievers, honestly. But day by day, some of them made it obvious that I don't belong to them. They kept me out of the convo,celebrated everyone's birthday but somehow forgot mine. I ended up leaving them.
But now, I can't help but keep comparing myself to them. I absolutely failed an interview and I am really ashamed of how it went. But most of them applied for the same thing and got it. I'm the only one who applied and failed miserably. The interviewers legit were laughing at me.
When it comes to studies, most of them are able to score a solid A while I could barely muster up an A-. They're also more socially outgoing and 'charismatic' than I am. I'm so tired of this game with my mind.
Building sexual confidence
How does one become more sexually confident as a virgin?
(Without just going out and having sex, of course.)
Images my bf every day watches
Hi! My bf and I live in Spain together since a year ago.
A few months ago I discovered than my boyfriend is constantly watching erotic/ pornografic images in 4chan platform of women and girls with amazing bodies.
I'm feeling terrible, Now I'm constantly thinking about myself (my body en general).
Sice always I've been so complexed about myself (I'm too short, a little bit overweight and with big boobs)
Its something wrong with me?
Should I forget everything?
I'm feeling do sad, probably I'm not enough for him. I don't know what to do.
I would apreciate your advices and your tips.
Pd. I usually don't write in english, sorry if I made any gramatic mistake
I'm 20 years old and I haven't even had my first kiss. What's my problem? No, I'm not fat or autistic.
Help
I am confused if either of my parents are narc or they’re just toxic or as they said, I’m just an ungrateful bad child.
A little flashback, growing up, I always don’t have much memory of my past. Somehow when it comes to that or issue relating to my family, my memory is really bad. I’m super good in my studies tho. I do remember bits of pieces here and there and none of it was good.
I remember being kicked to a corner by my dad just because I didn’t want to share my ice cream with my brother. I demanded him to ask me nicely and I’ll give but he didn’t. Perhaps, I even got slapped in the car for it and as I arrived home, my dad legit kicked me. I don’t remember my mum protecting me. I was around 10 y/o. From what I remember, my dad would never listen to what we have to say and whatever mistake we did (or we didn’t), we’ll be beaten severely till it bruises. Not to mention, how he degrades me and mocks my achievements if I didn’t act as he wanted me to,
I also remember how my intelligence was constantly mocked when I was younger. Especially coming from my mum, she’ll say stuff like I would’ve never achieved anything if it wasn’t for her. That I am nothing but stupid. The next time I achieved good grades, she wanted to reward me but I rejected it and told her you called me stupid, right? To which on the next day, she tried to guiltrip me by saying that I’m was rude to her and that she deserves an apology from me.
Fast forward, during my teen years, I had been really insecure. In class, I would not be talking to anyone yet, it wouldn’t be an issue for me to walk up to the stage and talk to the crowd. I do remember being shamed by my mother for my skin colour, voice and how I looked generally. I used to also get scared of talking to ppl.
Somehow, after high school ended, I got over my issues. I revamped my character as a whole and became a whole new confident, out-going person. I don’t know how but somehow me and my mother grew close. This and I was living far from them. She’ll tell me about her issues and I’ll tell her mine. She’ll call me multiple times a day. It wasn’t really anything suffocating and truthfully I enjoyed her presence.
But then, since this whole pandemic happened, we are locked together in this house. I’ve noticed that my father has changed alot as he is not the person he used to be. I used to think that he might be narcissistic as he had this huge rage and couldn’t really emphatise with anyone.
But my mum, wow. Me and my sister got into a fight. Somehow, my mum came into my room and scolded me for being immature. It wasn’t even a proper fight. My sister was giving me the silent treatment for some reason I don’t know of and I needed the room for myself. I told her that calmly and she ignored me. I ended up dragging her out of the room and she slammed the door herself. To which, my mum scolded me and brought up every single issue I ever had with my friends in the past to prove the point that I was the one who behaved wrongly.
My sister continued to ignore me for a month or so. She wouldn’t even enter our room if I was in there. I couldn’t stand that so I moved to my brother’s room and slept there. I used to be really close with my sister so I honestly, can’t understand why is this fight getting this huge. My mum knowing that I slept outside, came to my room and scolded me. Again, telling me how Inconsiderate of a child I am, I never cared about how she felt, how could I do this to my sister bla bla. I was crying and I really couldnt take it so I asked her to stop. I explained how I am hurt over my sister’s behaviour and both my parents mocked my emotions. Legit, the mocked the way I talked and made faces while repeating what I said and told me to get back into my room.
After that event, I don’t think my sister ever talked to me properly except if she needs something. I’ve tried making small talks about the games she’s playing or something and she will say that I’m making too much noise and move somewhere else. If I ever raise my voice towards my sister, I’ll be getting it from my mother. She’ll nag me to the point I feel like I’m such a bad child and deserving of hell. She is also a religious person and kept telling me that god is watching and everyone would get their punishment for treating her like this. I’ve gotten an anxiety attack once in front of her yet, she never acknowledged it tho I told her that I couldn’t breathe at that time. She just continued talking about her issues.
What confuses me is that, once, I almost wanted to quit my course because I couldn’t handle the stress and she came all the way to my uni to comfort me, which was a 5 hour driving distance. I love ice creams so from time to time, she will take me out. If I ever need anything from the mall, she will bring me out happily. But then again, most of the times, she only cares about my grades. When we fight, she would mention that just because I got good grades, I think I’m such a great person, isnt it? But then again also, one of the reasons that I wanted to change uni was because I got involved with a narc friend and he managed to convince me that I am indeed stupid and not deserving of the course I took which my mum tried super-hard to make me feel better?
This turned out quite long but I guess, I just wanted someone else to know this, as well. I hate being so confused, haih.
>tfw you will never have a group of girls (no good equivalent to the word 'guys') to sit around and shoot the shit with
>tfw you sit at the bar alone drinking beer after beer hoping for another lone woman to enter
>tfw all of your female friends have husbands and barely have time to hang out with you without them
>tfw none of your 'friends' (male) understand you at all
im reaching my breaking point.
Sadposting
Go
>go on 4chan
>entertaining to scroll through but I don't feel I belong
>too many naked girls
>too many fetishes
>too many nazis
>talking about how all woman are shitty
>true-ish
>girl friends irl normies
>distance myself from feminine traits
>hate girls
>find this site
>browse
>could it be?
>a place where I belong?
I never throught there was somewhere for us. I knew I couldn't be alone.
Help me cope with grooming
Hello everyone
This is my first time posting on /feels/ and im glad CC is such a warm and supportive community because I can post sensitive topics.
I was groomed online and i dont know how to cope with it. It all started when I was 11, my mom let me have a facebook account (she controle it) and since I've always been a weeb I joined a group of anime lovers. Some dude added me and we started to chat frecuently, he was 5 years older than me and by time we became friends. But when i was 13 I "fell in love" with him, and he took adventage of that. In that time he was 18 and he asked me for nude pictures. I agreed and after that night everything became worse because we kept exchanging lewd messages for other three years. I knew something was wrong at 16 and blocked him on all social media, and deleted my facebook.
I feel so sick by just thinking I satisfied a pedophile's desaires without even knowing, i just pretended he was my boyfriend.
Tl;dr: I was groomed and i need advice, so please help girls ;_;
Also my mom stopped controlling my facebook when I hit purberty so she doesnt know.
How do i get a gf?
ive always liked girls but ive never had a gf before. i dont know any girls that aren’t straight, i dont leave the house and i just have no idea how to meet girls. how do i meet girls that like girls?
I feel like my family is turning a blind eye on my mental illness
>grandmother dies, mom sends brother to therapy
>start starving myself at 13 for around 2-3 years despite being thin to begin with, nobody cares
>gain a bit of weight back, mom points out that I gained weight, suggest I don't wear very short pants anymore if I feel uncomfortable, making me feel even more insecure
>am the only person not participating in prom, parents say they're disappointed instead of asking why (the reason being me thinking I'm too disgustingly fat + lovely boys in my class made an "ugly girls, don't dance with"-list I was on)
>get very depressed after graduating, cry all the time, even tell my mom that I have suicial thoughts, she only get's angry
>around the same time my brother get's himself diagnosed with ptsd because he had a falling out with members of a local club, resulting in me also no longer being welcome there
>fail to find friends in university, of course never date either, barely sleep, gain 50 lbs more, don't brush my teeth, don't wash my hair or face, wear the same clothes for a month, cope with it by joking that I'm lazy, family goes along with it
>brother calls me fat and ugly every day he visits home, no1currs that he makes me cry, mom worships the ground he walks on
>little sister starts eating less and less, I tell my mom for months that she can't allow her that, am scared that my once extrovert sis turns out as fucked as me, I constantly get nightmares about her
>she finally sees therapist, but mood at home is horrible, sis cries on the daily, my dad has zero patience for her, mom is so fed up, constantly complaining to me, meanwhile I should study for my finals in less than 2 months, but I can't because I'm too down
Am I in the wrong for feeling like I was neglected and my problems being downplayed? My siblings are extroverted, attractive, popular, extremely talkative, my sister is spoiled, always get's brand clothes, meanwhile I barely talk at all. I'm the oldest and I was very mature as a kid or I had to be, I was always very quiet, get constantly told that I must take care of my siblings despite already doing that anyway, I'm supposed to be the easy, unproblematic one. My parents were so strict with me, I never dared to talk or ask for things, I'm so easily scared and so dependent on them now, I feel bad or guilty for the tiniest things, even just for writing this post. Every person always says how different my siblings and I are, me not being well is becoming more and more obvious to everyone, my coworkers at my parttime job also immediately noticed that I'm way too timid and silent, panicking because of tiny mistakes, I'm also the only one who doesn't take care of her appearance at all, yet my family doesn't give a fuck.
My mother has no problems with recognizing mental illnesses in others, even if their symptoms are much less severe than mine. Because my younger siblings are in therapy she constantly asks if she's a bad mom and of course I tell her that it's not her fault, but I just want to yell Mom, look at me, you really think I'm the right person to answer that question?! But I don't because I don't want her to feel sad or guilty. For years I tried to tell that I feel so awful, I tried to seek help from my uni's counsellor but he's an idiot who's always absent from his office/skips appointments, but her only advice is "you'd feel much better if you met up with friends" "you'd feel much better if you lost weight". My anxiety is so high that I'm even nervous around people whom I've known since kindergarten, plus I don't have friends. And it's not like I haven't tried losing weight, my weight gain isn't the cause but the side effect of my problems.
I just feel like I can't go on anymore, I don't have any hope for the future, I'm so scared of failing those exams and thus resulting in all those years of going to school and uni being for nothing, I either want to end it all or just run away, start somewhere anew and live a simple life working some lowpaying job.
What is the meaning of life/human existence?
The fact that most men watch porn even when theyre in a relationship makes me wants to die. How the fuck am I supposed to find a bf when 99% of men are coomers because they cant stop themselves to save their life from jacking off to a screen. I wish guys understood how shitty it makes us feel. You’ll never look as good as the girls he sees on porn. Anyone else feel this way?
Dealing with Narc Friend
I was friends with someone who had narc tendencies. He treated me poorly and was never been able to give explanation for his actions. He tends to badmouth everyone around him and he badmouthed someone who was a close friend to him.
I asked the narc on his reasons for doing so and he couldn’t give any explanation. He was purely defaming his friend’s character and abilities. I proceeded to warn the said friend as the said friend is also kinda close to me. The said friend confronted the narc and he ended up saying everything he said to me to the friend’s face and they friendship ended right there right then.
Along the way, I ended my friendship with the narc as well as he crossed way too many boundaries and lines, both with his actions and words.
The question is that, I feel guilty although I feel like what I did was right. Was my judgement wrong and I’m just denying it? Or is it because the narc wanted me to feel ashamed and guilty about it and I’m still not free from his chambers?
>have a male friend that keeps fucking up with you
>for some dumb reason still love him and wish the best for him
>he keeps fucking up and hurting you
>give him chances because "he can get better"
>its been 3 years
>finally get to see what he thinks of me through my friend's DMs
>delete him from everywhere
I know I'm stupid for giving chances and have "hopes" that it might be better no matter how many redflags I get. Maybe I'm too nice, that's what some friends tell me. Did I do the right move ? I still feel absolutely shattered.
ex-boyfriend wants me back
my ex and i broke up over a year ago, it was a mutual agreement. on my end, i was realizing i really wasnt that into guys (with the exception of fictional men, as they arent real, and real men repulse me). our relationship took a turn for the worst because he was a huge "ironic" misogynist, and we constantly argued that we both stop being friends until recently. he went through some very hard times and came to me for support. he's absolutely changed from the time we last spoke, but his interactions with me have been going to an intimate direction. the problem with that is im a lesbian now and i dont see him that way at all.
Being more hopeful
I'm a very jaded, shy and anxious person, but deep down, I just want to be happy. I want to be one of those girls who has a sparkle in their eyes and warm, kind energy. I want stray and wild animals to instinctively like me. I want to smile at people, have them smile back, and not feel bad if they don't. I want babies to smile at me and kids to just automatically like me. I know these kinds of people exist, because I've been around them. Me, on the other hand? People think I'm glaring at them if I stare too long, when the truth is, they look familiar, or I think they're pretty, or I'm just scared of them.
I just want a cute, happy, pure heart/soul/mind. It's like people can sense evil in me, but I swear it's all aimed at myself, not people in general. I can be snarky or even mean, but I don't hold true malice. I always feel guilty and just want to be friends in the end. Can anyone else relate? Any tips?
Covid Feels
>that feel when you were forced to cancel your summer travel plans to Japan with no reschedule in near sight
Why even live
>i make friends with a guy
>We have a lot in common and chat near every day
>Have voice calls which I rarely do and we watch things together
>I offhandedly mention my bf
>He loses interest in me and messages me a lot less frequently if at all
Why does this always happen? Why do men value friendship so little?
Anybody ever felt stuck in a relationship(romantic, familial, friendships, etc.)?
Tell us why. If you ended it (or if they did) tell how it's been so far too.
Seeing couples
Am I a psycho if seeing happy couples outside makes me sad? I was just at a fireworks show for the Fourth of July because my mom wanted to go and I couldn’t help feeling like shit noticing all the people in attendance seemingly in healthy relationships with loving partners. To be clear, I bear no ill will towards these people—I just wish my life was better.
Am I a bad person?
I posted this to r9k and got a lot of "you are a terrible person please die" responses. Haven't gotten that reaction irl so I was conflicted. If I get similar responses here I will accept it and do some self-reflection.
>Fucked up by an internet pedo when I was around 11.
>Never met irl (thank god) but gave him enough content to potentially get him arrested for CP.
>Almost 20 now and mostly over it but still need a bit of closure
>Want to find him, ask why, get angry, etc. but have no leads. Don't even know if he was ever reported. Sometimes worry that he's still hurting other kids.
Do I go to extreme lengths to hunt this dude down or do I just need to let it go?
(extra new bits) I don't blame this for everything bad in my life, yes I am partially to blame, I do not use this as a crutch and am a functional person. Just would appreciate closure.
Thoughts on motherhood?
I'm torn because on one hand I feel like being a mother would be fulfilling and I like children but on the other hand I detest men and couldn't see myself getting married.
What are your thoughts on becoming a mother and/or motherhood in general?
Okay ladies, how do I convince my bf to wear my underwear and to let me peg him?
what am i?
ever since i was very young i have only had a sexual attraction to girls. i remember seeing women on music videos in bikinis when i was like 8 and thinking they were extremely hot and having sexual attractions towards them. i remember when i discovered porn, and i would look at the females the whole time and only be able to you know what to them. i remember searching up naked women and just finding them so attractive. but the thing is, i like guys. i always thought this was 'normal' for straight girls. until i asked my friend if straight girls find men sexually attractive but not women and they told me yes. i don't find men sexually attractive. like, i don't look at a guy and think oh fuck they are so hot and you know what to them. i find women sexually attractive but not men, but i like men???? its super confusing and im not sure what i am. pls help. i always thought this was just normal and straight girls still found women sexually attractive.
How to stop holding grudges
I've been holding a grudge with someone I live with for several weeks now. We're on speaking terms just about but things very much aren't going to be the same. I'm trying to forgive them but I find it very hard to do so. I genuinely want to get over it but I feel like I'm never going to see them the same way
How do you deal with copycats?
(( Or women who are jealous of you in general ))
Have you ever had a copycat& Have you been copycatting anyone& Have people been jealous of you to a point where they tried to turn your life into theirs and how you dealt with it&
I personally encountered a lot of jealous women and have been copycatted by about 4 people.
2 of which were on internet, the other 2 IRL. The last internet one was obsessed with me to a point that she dyed her hair my colour and wanted to change her name to mine legally. However, right now I am struggling with an IRL one and I am still not too sure on what to do about it.
It's my s/o's little sister who frankly, is 5 years older than me. The first time I met her she was acting okay, even though she would stare at my body and green-eye me. But later then she started giving me odd compliments (when s/o was away) that she would wish she had my face, or she would compliment me and then spend 5 minutes of shitting about herself. Later then on Discord she asked me why I use emotes in every message. I explained myself. She answered that now she knows the secret of my cuteness and is going to steal it. Next day buys nitro for the first time and tries joining servers I am in.
Later it turned into her (and still remains) trying to dress up the same way I do. It's also funny when she is trying to make a knock-off version of my dresses, still, creeps me out. In the past she also tried talking my exact sentences and doing the same 'food preferences'. She is the person who is convinced that 'every fat man has it easy, but fat women are so unlucky, we get nothing!' kek and also is saying that she is a baby on internet and resolves herself around sanrio aesthetic at age of 26. Also everyone are letting her be rude and do ridiclious things because 'wah…shes depressed. we feel bad for her.'.
She is also doing a bunch of shady things right now in order to try to start family drama and is doing weird attempts on turning father's family side against me when I am doing nothing but politely existing. I don't feel like getting too much into it though.
Being around her is unbearable because she acts very immature and again, is trying to copy me. She can't even talk to women her age, only people who are not more than 21. I just want to feel comfortable whenever I have to encounter her, I wish there was a way to blockoff my inner emotions and anxiety completely. If the thing she wanted to do was to make sure I feel like I don't belong in their family whenever she's around, she's doing a good job at it.
Am I bisexual? I always thought I was, at the very most, bicurious since I've only had occasional weak attractions to girls. But I found a girl on instagram(i'll post a pic if you want) and it's making me feel some things… She doesn't shave, and things just clicked in my mind that I'm not attracted to women who shave, but since most women shave, maybe that's why I'm not attracted to most girls? I've been having fantasies recently about hairy girls and stroking their hairy body parts… ugh. I don't know. Is this just because I'm attracted to men and men don't usually shave their body hair so hairy women remind me of men? Or am I actually bisexual? I'm so confused. Pic isn't the girl im talking about.
bibo gam
Do any of you want to play something?
I'm looking for someone to play civ with
friends are so mentally ill
i have a few MtF friends, I tend not to care or comment on their lifestyle choices, but they sort of make me uncomfortable at times. One of them speaks very violently about radfems, and the other is so cynical its so concerning.
Neither of them do a good job at passing, one of them straight up just using a faceapp filter to look feminine. 2nd person claims to be a lesbian and hits on me.
I feel so trapped in these friendships because most of my friend group is pro-trans.
I’m afraid to connect with others because I hate myself and think I’m secretly a terrible person. I’m also a spreg who likes to isolate herself from everyone. Wish quarantine would last forever honestly
i miss him so much. we suffered so much but i love him so deeply i don’t even care. i suffer all night thinking theres a possibility he can’t rest anymore. i miss him because im no longer his. i’m sorry for leaving you, if you see this. J, I loved you for all that you are. Even when we hurt eachother I fucking miss the solace it brought knowing you were there. even as a friend. but i love you too much to ever be your friend. i needed to let you go because i am never going to be what you need. and i’m dangerous. even if i have been trying my best i feel like you deserve.. better. i miss our love, it made me feel like i deserved to be happy. and like maybe i’m not so bad. i’m going crazy alone like this. but i have my girlies to take care of me. but you don’t have someone like my girls.. and although you have your best friend it would be more help if i was still there. i left you bleeding and hurt and didn’t do anything. i miss you, for what is wrong with me. leaving someone, made
for me. i don’t want anyone else, ever again. you’ll call bullshit but nobody loves like you do. nobody treated me like you do. and now i’m going to be alone forever. and that’s my fault. i’d do anything to take it back.. my period was coming and it just reminded me.. of when we met.. how we wanted to take it slow and i refused.. and then i began hurting you.. and you began hurting me.. i’m so fucked. all i can say is you have the most precious heart. and i’m sorry. you don’t deserve any more pain. i’m sorry for doing what i did. i will love you forever. and i’m open to talking.
anyone have any advice? what do i do with all this pain? i left this person without an explanation. i hurt this person. do i let him rest? or talk to him?
I have no motivation to do any kind of work while at home due to covid. I get anxiety about the undone work and just avoid it. I have a project due in a couple days while I haven’t even started on, but I’m so anxious about it
Is there a way to have male friends without them attempting to hook up with you/oversharing about their fetishes or using you as a therapist?
Single Pringles
Singles general. How long have you been single? How do you feel about it?
How can I get over feeling like I need to warn people about my abusive ex? He is out of my life now and has been for a long time but I can't help but feel that by doing nothing I am letting someone else be abused. I really just want to forget about him completely but I feel guilty.
The fact that I've never had a close female friend is really upsetting to me. I've been surrounded by men my whole life, everyone who's ever had an important role to me has been male. I always wanted a close female friend but I've never clicked with anyone and it really hurts, I just want female companionship, a female best friend I can share sisterhood with.
LETTER THREAD
LETTER THREAD
Initials, full name, whatnot, post them letters
Being approached
How would you ladies like yo be approached? I'm quite a sperg and I feel like if I were ever to be approached by a guy IRL I wouldn't know how to react but then on the other hand I don't think social media and/or texting feel like a natural way to be approached by a guy who isn't a total creep.
Messy Thoughts
i just want to have a female friend to talk about mental illness, being a female misogynist, existential crises, having no self, psychology, suicide, trauma and the world I'm mentally fukt and confused and my mind is messy
For people who have been through trauma, do you consider yourself a victim or a survivor?
I hate being a woman. It's the most fundamental thing about my self, but I can't even understand it. Every day I feel this agony because I cannot get outside myself. I will never be able to experience a mind that's not my own. And I hate my mind. I can't think of things categorically, I can't remember complex things, everything takes me a long time, I can't do symbol-heavy activities like mathematics, I fundamentally can't read a fucking map, I can't imagine where I am. I can't see space. I can't see. I feel all the time like I can't see.
I was raised with the unequivocal notion that women and men are equal, and essentially the same. But everything I've discovered since then seems to hint at a difference in experience that, no matter how small in specific quality, seems to be the seed from which two fundamentally separate plants are grown. Reproduction is a fruitless project of hybridization, a hopeless attempt at metissage that every time yields only one isolated species. The project of human evolution is permanently halted in the necessity of human gender.
I was raised to think that women are the same as men, but I know they are different. I know too that they are better at some things. Better at caring, better at nesting, better at intuiting emotion, better at judging value. And when I list these out, they sound like pathetic qualities, and I futilely hope that there must be something else about women that I'm forgetting. But Beauvoir was right when she called woman the "other". Every other quality belongs to man. I feel isolated in this domestic little world, where I can be a woman and small and pointless and absorptive, or I can try to be more, and act against my own abilities.
I know I sound nuts. I know you will read this and say that I'm clearly a self-hating woman, that my perspective is too negative, that I don't understand, that I need to look at it differently. I guess I know that I need to look at it differently. But I don't know how to look at it differently, see the truth, and see a truth that doesn't make me want to cry.
Staying friends with someone after rejecting them
Around two years ago I became close friends with a girl (mtf) online. We watched stuff on rabbit together, talked morning to evening every day and shared our hopes and dreams for the future, as well as our insecurities. Mid last year she told me she had deeper feelings for me, she told me this without any intention of pursuing this and I gently informed her that I've read her message but opted to not say anything else as she'd likely be very upset and blame herself. I have a partner now but I refrain from really talking about them to her as I don't want to hurt her feelings.
She's my closest friend and I hate the thought of hurting her but I'm really worried she still thinks of me romantically and that I'm just stringing her along. Am I being cruel cc?
random shit that pisses/pissed you off
a thread for anger. me first:
>be me
>be sitting in room, thinking about past
>remember "friend" in hs that would always compliment me
>compliments, in my past, have always been cruelly double-sided, false, or used to manipulate me
>don't tell her all that. just kindly ask that she not compliment me so much, it makes me a bit uncomfortable
>she gets mad and starts calling me a bitch instead
>runs off and tells all our friends that i'm "ungrateful" (lol?)
>become even more isolated than i was before
>fast-forward to now
>getting mad all over again
now you
I met a guy through a game online several years ago and since then we’ve been friends aside from a year or so long period where we didn’t speak. When we started speaking again, he confessed his feelings towards me which I rejected and he took it well.
I thought since then he had gotten over it and it was fine, but I found out a few days ago he still has feelings for me. That wouldn’t be an issue, but he’s just started considering going to university. He said he wanted to go to the farthest ones so that he won’t have to commute to get away from his family, and his top 3 choices currently include my dream university which I have made clear that I am dead set on going, and two others that are very close by to it.
Am I overreacting or is this a bit strange? His family does seem crazy and he said those universities have a good reputation for his degree. But, I feel like he wouldn’t have to move so far if he was just adamant on it as well as the fact that he is also severely limiting his choices by basing them on location. A family member of his recently acted out so I think that’s what influenced it but I can’t help but feel self-centred. He mentioned it was a coincidence and at the very least he’d go a year later than me but even then I feel like our relationship would cross a boundary that I don’t want to cross.
Detransition Thread
A thread for FtMtF detransitioners.
Feel free to post in this thread if you…
• Took HRT but now identify as female
• Had a double mastectomy but now identify as female
• Presented yourself as male in the past but now identify as female.
… And so on.
Difficult Room-mates, Feels plus Advice
Has anyone lived with or currently live with someone, a room-mate, a friend, a relative, that they didn't get along with or that was mean to them?
Feels, I guess, plus advice?
How did you survive? (Did you?) What advice do you have? What would you do different? What do you suggest others do?
vent thread
last one reached bump limit.
>>31601
Everyone tells you to go to therapy when you are sexually assaulted. Well I did that and all he did was ask me what happened and say "how does that make you feel". Well what happened is I got raped, and I feel bad because I think it was partially my fault for not being careful.
Thanks therapy, that was no help at all and I had to relive it, again
I'm going to take plan b today for peace of mind. Does anyone have experiences or warnings? I'm very worried about birth control making my brain fog worse, which is already really bad.
Mixed signals from a girl?
Hi girls, I'm just wondering if any of the other gay/bi girls on here had any advice for me. Also this could just be a general lgbt dating thread??? idk
Anyway.
I've been getting kinda mixed signals from a girl I chat to online, we both live in diff countries but not like, the other side of the world kinda thing, more like say an hours flight away. I've only ever dated men and this is my first real crush on a girl, so I don't really know what to look out for. Idk whether she is into girls either, but she has never said otherwise- we are both ace though, and she knows I am biromantic.
But basically, she calls me cute a lot, has even gone so far as to say we are like soulmates, when i mentioned i was chatting to another girl (we used to talk on insta) she suddenly asked to add me on whatsapp, we are ridiculously similar and even jokingly said about us running off to another country to live together.
But then, she is sometimes really distant…I mean I understand taking a day or something to reply to texts bc tbf we do basically send one another digital letters…but sometimes its like two days and it will stay like that for a while then all of a sudden she's super into chatting to me again. It kinda screws with me a bit because I don't know where I stand.
I'm super into her but it's really uncharted ground here with me because I've never dated another girl and have no clue what signs to look out for or whether she's just being friendly and I don't wanna overstep any boundaries. I also don't wanna risk just asking her out in case it freaks her out lmao, because I'd rather not jeopardise my friendship with her.
Is it better to just go volcel, or keep trying to date and risk getting hurt? When I look at my friends and female relatives relationships and marriages, they have a man, but none of them seem particularly happy.
It seems like their husbands are just wallets that provide some extra cash or drive them around places, help out with the kids every so often. It seems like their men don’t add much to their lives, and a lot of the time seem to cause more trouble or present problems through their behavior.
I have already dated 3 guys, each experience was more horrible than the last, at this point I am so tired of men’s bullshit that I want nothing to do with them.
But at the same time, it seems all the good men get snapped up quickly and if you snooze you lose, dating gets harder as you get older. Men are shallow as fuck and if you are over 30 they cast you aside. I don’t want to regret being volcel in my youth then desperate when I hit my 30s. The thought of growing old alone is scary.
How can i be happy for someone i got rejected by? Just seeing him with somebody else doing everything we were dreaming to do together and everything we started is already frustratng af. Is it even possible? It seems kinda too masochistic.
meme. do you like it?
>tfw no girl group of internet friends
men suck and their shitty discord servers
Siblings, toxic family
My brother has been ignoring me for the past months, I’ll say the past 3/4 months.
To set the setting beforehand, my family is quite toxic. There’s no privacy for us kids, even as adults, our phones are ransacked through, bank letters read because we’re still living under their roof. Constant fights are normal between everyone in the household. When we were younger, for the smallest wrongs we’ve done, it won’t be surprising if the older one would be punished severely ranging from anything being kicked to a corner or being caned till bruises are left. They’re changed people now but still, the effect lingers.
So, me and brother, we’re kind of like all what we have. We’ll share everything from insecurities to ranting about school. We share clothes, we share blankets,heck, if needed we’ll also share pillows.
But soon, I went to university so we barely met. He hates phone calls and texting so, we could barely stay in touch. Still, I’ll try to contact him here and there by maybe asking about my outfit or what photo to post on instagram, anything to keep the connection. Whenever I’m home, our relationship was fine.
Fast forward, somehow he’s close with our mother now. We had a fight a few months back and lord, it dragged for so long, We used to fitght before but never had it been dragged for this long.
I’m not entirely sure what my mum told him but it ended up with him sleeping outside our room. We fought and the only substance was that I told him, his actions are making me angry and I’ll need my space for now which irked him. Whereas for me, I didn’t make sense on why am I getting punished for acting as such?
So for now, because of the pandamic, we’re home together. He doesn’t really talk to me and it’s mostly just me trying to save the relationship. Once, I had a breakdown and went to sleep in other siblings’ room because even if I kinda brushed him a bit, he would make it clear it annoyed it. Even then, obviously, my parents took his side and told me to shut it up and stop being such a baby. I was literally brawling my eyes out as I’m hurt on how could he just cut me off like that but obviously, I’m still the wrong one because this action of mine, might hurt him instead and whatever I’m feeling, I should just deal with it.
Fast forward, we started to talk, more like, he won’t ignore me but won’t necessarily add any content to the conversation. But then, I keep getting hurt by his behaviour.
He was going to sleep at a friend’s house for a week and he didn’t even tell me at all about it. I found out about it from another sibling, coincidentally. I know he hid that from me deliberately.
There was also once when I asked him to not throw his clothes on the floor and put them in the backet. His response was to immediately threaten me by saying he’ll complain to my mum so that I’ll be scolded because he knows how far my mum will go and how emotionally disturbed I’ll be. Do note, he’s 17 y/o already so he knows what he’s doing.
Another time, I wanted for him to look at a new outfit I bought because it was kinda our thing to approve each other’s outfit but he just dismissed me and told me to ask someone else instead.
I’m really hurt and at loss. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like he’s getting toxic as well and I don’t know if I can accept that. I’m starting to think that perhaps I’m the problematic one.
I’ve fought with my parents quite a few times just because I wanted to uphold my boundaries and they disagree with that, saying I’m such an ungrateful child. There was also a time I’ve walked away when my mum started an argument with me because I didn’t want to participate and lord, that didn’t end well for me, haha.
Can someone please help to shine some clarity on this situation because I’m tired and I don’t know if I’m even thinking clealry.
Does anybody else ~have~ some friends but they are extremely hurtful? I don't know how to word this well. I always think I don't have friends but then I reminds myself that I do, however I do not feel comfortable or understood when talking to them. It's like I'm only friends with them just so I'm not completely friendless. I try to put effort into the relationships, but they always seem one-sided. Every time I reach out I'm made to believe I'm bothering them. So in a way trying to not lose contact with some of them makes me feel embarrassed and desperate. But I feel like I have no other choice but to message them because I have no one else to write to. And saying 'find better friends' doesn't really help since past experiences have proven that I'm not really good at it. I'm not really friends with anyone from high school, no one from university either and I don't talk to my family. Eh, I may be too sensitive at times, sure. But being completely alone and lonely does that to me. Does anybody else go through the same? Where do I even find good people?
i just want him to message me
but no
he’s too busy talking to ewhores
:)
Random question
Opinion on giving notes to friends who are falling behind on their studies and am constantly complaining about it?
I have a friend whom I’ve known for years. He is constantly complaining about being behind on his studies and I get that medschool is difficult. I gave him a digital cooy all of my notes for the year but I’m kinda feeling annoyed rn because I don’t think he actually put in any extra effort to study but is instead just complaining?
How do I stop thinking about dying and panicking about it? It's kept me up late the past few days and on some days I get so nervous I could throw up. I don't have any anxiety about other things in my life. I just love existing too much and the idea that I might not be able to experience it twice guts me. I am not religious and haven't found any good answers or people to go to for solace about this topic.
dealing with irrational (?) guilt and paranoia
Does anyone else struggle with spiraling guilt and paranoia, feeling like you've hurt other people and damaged your reputation forever constantly but not being able to figure out if its real or rational?
I struggle hugely with executive function and I've been in a horrible depressive episode for over a month. Even though I told my roommate I would handle paying our rent, I didn't pay on time for May or June for literally no reason other than I couldn't get myself to write the check and walk less than a block to drop it off, and whenever I thought about doing it I got so overwhelmed with shame and anxiety I would put it off further. I finally dropped off the check for our rent for 2 months a few days ago. Luckily our landlord isn't charging late fees because of COVID, but we got a scary notice in the mail that I just opened and our cosigners (parents) also got notices. I feel so embarrassed and just completely irredeemable because I caused stress and worry for no reason and I don't know if this can affect our credit scores or reputations in some other way? And I've just been sitting here spiraling for an hour trying to decide if I really did something wrong and wronged my roommate and damaged my relationship with her, or if it's okay.
This happens to me all the time with various situations where I'm worried I've wronged someone but I don't know if it's something that I can expect people to forgive me for or not? It doesn't help that I'm hypersensitive and I know that other people aren't but it's really hard for me to understand how people who aren't like me react to interpersonal situations, or situations that would make me anxious but a normal person wouldn't worry about. And I wish I could just ask my roommate about it, but I don't think there's a non-insane way to ask about that? She knows I struggle with depression and possible ADHD, she has ADHD, and she helped her girlfriend with a serious depressive episode/her ongoing MH issues, so I think she would be understanding, but would she? I have no idea how much leeway I should expect from people because of my mental health issues. We're also close friends, but I see things on social media where people are talking about resenting or abandoning their friends for things that seem insane to me so ???
Any tips on dealing with guilt, paranoia, or just not trusting yourself to accurately interpret situations because you're an autist?
Anyone else feel uncomfortable when your on a date and the guy pays for everything? Went on a date with some guy before the lockdown, we had dinner at a fancy hotel loft, then drinks at a fancy cocktail bar and then we even went to a Japanese style inn. In total he propably spent 1200.
I felt so weird during the entire date. He just kept ordering the most expensive shit on the menu.
I've been kicked off of lolcow and I feel really sad about it. I felt a connection to the aesthetics of some cows tbh and I will really miss /ot/. I might shack up here but i'll miss the rapid fire infighting. It sucks, I really wanted it to carry me through quarantine. I feel lonelier without that place in the background.
has anyone else struggled with keeping friendships?
i ghosted my friend despite wanting to maintain our friendship.
i don't know why but i just have a problem with commitment and an active fear of people leaving me. i guess i'm an asshole because of it though, because it means i always ghost the other person even if there's only good feelings between us. oops
no but seriously i feel so alone and hate myself for having put myself in this position in the first place. ;__;
i feel like i'm an annoying ass gf and i just make the same jokes and say stupid shit all the time. can someone reassure me that i'm not as annoying as i think i am
I found someone who is above my highest expectations. But there was a deal breaker so we're just friends now. But every time we talk I'm reminded that I'm never going to find someone like that again.
I'm sorry thread.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hn4EIv1-uz0
Stereotypically feminine vs. masculine guys.. who to like?
I have a question about goth/emo guys, or just artsy/emotional guys in general.. do any of you ladies who feel that more classically male personality traits are dominant in your personality (desire to compete, expand, and create vs. nurture, appear beautiful, and select from what's provided/judge) seek out men with more classically female traits? I've always had a thing for the emo type of guy, or dark prettyboys. Is this normal? All the girls at my school think I'm weird for liking these vogue characters.
Feeling pressured in a friendship
I've been friends with a girl since middle school. We have a lot of projects together and she's a great friend,I love her so much and I know she loves me too. Though, I noticed since we started growing up we started having different political views on the world, but in the end I don't care about that… I don't plan on talking about politics with her anyway. But she recently started to talk to me more and more about her politics. The fact that she started to engage in Twitter more often combined with what's going on in America right now isn't helping at all. Though I still listen to her, because I do not want to make her upset, I know it's important for her to talk to me about these issues, I know she loves exploring those ideas with me. I do not agree with everything, but I just… let her talk since it's important for her. I don't tell her exactly what I think, but I do have to agree to her or else she might get mad at me. (She has told me a lot of bad things about people sharing my views so I do not want her to assiciate me with that…) But in the end, once the conversation stops… I feel guilty, so so guilty. I cannot help this feeling no matter how much I try. I just do. I feel absolutely horrible. I feel pressured to act good for her, I feel pressured to hide "my true self" to her. Plus heck ? What am I even talking about ?! My political views aren't what I am… There's no "real me" I'm hiding… Politics aren't even part of me. I dont like politics in the end since it always ends up making me feel awful.
Plus each time she talks to me, it's about negative things, à la lolcow style. It's always negative this, negative that. "Look at those people doing that. CRINGE.", "Look at that person acting like that ! CRINGE." (Of course I caricature it a bit, but you get what I mean). It's always negative, and always putting people down lately. I feel pressured to respond to her. I feel pressured because if I respond the wrong way she will get mad. If I don't respond she will get mad. Either way I'm losing.
I feel like this pressure is going to make me go crazy at some point. Though I'll get a chance to see her soon. I might try to ask her to "not speak about negative things". I dont want to go into details anymore, it just makes me feel worse. I feel physically sick like I'm about to puke.
And in the end. I will always and always feel guilty.
I know the fact that I tend to put other's hapiness before my own doesn't help much. But it's incredibly hard for me to stand up for myself sometimes which leads me in those shitty situations in the first place. I try to work on this (and talking to her when I'll meet her is somewhat how I'm trying to fight against my habbit), but sometimes I end up in situations like these that just end up hurting me more for no real reason. I just needed to write that out…
I feel like my envy of my partner has damaged my ability to be sexually attracted to him forever and don't know how to fix it. For the longest time I increasingly became bothered by my perception of my SO confidence and his success where it began to make me not interested in anything intimate, which led to me walking in on him trying to get off every few weeks (that I know of) and it angered me that he didn't seem to care that I caught him in the act. He didn't watch porn and the worst I ever caught him looking at were pinups of girls that looked a lot like myself. I took this all as affirmation that I was right somehow in not being sexually attracted to him anymore because he didn't seem to be interested in me, despite the near daily sexual advances I'd turn down. I especially took to heart the one time when I was drunk/high and felt horny enough to wake him up and he turned me down, which I couldn't understand at the time because it seemed that it was all he wanted from me (I now realize how bad the timing was since it was at 4am, he was working 12-16 hour days and getting less than 4 hours at the time).
Anyways, I know I'm a shitty person now and at the time I felt I was being shitty to him as a response to him being shitty to me. I realize now after having time apart (we didn't separate, just circumstances with my mental health we agreed for me to move in with my parents to be near family while he relocates near me soon) that while all his imperfections bothered me, he actively admitted to valid complaints and made the effort of changing while dismissing frivolous whines of mine(this really bothered me). I feel absolutely terrible now being exposed to my entire family's positive perception of my SO, and when I explained my side of stories about what we fought about I got put in my place and made to see how wrong I was, I never realized how much my dad even looked up to him.
I just don't know how to feel sexually attracted to him again, or anyone for that matter anymore. He's extremely handsome and I feel he's the good looking one out of the two of us (he thinks the same of me), but I feel no excitement at all. I feel like a disappointment to his expectations and after all I've put him through I can't even desire him the way he wants me to. All I can think of is my depression plus medication for it has finally compounded after years and destroyed my ability to be interested in sex. I don't even know if there's anything I can do to make myself feel attracted to him like I used to before we lived together.
tldr; my partner's intelligence and confidence made me project my insecurities onto him and think he was a piece of shit when he is the most humble and admirable person I've ever loved and now everything is ruined.
god i just hate kpop fans so much.
nothing wrong with the music itself, but just. the fans are so fucking toxic it makes me sick to my stomach.
unsure of how else to word this thought, but, why do these girls act like bts is the one and only kpop group?? everywhere i look its bts this and bts that. why is it. only. bts. im sure theres so many other groups that deserve much love and attention but feel immensely overshadowed by bts bts bts bts.
another thing is the fetishizations, sometimes its just so hurtful as an asian to see people like you get reacted to in that way. and im talking about the girls who cum panty over the way that kpop man smiled, or how their cheeks are shaped, the arc of their eyebrows or some other dumbshit reason. something just feels so wrong about bias culture and how deep it goes. koreans arent your sex doll. also parallel to how they want a korean bf because uguu my own kpop oppar. + those who wanna go to korea in the same way as weebs with japan.
dont even get me started w/ the fancam stuff
maybe im just being an old hag about this topic but holy shit
When I was a child I was molested on camera all the time now the videos are out there and It makes me sad to know people are jerking off to me getting hurt
is there any way to get those videos offline? also i don't want people to recognize me
Jealous
I know feeling jealous is related to low self-esteem and insecurity. Even though I know my boyfriend loves me and I trust him, I feel very jealous about him and I think I will be replaced by another girl more beautiful and cool to me.
I do unnecessary fights and I realize that my boyfriend doesn't like this and feel he's getting tired of me.
Please, help me how to be more secure about myself and relationship, improve my self-esteem and to stop be exaggeratedly jealous.
Is anyone else depressed as fuck about getting older? It gives me an existential crisis whenever I think about it.
Porn and Envy
I was using my boyfriend's computer today and saw porn pop up from the search tab. I don't mind him looking at it but it makes me kinda sad that the girls he looks at look nothing like me at all. They're actually quite opposite of me. There's a bunch of results and I don't know if I shouldn't say anything or if i should tell him im uncomfortable.
Revenge porn
Hi miners,
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Hi, anons. Should I invest the time to find and look through the bf's reddit? Or is that too invasive? I regularly stalk the post history of random users I find. If I ~just happened~ to find his name and look it up later, is that wrong of me? He clearly is one of those people that values muh privacy. It could potentially be triggering for my bpdfag ass, or it could soothe me (I tell myself that, but it is unlikely) to see them.
I can't stop feeling sorry for myself. I get overly emotional to the point where I feel like I can't control it and the only way I can make myself feel better is by having someone else comfort me. Every. Fucking. Time. I can't comfort myself through sadness and I'm sad a lot and it makes me seem so pathetic and it's making the people close to me resent me (or at least I think it is, or it probably will if I let it keep going). If someone isn't able to comfort me for whatever reason I panic because my close relationships are built upon the fact that I can rely on them for frequent comfort. How do I stop being like this?
Am overweight and don't have an ED but I can't stop thinking about either food or how fat I am and it's ruining my day every day lately. Bf is supportive and thinks I look hot but I'm ashamed that he has to date someone who looks like me and can't stop thinking about fucking food. Someone pls tell me how to stop thinking like a fatty and obsessing over food and eat like a normal person
Guilt
Ridden with guilt. I don’t understand. The fluttery emotions were there but we weren’t a thing tho he treated me like we were something. Even the people around me pointed that out, lasting only for months, on top. He had the characteristics of the textbook Narc so, I was always cautious around him. I told the people closest to me that something’s off about him but I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, As the situationship progressed only one by one began to surface and I’ve left him for good. Now, about 6 months has passed by and the painful emotions are still there. I am still seeking validations for my actions.
At first, it was because I spoke to my friends about the way he was treating me, just to find answers whether I was really being treated wrong or not. His behaviour really took a whole toll on my self-esteem as a whole. I never saw myself crumbling that low, being afraid of everything. I had to find answers. He knew about it. He started screaming at me. Throwing accusations that I was just trying to ruin his name, that I have no need to act like a good person in front of him if this is my actual behaviour. That if I had any ounce of respect towards him, I wouldn’t be acting this way. How can I discuss about his behaviour with him if he never listened? Immense guilt passed over me.
Next, for standing up for the person he talked about. Constantly, demeaning everyone’s character, saying everyone except for him isn’t capable of doing anything right. At first, it was just the people close to me. Then, it went on to his friend. He was talking bad about her, her character as a whole and it irked me. Made me feel disgusted. I took the lightest word he said about her and told her about it as she’s completely clueless about this. It wasn’t anything huge to cause a fight but enough the warn her about what’s going on behind her back. I also asked her whether the hot and cold way he was treating me is normal of him, assuming the probability that he might just be acting this way towards me only because I might have done something wrong and be unware of it. Still, a huge fight spiralled between them when she confront him, asking him why he said what he said with my word being nothing but a trigger. Everything and perhaps, more of what he said to me, he said to her face. The whole history of what his friend did wrong and in the end, she decided that his words was too much and she left him. During the fight, she told him that the news broke from me and how I complained to her about him. Of course, he blamed it on me saying I should’ve felt guilty for telling her anything. I wish I’m the one who’s wrong but I’m not the type to just ruin a friendship or ruin the calm air if I didn’t feel it was necessary. But again, was it really necessary? I also feel bad because I realised he actually has no one he can trust on and she had stayed with him for the longest. I feel worse when I see old pictures when they were good friends. Guilt washed over me, again.
I’m tired of all those emotions. Guilt, shame, fear, grieve yet, those two situations are hardest for me to process because I’m still unsure if it was wrong or right of me to do and say what I did. Was what I did really wrong? If so, how do process everything and finally let go of everything?
Can we get a depressing fuel thread? Shit like this that makes you feel terrible.
wanting a bf to ask me out in a "traditional" way..
hello this is my first time posting here! so first off, the relationship between me and my dad is very good, he loves me very much and is a very reasonable individual and we are both religous as well. One thing my dad wants for me to do when a guy asks me out, is for my dad to talk to him first so he can know whats up with him. I am personally very ok with this, and in fact, encourage this. The only issue is that even though I want this to happen i dont want a dude to be ask me out and then i have to say "oh you have to ask my dad" when i am like 23 or something… I dont mind doing that it just comes across as still being dependent on my father when i am not? does that makes sense? how the heck do i commence with this?
Relationships
I’ve liked several guys over the year, usually unrequited as I feel the need to hide my emotions. Sometimes it’s either, my friend likes the guy or it’s the guy likes my friend. Never have I once decided to get between them. Now it’s another time, I told my friends I liked him and a few days later I find out they like each other and my friend was keeping it behind my back. It hurts, I’d rather trade my happiness for both of them, but they lead me on. Even now I try to share my opinions with my friends and they instantly block me out of their lives. Is it just me?
How do I overcome crippling shyness?
It's probably ruining my life. I'm a shut~in NEET at 27 who has never gone all the way with a guy. The very rare situations where I could have I ran away from it. The only positive thing I got going on right now is the pandemic makes it easier to order things without interacting with the delivery person. I just don't understand why I prefer to be alone but at the same time am lonely. Why am I like this?
coping with my first break up.
my first boyfriend broke up with me for another girl. we were only dating online but we were together for about 3 years now. he didnt mention that he wanted to be with someone else and basically blamed my mental health and just moving on in life in general.when i asked if he liked someone else he said no so he was hiding this other girl from me. how can i cope with this? i was emotionally dependent on him for those 3 years and i feel as though i wont be able to recover and im afraid this will make it hard for me to trust anyone in the future.he still wants to remain friends but admitted he would be busy and probably wont have time for me as much. what do i do? i have no one else and i feel as though something is better than nothing. pls help
Intimacy Issues General
General Intimacy Issues thread, for the emotional and mental issues surrounding the intimate side of life.
anyone else ever just wanna go batshit online? theoretically i could do it right now. i just wanna make a bunch of weird crazy blog posts, videos, pictures, anything. but i have a very specific set of requirements for how i want to be noticed. i don't want lots of attention. i just like the idea of things i make getting passed around here and there as one of those online oddities. unfortunately i have no talent to make anything actually interesting. the thought kind of consumes a large part of my life at this point, i read about stuff like this just trying to find more obscure people, i feel kinda bad since sometimes i feel they're being mocked, but i also don't think i'd care if it was me personally.
it'd also help if i was cute but i'm not.
Can a masculine woman find love?
I'm a 5'8-5'9 girl with big, masculine jaw. No, I'm not trans. I'm thin but I have wide shoulders, wide hips, I'm overall huge. No guy has ever expressed interest in me, and my current crush is only 5'2 (and he seems to be a traditional guy who is not into big women). How do other masculine girls cope with being unwanted? How do you get over not being small and adorable? Do any of you have any experience with finding a shorter-not-so-masculine bf?
Is politics ever an issue with your boyfriend?
I talked with my boyfriend about how funny it was that my Exes always acted extremely suspicious and distrusting, whenever they thought I could get a glimpse on their phone screen or go on their pc without them knowing.
My boyfriend of 8 months then said that he is completely fine with me having access to his phone and pc and encouraged me to snoop through it. It wasn't my intention to get him to allow me to do that. If anything I just wanted to say that I liked how relaxed he is about it. But he actually wants me to snoop through everything and even said that he is curious, if I can find anything that will make me think less of him. He sometimes evaluates things for a neutral perspective, so he said it would serve as a valuable lesson to him, if I did leave him, based on anything I found. I guess he saw this as a sort of trust exercise.
So I haven't looked through everything yet. I am glad I didn't found any porn or found out about any weird fetishes. I knew about him being an imageboard user and he mostly uses /pol/ as a news source and lurks, but he seems to be pretty clearly right-wing. He's not the edgy type. He even told me that he dislikes rude racism, which I guess gave me a different impression of him at first. But based on his browser history and convos he's definitely a Nationalist and into traditional gender roles. He knows I am a feminist too. He once said to me that he wouldn't care, if I was a Nazi, Communist or whatever, he would still love me and doesn't want politics to get between us.
The thing is I did see some convos and a few threads, which he saved images from, which are basically about "converting your gf to a trad right-wing waifu".
What do you think? Does he expect that I adopt his ideology, even though he told me that he doesn't want politics to get between us? He told me he meant what he said and I haven't really yet confronted him about his general political beliefs, which he did hide from me, even though admittedly he never lied to me about anything specifically.
Will he try to manipulate me?
>be me
>just two months after my first breakup
>hang out with a new guy just 2 weeks before quarantine starts
>he's nice, attractive and into me
>he flirts a lot but I don't react at all, because I can only think about my ex
>he always texts me and ask me if I wanna go out
>always give him one word replies
>quarantine starts and he stops texting me
I treated this very nice guy like garbage just because I felt like it. I think I deserve this after all, but I really miss him. It's been 2 months already and I feel ashamed. What should I do? I don't wanna give up on him
Normies going insane because of corona and etc makes me feel good, comfortable, and more sane in this world
Whats the worst rejection scenario you can think of, or just any from experience?
>confess feelings to a boy you really liked
>he's gay
Hello World
Hello world
Anyone here a single NEET?
Im 23, with no work experience, dropped out of college due to low GPA, and my parents want to kick me out by the next 2 months. Im deathly afraid of being homeless and all my job applications have been denied. It will take a miracle to even get an interview offer, let alone a job.
My best and only friend, who never went to college is a NEET too but she lives with her boyfriend from HS who provides everything for her, which makes me terribly jealous, because I dont think I can get a boyfriend that cares enough for me due to my ugliness, shyness and autism.
Sorry, but I really needed to vent. Have any of you been in the same situation?
What do i tell people when they ask me what i do on my free time when all i do is watch youtube and do other random stuff on the internet? I mean, i do sometimes make music, draw or read, but im never able to stick to anything for long enough. And even if i am, i know ill lose interest soon enough since thats how its always been. It just feels wrong each time i claim something (besides browsing the internet) to be my hobby.
Paranoid feels
Post paranoia, severe or light, about yourself or others
>talk to new contact
>mid conversation they suddenly appear offline and always have to doublecheck my friend list to see if they deleted me because of what I just said or if they're simply on phone/bad internet
Eating Disorder General
A thread for the discussion of eating disorders. Anything goes, from anorexia to bulimia, orthorexia to binge-eating disorder etc.
>when did your ED first emerge?
>was there anything in particular that triggered it?
>how has it affected you as an individual?
>if they're aware, how have your family and friends reacted to it?
>have you ever deliberately encouraged its development?
>have you ever attempted recovery?
>did you ever participate in ED-centric online communities (i.e. MPA, LJ, Tumblr)?
Pro-ana thinspiration is disallowed as per rule 10.
(OP is River's Edge by Okazaki Kyoko)
despair II
Made a post here a year ago about my depression and just feelings of helplessness and overwhelming despair, I’ve experienced a lot of things since then but everything is essentially the same.
I think its called being passively suicidal when you don’t actively try to kill yourself but don’t really do anything to have a good life either. I’ve tried to become a better person but I just keep failing..I’ve gotten taken advantage of by a guy I trusted, let myself get taken advantage of by so many other guys, fallen out with so many friends… all in my head thinking this was what it was to be a normal person and experience all these new social things. I was overwhelmed and threw myself into everything I was too shy to do before, and now all I feel is dirty and ashamed.
It was not all entirely bad..had some accomplishments but I just feel hollow inside.
Does anyone get depressed watching anime bc all the characters are so young and their lives are so interesting and have so many possibilities? And thinking wow I used to be at that age but when I was that age I was a depressed hermit who had no friends and I still am now.
I feel like I’ll never be able to connect to anyone, I’m so lonely.
how to get ex bf back
I need help with this, story time
>dated 2 years
>last 6 months of relationship be on and off because I can't handle how he made out and fingered an ex friend of mine months before we dated
> get mad that he sent nudes to a rando girl months before we dated
>also be sad that he had an ex gf that he had sex with
>be hurt everyday because he did all of this and don't know how to cope
> Get really mad at him, during a week of break up, I want to get revenge and end up making out with another guy and getting fingered by him
>happy that I got revenge but still feel disgusted with myself the situation
>months later I tell bf and he immediately breaks up with me
> cry and beg and doesnt work
> went no contact for 2 weeks, he messages me saying he misses me and asks for pic of me, etc. we talk, I ask if he wants to get back, he says no, I flip the fuck out on him and tell him never contact me again
>4 weeks later he messages me to check up on me, he tells me we should stay friends and stay in contact, he says im important to him, I flip the fuck out on him again and block him
Been 3 weeks now no contact, is there any chance he'll want to come back and date me again. He said I was really important to him but what I did really hurt him.
How is COVID-19 making YOUR professional life a living hell?
I thought it could be nice to have a vent thread for people graduating/who've had their professional life and education disrupted by covid.
I'm graduating in a week into a competitive creative field and have applied to the only two or three jobs im qualified for in my area. On the surface I'm still excited and I have faith in my abilities but I know it's going to be a lot harder than even I can comprehend. I've had no graduation ceremony, no end of year exhibition, subpar feedback from tutors, and no celebration at all. I'm probably gonna have to sign up for govt. assistance, look for a shitty regular job and maybe try freelancing for extra cash. Sounds silly but I was so excited to have 2020 be my graduating year cos of the round number, but now I just wish I'd take a year out or something.
Anyone else have great difficulty switching from one task to another? Sometimes this leads me to achieve what i wish but 99% of the time this brings me suffering. I used to think its due to being tired and sitting on my ass all day, but even as my lifestyles have changed i still face the same difficulties.
Idk
I am open to constructive criticism as it is impossible for to have done everything correctly.
It started out really nice as he turned out to be caring, thoughtful and really empathic. I might just say I’ve never met a person as kind as him (or now, as twisted as him tho, I might be wrong). He was always there, looking out for me, cheering for me.
The first red flag I noticed was the fact how stubborn he was being about wanting to know about a personal story of mine which somehow he managed to sniff. I didn’t want to talk to him about it and he was being difficult on wanting to know about it, so I finally gave up. Later when I confronted him about his behavior and how I felt forced to tell him the whole story, he apologised. Somehow everything was moving too fast when I don’t feel that close to him yet.
Our friendship went on as he would constantly put me down in front of everyone while complimenting someone else. Nothing I did was right in his eyes yet, a mere puff of someone else’s perfume is enough for him to be giving them compliments. Yet,he would always ask me out to dinner/lunch with him, giving me help (now, I think about it, was more of forcing help onto me although I’ve politely declined numerous times). At times, he would be very dismissive as much as even walking away when I’m talking yet sometimes, he would be very supportive.
He also had a habit of badmouthing just about anyone who he thinks is close to me. Whether it is on their work ethics or just that they’re genuinely bad ppl. Among those ppl, one of the person he talked about was his own bestie, whom he had been friends (A) with for atleast 3 years.
Since this toxic person has a high position in a project, he asked A to help him out on working as one of the team leaders in which I was one of the member. I saw how hard A worked to ensure that everything ran smoothly for the project. Yet, perhaps when this toxic being saw that me and my bestie was getting close to A, he started talking ill about them to me. He said that both A and my bestie, they’re not playing any active role in the project and that they don’t know how to do their job well. He even proceeded calling his bestie as someone who has been lazy ever since he knew him. Note that this toxic person was the one who reached out to A and my bestie for help.
As a team member, I did saw that A and my bestie, both actively played huge role to ensure that their task was completed successfully. It was only because of the toxic person’s fault who decided to change all the planning that A did which ended with the boss being mad as by right, things was supposed to proceed as A planned.
I felt ashamed of this toxic being’s behaviour. Note that this wasn’t the first time he’s been talking ill about someone else. If I took his word literally, I legit have to leave everyone I’ve known because they’ll always have some ulterior motive.
I was mad. I was confused. How can someone who was so kind, be so condescending as well? This toxic person has said alot about A that it made me feel uncomfortable hiding this truth from A as A do from time to time, ask toxic person’s opinion. I contacted A and discussed with him about this toxic person’s behavior. I didn’t mention everything that toxic person said about him but only the fact on how he told me that A isn’t a good leader at all and it was a mistake taking him in. All this, when toxic person approached A himself and asked for A’s help to lead the team. I also mentioned about the way toxic person treated me and whether that’s a normal behavior of his or was there something I did that set him off.
A confronted toxic person. A huge fight occurred which changed the whole way the project was handled. During the fight, the toxic person said that I was a lier and why would A trust me whom he barely met? When A said asked whether I should be brought into the room so we can discuss together, toxic person got angrier. He said to A every single flaw of A’s that he can think of from their first meeting itself, which includes the other stuff about A that I’m told about. Under toxic person’s pressure, A also spilled everything that I told him.
So my question is, did I do a wrong thing by warning A, which was completely oblivious to toxic person’s behaviour? I’m hating the uncertainty of this judgement of mine.
stuck in a depressive episode the past few weeks, if it weren't for corona id be outside doing fun things, hanging out with friends, or even just any semblance of real work.
its been a blur of fleeting thoughts of suicidal ideation, worthlessness, and coping by returning to my fujoshi weeb ways n watching anime, reading yaoi.
im in a privileged position and can afford to live this way which makes me feel worse. ppl w depression here how do u guys cope?
i wasted hours I could have spent on sleep on arguing online
Have you ever felt physically repulsed by someone you love or used to be attracted to? I was with someone for ~5 years, we had a life together but towards the end of the relationship my body started to reject him by making sex painful, and eventually the mere thought of intercourse with him began to create an extreme source of anxiety. At first, I thought there was something wrong with me, or that perhaps it was due to physical/emotional abuse from a past relationship, but after we broke up I got with another guy and was able to get wet and have sex easily. I feel guilty and terrible in a lot of ways, I still care about this person a lot and I sometimes think of getting back together but how could it ever work if I can't get physically turned on by him? I still want intimacy in my relationships. Am I a terrible person?
Online fame and paranoia
I'm probably going to get some hate for this, but here we go.
I have a slightly successful YouTube channel and a pretty slow thread on lolcow /snow/. Through mutual interests, I've met a girl, and we've developed a mutual crush on each other.
Unfortunately, I found out she's in the lolcow discord. Now I can think about is whether or not she's a farmer trying to get close to gossip about me. I know it sounds self important but I've been catfished before due to my online presence. What do I do? How fucked am I?
anime recs
looking for anime/manga recs that tackle depression, or just growing up and doing adult things..better if in a female pov. something like oyasumi punpun, or aggretsuko or something..grounded stuff thats not just hs action adventures
Advice
Let’s have friend A and friend B.
So friend A and B are close friends for a few years already. But then, friend A won’t stop talking ill of friend B to me. Friend A also has the habit of talking ill about everyone he thinks is close to me in general.
Would it be wrong of me to tell friend B (more like a warning that A talks about B behind B’s and mentions one of the many things A said about B) of this A’s behaviour?
feel good
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DJvJaad-LS4
we have a lot of threads here about feelings, but mostly sad feelings. missing exes, losing cats, depression, loneliness. How about we have a positive feel thread!
do you ever feel happy and just glad to be alive? Maybe just taking joy in the simple things. Where I live a lot of bad things are happening but I got to stand outside after the rain and feel the warm sunlight on my skin. I feel so grateful for that feeling.
What’s it like to take a boy’s virginity?
What’s it like to take a HOT boy’s virginity?
feels webms + music
music especially, but mostly anything that feels (even if just a little)
i got dumped by my 3 years long bf
i'm sad
advice pls
For the past 2 years, I have done nothing but browsing the internet. There are places I want to go, pictures I want to create, what do I do?
Narcissist Discussion
I see a lot of threads here mentioning narcissists so let's share stories about narcissists we've known, whether as friends, family, or romantically.
>Narc I dated told me he'd gotten every job he had ever applied for
>Mentions there was one job he wanted but that they had lost his application
>I asked how he knew they had lost it
>He told me it was because he had never heard back from them
>He couldn't comprehend the idea that someone wouldn't want to hire him
Advice
I wanna know if my behavior is considered as oversharing, I had a toxic ex and we broke up, mainly because I couldn't handle his behaviour anymore. I have quite a lot ot people whom I trust. Is it considered as wrong for me to tell the whole truth about him to all of my close friends?
I have close friends that I don’t really contact much but we do talk to each other from time to time. Perhaps twice a year or so as we’re both really busy ppl. Is it wrong of me to disclose on how bad he treated me throughout the whole relationship to my friends, including the friends mentioned above? Just how much is actually considered as oversharing actually?
In the early stages of relationship, I have approached a close friend of his to discuss about his toxic behaviour. This close friend of his then confronted him about his behavior amd my ex knows that I was behind me. He accused me as someone who likes to tarnish his reputation , afterwards.
Is it wrong of me to tell ppl of his behavior?
Small vent
I watch videos about the many problems about my country and in the comment section everybody bashes my country without them having knowledge of my country's culture or anything.
This makes me feel not good. What should I do?
I stare at my phone too much due to my anxiety and become paralysed.
I’m badly anxious and am often paralysed with anxiety about starting tasks, checking my emails, or interacting with others on a professional level. Even just trying something new on my own upsets me because I’m so anxious about performing badly and letting myself down.
I spent a lot of time just looking at my phone in these situations or glued to a screen just panic scrolling. I do enjoy the internet, but only in moderation and only boards and non normie websites, when I’m anxious I just scroll social media which makes me depressed because I don’t enjoy social media.
Do you do this??? I find it hard to just stop even when I catch myself doing things like this. How do I pull myself out of anxiety? What tricks do you use for this?
Self isolation is putting a strain on me and my family. I started going to GED school after being a shut in for 6 years. I made actual friends for the first time in years and now all of that has been taken away from me. In a psychotic ep I ripped all my posers down last night and now I can’t stand to look at my room. My dad chases me out and told me not to talk to him for the rest of the night cause I told him instead of putting my frozen phone on the charger, we should let it die.He hit me for the first time in a while cause he was shining a light in my face and I didn’t even mean to hit him that hard. He called me a little bitch and other things. Then wanted me to say I’m sorry. Now my rooms ugly and gross without all it’s stuff on the walls and I just want to sleep. I ruined my perfectly good room over my stupid dad
Yobanny vrot, communism is abroad:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQnLwhBaXWg
I dont want to look at titties
I recently moved to europe from a very conservative country, and in the area i live, it is acceptable for a woman to be topless at a park or beach during summer.
I feel very much very uncomfortable in that situation, but i cant just leave the area or ask that she put a shirt on to protect my innocent eyes. What can i do to deal with that??
get over ex?
How did you get over your ex?
How long were you together and how long did it take for you to get over him.
I'd like to know your stories :)
Please feel free to leave tips on how you got over him :)
BPD / cPTSD support and positivity thread
>What has been helping you recently?
>Any book/article recs?
I don't want a family. In fact, I want to cut off my own family as soon as I land a job. I get bored consuming media. I hate my hobbies. What are my options in terms of how to realistically live this way? You guys are the main form of intimate contact I've had consistently for years at this point. I have a boyfriend, but I'm so fucked in the head I think he's going to leave me. I don't enjoy social media.
What's in a life?
Period gone
Haven't gotten my period in 3 months and I'm a virgin so no way I'm preggo. I get random rare spotting every now and then. I'm worried, any of you have an experience with this?
Pic unrelated
I am in a nuthouse, and don't get me wrong, I don't wanna make friends with these weirdos.
Its just i feel offended that more people take effort to talk to the CPTSD cunt who raged saying she was going to kill everyone and yells all the time calling women sluts for supposedly laughing at her (we were not laughing at her).
She has got the worst tumblrette personality and people will talk to her and be friends with her when she doesn't do anything or have anything interesting to say, meanwhile i am drawing and making and working on my secret language right in front of people and nobody cares lol normies.
have you hit rock bottom before? what was it like? did you "recover" from it or are you still there?
i think spring of 2018 was that for me, i briefly went crazy. i'm also realizing that i've been pretty stagnant since then. i'm not sure where to go from here, or if i have the desire to actually improve my life.
One time when i was a teenager living with my mother, she got pissed off that i liked to cover up and kept accusing me of being raped, and then she took me to a psychiatrist who didn't say anything but "were you raped".
It pisses me off that people will think stuff like that about you just because you want to be modest, i was literally a virgin until i met my husbannd.
My sister dressed like a slut with short as fuck skirts but she didnt get raged at as much.
ex makes no sense
My ex got so distant, didn't want to talk to me, refused to try fixing any issues/talk about his feelings and ignored me constantly when i was so loving and willing to do whatever he liked. The MOMENT i left because he was making me feel unloved he wants me back, is posting about being heartbroken and all this dramatic fag shit when he never showed care for me. wtf even!!
Have you ever stumbled across someone's hidden social media account?
I had this happen recently and wrote about it >>>/x/1512 and >>>/x/1520
If it's happened to you, how did the real them compare to how you imagined them to be?
What the fuck is my problem
Everytime I get super closer (friendship or romantic wise) to a boy I feel uncomfortable.
It's like I notice all their shortcomings at once and I'm disgusted by them. Maybe we're on a call we're chilling having fun and all of a sudden this wave of disgust comes from nowhere and I feel awful.
I have some pretty legit friends that really care about me, much more that they should and I don't wanna feel like that.
This is why I never had a relationship.
And I'm straight I have tried doing something with a girl and I don't swing that way.
Even if I like the dude this happens at random times it's so weird what's wrong with me.
It only didn't happen with one dude that I was madly in love with but we were never together. Before him I had this and I had given up but now that we don't talk anymore I genuinely wanna love someone I feel so fucking lonely and what's wrong is me
Who else here /creepshotted/?
Or been stalked? Just saw some creepshot pics and remembered the time i caught a guy in a store taking pictures of my butt. Wondering how common this experience is…
>Tfw no yandere stalker bf
How do you go about finding one?
>tfw tall girl
I'll never get a bf will I? ;_;
i can’t stop thinking about this and i just need to let it out. this happened nearly 2 years ago and i literally think its the only good thing thats ever happened to me.
>be me
>on 3rd date with boy
>talking in my car snd he kisses me suddenly
>”i’ve been wanting to do that since we met but i wasn’t sure if you liked me”
>tell him i wanted him to kids me too
>he takes off my jacket and sees scars on my arms
>”anon, why would you do this? your arms are so beautiful, please don’t ever do this again”
>he kisses my arms all over and keeps telling me how beautiful i am
this was the first and only time i felt truly loved. he ghosted me a few weeks after and i’m still upset over it. why would he do and say those things only to leave me hanging? i didn’t even sleep with him. how do i cope when i havent been attracted to anyone since?
/exfeels/
what are your relationship with your exes like?
>ex 1, female, online, a few years ago - she ghosted me after we broke up, we were best friends since i was 8
whenever i see something that reminds me of her i get panicky and feel physically hurt inside, and a lot of things remind me of her. she left a hole in my heart
>ex 2, online, male, broke up a few months ago
i still obsess over him/think about him every day/night
depression thread
for the ones who also struggle with (severe) depression, anxiety, or any other mental illness let's get together and have a chat. for one, how do you manage your depression?
Does anybody else hate their nationality?
I've always despised it, I hate everything about it: food, language (everybody hates it), customs, the people and even the traditional clothes (look way too slutty).
But the thing I hate them most is the way we look.
Yesterday I came across this by accident and frankly, it hurts me a lot. This is really how the vast majority of german men think.
People unironically use "you are so german!" as an insult when fighting. They are obsessed with foreign women, I can guarantee you, if you were to come here as a foreigner, they'd flock to you like there's no tomorrow. They're very vocal about prefering them too ("women from X are so much better").
And it seems as if nearly everybody shares that opinion - meanwhile the men are seen as very attractive by foreigners: tall, strong jaw line, etc. As an example, everybody was gushing about our soccer team - which of course only adds to their big ego.
The sad thing is, I completely fit the characteristics this guy described: I'm too tall, have a big nose, I'm shy, so I don't dress up, nor can I dance and I'm a very serious, no-fun person. Can't say anything about my dating life, because I never had a bf to begin with.
I actually do find some of the girls around me pretty, but if even they're considered ugly by international standards, then just how low am I?
I'm grateful for living in a safe 1st world country, but other than that, there's nothing nice about it. I'm so jealous of other people's cultures and appearances.
Is there a way to look more exotic, interesting, better?
Here's the link (no idea who asked that, but all replies are negative): https://www.quora.com/Why-are-so-many-German-girls-so-pretty
Why can't I move on sisters
We were never together and it's been 1.5 since I saw him and talked to him. I still think of him everyday and we weren't even together.
Grossed out by babby Thread
M'ladies,
Am I the only one thoroughly grossed out by the whole concept of motherhood, babies and especially pregnancy?
It makes me so very uncomfortable when my colleagues talk about their pregnancy and giving birth and stuff like that. Especially when they ask me when I want to become a mother (spoiler alert: This is SO not going to happen).
I also can't appreciate babies. At all. I think they look hella dumb. I hate it when people make me hold them and I have to put on that soul-splitting fake smile.
At this point I'm wondering whether I'm going down the 'genderfucked' road or having serious mommy issues…
Body image perfectionism and relationships
I know it's not supposed to matter what guys think about our natural bodies, like whether we have flat stomachs or perfect bone structures or how firm our breasts are and whether we get wrinkles, but how does this work in practice when I still know that if he could choose, he would prefer if I looked more perfect and more like the women in media/porn?
It wouldn't matter so much if I also felt similarly about him. Like if I just loved my partner a lot while acknowledging that looks aren't everything, that there are people who are more attractive than him, and that all other things equal I would maybe choose someone who looks different than him in some ways. But this isn't how my brain works, when I love someone I wouldn't change anything or prefer anything to be different, I will just literally adore everything about his looks.
It breaks my heart that no man would probably see my body as "subjectively perfect for him", when this is how I would view the person I love. Even good and kind men have some weird preferences, especially with how we're surrounded by hypersexualized images all the time but in part also because of biology. And what gets me isn't this fact in itself, just the asymmetry when my brain goes through this idealization shift where he's perfect for me, but I know no one will ever see me that way.
I feel like even just a decade ago this was different, and at least the kind and relationship-oriented men had more natural preferences. But now it feels like the kind of mutual adoration I'm hoping for is almost impossible. I'm considering plastic surgery because if I find someone I want to share my life with, I would love to at least be closer to his ideal. Or do most good men still have very natural preferences and I'm just spending too much time online?
>co-worker who is like the boss but not really, just the boss over me wants to be all buddy-buddy at the end of the workday after treating me like shit and yelling at me the entire day
um no bitch, we're not friends, i hate you and i legit can't take any more of you today so fuck off before i stab you
1. Would you rather live in a world with tinder, or marriage?
2. Are your parents together?
What are some things you are looking forward to? Could be tomorrow or like decades into the future but I feel like fantasizing about all the fun times over the horizon
Vent Thread
Old thread: >>27562
Siblings
Some questions to get this rolling.
>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?
>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?
>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?
>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?
>What is your relationship with your siblings?
Lets watch a movie, girls:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFK9wAOatGE
Then share our feels.
Lonely, worry I may never feel true love
I feel like I may never find true love. I lost feelings for my ex-boyfriend, am losing feelings for current one. I suffer from depression and have taken medication since I was 12 and I'm wondering if that could be to blame. I feel like I don't have many close friends, friends that I can talk to when I need them. My boyfriend is definitely more into me than I am into him, but I don't actively dislike him. I feel it for brief moments at times, but when I say "I love you" I can't help but feel like I'm partially lying. I'm unsure of what to do and feel generally stuck socially, and the quarantine is for sure not helping. Does anyone else feel incapable of normal emotions like love? I feel that I may be autistic, but getting diagnosed seems like a big stressful process to go through, considering there's no cure or promising treatment.
I know I'm not the best at detecting social cues but this is getting annoying
>sister tells me her bf is gonna live with us for the rest of the quarantine
>believe her because she's definitely the kind of person who'd let other people live at our house and our mom wouldn't care anyway
>"haha you couldn't tell it was a joke??? you're so dumb lol I can't believe you fell for that"
>friend invites me to a social event
>tell him I'm on my way
>he starts yelling at me on the phone because apparently I misunderstood him and I was supposed to be there an hour ago
>he sounds so angry I legit thought I was late
>start panicking
>feel bad and apologize
>"omg I was joking idiot hahaha"
>friend tells me she just bought a new super expensive monitor
>tell her that's cool and ask her stuff about it
>"it was a joooke xd I didn't buy it haha dummy"
what is the purpose of this, these jokes aren't even funny all they do is make me feel like an idiot for trusting people
how to get over ex
Hi everyone, my ex broke up with me 3 months ago and I don't know how to get over him and stop thinking about him. I miss him and wish he'd date me but I know that's going to never happen. Please lmk your experiences too!
easter feels
How is your easter this year? I mean i know for many of us its just like any other holiday, but how do you feel today? do you get to spend time with family? go to church? probably not.. because virus…
do you wish that you could spend time with a happy family on easter, hunting for eggs and enjoying a nice easter dinner?
happy easter ! ^~^
Trophies
Has anyone else literally never won a trophy for anything? Not even one of the medallion things?
I see people having collections like pic related stuck in a back room or even giving them away for pennies on CL.
I can’t imagine how good it must feel to know that for one moment, in that specific area, you were the best. Number one.
If I had even a small one I would polish it everyday and treasure it forever :(
What are your thoughts on cheating?
Is this a catfish??
So I started texting this girl on discord, we met from a reddit r/penpals post i made (im lonely, whatever).
She keeps asking me about my panties?? We played truth or dare and she dared me to send a pic of "the damage" on my underwear that day. She also truth-ed me to say which vibrator I'd try? We're both straight as far as I know, but I can't tell if she's really another girl. She also said stuff like "when am I gonna have you to myself?", keeps telling me I'm hot, and told me I can masturbate next to her if we go on a road trip. I'm getting catfish vibes, but she's SO nice and funny when she's not being creepy. I haven't talked to her in 2 days, should I block her or keep going??
What do you ladies think of sub boys? I just got off a 1 year relationship with one. Was too clingy. Too annoying. Too insecure (worst one of all). I couldn't handle it. I'm a hardcore sub anyways so we were a terrible match. I'd rarely top him and he'd never top me unless I begged. Of course he cried like a baby when we broke up. But yeah. ANy experience with sub guys or what's your opinion on them?
>crush had his birthday yesterday
>text him a long "happy birthday" message on instagram
>no response
i hate men
Quarantine Breakup. How do I cope with it?
My now ex-boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me 3 days ago. I was his first girlfriend/any relationship ever and he was my first relationship where I really loved the other person, and didn't feel like it was my obligation to feel validated. So even if it was only half a year, I was so in love and naive. However, he was always really terrible at describing his emotions, and I've always been too open about how I feel. He texted me and told me that he confused his feelings for me as something else. That he didn't know if he really loved me at all, and had been harboring these feelings for 6 weeks but only started thinking seriously about them now. But in between that time frame, he had sex with me and made me believe he really did love me.
My question is, when does it stop hurting so much? I'm a former self harm abuser (only 1 month clean, so this has been a real test of my endurance), and part of the reason he left is he thought my baggage was too draining and he needed to work on himself before he got romantically involved. I haven't been able to eat (I've been throwing up from the toll my emotions are taking on my body. Head aches too.), or play games, or draw, or watch movies, or listen to music without my mind immediately leading to him and how good he made me feel. He lied to me about how he cared about me, but I still love him and it hurts so much knowing he doesn't, will never, and probably never did feel the same. I just wanna know how to cope with it all.
How to get over a man?
I met a man and fell deeply in love with him. I trusted him completely, and genuinely believed that we would get married and I would have his children and we could build a beautiful life together and never part ways. It didn't turn out that way, though.
I'm having a really difficult time moving on from him. I ended things fairly recently, a month or two ago, but I'd lost trust in him several months before that. Even though our relationship was long-distance and we only got to see each other a couple times, it felt very real to me. Almost larger than life. I don't want to obsess over him forever. I think about him most of the day every day. Before I fall asleep, when I dream, when I wake up, when I walk, when I drive, when I cook, when I listen to old songs, when I see cigarette packs, when I read, when I watch movies, when I spend time online, when I look in the mirror…
How long is it supposed to take? I keep hoping we will reconnect at some point. I have a feeling that I haven't seen his face for the last time after all, but that's just wishful thinking, and he was bad for me anyways.
Can you love truly more than once in a lifetime? He's made me wonder if love is attainable at all.
i need more female friends. i’m not sure what’s wrong with me other than getting extremely intimidated by other girls.
i’m fine speaking with them irl and having normie conversations, but i find it so difficult to have them stick bc a lot of my interests are male oriented (ie. video games). i make male friends super easily, especially online, but i’m so tired of not being able to talk about my feelings or more feminine interests. i always get shut down when i want to talk about make up or astrology. that being said, i’ve tried to make female friends through this but i think i come off as too weird or something bc they always end up ghosting me.
any advice for this??
Anyone else ever found secret accounts of friends, family, or crushes? How do you deal with it?
I recently found the secret twitter and instagram of a guy friend (who I also am infatuated with, but he doesn't want to escalate for various reasons) and don't know whether I should notify him or just keep it to myself.
Currently leaning towards the latter. The power of having knowledge I shouldn't is thrilling, and only his two best friends follow him there so it would be fun to earn my place in his inner circle. I'll probably make burner accounts to follow him in case he changes his usernames.
But now I want more stories from fellow creeps, and any advice is welcome.
how can i make a guy feel comfy?
i am a bit 'tistic with others emotional states. i am trying to learn how to better react to peoples emotions. I feel like when i talk to my girl friend, i have a tendancy of being blunt and seeming harsh (i am working on this) but my concern is the dudes. dudes already have so much stuff to go through regarding their own emotions i am pretty certain that most of them are emotionally repressed to a certain extent (i am a tad ignorant since i dont interact with dudes often) and i know that when it comes to attraction i love dudes who are strong and "steady" if that makes sense. my fear is that, i will not be able to provide that sense of security within him in order for him to be emotionally vulnerable. i hope this makes sense i am not the best when it comes to typing out my thoughts… but what i am trying to say is how can i make a dude specifically warm up to me and make him feel like i am his safe space emotionally??
Do men even have feelings?
I've never met a man that had a shred of empathy, even when they are "depressed" it's all about ohhhh no I will never have this 10/10 asian stacy suck my penis or waaaaaah women find men who are taller more attractive, do they care about love or friendship or anything deeper than sex and social status.
non-femcel anons please answer this question.
I feel really shitty anons, I meet this person I really liked but we didn't click, I really wanted to know more about them. That feeling of losing something you can't revover really gets me. Maybe I'm acting obessive? Probably.
>that feel when no Erdos bf
Breaking uuup
I really really need some sort of support, I know this is just another breakup post and this is something people sometimes have to go through but the pain and emptiness is so much I genuinely want to die ; __________ ;
We talked last night and decided to not be in touch for a couple of weeks, and it seems a bit that we won't try to salvage it anymore after that. I know it's probably for the best, it was one of those soul sucking messes for years, though we never were hostile or toxic to each other. But he had bad depression and anxiety that made him constantly feel bad and guilty and prevented us from fully enjoying anything, and I have a high need to plan for the future and to know my partner is 100% committed and happy to be with me (by default unless there's some problem that needs to be worked on of course).
He's found a therapist who seems a bit better than the ones he tried previously but for this it's probably useless, this has been going on for so long that both of us associate this relationship with insane stress and anguish. And we had to go LDR a while ago which has prevented us from making new positive memories even after things momentarily improved a bit last year. Now there's corona and we can't even fly to see each other.
I just think it's so rare to find someone who doesn't lie about small things or cover things up, is understanding and never judgmental even when there are hardships to go through, is smart and likeable and funny but hasn't had a string of hookups or fwbs. Everyone says all men will appreciate other women even when they don't want to act on it, and he wasn't like that which was so adorable. And he was so attentive and affectionate like always saving the better bit of cake to me and giving me neck rubs and holding me if I had a long day. So many guys do those things in the beginning but then just stop.
I have an important deadline today but obviously can't focus in the slightest and haven't been performing well for a while because of this. I know everyone is losing their jobs now because of the virus but I really don't have anything left in life if I lose my job too. I keep thinking there's still a chance, he still said we're working on these problems and that he loves me. But I don't think his heart is in it anymore and I'm not sure I would be happy either. (But maybe? Things seemed to be going a bit better last year… :c )
I'm sorry for the vent but this hurts so much I can't bear it and I'm just going to be alone in my apartment for weeks. I have never felt this bad and have no one to talk to. Please help ; __ ;
Kill me
How does one deal with porn addiction? I just ask because I don't know what to do about it at this point in my life. It's embarrassing and I don't know how to talk about it. Maybe someone else can relate? I don't know.
Here's a picture about flavor because why not
I know there's imposter syndrome, but is there a word for fear that you might be making a variant of an idea, in your fanwork, for something that will be used in the piece of entertainment of which you're a fan?
It's one of the main reasons why I don't make fanstuff of shows that are currently airing UNLESS it's something which is only capable of happening in fanfiction/fanart and whatnot.
Meta on venting/age play
I hate being me.
I'm a gigantic crying child in a mid 20s body.
Whenever I express to someone that I'm in pain I don't actually want a solution or instructions, I just want someone to say "you poor thing life has been unkind to you".
While locked in the psychward the most helpful part was when one of the staff there was noticeably affected by what I told her. I think before being handed "tools and resources in order to function" I just wanted to lay my head on someone's lap and cry while getting smothered in love. I am always craving this treatment and it's all I ever wanted out of /feels/, I haven't even bothered to make an effort for another person here.
Objectively I know I am a strong person for being alive despite everything that has happened. In fiction a person who has endured a lot is usually emotionally rugged and capable of being unphased by things, yet I'm this petty and hyper sensitive person still. A psychologist told me I have an "emotional deficit" and that because of neglect(physical and verbal) and abuse I will have this empty well in my chest that can't hold any water, and that I'm forever going to constantly crave affection and tenderness but won't be able hold it permanently like a normal person because of my childhood. She told me I'm prime bait for an abusive person that could easily manipulate that. She was very blunt and told me it isn't fixable and that the only things to do are 1) Be very careful of who I date 2) Warn the person I date and find someone who might accommodate this defective behavior, 3) deal with it.
When I had my very codependent ex still, he'd baby me and allow me to behave like a 6 to 8 year old in a casual ongoing (non sexual)roleplaying thing we did in private. I used to feel embarrassed about doing this until recently when a miner mentioned doing the same thing and how she said it was common in people who've been molested. I miss that so much.
Every part of my instinct wants to fall down and have people pity me. I want parents that love me and call me and touch me and tell me they miss me. I crave affection, attention and love most days. It has been like this my entire adult life and the only difference between me at 25 and me at 19 is that I have reduced it.
None of it is helpful and I really wish I could be like a stoic and emotionally resilient character rather than this eternally needy helpless baby.
f r i e n d s
hi i just found this site i dont normally do this but here i go i guess
i don't have any friends i dont know why i just dont make the effort i dont text them it just feels like too much work id rather just watch a movie or a tv show
can you reply to this to just talk?
Forgiveness
Gossip, lies, cheating, hurtful words, etc
How do you forgive someone who deeply hurt you (family members/romantic partners/friends)? How do you know they're worth forgiving? How do you know they're worth the pain?
I'm terrible with letting go of resentment… I've been struggling for months to feel like I've forgiven someone.
Does forgiving mean you need to forget things?
Please share.
falling for unattractive dude
>met a guy 2 weeks ago at work and feel attracted immediately bc of clothing style and the way we interact together
>we talk casually
>get eachothers number and text casually
>he starts acting very clingy and i get freaked out. (example: asks to go on a trip to colarado with me, 2 concert invites)
>i start noticing his every flaw. his clingyness, insecurities, he is 5'2 and this begins to turn me off even tho i never noticed it before (i'm 5'0)
>we're chatting at work and i ask how old he is
>leans in and whispers "im 26 but i tell people im 21 cause its easier"
>BUT I'M 19 WHAT THE FUCK AND WHY WOULD YOU LIE ABOUT THAT LMFAO
before all this happened, i subconsciously caught some feelings and ive been having terrible anxiety the past few days. ive been trying to guarantee that i dont fall for him, but i find myself drawn bc i dont usually connect with peoples personality so quickly.
i'm so unattracted but maybe this us cause of my paranoia that hes too clingy/older than me?
i know this is NON ISSUE and i shouldnt be getting so much anxiety of this, but i just want to know if anyone else has ffelt this. they are half attracted, but half noticing their every flaw and wishing theyd never met.
i'm even afraid im in "love"
have any of you caught strong feelings but find them ugly or a little creepy?
>Bf sends me pictures of women
Women with big tits, women doing silly shit, women bounded, curvy women, naked women with legs spread wide open….you name it
What does this fucking cunt want? What if I started sending him pictures of hung men with monster dicks? I am losing my mind. Men are cretins, not all men of course,but this one is and I'm going to leave his ass. Fuck you, Kyle.
Complete epiphany/making peace with the past
I kept on wondering why, despite me having made a comic which represented my abandon from my passionately creative yet silly childhood roots for making them really long since I was 10, I still had a seemingly perpetual drive to make fanfiction despite having made one last year which had me abandon my most passionate roots since 2009, along with another…less dignified one this year that was basically me making the kind of…saucy fics I woulda made at the start of last decade (albeit with a different gender, leaving it like that): NONE of these had anything to do with the particular fandom which inspired me to start making fanfiction for in the first place.
To put it in metaphorical perspective: I shot the horse because I mistook him for the general.
So the way I see it I must make one final fanfiction of a certain fandom which brought me into the groove from the get-go. HOWEVER, this isn’t just something I want to put out of its misery as fanfiction, that has dated back to the prehistoric era of the Bush administration, is something personal to me. I’m essentially visiting the tragic ruins that are supposed to be my old hometown, sort of like finally watching a childhood animated movie you only saw in one language, now either in your second language or your mother tongue: sure you’re going to return to the magic, wonder, imagination, and purity of that age, but it may not last more than a few seconds once either your adult cynicism or the fact that you live in a post-apocalyptic world now where the rebels win will suck you back into reality (or leave you sort of in between, meaning if you’re 25 and felt like you were 9 again then you’ll only feel like you’re…17 again…(not intentional, btw)).
Therefore what I’m going to do is make fanfics for two fandoms: one for the fandom that I began writing fanfiction for in general, and two for a fandom which had me as far as discover fanfiction before I could even post it myself, meaning we’re not just talking about when I wasn’t old enough to use said websites according to the guidelines, but when I read fanfiction on websites that can only be accessed with the Wayback Machine now.
So I guess I’ll do my best. Thanks for reading me out.
what was your last relatiomship like?
>what are your standards in guys
>did he meet those
>how did you two start dating
>what did you like about him
>what is the memory you cherish
>what were unpleasant things he'd do
>why did you break up
>how do you look back up him now
Want to get back in contact with an old friend
I met this woman on a forum back in 2015 and we would hangout on Skype frequently. It was nice having someone who I could talk to freely about my problems because she experienced problems similar to mine and it was nice not to feel judged or threatened. I lost contact with her when she became homeless and lost her Internet. She had plans in place and insinuated that she would kill herself if things did not work out. I was very upset. About 2 years later, I recognized an alt she created on the same forum (she had a unique posting style and frequently wrote about the same subjects) and I contacted her. She was happy to rekindle the friendship and we began emailing for a few months. At this time I was very overwhelmed with school among other things and did not respond to an email for 10 days. She wrote a hurtful email about how I was a fake friend who did not want to talk to her and used her to vent my emotional problems, and I sent a hurtful response calling her crazy. I have since lost all forms of contact with her. It’s been 3 years since then. I recently found her new email and other contacts, and against my better judgment, I really want to contact her. I know it is a bad idea because she has a history of doxxing and stalking people, but I’ve never had a friend I could be honest with like her and I am missing the connection we once had.
Indian Guys
Would foreign girls even consider dating Indian guys (even if they're well mannered)? Most of my Indian friends that are girls would jump at foreign guys (mainly white).
How long to wait until telling my BF/SO about my rape??
So, I was raped by my adopted father brutally when I was 13 years old, well me and my sisters and little brother actually.
But anyways, I have a hard time telling any guy I'm with about this. It doesn't seem to matter whe the guy is or what stage the relationship is in, they all seem to distance themselves after about 3 weeks and vanish within 2 months. I've considered just not telling them at all but I feel dishonest about doing so.
What do??
a girl who looks like pic related (style wise) charged my ex on venmo for something I don't know because she only used the woozy emoji in the interaction.
My ex broke up with me because he was moving away for work and didn't know when he'd come back. He eventually came back like a month later and I was crushed and confused as to why he decided to end things when everything felt like it was going to well and we had a level of chemistry and compatibility that was indescribable. Anyway, I'm over it now, but I'm weirdly not over this stupid dumb venmo charge this girl left on his account a few weeks after he returned to the city we both in.
Although it happened literally months ago and I cyber-stalked this chick enough to know that she's no longer living in the same city as us, I'm still not over it. I'm generally not this obsessive as a person but.. damn I want to know what their relation was if they had one. I think a lot of the obsession comes from how I think she's genuinely prettier than me and that's what bugs me. Like a guy just up and dropping me for another girl because he thinks she's better, just is my biggest fear.
Like I literally don't care about a guy leaving me, unless I know another girl triggered it.
But anyway, what do you think the woozy emoji could mean? My therapist tells me it could have nothing to do with sex or even dating.. and could very well be something as stupid as a drug exchange but who knows.
Anyway, I feel bad for feeling this obsessed about it.. but not enough to not try to find answers.
It's literally a fucking game to me at this point.
How can you learn to love yourself without being narcissistic?
Any of you ladies have male friends?
What is your relationship with them like?
Is the friendship different from the one you have with your female friends?
Small Vent
I just cannot draw anything I like anymore because of the art style looks like crap.
Shy boy in my class wont approach me. Is there something wrong with me?
Putting the gun on the table
Do you ever go out of your way to intentionally annoy someone to the point that they feel like hurting you? That is to say, put the gun on the table and hope they shoot you in the face?
Androphobia & loneliness sadposting
I thought I was cripplingly socially anxious and depressed. I always have to take anxiolytics to talk to new people or I get a panic attack, I'm also almost completely anhedonic and wake up everyday with this dull feeling of dread and think about death all the time, etc.
But now I think I'm actually just terrified and stressed out around men. It took me years to realize this, because my workplace is 100% men except me, and so are basically all my interests (at least close), so I thought I was just afraid of people in general. I went to a women-only cold swimming place though, and felt happy and calm for the first time in probably years. These kind old ladies chatted a bit with me about swimming, and a young girl asked if I was ok when I got lost in thought while sitting in the dressing room, everyone was so warm and friendly. First I figured it was the cold swimming, so I kept going there a lot, and excitedly told everyone about how uplifting it was. But I tried it in an environment where males are also allowed, and just felt the same tense numb feeling I always feel.
Now I dread going to work. It's not that I'm afraid of violence or that men will harass me, my coworkers are good people but I think I'm not compatible with male psychology, their low agreeableness, low empathy, low social sensitivity, and the way they unconsciously glance at women in this sexually interested way. It makes me panicked and self-conscious when anyone pays this kind of attention to me, but it's in their nature. They stomp around and interrupt each other and me, don't remember details I told them, I know some of them are kinda redpilled even if they aren't evil about it.
(I was also in an abusive relationship some years ago and two male friends in the past tried to pressure me into sex very cruelly. I don't think this reflects on typical men though, but it's horrible knowing that most of your friends are still kind of hoping for a chance to fuck you, not even because you're so attractive but because you're the only girl around.)
I feel so alone and lost. I don't relate so well to normie women or geek culture type people, even though I like them and would love to be friends, and many stereotypically female interests would be really cool to try if I had a friend. It's just hard to think about stuff to talk about, because right now I'm autistically obsessed with my field/interests (decision theory and AI safety type theoretical shit) and I'm not sure they would like hanging out with me. I of course also know there are many women out there like me even if it's a minority, but they're probably hiding in their apartments too. I wish I could work with fewer men, I honestly think I'll burn out for good soon but in the abstract I love the research questions I get to work with, and I don't know what else I should do.
It feels like I picked a failing life strategy with my career and interests, my life feels like a dead end, I just want good close friends and social belonging but I worry that ship has sailed.
There's a married couple with 2 young kids I know and the wife is cheating with the husband's friend. Is it my place to tell him? How can I do it anonymously? I don't know how many other people know…
So what do y'all feel about non-monogamy? Open relationships, swinging, whatever y'all wanna call it.
tfw no bf
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Incels
I like a beta mom-complexed degenerate incel.
What do?
Should I lose my virginity to a guy friend who I don’t see myself being in a relationship with?
We both find each other attractive. I’m approaching my 30s and just want to experience what sex feels like. We communicate very openly and trust each other. I don’t see myself being in a relationship with him because I’m a very introverted person in general (it would take a lot for me to want to spend a lot of time with another person instead of being alone).
Will I regret this? What if I meet someone special later in life and regret that I didn’t have the special spark of my first time with him instead?
I thought I finally got what I wished for when I ran into a random normie girl from my neighborhood and we became fast friends, but she's been so annoying and frustrating that I want to get some distance. She's a lovely person and does a lot for me, but I'm so fed up with her compulsive need to be adored by everyone and her utter lack of intelligence or emotional maturity. I tend to get annoyed with people really quickly and was hoping it wouldn't happen with her because I crave friendship and was so happy to have met someone close to me, but holy fucking shit. She has so many annoying habits and quirks that are so utterly predictable, I can tell what she's gonna say whenever we enter a certain part of town, she repeats the same stories to me every time we meet and they're extremely cringy on top of that. I've been saying things like "I know, you don't have to tell me every time, I actually listen to you" but to no avail. She's extremely unsure of herself and as a result, she tries to please every single person she meets to avoid any sort of rejection. She seems too naive to realize where her weaknesses lie. She believes to have excellent people skills, calls herself a 9/10, and talks about how great she is at "psychology" and has even offered to by my "therapist" for certain topics. Realistically she's an extrovert but a terrible judge of character, closer to a 7, and reads mommy blog-tier psych websites at most. Guys butter her up (or neg her) because her constant need for acceptance makes her easy to manipulate and further inflate her ego, she takes all the compliments at face value but not the way they actually treat her, which is nuts to me.
Within an hour of running into each other and starting a convo, she had already told me her entire life story including launching into childhood trauma and giving graphic details unprovoked. She texts a lot, springs random pseudo-philosophical questions on you, walls of text everywhere. She got attached to me quickly and intensely and tells me often that I'm already her closest friend and most important person in her life. She tells me how much she appreciates my insight and how I read people and constantly asks for advice. It's been getting to a point where I feel like I'm entertaining a teen. She's very bubbly, happy, energetic and outgoing. She loves meeting new people and connects with everyone. That's how the trouble starts because she wants to be very important to everyone and tries to fast-track relationships by putting her everything into them even when the other person barely reciprocates. Her version of events is vastly different from how I perceive them (based on the exact quotes she gives me, texting convos she shows me etc.)
She's such a nice girl and puts a lot into our friendship. She's been calling me her best friend and citing me as one of two people who are the sole reason she's staying in this town. It's all I could ask for. But holy shit am I tired of her essentially acting like a 16yo school girl who's dating for the very first time, not a 29yo woman. I have so many stories about her baffling and confusing behavior and have been typing it all up to vent, but I wanted to post this summary first before I launch too far into it.
She's been noticing that I've distanced myself a bit. Last week she ran into my only other local friend B at a party, who recognized her from a photo and introduced herself. Later B messaged me telling me that every single thing I had told her about my normie friend's weird behavior made an appearance that night, and that she brought me up too, talked a lot about me, asked if B and I had hooked up (oh yeah, she's tried to hook up with me before and told me she had a crush on me but knew we weren't compatible for dating but asked if we would essentially be best friends with benefits who also go on dates -I declined)… and even told her that I don't text as much anymore. I told her I need a bit of a break from her guy stories because of how frustrating they are to me, and otherwise I've been not texting as much, but we still hang out approximately the same amount except for the fact that I'm traveling more recently.
B is just about the sweetest person in the world and told me she doesn't want to conclusions after just meeting her once and with the confirmation bias from the things I told her, but that she was super weirded out and uncomfortable and that she suspects my friend to be on the autism spectrum. I disagree because the spergs and autists I've met have given me a different sort of vibe, this friend seems more like garden variety emotionally unintelligent (she has a good career but is definitely more book smart than anything).
What should I do? Tell her I'm down to be more casual friends but not with all the pressure? Or shut the fuck up and be grateful I have a sweet friend who adores me and would do anything for me even if she's not my ideal friend type?
Does anyone else have anger issues?
I think if I were a man I'd be abusive. I think that's disgusting behavior and I would never intentionally hit anyone. I haven't ever hit anyone… But sometimes I think that's only because I'm weak. Sometimes I get so angry I want to scream. I see red. I just can't fucking see and everything and everyone is dead to me.
I'm glad I haven't got friends anymore, because I'm tired of hurting people with the things I say. When my boyfriend finally leaves too, I'll be completely free. I'll be alone, but, free. Do you know what I mean? My anger will likely never be fixed, but I won't have to always apologize. Every day I'm groveling. Everyday I feel like shit because I am shit.
Please don't say 'therapy'. I recently tried it. She said she couldn't accept me as a patient. She thought I was too much.
/cozy/
This thread is for /cozy/ thoughts to make you sleepy so you get enough sleep anonettes ! Or just to relax and drift off a bit. Do you usually drink hot cocoa before bed ? I do and it helps me fall asleep all warm and cuddly.
Please share your stories of female viciousness and jealousy.
I had a group of girl friends since elementary school and I was always the “weird” one and the butt of a lot of jokes. I never really minded (at least, consciously) because I was quite introverted and didn’t mind poking fun at myself.
Fast forward to the present year. I’m 28 and I know how to take care of my appearance and I just got a good job in a big city. I bought myself a nice purse when I signed the job offer and the day one of these friends saw me wear it, she completely changed the way she interacts with me. She must have told our other “friends” about my new wardrobe additions because they’ve been acting weird too.
I can’t be in a room with them without having insults and backhanded compliments thrown my way. Or reminders of random shit I did as a child. I’ve been asked directly how much money I make and how much I spend on various things. Things I saw are mocked for no good reason. I’d feel sick every time after one of these hang outs.
Anyways … I luckily moved for the job and cut contact with these childhood friends. But I still feel kinda disgusted that they never really liked me as me, they liked me under the condition of me being lower in their imagined hierarchy. At least I can say I’m better at spotting such people now (if they shit talk others they probably shit talk u too) and I’m better at not letting such people in my life.
I can't fall in love easily, I can't even get interested in someone easily.I only fell in love once we weren't even together. I talk to multiple boys but I don't want to do anything with them. I'll just be stuck in my sadness forever. I'm so lonely and it's been months since I saw him
It feels like I've been doing wrong stuff for my entire life and I've wasted it on completely useless and meaningless things.
I can't relate to other people, can't force myself to watch/listen/talk about anything modern and hip. All my interests are completely obscure and not relatable. I can still get drunk, socialize, and talk shit, but it has grown on me like a cancer and now everyone who's around me think that I'm a clown. I guess it's a punishment for being a moron.
The only character I can even remotely relate to is this green little frog. Yeah.
How would you make up for cheating on someone you love? Not necessarily because you got caught.
Asking for a friend.
Becoming Stacy
I feel like the only path left for me is to become a Stacy. This is a last-ditch effort before I take my revenge.
How do I do this? I want to get as close to aesthetic and physical perfection as I can, but I know it's impossible for me to truly be a Stacy, as the mindset and lifestyle is foreign to me. I just want to look the part, basically.
I'm so sick of feeling inferior, disgusting, and worthless. Everywhere I look, all I see are women being valued on youth and beauty only. My window is closing soon. I don't want to live my life never knowing what it's like to be beautiful.
Have any of you become Stacy, or achieved Stacy looks? What does it entail? I don't even know where to start beyond weight loss. Is it hair, fashion, and makeup? Will this make me happy? Or at least make me feel like I'm worth something?
>Live years of my life repulsed by the mainstream narrative about relationships
>have gfd be the first form of relationship / sexuality style I ever get interested in after years of nothing
>find a community of people who have /gfd/ leanings
>atlast.jpg
>begin to read about peoples negative experiences with sub boys and the bdsm community
>slowly get fearful / put off of the prospect of pursuing such a relationship
>this is fine, I was on the volcel road anyway, now I just have to continue to not try
>year and a half passes
>out of seemingly nowhere, brain decides to knit some new neural pathways that look a bit more like mainstream vanilla sexuality (no overtly sub stuff just being more ok with ‘bottoming’ and receiving affection rather than my previous touch-me-not self)
>still living single so no major changes there but the changes in my desire profile feel bizarre to me
>all this time believing I was different and for what
Am I weak, or am I just human? The idea of getting stuck with all the responsibility must have begun to outweigh the discomfort of the notion of mainstream vanilla life. Ironically, throwing the idea of <i>not</i> having to do all the work must have made more vanilla life look good by comparison.
My sense of self feels weird. I’m not overly bothered by the development, which in itself is quite the change from my previous state of mind. I’ve gone through brief phases where I would become fascinated with the concept of being in a relationship before, and they would go away as though they never happened leaving only mild embarrassment that I thought I was capable of having one, so perhaps this is the same.
Anyone else have similar experiences / thoughts?
I molested my brother
So we were camping together, sharing the same tent. And I wanted to look at his penis. So I put my hand down his pants and got a feel, and after I retracted my hand from his shorts he woke up and then went back to sleep.
Did he notice me? The fuck do I say? How so I apologise?
How do I motivate myself to do literally anything?
I just don't fucking care. I'm not motivated to grow up and be a real adult. I don't give a fuck if my tantrums are childish. It's comforting to me. I don't care that I live with my parents. I don't care that my job is the lowest of the lowest and that I would be homeless were it not for my parents. I don't care that my relationship is ending because I'm a bad person. I don't care that I'm not pursuing any of my interests, any of my goals. I don't care that I'm failing everything I work towards when I feel the slightest bit ready to try. I don't care that I don't care.
I'm not depressed. I can get out of bed mostly, and I go to work. But overall I just really give no fucks. My life consists of sleeping, working, and surfing the net, and while i'm not depressed, I'm not happy either.
It seems it doesn't matter, though, because at the end of the day I am not motivated. Not even rock bottom motivates me. It used to. It used to scare me that I might become a loser, but I'm slowly accepting it. Getting more comfortable with this reality. Is there a drug I can take that makes me feel like doing shit? I don't want the zombie drugs the depressed folks take or the cocaine-esque drugs that make you bounce against the walls. I just want to feel like DOING something. I want to feel inspired. I want to live. I just want to fucking live.
Why is crystal cafe moid friendly now?
There has been a rampant moid infiltration in these past few months that nobody seems to care about. Why are we not rebelling against this? This is a safespace for women, not a steamy gay locker room….GET OUT..MALES MUST BE KICKED OUT OF OUR HAVEN…BURN THEM AT THE STAKES
How to not be raped
We all know that it's dangerous to be outside alone at night as a girl. Let's collect here some tips and advice for making it safer.
1. Use umbrellas, not only do they make decent-ish weapons and look intimidating, but having them open over your head makes you appear bigger and therefor more threatening to the evolution based animalistic brain (i think the parts of the amygdala?).
2. Pepper spray
3. Have 911 dialed so you can just call it instantly if the situation is really scary
4. Make sure to let others know where you are and when you arrive at home etc. This way they'll be able to know that something might've happenee if you're not there at that time.
5. Park your car as close to the entrance as possible to minimalize walking.
6. If you notice someone following you in a mall, it should never be a problem to go to other girls and act like you know them while asking if they can check if the guy is actually following you or come to security with you (you can do the same too if you see that happening with another girl).
7. If someone actually grabs you, try to make yourself pee, poop, puke, etc. You might be able to have them let go of you.
Those are all i can currently think of, if you have more, post them!
how to less nice?
I'm too nice, I never think anything is anyone's fault than my own. It's really hard to critique/criticize anyone but myself. It makes it hard to know what I really want and really think.
>how to be more assertive or even mean/bitchy?
>how to be less automatically nice?
>confrontational people – why aren't you scared of losing relationships?
Jealously and insecurity
so heres the deal
the one thing that's really crushing my confidence in my relationship is my boyfriend's thirsty-ness, i understand that its normal for him to find other girls attractive but he literally has enormous folders with pictures of Asian cosplayers and egirls and its fucking with me. He is also kinda mentally invested in some of them (remebers things from their's personal life if they post something about it on their ig story etc.) I tried being more giving to him in that field (hq nudes, masturbation videos etc.) but you know those folders still do exist and he still follows a bunch of those lewd content - making women, ive shown discomfort about it in the past but to be honest ive never directly said anything about it. We were in a fwb relationship at one point amd and he was really out there commenting on their pictures and shit and never on mine and it hurt. (he started since i told him that but to be honest i dont give a fuck if he comments on my posts or not i just don't want him l u s t i n g after so many women). At one point a girl (@yuno on ig) posted a picture with a caption "if you know your girl is insecure get the fuck off my page" i remember posting a screenshot of the caption to my story and him responding something along the lines of "fucking love her" i literally don't know if he thinks im okay w that bc im bisexual.
Im just worried that im being jealous or acting crazy
seeing all of my friends getting together, going to restaurants , movies, sleepovers, etc. online almost every weekend for the last two months. I haven't been invited to any event with them since early November/ October. I recently cut one of them off, she was horrible to me and i feel much better without her, but they all got mad at me for cutting her off. there were 6 of us, and they all obviously favored her over me. I can tell none of them enjoy talking to me. They were my only friend group, and they will replace me. I know who ill be replaced with too. two of them still talk to me, but only in school, because i sit next to them. Ive always been regarded as the "weird girl" and they were probably embarrassed to be friends with me. I want to just cut them all off, and stay talking to the people who matter, better yet, id rather be completely invisible to everyone around me. I just want a normal friend group of people who actually like me, wont make fun of me for my interests or embarrass me. i also feel like im unhelpful to my mum, i really love her, and shes going through a lot right now, so she knowns none of whats going on, but i cant even get up the majority of the time. My room is a mess, and I haven't gone outside (other than walking to school/ to get in a car etc.) in over a week. i eat everything i see, and it makes me feel awful, but i dont want to slip back into old eating habits. I feel like my dad thinks i dont love him. my parents have been divorced since i was 2 or 3, so i only see him 3 days a week, and when i do i just stay in my room the whole time, and it feels impossible to get up, but i want to so badly. i want to spend quality time with him and i want him to know that i really do love him and im extremely grateful to have him, but i dont know how. I feel like when my parents are eventually gone, ill only be able to think of how i never spent time with them, and just stayed in bed and on the computer all day, i feel like a piece of shit for everything i do. im sorry this is all over the place i just needed to get everything out.
self strangulation
is it possible to die from self strangulation? I'm not talking about the "night night method" but like, just to squeeze tightly one's own neck and die from it… If it's possible, can it be done in a way that won't be painful??
Virgin Thread
Post here if you haven't lost your virginity.
>turn 22 in two weeks
>never had sex
>never had a boyfriend
>only kissed a boy once in high school
>too afraid of rejection to actively seek relationships
I feel like I have and am wasting my youth.
What am I supposed to be doing here? I feel so much regret. Everything I do becomes a mistake. Sometimes I think I should be doing something really important before I hit 30, but I'm already 22 and have nothing to show for it. There are people with homes and children by my age. Man I just want to be happy. I want to be content and feel like I'm on the right path.
how to be less monogamous
I have been in 3 long term relationships. I don't need to watch porn, I literally just get off to the thought of my significant other. I could do this indefinitely. No one else is attractive to me except the person I'm with, when I'm with them.
I've realized it's always unfair in that my significant others watch porn. They are essentially fantasizing about other women in doing that. How do I train myself to not only get off to my partner? I feel like I'm too monogamous and it makes me self-conscious. I know that asking my current partner to stop that they will probably agree, but still use porn and hide their usage of it from me. So how do I unlearn to be monogamous?
What's stupid, too, is that my current partner stresses how monogamous he is. If that were true, he wouldn't get off to others. The reality is, he's just like every other polygamous male. I feel alone in being a truly monogamous person. I have a very high sex drive for what it's worth, it's just I cannot think of anyone but my partner.
>Be on 4chan
>Too much misogyny or just ignorance about women
>If I reply to someone about it I get called a roastie/tranny/white knight
>Be on c.c
>Too much misandry or just ignorance about men
>If I reply to someone about it I get called a moid
Why is 4chan full of porn nowadays?
A few years ago I remembered 4chan as an interesting website where people had good topics to talk about, but now every thread is full of misogynist porn or "erotic images", I really don't understand the necesity of upload porn in every single thread.I finally left 4chan, and after a few months,I found cc, I'm so happy about that
Thumb sucking at almost 19
Hey guys, my birthday is only a few months away and I still suck my thumb. I have major depressive disorder and psychosis along with anxiety. How should I kick this habit? I’ve already kicked my porn addiction of like 8 years. I’ve tried playing with my hair, rubbing my feet together and shaking my hips side to side (when I’m trying to sleep). It’s one of the only things that calms me down.
Does anyone here as if being a woman is inferior ? Sometimes I wish I could have been a man, not in the transgender way though. I am just confronted to a lot of mysoginistic things daily (both online and offline) and it's as if I've accepted that being female automatically makes me inferior/stupid/unworthy. I wonder if I'm the only one feeling that way. I just wish I could be seen as more than just a female. I'm typing this very late at night so I apologise if my thoughts do not make much sense but I really need to just try and phrase my feelings out and look for advice.
The "cool girl" trope
Narcissists are using this trope to bully real women, its connected to that thing where if girls like anything obscure such as cars, (or things that are portrayed as obscure but isn't at all; videogames, anime, comics), there will be a narcissists to bully them because they are jealous of the love they receive for having interesting interests that unite the genders together because they want to divide the genders and cause problems between males and females by making them think females cant like things that are not hyperfeminine.
I will also point out that jpop and anime (or much of japanese culture itself) is actually feminine, narcissists will act like jpop is obscure and that if a female is into it it makes her a faker that is obsessed with male approval.
I was a virgin wife of my husband and i am into programming and jpop/anime/90's-videogames and needlefelting, crochetting, (a bunch of feminine things i would think) out of these subjects my husband is just into videogames and some anime, our shared important interest is being redpilled (in a way that is not anti female, we see other factors are at play manipulating the genders to cause conflict between the genders when we should just be getting along naturally). I eat what i want but i am overweight and trying to lose weight through calorie counting and skipping breakfast so i can eat how much i desire still.
So my interests are not for male approval.
Don't be ashamed of liking things that are obscure (or seem to be portrayed as obscure when they are not), that does not make you a pretender, it makes you actually cool and its okay that people and men like you for this, just don't be a slut because you are not one of the guys).
Friendmaking thread
Currently have no friends and have been experiencing panic attacks all day. What are you guys up to and how are you coping with life?
minmi#2792
Something you wish someone would say to you
Whats something you wish someone would tell you right now?
❤️
the only profession that interests me is coding for games but im scared of the misogyny
I worry that I'm tiring my boyfriend with all my shit. He already has a lot on his plate and is too much of a sweetheart to shoot me down. He is such a great guy but doesn't realize his potential and worth hence why he settled for me. Even though losing him is the worst thing that could happen to me, I have to accept that he can and deserves much better. How do I open his eyes? I can't just do this to him ..he is wasting away and I just want to disappear from his life somehow. What should be done?
Help
I just took videos of myself talking to my camera and I look incredibly hideous. At times, I don't even look human. I don't know how to describe this feeling but I can't shake it off. My ugliness is making my skin crawl and I think I'm going to break up with my ebf because I don't want him to see me ever. Talking to him feels embarrassing now because I just feel hideous. I don't know if this makes much sense but I feel so embarrassed for the people that have expressed interest in me. Please help..if this continues I might just rope myself. I am tired of this vicious cycle of feeling okay about myself for a few days only to get back to this point.
bored
i feel so fucking bored lately. nothing feels interesting or good. like i look around a room while eating dinner, watching TV, at work, and just think "Damn, this is so stupid. Why is this happening. I hate this".
I know it's depression shit, but my depression usually feels sadder and not so blank. It would almost feel better to feel sad. At least then it feels sort of meaningful?
> what do you do when you're bored?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA
Is this true?
Can moids really not have any sort of less than romantic relationship with a woman without trying to make it romantic?
While I know I have friends that love me I can't feel anything towards them.
My family fucked me up I can't feel anything for other people.
I only fell in love once in my life and I can't forget it since then, it's been 7 months since I last saw that person and it hurts.
I feel like everyone is wasting their time for me even though I need their attention.
How do you deal with people misuderstanding you because of your lack of social skills?
I finally made a friend, but she's always surrounded by other people so i'm always awkward when we're playing vidyas ir whatever.
Because of that she thinks i hate her but i just can't communicate and like a normal human.
Tldr; I'm retarded help.
>had to take plan b the other night
>will be about 2 weeks before I can even take a test to see if it worked
I cant shake the anxiety. I took it immediately, within 30 mins of realizing the condom slipped which means it's 95% effective, and my dumb luck means everything usually works out in the end, but I'm still anxious.
I have a friend that basically existed on plan b and rum this summer and she reassured me that it's going to be fine,but I'm still anxious.
Lonely people are lonely for their own faults and deserve it.
a whole new decade
Hey, how are you feeling about new years? I know it happens every year, but this is the start of a new decade, the calendar is never going to read 201X ever again, for the next 10 years it is going to be 202X.. It may all be in my head, but I want to start it off right. Do you have someone dear to spend it with?
Does anyone else here live in a tiny country with no hope of finding anyone else to love like you?
this is gonna sound cringe but
ive always wanted to get into the kawaii/edge/alt aesthetic , i ve loved alt fashion since i were 12 t b h.But im ugly and poor rn and from my calc my lyfe wont be steady enough until my late twenties ,to be able to afford such shit.
My issue is that its considered cringe/ridicules/ugly/ for women in their 30+ to wear such stuff ,just look at how that kelly person was dragged.
i know i shouldnt let stuff like that affect me but honsetly it does ,being ugly/old in alt fashion feels ita
>inb4 jus dont wear too cutsy shit
i have a feeling that that would be a insincere compromise and jus grim
Childhood friends
Is it even possible for a boy and a girl to be friends for many years without developing romantic feelings for each other?
I don't have many friends, let alone childhood friends, but I sometimes think I really miss something, it looks really cute at least in fiction.
I have this weird habit where I idolize groups or categories of people and it results in making me feel worthless and disgusted with my life. It also happens sometimes with people who treat me badly, then I think, "who cares if this person is trashy sometimes, they can also be cool sometimes". But mostly it's just groups in an abstract sense. Does it happen to anyone here? How to stop it?
rich poor problems
I was gratuated in fine arts 2 years ago. Since then, I face a lake of inspiration. When I have an idea, I think that somebody did it better than me. When I want to work with something, I think I can't make it more beautifull than it is already. I feel like my degree is not true and don't understand how I get it. But I did with honors and I know those thoughts are dumb. Now I try to have jobs to have money but not to much to have time to create. The truth is that I have no jobs so no money but no time to create either because I am to stressed. I want to be an artist and do exhibition but when I am invited to show what I do, I freak out, I don't trust in myself and present works that I don't like and then I feel like shit. So I fill my days with other projects that I like but it is not what I really want to do.
Today, a friend of my parents asked me about my work and I didn't know what to answer. I feel ashamed when I have to talk about that because most people don't understant that my major activity is not what I am payed for.
Do you have tips to deal with it ? Did you experiment something similar ? What do you think about work (philosophically)?
describe your perfect life to me
be as fantastical and dreamy as you want, i am just curious about the ways other people want to live.
pic's from her shim cheong
What is your internal struggle like? What thoughts or temptations are running through your mind? What is it that gets you down?
How do I cope with being a shitty person?
Hi, I hate myself. I have nothing good to say about myself. I've gotten so insecure that I constantly judge other people in my head to cope with my insecurities. I tried to work on my insecurities, but I ended up just having a mental breakdown after 18 months. My therapist says that my insecurities are a part of my personality, and that no matter how hard I try, I can never change my personality. The only thing that's valuable about me is my boyfriend who thinks I'm a great person. I think it's just a matter of time before he realizes what I piece of shit I am and leaves me. What do?
I'm getting older, and I wanted to share my wisdom with you.
As a woman, men will try to drag you down all the time. They'll try to say you'll hit the wall and loose all your value.
This is false. Most men are bald and fat by the time they hit 35. If a woman was struggling with her appearance, she would wear a wig and try to diet. Men? They don't care, and expect you to put up with their toad-looking selves.
Men want to know exactly how much they can get away with. This is why they ask about your exes. Do they have large shoes to fill? They ask themselves "What's the bare minimum effort I can put into this woman?"
Always set the bar high for them. Always. Don't let them do the bare minimum, make them do more. Do you think he would hesitate to move mointains for a Victoria's Secret model? Of course not. If he wants you, he'll move mountains for you too. Always dangle a carrot on a stick and expect more from them, but don't be rude about it.
DO U EVER JUST WANT TO DROP OUT OF COLLEGE
tfw stressed as fuck. I haven’t been motivated to study can anyone else relate
My boyfriend literally cannot accept that I love him as much as I say I do and it’s seriously disheartening. No matter what I say or do I just know he doesn’t believe I feel the way that I feel about him and he’s sort of vocalized this before. He’s been cheated on in the past so I understand emotional trauma and a hesitance to trust but we’ve been together for over a year and my actions and words still don’t get through to him and it makes me feel bad. Thoughts?
Attractive but unattractive but attractive
Pic unrelated. I just think it's appropriate, given the day.
Does anyone else feel like they're the most hideous and most cutest thing to ever exist at all times? It's strange but I simultaneously hate myself and love myself. I think that the loathing comes from the paranoia I feel about how others see me. I dress however I want, no matter what anyone says, and yet I feel like the happiness that it gives me pales in comparison to the acceptance I would receive if I just dressed 'normally'. And maybe the lack of acceptance (though it may just be in my head) is what causes me to feel like I should throw everything in my closet away.
This isn't coming out the way I wanted it to. It's very hard to focus. I just wish I could fully embrace myself. Sometimes people tell me I look ridiculous or frumpy or even ugly, and there's a part of me that breaks, but there's another part of me, the narcissistic mad lad, that almost takes pride in being a frumpy, ugly weirdo. 'Fuck yeah, I'm frumpy. And you'll never meet anyone as frumpy as me, either', it says, yelling over the part of me that's quietly sulking in a corner.
ramble over. Merry Christmas, ladies.
Due to outside forces i was forced to NEET for what is going to be a bit more than half a year. Its awful. You just sit around, not doing anything with your life. There is no goal. There is no reason to do anything.
>I gained 1/3 of my original weight in the 6 months so far. I havent showered in days.
>My house looks like a pigsty. I havent dusted in months. I havent washed my clothing in weeks.
>Depression took full control of my life. My sleep is fucked. I sleep either 12+h/day or 2h/day.
>I do nothing. I only sit, watch tv, play games, browse the internet and other meaning less things. All day. Every day.
>I picked up so many hobbies, so many studies and i dropped every single one of them. I have no energy, for nothing at all.
This is a fucking joke. I cant wait to have my life back. Fuck this shit.
@long time/voluntary NEETS how can you do this? It gets only harder for me to get out of bed with each day that passes. How havent yall killed yourselves already? What makes you want to continue?
>tfw i found out my bf watches porn with women in it that are the exact opposite of me (usually blond/big breasts)
i can't anymore. men's sexuality is just depraved and disgusting and there is no way to change that.
Im going to an acquaintance's recital tomorrow. I have seriously fucked up her view of me by acting snobby, gossiping and making fun of her (with a friend who i know wont tell, but we were in the same room, whisoering and giggling while looking at her. I know it sounds like im a middle schooler but i swear im not). my reason? She is gorgeous, fit, feminine and perfect in many senses while i am not. I am jealous of her and thats why i did that. i want to try and mend our relationship or if not possible, at least my reputation in her eyes.
Another thing: i am also attracted to her, and while i wont be asking her out, i will definitely get the stutters and such around her. What can i do to 1. Mend my reputation with her 2. Not fuck it up by being a dumb gay mess?
im honestly very nervous, how do you fellow nervous pals handle all of this ? i usually try to supress my thoughts with media but that doesn't always work obviously…
the "sub chad"
Does he exist? Is it worth hoping that i'll find it one day or is it just a myth. Not just sexually submissive obviously, but submissive in general. If he does exist, is he a decent person and not just a womanhater who has a secret femdom fetish? Is it possible to find a nice attractive boy like this?
I'm dating this INFJ guy. I'm an INTP. It's been pretty great. He has a shit ton of baggage though. I want to be exclusive eventually, I think. But I'm not really sure if we can due to his personal issues and my external circumstances. I'm trying to make the most of it. Regardless of the outcome, I want to finally build a deep and intimate connection with someone I'm attracted to. I've had relationships in the past. One of them was great and we got along very, very well. But we weren't profoundly, emotionally connected. I see that in hindsight because of my current relationship.
Anyway, I don't really know what I'm asking. Maybe, like, how do I make him mine/love me back? I mean, I think I'm in love with him. Not really sure.
Giraffe pic because he said I've given him the best blow jobs of his life. Wow! I'm surprised. He's super attractive and has had way more sexual partners/meaningful relationships than I have, so it makes me feel really good.
I know how to fix depersonalisation.
Been depersonalised for 5 years and i have finally figured out how to start getting over it.
Step one you have to keep trying and dont give up
Step 2, by trying, i actually mean you have to teach yourself that its okay to relax, you are very stressed, fixing yourself requires no work, just relaxing.
Step 3, all the emotions you feel are actually normal emotions like you felt before, your brain is just trying to make you believe bad things by making you worry and think that you dont feel things strong enough, or that you feel things too strongly and will get hurt from feeling things too strongly.
Step 4, dont give up, relax, dont worry, you are in the now, you already are here.
Life is painful
Just being alive feels so painful and difficult recently. I don't know why, I live a good life and nothing especially bad has happened to me. I just hate the world and I hate being alive. I feel guilty feeling this way when things are pretty good for me but I can't help it. I find no motivation to do anything.
What is wrong with me?
Which emotions does this photo evoke in you?
Have something bothering me but no one near me care and i need a help to stop this feeling.
I was raped from someone of my family when i was 6 years old and thats bothering me until nowadays, and i realize that society prefer young and naive girls, i feel that when a woman gets older she becomes less desired.
And thats freak me out, i feel so bad and sad about that and i hate to know that have a lot of mans near me that prefer young girls but hide this desire and its so creepy to think about.
i hate these thoughts so much, how i stop to think about that? i want to stop caring about what a men and society prefer. Someone help me …
Im so lonely because im a boring, sensitive and ugly person and i hate this feeling. How i can fulfill my loneliness without interact with people?
Also, sorry for any mistakes. English is not my native language.
Adult Acne
I have such severe depression from my adult acne. I'm 22 and I always thought acne would go away in my 20s but it's still here and getting progressively worse? I've had acne ever since I was 12 and it's just getting worser and worser. When I was 13-17 I used benzoyl peroxide to dry it out. What happened is that the gel cream I put on every night basically dried the whiteheads out and then I'd touch my face, pick at the dried zits, and watch it fall off my face. This left so many blemishes, it looks like I have zits on my face when it's really just the scars and hyperpigmentation from them. Also, benzoyl peroxide has the side effect of aging the skin faster since it dries it out and peels the top layer, leaving the skin vulnerable to sun damage. My skin is absolutely ruined from acne and now I just found out I'm going to age faster too.
I've been on the mini-pill since I was 15 to help combat the acne. It worked for a while until I was 19. Then I started getting cystic acne. These giant painful nodes would just pop up all over my bottom jawline, neck and cheek area. I thought the pill was supposed to help with hormonal acne? I did take biotin which has the side effect of creating acne breakouts, but I since stopped and still have clusters of acne in the same area, just not as drastic.
I've been using both hormonal preventative measures through the pill and topical treatments like benzoyl peroxide, but nothing seems to be working. I'm a hygienic person so it's not lack of showers or my pillowcases causing it. What the hell am I supposed to do? My doctors keep telling me to wait it out but I've been using both treatments for years now and I still get acne no matter what I do. To be fair, it has died down a bit, but I still get a cluster of zits and it just looks terrible in combination with my acne scarring and dried skin from the benzoyl peroxide.
What products should I use to prevent acne? What products should I use to heal scars? How do I wear makeup without breaking out? I suspect it is my makeup because I am the type to wear it everyday, but I'm not too sure what's up with my skin and what the hell is going on with it.
Anyone else here dealing with the trauma of being raped as a child? My mom’s boyfriend used to use me in the worst part is he gave me herpes which can never be cured.
I'm getting to the point where I don't feel comfortable posting on social media anymore. Reddit, Discord, Twitter, Instagram….the works.
I hate that everything is tied to my identity forever, and it doesn't automatically delete the way imageboards do (unless you're on 4chan with a tripcode, then people can search your trip…I guess…).
I wish social media would automatically delete my history after 1 year. I'm usually a pretty active user, so deleting all my comments is annoying.
I wonder if this is stage 1 cancer from imageboard use. What is stage 2?
I'm really happy because I may get kicked out of med school and I'm really excited to see how depressed my parents get.
i just want to be hugged by a biological male
How do you feel about traditionally chivalrous behavior (i.e. opening doors for you, walking you to your door)? Do you like it when guys act this way or does it make you uncomfortable?
The impact of someone's suicide.
4 years ago my boyfriend killed himself. Looking back at it the relationship was very toxic and absolutely destructive. Of course i am not happy about the fact that he died, he still was a good person even if he was mentally unstable. I want to honor his memory. Of course this subject still makes me sad, i still wish he was alive. It happens that I blame myself sometimes, i was his girlfriend afterall, i could have prevented this from happening. But what is done is done. I wonder if some of you had similar situations…
>tfw you got everything but life's still shit
A while ago I ranted on here about how I hated my life because I sucked at housekeeping and my husband resented me for it.
Well, everything changed. He asked me to get a job and he'd take over, what was all I wished for and what would be objectively better.
Guess what, I found my dream job. Two of them actually. The fields I was most interested in. That always fascinated me. Perfect environment. Even the husband is impressed and satisfied. Awesome pay.
And I'm still sad. Now the realisation hits that I will be outside and away from the kids because I'm a useless toxic piece of shit that otherwise strews disorder and decay everywhere. I'm contained where I can't break anything and where my useless niche talent will yield objective values for material needs.
I will literally be buying my kids' love with shitty expensive gifts.
Please tell me I don't completely suck so I can believe it.
Do you care about how a man dresses? I do and none of my friends do, I’m convinced there isn’t a normal man out there who I can just take shopping with me and actually offer valuable critique and appreciate the same things as me. Am I in the minority for wanting this? My friends don’t care about how guys dress so I feel like some weird outlier
How to show interest when a mean approaches me
Most of my friends think I'm a lesbian because they had never seen me with any men and when some guys approach me. How do I show interest in them? How do I behave if when he wants and I want too?
>Songs you love/used to love but can't listen to because it triggers painful memories/feelings
Mine is Lucy Rose- Shiver
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1YoYbpBGaJM
Such a beautiful, comfy song that I can't enjoy because it reminds me of my first love, who really liked this song. The guy that just got away. There was no closure, stuff just happened and we just went apart. All is left is bittersweet memories that this song always triggers. When I really focus on the lyrics I can't help but tear up a little, knowing I'll always be haunted of what could have been if things went a little different.
Your turn.
I wish we could be more like birds, where males are more known for their beauty and have to impress us and compete using their beauty.
On today's menu:
I realized that I actually CAN'T stop drinking.
I'm fucking up my live because I can't get out of bed and myself to do something thanks to constant hangover depression that roots in constant drinking.
I stopped for two weeks and actually got my shit back on track. Got up in time, visited classes, cleaned my room, talked to people, went to work, all that stuff.
But I only managed to stay sober because I bought alcohol daily (without consuming it) and the tease of being one step away from a nice warming drink kept my brain somewhat in line.
Yesterday I fucked up after I realized that two weeks of bingeing lie around in my apartment by now it looks like I'm running an illegal liqueur store. It came to me that I can't start hoarding alcohol instead of drinking it to make anything better so I'm where I started and I had a rough one and blabla.
What followed was me getting hammered and not getting up in time.
I lost 90% of yesterdays evening and I can already feel the constant drain of my general interest in existence outside of being drunk again.
It was quiet nice to not feel that sensation of overall emptiness for a while but for some reason I decided that its time to come home to misery.
It's not helping that basically all my friends are on the whine aunt/vodka in my insulation jug soccer mom road and I think that's exactly where I'm also heading now.
I'm not asking for help or something, I bet I can score a marriage with some emotionally deceased accountant guy who needs a trophy wife in order to make his mother finally shut up, so I have a plan. I just needed to tell someone to finally accept that I spectacularly failed at being alive (aka not getting addicted to something you aren't forced to come in contact with, that is making you sick and that you know has an addictive nature). I'm just glad we are out of the survival of the fittest phase in terms of me getting killed on the spot for my stupidity.
I think I'll just stay with my Husbando
I don't really have anywhere to post this, so sorry if this is spam.
But I've been thinking of quitting dating all together and just commit myself to my husbando. I've been obsessed with the fictional character on and off since 2005? Definitely a majority of my highscool days. I just hate dating so much, I've never really been on a actual date more then a few times. Everyone I seem to fall for in real life never seems to reject my feelings. I guess I'm just used to one-sided relationships. I've only really been in one relationship and it failed mostly because of my mental instability and because I'm such a mess he didn't love me. It's not like I ever plan on getting married or having children, aside from my cat. I just think I would be a lot more happier if I stopped trying to find someone. He is still my ideal but think I'm the most happiest with the idea. The idea is perfect. In my head he accepts me and loves me for who I am. I know it's unhealthy in a way.
I don't know where I am going with this post. I just wanted to rant. My friends don't talk to me as much anymore. Once again sorry if this is spam, just ignore it.
If you are committed to your husbando/waifu, I'd love to hear about it.
I am in desperate need of advice
Hey. I'll try to not bother you guys with unwanted details and I'll cut straight to the point.
Hi. I'm an 18 year old femanon, and I'v been in one relationship before. During that relationship, I had a history of an anxiety disorder and some other psychosis, I was 14, and I got extremely attached to the guy. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, welp, anyways, turns out he was very toxic, we broke up, blah blah blah
tl;dr: I'm glad we didn't stay together for a long time, let alone got married.
Cut to the current year: I am mentaly stable with very little anxiety and I met this guy over an,ehkhm, anonymous board, where we discussed language and what not, I gave him my discord, and over the next 10 months, one thing let to another and we are currently in a long-distance relationship. I really like him,and we're meeting for the first time in June, however, there's a bit of an issue: he's never been in a relationship before me. Too autistic to make a move, I think that's cute and all, but, one day I brought up the theme of marriage and children, and I told him I'd like to marry him someday in the not-so-far-future. He got really fond of this idea and he's been kind of pushing it today - I reply to him saying I feel the same way, but honestly - I feel very scared. My confidence has gotten better with him, and i really don't want anybody else, but… I don't know if I'm ready to think about it seriously. I'm also worried that he thinks he wants to marry me but it's just the sort of feeling you get in your first relationship… I don't know what to do here, honestly… I don't know how to position myself in this situation, and I really don't wanna end things with him either. I mean, we spend 5 hours talking every day and all, but we haven't even seen each other in real life yet! please help.
Thanks in advance, and thank you for reading my long-ass post I feel a bit better now that I've verbalized what I was worried about. Thank you.
I've developed a crush on someone recently and it got me wondering how crushes manifested for other people. So I want to know when you get a crush how does it make you feel and how to you act around them?
For me personally I feel like I'm always looking around for them like in case they'll just show up wherever I am. I also seem to develop crushes pretty fast, 100% of my crushes I've only spoken to once then I find it hard to speak to them again cause I'll go beet red.
To suicide or not to suicide?
I am obese (over 100 kilograms), ugly, unhygienic, mentally ill (untreated even though I went to the psychologist but I will tell you later), unpleasant to be around with (even my so called online friends talked shit about me behind my back - i cut off contact with them though), and incredibly naive and dumb.
So, to fix all these problems I went to the psychologist for YEARS. But they didn‘t help me, or barely did. Or it didn‘t help me because I am incurable. I am the type of bitch to not shower for weeks and be okay with it, because I don‘t care honestly. Today i ate like shit, my mom didn‘t cook for me and I am not allowed to cook for myself so I warmed up some canned meat (no bread or anything just the meat) and even though it tasted like literal shit, I still ate it because I was hungry and literally don‘t give a shit about the taste of my food. I am fat because I eat a lot of it, but the taste of the food I eat is literal garbage and has been garbage for some time (4 years). I recently went to school for adults to redo high school since I am too stupid to not have been able to graduate high school MANY years ago, literally. My mom paid me a lot so I could go to university, but I failed all of the times in the past 4-5 years. I know I should go to trading school since that is where retards like me go but community college level 2 didn‘t accept me back when I was 16 and I didn‘t want to go to community college in my town because I was heavily bullied in my first year. (Yes i did the lowest level of community college/trading school).
Obviously, I didn‘t have ANY friends EVER in my life. Nor did I ever had some fun, except going to mc donalds. Yes these are the exciting things I do in my life. I never went to starbucks either, even though i really want to. But the only food thingies where I go to are ghetto shit like mc donalds and shit. I wanted to go to some concerts on my own but my mom told me it‘d be better if I‘d lose weight, make some friends and graduate my adult high school, which I will never do anyways. So I won’t ever have fun in my life. I got in my first semester only Fs. And I missed an important math exam today which I was supposed to redo. I only do this year three subjects, maths, chemistry and biology. And next year i was supposed to get the rest of my diploma. I wanted to complain about my mom since she didn’t want to help me today with my homework, but honestly looking back I don’t have the right to complain. I was a pretty shitty daughter. I say was because I really want to end things. Anyways this fat whore wanted to die ever since she was 8 years old and literally has no reason to continue to live. I fail at everything, probably have borderline personality disorder/some other kind of evil personality disorder because I lie a lot since i‘m embarassed by my past. Except now of course, now I am telling the truth since I‘m anonymous anyways. Anyways the point is…I don‘t want to live and if you‘re reading this/making fun of me now give me one reason why I deserve to live, because honestly I don‘t. I feel like I am a burden to society and if I don‘t end myself, I feel I‘ll probably do an Elliot Rodger. I am serious, I feel like I can snap any time. The world has not been kind to me but it isn‘t to anyone, so why do I have the right to fail so much at everything?
>inb4 i‘m not trying my best
I literally went to the hospital to volunteer, but they said fuck off after ONE day just because my social skills aren‘t the best. But i wanted to improve them by volunteering.
t. Crazy fat dumb bitch who probably posted this in the wrong board and has been wallowing in her own shit since she was 11
Is consent to sex consent to pregnancy? How hot of a take is pic related? My personal attitude towards sex has always been to only do it with someone I love and would have a kid with, but it seems like an unpopular opinion. Most normies seem to be into casual sex and hookups, and even polyamory. While I don't think these more modern attitudes towards sex are necessarily a positive change, I also think it can be counterproductive to push more traditional views like this. I don't think there's any right answer to this question. Ultimately I think it's an individual decision, since everyone has very different personal experiences and attitudes towards sex. I'm curious to hear others' thoughts on this though.
Someone said something mean to me on 4chan and now I'm sad
I can't forget him. It's been 9 months since I saw him last time,it's been like a month since we talked.
We never really got together. He found a gf and doesn't even remember me.
Anyone else has a problem liking people romantically and falling in love?
I fell in love once and because I have this problem I can't forget him.
We never even were together.
Sexual attraction
Since a very young age i have felt sexual attraction towards boys and girls. Since i, myself am a girl and come from a semi-religious household in a homophobic country i have felt quite not okay with it but i was aware of its presence.
Now i am completely okay with it and i have had sex with both men and women and enjoyed both.
But i still cant form a romantic relationship with a woman. Im becoming more insecure in my sexuality each day and im not sure what to think of it. Am i really bisexual? Am i bi-curious? Am i actually just unconsciously pretending to gain attention? Its messing with me.
Anxiety
Does anyone else get anxious about certain situations and they don't even know why?
For me I'm a student, and I'm really scared of talking to people, but I do fine in most of my classes, I just do the work. But there's one class that always really makes me feel terrified to go to and I don't know why. I think it could be the teacher makes me nervous, and also how loud the class is, but honestly I don't know exactly. It gives me a really irrational anxiety :( (sorry for blogpost there)
Anyone else struggle with anything like this? How do you deal with these intense feelings that you don't even understand, nevermind know how to get rid of?
Is it weird that I’ve had more crushes on fictional characters than actual men?
I feel like a degenerate around some of my friends because they’ve openly made fun of people who have crushes on fictional characters, especially those from anime and cartoons. I can’t remember the last time I’ve had an actual crush on a dude irl.
I hate this
I don't want to live but I can't end it because of a few people I care about (and I'm too scared)
What am I meant to do :(
How to deal with needing constant affection
I feel like I'm way too emotionally dependent on my bf and even though he pays attention to me I still feel neglected
I think it might be because I'm lonely and don't have any friends but I can hardly talk to people cause of social anxiety
stuck at home, don''t know what the ever-loving f*** to do
Long story short: I want to drop out of uni and move to a new city with new beginnings, but my parents are unsupportive and say they will do nothing to help me move out and just let me rot at home with my father until I decide to go back.
Long story long: living with my father all these years legitimitately makes me want to kill myself. We live in a town with a population of nothing but baby boomers. I know no one besides my father, who ignores my existence 99% of the time. I have no friends or other family members here. I have lived here for two years now and have more than a year left to go at this school. I'm getting a meme degree, culinary arts, that guarantees me nothing more than a job that I already have. I keep flunking my classes because not only do I work to save up, but I am so depressed and just want to come home and cry about how lonely and miserable I am when I get home from work or school and can't focus on schoolwork. I also miss so many classes because I can't get out of bed to go to school so I get F's for participation which results in a failing grade for the class. A year and a half may seem like nothing, but I'm almost 30 and just want to live out the rest of my 20's being happy and having friends, plus with all the classes I'm flunking it may be delayed to another 3 years or more before I graduate.
I can't drive so moving far away on my own isn't an option. My parents said I'd have to pay thousands upon thousands of dollars to pay for someone to drive me because they won't do it and I don't know anyone else who can drive to help. This is on top of me paying for furniture, first month's rent, etc. to get me through the first month of living somewhere else.
I told them eventually I wanted to possibly go back to school and major in something useful that I actually like (culinary arts was not my choice, but my parents') but they said that was stupid and I needed an associates degree first (which is what I'm currently getting and it's taking for fucking ever).
I don't know what to do. I'm so miserable. Please eat me alive if I'm being stupid and could be doing something better, because I need the advice right now. I'm supposed to talk with my advisor later today about registering for classes and I just want to flat out tell her no, I'm not coming back but it doesn't look like I can.
Lack of female friends
I lack friends in general, but especially girl friends. I had a couple during my time at school, but most thought I was weird and the girls I did befriend I am no longer friends with and was never too comfortable with anyway. I get along with boys well, but I feel like I'm missing out on having a mutual friendship with a girl.
I also tend to feel inferior to other girls, and that holds me back.
I don't really know what I'm looking for posting this. I want to vent but I also want to maybe hear about you guys struggling with friendships. I'd really like to have a best friend.
I hate Halloween.
I enjoyed it as a young child but as you get older it becomes day for all the popular girls and guys to have parties and dress like sluts and drink and have sex.
Now I'm a fucking loser because I never got invited to halloween parties or worse a skimpy costume and fooled around with Brad from the baseball team or from the frat in college.
I fucking hate this holiday.
my friend stopped talking to me
i can't stop crying. i just want to go to bed.
i don't have anyone now.
i'm all alone.
i don't have anyone.
Has anyone ever considered or tried suicide? How is the best way to do it?
how do you deal with being super embarassed? i wish i culd just disapear from this place for some moments, i hate this feeling
Suicide
- do you know anyone who committed suicide?
- how did you feel? and how do you feel now?
- how do you feel about suicide? is it fair/unfair/right/wrong/a choice, etc
Share your thoughts.
(I'm unsure if I should post this to /x/ or here, but won't mind having it moved.)
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I am in a world of shit
I can't get over him. Not sure what I'm supposed to do now. I'm a wreck and I tear up at the thought of him. Had to excuse myself from class because I couldn't hold back my tears. There's no getting back from this, there's no default happy state to fall back to. I was miserable then and I'm miserable now. The only time I've experienced genuine happiness was when I was with him. Should I just off myself? I feel like there's no place for me here.
Le mames
What qualities does /feels/ require in men before doing anything with them?
Relatives pressuring for me to get a bf and get pregnant
My parents want grandchildren. My great grandparents want great grand children. Since all my cousins are very younger I'm their only hope.
It fucking sucks how the put me under pressure for this. I know, at 28 yo I should already have a bf, but I don't, and it's not because I don't want one, and putting this pressure on me won't help.
Anyone with a similar problem?
How to cope with being ugly?
Anyone else struggling with their appearance? Being ugly takes such a toll on your mental health. I have been obsessing over my appearance ever since I can even remember and lately my condition has worsened. I spend every second of the day thinking about my face and picturing myself from an outsider's perspective, so as to validate or invalidate my self image. I am tired of constantly asking people for assurance and digging out photographs of myself from the past. I am tired of taking pictures from every angle, flash on, flash off, natural light skbfubfkb you get the idea. tldr; i am hideous should i off myself?????????????
help
i dont really know where to complain about this, either way even talking about it might make me sound like a transphobe but here it is: i have so many female friends that are turning into transmen. I am not against them doing this, honestly they're good people but… since there's so many of them around me i feel like it isn't really a trans issue but more of a self esteem one. A lot of them have had bad experiences with men, were lesbians and overall envied how "easy it was from a guy's perspective". I dont want to judge them for choosing this life but there's so much of them now. The funny thing is that they're all part of the art community in some sort. If anyone can explain to me why this is happening, why there's so many of them that are starting to become transguys (like this is getting a little bit ridiculous), i'd gladly listen. If i decided to ask this here, it's mostly because on other platforms i'll be called out for being transphobic without anyone explaining me why im being transphobic; and also because since this is a FtM issue some of you might help me understand better. I feel like more and more girls envy men's lives when in reality both men and women have their own set of struggles.
Basically, im starting to become sick of it on the long run, even if i try to be nice and accepting. Just why the fuck is it happening?!
Relearning math and science while also managing college?
Is this possible
I vented a couple days ago on here and I think my ex found me (male who shouldn't be browsing this board anyways) and asked a weirdly specific question about where I live. Now I'm even more stressed and my mental health is even worse. I found a place where I could maybe be safe from him controlling my life and making fun of my issues and it turns out it's not all that safe because of my ass of an ex. My episode I'm dealing with is now so much worse thanks to him. I'd go see a music show but he won't let me go to those either. What's next? Is he going to go and tell my work about how terrible I am when I'm psychotic? I know I'm terrible when I'm like that but it's hard to like control, my ex would know that too because he's dealt with psychosis but he's just a fucking pussy hypocrite that browses boards for women because he can't handle 4chan. Thanks to my ex for ruining my fucking life and making me feel so lonely and hated.
who's an overly afraid person ? im often afraid of weird things that could just happen out of nowhere. Sometimes im scared of things like ghosts or people randomly coming to get me. I work a lot during the days and dont get much time to relax, but when i do im afraid something might happen.
Do some of you overly afraid anonettes relate ? How do you usually deal with being scared like that ?
I wouldn't say its full on anxiety, more like when you don't want to watch something because it makes you scared and want to hide until it stops.
ITT: Unusual feels only you have
I’m a successful high fashion model but I’ve never had a bf due to awkwardness, possible autism, shyness, and social retardation. I have literally 50+ new creepy guys sending me DMs on insta (usually dick pics) every day MINIMUM. I know there are men who want me but I just can’t do it because my head is fucked. Dates seem terrifying. It’s horrible when I have a job with a cute boy, and it’s even worse if despite all my quirks they’re really nice to me… and turn out to already have a fun bubbly extroverted gf.
I really just want to fucking kill myself at this point. I can't take it anymore the thoughts are really obsessive, I broke up with the dude I was with because I was afraid my ex would ruin it for me, and I can't get close to people. Justin if you're reading this you won, you're not supposed to be on here but you've officially made my life fucking miserable and sad and lonely. I've lost most of my friends, I can't make music or perform because of you anymore, I can't enjoy my favorite bands without you or one of your roommates at the show to try to kick me out because I know you know what music I like. My relationship with my family is ruined too because of you. I hope you're happy Justin, I hope you're so happy (just kidding I don't). Go ahead tell on ke to my dad and have him yell at me anf almost lash out on me physically because I know that's what you wanted to happen. I can't handle this anymore I'm so fucking lonely too but I can't make friends because I know he's going to find out and use his band's influence and his connections to ruin that friendship.
I'm not sure if this guy likes me or not,
We met at a rough times in our lives and hes a kinda broken person (addiction depression etc) but that made me curious and we got to know each other and I just treated him as kindly as possible and he ended up opening up to me about things, a few times hes told me about how he never opens up and it feels good to be able to, and one night I sent him a picture of myself nd he said "You can really see your gorgeous eyes in that one". He sends me flirty photos sometimes like of him without a shirt on etc but I'm not sure if he sends that to everyone.
I've gotten a few light signs of disinterest from him, but I'm not sure if it ties into him having trouble being open/being awkward or if it's just signs I should back off.
Yesterday we hung out for the first time since we got closer and he was friendly, and one girl brought up my hair and he said he noticed it and told me "It doesnt look bad" which isnt a flirty compliment but I dunno if that was his vague attempt at it. A few times hes sorta brushed off the things I've said to him but recently he said "aw I'm flattered" and last night I told him he reminded me of myself and when I'm doing drugs with him its not cause I'm sad it's to make a good thing better and he said he feels that.
He makes me feel such a bittersweet happiness, I want to be the one to love him and make him feel his worth. Hes had very bad experiences with girls before (told me he would be up at night wondering why he wasnt good enough) and I wanna show him what genuine love feels like.
I'm not ready to be completely honest about this all with him but does anyone have advice on the situation or advice for things I could do to sorta drop more hints?
how to meet people?
How am I supposed to meet and create long lasting friendships with people when I spend all my time online shitposting to the point where my sense of humor is retarded and when I am so swamped with work that I can't even keep up with any of my shitty reclusive hobbies like comics and watching childrens cartoons so I have nothing to talk about
i feel like i can't talk to people. i'm so shy and honestly just not a funny person until you really get to know me. i can't relax. i'm even worse in group settings.
tips for meeting people in these circumstances? preferably loser girls, it seems like loser guys fall in love with anything that moves.
>iwn have a depressed autistic bf with the same obsessions as me
why wven live?
I'm so tired of living. I thought it would get better over time but finding a job is just as impossible as it was yesterday, my libido is dead and I don't even ever want a partner anymore, the prospect of dipping out is getting progressively more tempting and only because I can't imagine anything after death to be more insufferable than my life and all the worries it brings with it, like financial issues. Why couldn't I have been born a normal person with a normal childhood and a normal adulthood? Why does mine have to be like this
just venting because I don't know what else to do haha
I have effectively no friends besides old high school pals that I never see and have nothing in common with. The last sexual encounter I had was five years ago. I have no significant other. This is my last year of undergrad and I haven’t networked at all aside from becoming familiar with a few acquaintances from my classes that I studied with or whatever.
My life is tolerable because I take a high dose of Effexor to numb myself. Although I no longer experience suicidal ideation owing to the medication I would not at all mind dying in my sleep.
Been feeling really rough lately. My long term boyfriend broke up with me over 6 months ago and I'm still struggling to get over it not because I miss him but because he left me while I was having a psychotic/manic episode and completely ghosted me on top of dumping me over text. He's living large and happy right now and I'm just struggling with my mental health and my lack of friends. I found a new guy but it's hard to give my all to him when I still feel really hurt and fucked over by my ex. I don't know what to do. I take my meds like I'm supposed to and I do therapy but none of it works because I cannot get this motherfucker out of my head. He even talked about my mental illness and made fun of it with his friends. I feel so hopeless right now.
S/o just wrote this. After everything I've done. What the fuck is wrong with me?
I hate getting high
It used to be amazing the first few times.. It was a euphoric, happy, and adventurous experience for me back then in highschool. Now I have trips where I feel like everything is fake and reality is so weird and I'm going insane. My thoughts start racing and I enter into a panic attack. My heart beats wildly, I can't breathe and I fear that I'll die or stay crazy. On one occasion I feared going to sleep because of this when I had eaten a brownie late at night. These bad trips happen when I get too high, but even smoking a little makes me sperg out. I look in the mirror and spend an eternity looking at myself and focus on every flaw. I become introverted and dwell within my thoughts, and sometimes I can't even talk right. These experiences have affected me to the extent where I even disassociate while being sober. And yes, I did quit.
I lost my job back in 2017 because I was bullied by older co workers most of them seniors since then ive lost all respect for my elders.
I got back into digital art since then but I need other things to do in my free time any ideas?
F
I dunno about you guys but I'm ready to end it. Everyone keeps telling me to just "choose to be happy"
>Don't come out of room during family event
"Anon! Stop being so rude and antisocial. There are family."
>Come out of room during family event
"Haha, anon is like an animal! She only ever comes out of her room when she smells food!"
How do I win
Why are women unable to experience true love?
I can't fuck my boyfriend anymore. I could fuck someone else but I can't fuck him anymore for some reason, I don't get turned on.We've been together for 6 years now. I love him and I want to stay together with him. Since he never cheated before I started wondering if I should tell him that I don't mind it.
Sensations
What are some weird sensations you enjoy?
For me, it's when you get your blood pressure taken and the cuff inflates around your arm. For some reason, I love it.
You walk into a room and see these guys. What do you do?
Seriously though, are you a nervous/awkward person?
Today I saw a social media post by a teenage boy complaining that a girl cried that she found out he was assigned as her partner for a project.
Everyone sided with him. Nobody cared to understand her reasons for crying. Everyone cared about his feelings, nobody cared for hers. He only cared about himself and cared none for the fact he was hurting this girl. How dare she have emotions that aren't what he wants!
It made so angry I want to kill OP and all the people in that fucking thread.
Advice General
In this thread we ask (or give) for advices to or from other miners
Don't be unnecessarily rude to each other
How to help bfs relax?
I have an autistic boyfriend who I've gotten into college so he can get a degree and finally put his head to use career wise and get out of dead end jobs. He's fantastic with computers and doing well but pushing himself incredibly hard with part time jobs and clubs. Just wanting advice for things I could do. Yes I know sex is obvious but what else? He doesn't like being touched sometimes so I could think of.
>cooking him a nice meal
>watching something he likes
>playing video games
I feel really anxious that he might burn out so I just want to help.
I think I'm done with my relationship
I know my boyfriend doesn't love me as much as I love him. I also know in the event I stopped trying altogether, our relationship would crumple. I am the support beams. I am the affection. I am the energy. I am the therapist. I am the one who tries. And when I am not, there is nothing. Nothing, until I can get back on the horse and become everything the relationship needs to breathe.
And I just can't do it anymore. I think about this so often now, even when we're both happy and there's nothing wrong. I think to myself, I can't do this. Three years of my life down the drain. I chase men who could never make me happy, it's always like this.
I give up. Fuck it. I would've died in childbirth anyway, and what man would've proposed to me regardless. I'll just be the weird aunt that drinks too much.
Ain't it fun
Living in the real world
Ain't it good
Being all alone
So what ya gonna do
Was there ever a time when you realized that people were laughing at you, not with you? Tell those stories.
Coming of age
At what age does one stop being referred to as a "girl" and referred to only as a "woman"?
Everyone knows at this point that woman = adult human female but as a 26-year-old turning 27 in two months I get called a girl 95% of the time, even by people who are aware of my age.
I thought that by age 25 people would start calling me a woman only but I guess not? So what's the cut-off age? I know this is probably a weird question but I was just curious.
Media/Entertainment (especially Japanese media) and self esteem
Not sure if I should make this one on /media/, but I'll try here.
The idealized beauty is also there on western live action movies and television, but not as much since at least for my personal taste 2D people look far better.
Is it stupid if I feel that media, especially Japanese games and anime , ruins my self esteem?
>watching some random anime show
>every single girl look gorgeous
>everyone has a waist long perfect hair
>everyone has the hourglass body with a big butt, wide hips and huge firm breasts
I dunno, I seems like people in their world are, on average with prettier than in ours as we just seem to consider them as just everyone treat them as they were at most above average.
I know it’s silly, but I sometimes I keep wishing I was prettier even if I’m not inherently ugly or anything. It is amazing how reality is dull and 2D people are ugly, I don’t even care about what others think, I just want it for myself. It’s not that I forget that people like these are very uncommon IRL, it’s just that I think I’m not enough, or worse, reality is not enough.
I mean, I hate those idiots who whine about muh race casting, we need fatties and trannies on TV too and pretend t