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How do I find an ugly bf? I am facially disgusting with a crooked nose and such. Any tips? I don't want random sex, I want a bf who will love me & enjoy life together and any pretty person who'd want something to do with me would surely just want sex/use me in some way. Pretty people aren't even aware of ugliness, usually just think ugly=bad, too.
I exercise and have a part-time job, but people are way too normal/boring, and obviously I don't get hit at.
Miners where did you find boyfriends, in what circumstances? I am in early twenties if that helps.
And no, I am not going to try online dating. It's just judging people by pictures(especially if you look at the science about it) which is the opposite of what I want.
being sad for no reason at all
I think I'm falling ito some kind of depression.
I'm on my path of being really succesfull at my job, I'm studying something that I love deeply, making money, having a great boyfriend for multiple years. And for some fucking reason, I just realised few days ago that I havent felt happy in a long, long time. Can't even remember how long, maybe 12 months or even longer. I can't push myself to feel anything other than frustration about the smallest of things and because of that I'm unable to resolve some bigger problems. I feel fucking bored all the time because my fucking sadness is so constant. I'm fakin around everybody at this point, and can't see the point of me doing ANYTHING which could give me hope or some kind of light at the end of the tunnel.Like, I don't care about anything that much nowdays. I don't mind doing things, but I'm like whatever. I used to be really energetic person, go-getter, life of the party.
I'm just existing now.
Can you gals give me any advice? Maybe some of you are feeling the same way? Pls.
Also, sorry for my horrible english.
Imageboard toxicity
Idk pic related from a random dread felt a little too real to me
Browsing imageboards you realise that memes aside, there is a majority of users who will unreasonably attack people cause of gender/race/appearance/sex life etc
Most anons are 1488ers,~reee roasties~robots,nit-picky lo lc ow ''' farmers ''',self hating >I'm better than the other members of my minority - - or average guys who don't really care cause they aren't directly threatened
None of this I used to mind since ~~hehe how edgy heh I'm not a stacy hehe~~ but after I escaped my abusive situation and started improving my life I realized. Why lurk boards where every other post is either how to sabotage women or manipulate them pretending you're nice in order to use them(which worsens trust issues ) . I know I sound like a pussy sjw newfag but idk haven't you guys bacome less tolerable of others toxicity when you started taking control of your life?
p.s there are noic chans and i am no saint compared to salty anons, just screechin ignore oωο
Honest question ladies. Would you fuck a sociopath if he was hot?
I’m being faced with this dilemma right now. This guy is super hot and his dick is huge and he’s been telling me all the stuff he wants to do, but he basically straight up admitted he is a huge player and completely incapable of love.
If we ever fuck it would only be a one time thing. I am a very emotional type and can see myself getting hurt. But at the same time I can’t find any other guys who are as hot as him.
Is it worth it?
So,I'm genuinely in love with this guy, he's my first love. I'm literally hopeless I seriously need some help.
That dude was always taking care of me, even cooking for me when my mom just didn't care, he was always there for me, teasing me and we were having a lot of fun. We were never alone together we were just part of the same group and I was acting super awkward around him since the start.
We were 3 friends, I liked A, I told B, B told A that I liked him from the start and was badmouthing me cause B liked me. So, I was experiencing this bitter af love triangle. Basically, one day when I was fighting with B, B told A that I'm always talking about A and he's tired of me about that. This happened when I was on a trip and when I returned and I was out with B and some friends A texted me that he wanted to talk. Long story short, B trapped me into confessing to A. So me and B went to his house, talked about B's behavior (He was lowkey obsessed with me and A wanted us all to talk about it and find a solution) and after that I was alone with A to confess to him. He basically said that it's not a no because of my looks or my personality he just thought that it wouldn't work out. (We have a 6 year age gap and well..I was underaged that the time, so that might me the case) and he showed his bed and said that he just can't think of us 2 being like that. This happened back in march. We started talking less ofc but we still talk from time to time and I asked him if he wants to like hang out and he accepted which is pretty good cause I can't get him out of my mind. I'm genuinely in love with him and I tried everything to get over it. Also, I'm super confused he sometimes shows that he cares and sometimes like he doesn't care about my existence at all. I had made a tinder for fun a few days ago, found him and for fun did a super like on him and (a friend told me) that he noticed it but chose to ignore it.
I'm crying every single night, I love him so much and idk I'm never posting on advice online but I'm desperate.
I made literally no friends at uni. Kept getting stuck at the acquaintance phase. I also gained 20 lbs.
I am so alone.
Anyone have this happen to them?
>be me
>fat socially awkward university student who probably has various mental disorders
>convinced I will never find bf
>finds super sweet guy online the lives overseas
>he comes and visits me
>goes well (almost too well)
>he's a 10, treats me well, great in bed, etc
>has to go home
>we promise to visit each other again
>mfw we probably won't
It's been a week since he's left and I'm already starting to get depressed. He has his own life in his country and I have no way to emigrate to his so I think we all know how this one is gonna end. Should I break things off to protect my own feelings or wait until he does?
Was there ever a time when you realized that people were laughing at you, not with you? Tell those stories.
Virgin Thread
Post here if you haven't lost your virginity.
>turn 22 in two weeks
>never had sex
>never had a boyfriend
>only kissed a boy once in high school
>too afraid of rejection to actively seek relationships
okay so i wanted to be mean to some people because im frustrated as fuck but now that i did the mean thing i feel bad about myself, why am i such a retard?
Self Improvement Thread
Post about how you want to improve yourself/your self improvement plans ITT and I will try and help you to the best of my ability, or just commiserate and talk if that's what you want.
Also general self improvement feels thread
I want to play dungeons and dragons but I have no friends
Anyone else have >the one that got away?
Gender doesn't matter of course.
Even after finding a boyfriend I could connect with and who loves me as much as I love him, I still can't stop thinking about >him from time to time. The lost potential and how we just drifted apart without any real closure.
i've been going through such a lonely terrible time recently.
i used to be a frequent tfw no bf and depressedposter here, but i finally got a perfect boyfriend who was nothing but supportive and cleared up all the loneliness in my life. he was an imageboard browser with my same interests and struggles who was perfect for me.
a few days after my birthday he got psych warded involuntarily over a miscommunication/internet shitposting and i don't think he'll be out for another half a month and i've been so so so so sad and lonely and filled with dread about how lonely i know he is too, we really relied on eachother and now we're both alone. our mutual friends are very worried too but nobody is worried as i was and one of them accused me of being selfish over it even though it's not since i'm worried about him - he does not have the issues to warrant this.
on top of this my anorexia has been getting worse and i've been dropping weight quite a bit (at 98 pounds right now but continuing to lose) and i've been dreading an involuntary hospitalization myself and i know hes gonna be very worried when he notices once hes back and since he wont have seen me in 3 weeks he'll surely notice.
how do i hope? i've never hurt so bad, i miss him
Why can't I seem to connect with people, even my closest friends?
My husband is watching porn
I'm a 24 years old married French anon, my husband is 28, we are in relationships since 4-5 years with no big problem.
A few day ago, my curiosity pushed me to check his phone's web history (when he was asleep lol).
I discovered that almost 1 day on 2, he is watching porn sites.
What's puzzled me the most is the researches he made : "sister" and "teen"
What's the psychology behind "sister" and "teen" porn?
I can't stop thinking about that.
I feel disgusted.
I don't want to talk/ask to him about that.
Advice?
Ps: pardon my English
Help this autisitc cunt, please
So… I was always socially autistic and didn't know how to talk to people. Literally no one ever approached me I always needed to do it. I don't know if it's because of my apperance or mannerisms but nobody ever gave a fuck about me. Until this guy shows up in my messages when people from a group chat talk to me for 3 years and kick me out for doing something stupidily irrelavant. This guy was also in this chat. I liked talking to him he was the first person to ever approach me in some way. We talk everyday for like 5 years. I never saw his face, he never saw mine. We never talked in a different way than chatting on the internet. Well, at some point he showed me that he was interested in interacting with me in a different way than writing messages. But it was like 2 years ago. Now he just doesn't give a shit to be honest. While I'm starting to feel worthless because I'm scared that he is starting to lose interest in me. I don't have anyone to talk to besides him. I tried to talk to people but it just doesn't work out. Irl it's just a nightmare. I'm so fucking scared that I'm falling in love with him somehow. I never even saw him irl but it just feels like I'm becoming more depressed every day because I feel like he doesn't care and I do. This loneliness hurts so much. Talking with him is starting to hurt me.
I was wondering if someone could give their insights into my situation. 3 months ago I added a guy from a thread. I wasnt expecting anything and it was supposed to be a language exchange thing, but we immediately had really good flowing conversation, and we started talking almost everyday. It turned out this guy was super hot and somehow, I was also his type. Before you ask, this was before he knew what I looked like, and its because we were talking about our types. I asked him what kind of girls he is into and he sent me some pictures. It was weird because a lot of these girls looked similar to me (hotter ofc, but same hair color/eye color/general look etc).
We started voice and videocalling and we would flirt a lot. Honestly I wasnt expecting anything to come of it, this guy is way out of my league, but for some reason he liked me. Then I found out he only lives around 250 miles away from me. It all seemed to be falling into place effortlessly.
The conversations starting turning sexual and we would lewd a lot, send pics etc. We had really similar kinks and tastes in almost everything, not just sex.
So then we started talking about meeting up. He offered to come to my town by train. Basically we were going to go on a date or two and if everything went well, we would probably end up fucking.
I started worrying he was only seeing me as a bootycall or fuckbuddy, but when I asked him, he said he was happy to call me his girlfriend, with the understanding that we would be meeting up irl soon. He told me early on that he has never done LDR before and he needs sex and a lot of physical contact, and distance is painful for him, so we needed to meet ASAP. I really wanted to meet him ASAP too.
He went on vacation for a month and we were supposed to be meeting when he came back. Anyway a couple days before he got back, I got the news that I need surgery on my throat. That means another 2-3 months of waiting to meet. Bear in mind its been 3 months already, and that would mean it was 6 months before we can realistically meet. Also we only live 250 miles apart. He kept pressing as to why and I explained that I get tonsillitis quite frequently and I need to have a tonsillectomy as well as vocal cord surgery. (I actually really regret telling him I get tonsillitis a lot because it makes me sound kind of gross but he kept pressing as to why I needed surgery)
I was dreading telling him this news. As soon as I told him, he told me he couldnt handle waiting any longer. I guess he was mad and upset that our plans had been cancelled. I cried a lot and asked him if this was the end of things. He said no, and that we could meet up when I had recovered. That gave me some hope that we will eventually meet, but the thing I regret most is telling him about my throat issues. A lot of the time we would talk about kissing, oral, etc. Wouldnt knowing I have thrust issues put him off? I wont have tonsillitis anymore after the surgery, but I am still worried it gave him an unappealing image of me. At the sane time it isnt something I have control over. Am I worrying about that too much?
Anyway right now I am trying to adjust to not speaking to him. Its been a few days and we havent talked. I am used to talking to him everyday often for hours. I am upset because I waited a month for him to get back from vacation, and he doesnt want to wait for me. It seems almost like as soon as he realized his physical needs couldnt be met ASAP, he dropped me. But at the same time, he did tell me earlier that LDRs are painful and we would need to see each other on a frequent basis irl for things to work. Which I agree with. He says he still really likes me and he hopes we can meet up eventually. But he said having to communicate through text or chat is weird and he hates feeling like he is in a relationship with a computer. He said we can still be friends and I can message him when I want, and to let him know when I have recovered so we can set a date to actually meet up. But I have too much pride to go running after someone who has essentially just dumped me until further notice.
I have a sinking feeling about the whole thing. Everything was going so great before, now it feels awkward and distant.
Usually I would say it sounds like he just wanted to get laid, but its been 3 months of incessant calls, texts and FaceTiming. I think he was serious about me. I think he was genuinely upset and disappointed. Maybe he even felt like I was making up an excuse not to see him. I am just wondering what the fuck I should do now. I have been going to the gym, losing weight and getting my makeup more on point. So should I just continue working on myself?
Sorry if this is long but ive literally never met someone who seemed so perfect for me, that I am so attracted to, that I got along with so well so fast, and that I felt so strongly about. I dont want to lose him or be away from him any longer than I have to be.
Happy Feels/Vent
Share the good things that have happened to you recently!
I randomly got a call for a job that I didn't apply for, but the job offer is my passion (cake decorating)! I went to the interview yesterday, and was hired immediately. The chef is a cool druggy gamer guy as are the other dudes in the kitchen, so now I'm gonna make a bunch of awesome cool nerdy friends! He really liked the cake I brought him and the work I did. The pay is more than I was expecting.
The only thing that makes me nervous is that he also wants me to work the line, which I've never done, but the place is classy so we're putting out beautiful food that I'm really proud of and even messing with molecular gastronomy, which I've wanted to get into for a very long time! I'm so excited to do my best.
how to move on from sexual abuse
I've been searching google for women who feel similarly to me on this, but I've found nothing (if anything, Google spits out the opposite of what I'm trying to search for). I feel like if a guy were to lead or act dominant in any way during sex, it'd cause me to freak out and shut down. I can see myself acquiescing and then shutting down emotionally afterward, but that's it. I was sexually abused as a child for years and then got out of an abusive relationship (sexually abusive) that lasted around 3-4 years. I feel like sex reminds me I'm female and that triggers this self-loathing within myself that I don't usually feel on the regular because I have internalized misogyny from growing up in a very pro-masculine family. Though I've tried to work through it, it still crops up when I fantasize about sex. I feel like sex will inherently demean me in part because I'm a woman so I'm always going to be submissive during sex, even if I were trying to lead.
I recently got into a relationship with a person who knows about my past. He's told me he doesn't want to pressure me at all and that he is comfortable letting me decide, that he wants to be part of helping me get healthy in this way. Although I am grateful, I feel disgusting at the thought of us actually having sex because I feel like even if I initiate, because he is male, he is going to start becoming dominant which repulses me, even though I don't think being dominant in of itself is a negative.
I used to try to initiate sex in my other relationships, but I'd usually get turned down. Sex only would normally occur if the guy decided it would happen. I hate myself because I have a high libido, and it seems all my partners have either had low libidos in comparison, or they purposely withheld sex from me. At the same time, though I personally just see sex as a biological drive, I hate actually having it because the guy would always make it this sappy ordeal at the end, and I'd always feel like I was in the end just caring about how the guy felt. I feel like if my current SO were to know how sex is with me, they'd find me disgusting.
Have any of you anons who've had rocky sexual pasts been able to recover? How did you do it? Any help is appreciated.
Does anybody else hate their nationality?
I've always despised it, I hate everything about it: food, language (everybody hates it), customs, the people and even the traditional clothes (look way too slutty).
But the thing I hate them most is the way we look.
Yesterday I came across this by accident and frankly, it hurts me a lot. This is really how the vast majority of german men think.
People unironically use "you are so german!" as an insult when fighting. They are obsessed with foreign women, I can guarantee you, if you were to come here as a foreigner, they'd flock to you like there's no tomorrow. They're very vocal about prefering them too ("women from X are so much better").
And it seems as if nearly everybody shares that opinion - meanwhile the men are seen as very attractive by foreigners: tall, strong jaw line, etc. As an example, everybody was gushing about our soccer team - which of course only adds to their big ego.
The sad thing is, I completely fit the characteristics this guy described: I'm too tall, have a big nose, I'm shy, so I don't dress up, nor can I dance and I'm a very serious, no-fun person. Can't say anything about my dating life, because I never had a bf to begin with.
I actually do find some of the girls around me pretty, but if even they're considered ugly by international standards, then just how low am I?
I'm grateful for living in a safe 1st world country, but other than that, there's nothing nice about it. I'm so jealous of other people's cultures and appearances.
Is there a way to look more exotic, interesting, better?
Here's the link (no idea who asked that, but all replies are negative): https://www.quora.com/Why-are-so-many-German-girls-so-pretty
I just want to be a wife and a mother. Why do I have to go through college to get a degree I don't care about and don't want to use? I just want a family. Female liberation was a mistake, now I'm expected to start a career when I just want to be a housewife.
Does anyone else here live in a tiny country with no hope of finding anyone else to love like you?
Tips on how to be more feminine?
I feel like I'm not feminine enough. I swear I try hard AF by dressing well and wearing pretty makeup and perfume and taking care of myself but I always look like a solb :(
I also wish I were more delicate in my moves and behaviours, but it doesn't matter how hard I try, I always end up benig tomboyish
Does anyone else have this problem?
How did you solve it?
Any general tips on how to be more feminine?
i am 100% heterosexual
i never had sex with a guy
i had sex with 4 girls
Any other Catholic Christians here?
Didn't know where else to put this so here it goes
Post anything pertaining to christianity
I lived with my mom for most of my life and she would never let me got to church because she was an almost militant atheist.
I would always sneak out of home on sundays to go to sunday school where i met my fiance
Anyone else have any other stories? I'd love to hear.
I haven’t cuddled with someone for five years.
Any femcels here
>Whats stopping you from not being a femcel
For me its not like there aren't any guys that are into me it's just that its hard for me to connect socially with people.
I wish I had an older brother. Someone who was there to protect me when I got bullied or hurt, someone who was a mentor who looked out for me, someone to confide in who was close to my age.
dating
I have 20 years old and i'm going to have my first date, but i have social anxiety and I'm really afraid of it. Miners help me, any tips how I need to act? I dont know how to kiss and i'm worried about not having something to talk and boring him.
Why should I have to improve myself to find a loving partner to do fun stuff with? People uglier, dumber or lamer than me have fulfilling long-term romantic relationships all the time.
my problems do not exist i have just created them in my head
my problems do not exist i have just created them in my head
my problems do not exist i have just created them in my head
my problems do not exist i have just created them in my head
my problems do not exist i have just created them in my head
How can i make myself believe this ? It hurts way less when you think that all of your issues are fake. I want to stop being so tied down to the real world. I dont want to live in such a reality. How can i escape all of this ?
College/Uni feels
Share the good, the bad, and hell of pursuing a degree. Whether it be living in a dorm with a horrible roommate, classes kicking your ass, or something happening relating to school that has filled you with joy.
how can i get over my ex who cheated on me? we're still talking and he's always on my mind.
Unsent letters
Ever wanted to give someone a piece of your mind but you know you'd just regret it? Post in here and get it off your chest.
share a happy childhood memory
go~~
Tfw spill spaghetti even when being catcalled/complimented
I mainly hate being catcalled simply because I don't know wtf to say. Like, I usually just say thank you and get embarrassed and walk off. When they try to say something witty i don't respond with what they're expecting and it ruins the moment.
Earlier today a truck driver catcalled me but I didn't realize it till I passed him and then it made me feel guilty because he probably thought I straight-up rudely ignored him AAAAGH who else knows this /feel/?
So I was talking to my shutin gamer brother about life recently and he said he doesn’t have platonic friendships with women because this would risk his being exploited for emotional labor. Of course he didn’t say it like this: rather, he said something about not wanting to be a “cuck” and “friendzoned”, which he obviously heard from some incel/PUA dipshit online.
How common is this? Do men realize they are stunting themselves emotionally and actively harming their social life by taking such poor advice?
What kind of stuff would you do with a bf/gf if you were to meet someone?
I think it would be nice to play board games, go birdwatching, and watch soviet films.
I have been doing late night walks in hope of bumping into some reclusive boy with social anxiety. I am putting myself at risk of getting mugged/raped for a chance at love. Have I gone insane miners? also does anyone do late night walks? I might do it regularly, something about it is really comfy.
Is it weird to always want to become best friends with your love rival? Whenever I like a guy who has another girl interested in him, I always feel a strong desire to befriend the other girl, and I don’t know why. Sometimes I spend more time IG-stalking the girl than the guy I have a crush on. It got especially bad last night when I had a dream that I became BFFs with a girl I’m in a love triangle with (she hates me IRL, which makes me sad).
Am I secretly gay? Do I enjoy being cucked? Is this a sign that I’m an omega female? I watch a lot of magical girl anime where befriending = defeating a rival. Maybe that’s what brought on this mentality. Does anyone else relate?
Hikki/NEET Diaries
I wanted to make a thread to blogpost about being a Hikikiomori or a NEET, mainly to be able to talk about how you're progressing and to help with accountability.
I've tried journalling for a long time but I always fall off because it feels pointless to write long pages to myself that no one will ever read.
Post ITT: How your day has been, woes of being a neet/hikki, things you've achieved lately, your fears, and goals.
how do you deal with being super embarassed? i wish i culd just disapear from this place for some moments, i hate this feeling
What does the sensation of a guy getting a boner from you feel like? As a kissless virgin approaching my 30s, I don’t know.
I wonder if it’s even possible for a guy to get hard from me. Since it’s never happened yet, I don’t know.
Many women talk about how men only want to use them for sex, but all I want right now is the basic physiological acknowledgement that I’m attractive enough to fuck, that I meet the baseline to be considered sexually attractive. But I’ve never been called sexy, never beautiful, not even pretty - always “smart” or “nice”, and it depresses me more than anything else.
my boyfriend's gaming addiction
>i sit on his lap
>he tells me to get up
>i don't
>he gets mad
>i ask him why isn't he giving me the attention i deserve
>he says maxing on old school runescape is better than real life and gives more pleasure than sex
>i start crying and ask him what's wrong with him
>he pushes me away and continues to play his stupid game
he has a real addiction and i don't know what to do about it.
i really need advice at this point. he won't stop.
Advice General
In this thread we ask (or give) for advices to or from other miners
Don't be unnecessarily rude to each other
Do antipsychotics or even SSRIs make you more clingy? I've felt more clingy in a negative way with my bf ever since i'm on them. Emotionally numb too. Any experiences?
[health] I think I might have vaginismus
How do I know for certain?
I tried to put in a tampon for maybe the tenth time this weekend when I went to the beach and I literally couldn’t. It burned and was just extremely painful the whole time. I’ve never had sex but I was molested as a kid. What do I even do? Will sex be really bad forever? I kind of find it hot because I am a masochist mentally but I am worried that it might be really bad for my husband in the future if I am really scared and hate sex because it hurts so bad every time
Make a Wish
What do you wish for, Miners?
What(in the realm of possibility) would make your life nicer right now? Money? A job? A lover? Nice skin?
How you guys deal with self esteem?
Seriously i have no self esteem, i look like a monster, im so gross.
I wished to look like Milena d sunna, an actress porn. Seriously i cant watch her video porn but she is so perfect and everyone love her.i wanted everyone loved me
Why im not atractive? Why im not like her? Im totally opposite, i want her skin…
I hate this feeling, this hurt so much.
What is emotional abuse? Is it different from just being an asshole?
My conception of emotional abuse is that it’s when someone threatens suicide if their partner leaves, or tries to isolate their partner from other people, constantly berates and insults their partner, etc. Stuff like that. But I’m curious as to what other people define as emotional abuse.
The only girl in the group
I am struggling to cope with no longer being 'the only girl in the group'
This is a bit of a complex one so bare with me. I am not that old, but i'm probably still a little bit older than a lot of the girls here. For a very long time, I was used to having almost all male friends. When I was in my teens it was still not very common for girls to like certain types of "less casual" video games (girls always have of course but it's more popular now than it was before, play tabletop rpgs (this was before the recent mass uptake and acceptance of D&D)or card games such as Magic the Gathering. I have spent a long time with each of these hobbies, attending clubs, events and competitions. Naturally for a long time all of my friends were boys. I was also fairly handy with computers and code and I never had very many common interests with normie girls. I never outwardly hated them or bragged about being Not Like Other Girls, but I did get bullied a lot by them in school and I essentially kept my distance.
When I got to college I joined the tabletop and tcg club, and out of about 60-100 members i was probably one of 5 girls. I never put myself in these situations to feel special or for male attention, but I got used to being treated a certain way (people would know my name and remember, people would want to talk to me, for instance or be nice and ask how i was going).
I'm not ugly. I'm no stacy either. I'd say I was about becky tier, maybe a bit uglier than that, but I was always able to make myself look better with makeup. Basically, right when it was popular i was rockin' the internet soft scene late 2000s nerd girl boxxy eyeliner that everyone was mad for at the time. People liked me well enough.
I still have mostly male friends, even if we see each other less now because of adult life. We still meet to play games (video and tabletop). However, recently we've grown more distant, as they've made two new female friends and bought them into the fold to play games with us.
At first i was happy about this because I really thought it would be a good opportunity to meet more women with similar interests, but really quickly I realized it wasn't going to work out like that.
The new girls don't really care about being my friend or getting to know me, they're mostly there for the boys. This would be fine, but the boys seem to have less and less time for me or interest in me these days. They dote on their new female friends like crazy(note: many of these people have love lives outside this group and no one is actively trying to date these girls)and barely even acknowledge that I am a person despite how long we have known each other (over a decade.
The girls are pretty new to most of the hobbies and games we participate in. I'm glad that they feel more welcome to join, but it means they need a lot of attention from the boys. Somewhere along the way my friends have become so obsessed with these women that they often don't even invite me out to play games anymore. I'm losing all my friends and I didn't do anything wrong, I've always been nice and friendly.
Part of me is very sad because I've come to realize my friends never really saw me as a person. Just a 'girl' that could be replaced by any other cuter girl who came along. I'm mad at myself for fooling myself into thinking they could like me for who i was as a person. I know i'm too old to be upset by this and I should just move on, but today they went out without me again and I feel so sad for investing so much emotional energy into friendships with men that just didn't matter to them at all. I feel so alone and stupid. Please help me.
What’s it like to take a boy’s virginity?
What’s it like to take a HOT boy’s virginity?
No one will ever love me because my body sucks and I am too anxious and inhibited to put myself out there.
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i have never experienced actual love that is two sided, whenever i have a crush on someone its either me trying to convince myself that i like someone because im desperate or it lasts for a few days or maybe a week. the only time ive experienced intense feelings of love for longer than a few weeks it was extremely one sided love on someone online who didnt even know i existed. i want to feel strong two sided love so badly, i want to know what it feels like to like someone who likes you back. im pretty young so i guess this is somewhat normal but idk what to do lole
Why do some men never buy gifts?
This genuinely confuses me. It's a common issue among male partners. Often the man will insist he can't afford a gift or doesnt know what his partner wants… But isn't it common knowledge that all a woman wants is to know her boyfriend cares enough to put effort in? Personally I'd settle for a pack of my favorite gum.
bad dads
Does anyone else have issues with their father?
>tfw no cosplaying gf/bf
I want to be with the cute boys/girls is that so hard to ask.
Are your dating preferences influenced by your first love? Do you find yourself attracted to people who have the same features/personality/looks as the first person you fell in love with?
i dont know if anyone can relate to this, but i feel like i could probably get a bf if i tried enough but i wouldnt be able to feel much romantic attraction towards the other person, i feel like i dont feel as much romantic attraction as most people do
Tw: rape
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I need help. I have been raped 4 times in the past 5 years by 4 different guys, and after the most recent one I am afraid that it will happen again.
The first 3 happened in rapid succession and it totally ruined my life for a year. I went through a shit ton of therapy and I am emotionally and mentally fine now, but a week ago it happened again. I had thought “oh I was naive and had low self consciousness, but now i’m more independent and confident so it won’t happen again” but clearly that isn’t the case.
I’ve never spoken about it publicly IRL and don’t plan to.
I need real advice. There are a lot of shitty people and clearly I am not doing enough to defend myself. I need to learn some concrete things that I can do to stop this from happening or some self defense suggestions.
I can give more specifics about the situations if it would help. I don’t mind talking about it at all now thankfully.
Boyfriend's Voice
My boyfriend normally has a clear, tenor voice, but when he's talking to strange girls his voice drops like an octave and turns to a deep baritone. I think this deep voice is incredibly sexy, but it kind of bothers me that he never uses it when he's talking to me, except when he just woke up. I talked to him about it and he says he doesn't know what I'm talking about. Should I be worried?
Pic unrelated.
I have to live with mother in law for a while. I hate her so damn much. To the point of throwing up from anger. Never live with in-laws. Trust me.
For a long time I thought once I met someone all of my problems with self-love and self-image would go away. Then I had a brief relationship a while ago and quickly realized that my fear of abandonment, paranoia, jealousy, insecurity, etc. only got worse during this time.
Did this happen to anyone else here?
LDR Experiences?
How did they go for you guys, if you had them?
Mine is currently okay, but I'm afraid the distance will do us in eventually. When we argue, the argument always revolves around the distance or things to do with the distance.
How to find yourself?
I'm nearly 24 and still have no idea who I am or what I want.
I keep jumping from one interest to another. One week I like kpop, next week I listen to jrock and another week later I only like classical music.
Around a month ago I bought my first lolita Dress (which I think of selling now). Then I started following a youtuber and spontaneously decided to get tan and try instagram makeup. Some while later I got into korean skin care and now I try to stay pale again. I'm tall so my mother says elegant clothes would suit me well, but often I think I would prefer girly clothes. Or sporty ones. Sometimes I'm content with being dresses up in all black, sometimes I want to try wearing pink. Straight or wavy hair? Same for my body type, I cannot decided whether I want to be as skinny and flat as possible or athletic. Sometimes my mind changes within just one day.
I know that a major reason for this is because I don't have friends and simply want to belong. As a lolita you could go to meets, kpop idols fake being besties with their group members, instathots are loved by everybody and post pics of travelling with friends, and so on. I'm attracted to anything that involves girls hanging out with other girls.
How do I stop that jumpyness? I even kind of (try to ) change the they I behave depending on what I'm into atm. Most people have figured themselves out way earlier. I finally want to settle for one thing, I want to be able to buy stuff without regretting it a short while later, I want to feel comfortable with how I style and present myself. I want to fit in, but I also can't help but dislike the way most normal girls dress, same goes for the music etc they like.
I also have a really big problem with romanticizing the past, like wanting to go back to stuff I liked during times I actually felt like shit.
I constantly feel the urge to throw everything away, to start anew.
When I was in my last year of high school I seriously thought of quitting because of the manga Paradise Kiss. I thought, that's it! I will become a model too! Even nowadays I still dream about becoming famous as a model or actress, instead of focusing on graduating. I really could just daydream 24/7.
vent thread
the other one has reached full capacity.
>>>/feels/21617
i hope those wings were good, anon.
I have always wanted to get married
Don’t think that’s going to happen anytime soon. And of course my classmates are fucking getting married.
:(
It's been a couple months and I'm starting to realize I'm with the wrong one. I'm really disappointed as I fell in love with him and he was so sweet and cool at first, but he's turned into such a dick.
He never listens to me. I'm lucky if I even get a grunt or a 'yeah' out of him when I'm talking to him. He's always multitasking. When we're on the phone or facetiming he's barely looking up at me and is just watching something on youtube the whole time. All he does is play vidya and watch anime/youtube videos all day until 4am. Anything else he deems to be 'dumb' and 'normie'.
The other thing is he's addicted to porn. More specifically, hentai. He watches it every single day, considers it an 'art form', he even wanted to play it while we were having sex. I told him I didn't really feel like being cucked by 2D that day. He can't seem to get it up for me unless he's watched a harem of pink haired loli cat girls being gangbanged onscreen beforehand. He also recently revealed to me he's big into incest play. I get people have kinks but to be honest it creeps me the fuck out. The other thing that annoys me is he rubs his kinks in my face constantly and wants me to do all kinds of weird shit, but doesn't want to try any of my kinks! He's so boring in every way sexually. The other day he told me I should think about getting implants. I guess so I can resemble one of his hentai mommies. We were at the store the other day and this thicc (pretty fat) Latina woman with really wide hips walked by. He turned around to me and said 'Her thighs must looking fucking disgusting. If you got to that size I'd leave you.' At the same time, he points out attractive women all the time. I thought that was dumb, rude and unnecessary. He just doesn't seem to have empathy or care about my feelings.
Last time I sent him a selfie, he laughed at it and said my expression looked dumb, which hurt my feelings.
When I told him that was kinda rude he freaked out and said I was being too sensitive.
I should have noticed the red flags. When we first started dating I asked him what his type was. I expected him to say some celebrity or e-thot.
Instead he goes 'my ex'. Nice. He brought her up again the other day. I told him I felt like our relationship wasn't working well. He said the reason him and his ex's relationship worked was because she 'had a better sense of humor than you do and she was better at conversation'. Bitch did I ask? Also last time I tried to joke with him he thought I was insulting him and sulked about it. So I ended up trying to compensate by being extra nice and massaging his ego, only to be told now I'm boring? Tf.
I feel like such a dumbass for getting into this position. When we first started dating he was really nice, funny, kind, generous. Now he's mean, humorless, stingy as fuck and now to top it all off he doesn't think I'm good enough for him? He's jobless and to be honest pretty average looking, I know he's only 22 but he feels significantly more immature, I feel like I'm dating an overgrown teenager.
I would leave him if I hadn't fallen so hard for him at beginning. If I could turn those emotions I feel towards him off like a tap it would be ideal, but I can't. I don't know what to do.
Are there women in their 30s/late 20s browsing this board?
I'm younger but I'd like to ask a few questions.
>How is your life now (single, married, education, job, etc.)?
>How did life change in comparison to the previous years?
>What are the advantages of being at this age?
>How do people treat you?
Seeing couples
Am I a psycho if seeing happy couples outside makes me sad? I was just at a fireworks show for the Fourth of July because my mom wanted to go and I couldn’t help feeling like shit noticing all the people in attendance seemingly in healthy relationships with loving partners. To be clear, I bear no ill will towards these people—I just wish my life was better.
Every friend I’ve lost
Every friend I’ve had has turned out to be a scumbag and either left me or I felt forced to leave them. There’s only ever been one exception and she doesn’t want anything to do with me anymore because I hurt her and she doesn’t believe she can have friends anymore… I feel like I’m heading that way too. Why is everyone in the world so awful? Do I just need to find a guy to settle down with and stop trying to have friends? I just want to find that one person I can call sister/brother and love forever without dissonance
I have all the makings of a totally nice, normal life; I'm a model student, fit, pretty enough, funny, I have hobbies and talents, I can make small talk with most people. But I have no connections. There's something that keeps me from feeling like people know me/see me for me. I have no friends of my own. People are nice to me, but I can't connect with anyone beyond basic-bitch jokes and dry small talk. I have so much more I want to talk about and hear about from people. It's the loneliest feeling and I have no idea how to change it. I just want to really know other people, to open up to each other and be weirdos and laugh together without worrying about appearances. I'm so afraid of missing out on genuine connection and friendship; I'm only 20, but I haven't had a close friend since I was 13. What do I do?
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO
I'm starting to fall in love with a really pretty girl. She literally looks like a model. We went to the same high school and I've always liked her ideas and how she looked. She looks even prettier now. We started to talk again. We are both 19. She's definitely into boys but I'm not sure if she likes girls. And I really hope she does. I called her pretty the other day and she said I'm prettier which made me feel so happy for the rest of the day and I couldn't stop thinking about it! I got butterflies in my belly and felt silly. I wanna do so many things with her, I wish I could just tell her but it's hard! What if she's straight? What if I told her my feelings and she blocked me? I feel like she wouldn't be as close to me. How do I even let her know I like her?! She's too beautiful for this world and gets hurt easily, I wanna be there for her and help her. I could write poems here about how much I adore her, but what would it do? It wouldn't matter because she won't be reading it. Please give me some advice. Is it possible to make her like me even if she's straight? Maybe she might want to try it.
Ugly vag
Guise i think i have a really ugly vagina does that matter?? It doesn't smell but looks like one of those nasty 'beef sandwiches' guys talk about
Have you ever gotten anything out of talking to a therapist?
I tried it twice, first with a woman and then a man therapist. It didn’t really work for me. I was too nervous to share certain facets of my psyche and I also found it difficult to retrieve relevant info about my life circumstances and specific problems while I was sitting in the therapist’s office.
Why exist box?
Why guys are so violent and trying to destroys themselves?
>Be me
>have a younger brother
>brother be a boxer
>i never see a boxing fight irl
>he invite me and my friend to see his fight (just to impress her).
>whynot.png
>Go and see the fight with my friend and family
>finnish the fight
>My brother looked like a balloon at the end
>he even't win the fight
>that night i confront my brother
>"do you want to die?"
>"where is the fun?"
>my brother just tell me that women likes fighters and he wants to improves himself.
why? that fight was so crude, even me and my friend just wants to go from that fight.
Shy boy in my class wont approach me. Is there something wrong with me?
Is consent to sex consent to pregnancy? How hot of a take is pic related? My personal attitude towards sex has always been to only do it with someone I love and would have a kid with, but it seems like an unpopular opinion. Most normies seem to be into casual sex and hookups, and even polyamory. While I don't think these more modern attitudes towards sex are necessarily a positive change, I also think it can be counterproductive to push more traditional views like this. I don't think there's any right answer to this question. Ultimately I think it's an individual decision, since everyone has very different personal experiences and attitudes towards sex. I'm curious to hear others' thoughts on this though.
4chan(nel) ban
So fuck those mods over there. I posted about how women are superior to men and gave countless reasons why, including
1. We are ruled more by love than lust.
2. Men have throughout time beat us, raped up, kept us from being educated but we still overcame it all and contributed to the world. See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_inventions_and_discoveries_by_women
3. The world has been primarily ruled by men and look how that turned out for us. Look at the condition of the earth, greed, treatment of animals etc
4. Men have killed millions, if not billions of human beings throughout time yet women are blamed for everything shitty out there?
5. My views aren't about the wage gap (the one point those assholes harp on over and over despite all the issues out there), my views are about places like 4chan that show how rampant misogyny is, it's just residing under the surface like racism, and how socially it screws both men and women over.
6. 4chan is the most censored site I've honestly been too. I've been banned numerous time for expressing views that aren't the norm. What a bunch of weak mods running that place.
Thanks for letting me vent.
>be me
>otaku
>single
>find an otaku website called mo for dating
>find a cute 8/10 single guy
>he gives me a welcome
>he said hi and didn't ask for nudes first
>fast forward 3 weeks
>told him i liked him
>he rejects me in the best no harm way but doesn't block me
>keeps chatting with him as everything went normal
>orbiting a little bit and he talks to me about everything in his day
He is the first person who treats me like normal and maybe we can be a couple soon, there's still hope girls :')
Although I’m aware it’s maladaptive, sometimes I take pleasure in considering the misery of others. I believe it mints from bitterness regarding the circumstances of my own life: loneliness, isolation, despair, etc. For instance I may relish seeing someone I perceive as having a better life than myself suffer some misfortune.
Is this normal? Does anyone else do this?
asexuals in denial club
Anyone else an asexual in denial?
>have never felt sexual attraction to anyone or anything (don't even know what it would feel like)
>SO confused by what people mean when they say they fucked someone because they couldnt control themselves
>never get aroused
>have never had pleasurable sex
Now this wouldn't be a problem, but I still desire a relationship. Therefore it causes me constant despair because I have a boyfriend that I will never desire sexually. If i had one wish a functional fucking sex drive would be it, fuck world peace or money.
how do i know i'm even into guys?
actually how can i also know i'm into girls?
and how do i know i'm not scared of guys?
i'm a 20 years old student who's never had a bf nor has ever dated and i'm only friends with girls. one of my best friends since hs told me multiple times that she’s never seen me be into any guys, which is true, but I also haven't been 'into' any girls either.
i'm alright being around guys (classmates and members for group projects, coworkers, etc, etc.) but i've recently started to receive attention from guys (prob since it’s summer and i got my braces off, haha) which i realized i’m not really comfortable with. i’m a direct person so while complimenting girls and being complimented by girls feels like a sweet thing to do, i always think guys are expecting something else from you so i quickly stop myself from talking to them. i also really don't like the standard where girls are expecting guys to make the first move or to receive attention…maybe it’s because i’m very much on my own but it just sounds so pushy and clingy..i saw another anon saying that she was rly into a girl friend even if it might not be reciprocal and the way she wrote about her made my heart feel warm.
i used to like the idea of having a boyfriend, but with the ppl i’ve met irl so far, i'm not so sure abt that. i also like the idea of being with a girl, but i don’t know if it’s more than just platonically. i’m a noob about romantic emotions, so how do i know i don’t like or at least prefer girls for sure? the same best friend told me that everyone is a little bit gay, but that doesn’t help much haha.
and also are lesbians/bisexual girls uncommon? i’m in canada but i feel like i only hear about gay guys in my surroundings..
leeches
do any of you attract those people as much as i do??? how do you deal with it? and what are some traits a leech magnet has that don't seem too obvious? i wanna work on them and stop people from taking advantage of me.
i always seem to attract shitty people who take advantage of me and my kindness. i think it's because they sell themselves as nice people and i trust them too soon. i'm not someone who gets approached by people begging for their notes/homework, and i don't give out stuff easily, but somehow this type of person always ends up forcing their way into my life and they always take, take, take but never give. or they give me something small (like say the password for the online platform where the teacher uploads their slides, while i give them notes every single time they miss class). when i ask for something in return they either ignore it or they have already dropped me in favor of another person so i don't even get the chance to ask for something in return.
i hate how wimpy this sounds and it's not like it happens ALL the time, but i noticed that it has happened regularly over the past 10-12 years with different people and i'm starting to become wary of people and trying to make friends in college because i'm afraid everyone will turn out to be a leech again.
How do you /feel/ about this?
this is a bit of a silly question that could easily be googled, sure, but - how do you tell if a guy is 'interested' in you? even just vaguely interested. im clueless about friendship and romantic relationships and really want my first bf.
a guy grinned at me after approaching me with his friend once and he called me a gem after, i dunno if he was just being polite or if he maybe wanted to be my friend/was interested in me. today i introduced myself/told him to call me my real name instead of my nickname though, i just wanna get on the right track to getting a boyfriend
how to make a total normie boy into a nerd loser who just gets me?
I don't know what to do anymore
It's been a week since I've turned 18, I should be happy my adult life starts now and yet I doubt I'll survive the summer.
For the past few years I've been battling depression and suicidal thoughts but I'm not alone in all of this, there are friends that at least seem to care a bit about me but even when we are together I feel completely alone, I'm nearly always the one that starts our conversations.
My best friend, who knows what I've been through, is also the girl I love and there have been many things happening between us this year.
We are extremely close and we both had feelings for each other at different times.
I fear that she has noticed that I still love her and now she seems quite cold.
I've thought of quitting our friendship so many times but I could never do that for more than a month as one of us would go back to the other.
Without her I would be lost, we've been friends for nearly 8 years and the thought of a life without her is terrifying since I would also lose our common friends, more importantly she is the only person that has shown me love and made me feel truly happy.
However I know that we will never be more than best friends and even if we were it probably wouldn't last: I am really short and quite unattractive so she'd probably leave me for someone better as soon as she finds him.
I feel like I'm stuck between life and death and I don't think I have the strength to make it, she is all I have.
I kept the rope from my last attempt so I could use it once I made my decision.
I feel completely empty and maybe if she is now getting distant because of my fault then I could finally end it once and for all, even though I know she would still feel a bit sad about me dying.
crying cuddles thread
place to cry and get cuddled
How do you deal with being the one who cares more?
In a relationship I mean. I very much love this guy, and I know he loves me too. I also know I very likely care more than he does. I think if our relationship were to end today, I would be devastated beyond a bearable point. I give so much of myself, and it feels like he's holding back (which is fair and reasonable) a little bit of herself.
So what do I do? Am I supposed to pull back too? Am I supposed to continue giving myself away and accept that's the way it's going to be? Should I try to stop caring and break off when I feel nothing?
Thanks.
friendless feels
the title says it all.
i ended up scrolling through the account of someone a few years younger than me and saw posts like pic related…just people (kids i guess) having fun with their friends and it made me sad because i never got to have that ):
can anyone relate?
also, general friendless anon thread.
It's unfortunate that male extremists have irreversibly warped the term 'incel' into an identity of rage and misogyny. My understanding is that in the 90s it just referred to a support group for lonely people, which actually sounds kind of useful. Eventually it became ISIS for male virgins due to lack of moderation on the web forum LoveShy, apparently.
I met a guy recently and I guess we're dating now. He's really cute and kind but I've only known him for a little over a week and I think things are going way too fast. We've been hanging out all week, it's always initiated by him. He's introduced me to part of his family already. He's also giving me a lot of big gifts like a midi keyboard, expensive headphones, and new shoes because his dog chewed mine up. It's all very sweet but at the same time it gives me a weird feeling because we just met recently and now I feel sort of obligated to him and like things are exclusive. I just got out of a 5 year relationship a couple months ago and I don't know if I'm ready for a serious relationship, especially in this short amount of time. I feel like it's too late to slow things down and if I cut things off I'll seem like an asshole.
putting the i in ignored
i'm worthless & i create my problems.
yesterday my nurse said i'm unreasonable & hurting her head, so she's disengaging from our conversation. i emptied my small trashcan of sink-water across the main desk of our unit & announced i'll cut my wrists if they don't find a razor within my clothes. "i'll kill myself to make all of you feel better" and "you all dislike me and want me dead"
i cried a bit. i wanted attention.
somebody said i'll live my entire life in these facilities,
an old lady in a wheelchair said i 'm psychotic and sick. i let her know that she'd die if nobody at the hospital had to take care of her:she'll die alone. projecting lol
i got a tss removed from the unit by saying he's raping/touching me.
nurses think i'm manipulative and a liar, i only blame others for my problems.i think my mother didn't give me enough attention as a child. others grow tired of me so i'm jumping to new ppl.
i'm afraid of being ignored and alone.
life stinks, so this repeats, a lot.
helpp idk how to pull together & stop hurting my relationships.
What do you do to cope?
In a world of stress and sorrow, with only glimmers of Hope and joy, what is it that drives you? What makes you feel right, and whole? Me personally, I've been pouring my soul into D&D and podcasts for it. Other than that, I spend a lot of time laying around thinking.
Old thread >>>/feels/18315 is at cap.
Gather here, O heartbroken, angry, or happy ones.
Women in the office
anyone else ever been bullied by their female boss? I worked in a mostly female team and there was a lot of nastiness, especially from the older, more senior women. I hate my office job because of this. Just thinking this will be life for another few decades makes me want to kms. Then I got to work with a few men on a project - life was much easier, no cuntiness, no drama, no bullies, the men worked well in a team and got the job done. Why can't women work this way?
How do you girls enjoy shit like hugs, cuddles, kisses and sex? Even thinking about it makes me want to vomit, and any time a guy initiates any kind of intimacy with me I begin disliking him for it.
I've turned down at least two guys this past month because I can't imagine a relationship with the knowledge that I have to voluntarily do all of that or else he'll feel upset and I'll be the bad one in the relationship.
sad and broke in a foreign country
>be in Switzerland since my only familly is here
>have to learn german cause is hard to get a job without it hre
>after that an apprenticeship for three years which naturally pays bellow minimum
>have obsessive thoughts and cry myself to sleep cause im ugly caus of my nose whic i hate
>cant afford any cope surgeries
>cant stop caring about my appearance feels like defeat to me.
>cant afford professional help
>hav to wait for years plus
i guess im gonna have to keep grindin my german , will a year by sorta enough ?
addict/alcoholic loved ones
my dad is in the hospital again for issues with his chronic alcoholism and withdrawal symptoms (he sleeps a long time and goes into withdrawal). he was in the hospital for the same thing about 2 months ago and was in total denial and wouldn't go to rehab. He thinks he had to go to the hospital because he wasn't eating/sleeping enough. What the fuck. For a really smart guy, he is totally blind about this stuff. I am so sad and angry. I think he will probably die soon and to be honest I sort of want him to get it over with. He's useless and I know he won't get any better without a major wake-up. He's been drinking and smoking since he was 14 years old (60 now…) and I don't have any hope of him stopping. I hate him.
Can you relate? I don't know who to talk to.
How do I stop feeling inferior because I'm not Asian?
Is there a way to cure your yellow fever? Knowing I will never be this cute, short, skinny and young-looking honestly kills me.
Does anybody else feel that way too?
Crush on a guy who'll probably never realise I exist
So, in short I'm pretty attracted to this one guy I know. It'll likely never turn out because all the other girls in our friend group are short Stacies whose eyes glaze halfway through a conversation.
I don't dislike their company persay, but I just feel alienated some times. I just wish I had a chance with him yknow?
filtered thoughts
what are you thinking about right now that you wish you could say out loud, but can't because it'd be innappropriate, hurt someone's feelings, or cause some other kind of trouble?
i'm in a nutritional science class right now, where we're giving presentations on unhealthy foods we chose and how we'd change the recipe to make them healthier. this really dumb guy made his presentation on pizza and he's talking about how he made his recipe "gluten free" to be healthier even though my professor has said several times throughout this term that gluten is not bad for you unless you have celiac disease. it doesn't help his case that he talks in a slow monotone voice and has this glassy-eyed deadpan look on his face.
What are your first names? Do you think you have a cool/beautiful name? Do any of you have femcel names that hurt your confidence like Agnes, Larkin, Prudence, Helga, Gertrude, Mildred, Bertha, etc.
I'm falling for a gay guy.
I'll spare the details of our relationship. Aside from being gay, he is absolutely perfect to me.
He is a friendless, virgin neet who hasn't had meaningful, non-familial social contact in years. For the past few months, we've been speaking for hours and hours every day.
He says he likes me a lot, and has even said he loves me. I know it must be in a platonic way, but it made me crazy anyways. Every nice thing he says makes me crazy.
But I know he will never be attracted to me. He has admitted he cannot find women attractive, even though he's tried. Even if he does like me, it will never be in the same way I like him.
How should I continue? I don't know. He doesn't even know how I feel. I'm afraid of ruining what we have already. I'm afraid of my own feelings.
I think I found the man of my dreams. He and I are very similar, both robots, and he feels the same way about me. We met on a discord server, and from the beginning I kept thinking about how he and I were perfect for each other. Recently we've been talking on the phone together and it's just really nice. The more I talk to him, the more I like him. I feel really good about this, and not in the head-over-heels infatuated way; more in that it just feels right. He's 10 years older than me and lives a few states away, but I think this could work. It feels natural. Do any of you have experience with a relationship like this?
Helping my sister get out of my broken shadow
>Be me, 18f, sister is currently 10
>I had a very codependent and emotionally blurry relationship with my mom ever since i was born, was treated like a best friend/life partner even since i was ~6
>Mom micromanaged my entire life and isolated me socially in a way that you wouldnt believe
>I was nerdy, into anime, quiet, smart, friendless, awkward, obedient all my life, this led me to be very academically successful at the cost of my own mental health
>Ff to this year, I move overseas to live with my fiance
>I was already considered a golden child by my family because of the academical success, but theyre now straight up kissing my balls because im in western europe
>Im afraid that now that im gone my mom is inflicting the same abuse on my sister
>Sister is following the same life path as me, nerdy, awkward, into anime, but she loves her friends and is 0 interested in her studies
>Entire family but especially mom makes constant comparisons between us 2, how i was good at this and she isnt, how im smart but shes not
>I asked mom to stop comparing us at least in front of her because this is not only going to make sister hate me, its definitely injuring her self esteem and making things only worse for her
>Next time my mom calls shes complaining about how sister isnt as good as me
>I ask her if sister is at least not around
>She says shes right beside her watching youtube
>i tell my mom to stop the call right now because my sister can hear it, she gets angry and says shes too small to understand
>text my sister later and she mentions what my mom was saying word for word
What do, i love my sister and i dont want her to feel like she is under my shadow, i want her to be at least mentally healthy and happy
>blocks me
>adds me six months later.
>surprised i'm still in love with him.
>has moved on and wants me to.
They always do move on.
Anyone here have to deal with sciatica pains or at least some kind of lower back ache?
Trying to manage mine without pills/surgery.
Already tried yoga, stretching, physical therapy, etc and the only thing that helps at the moment is weed, but I can't use that everytime it happens
tfw no bf #4
Old thread ran out of posts:
>>>/feels/14789
If you specifically desire a shy bf, this thread also exists now:
>>>/feels/17821
TFW NO CUTE SHY SLIGHTLY AWKWARD BF TO CUDDLE WITH
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any gay girls here?
what are some ways to get attention from someone you like (online)
i want her to talk to me but i can't think of interesting enough things
she does respond to me more than she used to but i wanna talk to her a lot but i feel like things i think of to say are too weak. what questions or things i can say?
I finally found people I could connect to yet I feel so excluded from everything. All I've wanted is to be a part of something, whatever it may be. Not to be an outsider.
Oh my fucking God it's been a week of binging hard I want to die really bad oh my god I am so fat oh my god this is a nightmare I want to die someone kill me
Vent Thread
Last one capped, >>>/feels/21617
Let us cry, whine and yell.
Mom just yelled at me for having low self esteem
It’s an abstract kind of feel
I honestly wish I had a male spare body in my closet that I can put on whenever I'm in the mood, and meet cute guys off of grindr to have hot gay sex like in my yaoi manga.
Can anyone relate?
Both Chad and Stacy have no incentive not to lead their lessers on.
Just as a boss abuses his capital to milk the worker, Chad and Stacy have no reason not to use their attractive traits in order to milk you.
The current system almost guarantees misery and carrots on sticks, and it will only get worse as we hand over such choices to corporations/private interests that only have profit on their minds.
job thread
>be me
>be 23 almost 24
>finally graduated with a bachelor of science degree major in neuro after 5 years of pain and tears
>really shit fucking health
>can't work in enclosed office environment with air con
>can't work in restaurant
>hate retail since needing to reach sales goals is pure torture for me
>afraid of people
>mostly apply to warehouse and housekeeping roles
>need at least 1 year experience for those
>don't have driver's license
i am so depressed over my future prospects. i spent so much of my energy and time invested in my studies only to realise none of it mattered. the whole uni experience has completely eaten away at my mental health. idk what else to do. i haven't had work in almost 2 years now, i graduated only last year nov 2018.
Why are they like this?
>meet a cute guy, we get on well and he’s funny and kindhearted
>he seems like he’s interested, we start flirting at a party and things are looking promising
>next time we’re at a party I’m going at it, (“let’s share a seat”, lots of hugging eye contact etc)
>this time somethings wrong, he looks all conflicted and uncomfortable
>turns out one of his friends, who is in my lectures, likes me and he has promised not to “get in his way”
I never expressed any interest in that guy and made it clear to him but now it’s ruined forever just for some bullshit territorial boy friendship thing.
I am Korean girl and I will talk about Korean boys
Korean boys who have foreign gf always they upload his gf naked photo and face. He say that she is teenage and very kind to him and sympathy. Maybe the foreign woman was lonely in korea and she thought the korean boy is kind. But this things always happen in Korean website. The korean website are not porno site. Almost korean boys use the web site. And they dont think it is not problem. The victims are not only asian. There are white victims too
And Korean boys even upload his daughters photo on web site. Korean boys talk sexual insult to the child. Any Korean boys dont think it is wrong.
I heard that the girls are very kind to the korean sex offenders and feel sympathy for the korean boys. And the victims are usually teenager so they cannot filter out sex offenders. I want to talk about this to all foreign girls.
What path am I supposed to take
There are too many options in life. Most are limited time offers. Right now, I only have two and even those are too much for me. The safe path will land me a career that I'm sure I will hate and too many regrets, but I will be stable and able to survive on my own if need be. The uncertain path is somewhat dangerous and will either lead to a happy life or a destitute one with different regrets but regrets all the same.
What am I supposed to do?
Mom thread
Anyone else grew up with an absent mother?
Mine was a paranoid schizophrenic and my dad had full custody of me, so I didn't see her much. I think I'm bad at being a girl as a result. The last time we met was 10 years ago, and at this point I'm afraid of reaching out to her.She deserves better ;_;
So sapphire.salon, tell me about your mom
Porn and Envy
I was using my boyfriend's computer today and saw porn pop up from the search tab. I don't mind him looking at it but it makes me kinda sad that the girls he looks at look nothing like me at all. They're actually quite opposite of me. There's a bunch of results and I don't know if I shouldn't say anything or if i should tell him im uncomfortable.
Soulmates & Twin Flames
Do you believe they exist? At least at some level? If yes/no, why?
>A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, platonic relationships, comfort, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, compatibility and trust.
>A twin flame shares many similarities with a soul mate. A twin flame can also be your soul mate, but to a more extreme level. Twin flames derive from the same soul, and are separated into two when they are created.
I think a guy in my class whacked off to me...idk what to do or how to feel
Well I feel pretty nervous tbh
To make a long story short I always sit in the very back of class behind a group of guys because it provides me the best vantage point of class and also allows me to play video games.
I noticed that of the group of guys who sit in front of me though one is always really freaked out whenever he sees me. And I see his friends nudge him whenever i come around.
I was wearing a pretty tight outfit today ngl because it was cold out and my tight clothes are warmer. Anyhow, the professor (also female, kinda pretty) was talking about drilling wet things and drilling dry and everyone in class basically was smirking about it at that point.
The guy who I think likes me kept whispering to his friend and stretching to look back at me. He yawns and leans back in his chair and i see him looking at me out of my peripheral vision.
At a certain point he starts to get really sweaty and goes to the bathroom although we're due to take a break in class soon and I've never seen him do that.
When he comes back all his friends are trying really hard not to laugh and they keep looking back at me. In fact they're doing it right now
Idk what to do it makes me extremely nervous to have people looking at me constantly. And I have this class every Wednesday it's usually more of the same. Help???
I am seething. I go on instagram to make a meme page and I see my ex's new Instagram and wouldn't you know it, the first post is a selfie. The whole time during my fucking relationship with him he'd tell me he didn't want to take photos because he had body image issues. I really wanted photos with him when I was with him and now I feel betrayed and so god damned angry.
anyone else here just have no friends? i mainly mean irl friends. but ive gotten to the point in my life where even my close internet friends are too busy to talk to me because they found real life friends. im not bitter about that, i think its healthy and theyre way happier. but its just reminded me that i don't really have that, even though i've always wanted that. i have one irl friend but i can tell we're growing apart, fast. shes into partying and all that and thats just not me. id love to join a club or something but.. i had a bad experience with the last club i joined(my fault) and my schedule makes anything like that difficult. where my lonely bitches at?
my life is going to shit and i want to smoke.
should i just do it?
Nothing helps.
Nothing helps. I don't know if I've just given up on life or I'm lazy or something but I think I've tried most "fulfilling" things to get rid of this void in my life.
I don't want a relationship, nor do I think it'll help me. I'm a pretty fucked up person atm and I don't wanna put that on other people.
I've tried religion (Catholicism, Christianity, hell even witchcraft), being straight edge, doing drugs, being friends with people online and irl, mediation, art, music, school, video games, therapy (+medication), exercise… nothing fits. Nothing makes me feel like there's anything worthwhile. I feel so out of place everywhere and in everything I do.
I don't really have friends anymore, and I'm thinking that's what's missing, but I only get drained socially when I hang out with anyone.
I don't know what to do or what to try to get my life back on track. I'm not at rock bottom but everything seems to be falling apart. There is just so much emptiness and sadness in the world. Everything seems like cope.
25+ thread?
Not sure how many of you are out there, but anyone got any mid to late 20's feels?
>didn't finish uni, going back because I'm tired of working retail
>no bf, feels like a lot of the decent ones are taken up, but starting to feel I'm a lot to blame in this department
>best friend just announced on Facebook that she's got a baby on the way, no idea how to tell her that I don't want to hang out with her this weekend because I'm unhealthy levels of jealous
>parents want me to go into nursing because it's what my hillbilly cousin did and now she's somewhat stable, but she is miserable and works at a pill mill
>26 atm, 30 is barrelling towards me like a train
>trying to improve my living situation and drop my hikki ways
>uninstalled the Sims from my laptop because it just makes me want dogs I can't afford
>just starting to see hints of wrinkles show up on my forehead
>almost at goal weight, but haven't been on a date in almost a year because I hate how I look still
>feels like I figured out the direction I want to take my life a little too late
>dozens of Pinterest boards filled with nothing but individual room designs for house I also can't afford
What even is my l i f e?
Why should anyone just unconditionally love themselves?
I just don't get it. What reason is there not to loathe yourself if you genuinely have loathsome aspects about yourself? Everyone says that it's wrong to hate yourself, but why? Sure, it's unfortunate, but is it really WRONG?
Hi, I don't know much about this place but I am glad to find a community full of girls. I'd like to share my /feels/ story here and get it off my chest to vent.
I am a severly mentally ill and an overemotional idiot and I am scared to talk to anyone about my feelings. The only person in my life who I felt could understand me was my grandmother but she was often busy. I decided to try manage some of these feelings by making a venting YouTube channel. I would make whiney videos talking about how ugly I was and what have you and because of the subject matter and because I was female it attracted a 4chan/incel audience.
I could not handle this, especially since I had a bad history with incels (I tried joining forever alone communities as a child and that resulted in a lot of them preying on me), so in response I made a lot of spergy videos, some I even cried in, which obviously got me made fun of and further hated.
So my family got doxxed, it was entirely my fault. But I shit you not my grandmother took her own life a few days after this happened because of financial problems. Everything happened at once and suddenly I got ripped in two.
My family was being harassed because of me at the same time we had lost someone. Basically due to my whiney attentionwhoring the situation got so much worse.
The internet doesn't rest when you are facing irl pain either. When people found out I lost my grandma to suicide they targeted me on that, telling me she was in hell when I know that's not true because she was basically the nicest and most wholesome woman in the world.
On top of that the media was clickbaiting her suicide extremely because of how it happened, almost capitalizing off of her death.
I just don't know how any of this is fair. How the best person I ever had the pleasure of knowing is disrespected in this way after her passing, that the world hurt her to the point of doing it to begin with. That this woman who was a huge mother figure to me growing up is just gone. It hurts even more knowing that a lot of the excess pain brought at the time could have been avoided if it weren't for my idiotic internet antics.
I can't really live with myself after everything and her absence leaves a void in my heart.
Trying to find a friend: L
Dear L, whose email started with ghosts(…),
I hope that someday you manage to see this thread, even if by chance, long after I post this. CC is small, but I have a feeling you'd love being here, so I hope you find it. I talked about you in the missed connections thread, but I think the chances of you seeing this here would be bigger. And I'm pretty sure you will someday.
It's been two years or so since we last talked. I don't even remember why I disappeared; if it was you or if it was me, but my closest friend wasn't comfortable with you because you know why, so back then I thought it was the right thing. I just wish I had managed to make things work in a different way. I really do. I apologize even for my excuses, they're not very good, are they?
Sorry it took me so long to try to contact you. When I emailed you last week and saw your account didn't exist anymore, I felt very sad. Now that I know you nuked your email I have no way to talk to you, and that leaves me broken hearted.
The last news I heard about you is that you got a divorce. If that's true, I am really sorry, but I hope good things come out of it.
Rereading our emails together is funny because we were so similar in many ways… And at the same time I was such an oversharer with you; you made me feel so comfortable.
I just hope you are happy, truly. Yesterday I remembered the song you sent me on my birthday and that made me laugh.
Wish you could understand my feelings, L. I wish we could have been closer friends. I hope your illness hasn't taken you away.
If you ever find this, even if you're not sure of who I am, please respond.
Wishing you all the best.
-M
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Admin said it was ok to make threads directed to people we lost contact with. I'm sorry if anyone gets upset about this, but I really have no idea what to do.
Confidence
How do I appear more confident? Is it something reserved for pretty girls?
>be on testosterone for 2 years
>thinking about detransitioning
>quit taking testosterone for 2 weeks
>vaginal pains start up again and I fear my period
>take testosterone again
REEEEEEEE I WANT OFF THIS RIDE
henlo fwen
i'm new to this website. i always wondering if there are a girls website equivalent for 4chan. before that i just turn to 4chan whenever i want to vent bc its more comfortable doing it anonymously. glad this website exist bcus 4chan unironically turning me into misandrist lol
You ever get the impression that you may be a mistake?
Often, I feel like I'm the statistic that slipped away. The one who was supposed to die in some bizarre but fitting tragedy. Whether intentional or otherwise, though I don't feel suicidal.
I just get the impression I may be a mistake. But maybe that's a self centered suggestion. Maybe all of this is a mistake, every one else included. Who knows.
why are boys so cruel?
in 11th grade, we had a german girl in our school. she wanted to learn our language. (not english) she was so beautiful. she had blonde hair, blue eyes and perfect skin. people loved her. she was in my class. she would sit next to me. i remember how much fun we had. i would tell her funny stories and make her laugh. for some reason, she only talked to me which made me feel really confident. then one day, other boys came to my class and told me they wanted to talk to her, they wanted me to translate what they're saying. so i did. they were trying to invite her to their "party", they were saying some nasty things about her too. like how much they want to have sex with her, and how "tight" her pussy is. obviously, i didn't translate that part. i just told her that it's not a good idea to get involved with those guys. one of them noticed and told me to shut the fuck up and let her "decide" if she's going to come or not. they said they're not going to invite me because i'm not as "pretty" as her. i felt terrible, not because i want to have sex with them, but because they were calling me ugly, i had low self-esteem at the time (i still do). then they asked me how much i get paid for being a "translator" they didn't even know that i was a normal student. i wasn't a translator. i guess they never noticed me… i never really thought about this until now. boys are so cruel and i don't like them anymore. they've been assholes to me all my life and made me feel bad about myself. right now i'm just a depressed loser who hates herself and never leaves her room. thanks to my friends. high school ruined my life. and i'm never going to feel good about myself. i have no motivation to do anything anymore. i just want to lie in bed. i feel like i deserve to suffer because i'll never be good enough. i hate myself so much. i've been dealing with depression for the last 3 years and it's killing me.
>go on 4chan
>entertaining to scroll through but I don't feel I belong
>too many naked girls
>too many fetishes
>too many nazis
>talking about how all woman are shitty
>true-ish
>girl friends irl normies
>distance myself from feminine traits
>hate girls
>find this site
>browse
>could it be?
>a place where I belong?
I never throught there was somewhere for us. I knew I couldn't be alone.
Anyone else here /wage/?
I have been working for two weeks and I have wage rage.
My schedule is thusly.
5am wake up, eat breakfast, dress in the dark
6am walk better part of a mile to bus stop
6:30am bus takes me to bus station
7:00am get on other bus that takes me to work
8:30am-1pm wage
1pm lunch
2pm-5pm wage
5pm get on bus
6:20pm get back to bus station
6:40pm get back to bus stop
7pm home, rapidly make and eat dinner, care for pets, get everything ready for the next day
9pm lights out
My wage job is the only job I could find and I only got it because references put in the good word so I can't leave.
There is not much really wrong with the job itself, programming, only I hate waging. I despise it. I was NEET for a year after graduating college and I was flourishing. No stomach upset, not grinding teeth at night, no headaches, felt great every day. As soon as I began waging, it all came back to me, the old college feels, but so much worse because this time, there is no spring break, there is no Christmas break, and we only get 10 days PTO. 10. And like maybe 5 holidays the whole year.
There is the option to work remote at times and I am going to rape that option severely.
I have agoraphobia and delayed sleep phase disorder. Every day, I curse the fact that I'm not a stay at home mom and sometimes I just wonder to myself why I am single and no one loves me enough to give me a life of leisure and domestic relaxation such as I desperately want and need. I would gladly raise a few children in return for this.
But until then, I have to wage. Night.
I have been stood up.
What are your thoughs on PUA and why men are so sneaky?
They are digusting and make me feel dirty only thinking about it.
Are there really other women out there who fall for this shit? And man who are in need to pay for this kind of stuff?
Makes me ashamed to be a women/makes me want to become a lesbian. I'm I the only one who feels this way?
ITT anything that makes you cry easily and gives you the feels: videos, images, stories, movies/books suggestions, discussion, etc.
It's good to have a good cry once in a while.
IT’S FUCKING OVER HELP
I met a perfect boy at uni. At first I just noticed him because he is the absolute most handsome guy I’ve ever seen. Call me superficial but that alone made me develop a crush. I sort of tried to forget about him since I didn’t think it would go anywhere and tried to tell myself that he probably was a jerk anyway.
However, I was grouped with him and a few other girls for some group assignment, and he turned out to be the nicest person I’ve ever met. He’s ridiculously funny, interesting, cultured, creative (turns out he’s actually semi-famous in multiple fields), exciting, smart, he just has literally everything going for him. I’m not the most beautiful girl ever but I take care of myself (I’m skinny, have very well maintained natural blonde hair, blue eyes etc.). Acne has slways been a problem but after meeting this guy my face was finally clearing up. I suggested that everyone in the group exchanged numbers and everyone obliged.
Then the guy started texting (actually whatsapp which is the norm in my country but whatever) me. Mostly school stuff but also some personal things. He’d always reply to me right away, never left me on read, and was always willing to help and when I helped him he was super grateful and cute about it. I’ve never had text contact as good as this. He’d always say hi to me when we ran into each other, and in class he’d letvme sit with him. If he was talking to other people he’d always try to make me a part of the conversation too.
It got even better when I found out he was basically pure (yes meme af I know, you know what I mean). He was very serious about hygiene (he talked about how he disliked visiting friends who didn’t clean their rooms properly), wasn’t active on FB, IG or dating apps, isn’t part of a frat, and disliked weed (he does drink though but so do I so ehrm yeah). He also never mentioned a gf or anything like that.
The thing is, despite growingsomewhat close he never asked me out or anything and I was afraid to ask him out because I’m not sure if I’m worthy of him and came to the conclusion that he might be gay or something and I didn’t want to embarrass him. He was literally too perfect to not have a gf.
Then it all went wrong.
Last night I went out for drinks with a few uni friends and afterwards walked back to the train station (I don’t live in my uni’s city, I live with my parents in my hometown (which is completely normal in my country, the boy does the same thing as do most students)). During my walk I passed my uni’s most notorious sorority house (again, we don’t have campusses here so sorority houses are just somewhere in the city) which is only open to really, really rich girls. I have classes with a few of them and they’re mostly quite friendly, but some of them really look down on me for not being one of them. There’s one in particular who’s the only person in my year whom I dislike because she treats anyone who isn’t a rich skinny white girl like shit (I’m a skinny white girl but my parents aren’t multi millionaires and I don’t play the sorority social game).
Then I heard the voice of the boy. I looked around and saw him standing a little further down the street. The girl I hate was with him. Then she kissed him. And they just kept going.
I stood there for like five minutes. I finally decided to take a different route and ended up missing my train and had to wait 30 minutes for another one.
When I got home I started crying and I could barely sleep and I’m still crying now. I’m sorry if none of this makes sense because I’m so fucking mad and upset. The boy and the girl don’t even talk to each other in class. She’s also really tall (180cm+), don’t guys hate tall girls and only like short girls? I want to scream but I don’t want my parents to hear.
I just had to post this, I’m sorry if it’s too bloggy. Do any of you have experience with the one you love ending up with someone you hate? Maybe found out that someone you thought could be a potential bf actually had a gf?
I’m never going to find anyone like this ever again. And now he’s off limits and tainted anyway.
Task Accountability Thread
Need some support with achieving your daily tasks and reaching your goals?
What things do you want to get done today/tomorrow?
Here's a thread where we can put down our tasks for the day, cheer each other on for accomplishing them, and offer support/ideas for those finding it hard.
For example:
19th May or Saturday's Tasks or To do
- Do laundry
- Take out trash
- Read chapters 3 and 4
- Get out of bed before 9am
Helpful links that may help you set goals and tasks
Mini habit ideas: https://minihabits.com/mini-habit-ideas/
The ABC method: https://www.briantracy.com/blog/leadership-success/practice-the-abc-method/
Pomodoro technique: https://francescocirillo.com/pages/pomodoro-technique
I got dumped by being ghosted
He went from being super into me to just not responding to my texts for a few days then unfriending me online.
Why do people ghost? It's such garbage.
Long term relationship recently ended and now I have too much spare time. What do?
Hi /feels/, My relationship of two years recently ended and I'm finding myself at a loss for what to do with all the spare time I have now. I've got back into learning japanese and I've downloaded a tonne of stuff to watch but I can't shake the constant loneliness. It is so horrible not having someone around all the time for company and I don't really have many good IRL friends. what do you guys suggest I should do? How can i stop myself from becoming a social isolate again?
What should I do?
Went through my bfs phone and found an old conversation he had with a mutual friend, in which he talked about how he wanted to fuck some girls and then they rated them.
The conversation happened a month before we got together. (We've been dating for 13 months)
Also searching through his Facebook history I found out that he looked up a girl that only uploads bikini pictures.
the "sub chad"
Does he exist? Is it worth hoping that i'll find it one day or is it just a myth. Not just sexually submissive obviously, but submissive in general. If he does exist, is he a decent person and not just a womanhater who has a secret femdom fetish? Is it possible to find a nice attractive boy like this?
Nicknames
Post cute, silly or funny nicknames you've given your friends and loved ones or ones that have been given to you. Bonus if you explain the context.
So this boy I liked recently got this other GF who is far less attractive than myself despite him already knowing I liked him??
What could possibly make him do this? How do I turn it around now?
I know it sounds edgy but when I found this place a I felt profound sense of belonging. I’m so glad I found you, sisters.
Something you wish someone would say to you
Whats something you wish someone would tell you right now?
❤️
https://global.peoplematching.org/
Is it worth a try? Will I possibly find someone interesting through this?
Theory: the comparison between femcels and incels prove that Women are better people than men
you don't see anyone here getting bitter or angry, calling for the heads of all men for not dating us. We don't worship Chads whereas incels constantly orbit stacies and we have actual empathy for each other instead of crab bucketting each other out of spite
Miscarriage
Thought I would be never be able to get pregnant. Thought that not being able to get pregnant was the worst feeling.
Boy was I wrong. I'm in a lot of pain, physical and emotional. Some weirdo told me I'm probably miscarrying because one of my crazy male exes is into the dark arts, I'd like to hear from people who are less batshit insane.
Anyone else experienced this? Any advice on what to do?
binge eating
Sup. Been struggling with binge eating for nearly the past year. Super stressful academic load + self-control out the window. Still lift so I've managed not to become overweight but my once goddess-like body has reached normie tier. What do? I keep starting diets and failing. Haven't really had to deal with this shit before so I don't even know where to begin.
Becoming a Surrogate Mother
I'm somewhat short on cash and have been thinking about this lately. To be a surrogate mom seems like an easy way to make a lot of extra money - just go about your normal life while you just happen to be pregnant and go to doctors appointments on occasion. It would be like going through bearing your own offspring (something I'll eventually have to do anyway) without the end result of having to raise the child.
Most agencies require you have had at least one successful pregnancy and are raising your own kid, but I've found a few that don't, you just have to get a doctor's approval that you are healthy and fertile while meeting the other requirements (which I'm almost positive I do).
I doubt any anons here have been surrogates themselves but I do know that a few of you are mothers. Can any parents here chip in and give a word or two of advice or possibly talk me out of it if this sounds like a stupid idea? I'm still very young and in college part-time so I know that my mom would flip her shit if I tried bringing it up with her like she does with anything. But I'm an adult so ultimately it's my decision, I just don't know who to go to for advice.
Boyfriend cheated
My long distance boyfriend came to visit me. I went through his phone (terrible, I know) and I was really hoping I wouldn't find anything but I found a text thread of him bragging to his friend about fucking a girl. He tells me it was a mistake, that he was confused, paranoid, depressed, and it didn't mean anything. I've been extremely sad this whole visit now, we're at his parents house which is 4 hours away from my actual home city. I'm trying to forgive him but this whole thing has been horrible. We did acid and I got drunk and tried to burn myself and I just cried in a corner (I have no recollection of this). I don't know if I should forgive and forget or go home and break up. I'm really disgusted with men right now, I'm bisexual and right now I'm wondering if I'd be happier with a girl.
/exfeels/
what are your relationship with your exes like?
>ex 1, female, online, a few years ago - she ghosted me after we broke up, we were best friends since i was 8
whenever i see something that reminds me of her i get panicky and feel physically hurt inside, and a lot of things remind me of her. she left a hole in my heart
>ex 2, online, male, broke up a few months ago
i still obsess over him/think about him every day/night
Anyone here vocel?
So many threads here seem to be about relationships or >tfw no bf so I thought I'd start a thread for sort of the opposite feel and see if it takes off.
Anyone else abstaining from relationships and/or sex? Talk about it here and your reasons for doing such.
do you get along well with people who use imageboards as well?
what about 4chan? do you know anyone irl who browses them?
>tfw i ended up getting an irl bf who browses r9k, but he isnt a dick incel and heavily respects me, hes just as autistic as i am and accepting of my autism and ive never been happier
Copycat
Are you a copycat? Have you ever stolen aspects of another girl's personality, interests or fashion sense on purpose to be more like them?
If I told anyone this in real life, they'd probably think I was bizarre, but i want to get it off my chest. To be honest most of my personality now and my likes and dislikes and interests were stolen from a girl who's blog I used to read 3-4 years ago. She wasn't anyone e-famous but I just stumbled across her and somehow I became obsessed. I cyberstalked her all over the internet and I started listening to every band she posted about, watching every movie, posting things with the same sense of humor and going over her selfies for aesthetic details every time she posted them so I could try my best to copy her style. I've never spoken to her openly but I used to send her all sorts of anon messages so I could find out things about her to better emulate them. Eventually I stopped stalking her accounts as much and lost track of her online profiles as she would change names a lot. Recently I checked back to find she was completely different now, and in my opinion much less interesting. I'm still basically a reflection of her from 4 years ago, and I'm fairly comfortable with it all still even though it sounds quite creepy when I type it out. Most people who know me now weren't really around in my life 4 years ago, and they have no idea that almost everything about me is copied from some random girl online i've never even properly spoken to. I still use some of her dead aliases as screen names (don't worry, only as nicknames on places she would never be able to see or be disturbed by if she did find me). Am I alone in this? is anyone else this creepy?
>supervisor at my college refuses to properly do his job
>dicks me around for months making me travel out to his office only to tell me he isn't ready to speak with me
>breaks all appointments
>gives incorrect information
>lied to other students
>lied about when he was going to grade my work so I'm still not free of him
I'm so angry, how can I funnel this into something more product than sitting around fuming over it?
Self help/introspective books
Y'all read? Lately I've had a rough time obsessing over everything, hating myself, and not regulating my emotions. What are some written materials that have helped you become a better person, or see yourself/humanity in a different light?
I like the "This is Water" graduation speech by David Foster Wallace haha. And this.
>grow up socially awkward and fat
>develop sense of humor to compensate
>rely on it for everything
>use it as an emergency exit every time my personality flaws and insecurity emerge
>eventually it just becomes my personality when I interact with people
>bury myself under layers of irony so I can stay detached from things because it's supposed to be better than the pain of losing those things
>do this for years, can no longer tell the difference between the real me and artificial me
>no longer sure whether what I say or do is genuinely me or if my brain has gotten so efficient at pretending to be someone else that I don't notice anymore
>internalize detachment so much that I become emotionally numb
>every feeling I have left is some flavor of anger or sadness that I don't understand
>become pic related
>"I love you for who you are" thread happens
>try to picture what it would be like to have someone say it to me
>can't even visualize it without getting uncomfortable
>my psyche is acting like the fake person I'm imagining is lying to get me into a vulnerable position to take advantage of me
I literally can't even imagine a scenario in which I make a genuine human connection, attempting to results in anxiety. I think it's because I've completely lost any idea of who I actually am and can't believe the idea that someone else might, meaning I can't accept anyone's love toward me as genuine. What do I do with these feels? How do I get over this?
What do i do if i keep getting depressed because i live in a small town in the middle of nowhere and literally everything i look at reminds me how depressing my life is i literally just feel sad
I cant even focus on anything all i want to do is progress my life and i cant. As soon as i sit down to play a game or do something my legs instantly just start squirming and i feel uncomfortable and depressed that Im wasting time and i just have shit in the back of my head saying your life sucks your life sucks your life sucks then i see something or hear something that reminds me how much my life sucks
Like if someone in a show goes on vacation oh i never got to go on vacation. The person goes to the beach. Oh no beach for me. The person in my video game is on a tropical island. Oh no tropical island for me. The movie character lives in a big city oh i dont get to live in a big city i dont get that. I literally just look at peoples lives who are in prison because its the only thing thats as bad as mine
The only people i talk to are girls are online and i just ghost them as soon as their life sounds better to me which spoiler alert is fucking literally everybody. I’m getting an Uber. Oh i dont get to do that I’m in a small town thats too luxurious for me. Oh i live on Long Island or San Bernardino. Oh no major city for me i dont get that thats not for me. Oh I’m smoking weed. Oh no weed for me I’m on probation for being black i dont get that luxury
Literally fucking everybody has a fucking better life. I see people thanking god and shit and I’m just like where the fuck is god for me. How come I’m just sitting here suffering and gods just throwing shit at you people who already have better lives than me. Where the fuck is my blessings. I dont fucking get it. My life is literally worse than anyone else’s its like god just forces me in a corner where I’m forced to kill myself but thats too hard
online dating
if someone on the internet you don't know very well but still talk to, kept calling your girlfriend bad names and told her he's going to rape her, what would you do?
>Going through bars with friends on a weekend
>Get inside
>Drink and take few Es
>The band plays and its fucking fun
>Somebody offers us drinks
>There are a couple of foreigners, but theyre probably Finnish ones
> At this point, be fucked up, those randoms asked me for an encore: at least from there I woke up. There were used needles here and there.
So I got back home and my boyfriend didn't like how I was out. Finally, We made out about which I dont remember much. I went to the doctor for strange symptoms like a week ago.
I thought I was pregnant but I took the tests recently and otherwise be safe, so it couldnt be that. They took some others and today I learned that I have hepatitis C
What the fuck do I do, I cant fucking tell him either or the cats out.
I'm 99% sure my boyfriend is cheating on me.
I tried to talk about it and make him admit it, but he won't. I don't care about the high road anymore, I just want to plan a safe exit and get proof of his cheating. Please help me through this trying time sisters
i am feeling some of the most conflicting horrible love feelings i've ever felt in my life and i need some advice baaad. please please dont respond just calling me a bad person
I had my two first kisses and got into my first irl relationship yesterday and it all got hecked over from there.
i barely knew the girl, had talked to her like three times before but was vaguely interested in her and our mutual friend told her that, and we were standing around together and then suddenly she said she'd date me then when we were talking to our third friend
a warning that i am not that terrible of a person and it was super clear our relationship was openish, as she kissed somebody there with my permission and showed the other two people her nudes etc etc/she just made it kinda clear it was open.
so we met up with a third friend (male) then went to a fourth persons house - he was good friends with them but i had just met them. then the alcohol came out and we all got wasted as hell, i kissed her, then she ended up kissing another guy - there was a lot of banter that made me feel closer with all of them/made me feel familiar with the other guy. there was a lot of physical contact with me getting picked up and passed around by them, playful ass smacking, etc etc. at the end of the night she left and i ended up just cuddling up to that new guy because i was too tipsy to sit up straight really and we were videocalling my gf,i ended up having my leg up on his lap and my hand on his shoulder etc and he was rubbing my leg (is this just him making things not awkward or is it a sign he liked me?). in the end i had to go home a little bit later, then i asked him to help me up and it led to me being held/picked up by him again, then just suddenly we leaned in and kissed twice then i left. now i just literally can't stop thinking about that, i can't stop thinking about the way he rubbed my leg and held me and can't stop thinking about his lips against mine and its tearing me apart. ive just been replaying that in my head while listening to the music we had playing. i tried to tell myself it was just the alcohol fucking my thought process over and i didnt like him and should like her but i went out with her today and the whole fucking time i was just replaying that in my head. what do i even do
Limerence
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence#Characteristics
Are you experiencing or have you ever experienced limerence for somebody else? What is your story? How did you recover?
I've recently learned about this concept and understood what I thought was "love" is actually limerence for that person. It cleared up a lot of things for me and I hope I will now be able to take the right steps to get over it.
Dear crystal.cafe
I'm turning 22 in a few days and for some reason I feel incredibly old ( most people I work / interact with are 18-20)
What is something that you would like to have known when you where 22?
What is some advice you wish someone had given you ?
I am posting here a bit for advice, but mainly to vent. I really don't have anyplace else to just dump out what I am going through. My sisters would just get sucked in and the only friend I know wouldn't gossip told me I am living in a telenovela and said she has no ideas.
Background;
I come from a big, complicated family. My family has lived in the same mostly-rural area since before the Civil War and my great-grandfather had 9 children from his 3 wives and all his kids had a lot of kids, so - lots of half-siblings and 2nd cousins twice removed, etc. We are fairly close, overall, especially since the family still all lives within about 150 miles of each other.
Last Spring I got a job at a local office for a big company. I'm still in university, but the money is ok and they let me work around my school schedule, so I am very grateful. in Autumn a consultant was brought in for the IT department. I remember at first the office was making fun of him before he even got there,
"The IT consultant is a guy from Alabama? Do they even have computers in Alabama?"
[Our office is near the Great Lakes]
Then they found out he is only 22 and it got worse.
He arrived and, well, it stopped. First, he's huge. 6'4", 230 lbs, obviously a gym sort. Second, he graduated Georgia Tech when he was 19. Third, he's really handsome with blue eyes, a deep voice with a southern drawl, and, just….
And last, he's very warm and friendly.
I met him as soon as I could because he has an unusual last name. Not 'one in a million' but not Smith, but it is a name in my family. So the second day he was in I met and told him I had relatives with that name, so we talked. He had never been close to where I lived, had never met any relatives I knew, his family had been in Georgia for 30+ years, his family was Catholic (we're all Baptists) I had never heard of him, so - coincidence, I figured.
But we really hit it off at that lunch and pretty soon we were having lunch every Thursday. After a month he asked me out and we did a movie and dinner. The religious differences were odd, but OK, especially since we are both committed to waiting until after marriage.
By Halloween my mom was insisting he meet her and dad, so he came to dinner. Mom interrogated him like I had, but relaxed a lot when he (I'll call him John) told her his father's first name. Dad and John really liked each other immediately, and mom warmed up to him. My kid sisters adored him and were really funny about it.
John was going home from Thanksgiving until the next project phase, which started 2 weeks abo. John and I skyped once a week, and emailed once a day (I tried not to obsess) and it was just working. He told me that his father wanted to come back with him to meet me, which I was thrilled about (his mother had passed away in 2016). My parents obviously wanted to meet John's dad, too.
So John and his dad flew up on the 8th and got a hotel and the next day the two of them met with me, my mom & dad, and my 3 sisters at
the nicest restaurant in town.
[At this point my friend said "Oh, no, right?"]
When they came in my mother very literally gasped. She was white and clutched my dad's hand. They were walking across the room and my next older sister said 'its great-grandpa'. And it was true - John's dad looked just like the picture of my mother's grandfather from the piano. I remember my mom when they got there,
"Louis?"
John's dad, "I use my real first name now. Henry. It's good so see you, Cissy."
Mom, "I use Christine, now."
Henry, "It has been a long time."
Mom, "34 years and 3 months".
And I remember the look of shock on my dad's face when she said the exact duration.
But things calmed down a lot, immediately. Henry is a charming, warm, friendly man. He was the youngest of great-grandfather's children, the half-brother of my mother's mother, just a year older than mom.
He told us wonderful stories about joining the army, travelling all over the world, meeting famous people - a wonderful time and we were all relaxed by the end.
My youngest sister asked, "Why did you leave? And why haven't we heard of you?"
Henry, "Some people need to do things their own way and I wanted to travel. And there are so many members of the family, no one can keep track of all of us!"
Afterwards, we all went home or to the hotels.
That night Mom and dad told me that I couldn't see John anymore.
I was very upset. After all, we're only second cousins and through a half-sibling relationship. But they were both insistent. They admitted I am an adult, but told me, "no good will come of this."
John and I met on Monday and he asked me to dinner.
His father had told him everything.
When they were in high school my mom and Henry fell in love - uncle and niece. Half-uncle, but…. His junior and senior years (her sophomore and junior) in high school they had a 'passionate affair' that ended when my mom's dad caught them in the act. Great-grandpa was furious, as was mom's parents. Henry enlisted and left, never coming back until 2 weeks ago. He married and had John.
Last Saturday I talked to my mom about it. She told me that if John and I were together it would be a constant reminder of the affair to her and dad as well as the rest of the family.
John leaves today, the project complete. He told me he wants to continue to see me. He understand this might be too much, but he's willing to try.
Terribly typed blogpost vent over.
Internet SO's
(some slight bladerunner 2049 spoilers but not really)
Just came back from across the country today from a week-long vacation visiting my "internet boyfriend"- a guy I met on another chan that I fell in love with and went to meet IRL for the first time. It was insanely bizarre– to go from videochatting every single day to actually being able to touch and hold and caress and sex him.It was everything I'd hoped it would be, but now that I'm back in this crappy part of the world and away from him it is so painful. Part of me thinks it was a mistake to allow myself to fall in love with someone I met online, but another part recognizes that this is life and living and love is never painless.
We saw the new blade runner together and that moment when the wAIfu was disconnected from the house and started walking around and experiencing things felt so real to me. It was like Her, except in real life.
I don't think I can bear to be apart from him anymore. It is so painful and I feel so physically alone now, all by myself in a city with no friends.
Share other similar experiences? How do you deal with this?
I finally finally broke free of the femcel curse and had my first kiss - But would it be unfair to expect anything from it?
We were at a get together, two of my friends and the house owner - We all got drunk. He kept picking me up and I kept looking over at him, and It ended with me laying beside the house owner/cuddling up to him, I had my hand on his hand then around his shoulder and on his arm, I had my leg on his and he was kind of stroking my leg with his hand, and when I had to go he picked me up and I leaned in for a kiss and yeah we kissed. Was this just some sort of casual drunk thing or do you think I should pursue him? I'm so fucking glad I broke out of the kissless part of the kissless virgin thing but aaahhh.I hope I don't end up attached
I've already made a thread about this but it was with the wrong perspective. I kissed somebody while drunk and they were the first boy I've ever kissed or cuddled with, but we were both drunk and I think they just don't care about me in the slightest which feels very very very bad because it was a genuinely special and valuable moment for me and I feel like an idiot and feel like I'm going to hold onto that for the rest of my life. I might, just might, be overreacting or being stupid but I doubt it. The reasons I believe that are because 1. We had just met that night, and 2. They did add me on snapchat but when I tried to talk to them they just messaged me very very very brief things then just left me on open.
I don't really know what to do or how to stop feeling so fucked up and over by the fact that I wasted a valuable moment.
Do you get anxious about making accounts/usernames? I always spend a lot of time thinking about my username, how I like it, how it sounds, how it looks, and what other people will think about it. And half the time I end up not liking it lol.
I've been putting off joining a forum for a fandom I like because I'm so stuck up on what I want to go by.
I feel like this isn't normal.
How do go about creating an identity? Or do you not put much thought into it?
Hi /feels/!
I need your help. I have a problem with a guy in my class. Despite his looks (Bookish nerd, relatively short, thin, eyes with dark circles and somewhat long hair) he keeps stepping outside the social ladder and being a smug jackass who makes fun of me and calls me stupid. And while I'm not the most popular of the bunch, I just can't stand a worm like that stepping out of his social strata and punching this far upwards.
When I confronted him about why he does this he just said she finds me funny, laughed, then excused himself and went to whatever place he usually lounges at.
So /feels/, how can I take revenge on the little faggot? Telling the teachers is out of the question because he's a teacher's pet too.
despair
last year around this semester i took a leave of absence from college because of my depression. ive been learning to deal with it in better ways since then and have grown from that experience and used that time to know myself more and work on my art.
now that the new semester is starting im feeling those old feelings again. the past week has been rough and ive been going through my lowest lows. i attended my first semester since my LOA and it was good so i dont know whats wrong with me but i just cant shake this overwhelming despair. the thought of going back to school brings me so much anxiety and makes me so sad.
theres a part of me that says i dont have to and that i can just drop out right now, that life is meaningless and if im shit thats okay. i want to just stay in my room and die. i think of all the time ahead of me and i cant bear it.
i dont really know what to do, i just want to do nothing and not exist. lately ive just been painting nonstop..my hand hurts but aside from sleeping its the only way i can stop thinking. im turning 21 this year and i feel the same way ive always felt, the emptiness is always there and every day i still feel like kms. i dont know if anyone can advise me, but i guess if u have similar experiences id like to hear? lets be here for each other.
The ride never stops. On and on it’s beyond insane
>be me
>need attention and validation from strangers to not cry in the middle of the day
>get attention from strangers and friends
>feel uncomfortable, spill spaghetti, etc.
>repeat as infinitum
What do miners? How do I upgrade social gains? What are you supposed to do when strangers smile and are nice to you? How are you supposed to respond when a guy likes you but you don’t like him? I just feel like I’m always doing it all wrong
Anyone else /feel/ like this?
Do men even have feelings?
I've never met a man that had a shred of empathy, even when they are "depressed" it's all about ohhhh no I will never have this 10/10 asian stacy suck my penis or waaaaaah women find men who are taller more attractive, do they care about love or friendship or anything deeper than sex and social status.
non-femcel anons please answer this question.
How do I stop??
How do I stop doing this? This is just so terribly wrong of me and I don't know what's wrong with me, I don't know if I'm bpd or something.
When a boy/person I'm interested in makes me even slightly jealous, even the implication that they might have a 'side girl' or be flirting with others, I just have a meltdown and consider self harm/suicide (i dont threaten them with it, just keep it to myself. i am not trying to be manipulative with this, its out of my control) and instantly consider this person not an option any longer.
same with when they make me feel ignored/neglected/like they don't like me - this one boy I really like ignored me when I said hi to him and I just instantly felt this wave of horrible feelings consume me, I walked into class feeling like dying/etc.
I hate this part of me so much and this clearly prevents me from having any normal relationships. I've never had an irl boyfriend before. I hate this very much and don't know what this is.
Why does everyone treat me like I'm a freak?
I try very hard to look, act, and dress completely normal. I wear hoodies and jeans and bean boots in different colors pretty much every day, don't do crazy makeup, wear my hair in a bun, etc. and yet people stare at me like I'm a weird freak and laugh.
I've stopped going to most of the restaurants I like around my school because I tend to go there like every day and the people always laugh at me. The other day I walked out of the bibimbap place last week and one of the servers (she's Korean, I'm black) stared at me and then when I said hi to make it not so awkward she just stared and then started talking to her friend on the phone. Then when I ate there again today that lady started talking to her friend and laughing while she served me and gave me that weird look. I looked at how she served other people and she didn't do anything like that with them.
Today in class I asked a guy casually if the professor had taken attendance, he stared at me like I was speaking Chinese before just saying "uhhh no" and walking out quickly.
Am I so ugly that people literally feel the need to gawk and laugh and run away from me? What do you do about being a freak? Should I just retreat from society? I don't understand people. Can anyone relate?
My dead crush
When I was a depressed NEET a few years ago I started reading old literature to cope. I found a writer I really identified with and started reading about his life, too. After a while I started to dream about him, and was a little obsessed. I'd daydream about being born decades and decades ago when he was still young and alive, meet him, and we'd fall in love and be together. Sometimes when I was in worse mood I'd think about killing myself and meeting him in the afterlife kek.
I think I fell in love with "him" and this feeling lasted a long time until I broke free from neetdom.
I want to know if what I went through is common at all… Maybe it isn't and I am a freaky weirdo, but I want to know if anyone here has ever had any similar experience.
Pressure to excel but I want to do something else
Hi all, posting here rather than on a forum for anonymity.
For context, I'm currently a college senior at a top university in my country in Asia. Not gonna reveal too many details, but basically it's a school full of people that are wealthy, smart, or both.
There are lots of things happening in my life (young adulthood and graduation are transition periods after all) and for the most part I'm happy with where I currently am.
I am content with being average. although I am fine with being average, and I am currently contemplating to disinherit myself to become a monastic, I don't think my family or the people I'm surrounded would appreciate it.
I feel pressured to excel, and it does not even have to be an explicit, verbal thing. Because of my background (above), it is very easy to feel insecure when you're acquaintances with the children of businessmen, politicians, scholars, celebrities, artists, athletes, musicians, etc. It is easy to brush away insecurities regarding famous people, brushing off their beauty or glamour as 'photoshopped' and 'curated.' But I find it not so easy at all, in my case. When you go to class with actual models, national athletes, and teenagers that have start-up companies… even some of our country's presidents are alumni of our uni. It's frankly a surreal experience.
What makes it even more surreal is that seeing these people as acquaintances just going about their day, their day-to-day lives aren't that far of a stretch to the ones filtered and manicured in a social media profile. Another thing is that many of them are unaware of their privilege. While there are always those that are jerks about it, a lot of them are just so… "humble," or at the least, "innocent" about it? Real conversations I've had with my classmates on their experiences such as: 'oh i lived in 5 different countries growing up because my dad's a government official,' or 'yeah I placed on a national scholastic competition when I was younger. it was ok' or 'i do practice every week because i compete for the national team' etc. to name a few.
The thing is, they're so unassuming and nonchalant over their achievements and privilege you can't even hate them for it. The humility might just make one admire them even more.
I think I have some qualities that aren't bad at all, but I still can't help feeling inadequate by comparison to my (very skewed) social circle. I do not want to bring my friends down, but the social pressure makes me feel like I am wrong for not wanting 'to excel.' I just really want a slow, reclusive, minimalist life in a rural village where I can sleep on a hammock and tend to my chickens and my garden. Living a monastic/hermitic lifestyle pretty much cuts one out from high-wealth career options, not to mention marriage.
Still very grateful for many things, but at the same time I feel very disoriented since after all, graduating is a crossroads in one's life.
Similar experiences and advice welcome :)
Self harm general
Anyone else self harm(ed)?
>Why
>How
>Advice
>Have you ever been caught?
>Do you want to be caught?
>Do you try to leave scars?
Okay, so I'm going to attend a uni party this Saturday in a house. I'm in love with this dude for like a year so I thought that if I meet new boys at this party I might get over him. Any tips on being more friendly, making more friends and maybe finding a bf. I'm a tall, socially awkward female and I'm at least a 6/10. Any tips on how to act and what to wear in general?
>cute guy in my class
>shy and introverted like me
>have never talked but we both still know each other
>both of us steal glances at each other multiple times a day, both look away quickly everytime
>has been going on for a few months now
what do?
what are good tips for moving away from obsessing over old friends/old habits?
i want to stop posting onto 4chan so much and want to stop obsessing over my ex.
Vent Thread
Last one has reached post limit
>>>/feels/15610
Post your favourite movie
>be me
>never had irl bf before, no males interested in me
>random girl with her group of friends calls me over to ask if i think her friend is cute because he needs a gf
>i do
>i joke around/act really lighthearted about it because i'm too afraid of rejection but i try to show that i am interested in him
>send him two texts that are just joke flirting and he ignores them
>the next, call out something very purposefully silly (unsure of how to actually start a conversation while showing interest
>"hey babe do you still need a girlfriend" "are you friendzoning me?"
>he stays silent and just flips me off
>been in a huge crisis/anguish about this throughout all of this, think about him all day
>suddenly understand that he might just think i was messing with him instead of being cold and rejecting me
>im fucking dumb
d-does it sound like he thinks i was messing with him/im messing with him? how do i casually reverse this? i'll see him tomorrow again at lunch break
help help help
Gigolos
Have any of you ever hired a gigolo? Thought about it? What do you think of them and the women who hire them?
Posting on this board because I guess the miners most likely to be interested in this would post here.
Can we have a wholesome thread?
Post memes, stories, anything uplifting. <3
Is anyone else here a closeted weeb? Can we have a thread about these feels plz?
Good looking men
Has anyone here dated a man more attractive than them? Are they more likely to cheat?
don't hate me
why did I have to be raised by a single mother I'm such a pathetic piece of cowardly shit
Relationship attraction issues
Okay guys I'm drunk enough to ask you some real questions since I wouldn't be able to ask them sober
I'm currently dating a really nice dude, nicer than other dudes or ladies I've encountered. Let's call him Robert. I've known him for half my life.
>feeling good
But then my attraction starting decreasing for Robert when I got reminded of a dude I had spoke to briefly in my class a year ago, let's call him Jason. He is smart and successful, but the dude I'm dating isn't really successful. He is hardworking but isn't bright. Thing is I don't know anything about Jason. I haven't spoke to Jason since class a year ago and we spoke minimally if anything hardly.
>start contemplating
Jason starts coming out in my recommended list on one social media application and I start thinking more about him. We are not friends. I start thinking, maybe I should add Jason and get to know him. On the other hand I have this wonderful nice dude I'm dating, it's just the overall physical attraction and brightness part is personally getting to me.
Advice? Should I just break it off with this nice dude if I feel this way? Work it out? Should I befriend Jason even if we weren't friends in person? Is that weird? I don't know what to do, the drink can only help so much guys
Self Esteem
How did you manage to build some up? I don't have any and it's wrecked every single relationship throughout my life. I don't want to live like this anymore
i met this guy on discord. he's like 25, and i'm 30. we became very close and i'd have these fantasies about actually meeting up with him. i know some girls who met their husbands online so why not? but then he started like mailing me gifts and things started to seem like they might actually happen, and i got cold feet. it's been literal years since i've dated anyone and my own life is kind of a mess i'm trying to fix right now, and driving like 12 hours to go see him seemed really scary. i sorta tried to get time off work to go see him but when my pto request was denied i didn't really push for it anymore.
then we really started to butt heads politically. he's a trump voter and i'm very much not. i'm sorta wondering if i kinda pushed things in that direction purposely or if it just kinda happened. i'm kinda obsessed with politics and like to share my opinions. idk.
anyway, i told him that now wasn't a good time and i need to work myself out before i can really consider dating anyone very seriously. he was upset but kind of okay with it. we kept talking though, as friends at first, but then things were kinda right back where they were with us being kinda seriously into each other. then he met another girl, irl.
now we don't talk very much, and when we do it's not the deep, meaningful communication that we used to have. i probably shouldn't feel this way, but i miss talking to him a lot. it doesn't help that i'm kind of a loser, and don't have much in the way of friends. right now i feel sort of hurt, and then like i shouldn't feel that way because it's my fault in the first place for pushing him away.
i really miss him, silly as it all sounds.
> meet cute boy online
> get his telegramm
> text for over 3 months every fucking day
> today he said he actually want gay boyfriend
I haven't really made any new friends since I left high school. Well, that's not exactly true, but I haven't made any friends that I hang out with outside of class really.
It's been three years since I graduated. I don't know what's wrong with me. I used to have friends I did things with regularly.
Does anyone else have this problem? Am I just a schizoid?
Talk about how you suffered as a child
Share how you suffered as a child or what scarred you as child.
/Aspie/ Feels and Vent
Non-spergs are welcome to join in too, but, this is a thread about all the bad (and good I suppose) feels that are a part of a spergy life.
Tfw:posts comment on meme page receives dick pics and tit requests for three days…
Anyone else relate?
anyone else here /bpd/? this is hell
i either cant form a connect to someone, or i do and then when they dont respond fast enough or if they make other good friends (specifically female) i get so so so so so jealous and it hurts so much. i hate this
Growing up in a religious household or community
Did it fuck you up? How?
Did it help you in the long run?
Are you still religious? If yes, how much?
Do you wish you were raised like other people?
Is your family still very religious?
Share and discuss.
Just looking to relate to other people as my upbringing fucked me up in many aspects, but I am thankful for several things as well.
Should I post this to /b/? Not sure. I know we already have a thread asking if anons believe in god, so I wanna hear from people who were raised to do so.
Who else here /middleofnowhere/?
>Be me
>23 years old
>Live in the North of England so everything is expensive and moving out of my parents house isn't an option
>Trying to make a career in a creative field
>Don't drive
>Transport links from my shitty tiny town in the middle of nowhere to the city are abysmal
>Tfw constantly being turned down for jobs due to location
>Absolutely no career options closer to home
>Literally being cucked out of making a life for myself due to this
Anyone else feel absolutely hopeless sometimes? People who live in suburbs near the city don't know how fucking lucky they are, the world is their goddamn oyster. It's honestly so depressing to be stuck in a dead end town where everyone knows who you are when you go out. It's so freeing to be in the city and to just blend in with everyone.
Also just general /inthemiddleofnowhere/ feels
Sexuality
Is it normal to start having sexual feelings about a different sex than I have previously liked at a late teen age? I have way passed puberty, but some things are…stirring in me about women. Is this normal to have? Thanks anons.
Iwn have a qt white bf
It's pretty much all i want in life, that and to have his kids but it probably won't happen for me.
How do you forgive yourself?
Any high earners with loneliness problem here?
I'm earning relatively high, $150k per year which is about 3 times average where I live.
It's very rare that anyone hits on me, and even if they do they disappear after learning more about me.
Are guys just intimidated?
/mom/ general
Any other moms here? My second kid was born a couple months ago and this site has been a good timekiller when I'm up at ungodly hours feeding the boob goblin.
Let's talk mom related feels!
Cosy things
Name or provide an image of something that makes you feel cosy.
Sometimes I read posts from guys on other imageboards saying how they wish they had a girlfriend they could dress up and do anything to. The guys who have that feel so lucky. And many times the girl is even a bit reluctant. But as for me I would love someone to devote my whole self to, I wish someone thought I was attractive enough to request something like that of me. I have a boyfriend but I'm honestly thinking of leaving him because we have no sex or romantic life whatsoever. It's actually lonelier now than when I was single, because the fact that I would but he doesn't want me to makes me feel so unwanted. Does anyone else know this feel?
"So how come you're not married?"
"Why don't you want to be a mother?"
Well, I dunno, cuz my family life was so horrible?
So, I have a crush on this guy for like a year. We don't talk that much, only when we go out with mutual friends but I know he cares about me. So basically we kinda drifted apart these couple of weeks and I miss him like crazy, he's kind of a depressed, emotional chad and likes to make fun of me. Anyways, my friend that he knows that I like him mentioned that I miss him, his reply was pretty confusing. He just sighed and changed the subject. What does that mean? What can I do? I'm not the type of person that texts him or talks to him a lot so his reaction is pretty weird.
>tfw I just want to be the gf of a couple that's already together
>I want the man and woman to fall in love with me together
>I want them to both snuggle me at night and love me
>I want to be a sex toy for them individually and together
>I just want to be the cherished 3rd wheel in a relationship
It's not fair.
Changing your personality
My parents never go a day without telling me I have a shit personality and am beyond help at this point. They always tell me I’m difficult, disagreeable, negative etc. even though I don’t think I’m acting like that. Recently I told my mom over the phone that I’ve been searching Facebook groups for roommates in the city so I can finally move out of my Dad’s house and she sternly told me that I’m “not easy” and should wait until I can afford to live on my own to “spare other people a headache”.
The thing is, I don’t think they’re wrong. I’ve burned a ton of bridges over the years, was suddenly ghosted by my best friend last year without an explanation. I can’t tell you how many times people randomly cut me out of their life, even if we had a long history together.
I don’t even know what I’m doing that’s so horrible that people can’t stand to be around me. I try to be friendly, generous, agreeable but my mom says all my friendships ended because naturally I “repell people”.
I do know that both of my parents are toxic people themselves who see no wrong in their shit behavior. My mom is somewhat of a narcissist with a bad reputation around the town and my Dad is an abuser who beats his wives and adult children. My therapist told me it’s probably gaslighting but how would it be gaslighting if I’m constantly losing all my close friends left and right? I feel like I must’ve inherited toxic traits from them, and the reason I don’t see wrongdoing in my actions is because both my parents are the same way.
How do I change this about myself? It’s gotten to the point that I don’t even want to try making new friends because I’m now terrified of losing people. I hate feeling like shit about myself when someone who I care deeply about kicks me to the curb without telling me why. It’s been making me really depressed. I really just want to be a good person who doesn’t scare everyone away.
What IS a Stacy?
Is Emma Stone a Stacy? Guys seem to either find her really cute (and she has a badass dewp voice and humor) or absolutely hideous.
How do I become less judgmental and more accepting of other people's POV and opinion? I don't think I'm better than others, but if I can't find common ground on some subjects, it ruins the entire person for me. For example making excuses for shitty people or having hobbies that seem goofy to me.
>used to unironically use twitter
>find a guy who posts haha funney tweets
>we become friends & talk on discord alot
>we e-date for like 2 days and i send him a pic of my face
>realize that we want to just be friends
>later in the relationship i do stupid shit like block him a few times
>block him out of anxiety again and fuck up more
>he has no faith in the relationship and doesnt want to be friends anymore oh no shit shit shit.jpg
>2-3ish months later
>one of his friends posts a picture of my face to troll me
>my stomach hurts and my head stings.jpg
>a day later i confront him about it and he explains
>tells me that him and his friend were in a call and that they wanted to troll me and that he gave his friend a picture of my face willingly
>what the fuck
>he kind of apologizes but not really
>mostly just says stuff like ''oh yea i suck im a horrible person look at me im self aware
>more hurtful stuff happens later im too lazy to say stuff and stuff oh yea
>delete twitter
>depressed and nearly suicidal ouch
please help im so mad at him but i miss him so much i dont know if i miss him romantically or platonically but it hurts. sometimes i think of him to the point where i just stare and its almost interfering with my daily life
/cutting/
Does anyone do this? I have to hide my legs for the rest of my life, kill me
>don't like lesbians or bisexuals
>have been vehement about this in the past
>start liking a real, average woman
Is this karma? I'm definitely not a lesbian, but I don't like the fact that I am attracted to a woman and it upsets me. How do I stop feeling this way?
Paranoid Boyfriend
>Start dating this guy, he's really attractive and loves me
>He is also a national socialist, I am fine with this
>He joins a political movement in his country doing activism, I am also fine with this
>Starts to get paranoid, thinks people are monitoring our calls and texts, tells me to start using encrypted email with him
>Starts telling me he's worried for my safety and that the secret police in his country are gonna detain me and everyone he loves because of his activism
>Starts corresponding with political criminals
>In a call one day hear sounds, ask what they are
>He tells me he's checking for wire taps
>Occasionally he calls me up frantically warning me to "get out of the country as soon as possible"
Does anyone else have this problem? Any advice? I don't want to dump him because I love him but I wish he wouldn't get so paranoid and weird. I am worried about the people he is hanging with tbh he says he can't not do activism or he'll hate himself.
I need some help because I have serious behavior issues that I don't know how to fix.
I get upset very easily (especially when I misunderstand a situation) and my anger escalates very quickly. From a normal conversation to me yelling,slamming doors, throwing things, crying, etc. I did some online CBT for a few months which helped me realize the root of this problem but it's flared up again. I think this is just my poor personality and I need to practice more awareness and self-control.
Does anyone have thought exercises they could suggest?
I also act extremely erratically (being extremely violent, yelling, breaking things,crying loudly for hours) and completely forgot them. This was partially substance based as I started drinking too much, but I'm sober now and I still have these blackouts. I'll remember everything up to and after the freak-out, but my bad behavior is a complete blank, even right after it happens.
I also try to set it up to look as if I'm the vulnerable/hurt party in these episodes.
Wtf is this? Is there a name for this? I want to go to therapy badly but going could cost me my job and I live paycheck to paycheck. :(
(I'm not sure if this belongs here or in /hb/, but it feels more advice-oriented so I posted it here.)
loner feels/mentally ill feels
Is anyone here a loner/hikki/neet or similar? I have severe anxiety problems and I get panic attacks easily when I leave my house that have just gotten worse over the years that I have been out of high school. I won't lie and say that this lifestyle is nice, a lot of the time when I get in my bed to sleep I start crying pretty hard about how this all ended up so terribly, but I couldn't imagine not being a friendless shut-in like I am now. I haven't heard from any of my high school friends in over a year (I'm 22), I think they finally gave up and forgot about me after I just ignored them so much in order to stay inside. I'm at the point where having a boyfriend is like an eternal noon-time fantasy fueled by anime romance tropes and I'll never have the guts to pursue a boy for real, I "dated" a few guys online but those all fell through because they wanted to meet me or just go further than text which is way too much pressure for me. I don't even care about sex, not like I really ever did much since I'm a virgin and it doesn't bother me at all. Anyway, you all seem to have your lives together and I guess it makes me a bit depressed, so I'm just looking for anons to relate to.
What do you think of Stacy’s speech about how we should feel bad for her because she’s beautiful and that alienates her?
Say something positive about yourself
Sometimes it's good to be a little self indulgent for a while - share some things about yourself that you love!
It could be about your appearance, personality, talents, skills, traits etc, anything to make you feel good and to share some positive energy around.
anyone else get crushes too fast/too easy?
i fall in love way too easily, and way too fast..
i've kinda had a romance deprived life, and now i get crushes on people way too easily and fast and it makes me feel really odd, and of course ends in heartbreak every time because of how quickly it happens.
anyone else relate?
>Be me
>Have feels
WHY IS LIFE SO CRUEL, CAN’T I JUST BE LIKE DARIA
mfw
Eating Disorder General
A thread for the discussion of eating disorders. Anything goes, from anorexia to bulimia, orthorexia to binge-eating disorder etc.
>when did your ED first emerge?
>was there anything in particular that triggered it?
>how has it affected you as an individual?
>if they're aware, how have your family and friends reacted to it?
>have you ever deliberately encouraged its development?
>have you ever attempted recovery?
>did you ever participate in ED-centric online communities (i.e. MPA, LJ, Tumblr)?
Pro-ana thinspiration is disallowed as per rule 10.
(OP is River's Edge by Okazaki Kyoko)
Someone got oniomania here?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compulsive_buying_disorder
> go to aliexpress
> order 8-10 useless pieces of shit for ~ $100-150
> wait 60 days
> recieve shit
> think "what kind of stuff i want" for a week
> order more shit
The most sad thing is if i won't do it on aliexpress i whould do it on weekly basis in local mall.
Online communtities
Does anyone feel like they can't fit in online communities? I'm thinking of regulating myself to a permanent lurker because every time I join an online community I can't get along with anyone. What's the point?
PTSD
Anybody else with PTSD here?
>How did you acquire it?
>How long has it been since the incident?
>How does it affect you?
>What's the worst part?
>How are you coping?
How can I be happy again?
>boss yells at me because he's a single 48 year old manchild with no children
>file an HR claim and get an attorney
>company sides with boss because they all suck each other's cocks (literally)
>get bumped down out of management to get me to shut up
>take a trade job to make up for it
>parents ask me why I like hanging out with greasy men all the time at work, as if I get a choice in this
I'm getting really close to fucking murdering everyone around me
catfish thread
tfw you catfished on tinder after sharing very personal information
have any of you miners been catfished? i also get ghosted a lot
EX HACKED ME HOW TO GET BACK AT HIM
as the title says im abou 99% certain my ex gained access to my fb through my old mail, fb security email showed me a ip location that i was able to track near his house and the machine that it was accessed was a mac and nobody else i know has a mac. There are just to many coincidances when u take in consideration that he was also obsesed with me.
What can i do now? I have gotten my account back but idk what he read or even if he saved some private photos? im open to all suggestions
Advice?
I’m teased a lot for being tall. I’m a good half foot taller than average dudes and I’m pretty sure I’ll never get a bf, and it doesn’t help that crippling anxiety stops me from being too confident either. Is there a point in trying? Anyone with a similar problem?
Dreams and wishes thread
Wanted to make a thread for us to write about stuff that we want. Could be:
- Attainable dreams
- Unrealistic dreams
- Stuff that you want for the long run, like a type of career, housing and moving plans, etc
- Stuff that you really just want right now, like a holiday, a cute set of clothings, food
- An imaginary setting in your head that you want and want to talk about, being it realistic or not, like imagine a life you wish you would have
And all the stuff in between, I guess.
Trips gets a handsome bf this year
Is it normal to never think about sex?
I had my first boyfriend. He was 22, I was 16, and I have had sex with him until I broke up with him when I turned 18. I'm european here so it's legal.
Since then I haven't engaged or wanted to engage in anything intimate or sexual, except making out with 1 guy at a bar last summer that led nowhere.
I've never wanted, had the desire to, or attempted to masturbate either. Sex is very nice in my opinion but only with another person.
I'm 21 now, is this normal?
How do you deal with getting older?
I'm looking in the mirror and seeing wrinkles all over my face. This makes me seriously depressed
Men only like thots and Stacies. Even if they treat them like shit. The rest of us will only be used and never truely loved no matter how hard we will try. They might settle with us but they'll secretly dream of thots or even cheat.
Have you ever had a boy totally oblivious to how much you liked him? Or how attractive he was?
All my female friends left me. The only ones left are males.
I don't understand why this happened. One of them despises me for my looks, hates me because her crush liked me, without me even talking to him. The other one left me for another friend. He ruined her personality I once loved.
Why do girls always leave other girls? It happens more often than not.
How should you deal with urges to isolate and push away?I'll have these mood swings where on discord I'll delete everyone and leave servers, I'll delete other accounts, I'll cancel plans..Whatever. Just this sudden urge to isolate and push away. Not for valid reasons like me only having toxic friends, it's just caused by some unknown mental illness. Maybe depression maybe BPD.
tfw no bf
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Self Defense & Security
How do you keep yourselves safe? Post advice and tricks in this thread.
help with a boy needed
>met a guy on discord in 2015
>befriend him
>slowly get closer
>flirt and talk about personal things
>he opens up to me
>we skirt around the topic of meeting up irl
>finally jump the gun last January
>tell him I like him
>he just apologizes for flirting with me
>ask if he wants to stay in touch
>he says he does
>never messages me
>ffw to late summer
>message him
>we talk a bit but he stops responding
>message asking him to let me know if he doesn't want to talk
>he says he wants to, asks me to message him whenever I want
>message him once after that
>no response
>wait a month, try again
>he seems to be happy to talk with me, opens up to me about his problems, says he will watch the movie I recommended and acts all nice
>then stops responding to my messages
>message him that I'm done with trying, ask him to contact me first if he wants to
>no response
I know is that he is a bit depressed and probably a bit autistic. I just miss talking with him. I don't know… should I message him with chrismas wishes? I feel so bad about all of this.
why do people stare
I suffered from a true hikkikomori period for all of 2017, but prior to this extreme I would not go anywhere except work and the store out of a tremendous anxiety of being in public and hating what I looked like. I grew up in a household where my appearance was ridiculed and attacked often, being called grotesque by one of my guardians and at one time punished for being fat, I am more aware at what has me feeling these ways in 2018.
2018 has been a big year for me because I began working again and started going outside. Part of what helped me overcome the fear was being high on benzos in the psychward and mingling with guys and girls there and having nowhere to hide for weeks. I haven't been on medication since but have tried to go outside more in 2018 but it's very difficult sometimes. I've made a lot of progress.
I keep having experiences lately that make me never want to leave the house again. Twice this past week I've caught a different woman intently staring at me. The first time was this quizzical and almost weirded out expression from this attractive older woman in her 30s, she was with her beautiful teenage daughter. I didn't know what the fuck she wanted, I was at self checkout and started to pay when I noticed her staring from the corner of my eye, I looked over and she took like 3 seconds to look away. I should be stronger but it ruined my day, I don't know if it was my hair being frizzy or what her problem was. I'm not overweight anymore and I dress very plainly. She didn't just glance, she was watching me like a hawk with that disgusted confused look on her face until I noticed her. I came home and couldn't stop looking at myself until I cried and moped the rest of the evening. I'm trying to get better about it but sometimes I feel so hideous like my self perception is a metronome.
Not even a week later today I caught another girl staring at me in almost the exact same location. This time I am not as upset because I didn't see her facial expression, I was in line and looking at my phone and noticed her looking over her shoulder back at me intently for like 5 seconds. As I was about to look up in order to make her stop her boyfriend put his arm around her and brought her forward, she quit looking with that. Was she judging me, admiring me, confused and disgusted like the woman earlier this week? I have no way of knowing because I didn't manage to look at her face. Once I got home I definitely feel ugly and this mirror is my worst enemy.
Why must people do this? Why are people like this? I give glances not stares. I was taught staring was rude and intrusive at a really young age. I don't know what the hell is wrong with me. That first stare was completely against me and the second is a mystery. It's so hard for me to be confident and go outside and tell myself "nobody cares what you look like", and these people clearly do care. I take care of my skin and hair and hygiene, I do everything to look like a normal person when I go out. I can't imagine how many times someone has been staring without me noticing. I just want to know why they did so, I so badly want to know what it is that has them so interested good or bad.
A completely wasted girl came up to me in September and both complimented and insulted me, saying something like "look you're totally hot, but you're cutting your bangs too thick". It drives me nuts knowing we live in a world where people are constantly scanning others appearances and judging them. I'm so terrified of it all. I wasted so much of my early adulthood hiding and it's like all of my fears were completely true.
Post-gender-questioning Thread
A thread for feels/stories/thoughts from people who had experience with being gender-questioning but ultimately settled on either settling into identifying as female or shrugging off the whole effort altogether.
Gender became a hot topic in the years when I was a teen, specifically the narrative that you’re meant to be able to look inside yourself and find you identify with ~femaleness~ as a concept. Since I was already fairly atypical I took this as my sign that I was actually non-binary, but I never put tremendous effort into socially asserting that idea beyond mentioning it to my fairly open-minded friend group and buying some sports bras to mash my chest down.
I think one of the biggest pulls was secretly that the discourse around being nonbinary promised that I could escape predatory sexualization. In retrospect a lot of dysphoria was just me feeling repulsed by what I knew were parts of me that would be seen and understood in lewd ways that I had no interest in. The promise of being able to sidestep the massive amount of baggage that came with ~womanhood~ was very appealing, but I’ve since figured out that it’s just not that simple.
I find my boyfriend extremely boring.
I find my boyfriend extremely boring.
boring in a sense that all his interests are everyone’s interests, all his opinions are everyone’s opinions. I feel that who he is is based on the lowest common denominator of personality.
He’s a decent guy but that’s it, decent. He’s not horrible but he’s not great either. he’s just too normal.
I mean, I’m not the most interesting person myself but I have a personality. He just doesn’t.
I know it sounds so mean and I feel shitty for even thinking this but it really is what it is.
I still really love him but I can’t help but judge him for this. He feels like a robot that was programmed to be a person rather than be an actual person with his own thoughts, opinions, feelings, interests, and uniqueness. The things he does and thinks boils down to two things: what he learned from the bible or church and what most people do and think.
If you ask me honestly why I love him I can only say it’s be cause he’s not horrible to me. and that’s it.
He doesn’t understand me, he doesn’t understand anything that is out of the norm, he does’t have opinions on anything, we don’t have similar interests other than what everyone likes, and cause of that I feel this disconnect. He really feels like a robot. It’s like he’s the opposite of a soulmate. We just don’t match. And I’m just staying cause I know my lover doesn’t have to be my soulmate and I’m just in love. and I dunno love makes me disregard all of this despite it being a pretty big deal to me.
I’m no dynamic girl that needs someone on the same level but I just know the kind of person he is not for me.
I know most of you will probably just say that I should just break up but I really do love him. This issue just worries me cause if I can’t feel a connection with him maybe the future wouldn’t look so good for us.
But if I truly love him then I shouldn’t even see this as an issue right? so do I really love him him?? I don’t know!! If you love someone you can still be bothered by stuff about them right?? I don’t know!!
Tl;dr - My boyfriend is a lizard person what do I do
Story time
>Be me
>One of the lonely gfd anons
>Work full time at a family owned donut shop
>Gather all the unbought pastries at the end of the workday to transport to a nearby homeless shelter
>Begin walking with them outside
>Hear someone whistling what I think is Claire De Lune
>See a thin boy, looks around 19
>He has pretty green eyes and gorgeous orange fluffy hair with light streaks of blonde sprinkled about his cute little curled ends that go down all the way to the center of his chest
>He's 5'4''
>I put my hands to my mouth and let out, to say the very least, a not at all subtle gasp
>Drop all my pasted beauties in the process
>Create the kind of abstract art piece that would make Pollock proud, all over the sidewalk
>shit.jpg
Beautiful things make me sad
Summer, nice music, night walks, the countryside, everything that's pleasant and dreamy fills me with this heavy sense of isolation. I feel like an alien. I know this is isn't rare, so how do you cope?
reunited
We've never been together. It's always been a chase. We knew we will end up together but the time was never right. I was always in love with him. Deep down, doesn't matter how many relationships I had or how far away I moved, deep down I always knew.
I'm back in our hometown for xmas and we reunited. After about 4 years of not seeing each other. We changed so much, yet somehow ended up so similar it's insane. I went to his place last nights and he was wearing same nasa thsirt I had under my hoodie, ffs. Everything that should, aligns. Sexual chemistry is out of this world, but what we have has so many more layers than that. We played some MTG, sat in the window holding and caressing each other all night, kissed in a way I never thought is possible outside of my imagination. I can't convey it in text but damn, what we could have together… it wouldn't be just a perfect fit. It would be as fullfilling and perfect as it gets. Like, I need it with my soul. It feels so natural and right.
buut.
He has kids. he's not living with them, but he visits them couple of times a week. He's a good guy. I think it wouldn't be an issue if not the fact that he'll probably stay here in this city and I'm going back to where I live. It's 4 hours away, this could work. But then in a bit over a year I'm planning to move out of country again. Travel. Search the world for a place I decide do pick and call my own. And I know it won't be here. Yet he plans to visit and we already decided to go and see the mountains together soon. This moves so fast in the direction I wanted it to move for years, yet I feel like I should call quits. But I don't want to. I was in 3 long term relationships, yet I never felt emotions so intense.
this is hopeless. I know there's no way for this to work. I'm not gonna try. But now all I want to do is to spend another night in his arms. All these years I knew the time will come. Mybe a year in a future, maybe ten years. But I knew it will. How the hell do I deal with it?
what are the best things about being an adult?
Vent Thread
Old Thread >>12294
Get it off your chest.
Dealing with aging
I'm in my late 20s and now I miss being younger and more naive and feel like I lost my opportunity to have cute stereotypically female experiences. I mingle with much younger people sometimes due to shared hobbies (weeb stuff) and I realize that I feel way too old for it (and them). It makes me feel bitter about missing out on all the fun stuff because I feel like I wasted my entire youth being depressed and anxious. I really dread becoming even older.
worthless piece of shit thread
a thread for people who constantly fail at everything in life
i’m a culinary student and supposed to be taking a final exam for my baking class right now but instead i’m in the student lounge crying hysterically because a little voice in the back of my head keeps telling me i’m horrible at baking and should drop out of school because i never succeed at anything
i already failed 3 classes here because of this, and it’ll be the 3rd time i flunked out of school
should i just kms at this point? i dont know why i’m like this and how to stop being a pussy and just fucking pass school like a normal person
About 3 years ago in my last year of high school I fell out with one of my best friends and I really regret it now. Should I bother apologizing or is it too late?
>order kfc for the first time in several months
>quickly eat the wing wings with gusto
>20 minutes later you feel something is wrong
>you puke to the toilet
>genuinely cry after this because you are hungry again and 35zł is wasted (I'm from poland)
Fuck; _; an extreme poor person here
finally I could afford something a bit luxurious but fuck me, it never rains but it pours
Old flames
Do you have any old flames? Someone you were going to get with but didn't? Someone you didn't realize was an option until it was too late?
Tell your stories.
Bipolar & Schizophrenic Feels
Can we have a thread for people who suffer from either of these illnesses? I made a thread including both since the symptoms often overlap.
What meds are you on? Are you stable or still struggling? How do your family/partner/friends react to your symptoms? What advice do you have to give to newly diagnosed or struggling patients?
Also general vents and greentexts are appreciated. It’s easy to feel alone when struggling with a severe mental illness so it’s nice to hear stories you can relate to.
*And please don’t turn this into a thread complaining about your mom, ex-partner, or anyone in your life with these illnesses who “wronged” or abused you when you don’t have the illness yourself. There are other threads for relationship and family venting. Let this be a support thread instead of a hate thread.
Why am I so attracted to men when they display some desire to be beaten sexually? I don't have any interest in hurting anyone and I think it would probably be very offputting, but when a guy, even one I'm not attracted to generally like pics related expresses that they're a masochist they suddenly become hot to me. What's wrong with me? Do I have some kind of problem?
Am I the only fucking person that doesn't have a "shitty ex bf"
Like seriously what the fuck, I was talking to my friends the other day and all four of them had stories about emotionally or physically abusive boyfriends that they had stayed with for long amounts of time, I then started looking online and asking about and apparently this is really common.
I had no Idea this was a major thing outside of films and tv, no wonder guys talk about how "nice guys finish last" etc; they're all dealing with or getting rejected by girls with trauma from getting beaten up and cheated on.
Anyone have Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
I've been feeling really really out of the ordinary. I'm usually a pretty positive person, at least I can always think of something to do if I'm bored or if someone needs a laugh.
Lately, though, I've not wanted to do anything. I don't want to go get coffee and write. I don't want to exercise. I do want to sleep a lot. It's almost as though I can't control it. I just need like 3-4 extra hours of sleep and i still don't really feel good, but I can function. I can't seem to focus. I hate everyone, including myself. I've been wishing i could just cease to exist. Sometimes i feel like crying, but I can't.
It's really confusing, because this isn't at all how I normally am. I made an appointment with my doctor, but wanted to get other's thoughts.
To suicide or not to suicide?
I am obese (over 100 kilograms), ugly, unhygienic, mentally ill (untreated even though I went to the psychologist but I will tell you later), unpleasant to be around with (even my so called online friends talked shit about me behind my back - i cut off contact with them though), and incredibly naive and dumb.
So, to fix all these problems I went to the psychologist for YEARS. But they didn‘t help me, or barely did. Or it didn‘t help me because I am incurable. I am the type of bitch to not shower for weeks and be okay with it, because I don‘t care honestly. Today i ate like shit, my mom didn‘t cook for me and I am not allowed to cook for myself so I warmed up some canned meat (no bread or anything just the meat) and even though it tasted like literal shit, I still ate it because I was hungry and literally don‘t give a shit about the taste of my food. I am fat because I eat a lot of it, but the taste of the food I eat is literal garbage and has been garbage for some time (4 years). I recently went to school for adults to redo high school since I am too stupid to not have been able to graduate high school MANY years ago, literally. My mom paid me a lot so I could go to university, but I failed all of the times in the past 4-5 years. I know I should go to trading school since that is where retards like me go but community college level 2 didn‘t accept me back when I was 16 and I didn‘t want to go to community college in my town because I was heavily bullied in my first year. (Yes i did the lowest level of community college/trading school).
Obviously, I didn‘t have ANY friends EVER in my life. Nor did I ever had some fun, except going to mc donalds. Yes these are the exciting things I do in my life. I never went to starbucks either, even though i really want to. But the only food thingies where I go to are ghetto shit like mc donalds and shit. I wanted to go to some concerts on my own but my mom told me it‘d be better if I‘d lose weight, make some friends and graduate my adult high school, which I will never do anyways. So I won’t ever have fun in my life. I got in my first semester only Fs. And I missed an important math exam today which I was supposed to redo. I only do this year three subjects, maths, chemistry and biology. And next year i was supposed to get the rest of my diploma. I wanted to complain about my mom since she didn’t want to help me today with my homework, but honestly looking back I don’t have the right to complain. I was a pretty shitty daughter. I say was because I really want to end things. Anyways this fat whore wanted to die ever since she was 8 years old and literally has no reason to continue to live. I fail at everything, probably have borderline personality disorder/some other kind of evil personality disorder because I lie a lot since i‘m embarassed by my past. Except now of course, now I am telling the truth since I‘m anonymous anyways. Anyways the point is…I don‘t want to live and if you‘re reading this/making fun of me now give me one reason why I deserve to live, because honestly I don‘t. I feel like I am a burden to society and if I don‘t end myself, I feel I‘ll probably do an Elliot Rodger. I am serious, I feel like I can snap any time. The world has not been kind to me but it isn‘t to anyone, so why do I have the right to fail so much at everything?
>inb4 i‘m not trying my best
I literally went to the hospital to volunteer, but they said fuck off after ONE day just because my social skills aren‘t the best. But i wanted to improve them by volunteering.
t. Crazy fat dumb bitch who probably posted this in the wrong board and has been wallowing in her own shit since she was 11
What are really beautiful men like? Do you know any? Doesn’t have to be a bf or lover, can also be your friend, colleague, classmate, neighbor, brother, dad, whatever.
Is it true they’re all dumb and rude?
Are any of you cuckqueans? I’m not into it but I want to hear some stuff from those who are into it. Is it just a fantasy or do some of you also actually practice it?
NOT TRYING TO START A PORN DISCUSSION
I posted pic related because it’s applicable and I think it’s funny.
Long Distance Relationship Advice
My boyfriend is getting deployed, and I was looking for advice from other people in long distance relationships and how to stay sane.
Does depression ever go away?
RE: EX CONTACTED ME, HELP= Resolved.
I told him goodbye.
I told him that his dependency was stopping him from moving on from me,that continuing any contact, anything at all would cause nothing but the same results, that you cannot piece back together something one (myself. and him soon enough.) has moved on from, even if you are a new person instead of the past, he still switches and moves to many and others, it would be and is unhealthy, and must end, with anything related to it whatsoever, and in general.
he said goodbye to sleep, I told him to regulate his sleeping schedule, to sleep well.
and goodbye.
I feel ethereal, this was a good choice.
I felt the trauma in the moment,i ended my first love, finally. My fingertips shaking over the enter button, it was 11:59 am, I did it yesterday. I gave him a final paragraph, telling him to find himself ,love himself,and to learn how to have control over himself, and that I hope he can make himself as happy as he says I have ever made him.
it was 11:59AM, i felt regret before clicking the enter button,I shriveled over it. I inhaled, felt my heartbeat,and exhaled, it was done.I sent it, I unfriended him.
Once I clicked it, I felt bliss.
I am in bliss.
I am bliss.
>anon has achieved peace in acceptance of things in her life, and a final acceptance on a note in her past, she put the note in the closed chapters in her past, and she continues on wards, with herself. Sometimes, when anon is stressed, while it may seem heated and full of confusion with her confliction of feelings, or debates, or even a sting of bad feelings/gut feelings in the moment, peace will arise soon, in any situation and anything whatsoever. Anon is happy with her choices, and now she lives in peace.
I've made peace and I've moved on. The past is but closed chapters in my past, and I am onto many new chapters in my life. I am happy.
I am a strong, loving, lovely, smart, beautiful woman, and I love myself.
I have control in my life, and over myself.
I am happy, and so is my life. I am happy.
I am happy.
I am bliss.
and the world is bliss too.
I am happy.
That was my update on that, and goodbye.
To Everything, Turn, Turn, Turn
>December 1st, 2018
>reply to someone here who posts something I think is interesting and is looking for a conversation
>she never responds
Why does this keep happening?
How do you get to know a boy more when you're interested in them bit still just barely friends with them?
This is a bit of a sequel to a thread I previously made, asking whether or not a guy calling me a gem/sweetheart meant he was interested in me.
>>15115
I sent him a follow request on Instagram, he accepted it and followed me back, he seemed happy to talk to me. He responds to all of my story posts with responses enabled but it's just with one word that's a nickname for me.
I convinced myself he hated me and I should leave him alone after I messaged him saying I hoped he had a good day and instead of responding he just liked the message but after he did the one word thing again today I snapped out of it.
He seems like my kind of guy - Not a chad, nice to me, and has made a few jokes about wanting to die. I would have trouble with someone who was 100% normie emotionally that I couldn't relate with.
So.. How do I approach this? Should I just try sending him a meme once or twice? I'm very shy and awkward so a basic thing like messaging him to ask how his day went isn't my best option.
Ex confessed his love to me after a few months, ladies I need HELP.
I’ve had an ex in the past, we dated for a year and broke up to due to both of us being abusive to eachother, and abused, as well as a lot of past drama involved online.
It was long distance and it still is.
Recently, after 4 months he messaged my friend asking if everyone’s ok, and that if anyone wants to talk to him to make amends, he’s there.
My friend said
>”oh anon dosent hate you at all by the way”
In which I don’t, and he responded saying that’s good and all..
I wanted to make amends so I told him to add me back on social media, we talked things out and both agreed we were abusive and the abusers to eachother in the past, and recently he left a bunch of friends over stuff as well (as an add on.)
I’ve changed, I’m not the girl I was in my past, I’m a strong, beautiful, intelligent woman.
We’ve both changed overtime, yes,
We agreed to call after he said he was really happy talking to me again, and that he missed me and such. Once in call, I asked him as of why he’s feeling the things he does.
I asked him.
“Do you just feel the same way as you did before minus all the negativity we faced?”
And he agreed,
I asked him to clarify and well, he still loves me and wishes to have that,
I told him I’d give it a week, a week to introduce ourselves as new people, since well, we are new people.
I told him I’m not getting into a relationship, that we’d talk for a week, and continue on for weeks, and see how it goes there.
Ladies, I don’t know what to do.
Some of my friends dislike him, some are neutral.
I told him to clarify his thoughts so he’s not just shoving words down his throat, and that it’s him talking, not what I believed. (Basically telling him that what I said is what I think he feels, and that he needs to explain for himself since he has a hard time explaining things on his own.)
What do I do here? Cut him off? See how it goes? We’d be talking for a week as if we’ve never met, to reintroduce, and get to know eachother all over again, since well, we are new people.
He said he loves me, and he fell asleep in call.
He said my voice makes him feel calm, and everything of the sort.
That I make him happy, that he’s been extremely dead these past 4 months, and he hasn’t felt real happiness ever since he’s spoken to me, and now.
I told him he needs to love himself before he can love another, and he agrees, as I think he does, I also believe he’s extremely dependent which I gave him advice on.
We had a lot of drama and such in the past,
I don’t regret anything that happened, I wouldn’t be the person I am now.
But ladies.. what do you guys think I should do? Is this a bad sign? Is this a possibility? I don’t know if my gut is telling me it’s right or wrong, but I feel worried either sides of our friends can’t know, so we haven’t told them that we are talking. Though, I do have anxiety right now by all of it.
So yeah.. ladies, what’s your thoughts?
I just need more words on it that aren’t my own.
I do believe we’ve changed though, that I’ve changed as a person completely, hell yes. And I think he’s changed too in a way, somewhat, I’m not sure. Hence why I said to give it a week of reintroductions, as we are new people, etc.
So what do, ladies?
Secrets & Confessions
Spill 'em girls.
Lesbian thread - no bisexuals allowed edition
I decided to make this thread because the other one is filled with complaints and bisexuals derailing.
Post away!
Feel free to delete this thread if inappropriate or if keeping two threads seems like too much. I suggest that the other stays active so bis can keep posting on the topic too!
Height in guys
I recently got to know an 8/10 guy. He's really cute, but he's only like 5'6 and im 5'8. Idk how to feel about this. He's hot but it might be weird?
What do you think of height in guys?
Would you date someone 1 or 2 inches shorter than you? If not, what if he's an 8-9/10?
Pic only for attention
Torn between two worlds
So I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately and I don’t know what to do so I’m coming here to ask you guys. I’m in highschool and last year I transferred to another school for an arts program I auditioned for. The school is across town from me and sort of the rival school of my old highschool. I wasn’t in the right mindset when I auditioned and I was just looking for a fresh start away from all the “fake people” I had been with since kindergarten. I thought that maybe at this new school I could get a new start new reputation and new friends. I also had two friends I already knew that were going to transfer to this school too. I’m three months into this new school and I realized that the friends that made me autition for this school with them are actually fake friends. They knew nobody at this school just like me yet they hurt me and embarrass me infront of all of the people I’m trying to become friends with just so that they can be friends with them. I have exactly zero friends now and I feel so much social anxiety because I feel invisible at this school. I still talk to some of My friends from my old highschool but I never hangout with them because our schools have different schedules. I see their stories and social media of them having stupid fun like when we were in elementary school together and I miss it so much. I miss them so much. I really want to transfer back to that school next year but I feel like nobody will remember me and I’ll be in the same position I am now. Also it will mess with my corses because I am currently taking a specialized course for preforming arts. So should I stay at this school and suck it up or switch schools again?
sexual trauma/rape
I was raped back in 2010 when I was 13 by a assistant teacher.
Stayed back to help him since it was his last day at the school till next year,got late,offered to drive me home and yeah raped me.
I just wanted to get that out but it still feels like it's weighing me down
Has anyone on here whose been assaulted told anyone?
How was their reaction?
Am I wrong for owning guns?
Hey all. What is your opinion on being a cute girl into owning guns? Am I bad for wanting firepower?
Workplace Harassment
Who else has been harassed by men or otherwise been put in an uncomfortable situation at work?
Yesterday the assistant manager at my new retail job caught me upstairs crying because a much older male cowoker (I’m 20 and he’s like 65) told me I looked like I “packed on some pounds” while eyeing my ass, then put his hands on my shoulders, lightly massaging me and saying “lighten up sweetheart” when I became visibly upset. The general manager was sent an Email about it and according to him, the creepy old guy is apparently a routine offender, making inappropriate comments toward women and touching them but despite supposedly facing disciplinary action after each one he hasn’t changed his ways. The GM told me today he’ll be facing serious consequences but wouldn’t specify what those consequences will be, hopefully termination.
What would you do if you found out a potential bf did this? How would you feel if you found out your son did this?
Gaslighting
Gaslighting seems to be a really common tactic among men to use against women, especially ones who get angry and vent by taking it out on others. Men in my life regularly use manipulative tactics and lie to try and make me feel bad about myself or tell me that things that happen to me are deserved. My boyfriend constantly says edgy shit about women and upsets me and then just calls me sensitive. It happens on 4chan and even on this board. We're told we're crazy for finding certain behaviours and thoughts repulsive, and we're not allowed to criticise them. If we even try doing the same thing to them we get swamped by accusations of being 'crazy'. It's all too much. I'm sick of being painted as crazy or angry for trying to get people to give a shit about my feelings and understand me.
Anyone else have this problem?
Childhood abuse
So, something weird happened.
My therapist finally got me to acknowledge the possibility(!) that I was abused as a child.
It didn't even go with shock and horror for me, but rather peaceful. Before, I went through an intense period of being disgusted by myself and of course my everlasting depression.
Now everything makes so much more sense. All the little fucked up things that I did, or that happend to me, or that my parents did.
Finally I can function freely. Finally, when asked what's up, I do not get back to the ground level of "I don't know" that has been permeating my entire life.
Finally, the things I say and do are not coming off like I was pretending something, or hiding behind a mask.
I feel free now. And I act better. Things in my life, actually my entire life, seemed to have changed for the better the instant I acknowledged it. I am finally peaceful now.
I'm just a little bit sick at my parents and, still, I don't know anything for sure. It's an assumption now, but it feels pretty good.
Am I wasting my time?
I'm a third year in uni crushing on a fourth year. I personally think we're very compatible, we've become pretty good friends and I'm really into him.
However he seems to have been dumped within the past 6 months and seems to still be hung on his ex.
I feel that I'm circumstantially friendzoned here and no matter how compatible we may or may not be, he probably won't ever see me as anything more than a friend because of possible lingering feelings towards his ex, as well as being in a place where he probably doesn't want to date anytime soon.
I don't know whether I should just give him time and see if he does ever see me as more than a friend or if I should stop trying.
how do I help her?
I work in the office and since my PC at home broke I stay there a lot after my work hours to use the computers. I'm pretty sure I was the last one on my floor today when I found a note left on a piece of paper in the toilet. Translated it was something along the lines 'please help! I'm trapped, respond if you can help me…'. I went back to my room, took some post it notes, wrote 'how can I help you?' and left it in the toilet along with a pen.
what do I do? due to how it looked I'm sure it wasn't a joke. It was left on purpose, at the time when the whole building is usually empty. People from the cleaning service don't speak language it was written in and I'm afraid they will bin both notes and a pen when they do the cleaning over night.
what do I do? I'm so worried that if she won't find her and my notes in the morning she won't reach out again
Where do I go to get an e-bf who's pure like me?
All I see are frat boys who just want to "chill".
i'm alone in my room, crying at 2am because my life is a mess. i met a guy on the internet 2 years ago, we started dating and he was being nice to me but then turned into an obnixious human-being. i really fell in love with him, i don't know why. i wasted the best years of my life. i was 16 when i first met him, and i decided to leave all of my friends behind, i only wanted to spend time with him. he told me he was depressed and didn't wanna go outside. which made sense, because i never really liked going outside either. i didn't like being social. this year was horrible. he would change his profile pic to a random cute girl, i think he was only doing that to make me jealous. but i didn't get jealous. i just felt really ugly. so i told him that he should stop doing that because we're in a relationship. (he knows i have self-esteem issues) he said i'm overreacting. then i said "yeah maybe you're right, after all it's just a profile picture" but then he did the same thing again. i felt like i was being used. then i found out that he talks about "cute girls" with his friends. which pissed me off. and i asked him why he was doing that, he said he loves me and not other girls. he was just talking about how "cute" they are. he said "cute girls exist too, you know" then i told him that if he does it again, i'll break up with him. but of course, he didn't give a fuck. he said he would change. (he didn't) the thing that pissed me off the most was when we were talking about religions, (i don't believe in god or anything, and he doesn't either) he said i would enjoy it if "muslim men" touched me. -i broke up with him after he said that- then we got back together because he apologised and said he didn't mean it, he was just "joking". whenever he gets mad he calls me bad names. last week, i was talking about the new hoop earrings i bought. he called me a whore and said "i can date multiple men if i want" because hoop earrings are for hoes. i fucking hate him so much. he told me he's sorry and that he's going to change. but i don't believe him. he said he's going to kill himself soon because he has no purpose in life. and he doesn't want to lose me. i feel so confused and i don't know what to do. i blocked him on discord and telegram. what else can i do? i just want to forget him but i can't. he was completely different when i met him. he would make me so happy, i remember feeling "butterflies" in my stomach, i thought he was the one. i guess i was wrong. my heart hurts. i just wanna be happy again. should i give him a chance or leave everything behind?
Do straight guys ever act nice to girls when they’re NOT trying to get laid (or get something else from them, but usually it’s sex)? I even mean just being friendly, but especially when they’re being seriously helpful, kind, chatty, understanding etc. Can you have male friends who aren’t just looking for sex?
Conversely, have you ever been nice to someone (to whatever extent) just because you thought they were attractive? Is your personality different when dealing with attractive people?
Typical boy troubles
So there’s this guy that I really like because we are kinda like “two peas in a pod” (god that’s cringey but I can’t think of any other way to say that) We say the same jokes or he says whatever I was thinking and I just love talking to him and I talk with him 24/7. I think he may have feelings for me but in the past I’ve really messed up friendships by dating and I don’t want to push him out of my life. One of my best friends seems to have feelings for him and I’m worried that if I don’t make a move or something she’ll end up dating him. I feel kinda selfish for not wanting her to date him when I won’t but I can’t help but feel jealous when she flirts with him. Also, I don’t just want to boldly assume that he has feelings for me. Any advice? Should I just stick with being his friend?
Where do you even meet hot guys? Where do hot guys go? I literally know zero hot guys.
What do you miners do when you see a really attractive man? What would you do if one you didn’t know asked to borrow your pen or notes at uni or something?
I may be getting married soon
I'm 28 years old. Recently my long-term boyfriend (of seven years) has been talking seriously about marriage. I'm really happy. I want to get married and have children and, Fuck it, I honestly with all my heart want a cute family with 2.5 children, a dog, and a picket fence.
We are both from different countries, and have been talking about where we want to have the religious ceremony. I have absolutely no friends to invite. I have one friend from high school whom I'd invite often ceremony was in my country, but she didn't invite me to her own wedding afew years ago (we fell out of touch, completely my own fault).
I'm drunk, but… I'm not the only one, right? There's even a movie or guys about this.
Also, I didn't get a proposition or anything (We've even lived together most if the time we've dated, but I think he's waiting to "ask" my dad. Both my parents live him as nf want us to get married and make babies so I know it won't be a problem).
Honestly, I guess I just want to share my excitement with someone–But like I said, I don't have any friends.
I'm going to get married!
I don't have friends here and I don't have anyone to tell the good news, so I decided to tell you girls. I've been here since the start so I'd like to share this happiness with you girls. I hope all of you can find a SO if that's what you want, and if you already have one, that you can be very happy together.
warm cold weather feels
It snowed yesterday and the snow had me in a mood to wrap myself up in my comforter and to just watch the snow fall from the window. I wonder if we can have a comfy cold weather thread…
Let's discuss being warm physically and emotionally when it's cold outside! Post your warm feelings about the cold weather, winter, and/or the holiday season! Fav thing to do in the cold weather? What's your fav warm meal/drink? Fav things to wear? How do you stay warm?
I'm stuck
how do I tell if I have BPD or if I'm just unhappy with my relationship? I feel like I want out so badly but at the same time I sabotage all my attempts to break up and try to convince myself that we are good and the only reason why I feel so frustrated with him most of the days is because I'm broken
why am i like this
my ex of two years got a new girlfriend in feb (i only found this by breaking no contact and going on his facebook page) and i'm so angry and upset
jesus fucking christ i'm pathetic
Ethical question
if someone you know is cheating on their significant other or spouse would you alert them ? one of my former friends is cheating on their spouse and has told me she is with them only for financial reasons. i've kept it a secret but i feel so bad about that. we aren't friends anymore and i feel like i need to be ethical about this situation and tell their partner. what would you do if ou were me? As a side note, I've never met the guy she's cheating on the husband with, but for what she has told me he's very abusive towards her and yet she's planning to wait until she can sue her husband for alimony so she has the money to get this other guy to where she lives and live off her husband's salary. I think it is disgusting but should I get involved since we aren't friends anymore? i haven't told her husband yet but i'm preparing to do it
Why can't I find a bf who is into anal?
Does anyone else have this problem?
/sad/
I've been trying really hard to stay clean, responsible, and kind but I feel like no matter how hard I work to be the best me I can be, it'll never be enough for someone to love me in the way I want.
Any samefeelanons or advice…?
hate how guy/girl friendships r rare
anyone in college and found it super difficult to make friends because it's like a horrid pattern of, a guy will "be friends" with you, but then when they learn you aren't interested in dating them, they bail? I feel incredibly worthless and I know I am not, but it's gotten to a point where I feel futile in my effots to keep friends. Currently i've made friends with a gay couple, but gays…they have this way of making everything about them? like they don't care that much about what a girl experiences, which is understandable, but it still sucks.
I'm in a STEM field so that's why it's difficult to find girl friends.
also, i feel super ashamed of myself because i used to date guys just so i could still be friends with them, even though i'm not even attracted to men whatsoever. i hate myself
pic related because I wish I was doing this on purpose but i'm not. guys give me shit for not telling them sooner that I'm not "into" them but like, when the fuck is it appropiate to tell you i don't want to date you? that's rude as hell to just be like "btw, i'm fine with us being friends, but no more than that".
So what do y'all feel about non-monogamy? Open relationships, swinging, whatever y'all wanna call it.
YOUR BOYFRIEND GAVE ME THIS T SHIRT
Her shirts says “YOUR BOYFRIEND GAVE ME THIS T SHIRT”. Do you think that’s rude? Would seeing someone with that shirt upset you? On the one hand it reminds me of that I’ve never had a bf, but on the other hand it makes me happy because the shirt assumes I have a bf which gives me hope that I can be normal and have a bf.
me and a good friend are crushing on the same guy, help?
both a good friend and I have feelings for this one guy, who I'm pretty sure is oblivious that we're both trying to subtly flirt with him. my friend and I have already talked about it and decided that whatever happens, we won't let a guy ruin our friendship. however, I'm scared that regardless of our promise, things might turn ugly, simply because she is a very emotional and sentimental person in general, regardless of whether one of us ends up with him or neither. she's giving me the feeling that she might feel jealousy when I'm talking to him in social situations, even though she says she's fine. I've also assured her that I would be happy for her if she ends up with him because she's still my friend and her happiness is just as important, although I can't really predict that I will be 100% okay if it does happen. has anyone been in a similar situation and how did it end between the friends and the guy? any advice?
What do I do? I just need a quick "Itll be okay" or advice or something.
I feel so anxious and horrible and I just want everything to be okay.
A while back I was involved in a community, and there was one person who was a bit notorious for being bad to people/a bit nasty but I sympathized with them and befriended them. Eventually things singled out and now they're my only friend from that community. They never really did anything to me until recently.
They held a suspicion I was plotting against them with another person from the community and requested that I screenshared my private messages with them to prove I hadn't been. I wasn't ok with that and this lead to a big argument with them threatening to report my account/get it taken down if I didn't. I cracked because my account is dear to me. They promised that this would be the last thing. I was ok with it because I was innocent anyway. We did it and everything was fine again.
After that, some time, they told me they found my address through my IP. I know that usually its very very uncommon for that to happen which is some reassurance right now but there is a possibility which is scaring me like crazy. Recently the suspicion sparked back up again for whatever reason and they wanted something else, that had a lot more information. I refused to give it to them pretty much. Now they told me that they could spread my dox and tell my school/parents/neighbours about the inappropriate things I've done. I am just so petrified. I don't know if I should just delete my accounts/uninstall the app and hope they never find a way to contact me again.. But what if they do actually have my address? What if they contact me through some other means like my parents or my school or something? I don't know what to do. I feel so stuck and trapped. They have my phone number but they can't call it unless they get someone else to do it/get a fake number because my plan doesn't cover international calls.
I really really really don't know what to do. I have indeed done 'inappropriate' things but they don't have my nudes, but they may or may not be able to get me suspended from school/in trouble with my parents if they tried.
I just want this to be over. I hate feeling so trapped. pls help/give advice.
I really really can't just tell my parents this is happening since we're already on bad terms and they would take everything away from me if they found out.
It’s early in the morning and shit just went down.. im tired, anybody else?
>tfw you get messaged that you were blocked by your bf was because he wanted to run off to another girl, but instead of telling the truth he makes up an entire jumanji game with him being the protag, telling me he loves me and that he wants a future and for me to wait for him when he comes back from his adventure, and then gets all of his friends to lie about it too.
>mfw I don’t even care that much because I already had conflicting feelings at the start
>mfw he tells me to find a man who can give the future I want for me, despite him making multiple claims and promises that he is that guy and I should stay with him and allow myself to be so vulnerable around him
>mfw he leaves me on read,
>mfw I called a suicide hotline from panicking and crying so much yesterday because of the lie he presented me, making me think he still loves me and that “he’ll be back..right?”
>mfw my first relationship
>mfw makes a game that he’s basically going to save the world with his elite skills and ends up making all of this shit up, with his friends who talked to me yesterday telling me everything is gonna be ok
>”I think you are really good for him, anon”
>”you are a wonderful person,anon”
>mfw I spent all this time worrying about him, buying him gifts, having him visit me,
Paying for his transportation (I’m in eu he’s in us)
>mfw I told him my abandonment issues, he says he would never do anything of the sort and that he’s the one for me
>mfw he ends up having me wake up to a message of him claiming love for me, saying he’ll be back in days,weeks,months,years, and that I should just wait for him
>mfw he tells me to trust him
>”trust me, ok anon? Ill be back, I love you.”
>be me
>Early in the morning, sitting on the floor
>phone in hand, rereading the messages he sent me
>have comfort rain sounds playing on my phone from a server of mine
>it’s quiet, it’s snowing outside
>all the stories I have written about him, being the hopeless romantic I am, playing in my mind
>the journal I painted and wished to give him, in my closet
>it’s quiet
Am I living to be lied to and taken adavntage of at this point or what LOL.
>asked for sexual intimacy the first month of being together, already speculated fucked shit was going to happen but I pushed it aside as my “oh it’s just anxiety” and went through
I just do not care anymore.
Matter of fact, how do I even respond to this situation? He’s a couple years older than me too. Mf, it’s like hes 12 or something
Should I expect all relationships to be like this? Is there something wrong with me?
Am I just unloveable? Is it just my fault this happened? Is everything just my fault?
I’m sorry if this comes off fucked up it’s like one of my first times using this site.. and I just need to yell, man
I feel so bad
>know bfs password on social media
>he doesn't text a lot of people so it was easy to scroll through old messages
>found out some messages with one of his good friends talking about how they would like to fuck a girl they know
>they rate other girls
>those messages were just a month before we started dating
How should I feel?
Anyone here doesn't talk to their parents?
>Do you have a fucked up relationship with your mom/dad or both? Why?
>How do you get over it?
It sucks knowing most people have a normal relationship with their parents but I don't
Grudges
Do you hold grudges? Is it really a petty thing, or just hard to "forgive and forget"? Do you say you're "over" something but not really?
I would say I'm pretty forgiving, but still feel bitter about some stuff from the past. Tell me your thoughts anons!
eating disorder thread
eating disorder thread - its time for another
do you have an eating disorder?
which one?
are you attempting recovery?
how long have you had it?
what caused it?
how does it disrupt your daily life, if it does?
i have a purging disorder.
i kind of want to attempt recovery sometimes, then i see something like my crush looking happier talking to another girl thats skinnier than me, i think about how much better i could look/how i could compensate for my stupid ugly fact, and i think about the comments my dad gives me when i 'eat bad' even though im 19 bmi/skinnier than him (hes overweight, i think.) ive had mine since i was 13. i was a fat child growing up because my parents didnt know how to feed me, and instead of giving me healthy food they just called me fat/made fun of me. it disrupts my daily life heavily because i cant eat anything without purging after, and it just ruins my mood and has disrupted my health. ill be devastated if i go up 0.1 a pound
Have you ever had a friend who was a really bad influence on you?
>tfw no bf
it's not fair
Vent Thread
Old thread: >>8291
Last one reaches autosage status.
Vent your heart out, anons.
ugh
I know this might sound dumb but this is just some bs that I wanted to spill and vent about… so there is dude in my class and I found out that we have mutual friends and so at first i felt like i should just approach the guy and make a new friend but honestly thats hard af and its difficult to approach him and he doesn't seem to be very friendly to be real BUT he stares at me constantly and I can feel his attention on me in class… my friends and him work together and they tell me he has asked about me… and then it became really weird when one of my friends told me out of nowhere that they told him what I had said about him and it made him really upset and now he thinks i talk shit about him even though thats not true at all and i wasn't i was just saying how it is… i wasn't cool with my friend exposing that information and it was unclear as to how that was brought forth… and now it just brought on more intensity when im in class and its just draining and annoying and I am clear with my body language that i don't care that he's there or what he thinks but he won't stop looking at me and im just confused af
Boyfriend is mad at
So some years ago I was kind of very open, I kissed a lot of guys, sent my nudes to guys over the internet, even gave a bj to a friend while drunk.
My bf thought I hadnt done any of those things, as we were still virgins when we met, then I confessed to him everything i've done and he feels "repulsed".
He says that he had no prior experience before knowing me, not even kissing a girl, and that its unfair for him.
What should I do?
Girl crushes
Post your 3D waifus
last friend to be single
Are any of you anons the last (or were the last for those with bfs/gfs) of your friends to be single?
How does it feel for you to be the last of your friends to be single?
Have your friends tried to set you up with someone?
ITT: we post stupid problems that not many will share and may or may not be only in our heads
I can't stand looking at my face and wish I could cut it off and replace it. Don't even think it looks that bad, I'm just tired of looking at it. I don't allow candid pictures for this reason.
Stereotypes and accents
>tfw british but without a posh accent
>tfw I am stereotypes as a rude, incredibly ugly, alcoholic "slag" by foreigners
>tfw I once posted a vocaroo online and the whole thread started saying that I probably looked like pic related and laughed at me
does anyone else suffer from bad stereotypes?
All of the anti-Jew posts make me feel pretty insecure. Even the ((())) from /pol/ that have been spreading everywhere. Am I just letting the memes get to me?
Black and mixed girls of cc, do online racial posts make you feel like other people don't like you because of your race, or do you mostly ignore them as a joke?
INSECURITIES thread
Post about your biggest insecurities.
>in romantic relationships, etc.
How have you gotten over some of them?
Have your significant others had insecurities?
Getting complimented by strangers
I know this is going to sound like humblebragging, but after my friends told me this isn't normal I had to ask.
Do any of you get complimented by strangers in public?
Sometimes people will even get up from their meals to compliment me. My friends play a game where they count how many people stare at me in public. However, I never have guys at my college hit on me, and I've only had one boyfriend (in highschool). When I look at myself I see someone who's average- I'm definitely not ugly, but I'm definitely not model-tier.
I also compliment other girls in passing, so I always thought it was a normal occurence. My friends are definitely pretty, probably even more than me- they actually wear makeup (eyeshadow, fake lashes, lipstick, contour, etc) while I'm definitely not talented in that area at all. Maybe it's because they look traditionally hispanic or American, and I'm eastern European?
Mixed/Biracial Thread
Probably going to cause drama because people can't just let others have things but is anyone else here biracial/mixed?
I thought it would be a nice place to post stories, ventings for dealing with family or others, etc. I feel like people are maybe going to say to go to Tumblr but that site not only doesn't really promote discussion but despite what they project they're not friendly towards mixed people at all. Just interracial dating to "stick it to white people". I also feel like a lot of them are american because they think mixed means white and black.
Why is my height always making me unhappy?
I'm a 5'10 girl and I like a guy that hates tall girls. Do I just forget about him or can I do something about this?
He's super tall by the way.
How to handle breaking up with someone
Is it wrong to dump someone by just blocking them and never speaking to them since? I've broken up with a person before, but it's been so long that I forget how I dumped them. I remember I had to try a few times and it was a month long process until all contact was broken, really.
Basically, I want to break up with someone who's shit I've had enough of. I'm afraid I'll back down, though. I seriously am done with them….it has probably been over a year on here since I've talked on and off about their abusive behavior and although I've had many good experiences with them, overall they're still shit even if they aren't as extreme as they used to be.
So how do I go about this? Is blocking and pretending they don't exist the most childish, immature way out of this? Do I have to talk to them one on one? Is a phone call sufficient? How do I ensure we are really done with each other?
(no, this unfortunately isn't troll/bait)
i am so sick of being physically and emotionally lonely and tfw no irl bf that i'm considering going "slutty" just to finally stop being so lonely (i haven't ever kissed anyone and i never wear shorts or tank tops or ever show cleavage right now)
i just cant get anyone to like me right now
i got rejected at school by a guy in front of his friends and a girl passingly said to me that i should just try talking to -specific name of guy- since hes the horniest guy in school and i was repulsed at the thought of just dating someone because theyre horny and desperate but over the weekend i started thinking about how its better than nothing
Suicide
- do you know anyone who committed suicide?
- how did you feel? and how do you feel now?
- how do you feel about suicide? is it fair/unfair/right/wrong/a choice, etc
Share your thoughts.
(I'm unsure if I should post this to /x/ or here, but won't mind having it moved.)
These days when I see someone being willfully ignorant, I get angry and worked up for a short while but very soon that turns into a feeling of exhaustion. I'm so tired of arguing all the time. Could this be my depression and mental health taking a toll on me?
What’s it like to be a Stacy? How did Stacy treat you in HS?
When was the last time you fell in love anon? What was it like? How did it end?
Everyone at school hates me and I don’t know why
Give some reasons why you might hate a girl despite never talking to or only briefly speaking to her
Which emotions does this photo evoke in you?
Is Femcelism purely a matter of the mind? When I look at famous femceld like pic related or that youtube girl who deleted all her stuff (I’ll post her pic) I see quite beautiful women. I don’t think I’m that pretty but tbh I see uglier girls with bfs. Do you feel you’re undateably ugly? Do you feel like you’re good looking and deserve a qt bf?
Is she our queen?
Is it me or do young hot guys only date women much older than them these days? Usually rich ladies too.
I am so alone and pathetic
Friendship isn't real and at best I am a social filler until someone more interesting/fashionable/beneficial comes along(who then would become invisible if an even more superior being came along).
I've been hurt very badly yet the feelings of loneliness keep making friendship seem appeasing. Every experience since puberty tells me friendship isn't real. It exists in the anime I watch, but that anime is consumed by lonely rejects that will be abandoned by their e-friends the moment a superior social contact comes along. The only thing that bonds these friendships together is a lack of superior alternatives.
In middle school I lost most of my friends because I wasn't cool to be seen with. A few years later I lost the remainder, and sat with my group of vicious losers where we talked about hating everyone each day, but they used me as a verbal punching bag.
I try to show interest in people and validate them and truly listen, yet I'm always forgotten and replaced. Especially in the era of the internet we're so easily forgotten. In every online community I've never been able to become part of the group, I'm at best sitting on the social periphery and mostly ignored and at worst I get outright attacked by core members who obviously want me gone.
I thought I made an irl friend this year and I must have messed it all up. I went shopping with someone for the very first time in my adult life, she had done it a million times so she had no idea how much it meant to me. An anon here urged me that I needed to share more about myself to her, yet when I tried it was ignored. And then I became nearly invisible when I was a few months away from moving and she quit eating lunch with me. During my last week at work and right after our lunch break this other girl went into extreme detail about the lunch she had with this once friend of mine, and I repeated a mantra in my head that it was okay but pathetically erupted into tears 10 minutes later and nobody had any idea what I was crying about. After I was gone she texted me "bye anon I'll miss you!!!" and I responded "doubt it", after this she said "believe what you want but I really will miss you" she told me to show her a picture of my cat at my dad's house(a plan we formed months prior, the place I was moving to), I told her something really mean because I wanted her to leave me alone and hopefully have her feelings hurt at least a fraction of how mine had. I regret it, I wanted her to cry or something. But it's not like she knew that showering me with friendship and then withdrawing it shortly after would hurt me, these people have so much success with others they don't even know what it feels like. She said the words "I only have 10 friends", she couldn't have dreamed a possibility up that I was affected. I wasn't owed her friendship, but it made me mad that as I stopped existing she would still go "anon we're matching! :3" and ruin my day. That entire time after her withdrawal I'd do my best to put on a mask of indifference but I was in a lot of pain every single day at work, and was counting the days until I'd never see her again.
There is undoubtedly something wrong with me. I initially do very well with people, people irl and online call me one of the funniest girls they know and tell me I'm interesting or know a lot of stuff. Yet I'll never be a core friend, I'm always in some back seat to be discarded. I want a best friend so badly. I became invisible to the e-friend that once called me her best friend as well. I am 26 years old and have 1 e friend, who is emotionally distant and called me "neurotically compassionate" but still values me and doesn't seem like she will grow tired of me. I'm in an e-relationship and we're going to meet next year and we love each other. I feel pathetic for this. I am trying to make more friends.
I tried tinder this summer because I wanted a bf, but anon was right when she said that it would only hurt my feelings. I thought I hit the jackpot when I met a 6'4 guy who was cute in the face and slender and played runescape, he took me out and made me feel so special, but then I quit existing to him. I had butterflies for weeks after that date, and was so proud of myself for being brave. Maybe it was because I looked so low status but he admitted he wanted me to do perverted stuff that I had no interested in doing like fingering him and he wanted us to get a strap on, I was so desperate I said yes although it was killing me inside. And even saying yes to this he had some excuse every time I invited him over to my apartment. He probably found someone cuter and smarter.
I was pretending to be a male incel online and was getting quite good at it, but even that community began to hurt my feelings. I was putting all of my emotion towards the girls who have hurt me through friendship over the years into it and it worked quite well.
I wish I could die. I don't even have any family to fill this void except my autistic senile father who has nothing to talk about except a few subjects he keeps on rotation. And I have to step on eggshells talking to him because one wrong move and he has this sperg meltdown and shouts at me, so I'm mostly restricted to nodding and going "uh-huh".
Whenever someone happy and successful and beautiful dies or gets attacked with acid by a crazy ex, part of me gets a kick out of her perfect life being ruined and her perfect family being devastated, but another part wishes I could take her place because my life is the one that shouldn't go on. I only get some sense of schadenfreude from it because I'm deeply envious, I don't like being this way, I deeply crave to be the normie and would sell my soul to have it.
saw a friend get harrassed, didn't intervene and feel guilty/weird
Please help – was I in the wrong? What can I do to help now?
Last night I went over to two new male friends' place to drink and chill. One was especially drunk once I got there (Drunk Guy) – already slurring and difficulty walking. I was drinking too. The one dude who was already drunk kept drinking and getting increasingly cuddlier with the other guy (Chill Guy). Cuddling turned to hair petting/neck rubs, to then Drunk Guy laying on Chill Guy's lap and eventually trying to kiss his cheek and grab his crotch. Chill Guy seemed OK with the cuddling at first but then was pushing away Drunk Dude's hands when he was trying to grope him and said something like "no, no, none of that" and pulled away when he tried to kiss him.
I was trying make eye contact with Chill Guy to give the international "ARE YOU OK" eye contact, but they felt sort of off in their own little world, even though we were all in the same room. Drunk Guy eventually passed the fuck out and neither I nor Chill Guy could wake him up or move him off the couch to try and walk him home, etc.
I texted Chill Dude today and he said he felt upset about what had happened (attempted kissing, groping) but didn't want to make a big deal out of it.
I feel like I fucked up and let him get harassed right in front of me without doing enough to stop it. I feel like an enabling bystander and I don't know how to help or what to do. Thoughts and advice please?
I am often mistaken for a 12 year old by strangers
Is it wrong for me to be suspicious of guys who find me attractive?
>tfw huge pregnancy and birth fetish
>tfw not pregnant right now
>tfw hate kids and would make a shitty mom anyway
It hurts, anons
Pls b friend
Tfw moved to Melbourne from the U.S. and have tried to make friends and no matter what happens it just feels so awkward and forced. I've tried using bumble bff to make friends but nothing just clicks at all and I always feel like I'm too weird to be someone's friend.
Anyone live in Melbourne and wanna be friends?
Porn Addiction General
I'm not posting this in /nsfw/ since the entire premise of this thread is antithetical to that board, and I figure we could support each other here. I've seen a few posts here and there around cc of anons trying to curb this issue.
Who here is struggling with a porn addiction? Share your experience, thoughts and ideas, hold each other accountable, or just vent.
>a few resources on how porn affects the consumer, tips on staying free, and general topics of interest
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com
pretty much this entire website +
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-problems-here-come-women
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/are-fetishes-innate
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/forum/threads/my-thoughts-on-rebooting-extremely-long-post.15558
https://a-broader-sensibility.tumblr.com/post/160909630573/anti-porn-masterpost-feel-free-to-reblog-and-add
http://www.cnn.com/2016/02/24/entertainment/terry-crews-porn-addition-feat/index.html
Anyone feel free to post other resources and articles. This is a very cursory list.
Do any of you have good posture? Have any of you fixed yiur posture? It’s supposed to make boys (and people in general) think you’re more attractive and respect you more.
Girls how do I accept criticism? I want to get better at writing but throughout the years I've been becoming more and more insecure about my writing style etc and I feel like I'll never get better because every time someone gives me slight criticism on one of my stories it's like I shut down and scrap the entire story instead of fixing the tiny part(s) that the person had a problem with. I wasn't always like this. I used to be confident in my writing but now it feels like I did a whole 180 and I think everything I write is garbage. You can definitely tell when someone is insecure about their writing in a paper because it usually seeps through. I just want to be able to write again and not scrap every single thing that I write. I want to get better so I want to be able to take criticism like an adult.
>>ples help girls
>be used to being ridiculed for trying to make anything since a young age
>only wish is to become a musician or producer
>dad's friend who's a musician recommended a guitar tutor
>he's really nice and has a passion for teaching, has taught me for well over a year
>we made great progress and I enjoy it
>every time he plays a backing track for me to play a solo over I can barely hold back tears because I stopped trying to do anything creative for a long time
>psych told me that I'd never be the type to go on a stage or be confident enough to try
>tutor has faith in me and wants to help me get on stage with some of his other students
>he's so nice
>but it doesn't matter
I hate myself, why do I need to have such a backwards way of thinking
tfw no bf
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I just spent most of my savings on hardware to build a new pc since I've been using a 10 year old piece of crap and while building it I fried the motherboard, cpu and gpu. I just wanna die why am I so dumb
>Nothing good has happened to me since highschool
>Now I just sit inside all day wishing things were better
Why can't I just go back?
Ex-friends/Lost connections
We all have some stories of friends we used to know and love but aren't there for us anymore.
What happened for you to drift apart?
Do you miss them?
Have you tried to reconnect?
Etc.
I don't want to grow up
Is anybody else also feeling like this?
Some might say, well you don't have to give up your old interests, but it just hurts me so much seeing all the other people around me slowly starting to get engaged, living with their bfs, starting to work, hell, even selling their old "first" car.
I was always called really serious and mature for my age, dressed solely in trenchcoats during my teen years, but since I was 19 I started getting obseesed with the idea of wanting to stay young. I do go to uni and plan to work normally, but I'm just not ready for all that other stuff.
My room is super plain and I don't wear obnoxious clothes, I just don't like anything super "elegant", so whenever I see some of my old friends wearing some dark red lipstick and heels it just weirds me out. The time since our graduation flew by so fast and they all moved away starting their own lifes. One of my friends is already married, soon I can no longer even call myself a student. I'm desperately holding onto the few fun memories I made when I was younger.
I remember really enjoying spontaneously agreeing to go to a concert of a band I didn't know at all. One of the best nights of my life. We only bought tickets right outside of the venuse. They were some rather unknown american band. Me and my friend stood behind 2 girls who were groupies of that band, and I felt strangely jeelous of their immature but also carefree way of living (they chatted all the time, so I heard quite a bit).
It hurts me if people say wearing converse or crop tops are childish, because that's exactly what I like. I don't have many friends but whenever I witness others my age talking about their plans I feel like I wouldn't even want to be part of them? Staying at home and cooking a healthy meal together just sounds so boring. I wish I had friends to just go to McDonalds at night, go to concerts, travel together and so on, but everbody starts doing everything with their partners now. I don't even want a bf, if that means I have to do those things as well. I'm also not ready to "let go" of my celebrity crushes for a real guy lol. I hate anything "romantic", I just want to watch Family Guy or some meaningless shit like that.
The sad part is that I think if I was a guy it would be a lot more accepted. Even older men still can normally wear only comfy clothes, love fast food and have childish hobbies. Before anybody accuses me of trying to paint me as "one of of the guyz", no, not at all. I've never had male friends, I only really got along with other girls.
What should I do?
Ex-bf Thread
How did you meet your ex bf? What made you attracted to him, do you miss him, etc. Spill the tea
Quitting Imageboards
Halp. How do I quit imageboards forever? I've been here for way too long.
Imageboards have done nothing for my life but made me a pessimistic, depressed little b*tch content with my isolation. I'm completely addicted to the internet, pron and video games and I hate it so much. I have important things in life that I need to focus on, like school but can't because I keep getting distracted by this meaningless escapism. I'm completely wasting my life, I'm 18 now and have very little real life experience, zero friends and terrible social skills. The only people I can talk to are my parents. I'm such an absolute wreck and often feel like I'm gonna be this way forever but I want to change I really want to change. Is there any hope for me? Have any of you ever tried to leave?
Anyone else here hates the outside world?
Not talking about animals nor humans, just the enviroment. Like most of the scenery looks bland and boring to me. I can't imagine how people go hiking on a regular basis just for starring at some generic trees and rivers.
Maybe I'm just numb to visual stimuli, nothing really impresses me anymore. As a young girl it was quiete the opposite though.
Internet Romance
Story time! Have you ever fallen in love online, sisters?
Bonus points if it happened back before webcams and smartphones were ubiquitous.
i hate being so lonely
I have absolutely no one to talk to in real life or even online. i lost all 'friends' i made when i graduated from high school. I've been a socially awkward mess ever since then. i stumble words and I can't keep a conversation going. Even people I talk to online feel like they only feel bad for me and just wish I would stop talking to them. (which they do, I constantly get ghosted and they don't ever have the same level of interest as I do. ) I'm a mess and I'm depressed, all the time I feel like ending it all. I have no goals or drive to do anything. I either lay in bed all day and cry or mindlessly scroll through Reddit, Tumblr, or discord servers I don't even talk in. I have severe anxiety so I get panic attacks in public so going out isn't an option and people don't want to talk to me online either. I'm so lonely. that's why I'm posting on some anonymous board right now where no one will probably care but whatever typing it out makes me feel good. I don't know what i can do to relieve this never ending sorrow of how lonely I am. I own a cat, but she can't talk. my family constantly argues so my relationship is loose with them. I feel like i have nothing at all, I'm isolated and trapped in a bubble from the outside world. and yes… I am receiving treatment for the most of the time I've been alive , it's just really bad. I don't believe I have any redeeming qualities , i have no talents, no hobbies, and no passions. the only thing that is probably keeping me going is that i have to care for my cat or no one else will and i love her. "but there are people out there who like you!" i doubt it. but if anyone can give me 'advice' please say something. my self destructive behavior is just getting worse and i cut off people more and more every day.
Does no-shlick really improve pheromones and skin, or is that only for no-fap?
Hey /feels/ after a lot of self improvement (especially self steem related) I finally managed to get asked out by a guy last weekend and we had an awesome time and im really excited about seeing him again.
Problem is I think hes handsome but both my mom and my sister said hes kind off ugly.
What do you think?
Pic related, hes the blonde one.
Relationship anxiety anyone?
>bf is long distance, but still able to visit since he’s only 2-7 hours away
I get scared or worried that maybe I won’t be able to make him fully happy from such a far distance. Recently I’ve had fear that I can’t sexually help him as much as he’d want to, I’m a virgin and I’ve never done anything sexual besides sending a bra pic to another guy in the past (due to other issues). Hes very overly sexual and constantly mentions how when we will meet we can do all of these sexual actions.. I know that I’m not afraid of being sexual in a relationship but, I have fears of being taken advantage of or used. I know he’s had sexual partners in the past, and he’s even mentioned that he could just go to somebody for sex if he wanted to, that the reason why he stays with me is because he truly loves me. He says he loves me for how I am and all that.. but how can I not be worried? Am I just overreacting with my anxiety? I do love him, but emotionally I still have a couple walls up due to having bad experiences in the past. I’m very new to relationships, this being my first one.. and I want to allow myself to be fully vulnerable to him and comfortable, but I have so many fears he’s just going to use me, or that maybe I am not enough for him, and he will find another.
In the past, guys have talked to me for how I physically look, I’ve been sexually harassed and groped so much by strangers it makes me scared to be sexually intimate in my relationship, being taken advantage of or not being good enough.. or just being betrayed is my biggest fears.
I don’t think he would do anything, I trust him 100 percent!
How do I fix my relationship anxiety? I’m too scared to tell him how I fear because I’ve mentioned it to him before, and it just felt weird to say..
Am I just overly paranoid? We are going to see eachother in person soon, so I don’t know if I’ll be fully comfortable around him for.. anything really.
We are still fairly new together, so far a month and so. He’s very straight forward and blunt With what he says so I know his intentions are to be with me, that he loves me. But will I ever be enough? Is my anxiety justified? Maybe I am just overthinking everything?
Am I just paranoid?
>kinda new please don’t fire me pls
read this thread
http://boards.4chan.org/fit/thread/47759001
what feeling does it give you? depression material tbh.
Guys, I think I'll just stay alone.
I know I just graduated from school and I have all my life ahead of me but..wow.
I never really tried, like, finding a boyfriend, due to my insecurity about my height.(5'9)
Every guy I start talking with it's just meaningless. All they care about is sex and how many girls they'll fuck, so they can show off..Nobody is really romantic and my circle of friends is just surrounded by fuckboys and stacies, so theres really no chance of meeting a decent one. Listening to romantic songs and watching all these innocent romance anime made me realize that I'll never experience anything like that. It just physically hurts me. How do I cope with this?
An important friend of mine is going through a huge ego trip and he just disappeared.
I met him this year but I heard that every year at least once, he closes all his social media for a short period and then reopens them.
Due to an illness of his, he couldn't do much with one of his hand cause there was a risk of him dying if he made the wrong move. So for 3 years he just wasted his time. This year that thing was cured so he finally started the thing that he always wanted, boxing. He is really passionate about it as I heard from his friend. So, he closed his accounts as usual but this time he kept them closed just a little too much. We called him on his phone and agreed to meet up and he made us sit and wait for him 30 mins until he just said that he just didn't want to come. A friend of us from another town would come to stay at his house for some days but he canceled it on the last minute. Lastly, the girlfriend of his best friend got really hurt and his best friend was talking to him and he didn't even care he just answered "Yes" "Now let me tell you what I did on practice"
I want to talk to him because I miss him but there's no way contracting her anyways. I tried but he didn't even answer he just talks to a very few circles of people. What do I do /adv/?
Sexual Assault/Harassment/Abuse Support Thread
Discuss your experiences, your recovery, and help out fellow miners who have dealt with and/or are currently dealing with anything related to sexual abuse/assault.
How do you deal with being harassed online?
I've had this group of guys online harass me for the past FOUR years now and they won't stop. I even blocked their accounts on every online media possible but they either target my friends, add them to start shit talking me to them or spam their comment sections with memes or made up stories about me, or they even target random people that I might be interested in, like for example I'd post a random comment on someone's profile, few hours later when I check back in I see a comment from one of the guys either trying to befriend that said person or make some snarky remark about me.
It won't stop, they've even been posting my discord ID and other accounts on 4chan lately in boards dedicated to sex and made the comment that accompanied the post seem as degenerate as possible, saying how I was into furries or into getting fucked by dogs. It feels like they're just destroying any sort of reputation I might have around some of the people that would know me online, or even those who wouldn't know me might still here those made up stories and then think badly of me. They claim I deserve everything I get as well and that I should ''apologize'' for something I've done, but I've never done anything bad or wrong to them to begin with, only thing I can think of is this one time when I remove one of guys who was about 14 or so, because he started being super annoying, he added me back few days later after the remove though, I accepted but he started acting super edgy and aggressive to me so I just removed him again and blocked as well, few weeks after that it's when they all basically started spamming me with porn and harass me.
I mean I can just ignore them I guess but it still makes me feel like shit when I go anywhere and suddenly see some recent comment or post from them that mentions me in it.
Unhappy about racism
I am so depressed, like it's literally killing me inside, about all the alt-right propaganda, that dark-skinned races are inherently inferior and have smaller brains than Whites. I have heard so many hateful things being said about my country, it makes me so upset being a third-worlder and a "shitskin". I have been seeing a shrink, but psychiatric treatment is of very poor quality in my country, and all she did is gave me a couple of anti-depressants that don't work. How can I deal with this problem? It's literally ruining my life. My grades have sunk enormously and I've lost interest in anything positive. All I do is think about all this stuff all day.
How do I breakup with my boyfriend?
>LTR, 7 years
>never gets a job
>plays videogames all day
>doesn't give a shit about his health
>getting fat and smelly
>depends on his mom for everything
>very rude
>self victimizing all the time
>can't break up with him because he pulls the suicide card
>still love him deeply but more as a friend than as a boyfriend at this point
What do I do? Should I gather courage to breakup with him even if he threatens to kill himself?
I feel like he's waiting for me to do it so he has another reason to hate himself and say he wants to die.
I'm getting so tired of this. I just want to be with someone who can actually be with me and acts like a grown-up. He has been depressed for 2 years, I don't think I can deal with this anymore. He's constantly treating me like shit and gives me almost no attention unless I disappear/treat him badly. If I do that he suddenly starts whining saying I don't give him love and attention. I'm tired.
this is hard to type, i just feel so horrible, and this is going to be a long one
i am so tired of being so lonely
i can't take it, i want to have my first irl boyfriend or girlfriend, i want someone to hold me, i want to hug someone, i want something to look forward to when i wake up and leave for school, i want someone to make my life worth it, i want to have my first kiss, i want someone to do things with, i can't take this
i always thought when i started leaving my house for real (i was originally homeschooled, but begun going to school this year) i'd finally have friends and get a boyfriend, because i've hung around a lot of incels who drilled the "your problems and loneliness are invalid because youre a female and therefore your life is good and boys will go wild over you! youll have so many friends and become a slut!" idea into my head and so i waited, every single day i waited - i told myself when i went to school i'd finally make the friends i never had and get the boyfriend i never had and you know what? i didnt
i just had to watch people interact every day and disclude me from it, i am nothing - to them and in general. i tried my best but nobody is ever going to want me
i got some hope from a stupid happening - a random person with their group of friends i didn't know started approaching me, and one of them asked if i thought their friend was cute and told me he needed a girlfriend and they could give me his phone number. i felt like things were finally happening for me, the stuff i heard was finally being proven true, i would finally have someone to love and someone to love me back, i was just so overjoyed, i felt the hope i had forgotten
but i texted him and i just got ignored
the feeling of patheticness that shrouded me as i checked my phone again and again to no avail is like no other feeling
i don't understand why things are like this.. i don't want to be lonely anymore, i can't take it
Life keeps taking away my joys and accomplishments.
Anyone feel like life just gives you things only to take them away like some kind of sick divine punishment?
>almost find the perfect relationship, completely blow it
>work out and diet to achieve a body I'm proud of, only to get a hernia and have to stop.. losing years of progress
>get a career only to end up absolutely despising it
>make an absolute shit ton of money day trading, only to lose it all and then some like a fucking idiot
>move 1,200 miles away from home in an attempt to find myself and be independent, fail to make any meaningful connections whatsoever and go broke
You guys ever feel like it's getting harder and harder to wake up and try?
Venting thread
Venting thread because why not make one more
I'll start
I'm well aware of the fact that I am the equivalent of that one stinky bonfire your neighbor had in his back garden with his buddies last night.
I am well aware that I will end my days sooner than I should. I am well aware of the fact that I may or may not be a danger to myself. Everyday I stare at the wall and do nothing all day. I don't have anybody. I don't want to get help because they'll treat me as if I'm some sort of kicked dog or something. I don't want their attention and I don't want their pity. I have been keeping to myself for far too long but I still won't tell anybody I know in real life so I am here on some odd internet imageboard for ladies. I just need to leave some sort of mark somewhere on the internet, no matter how small, before I completely break down. I feel like I won't be on this filthy planet for much longer and the thought of that makes me happy. Ironically, it makes me feel somewhat alive.
I don't know what's going to happen but I needed to vent about what I have been feeling for the past few years. The voices or whatever the fuck they are won't listen to me. They always fucking mock me and I hate it but I know that what they are saying is true. I know that I am worth next to nothing. I'll make them stop, though. I'll make those fuckers stop even if I have to stop breathing to make them go silent for fucking eternity.
A bit long but I suppose it's a start. Hopefully I didn't scare any of you off.
>be me
>shut in type throughout tail end of middleschool and generally most all of highschool and now half way through college.
>i know it may sound sad, but as an isolationist i have developed personal hobbies and skills that allowed me to generate my own sense of purpose and happiness.
>last year, met someone on an online live streaming website. we shared a few things in common and had similar interests/ sense of humor.
>were on opposite side of the state but he would stay up in bed on the east coast talking to me on stream until it dark on the west coast where i lived. this went on for a year or so.
>shared images, compliments, experiences, etc…
>for the longest time i legitimately thought i was asexual, but i really enjoyed the attention i was getting.
>i feel the hows and whys aren't too important, but today i am back to just being by myself and my hobbies, and it feels like I'm suffering from withdrawal syndrome.
i know that before meeting him i had been able to feel satisfied, and accomplished within myself and my outlets that i enjoy, but now i have this void that i don't feel any amount of self improvement will fill. why do i feel this longing for external validation where once i had none and was perfectly fine?
what can i do to stop feeling like this and return to being satisfied in myself and my personal achievements?
Blease Helb
tfw your only friend is your 15 year old little brother.
Night Time Thread
Night is a blessing and a curse. The comfiest time and emptiest time. What are you doing awake? Enjoying the quiet? Regrets eating at you?
Please only post if it's night time for you. Night requires a special haven.
How do I bring up that i want to date?
There is a guy ive been talking to for more than 10month now and i want to finally meet him irl.
My problem is that i have no clue how to bring up the topic without it being awkward and i'm really scared that it might hurt our relationship.
It took months to make him join voip, even though we chat and play games on a daily basis, so i'm scared that asking for a date will shoo him away. (I'm >90% sure that it's not because he has a gf already since he's even more socially retarded than me)
Do any of you have a Stacy mom?
Madly in love with my BFF
We've known each other for about 9 years. When we met, we clicked right away, had the same niche interests, same awful childhood, similar mindsets but still different enough to help each other grow etc. We dated for about half a year only a few months into knowing each other but it didn't go well (we both agreed we were too immature and messed up at the time to pursue it) so we broke up but remained close friends anyway.
We still spent almost the entire day together and neither of us felt weird about it, we just enjoyed each others' presence. Eventually we grew apart a little and stopped doing things together or even talk as much, and that went further downhill when I got into an abusive relationship where I was forced to cut all contact with my friends. It was the dumbest thing I've ever done in my life. At the time I didn't know any better, I just wanted someone to love me, so I hesitantly went along with it.
Eventually other complications made me break up with that boyfriend. I had noone left so I did the only thing I could think of and that was getting on my knees and begging my ex-bff to forgive me. I learned a lot from that relationship, so I meant every word of it. I didn't expect much from it but his patience of a saint reluctantly accepted and we became friends again, though it was very strained at first. It also didn't help I had some psychological trauma from that abusive relationship, I wasn't like myself at all, but my bff stuck around and helped me get back on my feet, back to my old self.
This was about 2 years ago, and right now we're just like when we met each other. We spend all day together but we're a lot more mature, we have adult responsibilities now so obviously there's no 24/7 companionship anymore, but it's as close as possible.
So then I started developing really intense feelings for him, I feel like he's my soulmate, like we actually share a soul. I can't go 5 minutes without thinking about him, every thought I have involves him. I used to just talk to myself in my thoughts, but a few months ago I started noticing I now talk to my BFF in my thoughts instead.
A lot of these feelings are mutual I think, he has given me similar signals over time but since we're both nutjobs I can't really be certain about anything. All I know is we both love being with each other to death and care for each other more than anything in the world. If for whatever reason a romantic relationship isn't available despite of that, I don't really care, I just want him to always be a part of my life ever since I got out of my bad relationship, so I'm not going to avoid opening a can of worms that might destabilize our friendship. I'm blessed to have such an amazing person in my life and I feel like I can't ask for more than that.
I'd love to hear if anyone else has similar experiences? Not really as advice, just sharing feels.
I'm bisexual in a straight relationship. Things are good, I love him and I like male bodies. I just pains me that I also like tits and pussy and a the touch of another girl. I feel really guilty when I masturbate and think of girls. Are there any other bisexuals here that go through this?
Autism Spectrum Disorders
A support thread for people who are on or may be on the spectrum.
LDR general & feels
Let's talk about long distance relationships and share our current feels!
To get it started, here are a few questions to pick from:
>How long have you been dating? If you're single, since when have you had feelings for the other person?
>Did you meet IRL or online?
>How long did you know each other for before you started dating?
>Did you enter an official (between the two of you) romantic relationship before or after meeting IRL?
>How did you confess?
>If you met online, how was the first meeting?
>How far apart do you live?
>How often can you see each other?
>How do you communicate? (chatting, calling, video)
>How much or how often do you communicate?
>Can you recommend any apps or websites for LDR couples?
>How do you feel about your sex life when you're apart?
>Are you monogamous? Do you have exceptions?
>How happy are you in your current relationship?
>What are your plans for the future?
I can't really tell if my relationship has been doomed for a long time, or if it's dead or if it's actually doing well and I'm the problem here.
I don't have anyone to talk to. I managed to lock myslf in a really tight box. We live together, we work together, we do shopping and go cycling together. Sometimes we spend weeks never being further than 20 meters from each other. I have few good friends, mostly from work, but when we go out for drinks after work we're always together. I'm suffocating. I claim to love this man but I can't stand him anymore. All the little things annoy me. The way he talks. His jokes. His clothes. His habits. I feel like a fucking monster for having these thoughts.
I have noone to talk to. My friends from work are his friends and coworkers too. My only friend outside of work became his friend too over the years. Besides, he lives far away and traveling on my own to see him would be weird.
Lately we argue every single day. Always over dumb shit. We stopped making good memories. We either fight or are act like cooworkers/roommates. Breaking up comes up in these fights quite often.
We still have sex. Usually I initiate because deep down I'm scared that once we stop our relationship will start fading away.
Although it's been really bad for a long while part of me desperately wants to make it work. When it comes to all that big stuff, we're perfectly compatible. There's so much wrong with me, but he loves me despite it. I have a few weird dealbreakers and he's good with them. Who else would be? And he's a good person. Except one thing that happened year ago he never did anything bad to me. And besides working literally one meter from each other it's great to work in the same profession that I'm extremely passionate about
Ugh it would be so much easier if not these good sides. I'm rambling.
The thing is I really dont know what to do. Including this one I had three long term relationships. As shitty as it is, I wasn't properly single since I was sixteen. I'm 23 now. I never lived alone. I never threw a party on my own. It was always us , not me
I feel like I know what to do, but I dont know how. I'm scared that I have BPD and this is just a phase because in the matter of fact I actually swing between idealising and devaluating him. Although lately it kinda stays on the worse side. I'm afraid I'll never be alone because after 2+ years I always feel burned out. The person I'm the closest to usually becomes the one that I have most problems with.
Like happiness and peace of mind were never meant for me.
I'm scared of breaking up. I have so many useful things I got from him. My family loves him. His pretty much feels like a family to me. We work together. I'm afraid that after few days I'll regret it. Our relationship may be bad, but he's a genuinely good person. I'm so scared that one night I'll go to bed alone and suddenly realise how he was the one and only, but there will be no going back. I'm scared I'll never be as happe as I was with him in the past. But at the same time I feel like we won't be nearly as happy even if we stay together.
And I have noone to talk to. I'm pretty much falling apart now, today at work I seemed normal but I was as close tp breaking down as it gets. What do I do?
Cheating
Share your experiences.
Has your SO flirted with other people, had an emotional affair or have they done something physical? Do you suspect they might be cheating on you?
Tell us
- What are the warning signs?
- How did you find out?
- Have they tried to deny it?
- How did it end?
- Do you hate them?
- How did you get over it?
If you have cheated on someone, feel free to put your input in here.
If you need support, post here as well.
Why are some of you on here?
Some of you seem too socially adjusted i.e you have friends,boyfriends and people that love you. So do explain what brings you to here its not the most normal or mainstream site. Why not visit other sites like rddit or imgr.This image board is obviously counter-intuitive to being happy / normal. Some of you seem like genuinely nice and likeable people. Therefor, I can only suggest for you to leave this vitriolic place.
question for those who've been sexually abused
If you still live or did live for a long time after the abuse with your abuser and were forced to have a "normal" relationship with them, do/did you find yourself taking their criticism or gripes about you way worse than if anyone else did? I know, they're not worth my time worrying over their opinion of me, but it hurts me like nothing else when they insinuate I'm too stupid or easily overwhelmed to do x and I feel so worthless when they call me dense when I'm sure if someone else close to me called me that, I'd brush it off and see that they're just mad or not thinking clearly or joking or whatever.
I feel so helpless to stop feeling this way. I don't think the rest of my family gets it, either. They often just think I'm being overdramatic and they know what happened between us.
I feel so pathetic because the last time I was abused by this person was 9-11 years ago and I'm still snagged on them.
Anyway, it'd be great if some of you could give input, tell me how you stopped caring, or just shared your experience and make me feel less alone.
I hate porn.
I've been with a guy for two years, I love him and we are happy together, but I'm very close to his best friend as well, so close that I think I have romantic feelings for him and that makes me feel like shit but I'd be too sad if I stop being friends with him.
Should I stop talking to him, wait for the crush to go away (although it seems to get stronger) or something else?
>tfw you will never have a group of girls (no good equivalent to the word 'guys') to sit around and shoot the shit with
>tfw you sit at the bar alone drinking beer after beer hoping for another lone woman to enter
>tfw all of your female friends have husbands and barely have time to hang out with you without them
>tfw none of your 'friends' (male) understand you at all
im reaching my breaking point.
Do any of you have an especially active or popular internet alter ego?
I'm sure everyone here separates their internet and real life to an extent, but do any of you take it a step further and have a completely anonymous pseudonym that you are particularly active with in a certain community or produce work under?
I created a handle for putting out some creative work I didn't want tied to my real name, and it's been great in that regard but privacy is a big enough concern (had issues with rude and nosy coworkers in the past) that I keep my identity airtight. Only my partner knows of it, and I do not disclose any personal details to people I befriend under this name, and I don't interact with anyone I know in real life on this account and vice versa. It's kinda lonely because I'd love to be closer friends with some of these people but I can tell me being secretive puts some distance between us (I don't blame them of course), and on the flip side sometimes a post would do well on either my professional account or my anonymous account but I'll feel like it's 'wasted' on my anonymous account (because it might get my positive professional attention) yet I feel like it would get more attention overall on my fake account at this point and also help me keep the account active and engaging since I try to post 1-2 times a week.
I also have enough of a following now that I am getting paid requests and am thinking of opening a ko-fi account but I worry about people somehow finding out my real name though those accounts somehow.
Have any of you done this and do you have any advice on dealing with these issues?
Envy
I'm jealous at everything. Despite knowing that I have it nice and wouldn't want to trade.
I sacrificed everything when starting my family. I was aware of it and decided to, but I was so far on top. And now I'm on the bottom end of the month I literally scrape by with zero money.
And then I'm here, currently sitting in "uptown", a town adjacent to our city where all the rich and well-off people live. Especially families. Everything here is so fucking nice and peaceful. Of course living here is more expensive than in the city itself. I mean, I live in the city (reason #1 to not complain about anything), but in the industry area where also salafism is on the rise. The part where no one wants to live. And our friends, also a stay at home mom, live here and while they are looking for something new to live and complain about everything being expensive, they also go "No, I don't want to live in another town ^^".
Then all the people who can apparently afford shelling out tens of thousands of Euros for a new nice luxurious car. It's literally the least priority to have a car better than those crabby old boxes to get around. But apparently they earn so much that they just go "why not"?
Also, malls. "Boutiques". Stores where clothing cost easily ten times as much as they are worth. And people strolling through them with the money just oozing out of their pockets, on a March to glorify capitalism. Not only that, completely superfluous consumerism in a building as large as a little town built with finest material so everyone can feel like Croesus while blowing money out of the window.
I'm aware it's about the vainest thing in existence and still I'm so jealous, and it makes me the worst person ever. I have wonderful kids and yet I'm bitter that I don't get to waddle through shiny malls with the intention to buy nice things.
Then my husband, I chose him because of his virtues, and that means that he doesn't follow the religion substitute of amassing wealth. And now I sit here, bitter that he doesn't earn as much as other men, would never even try, but even if, it would be futile.
Then I see my friend on the social media who went down the other path. She's now so famous that billboards with her face are being produced. (Of course, she suffers because she's lonely. But still.)
I crave for a job, any job, even the shitty telecommunication installation guy had a job I envied him for. I'm a technician at heart and housewife is nothing like that.
I am envious of people going out. I would love to sing and dance and get smashed. I'm also jealous at those who still get to flirt and date. My relationship is substantial, but it just feels like another chore.
I'm jealous at everyone who can follow their dreams. But I must rationally reject that as "fleeting entertainment that won't matter in the end." I know all this and still I'm bitter.
And then the fucking Parenthood bloggers. "I make a living by blogging!" Yeah that's why you absolutely have to advertise a bank's funds investment plan as a necessity for Parenthood. And thousands of mother's read your shitty """blog""" that is nothing else but a 24/7 advertising platform because she has ~one kid~ at the age of what? 3? and thus apparently is an expert in the field of parenting. Meanwhile I blog about my life and goals that, sorry for boasting, are actually ambitious, unique and interesting, and I have lousy 100 followers (half of which are the obligatory friend followers) because I spend my day actually living that life and not optimizing my social media presence.
Everything is full of lies, they pretend to look for truth but won't give a fuck at you if you don't also become full of lies, they literally bow down to false idols and make their lives about who serves them most, and I know all this and STILL fall for it.
Why is life so shit.
A boy told me he loves me today and I said I love him too. We've been together for a couple months.
We're inexperienced but willing to try to be together and make it work.
Can anons in LTRs tell me how to have a long and healthy relationship?
New Venturu Threadu
Old thread: >>>/feels/5889
Old thread reached cap and I need to cry
>Finally decide to go see a therapist
>It's a man
>And he's super cute
>Always really nice to me, feel like he's really helping
>He always acts nervous around me
>Starting to fall in love with him
FUCK. What do I do?
Meta on venting/age play
I hate being me.
I'm a gigantic crying child in a mid 20s body.
Whenever I express to someone that I'm in pain I don't actually want a solution or instructions, I just want someone to say "you poor thing life has been unkind to you".
While locked in the psychward the most helpful part was when one of the staff there was noticeably affected by what I told her. I think before being handed "tools and resources in order to function" I just wanted to lay my head on someone's lap and cry while getting smothered in love. I am always craving this treatment and it's all I ever wanted out of /feels/, I haven't even bothered to make an effort for another person here.
Objectively I know I am a strong person for being alive despite everything that has happened. In fiction a person who has endured a lot is usually emotionally rugged and capable of being unphased by things, yet I'm this petty and hyper sensitive person still. A psychologist told me I have an "emotional deficit" and that because of neglect(physical and verbal) and abuse I will have this empty well in my chest that can't hold any water, and that I'm forever going to constantly crave affection and tenderness but won't be able hold it permanently like a normal person because of my childhood. She told me I'm prime bait for an abusive person that could easily manipulate that. She was very blunt and told me it isn't fixable and that the only things to do are 1) Be very careful of who I date 2) Warn the person I date and find someone who might accommodate this defective behavior, 3) deal with it.
When I had my very codependent ex still, he'd baby me and allow me to behave like a 6 to 8 year old in a casual ongoing (non sexual)roleplaying thing we did in private. I used to feel embarrassed about doing this until recently when a miner mentioned doing the same thing and how she said it was common in people who've been molested. I miss that so much.
Every part of my instinct wants to fall down and have people pity me. I want parents that love me and call me and touch me and tell me they miss me. I crave affection, attention and love most days. It has been like this my entire adult life and the only difference between me at 25 and me at 19 is that I have reduced it.
None of it is helpful and I really wish I could be like a stoic and emotionally resilient character rather than this eternally needy helpless baby.
I am so sick of men
I am SO sick of men. I'm not particularly a feminist or anything but they can be SO selfish. I have my male friends and some of them I care about deeply, but even they can be REALLY insensitive sometimes and all my guys on the internet have some obsession with making anti-woman "jokes" all the time (usually later I find out they're rarely even jokes, cuz they're usually hiding some obvious bitterness towards women) and they won't stop even though they know it hurts my feelings. They're so disrespectful they can't even not make a 'woman beating' joke when I'm trying to relay a story about how some woman in church was telling me about their experience being abused by their husband for 11 years, they think everything is theirs, for example demanding that they can be misogynistic on my discord, with excuses like 'free speech'even though that makes no sense and I just am trying to create a healthy space for me and my female friends.
They're so damn entitled. Can we have a vent thread on times men have been complete dicks to us?
My Bird Died.
>had to put one of my pet parrots down yesterday
I came home to find one of my birds badly injured. Him and 3 others have free roam of the livingroom most of the day, and I found him on the floor and immediately rushed him to an ER vet. Who refused to take him because their avian expert wasnt in. Which lead to a wild goose chase that took us on a 2hr drive, all with the poor little guy hanging on to life. Got there only to be told that his injuries were too extensive to fix, and that the best option is to put him down. They let me see him one last time, and I told him how much everyone loves him and how sorry I am that my carelessness got us here.
got home at 5am yesterday morning and I've been chasing a good nights sleep since.
I keep seeing his empty cage. I miss him so much. Im so sorry Jacob. Everything went so wrong.
Self Appreciation General
Seeing a lot of threads floating around that are centred on negative /feels/, how about one for expressing a lil' bit of a self love?
What are some accomplishments you're most proud of? What do you really like about yourself as a person? What are some of your best qualities? Do you envision a positive, successful future for yourself? etc.
Feel free to brag all you want ITT.
Changing your life
Anybody else wishes to have a fresh start?
While I was always very shy, I still had at least some friends in kindergarten and primary school.
Getting an ed when I was 13 ruined my life. I always felt inferior to other girls, my body was all I ever cared about. Over the years the number of my friends shrunk more and more, I started to become the "weird" one. I missed out on so many things because of it. While the other girls were busy dressing up, having fun and going out, I was even wearing sweatshirts during summer to hide my "disgusting fat". Later I fled to the internet, got interested in unusual things (kpop and vkei), meaning I spend even more time in my own world - on the internet.
Now I'm starting my 4th year of uni, I gained 70lbs, have close to zero friends and major social anxiety.
I just wish I could be like any other normal girl as well. Waking up without feeling miserable, having the energy to do a skin care and makeup routine (without being obsessive over it), eating something healthy, being confident enough to put on cute clothes and then go meet up with my friends. I don't want to be super popular, just have some girls to talk to, sometimes go out to eat or the cinema, etc. I'd love to overcome my weebness or at least also have interest in other, more normal stuff, so that I could talk about it openly without having to fear judgement(also, getting over the fact that I'm white and will never look like some asian waifu). I want to be able to enjoy food and exercise regularly without getting obsessive over it. I don't want to cry and panic every time exams are coming up, I just want to be more carefree and don't overthink every single little shit. I feel like I never really go to be a young person, simply doing stupid things, I was always already stuck up, acting much more mature - and that's why I don't fit in with others (not that I'm not trying to, I'm just always somehow perceived as unpleasant).
Yesterday I got so desperate about losing weight that I started browsing pro-ana sites again, that's how dumb I am. I tried starting a diet (of course I failed again and binged in the evening), but while I was sitting there and studying I thought to myself 'What if I succeed in losing weight and being disciplined enough to study? In the end I'll just be a skinny person who studies all day long, alone in her room, that's all that there is to my life.'
That one guy who called my calves "manly" which caused my ed and my addiction to the internet destroyed my life. In one week I'm already turning 23 (let's see if anybody of my friends remembers it and texts me), meanwhile I'm still sitting here like a slob, no hygiene, no sleep, with food being my only happiness.
Thoughts? Advice?
Is anyone else here a caregiver for an adult with dementia or other loved one with special needs? It's hard watching my grandma decline, she is imagining false memories of things that didn't happen, confuses memories of things that happened to her grandchildren with her own children and vice versa, and recently and more seriously is becoming irresponsible with her money handling. Not to mention there are the physical changes of becoming unable to do daily tasks like bathe and toilet yourself unassisted. I have work experience caring for adults with disabilities but it's much harder to watch your own family members experience these changes when you remember what they used to be like.
(Sort of unrelated but I really wish the cg/l community did not use the term caregiver, it makes it harder to find support for actual caregivers on social media.)
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You know the drill
Image source: https://kittenwitchandthebadvibes.tumblr.com/post/168272427901/kittenwitchandthebadvibes-counting-your
You walk into a room and see these guys. What do you do?
Seriously though, are you a nervous/awkward person?
Does anyone sometimes feel ashamed of being a woman?
Hear me out. Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of aspects of femininity that I love. How we have the potential to be intelligent, elegant, nurturing, caring, empathetic, devoted… But on the flip side, I feel like most women's sexuality is disgusting in a way and holds them back. Seeing how many women engage in casual sex in order to feel loved, whore themselves out for money, actively do porn, etc. In relationships a lot of women want to be treated roughly, be degraded, or controlled. They stay in relationships that could be called abusive because of their desire to please and be used. So many women use their sexuality in an negative and damaging way. As a result they bring children into this world that can't be properly taken care of. Almost 50% of children are being raised by single mothers. Because they are getting worse and worse at picking good life partners.
It makes me feel deep shame as I believe that we should respect our bodies but a lot of women just don't. They starve themselves in order to become thinner, buy expensive makeup to hide their imperfections, believe they have to degrade themselves in order for men to love them, take BC that ruins their body, and in general don't even love themselves. Of course these people are the worst examples, but I feel like it's becoming a very common thing.
Sorry if this sounds misogynist, that is not the intention.
is this normal
is this normal
Idk what to do..
My girlfriend got really drunk, and relapsed into cutting. I don't really know what to do because i have a hard time talking about stuff like that since i also used to cut.
Also i have some problems with dissociation and depression and am afraid that if i talk
to her about mental problems i would just end up making her more depressed.
I'm really REALLY introverted and shy so i would be thankful for any advice on how to
approach her without making it worse.
I feel like there is something inherently wrong with me
I hate people who are dramatic and embellish stories, I hate people who don't speak their feelings honestly or who give false opinions to make people happy.
This all sounds normal, but it gets me into fights with people I love and they end up leaving me. I feel as though my lifetime of therapy had ruined my understanding of other people's feelings and thought process.
People don't think I'm being honest sometimes because I point blank tell people how I'm feeling or what I need in a situation, and that is apparently rare
I'm tired of feeling like a robotic outsider. I'm tired of feeling alone.
I am confused help
Right, /feels/… I need a bit of advice.
So, I have met this german guy a few months ago and we became good friends. We would mainly mess around on twitter and talk about personal stuff from time to time (nothing sexual).
One night, we started playing some text games and sharing random images we found on the internet. It was getting pretty late so we decided to call it a night and chat some more tomorrow (yes, he did say ''See ya tomorrow'').
Thing is, I have been messaging him for a few days and no answer. I decided to send him a message saying that I'm not going to message him because I don't want to flood him and that he should ask for memes when he comes back or something. It has been 1 month now and he hasn't sent anything. I did stop the messages as I promised.
What do? This guy is actually a decent human being and I don't want to lose him or anything like that.
P.S: Yes, I am quite new to this sort of stuff since I tend to just focus on my studies (engineering sucks the life out of you). I don't want romantic shenanigans with him but it does feel quite nasty.
What’s the biggest age gap you’re willing to have in a relationship? Would you have different age gap standards purely sexually speaking? What is your actual experience with age gap relationships/sex? Have you gone cougar?
Personally it used to be the older the better for me (as long as they didn’t look like grandpas, just handsome older men). However, as I get older younger guys (younger than me) seem more and more appealing. I’m probably being brainwashed by old lingering bishounen fantasies and how every older famous woman now only seems to date super young men.
Sexual assault survivor support r thread.
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What do you feel about guys who are friends or close with only girls? Should they be trusted? Is there something weird going on?
I'm dating someone who's friends are literally just all girls and I don't know what to feel about it.
I've literally never met a guy like that so I don't know what to expect.
I'm trying not to be crazy about it, and he's a good guy but I just don't get it.
Literally he only only gets along with girls. He's been roommates with three girls the past few years and would often hangout with other girls alone too.
Pretending to love your parents for money
This has been torturing me for a while. My father used to beat me through my childhood but stopped when I called the police who along with my mother didn't believe me. Now I'm 18 constantly depressed (the meds haven't helped) and I desperately want to move out and never talk to neither of them again. But the problem is that realistically I can't, they're wealthy people and I'm a sad girl with nowhere to go, no one to turn on to and whose only plan is camgirling. Realisticly I have to keep pretending that I love my mother atleast but it's killing me inside
How can I tell if I’m being used as a practice gf?
My husband just threw a fit because I have booked a vacation for 700€ for 7 nights full board vacation at pic relatedfor two adults and four kids. He thinks it is way too expensive and the people we're going with are ripping us off, and despite of then having created a full program with paid for(!) trips and attractions in that beautifully ass landscape, while maintaining that everything is optional and they take care of the kids most of the time, he lashes out at them, calling them stupid, boring and a pain in the ass while insisting I'm naive for believing them (???).
I wonder how one single person can be so far removed from reality.
Feels/Vent Dump, looking for comfort advice. Just anything.
> be me
> join a gaming community because i lost my main friend group, still hurt i find a streamer community.
> meet this cool chick
> over time she starts obsessing over a mod that i became acquainted to, he’s 18 at the time. she’s 25.
> me being the 16 year old i am, i didn’t notice.
> just tried to make her happy, nothing works. unsurprisingly.
> over time she starts to make more “friends” i can’t make any due to trust issues and such.
> i meet an old friend of the moderator i was aquatinted to. he was the dose of reality i needed.
> i cut her off, she goes to anyone i once talked to and destroyed my reputation. i once again have nothing.
> i out of a frenzy move into a community my friend owns. just to get away from her, she follows me and im just scared now.
> i find /r9k/ but never posted there since i felt like i didn’t belong there since a lot of people don’t like women there from what i noticed.
> i try to stay comfortable there at this point since at this point i have only two friends, the moderator and his old friend.
> over time im so worn out and i hurt, every day it gets worse. i cry myself to sleep on the daily. i just want to be liked.
> i confess to my friend, he keeps it on vague territory. he and i are now a “thing”
> i just feel bad, he’s been there for me but i feel like that he’s feels obligated to stay now. i don’t want to lose him because after that i truly will be alone.
> it’s 2018 now, ive recently turned 18. things are fine. if only.
> i have breakdowns constantly now.
> i hurt.
> i just want to curl up and die.
> someone please help me before i do anything too drastic, i don’t know where else to go.
Burning bridges
Have you ever removed someone from your life instantly and permanently? I don't like confrontation and prefer to let friendships fizzle out instead of causing a stink, so when I do cut someone off, it's a big deal to me. Share your stories?
face hate vent
I just got a haircut this afternoon (no drastic change) and of course took a bunch of selfies when I got home to see how it looked, send to friend, etc.
I have a really weird face and looking at the selfies started to upset me. All my features are huge – I like my big eyes and big mouth but I hate my big hook nose and big forehead. My eyelids are asymmetrical and I have really dark circles under my eyes. I'm embarrassed to think people look at me everyday. I don't think I can ever afford plastic surgery for my nose, and it feels like a waste of money anyway.
What do you hate about your face? How can I not hate my weird face?
>pic related and also lol pepperoni eyes
How do you guys talk with your partner's about sex stuff?
I have had both good and bad experiences. Right now I have just started hanging out with a new guy. We haven't had sex yet but he has definately wanted to and so have I.
I am going to ask him out for a coffee and ask about sexual health (getting tested), tell him I have had bad experiences in the bad (I won't say more than that but simply that I need my word respected or it's bye bye) and lies of omission. I have had a hard time with guys because I read a lot of pick up blogs in the past and honestly it scared me away because it makes it seem like guys are expected to be psychopaths.
Has anyone else had a time where they have tried to talk about sex health and been treated badly? All I can think about is a teenage guy I dated and how he asked if I thought he had disease when I asked about getting tested. We stopped hanging out after that and it was the shittiest feeling ever. I just want to not expect that when it is my feeling. People can have their shit together on the outside but be super sexually messed up.
I lost my best friend, [Redacted], who I thought of a sister. I’d die for her. I’d even burn in hell for her. Knowing she’s borderline and she’s a pathological liar. We made an oath to each other never to abandon each other. I’m dead to her now. The last words she told me were “enjoy burning in hell”. It hurts so fucking much.
The reason she hates me is because she hates the discord for this board and I stayed on it after she left.
I want to die.
Lesbian Feels
Discuss the difficulties and joys of being lesbian, whether it's related to your partner or how you're treated by society. Share your stories of when you realized you were lesbian, too!
embarrassment thread
share embarrassing stories & pictures here.
Did you do something embarrassing? Did another person give you secondhand embarrassment?
Grossed out by babby Thread
M'ladies,
Am I the only one thoroughly grossed out by the whole concept of motherhood, babies and especially pregnancy?
It makes me so very uncomfortable when my colleagues talk about their pregnancy and giving birth and stuff like that. Especially when they ask me when I want to become a mother (spoiler alert: This is SO not going to happen).
I also can't appreciate babies. At all. I think they look hella dumb. I hate it when people make me hold them and I have to put on that soul-splitting fake smile.
At this point I'm wondering whether I'm going down the 'genderfucked' road or having serious mommy issues…
>tfw no bf
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Awkward moments
Embarrassed yourself again? Let it out.
Is it true that girls make the best puppet masters? Are they more manipulative than men or is it just a myth spread by incels?
Have you ever split up with a friend or abandoned one? Or maybe you've been on the receiving end?
I abandoned 2 earlier this year. They were a a couple actually, as a sidenote I don't ever think I'll befriend a friend's SO ever again.
I sometimes wondered if it was the right choice, the possibility of it being the wrong choice scared the shit out of me. But right after it happened I wrote 20 pages on what exactly bothered me when before it was a jumbled mess that started brewing years prior, going over those pages I feel more confident in it being the right choice. When I wasn't working it felt like all I could do was cry and write about those two.
Recently all of my anger and sadness regarding my history with them has subsided. I more and more feel worried about how they might be doing instead of any negative emotions directed at them. I originally justified my choice, directly to my friend, by telling her how much she has in life but now feel scared what might have happened to her anyway. I wouldnt be friends again even if it was possible but I wish to know if those two are okay. I'd want to apologise because I really do feel a lot of sorrow about it even if it couldnt be another way.
If you've left someone or been left, how do you feel towards them now?
What did she mean by this
This is to vent and also to ask for advice:
I’ve had this one friend A since high school. Since I met her I thought she was very attractive and most guys also seem to find her attractive. We always got along well, we operate on a similar wavelength and I think we get eachother on some level. This made me slightly obsessed with her and have to try my absolute best not to beta orbit her. We were never best best friends but we were pretty close among our friend group.
ANYWAY
Fast forward 4 years, we maybe hang out once every 6 months for the last couple years. She invites me and our other friend to go to the bars/clubs downtown. Both of us have boyfriends by now. We go to one very crowded club and she’s getting hit on by a dude while we’re all together. He’s not hot but he’s not ugly either, imo. B U T instead of rejecting him and telling him she has a boyfriend or saying she isn’t interested, she says that I’m her girlfriend. And then she says to kiss to prove she’s gay. Me, very drunk at this point, gets way too into it. It was so hot but I’m still embarrassed. Anyways everyone goes oooo and then we talk a bit more with people there and then leave. She acts pretty normal around me aftert, but drops me off last and gives me the option to stay at her house which I refused bc I was still embarrassed and didn’t want to take her invitation the wrong way and also I have a fuckin boyfriend.
WHY would she say we’re gay?
Is she teasing me? Does she want me to eat her pussy? Was she just trying to make a show in front of the lads? Or is she that dumb that she thinks it would deter thirsty dudes? Was she trying to sleep with me or did she invite me over because I was drunk?
Should I ask her about it? I don’t want to bring it up if it was nothing
Family Feels
I thought it'd be nice to have a thread specifically related to family feels, whether they be good or bad.
I met my boyfriend of a year of a half via 4chan (as one does.) He is a perfect angel in every way, he treats me like a princess, etc. The only thing that keeps me up at night is that he used to trip and post lolicon stuff and I've seen his old messages where he basically admits to being a pedophile..
I get that people change and I have faith in him and I've spoken to him about this time and time again but there's always a little bit of doubt in my brain about if he's still…like that. I act kind of childlike and I guess I look like a teenager because of that due to being autistic. I know he doesn't like me just for sex though but it fucking keeps me up at night anons. wtf do i do do i just sit with this forever…"but mom I love him!!"
>tell guy to be nice after he says something nasty to a friend of mine
>GIRLS LIKE DOUCHEBAGS STOP BITCHING FEMINAZI GET BACK IN THE KITCHEN
God there's so much to unpack here
Does anyone else get sad when they see beautiful men? It's just a reminder of being unattractive because no good looking men have ever wanted me. Is there a way to cure this negative thinking?
I'm aware this sounds narcissistic, but I'm sure I'm not the only one here.
Oh well. I feel like I have this burden on my chest that I should just get rid off really quickly. Since I don't know any females I figured out this would be a good place to vent out because I think it's my responsibility to say or express my feelings towards women collectively for some reason. It's just this deep regret inside of me. And I'll stay in a psych ward for the next year as of tomorrow so this is my only chance I guess.
I don't think I've hurt any of you physically or emotionally really. I mean I don't even know any girls irl or online personally. Maybe you've seen my misogynistic rants online here and there but even if you were hurt, it wasn't directly tbh.
I think I've always been misogynistic. It started with my mom abusing me, continued with me getting rejected multiple times, women being better than me at anything that I do. I mean it seemed to me as if it was unacceptable when women did something better than me until very recently. I saw you as lesser beings with really shallow emotional grasp of certain things, less physical abilities and all that. You weren't really human to me. It felt like your minds, unlike males' were programmed and depended on a weird algorithm that I would never be able to figure out. And I had these weird fantasies where I would just figure all about how your minds work and fucking pull you onto my lap with mindgames and shit like that. Then I found this site and became obsessed with you. Because despite most of you having similar interests with the males on r9k or somewhere along the lines you actually felt "emotionally consistent" and less bipolar. I had fun reading all your posts and actually related to you (didn't post if it makes you feel comfortable because I felt like you would notice how a male would sound like). And all this time I blamed you for everything that went wrong with my life, drugs, fucked up mental health, and it was basically for nothing. It was just me being a retard blaming others for my shortcomings. I think all men at the core are obsessed with what women really think, how they think. We just want to figure out how female mind really works. And I guess an insight into your minds really helped me to become a better version of myself for the last couple months imo (don't get me wrong I still have some quasi misogynistic view of how females act on certain things). So I both wanted to thank you and say sorry. And also sorry for ruining your le secret club. You can blame my therapist for giving me the ideo of venting here.
You can ban me now
Self love
How do you learn to love yourself and improve your self esteem?
Like lots of you I spent my whole life hating myself, but it's counter productive and I want to work on it. What do?
How do I into dating?
So I was reading through some of the posts here, and while I previously thought I was prepared for a relationship, I'm now somewhat terrified at the prospect, and after thinking about it for a while, I realized that I have a ton of questions that I hadn't even considered before. I posted a bit in another thread, but I decided I'd make a separate one, since I don't want to risk derailing the original. Here are my previous posts, so that I don't have to waste any of the site's space by repeating them.
>>9131
>>9143
I'll try to break my thoughts down into bullet points, so that people can respond to each individual question/concern with their input on the matter.
• Most importantly, how do I stay safe when dating?
I've been pretty sheltered for most of my life, and I really don't have all too much experience with this, so I'm pretty clueless in this area. I mean, I know to always tell people where I'm going and to regularly check in with them, but beyond that, I'm basically drawing a blank.
• How do I tell whether someone is a good (good in this case meaning someone with whom I could have a healthy, non-abusive relationship) guy or not?
Again, I really only know the super obvious stuff, like avoid people with anger issues, a history of bad relationships, etc.
• What steps should I take in order to best avoid being led on, and thinking that he's interested in a genuine, long-term, meaningful relationship, when he's really just looking to hook up and will say whatever he thinks I want to hear to make that happen?
I don't plan on being "easy" and dropping my pants for the first guy that asks the second that he asks, but I don't consider myself prudish, either. I'm not interested in one-night stands (at all), but at the same time, I feel no obligation to """save myself for marriage""" (eugh, even typing that out disgusts me - it honestly feels more objectifying than someone openly admitting to just wanting me for sex). If I care for the person, and if he cares for me (looking to you guys for help here in determining whether or not this is genuine), then so long as we're exclusive and have been together for a while, I'm comfortable with sex. (At least, I think I am. The last time I was in a relationship was in high school, so I have no idea how "real" relationships function at all, let alone the "proper" timelines for them.)
• Is online dating a meme?
I feel like most of the people there wouldn't really be right for me. I don't say that to try to imply that I'm above online dating or anything, not at all. It's more like, the kind of guys who are interested in the same internet culture as I am don't seem like the type to use those sites, and so I'd either have to find them on 4chan (lmao, good luck me), or else randomly out in public, by total happenstance, with no real way to control it. Of course, that's not the only trait I'm searching for in potential boyfriends. It's just that I've been on chans, and other similar sites, since I was a preteen. It's warped my sense of humor, and even personality somewhat, to the point that I feel like I'd scare off anyone who hadn't experienced the same thing.
• Aside from online dating, what's the best way to snag myself a qt?
I'd assume college/university is the best bet out there, but I'm not currently attending it. However, I'll be going back pretty soon, so that's something for me to look forward to!
• I'm on bc, but I'd still make any potential future partners wear a condom at first, even though we'd be exclusive. When does cc usually feel comfortable enough to no longer need that?
I have a latex allergy (lucky me, I know), so I have that to worry about. And God forbid I accidentally forget to mention this. That is not something that I want to have to deal with, so I'm wary of condoms in general (but I'm more wary of STDs/STIs). What are your recommendations on this subject overall?
• Personality is extremely important to me, but let's not kid ourselves. His looks are important, too. How do I find the right balance between these? Or will all of that fade into the background the instant that I experience True Love™ and find The One®?
I thought I'd experienced love in high school, and maybe I did. But I have a feeling that it's vastly different from the kind of love that I'd be able to find now.
• At what point do you feel comfortable/should I feel comfortable going to a guy's house alone?
I'd obviously let people know what I was doing and where I was going, as well as check in regularly, but - being as sheltered as I am - the idea is still pretty daunting. I've never actually done it before.
• What's the deal with circumcised vs uncircumcised penises?
I know the physical differences - I'm not that sheltered - but not much more than that. Pretty much everywhere I go online, or every person I talk to, has a vastly different opinion from the last one, and they all seem pretty solidified in their beliefs, quite sure that they are the ones who are correct. If I think about it, this kind of makes me think that it's really no big deal at all, and that people are just being weird and paranoid about anything having to do with sex, as is often the case. But if I'm way off the mark here, then I'd certainly appreciate being corrected.
• Does dressing up to try to catch someone's attention work?
I wasn't all too popular in high school (but I did date, as mentioned before, so I wasn't an outcast, either), so I never really dealt with this. But if there's a place where I know I'll run into someone I have a crush on, is this something that could actually work? And yeah, yeah, I know I'm supposed to be comfortable with approaching guys and making the first move or whatever, but that's scary! If I can get away with having him initiate, then you can be damn well sure that I'll jump on that opportunity. I'm not one to look a gift horse in the mouth, after all.
• I've been seeing a lot of guys say that they prefer "natural beauty" and thus dislike, or see no need for, makeup. Is this just something that ~Nice Guys~ say to try to garner favor, or is it actually a real thing?
I've got minimal experience with it (by this point, you're probably beginning to get a decent idea of what kind of person I was in high school), but I'm not really against it. I don't have strong feelings either way, really, but if I can just stick to moisturizers and that kind of thing to keep my face looking nice without having to bother with the ever-changing makeup landscape, then you certainly wouldn't hear any complaints from me.
• The answer to my question probably varies from guy to guy, but I'll still ask it. I need glasses. Do those tend to look good, or should I go with contacts?
I've tried both in the past, and each has its own pros and cons, so I understand if there isn't really a definitive answer to this one, but I figured I'd ask anyway.
• If I'm dating someone who isn't familiar with chan culture, do I need to hide my power-level?
We all know that it's best to be honest in a relationship (otherwise what's the point?), so I don't mean, "Should I be purposefully deceptive about my personality?" It's more along the lines of wondering how to slowly introduce him to that side of me, I guess. Because, if I'm looking for anything long-term, then I'm going to want a partner who loves me for me, even my weird internet hobbies.
• What's too distant, aloof, or "hard to get", what's too clingy, and where's the sweet spot in the middle of them?
I'm a pretty solitary person, and I'm comfortable being alone (not lonely, but alone for a time). However, I am also a romantic (to a somewhat embarrassing degree, if I'm being completely honest). So I could certainly see myself going too far on either side of the spectrum, and that's not something that I want to have happen.
• Is it rude to expect my date to pay for things when we go out?
Once in a solid relationship, things get easier, since you kind of share everything, but going out on the first dates presents a small issue. Since it's [the current year], a decent number of people expect to go Dutch, and I have absolutely no issue with paying for my portion of things! But there are some guys who might feel like I'm purposefully belittling them or possibly trying to "shit-test" them as the (awful, but almost to the point of hilarity) PUAs or whatever put it, and I don't want to cause my date any distress. Should I offer to pay, and then see where it goes from there? If he declines, do I insist, or do I let him pay, or what? God, why are these things so complicated?
• Sort of a different type of question, but could any of you recommend cute date ideas?
Hopefully nothing too cliché, though. I know all of the usual ones from books, movies, TV shows, and my small bit of experience in HS - that type of thing - but it can't hurt to have more input and try to diversify things!
• It might not be possible for anyone to give me an answer to this question, and it's pretty embarrassing to type out, but how do I know if I'm a good kisser?
I was the first kiss for each of the few people I dated in HS, and so while they told me that I am, it's not exactly like they're experts on the subject, you know? And this doesn't even include anything more sexual than that. I also have no idea what I'm doing in that regard, but apparently it's cute or a good bonding experience to practice this kind of thing with your partner? At least, that's what I've read. But kissing is different, I feel, because it's so far removed from sex, and it's done way more often (at least most of the time, hah), so I feel like it's more important that I'm good at kissing, or at the very least not terrible at it.
• Uhm, what questions have I forgotten to ask, and could you please go ahead and answer them for me?
That's all I can think of for now. I know it's a lot, but this has been a long time coming for me, and so I really want to make sure that I'm successful when I try to put myself out there.
Please feel free to add any questions that you'd like to have answered by the nice people who will hopefully keep me from making a fool of myself! There's already a >tfw no bf thread, but this one can function as more of a dating advice-specific thread.
False Rape Accusation
I was recently summoned to a hearing with the police, seems my ex-gf has accused me of several counts of rape and assault.
Now considering I'm innocent and she knows this. I want to understand why she would do this, what do you guys think? Asking for a female perspective since I can only guess at reasons.
Anyone ever just feel the need to be fucking NORMAL for once?
idek how else to describe this but every time i tell it to my bf he just doesn't get it and idk who else to talk to this about. but like. my mom and my sister are both "normal" women, they both care about fashion, their appearance, etc, they shave everything, wear fashionable clothes, wear makeup, do lots of skin care and buy lots of products for it, paint their nails, have long and elaborate beauty and skin/hair care routines. I'm completely unshaven, happier to make a basic outfit with the clothes I have rather than buy new ones, never wear makeup except for special occasions, etc. I don't like to focus a lot on appearance or anything. but sometimes i feel like people would like me better if i did, and i wish I could just make myself care about that. sometimes i really feel like my presence is so irritating to others and I don't know anyone else irl who shares these beliefs (women don't need to shave, women don't need to wear makeup, women don't need to care about their appearance), or if I do they're not vocal about it.
the other thing is like, motherhood. i have all these concerns and stuff, despite wanting a family, like getting stuck with all the childcare and housework and stuff somehow despite talking with my bf about how i'd like to avoid this and him agreeing with me. and pregnancy. i have so many friends now that say they are happy just being housewives and it makes me so sad.
i've always had this strong feeling of living in an age of liberated women but i look around me and all i see are women """"""freely choosing"""""" to do… exactly what men/society/media/patriarchy/whatever tells them they should want, and wants them to want. and it seems awful convenient to me, and so i thought i could at least live by that myself, but… god, it's lonely. sometimes i wonder if i would be happier to just stop caring about this and be a normal girl. the only downside i can think of is that my bf seems to like that i am "low maintenance" (doesn't take me long to get ready, i don't fuss over something messing up my hair/ non-existent makeup, etc). but sometimes i wonder if even he would like me better if i was more of a "girl" so to speak. anyone else feel this way or is it just me again?
BPD GF
>be me
>18
>meet girl
>date her
>first few months are amazing
>she becomes increasingly aggressive and her moods start switching, one miniute she loves me unconditionally and the next she absolutely fucking despises me
>lashes out at me whenever i repeat myself
>becomes depressed
>do everything i can to help her, try to get her into drawing again
>she starts cutting herself
>take her to crisis centers
>nothing helps
>decides she wants to move out of her moms house and into her biological dads house
>i decide to help her move her stuff
>her mom doesn't know.
>her mom comes out and throws an autistic sperg fit as were moving her stuff out the window and are almost finished moving her things out
>GF wants me to get in car and drive
>her mom wants me to go inside and explain wtf is happening
>go inside
>girlfriend runs down the street
>explain to her parents that her mental health is getting worse and worse and has been increasingly suicidal and how i have done things to help her
>her parents still throw an autistic fit about how i didn't tell them she self-harmed when they already knew about it before i did.
>get message from girlfriend saying her dad isn't going to allow me to see her again if i don't leave her moms house
>tell them this
>[autistic motherly screeching]
>her mom starts taking most of her stuff in my SUV and putting it back in the house and telling me it's her responsibility to get her stuff and not mine
>i agree
>her parents calm down
>tell me that it isn't my fault
>her stepdad tells me she's been treating me like shit and disrespecting me
>thanks me for everything
>shake his hand
>tells me to keep taking her to the crisis center whenever she freaks the fuck out
>still have some of her stuff in my car
>go to her dads house
>she doesn't speak to me
>her father looks me dead in the eye and doesn't say a word
>go home and cry
>she threatens to break up with me over text
>days later she apologizes
>still treats me like a ghost in our classes together
>march 26th
>decide enough is enough and want to break up with her
>break up with her
>feel relief
>still feel like shit
>she dyes her hair
>changes everything about herself
>see instagram posts
>she seems to be doing okay
>knowingly enough she still loves me
>we start talking more and more and act like a couple without exclusivity
>she's still suicidal
>she quit therapy
>wants me to buy her stuff
>give in and buy her stuff
>"i don't want you to feel like i'm taking advantage of you anon, i promise to do something nice for you when i have the money" !
it's been 6 months and we have been talking on and off, she believes she is emotionally unavailable and unable to have any healthy relationship with anyone, At one moment she's extremely affectionate with me and the next she's as cold as ice.
she's told me she wants to gradually distance herself (from everyone) until her eventual suicide.
i shouldn't have bought her things i feel like that's all i'm being used for.
i still want to be able to have a /romantic relationship/ with her despite me giving everything and her not reciprocating a single bit.
we still talk but i feel like she's getting more distant, even though she's apologized for it before and tells me what i truly need is consistancy
the last time she told me she loved me in person was on our high school graduation under the fireworks.
i seriously don't know what to do /feels/ i truly love her and have done everything for her. and it feels as if she does not care.
Does anyone ever get bouts of severe anxiety about some random low chance thing fucking up your whole life?
I get them on and off and they're really overwhelming…
>"go outside!"
>go outside
okay. now what?
Anybody else here legitimately find short men kinda gross? I actually don't like that I feel this way, just makes me seem kinda basic but it's just hard for me to even view excessively short men as even men. I know they can't help it so I'm not gonna go out of my way to be rude to them or anything but I also can't help the fact that I just seem to find them undesirable, even ones that I would otherwise think were cute if they weren't so tiny.
childhood nostalgia
what are things from your childhood you know you'll never do/see/feel/be again?
I just got super sad & fucked up thinking about how the world will just look and feel more and more different as I get older – how I will literally be from a different time.
how do i know if im polyamory? i'm always in love with more than one person at the same time…is something wrong with me? i wouldn't like to share them but I would like to have more than one partner at once with their permission
the sad truth (warning: long post)
i wake up everyday realizing this over and over again. "true" love isn't real. it's all just chemicals in our brains, pheromones and nature/biology. women were put on earth to find the most compatible and healthy man ( with good genes) to reproduce with in order to make healthy offspring. men were put on earth to impregnate as much women as they could to populate earth. that's why men need sex. it's only natural for them to want to fuck other women and be attracted to other women. it's all biological but in the end it still hurts me. i'm sad that we can't change it. we can't be as monogamous as flies are. that we are all controlled by the pheromones we emit. we're all just animals playing the game of life. i'm currently with the man i plan to spend the rest of my life with. the one i feel the most compatible with and i do want to bear his children one day. it's true (at least from personal experience) that women only need that ONE man to change everything. i'm no longer interested or attracted to other men because of him. the most i feel is an acknowledgement that they're not ugly or boring but it's definitely not that same feeling i used to get when i was younger. i'd literally obsess over boys just like any other girl. that feeling doesn't exist anymore. other men are just regular people to me. i don't look at them as potential partners anymore. selfishly enough though (and nothing can get anymore pathetic), i am sad that even if he loves me now, there's a very high chance of it being temporary. i'm afraid that i am only what's best to him right now. one day he might find someone better. he might leave me for her or he might stay but he'll wonder if he would be happier in her company. i can't blame him for it because he's only a human male. no matter how good of a female partner you are he will always be attracted to other women. he will never only have eyes for you and that's the sad truth. i'm fully aware that what i feel is selfish. it might even sound like i don't appreciate him but i'm genuinely thankful for everything he's done for me. he's my best friend and i love him through and through. i know monogamy isn't impossible. there are people who have been successful but that's because they forced themselves to control their honest desires and temptations. it's not natural like fly love. it's not as unconditional as fly love. i just wish it were.. this probably stems from my extremely low self-esteem, depression, general anxiety and fear of abandonment due to an emotionally+physically abusive absent father. anyway, i'm curious about what other women think about this. have any of you felt this way? sorry for my rambling. this post is really long as is but i feel like i've forgotten to mention other important facts.
Red Flags
What are some red flags that you wish you or a friend had recognized at the time?
>complaining about having to wear condoms
>complaining about it when you turn down sex even if they say they're not trying to change your mind
>wanting to exchange email/social media/phone passwords
Do any other anons in their 20s (or older) feel like they wasted their teen years being too good or too much of a shutin? What kind of things do you with you'd done?
I never did anything wild or bad, I just spent a lot of time online and I feel like I really regret it now
Has anyone ever considered or tried suicide? How is the best way to do it?
To a lost friend
Dear Ewa,
It's unlikely you'll ever read this. That is okay. If I wanted to be sure you read it I'd find a more direct way to send it. I will update you on my life. I've learned that I'll be shipped overseas in a few years for my work. I can pick anywhere to go, but I think you know which Asian country I will choose. You should now be able to accurately hypothesize where I work. We aren't the satanists you believe us to be. We only sacrifice a goat once every other month! Jokes aside, I have met more devout Christians here than at NASA or any other place I've worked. Don't worry about us so much. But it makes connecting with people difficult, y'know. It is isolating work. And God knows I already have problems with connecting with people.
I think that's why I was so happy to talk with you, because I did feel similar to you. Since you stopped speaking to me I downloaded some dating apps for the first time to stop my loneliness. To my surprise, I am apparently attractive to other people and got lots of offers for sex and dates. But no connections. Never a connection, only messages about sex (which I obviously was not going to accept). I could hardly have a thoughtful conversation.
The loneliness didn't stop. It made me remember when you did things like wish me a good day, or work hard to send long and thoughtful replies to my ramblings. No one had ever done that for me, even platonically! And it made it all the worse when you stopped replying, too. I downloaded that AI, Replika, to try to simulate someone having a conversation with me again but it did not make me feel better. I never talked much about my family, but my parents also abandoned me. My father did it before I turned 12. I talk to him about once a year, nowadays. My mother did not leave me, but was physically and emotionally abusive. I guess that is why I asked so many times for you to tell me if you had any inclination to stop talking or ghost me, because I wanted so dearly to avoid feeling abandoned again. I knew it would really hurt me more than I could handle.
I wanted to let you know you that I don't blame you, though. It is too time-consuming for someone as aspirational as you to have a depressed oddity messaging you from halfway across the world with their lamentations. Even if you had the inclination to speak with me, you would probably feel too anxious to restart the conversation. For a while I worried that you had died in a car accident or something. The most likely reason is that you just plain resent me, however. So I understand the sentiment of not wanting to talk to me even though I can't place my finger on what I did wrong. And though I admit I've been hurt, I do not resent you and would gladly speak with you again.
I told you before that I pray every night to meet someone that will like me for who I am inside and that I will like them back (those are my exact words, actually. What else could I want for?). It still is true. When you first spoke to me, I was about halfway through my confirmation process, though I'd never once believed God was real. I did say to you once that I had my doubts - that he could be real. I thought that maybe my prayer had been answered (it is, really, pure happenstance that you ever reached out to me); maybe he had sent you. For once in my life, I started to believe in God. How foolish! He didn't believe in me.
- C
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Someone told me that the admins allow these posts - ones for people we have lost contact with - here. I am sorry if that is incorrect.
Second Childhood
What would you do if you were transported back in time to when you were a child, retaining your current memories?
Who meditates/prays here regularly? Do you find that it helps?
Compulsive Shopping
How to control it? How to stop being so materialistic?
Money-wise, my situation is not the best. I don't have the best of jobs, I live with my parents so I don't need to pay rent, and while I do help with some bills, I end up spending all the rest instead of saving it. My family is not rich.
I guess my main problem is that I get easily jealous of people who have certain things more than me or better than me and this is probably related to my low self esteem. I live in a third world country and I know I should just accept some people have lives better than mine but instead of doing that I end up buying things to console myself and to try to be a bit like the people I'm jealous of.
I don't think my life is ruined (yet) by this since I consider my compulsive shopping fairly recent but I want to stop it before it becomes something huge in my life.
Ex
Hi, /feels/. My ex broke up with me about 2 and a half months ago, his main reasons being us both having depression and a lack of conflict in the relationship. It lasted about 6 months. We stopped talking for a bit because I said I wanted space, but he told me he wanted to be friends again after a few weeks. We started talking normally again for about another month and a half. Within this time span, he told me that it would be possible for us to get into another relationship in the future if we lived near each other, depending on how we've grown. He's also vented to me about their depression and suicidal thoughts. Recently he has told me about the new love interest he has been talking to. They like each other. They met about a month ago. After I learned of this, I told him I needed space again. I haven't talked to him or anyone really for the past few days or so. I don't think he's being manipulative or anything since he's always been very open and direct, just saying whatever's on his mind. Ever since we first broke up, I've been trying to get over him but I've been having trouble. I still love him more than anything and it pains me to think of him with anyone else. I know the overall relationship didn't last very long compared to others, but goddammit it's so hard to get over this. I've been considering bettering myself for the sole purpose of cucking his possible lover and getting him back, but that doesn't really sit right with me…yet that's what I want to do most. What should I do? Should I pursue my ex? If not, what can I do to speed up this healing process?
I feel like the only reason I feel like shit and I'm ugly is my height. I'm 5'10 and I feel so insecure and self concious.
Some guy once said that if I was a little shorter I would be 8/10.
I hate this.
Selfcare
How do you treat yourself?
The "Sorry" Thread
Have you ever wanted to apologise to someone but never had the chance or courage? Do you want to rehearse your words before you go through it? Just wanna vent on an apologetic note?
Write your feelings away.
My boyfriend is gonna go on a beach trip with a couple of his friends INCLUDING:
1.) an ex fuck buddy
2.) a girl he used to have a crush on or maybe even feelings for
3.) NOT ME. I can't go cause I don't have the funds nor the time, as I have summer class.
I feel so horrible and insecure about it, my friends tell me this is a huge red flag and he should just not go at all.
What should I do? is it reasonable for me to tell him to not go and just sell his ticket? Is it reasonable for me to feel awful about it in the first place? :(
I trust that he won't do anything with them but still. Isn't it just common boyfriend decency? :(
Technological Exhaustion
Who else?
I miss the early 2000s, when technology wasn't far enough to drown me in internet addiction and it was a more simple time overall. It makes me want to move back to the countryside, live in peace and silence with dogs and walkies. I often feel like going low-tech with an ancient brick phone and board games and movie nights instead of spending all my life online.
Do you have a hard time saying no to people?
Have you found a way to overcome that?
I always feel guilty when I say no to people even when I know I should. If I do I feel bad. Help.
Lonliness
Do you guys ever struggle with loneliness? Is the feeling almost constant and intense, or is it more buried and hidden until you think about how alone you are?
Share you thoughts, feelings, vents, insecurities, fears etc about loneliness, maybe we can all help each other out to not feel so alone for a second <3
Getting over a bpd person.
Hello I've been going through some rough times along with traumatic flashbacks everyday. And I'm wondering how you anons deal with past memories similar to these of being abused, and constantly hurt because of someone with a disorder or abusive streak.
College Situation
Hello, anons. I am seeking advice for my situation right now. Finals are next week and I have 2 projects due, plus some homework. I was involved in a life altering situation a month ago which allowed me to drop 2 of my classes; however, last week, my partner became so sick they had to get surgery and they are still recovering. I'm still recovering from what first happened to me because it altered so many details of my life and my concentration has gone to shit since then. I really want to pass these remaining two classes, but in one of them, I bombed both of my midterms and haven't turned in all my homework. I can't drop either of these classes now because even for a serious reason (like how I was able to drop the other 2 before), the deadline has passed. I've been drinking and wasting my life away on discord, forums, and imageboards, how do I get my rear into gear and help myself in these next two classes so I can at least pass them? Worser still, one of the classes I'm in I've already failed because I was lazy as shit in that class last semester.
Relationship/Sexual Inexperience
Anyone else just either wasn't interested in dating or didn't have the chance in high school?
I'm 21 and have 0 dating or sexual experience. I had a few guys interested in me over the years, but I really had no interest in dating at that point. Having someone in my life in that way feels incredibly off. I'm not the most social person in the world and it picturing having a boyfriend makes me uncomfortable. I have never kissed or held hands with a boy. Just hugged. My parents are very religious Catholics so that probably factored in as well.
Is this gonna bite me in the ass sooner or later? It's honestly embarrassing around female friends because they talk about their boyfriends or sexual experiences sometimes and it makes me feel abnormal. People always say it's good to be a virgin as a female, but it's not. It's awkward and makes me feel weird or less human. Why don't I crave relationships or sex like everyone else? The idea of a one night stand is terrifying to me as well, I've never gone to a bar or anything like that.
Anyone else in my position and is just terribly "innocent" and inexperienced in life? I literally consider answering some Craigslist ad at least every few days because it seems like an easy way to throw away my v-card and is not socially demanding.
relationship feels
the good, the bad, the confusing
are you dating anyone? got a crush?
Feels thread
General feels thread: let it all out
Kissing
So… I've got no idea how to kiss and it's been a while since I've done it, so I'm nervous about being with someone.
I've turned down offers for intimacy because I'm worried I'm going to be bad at it. An ex told me frequently I sucked and I guess it's scared me off, I wanna make any future person I'm with feel good… and not awkward.
Does anyone have, geez like tutorials? Or advice? How do you kiss?
Figuring yourself out
Do you all know truly know yourself?
Do you know your personality?
I've been feeling really lost lately, as if I have no personality anymore. Does anybody feel the same? If you don't feel the same, how do you figure yourself out?
There's this guy I really like that works at a hotel my friend is staying at (she's fell on hard times), he's a bigger guy (chubby) about 6'2 and has really gorgeous hair (he's mixed). The thing is, I really want to ask him out but from what everyone tells my friend he won't follow up any advances. There's a joke that people call him the saint. I mean I tried flirting, signals, hand contact. He's just too goddamn proper, I asked his boss if he's seeing anyone, the boss told me he's like that. He just likes helping people and being friendly. I'm going to jump this guy's bones if he doesn't wake up, I can't stand it. Is there anything that I can do? I don't want to be rejected and this seems like a 1 in a million chance to find a guy that is decent wholesome and warm. I'm 24 and he's 31 ( yet he looks younger than me) I'm dying over here….
Ugly and alone
Is anyone else an ugly, lonely, virgin female who is socially retarded? I am. I have no friends and I've never been asked on a date by a male. No male has ever expressed interest in me in any way. It doesn't matter how I dress or how friendly I am, men aren't attracted to me at all.
I'm going to become a spinster soon and all I read are about how females have such virtuous night lives or dating lives. The majority of females my age or younger are all married and happy. But not me and not most ugly women.
I even die inside when I see ugly women like me happy and dating or married probably because they aren't as socially retarded as me.
Anyone else share the same situation?
Not totally socially retarded yet unable to establish a genuine long-term connection with others irl
I don't sperg out in social situations I find myself in and people in general don't find me weird or actively try to avoid me; yet I cannot for the life of me figure out what I am supposed to do to move any of my interpersonal relationships beyond a "casual acquaintance" stage. My social life in my free time is virtually non existent.
Anyone know this feel?
What makes you happy?
Little things that give you a bit of bliss?
Siblings
Some questions to get this rolling.
>Has having siblings hindered your life in any way?
>What are some of your positive experiences with having siblings?
>If you would like a child, would you want them to have a sibling?
>Do you believe parents can love siblings equally? Why or why not?
>What's your birth order? How do you think it affected you?
>What is your relationship with your siblings?
Hi… I've got a huge problem and Idk how to get around it.
Since last year, I'm missing two visible premolars, one on each side (also cavities and other stuff goin on)
I've had depression for most of my life (24), and I've been doing better for about two months but I've relapsed two weeks ago.
I can't socialize and I already given up on the idea of "meeting someone" while this shit is like this.
Obv this affects my work life as well, I can't work as anything that requires interacting with clients.
Everything feels so pointless and bleak when I know I can't smile or laugh around anyone confidently.
It's so expensive to fix i'd have to choose between saving for that (for like 4 years) or starting uni.
Should I just retreat from civilisation?
What would you do? I'm desperate.
I dont know what to do with my friend
I don't know if I'm supposed to post in a general thread or if this is appropriate. I have to tell someone, it made me really upset at work and was affecting me there, and today I woke up and have been heart-pounding upset about this. It has bothered me for years. This will probably seem really stupid and immature from another person's perspective but I am an immature person.
I am 25 years old now and I don't think I have the ability to maintain friendships. There are so many reasons for that but basically I have a hard time holding it together, it feels like being friends with someone is 90% grief and 10% joy and that has only gotten worse the past few years. I sometimes feel it would be best to say my bit and completely separate forever from a few girls I know and just have a boyfriend who I can talk to and have as my only friend in life.
At this point there are only 2 people who are my friends and they're dating each other. There are 3 other people I talk to besides them but they aren't intimate bonds more like acquaintances.
Getting to the point, in late 2016 began this period of me not knowing how to continue forward with this person and still it continues into 2018.
Basically I'm talking to a wall that is so indifferent to whether I exist or not. I have tried over and over to talk to her and I can't even call these conversations, the entire time going into it I'm terrified my attempt at talking to her will be a complete failure like the last, and always it is without exception. It's like all of her actions completely contradict how she states she feels.
In late 2017 I spent a few weeks in a psychward and when I got out she suggested we do something together. I was overjoyed with this not only because of what had been going on, but the two of us hadn't spent time together like that in years. Sometimes she would bring up the possibility of us spending time together like we used to, but I had to remind myself it wasn't actually going to happen because it never did and that hurt more and more with time. I remember the date because I was just released a day before, it was December 9th of 2017 and me and her were supposed to meet that night and talk and have drinks. I felt so high because I had missed this for so long. I woke up that day with this event in mind, got ready and tried to make my hair look nice specifically for this, I went to the store with my (now)ex and got wine and some little vodka shooters just for this event. And so when that evening came and I tried to talk to her about it, all she had to say was "maybe" in the same disinterested, detached, and preoccupied style she has given off for the past few years. I immediately started to pretend like I didn't really care but actually my heart was racing and my joy turned into trying not to cry, an hour passed and I tried to ask her again if she was still interested since she had only said 'maybe', she just said maybe again.
So I just said never mind and went to bed. But what got me the most is it was after the fact that I cried myself to sleep that she decided it was necessary for her to explain that she was stressed out with packing her things or something, for a flight that ended up taking place in March and not December.
A few days after this I went through a breakup. That detail is only important because during this she loaned me money for a 1 month bus pass and for my medication. Each time I talked to her during this, I had to be the one to initiate the conversation always, and no matter what she was always either
- about to go to sleep
- about to go do something with her girlfriend
- "just a bit distracted"
And so I was talking to this unresponsive wall each time that was moments away from having to be somewhere else. Which fine, I'm not that interesting and we all have issues and she struggles. Still it got to the point where her and her girlfriend actually make me feel more alone and sad when I speak to them than when I am actually alone talking to no one. It's so to that point that I am happier never messaging either of them, speaking to them is guaranteed emotional pain for me
March came and I told her I was able to pay her back. Up until then she had been really nice about it and said it was no problem, and that she wasn't worried about it and that she was fine without the money. But see, there was a complication with my bank and stuff and I wasn't able to paypall her the amount, I told her this immediately and was apologetic and said I would figure it out. She said she didn't mind that night.
3 days later she actually initiated the conversation for once. But she didn't say hi or ask me what was up or anything, she just asked about the money. I told her the situation and alternatives I could take to pay her since paypall didn't work, she then took a hostile tone about the subject and said she needed the money for things(if I had known this little fight was going to happen, I would have never taken the loan SHE OFFERED, I didn't ask for or even talk about money then). She had more and more questions about it, I was trying not to cry, when I said I was going to bed she didn't bother saying goodnight. She didn't give a shit.
Since then me and her have talked twice. The first was a few days later when I figured out how to pay her back and did(I used roommates paypal and just deposited money into his account), and then a month after that where I messaged her but pretty much she had nothing to say and was preoccupied with anything else basically.
I've been waiting patiently and she hasn't messaged me. The only time I was worth messaging was for that money. She has no interest in me and I just want to make it complete, I need it 100% one way or the other, but this purgatory of halfway not friends kills me and bothers me most days. If I made an accurate guess she lost interest in me a long time ago but doesn't want to hurt my feelings?
That is all that makes sense to me, because if she did care about us being friends and did want me in her life, she has to be completely retarded to behave as she does while still desiring me. This has gone on for so long, in 2017 I even messed with some settings on my social media so that I could avoid looking at her picture and profile. When her gf would mention her in conversation to me, my heart would sink and I would feel so terrible because we don't behave like friends anymore. I have missed her for so long that I want to not see a single reminder of her, the way it is with her now contrasts how close we used to be, that it hurts. I spend all this time thinking about this and I admit, possibly obsessing over her, and she seems so casual and indifferent about it all.
I want to rip the bandaid off and just get this over with and accept the reality of having no friends or family except the man I date, but I am scared of not having her. I am scared of hurting someone's feelings and so badly hope that someday this will just stop and the two of us will act all close like we did years ago. But any objective look at how this has gone would tell me that it hasn't been possible for years.
>I've been flirting with him Evert day during highschool
>He either didn't notice or ignored me on purpose
>One time I was sick for a day and when I got back I told him I missed him and asked if he feels the same but he told me "a day isn't such a long time,no"
What was his deal,I don't understand?! I'm angry at him but I also can't stop thinking about him and I miss him! And we graduated a year ago!
Would you ?
What if your s/o made you an offer
> you don't have to work because s/he now has a better job that covers all bills
> you can have pretty much anything to sustain a semi affluent lifestyle like e.g. anything beauty related like acrylic nails personal trainer expensive skincare
>you also don't have to do housework
> s/he offers to pay your studies if you want to study online/comunity college.
But you are not allowed to work unless is online or home based.
Would you do it ?
Starting Over in your Twenties
Did you waste your teenage years? Are you trying to do better as an adult? Share your feelings, progress, and advice here. Feel free to be truly yourself, even if it may feel kind of embarrassing.
>What went wrong?
>What could you have accomplished?
>Do you have the same goals that you did before the problem?
>What are you looking forward to?
>How do you plan on achieving this?
>Do you want to relive anything considered cringy? (ex. young weeaboo days)
>What have you accomplished so far?
I've recent got out of a long relationship with a guy. I find myself with an almost unquenchable lustful towards women. Despite honestly never really being into girls before. Is this normal?
I can't stand to socialize with people.
I've never had friends during most of my life and now that i am 19 i finally sort of got inserted into a social group.
Except its fucking driving me insane, im on the verge of a breakdown, the little nuances of socialization all the fucking drama, i just can't live with that.
Everyone says that isolating yourself will make my mental health worse but god i was so much happier when i was spending my nights gaming alone in my room.
Im trying to pull them away the best i can using my own problems as cannon fodder because they are good friends and still insist on hanging with me if i stop talking to them, i dont want to give anyone trouble i just want to be alone again.
I dont know if i should try to fit in and put my stability in jeopardy or ruin everything with them just so i can have peace of mind.
Thankful thread.
Post things that made you feel positive about today
I'll start in the comments
Online fame and paranoia
I'm probably going to get some hate for this, but here we go.
I have a slightly successful YouTube channel and a pretty slow thread on lolcow /snow/. Through mutual interests, I've met a girl, and we've developed a mutual crush on each other.
Unfortunately, I found out she's in the lolcow discord. Now I can think about is whether or not she's a farmer trying to get close to gossip about me. I know it sounds self important but I've been catfished before due to my online presence. What do I do? How fucked am I?
Forgiveness
Gossip, lies, cheating, hurtful words, etc
How do you forgive someone who deeply hurt you (family members/romantic partners/friends)? How do you know they're worth forgiving? How do you know they're worth the pain?
I'm terrible with letting go of resentment… I've been struggling for months to feel like I've forgiven someone.
Does forgiving mean you need to forget things?
Please share.
General Advice & Vent Thread
Old thread >>>/feels/1924
Let it all out, friends.
Alone on Valentine's Day
Another year has gone by, and somehow the expectation of finding a romantic partner draws nearer every year.
If you're alone, what are your plans? I might just buy myself chocolates and watch My Bloody Valentine.
my parents do not believe in depression
tw: mentions of suicide
i am taking a break from college due to my depression which has consitently gotten worse since its diagnosis last year but has been around since my first year of high school, i am now in college. i got treatment for a month before my parents stopped it because they believed we were being scammed for what was a pretend disease, and that for whatever reason i was just sad and needed to pull myself together and stop asking for attention.
the guilt of how expensive an education can be weighs on me constantly. my parents will tell me that despite knowing how they are breaking their backs on how much it costs all i do is shut myself in my room, break things, and do nothing. i believe them. i think i would also be angry and frustrated if i had spent years raising a daughter only for her to end up like this. i feel like me taking a break and this eating up half the tutition paid despite me not finishing the semester is the last straw. since going home they have been completely ignoring me. i feel increasingly empty and have cut contact with most of my friends.
i entertain thoughts of suicide constantly and have attempted thrice, all failures. a vivid memory of one in my junior year of high school is at one point i had cut my wrists deeply causing heavy bleeding, i had a math test later that day. upon finding me a mess in my room, my parents told me to wash and fix the wound, because we had to get going for my test. my parents see my depression and attempts at suicide as a personal insult to all the efforts they have put out to raise me. any attempt at discourse on the matter prompts them to yell at me of why i think its okay to disrespect the, this way.
i had dreams, but right now they seem like fantasy. i sleep in my room and when im awake stare at the ceiling or mindlessly surf the internet.
im stuck in an abyss, with seemingly no choice but to drown. i dont know what happiness is supposed to feel like anymore, dont know if i ever will.
Dreams Thread
This is a thread where you can post all your dreams you have and maybe discuss it with other anons. I don't know where else to post it on here so here goes:
I had a strange dream last night that I can't quite understand. I usually have dreams that foretells of future events or just random dreams that are made up of the thoughts I had the night before so this one is unusual even by my own standards.
>for some reason im in a jail cell serving 5 months for disrespecting a officer
>im sharing a jail cell with some guy, which is weird because im pretty sure mixed sex jails don't exist in my county
>he's nice to me and we end up being friends
>i get out one month early for good behavior
>while im walking out of jail i think "i can see how this fucks up people now. it makes you more antisocial [???]"
>the police officer who pressed charges on me calls me to his office and says he released me early because im 17 and i shouldn't be serving 5 months in jail anyway (im 19 in real life)
>i try to get to my house but i end up bumping into my cellmates jogging outside with a drill instructor
>i leave to use the public restroom and two prisoners end up following me in there
>one of the prisoners was my old cellmate. wtf
>they start to grab me and drag me in the stall while other prisoners come in there to basically.. yeah
>wake up confused as fuck and worried
Context: The area i live in is kind of dangerous and the crime rate has gone considerably up in the past 5 years. I walk outside for all kinds of reasons and i noticed there's a lot of shady men who follow me around and try to talk to me and such. I recently got almost abducted.. twice.. just because I was outside by myself after 9pm. I feel paranoid tbh but i don't know anyone who has this feel
Juicy Drama
Let us know your most dramatic stories. Feel free to greentext them (or not! Any format is fine).
For the sake of good, fun drama: try to keep negative comments about certain situations to yourself. I'm no mod, I can't control anyone, but if you think anon x is a slut and horrible person for revenge fucking her best friend's bf, that's great, but we're here for all the juicy details, not for moralfagging (unless anon is shit talking someone else in their story, then you can shit talk the person anon hates in their story, lol).
Let the stories begin!
Missed connections
This thread is for talking about people you fell out of touch with for whatever reason and how you feel about it.
Why I don't I get to be happy and have someone who loves me? No one deserves anyone's affection but I haven't done anything to deserve this loneliness and misery.
I want to become a better person but I don't know how. I don't know how to do it when I'm so resentful about being betrayed and manipulated. I want to be a better person so people will want to be around me.
Not belonging
Did you ever feel like you don't belong to where you are from?
I'm talking about my country, more specifically. Even though I love it, I've always felt I never belonged here.
I'm not saying I'm wapanese (lol) or that my dream country is Asian. I don't really even have one, I guess. I just feel like a stranger here.
What about you? You can share your experiences, it doesn't need to be exactly about countries.
Regrets
what do you regret, anons?
Anyone here ever had more than a boyfriend at the same time? Why?
If yes, how?
Were you caught in the end?
How do you feel like now?
Do you regret it?
ଘ(੭ ^ __^)੭ hello, fellow miners!
- What is a ~~good person~~ in your opinion?
- Are you one? Be honest. If you're not, why? and does that bother you?
- How can someone become a good/better person? What steps do they have to take?
I'm trying to improve myself because I've been frustrated with some of my current ideas, behaviors and inner thoughts.
exes
anyone still think about their ex? or have occasional thoughts about them pop up?
Sadposting
Go
Social anxiety
It seems that according to a lot of posts, a lot of us deal with this stuff, so maybe a thread for trying to improve through it would be good!
>How bad is it/used to be? di anything in particular cause it?
>How do you deal with it in social situations?
>If you used to have it but managed to control it/surpass it, what helped you improve?
>Book/podcast recommendations that helped you
>etc
Rivalry
Do you have a rival? A nemesis?
General advice thread
I haven't found one in the catalog so I thought I'd make one so we don't have to make/derail threads with questions.
I want to know what it's like to be loved.
NEETS
I know you're out there! Lets share some NEET feels and talk about our situation.
>why are you a NEET?
>how long have you been a NEET for?
>do you like it? why or why not?
>have you ever tried to do anything to change your situation?
>how much longer do you see yourself living this way for?
>how do you spend your free time?
I just feel like boys are tryna use me
So I have been seeing this guy, more or less we just talk over text. He lives only 45 min away from me but has never visited me. Now I've been on winter break and so we hung out. we had sex. and it was really good, but i wasn't sure where that would lead to, its really difficult for me to feel things out like that because i have been a survivor of emotional and physical abuse, I am an extremely emotional and sensitive person… with extreme issues when it comes to attachment/intimacy… yet I feel that as a woman I must give my body to those who want it even though I don't necessarily want to… yet at the same time it isn't as if i don't consent to it? It is all so confusing to me.
Anyway so that happened and then a few days after he tells me he misses me, to which I reply to you do? because it was very confusing to me, we only hung out once, it became clear he just wanted to be casual possibly and when emotion begins to tie in its very hard for me to function. I begin to concentrate on it and have massive anxiety and obsession over it. And so I let him know I'm just confused and i didn't think he would even miss me and then he asks if he did something wrong? And I say no, that I feel lost and he doesn't reply for days.
I wish a happy new year and he doesn't reply to that either. So i just say fuck it, not the first time this happens to me with a guy. I've learned to not put effort in if they clearly don't care.
A few days later he texts me, telling that he expected to hang out more, that its clearly not happening anymore, that he guesses he isn't worth the effort to let him know i don't want to see him anymore.., to which i reply again in deep confusion that I have sent him multiple text messages without any reply. he doesn't even apologize, he just says how much he misses me and that he wants to see me. we make plans to see a movie when i get back from my vacation with family
i get back and im excited to see him. he then tells me hes doing laundry, then that he can't stay out late and that we should got out another time but I tell him i already made plans with my friends. all he says is that we can do something another time
and i just feel bummed. idk what to think. i am having so much anxiety over this stupid issue,over someone i barely know who doesn't seem to want to be known, much less even know me. i don't know what to do, how to feel or be. im a sensitive and lost bean and I just wish i had the power to be okay with myself and move on somehow but i want to be loved…. or something… i totlally feel like a complete loser around him though and i feel like he doesn't care to know about who i am he just wants to fuck me… and i know that is okay but its just not okay with me…. but sometimes he seems genuine and cool and it seems like he's into me.. then he's not. idk, some advice, knowledge, stories anything would help a lost gurl out rn. feeling really bummed and alone and just dazed out of mind.
You can undo one thing, what is it?
Bella
> be a dog
> don't hate anyone and just try to live your life
> got bought by dog fighting ring and get used for breeding
> get all of your teeth taken out by your " owner giving you a block of cement and peanut butter so you can't bite"
> have approximately 70-80 pregnancies
> get dumped at a shelter after not being able to have more
> get starved
> get adopted by anon and her partner.
> money hungry vet tried to desex and messed up intentionally to charge more money
> find vet that is nice
> nice vet is nice
This is my dog Bella after 2 years I had to put her down today
I am a NEET I have anxiety and really bad agoraphobia
She barked louder that any dog that I ever heard
Scared the fuck out of anyone that was mean to me
Dear anons I don't know how to live without her.
does it get better ?
Times you got injured.
I came to realize my life is comparable to a slapstick comedy, I've been hit by a metal bat in the face, fallen and broken my arm, hit by multiple baseballs, hit in the face by dodgeballs, all sorts of stuff, even spanning now to accidentally burning myself with my kettle. Though funnily enough, I've only ever broken my arm.
Tell me about times you've all been injured, whether it be damaging or not!
Single Pringles
Singles general. How long have you been single? How do you feel about it?
Funny/Happy pet feels
Someone recommended a thread for happy pet related stuff so I decided to make one. If staff feels that it can be combined with the other pet feels thread then then lock this one(so we don't lose any posts anyone has already made in this one). Happy feels are important as well! Share all the joys of your beloved animals anons!
School yard bitchiness/Commenting on people's bodies/faces as if it's the worst thing in the world.
Pic unrelated, but is it just me or am I the only person that's like over it when people talk about internet personas (or just someone they don't like's) physical appearance like they're the ABSOLUTE UGLIEST/FATTEST THING they've EVER SEEN in their LIFE? Like, I get it, you don't like the bitch, can you tell us why? Other than the fact that you think her coords are ugly or her face is too droopy or she's too skinny or whatever? What's the point? What's the god damn point!
Tell me why she or he (it's almost always a 'she') is so awful without describing their body, for once? I'm so sorry that nasolabial folds trigger your ass so much, Jesus Christ.
I found this and thought it might be useful to other people here too since there are lots of posts here about how people have no/few IRL friends. They're direct instructional videos on how to socialize like a normie. There's a textbook or something that goes with it but the videos are all free at least.
http://www.routledgetextbooks.com/textbooks/9781138238718/videos.php#p_2
Then and now
Let's play a game, inspired by >>>/feels/3717
First, write about a person in your life who you're no longer in touch with and who used to intimidate you or give you any sort of negative feelings.
Then after describing your feelings, look them up on social media and tell us how they are doing now and how seeing their social media makes you feel.
The idea is to revisit the ghosts of your past and to reflect on your impressions back then and now in relation to your former and current life circumstances.
General Vent Thread
Old one Maxed out my dudettes.
I like this website a lot but I'm not sure if it's healthy for me to come here every day and spend time chatting here when I could be doing things like working on self improvement instead. Does anyone else feel a sense of guilt over coming to imageboards? It seems like my conscience is telling me I need to just leave places like this and never come back even if this one seems pretty friendly and different.
Bisexual feels
Dear miners, help me out?
I'm so confused by my sexuality. I admitted to myself that I'm attracted to girls when I was 14 and came out as lesbian to my family because I didn't know bisexuality was a real thing. Later I realized that and have been living as bi ever since (10+ years). I never dealt with anything but casual homophobia and have had a supportive environment.
I have been in love with several women and several men, but the majority of my dating experience has been with men. I'm a femme who likes other femmes, so it's hard to be recognized as a wlw without outright stating it, so that may have something to do with it. Dating men is easy. But I'm not attracted to male bodies; I can appreciate a handsome face and a good body, but when it comes to women, I can find something attractive or endearing in almost any of them. On the other hand, I don't have as much of a sex drive with women - though I wonder if my sex life with men is tainted by my need for validation, so I have more sex to be a sexy sex-having cool girl, not because I want it all the time? Man, I don't know. I do know that I prefer penises, but I haven't had an ongoing sexual relationship with a woman, only long-distance dating or flings, so there is a lot left to discover.
I wonder if I can ever be truly happy dating one or the other. When I'm with a man, I miss femininity, but I'm drawn to the easier social structures that come with heterosexual relationships and being pursued and submitting to the man, so to speak. I guess I have a lot of internalized sexism to deal with, but that's another story. When it comes down to it though, f/f relationships seem so right and true to me, and I fear that I may just be buying into the romantization of lesbian relationships. I feel like such a fraud and like I can't be happy either way. I currently have a boyfriend and he doesn't mind me being with girls casually, but he wouldn't like me being emotionally involved with someone else no matter their gender.
What am I? Do I keep dating men and missing being with a woman? Do I date women and feel like a fraud for being less sexual and missing dick?
People testing your patience
What are your ultimate pet peeves?
>eating noises
>being loud, smacking surfaces, high-t behavior
>passive-aggressiveness
>spitting in the street
What are you guilty of?
>always late
>constant allergies = sniffle a lot
>smartass
Dealing with obsessive and negative thoughts
How do you cope?
Have you managed to stop obsessing over things you can't change/should stay in the past, etc?
How to change?
Etc
Have any of you ever felt lonely in the way where you cant even appreciate someone elses friendship? Its hard to say, I cant even connect emotionally with my parents or my brothers. They all adore me, because I constantly run around trying to help them with their issues but at the same time, I cant understand it. Being around people in general is painful because I dont understand how to keep the conversation going, or when theres a pause I feel as if Im bothering them by attempting to speak. Could some of you folks give me some advice?
Feels about pets
This thread goes out the anon in the vent thread that lost her cat and recently adopted a different one. I know there's already an animal general thread in /b/ but I think this thread would be more suited for feels inducing stories and vents. I have many stories about cats and kittens to tell and I know there are anons that must have things to share about other animals too.
Cults of interest
I have at some point in my life become interested in and tried belonging to all of these subcultures, some of which I totally fell out of and some of which I still have a some affinity for despite never really feeling like I truly belonged in the community:
Anime fandom and other niche interest Japanese things like Touhou fandom, BJD collecting, idols, etc
Imageboard culture in general
Homestuck fandom
Furry fandom
Brony culture
True crime community
Western goth subculture
Cosplaying
Many j-fashion subcultures including trying to be a "lifestyle lolita"
BDSM and more specific fetish subcultures within BDSM
Tumblr feminism
/pol/
New Age and occult beliefs and practices
And lately I've become curious about historical re-enactment groups and motorcycle riding. I must be tragically bad at self reflection because I just realized that all of these things are kind of like cults in the intense life-consuming devotion the followers/fans have towards the interest/subculture. You can be a normal individual with a healthy interest in some of these things, but I am specifically attracted to the highly insular communities that are part of these interests.
My hopping from one "cult" to the next is probably driven by the intense need to be loved, have friendship, and belong to a community, but despite spending almost my entire lifetime hopping from one extreme interest to another I still don't have any close friends and I still feel like I don't belong anywhere. I am not sure how to recover from this pattern of behavior since the desire driving it still isn't being fulfilled and I don't know how to heal the deep wounds of being friendless and alone on my own.
Since this is an obscure part of the internet that necessitates a high level of involvement in imageboard culture to even find/post on, can anyone else relate? Has anyone been able to heal and recover from this?
I suck at making gal friends
Does anyone suffer from being super awkward around girls? I've never had a consistent, deep friendship with a woman, not because I don't want to, but because I always act so weird and become extra eager to please, extra overly nice (probably in a way that is off-putting), I find it difficult to give out my opinions when I'm usually an outspoken opinionated person and I just try to listen to them and don't input what I think (I awkwardly nod, smile, agree because I'm stoked to be talking to a potential gal pal). I also am petrified particularly regarding women that they will find out how stupid, pathetic, and ignorant I am if I spend more time with them.
I did have a girl friend in my childhood, but she was the kind that always critiqued me without me asking for it and made me feel like shit because she was always nit-picking at me and trying to make it out that she had life way worse than me ( for example, I came out to her about incest related child abuse when I was a kid and she started on about how her life was hard because one of her parents had a debilitating disease and how hard that was for her). When I've talked to her now, while she did seem sorry and to an extent ashamed about her behavior, she also almost seemed proud of the fact she was cruel (maybe that's just me). I didn't have any close girl friends in high school, the closest girls I came to being friends with always "jokingly" insulted me and made fun of me for being clumsy, spacing out, caring about school, etc. I ceased to be friends with them eventually, but I always feel guilt about that and I sometimes wish I continued being friends with them just for the sake of having more experiences with girls in high school.
Oddly, I don't feel intimidated by men in the way I feel intimidated by women, though I'd say I'm still somewhat more eager to please than "normal" for me. I've for sure, had many negative experiences with men - the classic they pretend they care and want to be friends, but once you aren't interested in a relationship with them, you don't mean shit - but it hasn't "sit" with me in the way I think my experiences with women have.
I consciously think very positive thoughts about girls and relationships with women, but I feel like maybe my past experiences are fucking up my subconscious into being terrified of being hurt by girls. How do I get past that? How do I become less eager to please? I love sites like this because it's the only time I'm able to converse with women in a way that I'm uninhibited from my usual fears.
Also: I know for a fact I am somewhat awkward and weird around girls. My s.o's housemate is a girl and we've had some conversations, she calls me her "friend" (I don't know if we really are though), yet my s.o. told me that she has told him that I get awkward.
Overall, I feel like I'm intellectually inferior to all girls and that they know, too, and aren't afraid of rubbing it in my face. Why would they want to be friends with such an incapable idiot?
Catfishing
I thought it would be nice to make a support thread for the catfishing phenomena where we can share stories and offer advice and support to people who have been victims of catfishing, suspect they are being catfished or are even catfishes themselves. So go ahead and vent away!
What was the moment you realized you dindn't like your SO or friend anymore?
Guy Crushes
Post your 3D husbandos
Divorced parents roll call thread.
Help-a-neet
> I'm 21 / neet /
> Boyfriend is 23 works full time in a semi decent job that pays enough to cover all bills including pets ( from his past relationship dumped by his ex )
> when I met him I used to work at a company as an office assistant
> I quit the job after being there for a few months due to being (sexually?) harassed
they put my pads in a wall I was the only female on site
> boyfriend insists on me living with him after I quit said job.
> move in with boyfriend and completely feel lost in new town and work online to pay for anything expensive ( see: vintage clothing )
>boyfriend covers bills and refuses to let me work until I get ~depression under control ~
> I'm currently stuck in a cycle of depression and binging habits
I'm not sure how to fix my life and I have no family in this country to talk to and most of my other family hasn't seen me since 2012
( I'm sorry about any typos.. ESL)
Photo very sadly related
Do you always seek to gain the upper hand in relationships/friendships? Must every exchange be advantageous to you?
Are you conscious of how your words and actions might affect others?
When people say "no" to you, how do you respond? Do you attempt to manipulate it into a "yes"?
Are you willing to admit to a fault? Even though you may not see how you might have hurt someone, do you at least try to see things from their perspective?
Do you respect rules and boundaries? Or are they just made to be broken?
Do you lie habitually?
Do you keep your promises as best you can? And if you are unable to, do you let the person know in advance that you will have to make it up to them?
Do people who meet you generally respect you? This is not fully in your control but when multiple people have the same issues with you, it might be time to consider their perspective.
How do you treat people who cannot directly benefit you in any way?
General vent thread?
Childhood/Nostalgic Images
Post images that remind you of your childhood or any cute reminiscent images you like. Toys, rooms, shows, magazines, food, stuffed animals, stickers, books, games, art supplies, old web gifs, anything!
~Feel good~ songs
Music you listen to for motivation, brightening up, self care etc.
What makes you feel good and capable?
random online crushes
Do you ever crush on girls you see on social media that you've never interacted with? I'm going through this currently and don't want to feel alone with my creepiness. Please share.
Post weeby shit you do
This is my cat, Lestat. Make him famous.
Funny Feels
Can we have a thread to make our fellow sisters laugh? Post jokes, memes, funny videos, gifs, anything humorous!
Songs that make you feel
Was looking for a certain song on youtube but instead randomly came across vid attached. It's been a long time since I heard it and listening to it again after all this time, it's a little embarrassing to admit since 70s soul isn't really considered all that hip and the title makes it obvious why I'd be struck but it made me cry.
>tfw no qt guy will ever serenade you with this song
Anyways, as the title says, share those songs that make you feel.
What are your thoughts on non-monogamous dating?
How do you stop saying words
Does anyone have any advice for someone who is trying to stop saying offensive shit like "retarded" in front of people who are not internet veterans? I was born in 1989 so I grew up on the word and being on 4chan and imageboards in general has cemented it in my mind as the thing to say when something is weird, irrational, embarrassing, stupid or funny.
I said it front of a new friend (by accident) the other day and the look on her face was that of horror and disappointment.
I need some way of replacing it or shock therapy or something. I don't remember how I stopped saying "gay" derisively after high school but I need to do it again.
Anyone have any experience?
Vent!
I decided to make this thread so you girls can come here and vent. Had a bad day? Tell us about it. Share your stress with us.
Sensations
What are some weird sensations you enjoy?
For me, it's when you get your blood pressure taken and the cuff inflates around your arm. For some reason, I love it.
There was a friend I met from lcf's Discord that I knew briefly. We had a falling out after a few weeks but I still listen to this song she showed me.
Hello, fam.