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Part vent, part desperate plea for help…

My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)

I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.

I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.

And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.

Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?

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Previous one >>92970

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I'm 24 and still a virgin (hope to not be in at most 2 years) and graduated college about a year and a half ago in STEM and I walk into a mostly empty work place every morning while my coworkers are all frequently on business trips and vacations and just sit infront of a computer for 8 hours on end every day and its getting kind of soul crushing even though mostly i just doomscroll and shitpost. Im currently doing applications for graduate school but it'll be at least another year and a half before I can actually start.

I also have my mind set on marriage (i want to be their one and only, having a boyfriend for me is only a temporary intermediate step, i know call me a crazy handmaiden but its what i want and i will never change my mind because its so cute and romantic to me and the idea of a long-term BF/GF together is just repulsive)

I wanted help coming up with some ideas of what to do outside of work, stuff like volunteering and how to meet new people that share my interest.


All of my coworkers are twice my age and the one person my age quit after a month even though i really thought he liked me (he said it was because the hours didnt match his schedule as a student). i spent a month crying in the break room after he left because i was planning out our entire life together like the crazy idiot i am.

everywhere i go its just middle age and old people, i have no one my age to interact with. the few times i go out with my friends to the city i feel terrible because im too shy to talk to people and almost no one comes up me to try to talk to me. i often see attractive people and then i feel depressed i cant be in a relationship with them/marry them.

I talked to a moid my age once and made him blush and a male cashier asked me how my day was and where i go to school and it was like crack to me but that was over a month ago and i dont forseeably see myself having another such interaction until the summer when the weathers good because its always cold here and people dont congregate outside anywhere cool besides bars/nightclubs this time of year. i hate bars and nightclubs.

I went to one party where i salivated over a guy i wasnt even attracted to just because of how lonely i am and then afterward i went to a nightclub and saw a random boy who was so cute it hurts and then went home and cried because he was with a girl. every time i go to a nightclub its the same thing. i only attract awkward moids who suck at making converstation even if they are attractive (which isn't good because I also suck at conversation but im improving) and i cant drink alcohol anyways for medical reasons.

I feel like a lack of human interaction has fed a lot of bad habits and addictions because im constantly alone with myself and i dont enjoy my work in the slightest.

at work I just sit and spiral and read/think/get depressed about romance and prince charming during most of the work day and then go home and rub and hug my pillow at night to pretend its a person so i can fall asleep without crying. I want to be married so bad but cant find someone atm who i can make it happen with also idk if childhood abuse by an older relative and bad habits/coping mechanisms (excessive masturbation and doomscrolling all the time) will make me a terrible and irresponsible spouse and parent.

I love children and kind of wish i could volunteer with them but i dotn know how or where even.

i also tend to stay at work really late because i have major trouble focusing on my work because of ADHD and i often miss out on doing things with friends during the weekdays.

I had a month where i got to babysit the children of a relative and i loved it so much but now they are gone and ive gone back to being my lonely recluse shy self.


My sister tells me I have a nice body but it doesn't mean anything if i have no bf/husband to enjoy it with. I've improved my skin, hair, and body (still skinny but more of a doll type body rather than a skellington) and i've noticed myself getting more and more attention from the opposite sex but often times i think they're just being nice and showing politeness rather than being genuinely interested in me. The very few times a moid does actually look at me with a smile or try to talk to me i feel awesome for a couple hours before crying again about how it doesnt mean anything because its just politeness and they will never marry me.

Speaking to men never massages my ego just leaves me feeling missing out and wanting more and then crying from deprivation/starvation.

Its a very lonely and alienating experience and i feel like im serving a prison sentence until i get into gradschool, especially during the winter months.

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I always feel so alone because it feels as though EVERY woman has had some sort of romantic, or sexual experience. And here I am with nothing, a pathetic adult female KHHV. I feel so alone and as though my time is running out. My goal isn't to lose my virginity, but find someone who loves me.

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This thread is for people who have hit rock bottom. Not people who are having a bad day, but people who are living in the depths of despair. Whether you're a nona who is struggling with serious addiction, mental or physical illness that severely precludes your life, constantly feeling suicidal, whether you're being abused, have any other serious life issues or if you are simply unable to function and don't know where else to turn, vent here and let's try to support each other.

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Still no bf edition.

previous threads:
>>71974
>>18677
>>14789
>>10193
>>8844
>>5669

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Post any sister things!

Mine is that I've often wanted to tell my younger sister about this site but I'm not sure how she'd react, god forbid she found lolcow. Would you show your sisters this site?

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Post in this thread if you're thinking about suicide and would like some non-judgemental love and support.

CC is always here to listen to anything on your mind.

You are important to us and we love you.

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Anyone else here struggle with being extremely limerant/obsessed with certain people? I’d like to hear your stories. Rather not tell mine though.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence

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post about something positive that happened to you, even if it’s small

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doesn’t have to be about your boyfriend. I just hate fucking men at this point.

>everyone of them has failed me
>any moid I’ve dated either had a rape kink, or raped me
>porn/hentai addiction
>used me for my body
>always had an alternative motive
>manipulated me into insanity
>abused me if I didn’t do anything they wanted
>even my own dad has failed me

I have no fucking hope in this world.

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Old thread reached bump limit: >>>/feels/68927
>advice
>?s about romance, love, potential partners, etc.
>experiences and wishes
>venting

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Ever wanted to give someone a piece of your mind but you know you'd just regret it? Post in here and get it off your chest.

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Are there women in their 30s/late 20s browsing this board?

I'm younger but I'd like to ask a few questions.

>How is your life now (single, married, education, job, etc.)?
>How did life change in comparison to the previous years?
>What are the advantages of being at this age?
>How do people treat you?

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I'm not posting this in /nsfw/ since the entire premise of this thread is antithetical to that board, and I figure we could support each other here. I've seen a few posts here and there around cc of anons trying to curb this issue.

Who here is struggling with a porn addiction? Share your experience, thoughts and ideas, hold each other accountable, or just vent.

>a few resources on how porn affects the consumer, tips on staying free, and general topics of interest
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com
pretty much this entire website +

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-problems-here-come-women

https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/are-fetishes-innate

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/forum/threads/my-thoughts-on-rebooting-extremely-long-post.15558

https://a-broader-sensibility.tumblr.com/post/160909630573/anti-porn-masterpost-feel-free-to-reblog-and-add

http://www.cnn.com/2016/02/24/entertainment/terry-crews-porn-addition-feat/index.html

Anyone feel free to post other resources and articles. This is a very cursory list.

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Previous one >>89432

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ITT: we discuss frustrations at our jobs whether you were wronged or you yourself messed up

NEETS need not reply

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What was the most traumatic experience of your childhood (before 20)? I'd say mine was losing my house and a lot of my belongings in a fire.

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here are mine
>plays total war or paradox games
this can be explained by itself
>does roids
i have personal experience with this

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Come here, wayward souls, for any matter big and small. Insight to comfort can be found here for your issues or conundrums.

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the title says it all.

i ended up scrolling through the account of someone a few years younger than me and saw posts like pic related…just people (kids i guess) having fun with their friends and it made me sad because i never got to have that ):


can anyone relate?
also, general friendless anon thread.

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Do you guys ever struggle with loneliness? Is the feeling almost constant and intense, or is it more buried and hidden until you think about how alone you are?

Share you thoughts, feelings, vents, insecurities, fears etc about loneliness, maybe we can all help each other out to not feel so alone for a second <3

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Share your experiences with male friends proving to have nefarious or secret motives.

What are signs a male friend is interested versus just being nice, despite having a boyfriend?

What do you think these mean:
>tries to hang out one on one
>gives you random gifts
>offers to pay for everything
>texts you frequently
>takes pictures of you during group outings
>says "oh you don't mention your boyfriend much" despite having done so
>seems to focus on topics that lead to personal info
>asks questions relating to more intimate things

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>>51270 previous bread

I never brush my teeth for the full 2 minutes

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Supposedly, there is a taboo of anger for women.
So, tell me Nona, what was your latest anger? Are you a bitch (always venting), or a nice-lady (always avoiding anger)?

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Greentext traits and how lovely your partner is

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Old thread: >>27562

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Previous one >>86775

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>have crush
>crush text me song lyrics from a song I posted on my story
>I reply with the next lyrics (that’s my favorite song anon)
>”me too”
>I respond with “cute”
>he then responds ”wanna have sex”
>”wait what”
>he then informs “just ducking with you”
>in shock all I can do is say uh huh and call him a pussy
so that’s my night. What’s crush rejection story

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Old Thread >>12294

Get it off your chest.

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Previous one: >>>/feels/83058

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I wanted to make a thread to blogpost about being a Hikikiomori or a NEET, mainly to be able to talk about how you're progressing and to help with accountability.

I've tried journalling for a long time but I always fall off because it feels pointless to write long pages to myself that no one will ever read.

Post ITT: How your day has been, woes of being a neet/hikki, things you've achieved lately, your fears, and goals.

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Thread to discuss Long Distance Relationships. The struggles, the pros… meeting the person for the first time… meeting them for the 50th time… vent both sad and happy things. LDRs can be quite a challenge but it's the right thing for some people.

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New vent thread. Last thread: >>>/feels/79488

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Paradise to trouble in paradise. Come here for:

>advice
>?s about romance, love, potential partners, etc.
>experiences and wishes
>venting

Play nice!

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Can we have a no bf feels thread? I'm tired of pretending to be single and happy. I want a man, dammit.

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Discuss the difficulties and joys of being lesbian, whether it's related to your partner or how you're treated by society. Share your stories of when you realized you were lesbian, too!

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Previous: >>>/feels/77420

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post all things related to your involuntary celibacy

thread prompts:
>when did you realize you were a femcel and how old are you now
>what does being a femcel mean to you
>vent about celibacy
>what are your interests ? ( just curious, not necessarily related )
feel free to add more

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Previous thread
>>74767
Post your woes and copes here sisters.

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How do asexual or sex repulsed nonas cope in a sex obsessed world where increasing numbers of people are making their entire identity about sex?

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Previous thread >>72144

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Have you sought justice after being raped/sexually assaulted? Was it a success? What advice would you give to a victim finding justice through court or other means?

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tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome

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Previous thread >>69156

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i tell my dentist that i floss regularly even though i dont

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Wanted to make a thread for us to write about stuff that we want. Could be:

- Attainable dreams
- Unrealistic dreams
- Stuff that you want for the long run, like a type of career, housing and moving plans, etc
- Stuff that you really just want right now, like a holiday, a cute set of clothings, food
- An imaginary setting in your head that you want and want to talk about, being it realistic or not, like imagine a life you wish you would have

And all the stuff in between, I guess.

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Previous thread >>66074

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Previous: >>63354

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Whats something you wish someone would tell you right now?

❤️

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Did your boyfriend/husband wait for marriage before sex? What is your experience with convincing men to wait? Is it worth it? Does it work? Do the good men also walk away? Is it even a good idea in the first place, if seemingly no one seems to do that anymore?

I am from Germany and this whole concept is basically completely foreign to young people here.

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Previous thread >>60740

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>Whats stopping you from not being a femcel

For me its not like there aren't any guys that are into me it's just that its hard for me to connect socially with people.

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Previous thread >>58197

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last thread was >>56355

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Do you want to get married?
If so, what's your dream wedding?
Who would you invite?
What wedding dress would you wear?
What theme would you do?

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Share the good things that have happened to you recently!

I randomly got a call for a job that I didn't apply for, but the job offer is my passion (cake decorating)! I went to the interview yesterday, and was hired immediately. The chef is a cool druggy gamer guy as are the other dudes in the kitchen, so now I'm gonna make a bunch of awesome cool nerdy friends! He really liked the cake I brought him and the work I did. The pay is more than I was expecting.
The only thing that makes me nervous is that he also wants me to work the line, which I've never done, but the place is classy so we're putting out beautiful food that I'm really proud of and even messing with molecular gastronomy, which I've wanted to get into for a very long time! I'm so excited to do my best.

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last thread was >>54448

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Last thread was >>51005

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Last thread was >>49241

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Share the good, the bad, and hell of pursuing a degree. Whether it be living in a dorm with a horrible roommate, classes kicking your ass, or something happening relating to school that has filled you with joy.

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last thread was >>46828

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Lets talk about it. Are you capable of stoicism or dependent on comfortableness and immediate pleasure?

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Do not make threads about the following topics or you will be banned:

- Race/Ethnicity/Nationality (including stereotypes & preferences)
- Religion
- (Why) do guys…
- (Why) do you like guys who [insert preference here]
- (Why) do guys like [insert preference here]
- how to get a bf/gf (who does xyz)
- Any fetish/kink talk

If you want to talk about Radfem/TERF/Gendercritical themes, do not make a new thread. Post in the existing threads on /b/ and keep discussion civil.

Use the catalog.

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I have a hard time making friends with others both online and irl. Does anyone have advice in how to make friends and be likable and sociable?

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Are you a copycat? Have you ever stolen aspects of another girl's personality, interests or fashion sense on purpose to be more like them?

If I told anyone this in real life, they'd probably think I was bizarre, but i want to get it off my chest. To be honest most of my personality now and my likes and dislikes and interests were stolen from a girl who's blog I used to read 3-4 years ago. She wasn't anyone e-famous but I just stumbled across her and somehow I became obsessed. I cyberstalked her all over the internet and I started listening to every band she posted about, watching every movie, posting things with the same sense of humor and going over her selfies for aesthetic details every time she posted them so I could try my best to copy her style. I've never spoken to her openly but I used to send her all sorts of anon messages so I could find out things about her to better emulate them. Eventually I stopped stalking her accounts as much and lost track of her online profiles as she would change names a lot. Recently I checked back to find she was completely different now, and in my opinion much less interesting. I'm still basically a reflection of her from 4 years ago, and I'm fairly comfortable with it all still even though it sounds quite creepy when I type it out. Most people who know me now weren't really around in my life 4 years ago, and they have no idea that almost everything about me is copied from some random girl online i've never even properly spoken to. I still use some of her dead aliases as screen names (don't worry, only as nicknames on places she would never be able to see or be disturbed by if she did find me). Am I alone in this? is anyone else this creepy?

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Last thread was >>45059 vent your worries and frustrations

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I didn't know if there was one or if you ladies care. So I made one anyway.

Dating General is for asking questions and or advice, sharing experiences, telling stories and so on

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Last thread maxxed out: >>>/feels/8844

Reminder:
Admin's post: >>>/feels/10163
>We ban trolls and delete their posts as we find them, but we've also had an influx of new genuine user groups who have clashing ideas of what the board culture should be like. Please report suspected troll posts and we'll take care of the rest.

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It happened 3 times already anons, i'm losing my mcfreakin mind and none were even full on rape

Everywhere i look there's predators. On the bus i see men grinding against women who can't move, at college there are known pervert teachers and no one does anything about it, on the street i see harassment and stares, my insurance covers for doctors who abused minors, my favourite musicians and artists are scum and fucked teens, so so many watch violent porn. With every woman i talk to, there is a story like this, of men hurting them just to get off.

I distrust every single man,no matter what they are to me, because these aren't isolated cases, the ones who are normal human beings seem to be the rarity.

But i just can't fucking take it anymore, the fear. They're everywhere, they're stronger and our justice system is completely useless against even rape with all the evidence.

It got to the point where i'm mildly suicidal. There is nowhere to run and i can't avoid them, it seems inevitable something will happen again judging by the experience of the women around me.

I don't know what to do anymore and can't take it much longer, currently i don't even want to bathe because i am disgusted about touching my body and being reminded of stuff that happened or could happen.

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We hit bump on >>43518 so here we go again, talk about your problems and vent your frustrations

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We've hit post limit on >>41254 so we can continue here, talk about your problems and vent your frustrations

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>>38741 last thread reached bump limit so I thought it would be a good idea to make a new one
A thread for talking about your problems and venting your frustrations.

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A thread for getting things off your chest, say what's on your mind, organize your thoughts, anything goes.
We reached bump limit. Old thread: >>35766

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I know you're out there! Lets share some NEET feels and talk about our situation.
>why are you a NEET?
>how long have you been a NEET for?
>do you like it? why or why not?
>have you ever tried to do anything to change your situation?
>how much longer do you see yourself living this way for?
>how do you spend your free time?

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Singles general. How long have you been single? How do you feel about it?

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Has anyone lived with or currently live with someone, a room-mate, a friend, a relative, that they didn't get along with or that was mean to them?

Feels, I guess, plus advice?
How did you survive? (Did you?) What advice do you have? What would you do different? What do you suggest others do?

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>tfw no girl group of internet friends

men suck and their shitty discord servers

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I'm probably going to get some hate for this, but here we go.

I have a slightly successful YouTube channel and a pretty slow thread on lolcow /snow/. Through mutual interests, I've met a girl, and we've developed a mutual crush on each other.

Unfortunately, I found out she's in the lolcow discord. Now I can think about is whether or not she's a farmer trying to get close to gossip about me. I know it sounds self important but I've been catfished before due to my online presence. What do I do? How fucked am I?

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what are your relationship with your exes like?

>ex 1, female, online, a few years ago - she ghosted me after we broke up, we were best friends since i was 8
whenever i see something that reminds me of her i get panicky and feel physically hurt inside, and a lot of things remind me of her. she left a hole in my heart
>ex 2, online, male, broke up a few months ago
i still obsess over him/think about him every day/night

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Any of you ladies have male friends?

What is your relationship with them like?

Is the friendship different from the one you have with your female friends?

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Last thread maxxed out: >>>/feels/10193

Reminder:
Admin's post: >>>/feels/10163
>We ban trolls and delete their posts as we find them, but we've also had an influx of new genuine user groups who have clashing ideas of what the board culture should be like. Please report suspected troll posts and we'll take care of the rest.

Never made a Thread so I hope I did nothing wrong

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How would you make up for cheating on someone you love? Not necessarily because you got caught.

Asking for a friend.

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Post here if you haven't lost your virginity.

>turn 22 in two weeks
>never had sex
>never had a boyfriend
>only kissed a boy once in high school
>too afraid of rejection to actively seek relationships

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blah blah max capacity blah


>>>/feels/res/25163.html

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In this thread we ask (or give) for advices to or from other miners

Don't be unnecessarily rude to each other

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How did they go for you guys, if you had them?

Mine is currently okay, but I'm afraid the distance will do us in eventually. When we argue, the argument always revolves around the distance or things to do with the distance.

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the other one has reached full capacity.
>>>/feels/21617
i hope those wings were good, anon.

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Old thread >>>/feels/18315 is at cap.

Gather here, O heartbroken, angry, or happy ones.

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Old thread ran out of posts:
>>>/feels/14789
If you specifically desire a shy bf, this thread also exists now:
>>>/feels/17821

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TFW NO CUTE SHY SLIGHTLY AWKWARD BF TO CUDDLE WITH
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

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Last one has reached post limit
>>>/feels/15610

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Does anyone feel like they can't fit in online communities? I'm thinking of regulating myself to a permanent lurker because every time I join an online community I can't get along with anyone. What's the point?

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Like seriously what the fuck, I was talking to my friends the other day and all four of them had stories about emotionally or physically abusive boyfriends that they had stayed with for long amounts of time, I then started looking online and asking about and apparently this is really common.

I had no Idea this was a major thing outside of films and tv, no wonder guys talk about how "nice guys finish last" etc; they're all dealing with or getting rejected by girls with trauma from getting beaten up and cheated on.

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Spill 'em girls.

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>tfw no bf
it's not fair

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Old thread: >>8291

Last one reaches autosage status.
Vent your heart out, anons.

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We all have some stories of friends we used to know and love but aren't there for us anymore.

What happened for you to drift apart?
Do you miss them?
Have you tried to reconnect?
Etc.

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Discuss your experiences, your recovery, and help out fellow miners who have dealt with and/or are currently dealing with anything related to sexual abuse/assault.

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A support thread for people who are on or may be on the spectrum.

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Share your experiences.

Has your SO flirted with other people, had an emotional affair or have they done something physical? Do you suspect they might be cheating on you?

Tell us
- What are the warning signs?
- How did you find out?
- Have they tried to deny it?
- How did it end?
- Do you hate them?
- How did you get over it?

If you have cheated on someone, feel free to put your input in here.
If you need support, post here as well.

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Old thread: >>>/feels/5889

Old thread reached cap and I need to cry

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I am SO sick of men. I'm not particularly a feminist or anything but they can be SO selfish. I have my male friends and some of them I care about deeply, but even they can be REALLY insensitive sometimes and all my guys on the internet have some obsession with making anti-woman "jokes" all the time (usually later I find out they're rarely even jokes, cuz they're usually hiding some obvious bitterness towards women) and they won't stop even though they know it hurts my feelings. They're so disrespectful they can't even not make a 'woman beating' joke when I'm trying to relay a story about how some woman in church was telling me about their experience being abused by their husband for 11 years, they think everything is theirs, for example demanding that they can be misogynistic on my discord, with excuses like 'free speech'even though that makes no sense and I just am trying to create a healthy space for me and my female friends.

They're so damn entitled. Can we have a vent thread on times men have been complete dicks to us?

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Old thread: >>>/feels/3849

You know the drill

Image source: https://kittenwitchandthebadvibes.tumblr.com/post/168272427901/kittenwitchandthebadvibes-counting-your

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Last thread maxxed out: >>>/feels/5669

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the good, the bad, the confusing

are you dating anyone? got a crush?

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Old thread >>>/feels/1924

Let it all out, friends.

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Old one Maxed out my dudettes.

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