moid hate thread
doesn’t have to be about your boyfriend. I just hate fucking men at this point.
>everyone of them has failed me
>any moid I’ve dated either had a rape kink, or raped me
>porn/hentai addiction
>used me for my body
>always had an alternative motive
>manipulated me into insanity
>abused me if I didn’t do anything they wanted
>even my own dad has failed me
I have no fucking hope in this world.
Relationship General #3
Questions, experiences, advice, venting, about romance, love, potential partners.
Old thread reached bump limit: >>84469
Vent thread
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Tell us about your problems, nona
How do I deal with being ghosted often? I think half of people who I talk to online end up ghosting me one way or another and I can't understand why. Like I will be talking to someone and at some point they even delete their account out of the blue and I have no way of contacting them anymore.
I wanna know is it that common or am I a special case?
I used to enjoy talking to people online as a substitute to irl friends and relationship but I'm currently losing motivation to talk because of this. Deep down I know I should drop online chatting altogether and make real friends but I don't feel ready for that. But this ghosting shit sure does push me closer to it, but it's bad for my mental health, but not talking to anyone at all is also bad for my mental health.
If you have experience you want to share, please do.
Instagram makes me feel like a loser
I’m introverted and keep to myself mostly. I don’t step out to my room except for when to go to work or run errands. I only have 100 followers on my Instagram which I like because I want to keep private. It’s just that I feel bad about myself whenever I see these girls with 1k+ followers (and people they’re following) who get 200+ likes her post when I get like 5.
It’s not about validation. It’s about me feeling obligated to have more followers but I can’t name 1k+ people I care about to follow. I removed many followers because I realized we didn’t even know each other outside of social media. I only followed them when I started my first year of college.
Some of the girls who I know in real life who have 3k+ followers are literal social climbers.
Help me make this not affect me as much!
Bad weather friends
We all know about fairweather friends, but what about the opposite? I have a friend (irl) who thrives on taking care of people and as a result is constantly overwhelmed with everything. I try not to bother her when I'm dealing with anything so as to not add to her load, but I noticed that she's never as interested in me as when some shit is up. And I'm the same way, if someone's about to break up their relationship or dealing with drama I'm way more motivated to talk to them compared to receiving good news and yass kweening them. Why are we like that
Traumatic Experiences
What was the most traumatic experience of your childhood (before 20)? I'd say mine was losing my house and a lot of my belongings in a fire.
careers with larger female workforces?
hello nonas! i was wondering if anyone had some advice on what sort of jobs/careers in ur experience tend to have more women. i work part time while studying but im finding through work and placement that my field is mostly moids. i work better and im much more comfortable around other women so its a big consideration for me. obviously no one field is gonna be moidless but if u work in a certain field and/or are studying something that u see a lot of other women in then please share!
>join femcel facebook group
>it’s nothing but troons talking about how well they pass
>troons talking about their sexual fantasies and how much sex they have
>scrotes being horny
>leave group
>opt to permanently delete account
why is it always like this?
Comparison is the thief of joy
How do I stop making myself miserable by comparing myself to other people?
For context: I woke up today feeling depressed, these days have become more often recently. By all measures my life is going fine but I can't stop comparing myself to other people. I have a lot of bad vivid memories of things I've done like a loop in my head. Things that really don't matter anymore or everyone has long forgotten about. Moments of awkwardness and being autistic when I was younger. I compare myself to everyone else and just wish I wasn't me, like I could start over.
What do I do to get out of this loop? I miss phone calls from people trying to get in touch and I'm just stuck.
(un)official blogposting thread
tell me about your day cc!
stories also welcome
eating disorders in women/girls
it makes me so upset seeing so many women and young girls developing eating disorders and the number of females developing them just keeps growing. I wish strict beauty standards weren’t pushed on us at such a young age, there’s a reason why the majority of people with eating disorders are female. I’ve been suffering with bulimia nervosa for a while, when my bulimia was at its worst I was binging and purging 3/4 times a day. I was constantly feeling weak and tired from either restricting or purging, sometimes even thinking I was going to faint. I hate that we as women have to go through so much just to feel beautiful. I wish we weren’t so heavily fixated on being beautiful, no woman should ever feel like they have to permanently damage their body in order to fit unrealistic beauty standards. no matter if a woman is conventionally attractive or not, that shouldn’t define who she is. women are so much more than their physical appearance and I wish more of us realised this.
My boyfriend wants to marry me unofficially
We have been together for four years now. We are both from different regions of Germany and had a long-distance relationship going on, before our first meeting after 6 months of talking online. We have been living together for a year and half now. He is tall, ruggedly handsome, has striking blue eyes and very intelligent and can talk about any topic for hours. He has always been right-wing, while I was more apolitical left-leaning, but that has never been a problem. We both accept each other as we are and have interesting conversations about it. We have been talking about marriage for a week now and he basically said he doesn't accept the monopoly of the state on the definition of words, because they allowed same-sex marriage and made marriage a "femdom bondage contract". So he said he would only consider marrying me privately without getting officially married.
What do you think about this, nonas? I know there are many situations, where marriage gives you an advantage, not just in terms of taxes. Like being able to visit your partner in a hospital, being able to make decisions for them, if they are incapable, not being forced to answer any questions in front of a court incriminating your spouse, to name a few I can think of. What are some other arguments I could use to make marriage seem like a good idea?
And would you agree to this? I haven't made a decision yet. I never felt strongly about marriage, but during my time with him I warmed up to the idea.
Weddings
Do you want to get married?
If so, what's your dream wedding?
Who would you invite?
What wedding dress would you wear?
What theme would you do?
Lesbian Feels
Discuss the difficulties and joys of being lesbian, whether it's related to your partner or how you're treated by society. Share your stories of when you realized you were lesbian, too!
Scrote brother
my brother is like a 3/10 objectively - balding, ugly, short, blasts andrew tate all day yet he consistently dates (uses) women way above his worth just by being overconfident. i resent him for it bc when youre a confident ugly asshole moid you just seem get away with it.
confessions thread 2
>>51270 previous bread
I never brush my teeth for the full 2 minutes
Anyone not into huge age gaps but still prefer the guy to be 3 to 5 years older?
Is this weird? That age gap doesn't even matter over 25 but I still prefer to have it be present in a relationship. No idea why.
girl (platonic) friend thread
how are nonas finding friends??
i'm really struggling to find likeminded girl (platonic) friendships… ive been a shutin for a long time due to the demands of my course load, but i would really love to try and put myself out there and find friends again.
the friends i have, which are mostly long distance (i've moved around a lot) or online, are nice. we engage in a lot of chats ab common interests, hobbies, views on the world etc. but i found that some often pander to moids and they don't seem to be fully aware of how damaging the patriarchy is. like they haven't woke up to it yet / or ready to accept the gravity of it yet.
so as a result i often get painted as "sexist" lol (as if thats possible)/ or i end up just keeping my mouth shut on topics and being passive. i feel like as a result, i cant really build authentic friendships bc my value system is such a large part of who i am.
i think bc of abuse and my experience w moids, i also associate girls w my value systems/similar opinions on moids as safe.
i've tried bumble friends, discord, and more. im in a radfem server at the moment, but theres troons in there. & i'm in another cc related disord server - which is the safest one i've been able to find. but would really love to try and connect w more nonas..
how are yall making girl friends? or dealing w the lack of friends??
Is this Napoleon syndrome?
I was hanging out with my one of my friends and her guy friend, whom I’ve never met before, came to talk to us. This one guy is very seemingly confident and was talking about how many “bitches” he gets and how much of a player he is. He also loves calling women ugly, especially those who have the audacity of being attracted to him though he is short and quite unfortunate looking himself.
I’ve never met a man with such a huge ego. Sometimes I want to burst his bubble but I’m sure someone in life will do that for him one day.
Hikki/NEET Diaries
I wanted to make a thread to blogpost about being a Hikikiomori or a NEET, mainly to be able to talk about how you're progressing and to help with accountability.
I've tried journalling for a long time but I always fall off because it feels pointless to write long pages to myself that no one will ever read.
Post ITT: How your day has been, woes of being a neet/hikki, things you've achieved lately, your fears, and goals.
How do I literally forget
I was sexually abused in a very horrible way and lost my innocence, but sometimes when I wake up from a very vivid dream, I forget everything that happened to me and I feel innocent and happy again, I can feel this "innocence" for hours until it all comes back to me. I want to forget permanently, I don't like being depressed anymore and I know I don't have to feel this way anymore, does anyone know much about this?
Unsent letters
Ever wanted to give someone a piece of your mind but you know you'd just regret it? Post in here and get it off your chest.
Limerence
Anyone else here struggle with being extremely limerant/obsessed with certain people? I’d like to hear your stories. Rather not tell mine though.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence
how does one cope with anhedonia
or better yet get rid of it entirely?
i’ve tried all the standard advice: exercise, eat 5 serving of vegetables, active social life, went to therapy, psych meds, good relationships with family, got a pet, traveled, various art classes. i currently volunteer regularly at several organizations that (in theory) align with my personal values/beliefs. i’ve also tried the classic self destructive behaviors, which made me feel at least different for about a year, but eventually returned to just going through the motions, even drugs, which was especially disappointing.
everything just feels flat and draining. there is literally nothing that i want to do with my life; the only things i genuinely enjoy are sleep and drinking cold water. i always feel like i’m just performing some version of normal, but i don’t know why or for who. i’m vaguely bothered by the feeling that i’m shortchanging my friends and family, but i’m not actively suicidal or even particularly distressed, so therapists and psychiatrists tend to be unhelpful or generally dismissive, respectively.
a warning
ive been stuck on how to deal with this information for months. i am very scared of retaliation because they datamined information off of me from my accounts.
a couple of months ago i added a guy from /soc/ who appeared to me as a very shy, but intelligent person. he listed off many hobbies, achievements, and interests that seemed to denote someone who was thoughtful and unique.
i was in a very low point in my life due to circumstances that happened with another person in my life. so i had been befriending people off of /soc/ for a bit and that's when we started talking.
i quickly found out that we shared a board on 4chan together and that had peaked my interest. i remember one day, i can't exactly remember the post, but i got a response to one of the posts i had made. it referenced my ethnicity as a southern european in a way that made it seem like he recognized who i was, and slowly i realized that he had become familiar with recognizing my posting style on the board.
things took a turn from here.
at the beginning, posts centered around our different opinions on topics like race, gender, religion, and society. i enjoyed going on the board because i thought i had shared a place that i could come to to ramble about my interests and have someone i knew listen, and other anons could chip in if they wanted to.
i dont remember when exactly things started to change. i already had a strange feeling about him because he had a fixation with polygamy and harems, something that was offputting to me but i chalked it down to a difference of opinions. we spoke about controversial things so i had tolerated it for the most part, and i couldnt necessarily avoid him if i wanted to keep using the board.
over time we became more sexually intimate and i remember distinctly, that one day i sent him nude photos. when i went to the board later, i read a post describing my body as being masculine and the op disliked that his girlfriend (me) wasnt causing sexual arousal. i confronted him and he quickly dismissed it by saying he didn't mean it.
it feels… like everything just got worse that day. i started reading posts about my ethnicity that were hostile whenever i was on the board, and really specific things about my appearance he disliked about me. i quickly became erratic whenever i was on the board and hypersensitive to the types of posts i would see.
the breaking point was when i started reading things that i knew i never disclosed to him. very personal things and private matters with people in my life i had written about in a google doc started showing up in posts he made. at this point in time, he was aware of my first name and the school i attended, and unfortunately, my email was simply my first and last name.
i put two and two together and realized that my login credentials somehow were breached. financial information, my addresses, messages between family members, other social media i used, private personal info, browsing history - all this information was available to someone who i never shared account logins with. it correlated with the type of info he would include in his posts. all they needed was my name. perhaps it could have been a phishing link but im unsure. when i searched my email for leaked data breaches, it showed up as being one of the emails leaked. i strongly suspect this could have been how it was available to him.
i wanted to write this down because i still cant quite make sense of why he did the things he did. there's not that much evidence as to his behavior which is why its so insidious. i strongly suspect he uses imageboards and /soc/ to find people to do this type of thing to, and i think he did it to others as well. i am extremely paranoid of people these days.
please make sure to turn on two factor authentication for any private accounts you have, this includes your icloud. make sure your email isnt included in any data breaches. you can turn on notifications if they do appear, like the site haveibeenpwned. if someone has your email account, particularly your google account, extremely personal data as the aforementioned is immediately available to them if your login credentials become involved in a data breach. in my case i used a consistent password and this led to them being able to access multiple accounts of mine.
make sure to use a quality antivirus and turn on your firewall. and lastly, be wary of what you share with others on the internet. lots of personal data couldve been secure if i had been more wary of the type of people i was talking to.
whats insidious is this person was very kind to me for the first few months. i didnt chalk them as the type of person to do that sort of thing until it was too late. they were intelligent, intelligent enough to know my vulnerabilities and hack into my accounts. not every online person who seems harmless, even for the first few months, is someone you can trust. there are people who derive pleasure from doing this type of thing to others. if you are on imageboards, the likelihood is that you are already pretty lonely and perhaps will be more susceptible to the type of emotional manipulation these people use.
be cautious. dont trust people just because they know how to make you feel "good." trust people who demonstrate moral character. navigate online communities, particularly ones with mentally ill/unwell members, with caution and awareness. dont be an idiot like me.
sorry if this is not worded well. this has really worn me mentally and emotionally. i havent eaten much in days and i think its affected my cognition a lot. i feel pretty drained but i wanted to write this down somewhere because i feel incredibly alone with everything ive been through.
theres not enough documentation, and frankly i dont want this being a major part of my life, so i have to stomach a lot of this in private. i wanted to post this somewhere as a warning. perhaps ill come back to this post later but i likely wont. i just needed to say this somewhere to get it off my chest and feel like i warned others.
again sorry if this is written badly. i may rewrite for more details if i am in a heathier stage in my life and feel like this post isnt adequate. if anyone else has been through similar things, please know youre not alone. thats all i wanted to say, thanks for reading.
Does life get any better/easier?
I'm tired of never being able to be upwardly mobile, and I absolutely hate having to rely on the kindness of strangers to get by. Is life always going just me sitting around, waiting for the circumstances I cannot change to get better on their own with the passing of time?
I always feel as though everyone hates me, or is just one step away from hating me. Like I’m always on egg shells, only awaiting the anticipated fall. I feel as though no community or group I join truly likes my presence. I can only feel as though they’re merely tolerating me. It takes such little things for me to realize I’m not actually wanted or liked. I dread the day my partner stops liking me, but I can only guess on a calendar when that will be. I feel so disgusting and hideous. I only wonder when they will feel that way towards me too. Why can’t I ever come to terms with liking myself? I have so much hatred towards me and I don’t know how to stop, really. Does it end?
>Start talking to a virgin from 4chan
>hes polish but relocated to England so he has like an English accent with a mix of polish
>travels all the way to America to see me for my birthday and brings me all these really nice gifts. Like a bottle of Dior perfume and all these books I wanted and jewelry.
>he even brought me flowers which no guy has ever really done.
>goes to restaurant and girl compliments his accent by saying it sounds cute
Literally going to pluck her eyeballs from her skull. Like I know he sounds and looks cute that’s why I took his virginity.
How’d you two meet?
How did you meet the person you’re with?
And/Or
The last/best person you’ve been with?
I was contacted by my abusive ex boyfriends’ most recent ex
For context: I haven’t spoken to my abusive ex in well over three years and I was only aware he was dating someone new about a year ago when I finally got around to blocking some of his side/spam accounts (had her name in his bio). I received a random Instagram message the other day from someone I didn’t recognize and they very briefly asked me if I had ever dated ex. Her reasoning for contacting me was trying to figure out why me and ex had broken up in the first place because he had never told her (no surprise there) and I assume she wanted to see if there was some pattern of behavior. The whole situation however has just left me feeling so fucking angry. I finally had put most of it behind me, but finally realizing that this awful man had done the same exact thing to another innocent woman, an even younger woman than myself to boot, has made me so irrationally upset. I guess I was hoping the pain I had gone through was a selfish one and that he would treat the people he dated in the future better, but of course not he’s just actual scum. Like myself this poor girl had wasted years and thousands of dollars on him and had nothing to show for it, but emotional scars and insecurities moving forward. I just don’t understand how the worst men get to continually treat women like this and get no punishment for it.
bf deserves better
be me
>neet for almost 2 years.
>socially anxious. lost most of her friends because was scared to talk to them and worsen relationships over time.
>constant fuck up.
>chubby, stress eating.
>lazy and procrastinating.
>super possessive of people.
>was mega insecure as a teen so did questionable stuff online as 15-16yo, still blaming herself for it.
be him
>super fit, attractive, hot, takes good care of himself, good sense of fashion.
>3.9 GPA.
>showers me in unexpected gifts.
>literal millionaire. makes shit ton of money, hardworking. literally so attractive when working jfc.
>made sure I can move in with him.
>supports me studying, brings me tea if I'm tired, helps focus and gives study tips. pays for my college.
>listens to my problems and truly understands me.
>charming and funny.
>encourages me to be social. people just crave him around them yet he spends time with me.
>fixes my fuck ups for me and makes sure I don't do them again.
>praises my body and face. helps me working out.
>helps me being social.
How is this real? He is so amazing. Everyone would kill do date him yet he chose me…
I want to be better yet I feel like I am failure. Idk if I'm the only one to say this here, but sometimes men do deserve better, definitely someone better than me.
Taking a crappy job
I used to get perfect grades without too much effort in high school, then near the end this got messed up for various reasons. Still managed to get into college but things still bad. Took some years out and now doing some distance courses and getting perfect grades again.
Meanwhile, I've been struggling to get a job for a long time and have been applying literally everywhere. I live in the big city now thanks to my bf. I know a few other people from high school and college are also here because they have good careers.
How do I cope if I'm stuck working in McDonald's and someone I know comes in? Either they are going to think "Haha I knew she was dumb, no wonder she ended up here" or "What a pity. All those good grades got you here?". It feels self absorbed to care about these things but I can't seem to shake the thought. I'm not going to turn down a job but I feel like I will be paranoid and feel deeply shameful if someone I know comes in.
It's not that I look down on people in these jobs (I actually have a lot of respect for them as I know they aren't easy) but I have a lot of mental baggage. A lot of my self worth comes from being smart as it's the only thing I'm good at. I got bullied in high school and it involved rumors being spread about me. I don't want people gossiping about me again, even if I'm not in contact with them. I'm not on social media so I can't post things that add context.
I'm over thinking things and shouldn't care but I suppose it feels like I will have worked hard to turn things around (getting good grades, having a job, getting to the big city) but the person that used to know me will take one look and think I'm a dumb loser and I'll feel like I'm at rock bottom again.
My mom is probably mentally not particulary healthy and idk what to do now.
Of course I love her as her child, which makes the situation even worse. She is a bit obsessed with me (only child). She behaves completely different towards me than to others and she pays me a lot of money for my studies, or rather living with my bf and paying rent and food.
I don't really know how to even describe the problem I would like to talk about.
She and my dad have always argued a lot since I remember, but never divorced. They are completely different types of personalities. Recetly they don't argue that much, but she is practically terrorizing anybody who doesn't want to do what she wants. She is a manager and experiences a lot of stress at her work. She cope by sport and tourism, but it is getting out of hand. She walks or runs many km everyday. She needs to go for tourism and sights every weekend for both days. She doesn't really have any good friends (and doesn't talk with her family) to go with and since I don't live there all the time, she makes my dad to go with her. He isn't interested in it, but she yells at him until he yields to go.
She have this crazy mood swings when she yell and somebody and in 10 minutes brings them presents. She also often change plans (like 5 times and often in very short term) and changes her opinions from extreme to extreme. She never makes concessions, for example they wanted to see me for my bday. Me and my dad wanted to go to a pub for beer, but she doesn't like pubs (it was a nice and design pub), so she was very unpleasant and trying to cause argue with him. She also never listens to anybody telling her what to do and doing only what she thinks fit.
For example they agreed to go away for few days and I should have come to be at their house. The day before the departure, she reportedly started screaming at dad, refusing to go. She never said why and she told is was because something I strongly doubt. She was in such a rage, my dad left the house driving just far away because she was saying him to get out.
I knew this before I called her and asked where dad is - she told me she doesn't know, probably arranging something. She was clearly nervouse but didn't want to tell me what happened.
I suspect her to have a kind of personality disorder. But I don't know what to do, because this situation is unsustainable but I am afraid of telling her something. She is incredibly mean to my father, but we don't belive divorce would be a solution because ofc other people need to live with her on and I can't imagine having a children, telling her not to give him something for food, because she wouldn't listen to my with anything. As she is no interested in taking criticism and doing what we think she should, I don't know how to tell her to visit a psychologist. Any suggestions?
Have I left femceldom?
Lately, I’ve been complimented by girls on my looks everyday this past week in addition to 1 guy. Them telling me that I look “pretty”. I am unsure about being conventionally attractive.
I have a wobbly head and oil-prone acne on my face. Basically, I am actually pretty unattractive. I would rate myself a 4, a 5 at best. I think I have a nice body but my face ruins my looks. I am not photogenic at all and I absolutely hate taking pictures because I end up looking really bad in them. I don’t mind compliments on more objective things like clothes and hair but being complimented on my looks feels deceptive.
If I am so pretty, why is it mostly girls saying this? Is it out of pity? Do they see an ugly girl trying to look more attractive and think to compliment her to make her day, something akin to a pig wearing makeup? I know girls often lie to each other to make ourselves feel better. It’s like patronizing the autistic kid.
I’m used to being called ugly and I’ve been bullied for it. And this wasn’t years ago, this was like a year ago. I highly doubt I’ve become extremely attractive in a matter of a year so what’s going on?
I had one experience of a girl saying, “She’s so pretty. See, I told you! I saw her the other day.” Not here to “brag”. I feel like a freakshow.
Sexual Regret
How do you deal with the shame and trauma that comes with sexual regret?
how do i find men who arent trash
I literally live in a shithole and have nothing to do. i tried finding guys my age(21) but they all suck. i want to find a man whos mature and strong but all i can find are just stupid stoners
gooning and moid degeneracy
i have recently gotten into the gooning rabbithole and im so disgusted and sick. i genuinely feel like killing myself. this is real life, not just a bad dream.
i have reason to suspect my ex moid that i was in love with (a disgusting, porn addict, bisexual, twinkfucker, sexually exploitative, incel piece of shit) was a gooner. not only that, i believe he had real life sessions and chats with at least one other guy where they did this shit together.
i haven't talked to him in 3 years, i can only imagine how fucking worse he has gotten.
keep all the insults to yourselves, i have already thought them myself. i was 17 and a fucking idiot. today i wouldn't touch this "person" with a 10 foot pole. i just wish i could go back in time and have nothing to do with him.
but anyway, the problem is that he used to coerce me into sending nudes. that's my fear. that he still has them and does that disgusting shit… my god, that haunts me. those can be around forever. they can be put online. they can be photoshopped, deepfaked, and who knows what other abominations that they will come up with in the future. not even death could free me if that's the case. at least in the past, women used to have an husband. they could get mistreated, beaten, sexually abused, raped. but that's it. they eventually died, and nothing is left of them, not even bones. they were free eventually.
today, not even death could free us. men will sexualize that too. men jerk off to gore and torture and pictures of dead women. they could probably jerk off to this very post and the fact that i feel like shit about it. have i genuinely gone insane? is this a normal way of thinking? im so self aware all the time and paranoid that something im doing might be a fetish and getting off some moid watching. it's actually affecting me, i can't live like this.
i just wanna end it but then i think how selfish that is. that 20 years from now girls will be born against their will, and subjected to this and more, as it gets even worse. who in 2008 could have predicted the normalization of porn watching for all moids in 2013-ish? who in 2013 could have predicted deep fakes, ai, gooning, and all current degeneracy of 2020's? what society will girls in the next generations live in? i know im supposed to fight for them but im weak.
I was injured in a car crash and I suspect I have nerve damage, it's getting progressively harder to use my leg that was impacted. This is really messed up but I'm kind of excited thinking about maybe eventually being in a wheelchair because hopefully people will be nicer to me. I have no friends so it would actually be a social buff if strangers ask why I'm in a wheelchair and are sympathetic. I know a lot of disabled people don't like being used for "inspiration porn" where people tell them they're so strong and inspirational just for being alive but to me that seems much better than my current situation of being alone.
academic failure
we had a mock exam at school today, I used to be the first person in my class but i couldnt stop itching my hands bc of my allergies, i literally couldnt fill out more than half of my answers to the form that we have to have machines read it. I feel utterly useless
>That moment when I make a new friend and she's really touchy so she'll hold my hand and cling onto me and stare into my eyes a little too long but I don't know if she's straight and this is normal girl friendship stuff or if she's gay and flirting with me but I can't ask or I'll make it to obvious so all I can do is continue acting like always as everytime I make a joke she laughs and shifts herself a little closer to me.
>This has happened with multiple girls already and I'm always scared shitless to do anything, I just return the same level of touchiness with 0 fucking clue of what's going on.
>I never ask or make a move because the last thing I want is to make a straight girl uncomfortable, but I'm also a lesbian so I can't help getting flustered.
>I fucking hate this, I feel like a pervert, how can I tell what are the intentions of girls like these?
using males as meat
i lost romantic feelings for males and only have vaguely sexual ones for a super restrict few.
i dont respect or admire any of them and just feel contempt for all men.
is it okay to just have casual sex with extremely hot scrotes? no relationships and no emotional attachment whatsoever and dump the scrote when im bored.
anyone else feels similarly and has tried this before? how did it go?
i'm very new to such feelings and have never slept with a man under these circumstances and thoughts. was super monogamous and loyal and basically asexual, but men made me the same monster they are.
What are giant red flags to you
here are mine
>plays total war or paradox games
this can be explained by itself
>does roids
i have personal experience with this
How does one work from home?
So I've been unemployed for 3+ months now. Long story short, last job destroyed my mental health. I was so mentally and physically exhausted that I really couldn't bring myself to apply to jobs until now. I'm still very much lacking in motivation to leave my house, though. So I ask you, dear nona, how do I work from home? What jobs/companies should I be looking for? How do I spot scams? And how little should I expect to be paid at first? Thank you <3
My mom thinks my boyfriend wants me for my citizenship
Its stupid because he is from vietnam and we actually like each other. she even said i wasn’t good looking enough for him to like me its all bullshit
being a woman sucks
ts not even the fact that were oversexualized. That ive just accepted. Its the fact that a man will almost never ever completely respect you. Because women are supposed to be fucking passive little lambs whos argument doesnt stand a chance against a man. A man will scoff at you if anything you say if he disagrees with, he doesnt even try to understand. He just deems you as silly. And if hes rude to you and your offended, forget about it. Now your an overreactor ruled by your emotions.
Have you thrown in the towel?
I have given up anything good ever happening in my life. on the news all i hear/see is just nothing but it getting worse. It’s impossible to find love especially in todays awful shitty world. So i am just gonna give up and do nothing or just shoot myself in the head when i turn 21
Long Distance Relationships
Thread to discuss Long Distance Relationships. The struggles, the pros… meeting the person for the first time… meeting them for the 50th time… vent both sad and happy things. LDRs can be quite a challenge but it's the right thing for some people.
I'm probably gay, actually, but I thinking I'm going to marry a man and live a normal, quiet life and have one child. I really dislike the LGBTQ scene, I hate all of the… Politics involved with sexuality. I don't really think there are gay women like me out there who just want to goof off with fandom stuff and who also happen to hate liberals and conservatives equally. If they exist, these woman do not leave their rooms. I've actually thought about this. I've been going outside for months in desperate search of this special person, and have come to the conclusion that only extroverts go outside.
And even if I were somehow to meet this golden girl, she would definitely already be taken, or she wouldn't find me attractive. I could get a girlfriend, but I don't think I could ever get the one who scratches the itch right.
I'm just rambling to feel a little bit better about my shitty situation. I really wish I could meet a nice girl with moderate sized boobs and great, wavy brown hair that she hides under an array of dorky hats.
Any of you ladies have male friends?
What is your relationship with them like?
Is the friendship different from the one you have with your female friends?
boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me
he told me himself the same day and said he was really sorry, asked for forgiveness and said he didn't want to lose me and everything seemed honest and i loved him so i decided we'd make it work with a reconciliation you know.
i was fine the first few days, i didn't feel angry or anything and i didn't cry… but i think it's what they call the shock stage. it's been 2 weeks and i feel like crap now. i cry every day. i can't do anything. why do boys always cheat on me? when will i be enough, god
have you been told you could be trans?
Has anyone else struggled with feeling pressured to become trans?
I have felt pressured to change my gender, especially when I was growing up and emulating my older brother. Fortunately, my home never enforced gender roles and I got to be who I was without feeling abnormal but I did outside of my family. I've had many friends and others make assumptions about my “true gender” based on my clothing and personality. I'm glad I didn't fall for that pressure when I was younger.
When you are in love but you are also ugly
I started seeing a guy i’ve been friends with for a while. We see each other during the day and some nights but he wants to see me more often. He suggested we video chat through facetime. For context, I am very insecure about my face and the way I look. Especially without makeup.
I agreed but always decline his facetime calls and say I just want to text instead. Should I tell him I just don’t want to facetime? I don’t really know how to get over this insecurity.
I just don’t like my face inverted, which is what he sees and clearly doesn’t mind if he is dating me but it still makes me insecure.
/lcg/ - lescel general
lesbians who are involuntarily celibate, post anything under this thread relating to your celibacy.
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If you don't know what to reply with, you can answer these greentexts
>what was the first femcel/lescel community you joined?
>talk and/or vent about your celibacy.
>any crushes?
>what is your definition of lescel, or any kind of involuntary celibate label
>when did you first discover you were a lescel?
> do you think there is any hope for you, romantically? if so, why? if not, why?
>rant or vent about homophobia
>how old are you?
>how did you discover CC?
>hobbies and/or interests?
i love this fucking cat
what do i do ??
met a moid who doesnt seem too bad hes cute but a little awkward. i finally got on his good side and became friends with him now hes planning to kill himself.. wtf do i do?? he posted something about wanting a girl but its definitely not about me. am i wrong for being annoyed that hes suicidal? does this make me extremely selfish?
/goodfeels/
post about something positive that happened to you, even if it’s small
Single Pringles
Singles general. How long have you been single? How do you feel about it?
After years I realized my dad is an abuser. I don't know why it took me so long? I feel so broken and helpless. I feel so ashamed. I'm so sorry mom I didn't realise it earlier. What should I do? What can help? Has anyone else been in this situation? I feel so depressed.
Anger
Supposedly, there is a taboo of anger for women.
So, tell me Nona, what was your latest anger? Are you a bitch (always venting), or a nice-lady (always avoiding anger)?
work thread
ITT: we discuss frustrations at our jobs whether you were wronged or you yourself messed up
NEETS need not reply
I can't make female friends irl
I'm 20F who is super introverted since middle school, making friends is hard af in general but I feel like women are much harder for me than men cus of how they all form cliques and groups and exclude you from them if you don't fit in with the vibe. I have many female friends online and I find their company very comforting cus I think they can understand me better than men can but I recently joined my university and only could hold convos with the guys cus I share nerdy interests with them while the women were already in groups, out of politeness they'd talk to me and hold convos but it was more superficial and they seemed disinterested in what I had to say. I don't know what to do cus every female in my batch is like that, I'm pretty bummed out cus I wanted to make female friends and not seem autist :(
Vent thread
For vents that don't deserve their own thread
Old thread reached bump limit: >>97484
Help me get over this boy
Nonas, I had this crush on this guy who was in one of my classes. He's a couple of years younger than me. He seemed really sweet and endearingly aloof. Really my type! I even thought we were spiritually/energetically linked since I would always run into him whenever I thought of him and I always somehow knew where he would be. I didn't stalk him, I could just predict it. We never had an actual conversation which sucked because he seemed so friendly and talkative to those who sat near him. To be fair, I did sit in another part of the class. I once smiled at him and he smiled back.
I would only stare at him in class but I've been told my stares would probably come off more like glares.
Unfortunately, I never once made the effort to talk to him but I don't think he cared for me either, lmfao?
I finally "shot my shot" and sent him a LinkedIn request (he doesn't have social media, which is strange for his age) after the end of the semester because after a series of rejections, I didn't want that to be another one too. He ignored it? I took my request right tf back after 4~ ish hours because I can only handle so much rejection. I felt so pussy after the whole ordeal. There was initial regret in not talking to him but I guess there isn't really anything to regret now.
I also feel a bit silly feeling so dejected by the actions of an 18 yr old boy lmaoooooo
internet addiction
how do i stop browsing stupid ass forums? i recently hit rock bottom. deep down i know i should stop browsing sites like reddit, lipstickalley, tumblr and crystal.cafe. i want to stop caring about stupid pop culture shit. i want to stop caring about politics. i want to stop watching stupid youtube videos that i know will give me nothing of value to think about. i just want to focus on my art and read and work out but my brain is working against me.
i know it might be fucking stupid to ask this on a niche corner of the internet like crystal.cafe since most of you are likely struggling with the same thing, but i am desperate. i want to be free from the shackles of the algorithm.
i have already deleted all my social media. instagram hurt the most since its the most “normie” one and helped me stay in touch with friends but ever since they added that reels fuckshit its been total cancer. i just want to see pictures of my friends not 5032959 products being advertised on my fucking feed.
i am considering buying a dumb phone soon.
pls help nonas.
Bad Person Disorder (BPD)
Anyone here have it? I am almost certain I do reading their relationship patterns which describes everything I experienced with my most recent relationship to a T. The cycle, the splitting, the eventual discard and immediate replacement I found for him. I fit the diagnostic criteria and I feel like it explains a lot of my problems.
I am in a new relationship now. I am happy and its hard to imagine ever treating him the way i treated my ex, I can't see anything wrong with him or us. However I once felt that way about my ex and eventually things I couldn't begin to imagine doing or saying to him I did and said. I crossed every boundary.
Am I doomed to repeat the same mistakes? I have self awareness but I always lose control of my emotions and what I am feeling feels like the absolute reality. Should I just fucking rope and save anyone else from becoming close to me and dealing with my BS? Is it over??
ex bf vent
I’ve been dating this guy for 7 months. Despite his temper and lowkey anger issues I tried really hard to be the perfect GF. He was usually so caring and loving.
He tried breaking up with me in May citing my weight gain (10 lbs from 112 to 122) and the fact he didn’t want to settle down. Then he changed his mind and really tried to show his remorse and love. He said it strengthened our relationship and showed him how much I meant to him. We were LDR for two months over the summer and he would call every day and say I was perfect etc
Recently he took me on a vacation w his whole family. I met the grandparents. They loved me. Everything was great and he was so affectionate, wouldn’t stop cuddling me and giving me gifts. Then right at the end of the vacation I went in a trip with my friend. Overnight, literally the next day my BF became so dry. Wouldn’t say I love you. Barely texted.
When I asked what was wrong he said that he doesn’t want anything that serious. That he was ending things. He was so cold. I asked why all this when like 3 days ago I was meeting his grandparents and things were perfect (even according to him). He said once I left on my other trip he started thinking. And he apparently had these doubts all summer and had even asked his fellow interns how to break up with me. Apparently he had all these doubts but at the same time was telling me how perfect I am and all these plans he wanted us to do in the future.
I wanna fucking kms lol. I’m so blindsided. I accept he doesn’t want to be with me anymore but can’t get over the sudden switch. I thought maybe I did something wrong over the vacation to offend his family but his mom even texted me saying how sorry she is and she thinks I’m amazing.
My ex wants to meet up and talk next week but idk what to even say to him and I know I probably shouldn’t go.
How do I get over this guy omfg like wtf even? Everyone in my life thinks he’s gonna regret this and try to get back but I’m not sure and obviously if I went back that would be having no self respect. I just want tips on getting over him, I know he did me so wrong but I can’t get him out of my mind
Social Anxiety Disorder/Agoraphobia thread
Imageboards attract us like flies so i made this thread so we can feel less lonely, here's some questions to get it going
>How is your life right now
>Do you go outside?
>Any friends or company?
>What do you do to cope with it
>Share a highlight from your life
I am either angry or suicidal
I don’t feel anything anymore and cutting or hitting myself doesn’t work. what do i do to feel something my life has been nothing but hell since childhood
Why did this happen
I accidentally turned on my webcam on discord someone decided to send photos of me to some shitty incel server with body builders. I am getting spammed up the ass with shitty shirtless photos and random dicks
Do you ever feel as if you're on the wrong path?
I often think of alternate timelines and how small, miniscule, minute, moment-by-moment can affect the outcomes and trajectory in your life.
I feel that no matter what I have said or done, there ultimately was never going to be a "good" outcome for me.
All there is for me to do is dwell on the things I have said and done in the past and whether or not I'm living in the wrong timeliness.
I'm often encouraged to seek therapy, get on meds, or pray to God, despite the fact that I know all advice is complete bullshit for me and no matter how hard I try, there is no "good" outcome for me.
I don't think I'm the problem either: I know that society is problematic and just not meant for me, no matter how much I take the advice of others or change my behavior based on what I'm told to do.
Is there any hope for me? Do you believe in alternate timelines? I just want to live a life without regrets, and a life that I consider worth living.
How to deal with revulsion towards males?
I'm now in my 30s. Not much has changed. Does anyone else experience the same problem?
In your 30s your supposed to stop thinking they're worthless and stop generalizing. But I never feel better about them either. Stalking really ruined my perception of men and not sure what to do with this feeling. Where do you put it when you're older? It has no place to go. I'm really unforgiving and disgusted at them when I really consider them, and what I genuinely think of them. What even is the solution to that ?
My revulsion consumes me when I really acknowledge how I feel about them, so usually I do NOT think about them, or anything at all. Usually I pay attention to other things. I put it in the back of my mind and try to live apart. But I also honestly live for the satisfaction of living completely apart.
But it doesn't feel right to just put it aside and fester either. I don't even know how I live frankly. I mean it's unbelievable. Shocking, living in a world where if your really honest with yourself, you want to exist nowhere.
Pretty much summarizes my whole existence. Most of the world is disgusting to me and I don't want to think too deeply about any of it or I'll probably have a mental crisis. I want to pretend like I'm not here at all. I work nights, I go home, I'm gone, everything's gone.
I mean it beats being angry all the time. When I'm truly honest with myself i'm still really fucking FURIOUS about how my mind was fucked with, though. It's def still festering in the back of my mind. Just what are you supposed to do with this ? Therapy is a joke, it never changes any of this.
Self-worth outside of academics
I failed last semester and I’m starting this new one on academic probation. This is really affecting me mentally. I have a therapist but I don’t know how to handle my feelings outside of that 1-hour window.
My parents and the community I come from are very judgemental so I can’t risk failing or I will be shame upon my family. Being on academic probation makes me suicidal. My parents make me send them my grades at the end of each semester. The pressure is so high that I don’t even want to hand in assignments on time because .
I don’t have an identity outside of school.
I feel like I will go insane soon if I can't find a person I trust to tell everything about the things in my life that have viscerally effected me. That is all.
Sexual Assault/Harassment/Abuse Support Thread
Discuss your experiences, your recovery, and help out fellow miners who have dealt with and/or are currently dealing with anything related to sexual abuse/assault.
Period feels
does anyone else feel extremely depressed/anxious a few days before their period?
i've noticed this occasional pattern in my mood, but unsure if it's a thing. usually PMS is depicted with feelings of anger.
in about 4 days im going to have my period and i'm feeling very down and hopeless for no particular reason, and i'm jumping to terrible conclusions about everything.
alcoholic failgf
>be me
>fail a year in college due to ocd and adhd undiagnosed
>so avoidant and failgirl that im too scared to check emails related to college, cant submit work or concentrate on doing it
>took this year to work for money and work on self and mental health, doc prescribed antidepressoids, feeling better
>depressed last few months, not told bf of a year that i was lying about college
>he's so perfect and doesnt drink alcohol. i need him as my tradhusband forever and ever. hes the best thing that ever happened to me. brings joy and adventure to my life.
>drinking about 4/5 times a week bcs stressful late restaurant job.
>btl of wine on free evening. couple high alc beers on a light evening after work. 70 cl vodka over three nights. 'hiding' from my family.
>it all comes to a head after a staycation w bf where im not drinking, i sneak alcohol from his dads cabinet hiding this from him. drinking quadruple measures of gin and fanta so i can feel buzzed through the evening while hiding it.
>empty stomach. being insane. he thinks im having a psychotic break and calls my mom.
>big intervention.
>im taking break from work and going to quit. referred to counsilling and an abstinence program. first councilling session today.
>i dont think my problem is that serious. i admit i have had a drinking problem the past couple months. want to never get drunk ever again.
>i do want to drink on occasions. i have an all inclusive with bf booked, it cost over 3k. know i can drink in moderation, went on all inclusive with mother at start of year and was normaldrinking.
>dont want to lose my perfect little man
>family blowing my problem out of proportion. they are neets who drink 4 times a week also and more like 2 bottles of wine a night.
anyone have any insight?
How the fuck are you supposed to trust men again after assault/rape??
It happened 3 times already anons, i'm losing my mcfreakin mind and none were even full on rape
Everywhere i look there's predators. On the bus i see men grinding against women who can't move, at college there are known pervert teachers and no one does anything about it, on the street i see harassment and stares, my insurance covers for doctors who abused minors, my favourite musicians and artists are scum and fucked teens, so so many watch violent porn. With every woman i talk to, there is a story like this, of men hurting them just to get off.
I distrust every single man,no matter what they are to me, because these aren't isolated cases, the ones who are normal human beings seem to be the rarity.
But i just can't fucking take it anymore, the fear. They're everywhere, they're stronger and our justice system is completely useless against even rape with all the evidence.
It got to the point where i'm mildly suicidal. There is nowhere to run and i can't avoid them, it seems inevitable something will happen again judging by the experience of the women around me.
I don't know what to do anymore and can't take it much longer, currently i don't even want to bathe because i am disgusted about touching my body and being reminded of stuff that happened or could happen.
life after leaving a cult
I grew up in a cult that had all the typical traditionalist views of women. I was given a highschool education but never encouraged to do more; In my family, women simply got married and had babies and for a long time that’s kind of what I expected for myself. But I eventually broke away from that cult and now I’m living all on my own in my early 20s. I feel like I’ve grown a lot; I support myself with a job (it’s nothing really special but it gets me by). I don’t have to worry about dressing modest or acting godly. I have my own apartment finally, a cat who I love, and honestly life is a lot better now. Things are good but I still feel the echoes of anxiety from the environment I grew up in.
My whole childhood I was trained to have all these expectations about life and the world and now that im free everything feels so… quiet.
My mom would always pester me about how I’m going to grow old alone if I couldn’t find a good man to take care of me. And now that I’ve left that cult, I really am alone and don’t have a lot of friends. I don’t care about marrying but I am scared of just fading away with my quiet life I have now. Part of me feels empty, like I could’ve done more with my life if my childhood wasn’t just thrown away for the men around me and the cult I grew up in. I guess I struggle with aimlessness. Have any other nonas come from a similar situation? How did you learn to adapt to your new life?
boyfriend problems
he is korean and we were in a long distance relationship, its been going well but i am scared to bring him to seattle because its a total shithole. he wants come and see the giant forests
Lusting for a gym crush even thought I have a boyfriend
I feel like a horrible being, I have a boyfriend for 4 years now and recently started lusting for my gym crush. Please read my backstory before judging me.
I was always on the taller side growing up (5'8) and most boys were afraid of me, I also had no big ass or breasts and was also very shy, no guys were into me during my school years. This developed in a huge complex over the years and it got me into working out. I think I got very lucky with my genes because I had an insane glow up. My butt is really big and cute and my I really like my long legs and shiny skin now. Shortly after I started to work out a guy kept hitting on me, I first thought he was trying to pull a prank or just pump and dump me because he was very tall and handsome. Well we are now together for 4 years and I never had interest in other guys, it's more the contrary, I started to develop a disgust for other men because now that I'm attractive they all hit on me or try dumb stare downs.
So I switched gym last year together with my boyfriend and I noticed a really short guy (maybe 5'6?) who was very obese working out at our gym. He is extremely shy and talks with nobody, I see him every time when I work out. He lost all his weight over the last year and his transformation is admirable. He looks like an Italian/Spanish mini Henry Cavill. Now this is where the problem starts, I started to "like" him. I noticed that he sometimes looks at me but I kept ignoring him during all the time and now he stopped to look at me. Back then I didn't care but once he glown up I started to enjoy his attention. I know I sound like a basic gym bitch. I also kept catching myself thinking about him, asking myself why he doesn't have a girlfriend or why he is so shy. My boyfriend noticed me looking at me at him sometimes and at first he got passive aggressive during our home rides. I asked him and after some tries he opened up asking me what I want with that short guy (he insulted him very mean ways). I told him it's nothing and that he is imagining things. The disputes with my boyfriend are getting worse and it's starting to tax me. I really love him but I'm so confused. The more often we quarrel the more the intrusive toughs get into my head. Did my current boyfriend just abuse the fact that I was a shy girl back then and he made use of my weakness? I really had a bad self esteem before I had my glow up. He also has no attacking point because my gym crush doesn't even hold eye contact with me or does anything like that. My boyfriend even got angry because he was in the same room as me (we both trained legs that day and there is a room for leg machines). I tried to think about it rationally, maybe I see myself in that guy? I mean he also seemed like a loner and really changed his way. He also is really into fitness. I'm not into short men, he is shorter than me so I could never date him. I think right now it's just my admiration for his achievements and my boyfriend reacting badly to it and that is confusing me. I still love my boyfriend.
Any thoughts?
weight issues
Being a fat woman is hell on earth especially when i realize the fact I can never find any moid who is decent to date. the only people who wan to date me are weirdos and dudes online.
Im early/mid twenties khv and just recently began trying to challenge myself by actually speaking to moids and making an effort to find my own relationship instead of just waiting for them to come to me cuz it just ain’t happening.
I found a dood local to me and we've been messaging daily for a few weeks and met up twice. I felt like we actually got on really well, I felt like the conversations went well (which is big for me) and it’s the most comfortable I’ve felt around a moid, but the longer I've been messaging him I've started feeling really insecure. Like thinking does he find me annoying is he just entertaining me because he feels guilty and waiting for me to finally shut up? I feel like the messages became a bit more trivial as time has gone on but outside of that I don't think he's really done anything to make me feel this way and it could just be my own self-hatred but it's making me really deppresso.
I’ve always been pretty low maintenance with friendships like maybe messaging people once a week so I’m finding the daily messaging a bit awkward, like I want to speak to him but I also worry that I’m taking up too much of his time and that he doesn’t actually want to talk to me that often if at all? I also feel like cause we’ve spoke so often there’s not much new or interesting to say and I’ve used up all my best jokes and stories. The text convos used to be quite long but now they’re kinda short and shallow.
I thought I’d post this in case any other nonas could relate, I don’t know how I can make this better, if it will go away naturally or if I should just dip bcoz I don’t wanna feel sad ☹ part of me thinks maybe honestly is the best policy and maybe I should ask him if he actually wants to speak to me but that also reeks of my insecurity which would probably put him off and make me look like I was baiting for attention. I was feeling so hopeful at first and I just don’t want to lose out on what I thought could’ve actually been really good. Pls halp s
I hate my roommate but never met her
I already hate my roommate, whom I’ve never met. She’s really popular and seems like the type who will always have guys over in our room. Is it petty of me to put in a room request change? It won’t even be processed since we’ve never met.
I’ve lived with many extroverted roommates before who always had people over in our room. I just want my room to be a place I can relax in because I become a mean and bitter person very quickly when I don’t have a place to be at peace.
I was recently raped by a stranger, and one of my moid acquaintances reached out to ask me how I was doing. He ended up professing to a crush on me and told me he loves me. He said he won't be pushy about sex because I have some issues surrounding that. Is this a good sign? I'm just amazed that he doesn't think I'm damaged goods or anything, but part of me thinks it might be a trap.
Mom thread
Thoughts/feelings about your mom?
My husband is doing everything he can for me to help me but I still want to scream at him.
Subtle signs a man is an incel
Listens to/follows Joe Rogan, Jordan Peterson, Andrew Huberman, Lex Friedman or any “success podcast”. Is into hustle culture and “pull yourself by the bootstraps” ideology. Believes he will be a billionaire. Is a cocksucker to billionaires such as Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos and believes that they got to where they are because they are super smart and just worked harder than anyone else. And, obviously, is a fan on Andrew Tate and his brother.
Strong “everyone is stupid except for me” energy.
Look for hypocrisy: Hates pornstars/onlyfans but watches porn. Highly religious and preaches against women have sex before marriage but has sex before marriage. Especially dangerous because these are the type to kill/harm “jezebels”. Someone who calls women who post half-naked pictures online “thots” but follows said “thots” on Instagram. Rates women on a 1-10 scale. Uses incel terminology, which has since gone mainstream, like “chad” unironically. Is a fan of “gold-digger gets rejected” videos but doesn’t have a pot to piss in.
Hates feminism and believes it’s what led to society being the way it is. Hates fat women, especially. Extra points if he’s fat himself. Creams when they see a video of a man beating a woman because “women wanted to be equal”. Into “edgy” jokes that’s really just racism. If he’s an academic: Impeccable grammar and mastery over the English (replace with your mother-tongue) language. However, he weaponizes his intelligence against others for an “ownage” moment a la Ben Shapiro. Speaks really quickly or really slowly.
Physical signs: poor hygiene, weak chin (something incels are insecure about), is really into the gym, is short (height complex), looks like handsome squidward, has a skincare routine akin to Patrick Bateman.
In a relationship: negs you and doesn’t want you to be more successful than him. Doesn’t want you to make more money than him.
How to know if a man you know is an incel? How do you learn these things? Check his social media posts, his twitter likes, who he follows on Twitter and Instagram. Podcasts he listens to, his habits and listen carefully to the things he says. There’s your answer.
How to interact with incels online and in person? Don’t engage. You can not win against their logic. Because you are a woman, they already discount anything you can ever say. Nothing you can ever say will penetrate through their minds. That’s why they get their dating advice from other men. Your words mean nothing. So, unless your enjoy wasting your time, I would refrain from doing so.
Some of these are fine alone but if a man does multiple of these things, he might be an incel. There are so many updated variations of the incel: Finance Bro Frank, Liberal Larry (he’s such a nice guy and a feminist!), Trump-toting Todd, Scholar Sam and many, many more.
Outgrowing your friends
share stories about you outgrowing your friends.
i met up with a friend i hadnt seen since highschool (im in my early 20s) and i was viscerally repulsed by her. she hadnt changed at all. she was still very autistic, had no experience with men, and was still ugly. i know i sound like a bitch for saying this, but its what i feel. in contrast, im a completely different person from who i was in high school. ive glowed up, ive dated, ive done things people my age are meant to do. it felt like i was meeting up with someone who was stunted, in a way. she wants to meet up again, but i dont think i will. its sad because she’s one of my oldest friends (ive known her since middle school). oh well.
Am I just bisexual or a lesbian?
>only had sex once and it was with a girl
>only ever kissed a girl
>watch only lesbian porn
>never had a crush on a nonfictional guy until college 1-2x
>heart beats rapidly when I see a girl in a bikini
Am I just a baby lesbian?
dealing with my brother
my brother got suspended from school because he thought it would be funny to throw a unopen soda can at the teachers head. now i have to baby sit a stupid 17 yearold who just smokes weed and uses my dads home gym.
fear of catfishing
>be me, girl with crippling anxiety and body dysmorphia bc of past trauma of growing up ugly
>upload pics of yourself (no filter) to a dating app bc of fear of catfishing
>match with a guy on dating app
>realize it’s someone you know in real life after matching, must find you attractive bc he’s seen you in person before
>conversation dies after 2 days, you somewhat hit it off with another guy and delete account, thus “unmatching” with the guy
>run into that guy irl the next day
i feel so awkward for no reason
/rock bottom/ - general
This thread is for people who have hit rock bottom. Not people who are having a bad day, but people who are living in the depths of despair. Whether you're a nona who is struggling with serious addiction, mental or physical illness that severely precludes your life, constantly feeling suicidal, whether you're being abused, have any other serious life issues or if you are simply unable to function and don't know where else to turn, vent here and let's try to support each other.
Girls, I feel like the worst kind of woman. Let me tell you. I had a long distance boyfriend who came to study with me. But since we only knew each other through the internet, it turned out to be shitty almost everything. First of all, he didn't have enough money to survive in my city, he also turned out to be a jealous and aggressive guy, extremely depressive, and he didn't do his own laundry. I was getting more depressed every day and wanted to drop out of college, I was also very unhappy in this relationship and often fantasized about other guys until I had the courage to break up with him. Why do I feel guilty? He is already 25 and hasn't even been able to finish a year of college, and I think he will also drop out of my college. How can I avoid feeling guilty in this situation?
Self harm addiction general
A place to talk about and vent this particular issue.
I suppose questions to get started (don't feel obligated to answer any of this though, venting is fine too):
>How long have you been self harming?
>What made you start?
>What types of self harm?
>are you trying to quit?
>any effective alternatives/ways to minimize harm?
>why do you self harm?
>how does this effect your daily life?
>any other places you go for support?
>Treatment for old scars/damage?
Married former friend constantly looks jaded, exhausted
A woman I was friends with ages ago got married a few years back. She has no socials I'm aware of, so when we lost touch, she disappeared from my life pretty thoroughly. I heard about the wedding through the grapevine, I was not invited.
I hadn't so much as heard ABOUT this woman until recently, but eventually I connected with a mutual on Instagram and saw the first images I'd seen of her in I guess something like 10 years.
I was a little surprised at what I saw. In virtually all pics she was in she looked tired and jaded, with a blank look that I can only describe as a thousand yard stare. She was not smiling in a single one. I got a vague feeling from some of these pictures that she might have been on heavy amounts of psychiatric medication, but that's just a hunch. The exhausted look was unmistakable.
Obviously this tired look could be due to any number of things, but is it possible that her marriage is directly causing it? She does not have kids, so the 'exhausted mom' thing isn't it. Could it be that the husband on his own is making her feel exhausted? What kinds of things to married moids do to make their wives feel exhausted? I wish to understand what's going on here but I have no way to talking to this woman directly.
My job is awful fucking kill me
I am going to have to move to place thats either commuting distance distance from NYC, San Fransico or Seattle. out of these places i only been to NYC. its nice but expensive but i heard horrible things about seattle and San Fransico. should i even take the job if i am paid 120 thousand dollars
Only attract old men
so sick of it
why are young men so hard to get
Virgin Thread
I always feel so alone because it feels as though EVERY woman has had some sort of romantic, or sexual experience. And here I am with nothing, a pathetic adult female KHHV. I feel so alone and as though my time is running out. My goal isn't to lose my virginity, but find someone who loves me.
should i take the date?
My dad is a mma coach and he has a new guy who trains under him and he is really nice he is just very awkard and wants to make me argentinian pizza. should i take the date or not
rehab problems
I am out of rehab finally but I am stuck living in salt lake city. I Can only leave the shitty apt complex between 8 am to 5 pm. we aren't even allowed to work. I been stuck living in a building with a bunch of mentally ill freaks. its like a fucking zoo and i wish i could blow my brains out
I ran out of cheese today
tfw no bf
Still no bf edition.
previous threads:
>>71974
>>18677
>>14789
>>10193
>>8844
>>5669
Why is it that all the attractive men I want to date don't want to date me back, yet all the guys I DON'T want to date at all costs (aka schlubs and creeps) all keep pestering me and asking to date me? I'm not even bad looking either, each time I've been on a date with a hot guy he's told me I'm attractive in return and wants more with me but then always changes their mind or they get hung up on some stupid shit too that makes them pull out and suddenly say they "don't know what they're looking for and need time to themselves". I just want to get laid already before I turn 30, I'm tired of being a virgin.
bf advice thread
my bf and I are planning on getting engaged, he is in the process of having a sentimental custom ring ordered.
my issue is that his actions don’t reflect one of a sustainable life partner and I doubt his ability to care for future children. I think this way because he needs to be mothered, reminded over and over to do simple tasks, his ADD affects him a lot and makes him forgetful… example is when he cooks for me, he will leave all the dishes “til the next day” (we flat with 4 other people so our stuff everywhere impacts them) or sometimes he WILL do the dishes but leave the leftovers out in the open unrefridgerated and these end up spoiling.
he’s addicted to video games and I only get 1-2 nights a week to sit down and have dinner with him… every other night he collects his plate and goes straight back to gaming.
he does nice gestures for me, loyal and is a lovely character in general… I worry that if I leave him, I will end up with yet another male who does even less AND cheats.
I’ve spoken to him so many times about changing and he does initially, then falls back into the same patterns. It’s exhausting already and we don’t even have children… I dread to think what life will be like with them.
I don’t really want to leave him but I need a way of truly getting this through to him. even my brother and flatmates have made comments about the way he leaves me to do everything.
am i paranoid or was i being followed?
>be me
>match with a guy on a dating app
>exchange numbers
>tell guy i’m going to be at a certain restaurant for a friend’s birthday
>guy asks where and when the event is and what i will be wearing
>i tell him everything
>go to the restaurant and notice some guys who enter after me sit across from me and visibly look at me
>one takes a sneak pic of me
>guy i was talking unfollows me on social media and stops texting me
to be fair, i think he was negging me throughout our texts so not a major loss
rude male friend-of-a-friend
I am in a friend group of all girls. Many of the girls are friends with this one guy.
I’ll say something and our friends will look at me when I talk. However, he purposefully will turn his body to look in the other direction. He completely ignores my existence/anything I say. It’s like I’m not even in the room. What makes it even stranger is that he acknowledges everyone else but me.
Is this not weird behavior? I think he severely dislikes me but I’m not sure what prompted it? To add context, I am the more soft-spoken of our friend group, which I don’t think is a trait he is fond of.
I tried to put myself out there to make new friends and be open-minded and this is kind of discouraging me.
i feel inferior to my bf academically
> first year of uni, got off to a pretty bad start bc of my depression and therefere had bad grades
> now trying to raise them (so far it’s around 3.3)
> that’s still no good bc i want to do an academic career
> enter him
> he had always been straight 4.0 student (this semester it’s dropped to 3.9+)
> he doesn’t even care that much
the thing is i care more about the classes than he does, and since we spent all of our time together we study equal amounts of time. but i still cannot beat him no mather what i do. he tries to console me everytime i get a lower grade and i just feel bad. i know i shouldn’t compare myself to other ppl, especially the ones i love, but i just want to suprass him so bad :(
Abusive OCD bf pt 2
>>>/feels/34633
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Limiting all integration with moids
My doctor, dentist, and friends are all women.
I want to surround myself with women and limit as much contact with moids as possible. Do you think this is possible? Do you have any ideas on how I can do this?
How to stop being a NEET
-tips and tricks
-talk about your experience on being one
help me nonas, i have no idea on what the fuck i need to do to get a life.
We've been together for like 6 months and we never met irl (duh) but i love him so much and like thefes this girl who lives rly close to him abd shes obsessed with him for some reason and shes determined to take him from me he told me he will never meet until after a bunch of events she offered to taje him to korea for free i was freaking out so much but he still picked going to korea with another girl that will want to do stuff with him over me what do i do help i thought we were meant to be
I hate where I live honestly
I became educated on this for a while and I honestly say my life would have been better if i wasnt born in the us. I just hate this country and how awful it is
seethe thread over internet people
seethe
I might have just had the worst jar confidence/self esteem dropping experience ever. so I was basically talking to this guy online for a few days, and he kept trying to push me to send him more pics of myself because he has only seen what I look like from my profile picture only, so he suggested that we would exchange pictures of each other for 'fun' and I don't know how I bought into it (probably because I liked him and wanted to get validation badly from someone that I was actually attracted to) so I ended up sending him a couple of pics after he did first, and what basically happened is that he ghosted me and Im now left feeling like the ugliest creature that has ever existed and literally on the verge of crying. and it hurt more, because I trusted him since he seemed like a decent, genuine, thoughtful person and we had good chemistry and conversations but I guess beauty is all that matters to a moid at the end of the day
My birthday
its my birthday today nonas, only few e friends wished, rest are automated messages from services. My parents just wished me happy birthday n there was no gift this year. No cake. Nothing. I see stories of girls having their friends celebrate their birthdays, boyfriends organizing parties for them n it breaks me. I am ugly lonely n pathetic
>went to DMV to get ID
>have done my best to look good in public for the last year or so, spent a lot of time getting a style going that i like
>have to get picture taken
>clerk takes the photo and the ID pops up on the screen, she says "does all the info appear to be okay?"
>barely contain my terror as i see how terrible i look in the picture, instantly feel like crawling up and dying on the spot
what am i supposed to do about this feeling? i look in the mirror and think i look okay, but every time someone takes a picture of me i look like a monster and i feel embarrassed that people even have to see me.
my self-confidence just plummeted and it feels like there was no point to me ever trying to make myself look presentable
i had to swear while crying to my parents that i won't smoke pot anymore because i'm so tired of their untrust towards me. i know my psychologist and psychiatrist will listen with more attention to their version of my life (most days i feel like i'm thriving compared to my younger self) because I AM the crazy one, I AM the borderline bitch who just left the psych ward two months ago. and i'm really tired of this shit. i am 21 years old. yes i might not take the better decissions ever but at least i'm trying wtf. i don't want anyone yo take care of me except myself ever again.
Any girls who get obsessed with others girls too
Not necessarily romantically/sexually. Please I wanna see girl obsession here. Personally the women I get obsessed with are always autistic and somehow mentally more masculine than the average woman. I even cried so hard a few times when the girls I was obsessing over online just disappeared or when they stopped engaging with me. Why it's so unusual. Why everyone loves moids.
job sucks
Talk to someone online about how my job sucks ass and i only make 35 dollars an hour. get told to shut up and that my complaints are stupid. I am tired of working like a slave because i make such little money in this shitty economy
How do you deal with paranoias?
Hello nonas, I didn't find a thread about struggling with paranoia so I figured I'd make one!
I'll start, how do you deal with paranoias?
I feel like I'm going crazy by the day, I can't trust anyone anymore.
I feel like everyone I talk to online is either a bot or secretly making fun of me.
I feel like I have glowies tracking me for no reason, I hear voices and every time my mom/sister are late by an hour I'm starting to panic because I think they got hit by a car or something. I feel like when I play online games someone will dox me any minute, same goes for image boards and talking on discord.
I can't have my windows open too much because I feel like people are staring at me through my tiny window and I feel like every info I give out/share will be used against me.
Can any nonas relate? if yes, how do you deal with that?
I've followed someone for an embarrassingly long amount of time and spent countless hours consuming everything they did and digging for hidden information. I built up an idealized version of them in my head, sophisticated, cultured, intelligent, good taste. I felt so inferior and tried so hard to be like them.
I just found some videos they were in ages ago and now I feel completely deflated. Worse, I feel stupid for obsessing and following them for so long.
It's hard to explain but they come across as so bland and basic. I'd already gradually learned that their sophisticated image wasn't completely real but I'd never seen them interact casually and unscripted before. They talk about how they spend their time and it's pretty much the opposite of what I had thought. Heck, my life is closer to the idealised version.
I can't believe I wasted so much time and energy on them. I want to cry it's that bad. I just feel so stupid. I only watched a few of the videos and don't know if I can even finish them.
Women who are "better moids than moids"
Have any nonas felt, as I have, that women can sometimes be "better men than men"? I do not mean this in any way that flatters the masculine, but rather that women echoing masculine energies can add this touch of class to it that's just irresistible.
This thought occurred to me when watching this TikTok video (yes I know TikTok is cringe but just watch it). The woman in the video is obviously impersonating a creepy dangerous moid but, somehow she carries it off better than any moid I've ever met.
The way she carries herself, it's just menacing, without any self-conscious narcissism. Pure desire. I'm a rape victim and if you haven't had it happen to you, rapist moids' raw intention and lust is nowhere near hers,' you can like tell they secretly want you just to impress their friends.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/T1wecXTc_xo?feature=share
So this happened and i feel weird
Alright so i finally met with this dude and the first thing he asks me to do is bring him to a book store. He ends up buying me a mountain of books and now he is forcing me to hike with him. How do i tell him my fatass cant really hike that well?
how do you successfully manage to stay friends post-break up? What do you do if the survival of your entire friend group depends on that?
cheating asshole i met off 4chan
do you consider it cheating when a guy openly lusts after another girl in front of you? or when he starts trying to get her attention on online spaces?
i literally met the most infuriating asshole who did exactly that to me and i seriously think this dumb fuck still doesn't get what he did is wrong. might come back to this thread later to elaborate, i didn't sleep last night
Did your boyfriend/husband wait for marriage before sex? What is your experience with convincing men to wait? Is it worth it? Does it work? Do the good men also walk away? Is it even a good idea in the first place, if seemingly no one seems to do that anymore?
I am from Germany and this whole concept is basically completely foreign to young people here.
My moid friends broke me
I have built up a friend group
Most of them are moids (and coomers, I did not know it at first)
They judge women's bodies, objectify them, and talk about women like they're porn categories. It makes me physically cringe and disgusts me every time
I've recently picked up the habit of looking at other's women body, face, cleavage, everything and started comparing all of that to me. It ruined my confidence. I'm too this, too that, less this, less that. I hate myself. I genuinely do. I hate my body, my face, my physique. I hate how I think too, I was never like that, and now, I'm borderline mysoginistic
I feel like I'm becoming some sort of misogynistic version of myself
A few months ago, I was extremely confident (I'm a big fan of fake it till you make it) I was building still building my confidence, but everything was going well. I would uplift other girls, I had this sorority mindset, I use to compliment random girls on their outfits or hair, I was genuinely nice to all of them
I don't know what the fuck happened. I don't know what to do to stop being hateful. How do I stop it ? How do I build my confidence back up ?
Did anything like that happen to some of you ?
I hate myself, I hate other women, I hate moids, I hate myself
has this ever happened to you? how did you react? were you the other woman or the other girlfriend?
i'm struggling with my boyfriend, he keeps looking at other women whenever we're out in public and it's making me depressed and anxious.
finally breaking up with my boyfriend
i’ve been questioning our relationship almost since it started but i feel like today is finally the last straw. i had such an amazing day at my new job and felt so happy only for a few conversations with him to ruin my day and make me start crying. ur partner should only make things better ! This is not a relationship ! just wanted to get that off my chest,, please wish me luck ah
I met a man on interpals not sure if its worth him meeting me
I Fell in love with a man from new Zealand. He is autistic and obsessed with Tolkien and hiking. I like him a lot and he is willing to fly here to meet me but i am kind of embarrassed about the shithole I live in. How do I convince him to pay for my plane ticket to go to New Zealand
How to deal with the feeling that you are wasting your youth? I just turned 19 and i'm feeling guilty, most of my late teenage years were wasted in my room playing games because i am socially inept and severely depressed, i'm scared i will waste my 20's as well doing nothing because my life is uninteresting and it's near impossible for me to make friends, i feel so aware of the passing of the time everyday and it's driving me insane.
Conflicted
Need opinions and this seems like an appropriate thread to ask.
A young, short guy moved in with a member of my friend group. He's got cute, delicate features, he's soft and gentle and kind. He's also smart but jaded about relationships, been hurt in the past apparently. I haven't talked to him about it, just been doing recon.
I can't tell if he's interested in me, he doesn't put himself out there romantically and seems indifferent about the idea of a relationship. Among our mutual female friends, there's a rumour he was sexually abused but so far no one feels close enough to him to ask him about it. "He reacts coldly to physical contact" seems to be the only evidence for this.
I feel like I'm falling for him, but I don't usually go for cute guys shorter than me. (I'm 5'8" he's probably 5'2" - 5'4") My type is a gymbro. Am I considering this because of pity? Is it because he is showing no interest in me? Both of these don't seem like healthy reasons to pursue a relationship.
On the other hand, he is witty, we share a similar (dark) sense of humour and several interests. He's got big, sad, grey eyes. My worry is a lot of his attraction comes from the mystery and I will lose interest as soon as I get to know him.
Thoughts? Questions? Concerns?
Hetero but i exclusively watch lesbian porn?
im curious if anyone else can relate… i consider myself straight because im only attracted to guys and only ever fantasize about having a future with a guy, and i have absolutely no romantic feelings even in fantasy about women but i DO think they’re really sexy. i only watch lesbian porn, but not even soft lesbian porn, like strap on rough stuff. i mean is that normal?? i really don’t consider myself lesbian
I'm unhinged
I left the psych ward a month ago and although I feel a little better there are moments where I feel an empty space in my chest or I feel Everything at the same time. I'm a borderline case so I think it makes sense but I'm just so tired of this mental instability all the fucking time. Plus my psychiatrist is trying to remove my ansiolitics and I'm having anxiety 24/7. I try to put all of my faith in God but most of the time I feel there's nothing He can do for my psychiatrist problems. I feel doomed.
I'm jealous of my friends friendship, is that wrong?
hi, i'm a college student who finds very difficult to make friends and keeping friendships for a long time.
in college, i have a group of friends that consists of both girls and boys. before the group was formed, i used to talk a lot with 2 girls of the group. but nowadays everything is so different. so basically they start being good friends with the other girls in the group. like it's normal i did too, but they basically they have now their own gc separate from the main group and do their own discord calls and shit. have now their own little secrets, jokes, girls talk and i feel so excluded. my other gc with the 2 other girls is barely active nowadays (because i got tired of being always left on read lol) and i feel lowkey they only care about me when the other girls are not around. i feel like even the guys get awkward when they start with their own jokes.
i thought in having an conversation with them about this but i feel like they should not be pressured in being more close to me if they don't want to. but i feel sad because i feel like i'm not creating real connections in college and felling like the 2nd option of all time.
sorry for such a long text but i don't know how to express if not like this. i would like some sincere advice or know if anybody has been in the same situation has i'am.
How to be approachable
I don’t get it. I look in the mirror and I think I’m pretty enough and I’m well-dressed. I participate a lot in class and I’ve had guys approach in class and outside of class to ask me what I got on the exam and calling me “smart” but never flirting with me/talking about anything else. Admittedly, I’ve been told I have an rbf by girls. I know a lot of people talk about being “initimidating” which I think is complete cope but I wonder how I can seem more approachable. I have a baby face and I’m short so I’m not sure what’s “intimidating” about me :(
I can’t stop feeling sad
I watched a documentary I found online and now the song from the end credits is stuck in my head and it keeps making me feel sad by reminding me what I saw…
>swallow me whole…..
https://watchdominion.org/
For those struggling with hygiene
This is my
Brushing teeth
1. Take out some floss
2. Floss your teeth by tying a circle around each tooth except your molars.
3. Wipe your teeth with
4. Squeeze toothpaste into your mouth
5. Wipe your tongue with a paper towel
Washing your face:
1. Use the bathroom to piss/no. 2
2. Wash hands with soap and rinse hands
3. Put some water on your face.
4. Add bar of soap to your face.
Shitty ex thread (bitter)
I’m tired of being the bigger person and not talking shit about him. I hate that after breaking up with me, he started giving me mixed signals, like saying he doesn’t want anything romantic, and then holding me tight and kissing me all over my face. Just like my other ex, and he knew how terrified I was of that. He posted a picture on Instagram after we broke up wearing MY shirt, and he never even heard of the band on it. Today I asked him to give me my 3 in 1 really cool book back, and he said that he’ll give it to me some other time, because he wanted to take his time on it.
There’s so much more, honestly he makes me so angry I can barely think. Anyone else going through this? How are y’all coping
Suicide Support Thread
Post in this thread if you're thinking about suicide and would like some non-judgemental love and support.
CC is always here to listen to anything on your mind.
You are important to us and we love you.
Difficult Room-mates, Feels plus Advice
Has anyone lived with or currently live with someone, a room-mate, a friend, a relative, that they didn't get along with or that was mean to them?
Feels, I guess, plus advice?
How did you survive? (Did you?) What advice do you have? What would you do different? What do you suggest others do?
Do good men even exist?
Every men i dated so far seemed ok at first, but turned up to be a rapist/manipulator/pedo/weird abusive asshole etc. It seems like all they want is to "conquer" a woman and move on to the next one, no matter what they say or do at first
It would be so easy if it was me who was to blame in my bad expiriences in relationships with man, yet almost every person i asked (besides my exes) and everyone who knows me says i'm not at fault.
Ironically, after my last break up, i started reading La Forêt des Mânes by Jean-Christophe Grangé and main character of that book has the same problem, she notices that all men do just this. The book was written by a man and the fact that i'm not the only one, and the fact that some men understand this problem rly crashes my hope for a good relationship in future
I would date a girl, but it would be challenging, bc im biromantic, but heterosexual
Pls, nonas, if you have a stable long-term relationship, tell me about it, give me hope, i don't know what to do
want to drop out and become a neet again
basically this thread is a response to >>100727
i think it kind of is off topic of the original thread and deserves its own spot
recap: disenchanted with school, used to be happy living as a degenerate, want to go back. the full story starts here:
>>100505
picrel: the scene immediately preceding this is literally me when i packed all of my stuff into my suitcases and threw everything else down the garbage chute and ran away back to my parents house when the semester ended (only i had more luggage than this character lol). the movie is "a bride for rip van wrinkle" by shunji iwai.
i decided to go back to school bc it's only 1 more year left, so i should just bear with it (if i dont kms first ;) ) but it's almost time to fly back to school and i kind of dont want to go back rn lol…
>>100735
believe me i would LOVE to do an online program, but unfortunately the degree requires mandatory practical asessments… looking back, zoom classes during covid were actually soooo fun, i didnt appreciate it enough when i had the chance. it reminds me of something i heard on the radio, "sometimes we're so disappointed with the way life is going that we forget to be thankful for everything we have." thats kind of what im going to try to do to make it through the next year
>>100556
she's actually a super nice person tbh. maybe she cant be everything i need rn but tbh anyone who i can vent to is literally keeping me alive rn. i also i have to realize that im kind of super emotional too so im not surprised that someone might react to me in that way
How do you set boundaries with yourself
Fathers
Why are dads so fucked up sometimes? My dad straight up admitted his life was ruined by having a daughter. He's let it slip so often and I've cried about it before. This is like the fifth time and I haven't cried at least. I think it just finally sunk in my dad wishes I was never born. I've just been staring blank-faced at my ceiling this whole night. I'm not even that bad of a kid. I struggled in school I guess when I was younger. I have no bf (he has always talked bad of slutty girls), I work, etc. I feel empty more than anything. I just wish my dad could love me. I'm so sad.
Why are men so pathetic?
Like I’ve heard how men kill themselves more often than women blah blah. But literally women are twice as likely to suffer from depression as men. We just aren’t big babies about it and just carry on with our life’s. Men are literally just weak minded.
Annoyed by everyone and everything
Anyone feels similarly? I understand it's a me issue but why everyone's existence annoys me so much? I used to be chronically online which may play a role but as of now I am healthy, social and have good relations with others but after a certain point I start looking for flaws which ultimately leads me to hating the person and I have to fight every fiber of my being to not be mean or condescending towards them. I think I just have a lot of pent up anger for not being able to accomplish my goals so I project onto others. However, most people suck and that's a fact so am I really at fault? I used to shit on men online all day because.. they are easy to hate and they are an easy outlet for me to let all my frustrations out. but honestly, once I started socializing more, women became just as easy to hate and are annoying to no end. Kids as well, tiny and obnoxious parasites. Could never get along with animals either cause all of them are just stinky, dumb and gross. Don’t wanna say anything about old people cause I’ll say some f’cked up things. Again most of my interactions with people are great, I get along with women and men just as fine but if 95% of the people I interact with whether be family, friends, acquaintances, animals, kids had gone through a tragedy, I probably wouldn’t even care and perhaps get some type of satisfaction over it. The idea of leading people never appealed to me but I think the role of dictator would suit me. What is wrong with me??
I don’t even want a boyfriend anymore. I just wanna have a lot of money and to live all by myself. I’m just so uninterested in men or being with anyone.
I may have fucked up
some kid in my store thinks i like him now because i bought beer for him once. now he is trying to get me to go over to his house.
btw he is 19 and i am 28
Sorry if this is the wrong place for this. I met this chick online on a rp site and we seemed to hit it off well enough at first. I initially felt pity for her because she came off really weird and kind of autistic, oversharing things and treating me like her bff5evr when we really didn't know each other. Next thing I know, she's blowing a fuse over rp plots, constantly misunderstanding me and stressing me out. She'd convince me that it was my fault in those moments and she'd say manipulative shit all the time like, "I can't believe this is happening again! You knew I was worried about this! I thought we were friends. Are you my friend?" And my stupid traumatized ass would apologize for upsetting her. I stuck around thinking that we'd be able to get over her weird emotional outbursts with enough patience. Months later, I became an anxious mess and by the last argument I became embarrassingly hysterical from all the pent up resentment and fear that I said things I regret and ghosted her. She responded by emailing me with a written and audio recorded rant where she chastised me for ghosting her and gaslit me on what happened, then a day later sent me a random meme via email. I thought this was an olive branch, so I let her know that I didn't have her Discord info anymore since I unfriended her but that she was free to email me whenever or add me back if she wanted. She gave me her contact and said it was up to me. Well, my friends and family all told me she was abusive and to forget her so I never responded. Two months later I still feel bad. Has anyone else been through something like this? I can't make sense of this situation at all because on one had she made me gifts for my birthday and seemed really nice but the second something upsets her she goes off and treats me like she's only tolerating me for a while before it's business as usual. Right now she's back on the forum trying to get someone to play my exact character. I'm super confused on how to feel.
I think I’m gonna break up with my bf and tonight made me realize how awful he is and how much I hate him.
I had a guy call down to the front desk at the hotel I work at. Says he just wants to talk. It happens sometimes a lot of these guys work on oil regs so I don’t really mind too much. But then he asked how old I am and how big my boobs are. I immediately call my bf because I’m freaked out. He yells at me and tells me to call the police (like what are they gonna do, what he did isn’t against the law and I’m probably gonna just get in trouble for being the police here) he calls me stupid and just continues to yell at me to the point I literally am bawling. Hang up on him and call on if the guests that’s married and chit chats with me and tell him what happened and if he could pls come down here and sit with me. He does. My bf didn’t even offer. After I finally just broke and was like you literally made me cry, he called me insane then told me good luck.. like why am I dating someone who doesn’t even wanna try to comfort me or protect me…
I think I'm in love
Hello, anonette <3
I think I'm in love…
I met this guy, online, a little more than a year ago now. It clicked like never before. We understood one another, had the same morals and values, and our political opinions are the same time. We do have the same opinion on a lot of things ; which feels really nice, feels nice to be understood. We never fought. Not even one fight.
I honestly think that he's marriage material
I have not seen one redflag, even after a year. Maybe I'm dumb, maybe I'm blind. But I haven't seen one
A couple of months ago, we started to be more distant… The different timezone did not help at all. We were both pretty busy and sens a few messages throughout the day but nothing more. And I can't explain how much I fucking regret going down that path. I should've answered him more frequently. Showing him that I was still interested in him. I don't know how to bring up the conversation to him… I don't know how to explain that I'm still interested and if he is too.
We even talked about meeting up, and freaking marriage at some point
I think that I'm in love and I'm extremely anxious about the fact that he could not be interested anymore
Can someone could help me with how I could bring up this situation to him. Help me with anything. What do y'all think of this situation ?
A thing my bf told me when he was drunk
His ex gf, one before me, kept complaining that he kept getting drunk instead of studying, I kind of felt that but I never say anything anyway. He has been jobless and in a student status although he keeps failing because he does not study and misses classes on purpose because he needs to catch up and fails, been like this for 3 semesters am I wasting my years… I need a second opinion or advice idk
Controlling gay thoughts
I have a boyfriend who's great, but lately I've been feeling disgusted by him and I dread intimacy. I've been having a lot of gay thoughts related to kissing or dating women. I masturbate myself thinking of women. I daydream of a wife. What can I do? I don't want to break up with my bf.
how do i approach a guy at barnes and nobles
i go to barnes and noble every week and i see this guy there who looks really cute. how do i approach him and not weird him out. i am very weird looking blonde
I am no longer happy with my boyfriend. Even though he has done a lot of things for me, he is a sea of mental problems, insecure, violent, depressive…. And he has slowly sunk me into his own shit. Why don't I break up with him? I'm scared, he's spent enough money on me, left his family to move close to where I live. He's done all that for me. And he's failed so many times in life, I'm afraid this will end up breaking his sanity. What should I do? If I stay with him, I'll probably end up cheating on him. And him beating me.
Male Friends: Can They Be Trusted?
Share your experiences with male friends proving to have nefarious or secret motives.
What are signs a male friend is interested versus just being nice, despite having a boyfriend?
What do you think these mean:
>tries to hang out one on one
>gives you random gifts
>offers to pay for everything
>texts you frequently
>takes pictures of you during group outings
>says "oh you don't mention your boyfriend much" despite having done so
>seems to focus on topics that lead to personal info
>asks questions relating to more intimate things
retroactive jealousy
do you suffer from it? are you jealous of your s/o's exes? how do you deal with it?
for me, i do get upset thinking about his exes. not that i am jealous of them as people, but in the sense that at some point in the past he gave the amount of affection he shows me now to them before. honestly i might just being super bpd about it but i feel like talking about it with people who might relate in a way.
Women’s Safety
What lengths do you go to to ensure you’re safe? I personally don’t go to house parties and prefer to be home before sunset.
Anyone here scrote-brained too? I get constantly called moid in female imageboards and i feel like i don't fit in alongside other women, not even tomboys and such even though i want to. The only type of women i felt similar to were specific rude turbo autistic ones. This struggle has followed me throughout most of my life.
What Are Your Long-term Goals, Dreams and Aspirations?
Settling for an “average” life
I have an obsession with fame. All of my future aspirations end with fame. Everyone my whole life has pushed me to be exceptional and it’s exhausting. I want to settle for average.
I think what I really want is financial stability and general recognition.
I recently started losing weight. I wasn’t ugly before or anything I was like the kind of fat girl guys will still give a chance despite being fat because my face is the way it is. Well the more I lose weight the more guys sexually harass me.. I thought it would be different if I lost weight but it’s just a larger variety of mistreatment. Is this really how men are just sexed up apes?
trading sexual intimacy for emotional intimacy feels like shit
I've been estranged from physical intimacy for my entire life and have been coping for the last few years with online roleplay. It's been up and down, sometimes I feel very driven to immerse myself in a character and her pain, but it's starting to numb and I don't really know what to do
I've always been really good at writing because I used to do an unhealthy amount of yaoi fandom fanfic and feel like the compliments matter, but I never really feel better. I'm nearly 30 and have had physical relationships before but my fear of actual sex and obligation to my boyfriend chokes it every time and I end up attacking him in my sleep or something awful. I've basically accepted that I will be alone by now
When I write I get a lot of attention because its on a public image board and I only used to do stuff in private, so this feels good but also like shit because I can't control myself in private. I've lured men in and had them burn themselves, cut themselves, hit themselves, and even got some actually suicidal ones that I had to leave right away. I've been diagnosed with obsessive narcissism, schizophrenia, OCP, and a bunch of other stuff from my doctor but I try to just take my medication and not think about it too much. The urges to control others through my writing are really strong, but I can only feel emotions through my characters, so I don't know what to do there either. I used to do bets and stuff, I would make guys act like dogs, or be a slave myself, I know it's not healthy but it's not any worse than all the gay shit I used to write. I can't just stop, otherwise it will be like dying
I would just stick to public writing but the dissonance between what I want out of a scene and what I KNOW I HAVE TO DO FOR MY PARTNER is too much to bear anymore. I'm not reckless enough to keep up with the hyper violent masochistic scenes I used to do, but I can't actually enjoy any written intimacy anymore because I'm so fucked up. I used to, I used to be able to feel sexy and cool and loved and powerful and wounded but strong but I just can't anymore
Does anyone else hate that you have to be what men want to see you as, just to get your feelings acknowledged? I don't want to feel like sex is whats expected of me anymore but that reality is just too close for me to deny anymore and I can't find where I can be happy with it
All I really do these days is talk to the one guy that respects me and watch movies and games together, but I know if we took things further I would just fuck them up
Porn Addiction General
I'm not posting this in /nsfw/ since the entire premise of this thread is antithetical to that board, and I figure we could support each other here. I've seen a few posts here and there around cc of anons trying to curb this issue.
Who here is struggling with a porn addiction? Share your experience, thoughts and ideas, hold each other accountable, or just vent.
>a few resources on how porn affects the consumer, tips on staying free, and general topics of interest
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com
pretty much this entire website +
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/porn-problems-here-come-women
https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/are-fetishes-innate
http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/forum/threads/my-thoughts-on-rebooting-extremely-long-post.15558
https://a-broader-sensibility.tumblr.com/post/160909630573/anti-porn-masterpost-feel-free-to-reblog-and-add
http://www.cnn.com/2016/02/24/entertainment/terry-crews-porn-addition-feat/index.html
Anyone feel free to post other resources and articles. This is a very cursory list.
Girls. My boyfriend sometimes hits the wall with his fists and once broke his phone when I told him I was going to leave him. Is it normal for men to be this stupid or can this guy be dangerous? He has never hit me, insulted me or touched me without my consent.
Crush rejection posting
>have crush
>crush text me song lyrics from a song I posted on my story
>I reply with the next lyrics (that’s my favorite song anon)
>”me too”
>I respond with “cute”
>he then responds ”wanna have sex”
>”wait what”
>he then informs “just ducking with you”
>in shock all I can do is say uh huh and call him a pussy
so that’s my night. What’s crush rejection story
Something you wish someone would say to you
Whats something you wish someone would tell you right now?
❤️
First of all, excuse my English. I don't know what's wrong with me. I thought he was going to be fine but every time I see him I feel sad…. Well, I'll tell you. Last year I was in an online relationship. At first I loved him very much, it's true. I was going through a depression and he was the only one who understood me. I admired him too: he is a very nice guy. But then he showed me his bad side. He is a very depressive guy and he blames everyone else for his failure in life. Well, some time after I met him I started to go to therapy. And I started to study a career. Up to that point we were still together, but then he let me down for the second time by dropping out of a career. He is 25 and it bothers me that he is so immature. We also didn't talk as much as we used to. So the love was already fading. Well, at that time I realized that a classmate of mine was interested in me (yes, also a lousy idea). And on the advice of a friend, I decided that I was going to accept his invitation to go out…. I got to like this guy quite a bit now that I think about it. He was the complete opposite of the other guy, he was very clear about what he wanted to do with his life. At the time I was confused and broke up with my internet boyfriend. And well, he took it badly and tried to win me back by coming to see me and "consolidating" our relationship. Well and my classmate was no longer behaving so well with me. I half understand that he didn't have much time for me because of exams, but I'm also sure he doubted me a little bit and what he wanted with me. I told another friend about my internet relationship and she told me that if he didn't move in with me, I shouldn't take it too seriously. Anyway, earlier this year I got back together with my internet boyfriend. He had treated me like a princess and I fell for it again, while the other guy didn't seem to care so much about me anymore. Well another mistake I made was telling him to come study at my university. And now it's so awkward because the other guy knows I have someone else. And I know he hates me, even though he doesn't have much to complain about. But it's so uncomfortable. And I'm sure he talks bad about me. It still hurts my soul when I see him, I think I really liked him or I don't know. what can I do? My boyfriend keeps doing things to dislike me. Sometimes I think he wants me to end it so he can go to his city. But I'm also afraid of loneliness, I have no close friends and I'm afraid of falling into depression again. I know it's over what I "had" with the other guy, but it hurts me that he hates me. I'm also thinking about changing colleges so I won't see him anymore, but I don't have the means to do it.
Where do you even meet new people?
Vent thread
For vents that don't deserve their own thread
Old thread reached bump limit: >>95169
I don't want to be married and my bf wants to marry me i already told him that i don't want to however he keeps trying, i honestly don't want to break his heart but i don't really want to marry, should i ghost him?
I really miss my best friend.
We had been talking for more than 2 years, we are both antisocial virgins and that helped us a lot.
We made calls every day until the loneliness we had before was gone.
But the problems started when we got sexually approached while high on call. We really felt very good and personally I had never felt so sexually attracted to a man (more than 4 months without fap).
I was very happy until the next day he started to tell me that it was a mistake, from that moment everything changed between us. We stopped being affectionate and he stopped acting like a father to me (sorry I like that shit).
I was an idiot, I told him please forgive me if I made him feel bad but he just blocked me.
I think I'm in love with him because no other man attracts me and those who do have a physical resemblance to him (like ryan gosling in lars).
I want to die.
He so cute,adorable and protective tall nerd guy.
Forgot why I stopped hanging out with men and hooking up with them.
So this weird coincidence happened today. This guy I use to Snapchat who leaves like two states away. Was staying at the hotel I work at for work. Decide heck it I’ll hangout with him. Worst decision of my life. He had been with like thirty women and still didn’t know how to kiss and literally bit my boob so hard it now hurts and is all bruised up. He kissed me like he was trying to eat my mouth. We didn’t really go any further and thank fuck. Now I will be celibate for another three years before I forget how bad they are at sex.
Advice and Support General Thread!
Come here, wayward souls, for any matter big and small. Insight to comfort can be found here for your issues or conundrums.
>24
>never had a job
>dont drive
>uni drop out
>no friends
wow living like this feels like dying every day
Is your significant other taking you for granted?
What are the possible signs?
Any nonas also struggle with OCD?
I have obsessions about my health, harm coming to loved ones, ending up in jail, forms of relationship OCD, trans OCD, OCD about possibly having disgusting fetishes. My compulsions usually consist of Googling, checking, and reassurance-seeking.
How to stop hating myself
How did I not know this site existed earlier. I’ve been a 4chan creeper for some reason even though all the threads creep me the fuck out and any time I use female pronouns in a thread I make I get torn to shreds even if what I was saying made sense. Anyways so to what I wanted to vent about; I actually fucking hate myself and I don’t know how to change. I’ve been like this since I was a kid my therapist said it was something about my parents not really being there which makes sense but they tried so hard so I don’t blame them. But now I’m stuck with undying self hatred. Even after I was in therapy for a couple years I could get over all my other mental health issues but this one. I hate how I look how I act how I sit how I talk I hate all of it. I’m cringing at myself almost every moment of the day and I can’t stop. It’s like it’s become easier to hate myself than accept that maybe I am all that and people still don’t want to be in a relationship with me because if I accept that then I’ll never be in a relationship. I feel like if I keep hating myself and losing weight and working out until I puke or faint slapping on makeup to hide what I hate and wearing the most fashionable clothes I can put together then maybe one day I’ll be worthy of someone else’s love. Because without this self hatred the loneliness feels more permanent because in reality I can’t change myself and if nobody likes me that’s on me for being myself and I can throw another pity party. I know in the back of my mind I’m not ugly and I have a cool personality but that doesn’t feel like the truth for me considering for my entire life I’ve been telling myself the opposite. How do I hate myself less? I don’t like waking up every morning and looking in the mirror to point out everything I don’t like but it’s such a routine for me I can’t break it.
how do i respond?
I was in a shitry pyschward and i gave my snap chat to someone there. he is a cool guy but he has autism and bipolar. he spent 3 days talking about lord of the rings and his dream hikes. should i see if we could work out?
Weirdest things you did because of social anxiety
>Stay locked into a bathroom stall doing nothing for hours until the party ended
Obsessed with Vanity
Being 20, yet having to worry about passing from my prime, having to worry about formulating the best body through workout and fasts.. The best face through makeup, brow trims, facial products…
How do I go beyond this, where I am trapped? I feel a massive gut punch whenever I see a girl who's prettier than me, or even just pretty in general. My worst fears consist of my boyfriend merely looking upon these women.
I have always been obsessed with appearance. I won't dare step outside if I believe I am not good enough to stare at. I don't even like the idea of my family looking at me when I feel I look less pleasant than usual….. Is there a light at the end of this tunnel?
Lonliness
Do you guys ever struggle with loneliness? Is the feeling almost constant and intense, or is it more buried and hidden until you think about how alone you are?
Share you thoughts, feelings, vents, insecurities, fears etc about loneliness, maybe we can all help each other out to not feel so alone for a second <3
Toxic Families
>Is your family toxic?
For me, yes. Especially my mom. I have to survive 90 days with her this summer and I don’t know how I’m not going to lose my mind.
I've come back to cc after a ~5-year break because I hit rock bottom again, and have no one to turn to for advice because everyone I know is an evangelical Christian.
I'm pregnant. I've been given the option to receive public funding for an abortion due to the circumstances that caused this. Part of me wants to abort (I'm already fat with a damaged body due to weight gain and don't want to worsen it) but I have a voice in my head telling me I'm being selfish for ending what could be a helpless human life because of my body image issues and to carry the pregnancy to term. I don't know what to do. I have a time limit to decide, obviously. Has anyone else gone through this?
Should I take money over my mental health?
Stay on Campus - In-Person Classes
PROS:
- Access to the gym
- Peace
- Easy path to the bus stop
CONS:
- $1500 bill for housing
- No reimbursement money
Stay at Home - Online Classes
PROS:
- $700 reimbursement (to build savings)
- Don’t have to pay for groceries
CONS:
- Abusive mother
- No access to the gym
- More difficult path to the bus stop
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Pessimism Thread
I wanted to create a thread for everyone who follows or is interested in pessimistic philosophy/thinking. You can rant, share book recs, talk about various viewpoints etc. I find it's rare for women to discuss things like this, like all philosophies it's mostly dominated by men, so it's refreshing to come across them. Let's vent about how fundamentally shit existence is ladies
Here's a really good pessimistic blog made by a Ukrainian woman, lots of posts
https://uriupina.com/philosophy-psychology/
What mistake keeps you up at night?
Place to discuss your failures.
For me, it’s over sharing on non-anonymous online platforms and forums. Specifically, this one forum that doesn’t let you delete postings. Anyone who knows me can easily piece together that it’s me.
Qt Partner Thread
Greentext traits and how lovely your partner is
Justice after Tragedy
Have you sought justice after being raped/sexually assaulted? Was it a success? What advice would you give to a victim finding justice through court or other means?
ways to make more irl female friends?
I just want to get some advice on ways I can make more girl friends. i don’t want to join anymore clubs on campus because none of them interest me i cant go to bars and don’t enjoy parties and even when I do go to parties the girls never talk to me after that one time. need mega help plz
Vent thread
Previous one >>92970
Mean teachers
Has a teacher ever said anything to you that's stuck with you? Have you ever been bullied by a teacher? Have you ever held an emotional/trauma bond with a teacher?
How do i stop the self deprecating talk around my new friends
Ive had a rough upbringing and growing up I exhibited a lot of unhinged traits. Growing up its all mellowing out, but the shame and sadness about how my 22 years of life were so far is still there and it comes out around these people in the form of extreme deprecating way of talking about myself and just completely talking shit about myself. I dont want my friends to think im fishing for compliments (because im not, I genuinely think this way) and I don’t want to give them exact information of my weaknesses either. I cant seem to stop…
>Turn 18 and start college
>Go to a good one but it's an hour away from where I live
>Move in with my dad to get closer
>Away from my friends, I can never see them during the week
>Try my best to get along with people at uni, constantly starting conversations, talking with new people and acting extroverted
>In a matter of weeks I naturally get excluded from every friend group
>It just happens naturally
>I'm basically alone for the entire week
>When the weekends come and I can go to my mom's house I'm too exhausted to actually do things with my friends
>I'm trying to make online friends but it's not the same
>Deep painful feelings of loneliness scary to set in
>Broke down and started sobbing when I realized I'm going to slowly drift apart from all of my friends until I just naturally stop talking to them
I was excited for change and to meet new people, get away from school, I'm extroverted so I thought I'd be able to make new friends just like that. People always told me that in university you meet people that are similar to you but I feel alien.
My chest hurts its hard to breathe, I hate this.
Wanting friends but my standards are too high?
Kind of looking for advice, but also commiseration nonas. Kind of a rant too.
I keep feeling like I wish I had a really good online friend- just one that likes a lot of the same things as me (old RPGs, animals, mysteries and paranormal nonsense) but I just can't ever seem to maintain any friendships with people when I reach out. I also feel like I have too many varied interests and that makes it hard to make friends.
I try really hard to be the best kind of friend that I can- I am the kind of person who loves mailing little gifts to new friends just for fun, as well as sending them things that make me think of them, being a shoulder for them to cry on when they are upset, but literally no one has ever reciprocated this to me. I think I am the kind of person that no one reaches out to first, I always have to be the one who rekindles the conversations. I had a girl I thought was a close friend steamroll over my message saying that a family member was extremely ill to start talking about her own relationship problems to me in paragraphs.
I had this one online friend where she and I would read goofy books together and then talk about it chapter by chapter on Discord, and we would vote every time on a new book. She expressed an interest in something that I happened to have an extra of, and I mailed it to her (of course asking if it was okay first) including a little card and letter, and after that the friendship kind of fizzled because I feel like she wasn't really very thankful or anything. I actually had to ask her to make sure it got to her because she didn't let me know and I was worried it was lost in the mail. "Oh yeah it came 2 days ago, thank you" is what I got back. It was kind of something precious that I sent to her so it hurt my feelings.
I also had another friend who I used to trade a specific kind of collectable with online, but one time I sent her a very expensive and rare one as a gift, and I saw her reselling it for a profit on a group we were a part of (she didn't know I was there too) and it really hurt my feelings.
I feel like the only kind of people I attract who actually want to talk to me are autist moids who traumadump on me and spend half of our conversations about things (like games) trying to one-up me or correct me. I know I have some people in my life online who would probably be friends with me but I just don't like them very much so I am not motivated to do the kinds of things I normally would (gift giving, etc). It's literally like the only people that want to be friends with me are autistic gay men, specifically. It's bizarre.
And, to top it all off I have this horrible habit of sending people messages asking "hey do you wanna be friends?" after a good interaction online (like Tumblr or something, they will leave a comment relating to something I post and I want to reach out to them because we seem to have common interests) And it never works. (Literally got left on read by someone recently after saying "I definitely think you and I would have been best friends in high school!" to a girl I knew a bit online.) I've embarrassed the fuck out of myself and ruined potential friendships with people I think are cool by I guess being overly friendly. I made a slight friendship with a Youtuber I really liked and I guess royally fucked it up by being too friendly. (I genuinely do not think I am behaving in a creepy way, I just guess I try to hard to respond to every detail of their messages to make sure they know I am paying attention to them if that makes sense.) I thought our friendship was dead, but he reached out to me in a friendly way in his Discord (privately) and I got really excited thinking we could be friends again, he talked to me for over an hour and then left me on read and never messaged me again.
I tend to want to help people with things (like I will type out an entire recipe to someone if they seem interested in something I cooked just in case they would like to make it too) and then I get disappointed when they appear not to give a shit. Or I really try hard to be interested in what they are talking about and ask engaging questions.
I think I tend to overgive to people? And then get disappointed when they don't match me? And then I drop them like a sack of rocks. If someone doesn't reciprocate my effort I literally just stop caring about them or even start to hate them. Is this having too high of standards? Am I an asshole for giving someone a gift and resenting them for not reciprocating?
I have 0 friends. Literally 0. No one who would be worried if they didn't hear from me for a month. No one who I could talk to if I was having serious issues in my life. All I have are a bunch of aborted friendships where I either made the person uncomfortable (presumably) by being too engaged, or ones where I cut them off because they weren't providing friendship on the level I wanted. (Or, not to mention that literally every female friend I have had in the past 10 years eventually became nonbinary and I am not interested in friendship with someone who subscribes to that stuff.)
It's just that, I'm gonna be 30 before I know it, and I am not interested in shallow friendships. I want a real friend. How do you find one? Does anyone have any advice for me? I feel like I need a dating website but for friends.
How to regain a will to live?
Everyday is exactly the same. My drinking problems are getting worse. My best friend replaced me with someone else. I'm alone and have nothing to look forward to when I wake up. Almost killed myself last month. Nevertheless, I want to take a chance at life. I force myself to go for a walk everyday, I make myself tasty, healthy food. I want to get better. I want to stop being lonely and make friends I can share my love with. I thought of some things that might help:
>keeping a journal so I will force myself to do something new everyday to write about it later
>affirmations to brainwash myself out of negativity
>meditation
>spending more time outside in public even if it's just sitting on a bench
>going to cafes to read there
Relationship General #2
Old thread reached bump limit: >>>/feels/68927
>advice
>?s about romance, love, potential partners, etc.
>experiences and wishes
>venting
Solitude thread
Why do you feel lonely? You dont actually owe society anything especially when youve been neglected, traumatized etc. You may feel like you dont belong, but ofcourse you do. Youre a human being that actually just wants to exist and be loved. Thats the essence of everyone, but people have different ways of doing this. Most just follow the herd. Theyre just not very smart. Everyone whos hurt you is gonna live a less meaningful feeling life than you have the potential to live. Thats the karmatic patterns of nature. Youre actually free, even if on the streets there are moids just being human garbage, its not your fault - your morals are above theirs. Nothing was ever your fault in this life, youre perfect and loved.
I haaaaaaaaaaaate being a woman of color. So. Fucking. Much.
And before you wonder why, let me make it clear that it has little to do with actually being a woman and of color. I'm not a fucking tranny, I appreciate my womanhood. And I don't see white as being any more special than the skin color I have.
But the reason why I hate my existence has everything to do with the male counterparts I'm forced to acknowledge by association. There is nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing, I hate more than men of color. Out of all the men on Earth, they are the most openly volatile, most vocally aggressive, most physically aggressive. Anytime you see the face of a toxic red-pilling manosphere vlogger, they're 100% of the time bound to be a man of color. They breed hood culture from a young age, which instills the idea into men of color that they have to be totally incompetent soon to be convicts that drop racial epithets all the time as a form of comraderie and wear shapeless tacky clothing that denotes to the classless cultureless heathens that they are. They have a proclivity to openly woman bash and see women as their personal cum barrels, which is why many of these mouth breathers will open their lips and say the most vilely abhorrent things about women to anyone within earshot and what they'd want to do to a woman in bed. The highest amount of sex traffickers, drug pushers, domestic abusers, gang bangers are all: men of color.
At least in White and Asian culture, they seem to raise their men with a sense of dignity and pride. They instill honor by their name and what's the first thing they teach young boys in their culture to do? To honor their culture by honoring their women. They'll defend women and look out for their own kind. Even in message boards like 4chan, when I write something where I address my race, white men will jump on me like blood thirsty dogs and call me all sorts of things like shitskin and goblina. That's one last thing I'd like to add. Being a woman of color, my existence can't be left alone without people feeling compelled to mention white women as if I mandatorily must 100% of the time be dredged into a negative comparison in favor of white women. I would like to live my life in peace without having to be referred to as a "shit skin" or "ugly monkey" because a white man feels he has no other way of complimenting his pedestalized Aryan queen. Just please leave me the fuck alone already. My life can be perfectly fine without having to be cruelly reminded everyday by white men and colored men on 4chan that I'm leagues below white women in Western society. Just let me have a peaceful fucking life, please.
Dreams and wishes thread
Wanted to make a thread for us to write about stuff that we want. Could be:
- Attainable dreams
- Unrealistic dreams
- Stuff that you want for the long run, like a type of career, housing and moving plans, etc
- Stuff that you really just want right now, like a holiday, a cute set of clothings, food
- An imaginary setting in your head that you want and want to talk about, being it realistic or not, like imagine a life you wish you would have
And all the stuff in between, I guess.
Losing inspiration
I just bought some new markers and I’ve been trying to get back into art. However, the only things I can draw are things based off some traumatic things that happened to me, or political or grotesque shit. I haven’t been able to come up with ideas outside of that for a long time. I wish I could just draw peaceful things again and not question it, but I can’t come up with anything without it turning into something that has some sort of deeper meaning. I’m so tired of being negative.
/fcg/ - femcel general
post all things related to your involuntary celibacy
thread prompts:
>when did you realize you were a femcel and how old are you now
>what does being a femcel mean to you
>vent about celibacy
>what are your interests ? ( just curious, not necessarily related )
feel free to add more
Sister Thread
Post any sister things!
Mine is that I've often wanted to tell my younger sister about this site but I'm not sure how she'd react, god forbid she found lolcow. Would you show your sisters this site?
Living with someone with a serious disorder or disability
Part vent, part desperate plea for help…
My boyfriend whom I live with has OCD among other things. It wasn't a problem before, but the past 6 months it has been getting progressively worse. We spend 4-5 hours (possibly more, he cleans when I'm not home, too) cleaning every day. The whole apartment gets cleaned daily. We can't have any decorations because they'll quickly get "dirty" or become "dangerous." any niisefrom the upstairs or next door neighbors are because they're angry at us. Hands must be washed after everything. All surfaces constantly disinfected. If there's any splashing while washing, clothes must be changed, etc. Going out anywhere takes several hours of prep. After coming home, clothes must be taken off in the entryway, then one has to shower, then clean all areas where one walked (and hey, since you're cleaning already…. Do the other rooms, too!)
I desperately want him to get professional help, but he has trauma and is really distrustful of medical professionals. I offered to go to therapy /counseling together (no medications) but he refused.
I have my own disabilities and I know he's had to sacrifice to help me as well, so I'm usually patient and help. But all I do is work, clean, try to sleep but get waken up because something is dirty/dangerous, repeat. Sometimes for an hour or two he is back to his old self but then something happens and we're back to cleaning. It's so frustrating.
And of course I can't talk to anyone about it. I feel so isolated embarrassed, and frustrated that I can't do more and get won't get help.
Is anyone here in a similar situation (as either party)? What do you do? Any advice?
Are there women in their 30s/late 20s browsing this board?
I'm younger but I'd like to ask a few questions.
>How is your life now (single, married, education, job, etc.)?
>How did life change in comparison to the previous years?
>What are the advantages of being at this age?
>How do people treat you?
Vent thread
Previous one >>89432
friendless feels
the title says it all.
i ended up scrolling through the account of someone a few years younger than me and saw posts like pic related…just people (kids i guess) having fun with their friends and it made me sad because i never got to have that ):
can anyone relate?
also, general friendless anon thread.
Vent Thread
Old thread: >>27562
Vent thread
Previous one >>86775
Vent Thread
Old Thread >>12294
Get it off your chest.
Vent thread
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Vent Thread
New vent thread. Last thread: >>>/feels/79488
Relationship General
Paradise to trouble in paradise. Come here for:
>advice
>?s about romance, love, potential partners, etc.
>experiences and wishes
>venting
Play nice!
/tfw no bf/ - general
Can we have a no bf feels thread? I'm tired of pretending to be single and happy. I want a man, dammit.
Vent Thread
Previous: >>>/feels/77420
Vent Thread
Previous thread
>>74767
Post your woes and copes here sisters.
Ace thread
How do asexual or sex repulsed nonas cope in a sex obsessed world where increasing numbers of people are making their entire identity about sex?
Vent thread
Previous thread >>72144
Vent Thread
Previous thread >>69156
confessions thread
i tell my dentist that i floss regularly even though i dont
Vent Thread
Previous thread >>66074
Vent Thread
Previous: >>63354
Vent thread
Previous thread >>60740
Any femcels here
>Whats stopping you from not being a femcel
For me its not like there aren't any guys that are into me it's just that its hard for me to connect socially with people.
Vent thread
Previous thread >>58197
Vent thread
last thread was >>56355
Happy Feels/Vent
Share the good things that have happened to you recently!
I randomly got a call for a job that I didn't apply for, but the job offer is my passion (cake decorating)! I went to the interview yesterday, and was hired immediately. The chef is a cool druggy gamer guy as are the other dudes in the kitchen, so now I'm gonna make a bunch of awesome cool nerdy friends! He really liked the cake I brought him and the work I did. The pay is more than I was expecting.
The only thing that makes me nervous is that he also wants me to work the line, which I've never done, but the place is classy so we're putting out beautiful food that I'm really proud of and even messing with molecular gastronomy, which I've wanted to get into for a very long time! I'm so excited to do my best.
vent thread
last thread was >>54448
vent thread
Last thread was >>51005
Vent thread
Last thread was >>49241
College/Uni feels
Share the good, the bad, and hell of pursuing a degree. Whether it be living in a dorm with a horrible roommate, classes kicking your ass, or something happening relating to school that has filled you with joy.
Vent thread
last thread was >>46828
Hedonism
Lets talk about it. Are you capable of stoicism or dependent on comfortableness and immediate pleasure?
Do not make threads about the following topics or you will be banned:
- Race/Ethnicity/Nationality (including stereotypes & preferences)
- Religion
- (Why) do guys…
- (Why) do you like guys who [insert preference here]
- (Why) do guys like [insert preference here]
- how to get a bf/gf (who does xyz)
- Any fetish/kink talk
If you want to talk about Radfem/TERF/Gendercritical themes, do not make a new thread. Post in the existing threads on /b/ and keep discussion civil.
Use the catalog.
How to make friends?
I have a hard time making friends with others both online and irl. Does anyone have advice in how to make friends and be likable and sociable?
Copycat
Are you a copycat? Have you ever stolen aspects of another girl's personality, interests or fashion sense on purpose to be more like them?
If I told anyone this in real life, they'd probably think I was bizarre, but i want to get it off my chest. To be honest most of my personality now and my likes and dislikes and interests were stolen from a girl who's blog I used to read 3-4 years ago. She wasn't anyone e-famous but I just stumbled across her and somehow I became obsessed. I cyberstalked her all over the internet and I started listening to every band she posted about, watching every movie, posting things with the same sense of humor and going over her selfies for aesthetic details every time she posted them so I could try my best to copy her style. I've never spoken to her openly but I used to send her all sorts of anon messages so I could find out things about her to better emulate them. Eventually I stopped stalking her accounts as much and lost track of her online profiles as she would change names a lot. Recently I checked back to find she was completely different now, and in my opinion much less interesting. I'm still basically a reflection of her from 4 years ago, and I'm fairly comfortable with it all still even though it sounds quite creepy when I type it out. Most people who know me now weren't really around in my life 4 years ago, and they have no idea that almost everything about me is copied from some random girl online i've never even properly spoken to. I still use some of her dead aliases as screen names (don't worry, only as nicknames on places she would never be able to see or be disturbed by if she did find me). Am I alone in this? is anyone else this creepy?
Vent thread
Last thread was >>45059 vent your worries and frustrations
Dating General
I didn't know if there was one or if you ladies care. So I made one anyway.
Dating General is for asking questions and or advice, sharing experiences, telling stories and so on
tfw no bf
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Reminder:
Admin's post: >>>/feels/10163
>We ban trolls and delete their posts as we find them, but we've also had an influx of new genuine user groups who have clashing ideas of what the board culture should be like. Please report suspected troll posts and we'll take care of the rest.
Vent thread
We hit bump on >>43518 so here we go again, talk about your problems and vent your frustrations
Vent thread
We've hit post limit on >>41254 so we can continue here, talk about your problems and vent your frustrations
Vent thread
>>38741 last thread reached bump limit so I thought it would be a good idea to make a new one
A thread for talking about your problems and venting your frustrations.
Vent Thread
A thread for getting things off your chest, say what's on your mind, organize your thoughts, anything goes.
We reached bump limit. Old thread: >>35766
NEETS
I know you're out there! Lets share some NEET feels and talk about our situation.
>why are you a NEET?
>how long have you been a NEET for?
>do you like it? why or why not?
>have you ever tried to do anything to change your situation?
>how much longer do you see yourself living this way for?
>how do you spend your free time?
>tfw no girl group of internet friends
men suck and their shitty discord servers
Online fame and paranoia
I'm probably going to get some hate for this, but here we go.
I have a slightly successful YouTube channel and a pretty slow thread on lolcow /snow/. Through mutual interests, I've met a girl, and we've developed a mutual crush on each other.
Unfortunately, I found out she's in the lolcow discord. Now I can think about is whether or not she's a farmer trying to get close to gossip about me. I know it sounds self important but I've been catfished before due to my online presence. What do I do? How fucked am I?
/exfeels/
what are your relationship with your exes like?
>ex 1, female, online, a few years ago - she ghosted me after we broke up, we were best friends since i was 8
whenever i see something that reminds me of her i get panicky and feel physically hurt inside, and a lot of things remind me of her. she left a hole in my heart
>ex 2, online, male, broke up a few months ago
i still obsess over him/think about him every day/night
tfw no bf
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>We ban trolls and delete their posts as we find them, but we've also had an influx of new genuine user groups who have clashing ideas of what the board culture should be like. Please report suspected troll posts and we'll take care of the rest.
Never made a Thread so I hope I did nothing wrong
How would you make up for cheating on someone you love? Not necessarily because you got caught.
Asking for a friend.
Virgin Thread
Post here if you haven't lost your virginity.
>turn 22 in two weeks
>never had sex
>never had a boyfriend
>only kissed a boy once in high school
>too afraid of rejection to actively seek relationships
blah blah max capacity blah
>>>/feels/res/25163.html
Advice General
In this thread we ask (or give) for advices to or from other miners
Don't be unnecessarily rude to each other
LDR Experiences?
How did they go for you guys, if you had them?
Mine is currently okay, but I'm afraid the distance will do us in eventually. When we argue, the argument always revolves around the distance or things to do with the distance.
vent thread
the other one has reached full capacity.
>>>/feels/21617
i hope those wings were good, anon.
Old thread >>>/feels/18315 is at cap.
Gather here, O heartbroken, angry, or happy ones.
tfw no bf #4
Old thread ran out of posts:
>>>/feels/14789
If you specifically desire a shy bf, this thread also exists now:
>>>/feels/17821
TFW NO CUTE SHY SLIGHTLY AWKWARD BF TO CUDDLE WITH
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Vent Thread
Last one has reached post limit
>>>/feels/15610
Online communtities
Does anyone feel like they can't fit in online communities? I'm thinking of regulating myself to a permanent lurker because every time I join an online community I can't get along with anyone. What's the point?
Am I the only fucking person that doesn't have a "shitty ex bf"
Like seriously what the fuck, I was talking to my friends the other day and all four of them had stories about emotionally or physically abusive boyfriends that they had stayed with for long amounts of time, I then started looking online and asking about and apparently this is really common.
I had no Idea this was a major thing outside of films and tv, no wonder guys talk about how "nice guys finish last" etc; they're all dealing with or getting rejected by girls with trauma from getting beaten up and cheated on.
Secrets & Confessions
Spill 'em girls.
>tfw no bf
it's not fair
Vent Thread
Old thread: >>8291
Last one reaches autosage status.
Vent your heart out, anons.
Ex-friends/Lost connections
We all have some stories of friends we used to know and love but aren't there for us anymore.
What happened for you to drift apart?
Do you miss them?
Have you tried to reconnect?
Etc.
Autism Spectrum Disorders
A support thread for people who are on or may be on the spectrum.
Cheating
Share your experiences.
Has your SO flirted with other people, had an emotional affair or have they done something physical? Do you suspect they might be cheating on you?
Tell us
- What are the warning signs?
- How did you find out?
- Have they tried to deny it?
- How did it end?
- Do you hate them?
- How did you get over it?
If you have cheated on someone, feel free to put your input in here.
If you need support, post here as well.
New Venturu Threadu
Old thread: >>>/feels/5889
Old thread reached cap and I need to cry
I am so sick of men
I am SO sick of men. I'm not particularly a feminist or anything but they can be SO selfish. I have my male friends and some of them I care about deeply, but even they can be REALLY insensitive sometimes and all my guys on the internet have some obsession with making anti-woman "jokes" all the time (usually later I find out they're rarely even jokes, cuz they're usually hiding some obvious bitterness towards women) and they won't stop even though they know it hurts my feelings. They're so disrespectful they can't even not make a 'woman beating' joke when I'm trying to relay a story about how some woman in church was telling me about their experience being abused by their husband for 11 years, they think everything is theirs, for example demanding that they can be misogynistic on my discord, with excuses like 'free speech'even though that makes no sense and I just am trying to create a healthy space for me and my female friends.
They're so damn entitled. Can we have a vent thread on times men have been complete dicks to us?
Old thread: >>>/feels/3849
You know the drill
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>tfw no bf
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relationship feels
the good, the bad, the confusing
are you dating anyone? got a crush?
General Advice & Vent Thread
Old thread >>>/feels/1924
Let it all out, friends.
General Vent Thread
Old one Maxed out my dudettes.
General vent thread?